Episode 32: Alexandra – East Coast Winters, West Coast Miracles & the Power of Living Amends

This week, we sit down with Alexandra—Breezy’s best friend and a beacon of grace, grit, and radical honesty. With eight and a half years of sobriety, Alexandra brings us a story that’s both deeply personal and universally relatable to anyone who’s ever tried to rebuild their life from the inside out.

Originally from New Jersey, Alexandra made the spontaneous decision to move to California during the dead of winter—because, as she puts it, “smoking a cigarette outside just sounded... nice.” But what followed was far more than just a change in weather. In her early days of recovery, she found herself bargaining with life, telling herself she could always opt out if sobriety didn’t work. But then came the shift—one sunny afternoon, Breezy and her crew showed up to move her into a new sober living, and everything began to change.

Alexandra opens up about the raw, real experience of navigating those first 30, 60, 90 days, the challenges of living with other women in recovery, and the messy beauty of building community from scratch. She talks about becoming a house manager, trying on new identities (including dating women for the first time), and making questionable decisions—like dating newcomers she met at panels—all while slowly healing and learning.

In a heartbreaking and powerful moment, Alexandra shares the story of a missed amends—how a close friend passed away from an overdose before she could make things right, and how she now carries the weight and gift of a living amends. It’s a reminder that this disease is cunning, baffling, powerful—and deadly. But it’s also a story of hope, connection, and the deep transformation that comes from showing up, even when it’s hard.

🎧 Listen in for a conversation that’s unfiltered, unforgettable, and full of hard-earned wisdom from someone who’s lived it all—and kept going.