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“The Boundary Trap: Why Good Intentions Make Things Worse with Addicted Loved Ones“

• Jason Coombs • Episode 43

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You set the boundary. They break it. Again. And somehow, you end up feeling like the bad guy.

If you’ve ever tried to hold the line with an addicted loved one—only to second-guess yourself, give in, or get gaslit—this episode is for you.

In Episode 43 of the Get Unhooked Podcast, Jason unpacks the BOUNDARY Framework—a practical, compassionate tool for setting and holding boundaries that actually work. Through a powerful real-life story about a woman named Grace, you’ll see how relapse and resistance aren’t always failures—they might just be the painful catalysts for lasting change.

Whether you’re deep in the cycle of enabling, drowning in guilt, or exhausted from carrying the weight of someone else’s choices, this episode offers clarity, direction, and hope. Learn how to protect your peace, reclaim your power, and stop rescuing someone who isn’t ready to change.

You’ll discover:

  • The hidden reason your boundaries keep getting ignored
  • How to respond calmly—without becoming a doormat
  • Why “natural consequences” matter more than ultimatums
  • The most misunderstood stage of change (and why it matters)
  • What it really means to “Get off the beach”

And most importantly: how to put yourself first… without giving up on them.

🎯 This is one of the most requested topics from families—and it could be the mindset shift you’ve been praying for.

📌 Show Notes:

In this episode:

  • [00:00] Intro: Setting boundaries in quicksand
  • [03:17] Grace’s story: When relapse becomes resolution
  • [10:08] The 5 stages of grief in addiction recovery
  • [14:40] Why boundaries fail (and how to fix them)
  • [19:02] The BOUNDARY Framework (step-by-step)
  • [34:11] “I’m not leaving the relationship—I’m leaving this conversation.”
  • [37:26] What putting yourself first really means

Links & Resources:

👉 Free resources for families: brickhouserecovery.com/unhooked

👉 Read the book Unhooked: https://a.co/d/08ZF46B4

👉 Need support? Learn more about our Family Recovery Program 

https://www.liveunhooked.com/live-unhooked-order-form

Join Jason Coombs LIVE each week for tips and tricks and LIVE Q&A’s. Go to https://www.liveunhooked.com/live-unhooked. 

For information about treatment services visit https://www.brickhouserecovery.com/

For more information about Warrior Heart Bootcamp for men visit www.awarriorheart.com

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