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Make It To Wednesday
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Join co-hosts Carly and Karla, two besties born a week apart and bonded by their opposite-but-complementary vibes, as they dive into the chaos, comedy, and connections of millennial life.
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Welcome to Make It to Wednesday, the podcast that gets you through the week with laughs, real talk, and all the Gemini energy you didn't know you needed. We are your hosts, Carly and Carla, two best friends born a week apart, but somehow total opposites. Here we dive into life's big questions, small wins, and messy moments. Think dating, marriage, family, pop culture, and everything in between. Whether you're thriving or just surviving, we're here to remind you you're not alone. So grab your coffee, your wine, or whatever gets you through, and let's make it to Wednesday together. Welcome back to Make It to Wednesday, a hump day podcast. We are your show hosts. I'm Carla. And I'm Carly, and this is episode 41. She said it. She had 41. You guys are like you didn't you heard it wrong. You heard wrong. I actually brought us three facts today. Facts. Three. They were good. Um, and to be fair, I didn't like fact check these. It was a quick search. Yeah, so I believe in 1941 in the United States, Mount Rushmore was completed. Oh, okay. Wonder Woman debuts. It was the first appearance. Okay. And Citizen Kane was released. Oh. Yep. Have you seen that? No, of course not. Okay. That's not surprising. I took like film classes, so we watched. You did? Yeah. Why? A lot of cinematography. Um, B BCA classes like broadcasting and cinematic arts. You had to take some of those for the PR degree that I got. Oh, got it, got it, got it. I always forget you did in journalism. So yeah, there was some. Yeah. Is that surprising? Um, what? That I did PR. Like when you remember it, is it like no, not even a little bit.
SPEAKER_01:That's so that is perfect for you. Yeah. Yeah. It's kind of a blend. Yeah. That's just like who you are. Totally. What was your dream job?
SPEAKER_00:My dream job.
SPEAKER_01:Like when you wanted to be a when you were growing up. When I was like three.
SPEAKER_00:You're like, what did you want to be when you grew up? Madonna. Really? When I was three, yeah. Madonna specifically? Um, I really like listening to her, yeah. But just to say Madonna? Yeah. Random. I know.
SPEAKER_01:That's really random. It is, yeah. Not like Britney Spears.
SPEAKER_00:I mean, for a while when I was little, but I didn't want to be Britney Spears till I was like not even 12 or 13.
SPEAKER_01:That's fair.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:That's fair. Okay. What about you? Um, I wanted to be a chef.
SPEAKER_00:A chef? And then a lawyer, but. And then there was youth pastor in there?
unknown:Oh.
SPEAKER_00:And look at me now.
SPEAKER_01:Look at me now. So successful. Yikes, yes, yikes.
SPEAKER_00:You're on a really good path. Do you think you'd change it if you could like go back and do something different?
SPEAKER_01:Um.
SPEAKER_00:If I didn't have to take, if it didn't take so long to be a lawyer, I would definitely be a lawyer. I think I'd be really good at it. What kind of a lawyer? Because I thought about defense attorney at one point in time. Yeah. Yeah, saying. Yeah, I think I'd be really good at that. That's awesome. Yeah. It'd be hard to separate from some of the hard part, right? Like, yeah. To like to like actually defend bad people. Like I kind of hate you and you're a shit person, but you're like paying me.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah. That's my job. I don't know. I would I would if it were possible to only defend the people I believed didn't do it, then I would do it. Then I would like to do it. Like take my moral quiz first. Yeah, yeah. Like, you know, that's like not a thing. So I don't know. If that job exists ever, I'll take that job. Yeah. I'll take that job. Happy Wednesday, everybody. Happy Wednesday. It is finally a cool Wednesday. Yeah. I hope. Yeah. I'm hoping.
SPEAKER_00:Hoping. Coming down a little.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Starting to at least. It's officially fall. Is it? You don't think? Uh what's the official date for fall, you know? Isn't it like I don't know.
SPEAKER_01:I'm not even gonna guess. What if it's like October 17th?
SPEAKER_00:I feel like it's November. And there's a clock change, right? November 2nd. Fall start date.
SPEAKER_01:Oh my god, Carly, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I'm gonna it's gonna get into my crappy, but.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah? Yeah. I just Monday, September 22nd. Is the clock change?
unknown:No.
SPEAKER_00:Look up when the change the when not the clock change. Sorry, that was the start of fall. Um September 22nd.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, the solstice. That's right. That makes sense. Yeah, you're right. I knew that. I knew that. And so now I want to look up 2025 um time change. Time change. And tell me if it's no November 2nd, is what I said.
SPEAKER_00:It is.
SPEAKER_01:Perfect.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Is it always the same day? I have no idea. Huh. No, because it's always on a Sunday, so it can't be the same day of the week.
SPEAKER_02:Sure, sure, sure.
SPEAKER_00:Yep. Probably like the first Sunday of March and the first or whatever it is. Don't like fact check that, because that's not true. I don't I mean it could be. It could be.
SPEAKER_01:I just think the first Sunday in November and Sunday in March. Because it's always March, but I don't think it's the first Sunday.
SPEAKER_00:I think it's like the second. Okay. I have said March 9 when I like it. Oh. Okay. Second Sunday in March, first Sunday in November. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:We know. Guys, we're gonna go to the calendars here. Are we smart? I actually don't say this often. I was a fourth grade spelling champ spelling me champion. I actually was telling my date last night that. Yeah, that's a thing, I guess. That's it. He said he was also a fourth grade spelling mechanic. Wasn't that crazy? No, he wasn't. That's what he said. He was a liar. Sure.
SPEAKER_00:What if he said at the same school and you realized you like competed against him? I won. He would be a liar then. He would be a liar then because you were. Well, you were in different grades, I'm assuming, you know. That's true. He was younger.
SPEAKER_01:He was younger. That's true.
SPEAKER_00:Huh? How old was he? He's 34.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:It's not much younger, but we would have been in the same school. Are you admitting you're older than 34?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I'm 35.
unknown:Fuck you. Fuck you.
SPEAKER_00:Uh, we're gonna play truth or drink later, so we have some drinks. Yeah, yeah. I'm gonna crack mine open. Oh, okay. Yeah, I can't like wait to crack that. What are you doing? The strawberry one. Strawberry lemonade and vodka. We're still cleaning out the fridge from the pool this summer. This is the last of it.
SPEAKER_01:This is the last of our summer drinks. That's not true. There's two more of those New Holland gins. I almost grabbed the blueberry one, but there's the blueberry um gin. And then there's the gin mule. And I was not gonna grab the regular one. No. And I didn't feel like you were gonna let me get the blueberry.
SPEAKER_00:I think my brother-in-law likes that. I feel like I told him to take that one last time because neither of us liked it. So. Oh, okay.
SPEAKER_01:Well, that's not bad. It's pretty bland, but not in a bad way. It's not the blue dog ones.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Surf side. Huh. Strawberry, lemonade, and vodka, you did black cherry. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Not bad. So we're gonna play truth or drink later. Um, once we get through our happy crappies. Yeah. Um truth or no, not truth. Listen, bitch. I've got a hot take also.
SPEAKER_00:You got a hot take?
SPEAKER_01:So random. Another, but it's not as random.
SPEAKER_00:I can't wait. Yeah. Um, okay, I made a list of my happy crappy. Okay. Can I dive in? Of course. Okay, because I'm really excited about so much that happened. Okay. But I can remember everything from this weekend because it's been such a long weekend. We're recording early Sunday. I'm talking about the weekend. It's not early Sunday, just because. Not early Sunday. Yeah. Early before Wednesday, yeah. Um, I got my new dresser off Marketplace. It's so nice. I really want it, actually.
SPEAKER_01:I want to find one very similar.
SPEAKER_00:So perfect for the case. I will keep looking then. I have been ever since Jason moved in, and I was like, you can just have the whole dresser because you like folding your stuff, and like he doesn't have as much space in his closet to put folded things. Like he has one wire shelf. Sure. Don't you also have one wire shelf? But I mean, with the amount of pants he has, swim trunks, backpackings, all the things. Yeah. Whatever. But I I was the one that told him you take it. So um I also was kind of hoping to get a different dresser for me, anyways. Um, but I've been looking for like feels like the better part of a year. And I found it. A hundred bucks. Great deal, awesome person, easy to work with. Yeah. Um, we went out to dinner that night at PF Chang's because Jason met up with me so we could like lift it, load it, put it in.
SPEAKER_01:They have kiboshi.
SPEAKER_00:Uh where they do the things. I didn't see it if they do. You would know. Yeah. And you like smell it here at all the things. No. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:But I like their lettuce wraps. And uh I was craving them. Yes, healthy bitch. Craving them. I mean, don't. We got those and four other things. Yum. I was stuck stuff.
SPEAKER_01:Stunned so good.
SPEAKER_00:But Beijing beef. Um that's what I get at um that's what you get? At Panda Express. I have never tried it because I thought I didn't like beef from Chinese restaurants or like whatever. Why is it different there? I don't know. I just like always in my head, it was like chicken. I don't even get like yeah, I get a lot of chicken when I'm doing it like seasoned like that. Oh. Um, so I just thought it wouldn't taste like tender and like all the things. And I hate that word. I hate using that word to describe meat, like tender. Ugh. But it is, and it was. Um, so I like ate most of Jason's because so good. Um and then remember on wine weekend I said we did a big charcuterie that two of the girls put together. So I decided to do a date night on Wednesday with my babes. And uh yeah, I made up, I mean, it was all like from the store. I didn't make anything. This was like an easy date night idea. Oh my god, you know, like making it myself, which I it was my grandma day. I had other things going on. How do you what do you mean making it yourself? Like soup, the soup I had and like some of the stuff. Yeah. Um, so I just bought a jar of soup, but it was a good like from Aldi. It was the squash something or other. I don't know. So, so good. Um, so anyways, I did that crackers, salamis, um, spreads, olives, all of that. Had it out for when Jason got home, had the soup hot in a bowl because I was looking at where he was, which is why we share locations with one another. Um, so we can play on romantic date nights. And I had these fun little like old, antique, like from our family glasses, like glassware that I get out, and we drank some of the wine I got from Wine Weekend.
SPEAKER_01:Ton! Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Do you have so much wine right now? No, I only got one bottle.
SPEAKER_01:No, I mean like from other places. From you. I I've tried to get through it, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Really? Some of it was dry and that was hard. So I think it was just gonna bring you some more. Like two people who like dry wine in the last like two months. I've pushed it on them. I can't even remember who. I think I took it to like Shay and EJ's when we went and somewhere else. Uh-huh. You have more of it, same kind? I yeah, plenty more at the office.
SPEAKER_01:Can I bring it to you? Are you guys trying to get rid of it? Yes, Carly. Why? Because we don't use it. Like there's three people I work with and they've been trying to get rid of it for like a year. How much? How many bottles? Boxes. Boxes of wine. So if anyone that I know is local and wants to have like a wine night. I would if it wasn't dry.
SPEAKER_00:Totally. It's all dry. Totally. Um, okay, so we did the charcuterie date night, and then this weekend. Okay, I'm gonna try and be succinct about it. I'm just gonna list off all the things we did. It was all my happy Friday at work, maybe wasn't it wasn't not happy. It was just a long, long day because it was homecoming, all the things, the spirit walk, homecoming evening. Went to the football game. Elliot got a girlfriend. Um that's a big thing. That's a big thing. There were fireworks. Uh, he complimented her and told her she was more beautiful than the fireworks. My 10-year-old. That's like really cute. Just a year. I know, right? Like he's adorable. Um, that was Friday, because it's his birthday coming up. So, like, this was his birthday thing. So, like, what a great birthday for him. Saturday, we had soccer games, and then we ended up doing a slew of really fun things. We went to Mr. Burger, got a nice big meal. Um, Finla ate a triple burger. Oh my gosh, they put so much food down. Is Mr. Burger not a drive-thru place? Why did I think it was a drive-thru place? I don't think it is. We went inside. I don't think there's a drive-thru. Okay. I was just, I have no idea. It used to be It's like on Alpine?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Okay. By the like uh Pinkies. No, I don't know what that's what the hell is that? It's on North Alpine, Meyer Thrifty, across the road, but up a ways. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Yep, got it.
SPEAKER_00:Um anyways, we did that. We went to play it against sports, got them some uh soccer ball, basketball, football, soccer cleats. Then we went over to Dave and Buster's. We swung into Chuck E. Cheese and they spent their points on some stuff there from like a previous time. Came here, they played some games, we had a sleepover in the basement. Like, great weekend, right? Long, long day. Wake up on Sunday, but we do it all again. Not the exact same thing, but we had breakfast, like we made sausage gravy, I made apple crisps, we had Jason's folks and my sister and brother-in-law over. By the time they left, we prepped for the kid party. Then we had four kids over, they had a gaming party, they played in the pool. Busy day. And now we're recording. Yeah. So it's just been like bam, bam, bam, bam. But um, for like a gonna be 10-year-old, it's been a good weekend. Crazy 10 years old. That's what I've been insane to think about. I know. That I've been a mom for 10 years. I don't feel like it.
SPEAKER_01:Me neither. No? Yeah. I feel like I've been well, how long have I known you? Six years? Right?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, we calculated this. In 2018. Yes.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, 2018. Yes. Was that five, seven, seven, seven years? Seven years. I've been a mom for seven years. That's crazy. You've had a bestie for seven years. I'm kidding. Technically, I've had a bestie for 15 years. For a lot longer, yeah. Insane. Insane. I'm gonna drink all this drink before we even get to that.
SPEAKER_00:Sorry. There's two of them. What about your happy and crappies? Um did you do a crappy? Sorry, what was your crappy? Oh, did I have a crappy? I don't know. I mean, Friday was a hard day at work. Um also seeing my grandma was a high, shopping for Elliot. There was no real crappy, I guess. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:That's totally fine. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Love. Uh I think all the crappies were just some like emotional little things at work because of students. Like, like me helping students, right? Um crappies.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. Good.
SPEAKER_00:Were you pulling up your survey?
SPEAKER_01:No. Don't do this. I forgot about my survey. Let me add that to my crappy. I'm kidding. That's my crappy. Did you send it out? I did. What? Hold on. Not to everybody. Same word. I sent it to you. I totally forgot I didn't tell you this. Um I'm uh what day did you send it? On Friday.
SPEAKER_00:So you sent it out two days ago? Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:To five people total.
SPEAKER_00:Are you gonna tell me who the five are?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I sent it out to um the beginning of the year. I started on New Year's Day. Okay. New Year's Eve. I went out with somebody, yeah? Yes, yes. Sent it to him. You did? Yeah. Okay. Sent it to the most recent love of my life. Okay. Sent it to um You sent it to your most recent love of your life? Yeah. Wow. Crazy. Crazy. Um a few people like randoms. Um, sent it to Clyde, sent it to um Oh God. I don't even remember his name. I was just thinking like Don't say it. What were you gonna say?
SPEAKER_00:What are we calling him?
SPEAKER_01:What are we? I don't know. That's not Say it. I really don't remember what I call him.
SPEAKER_00:Give me a story or a feature real quick. Nothing. How many dates?
SPEAKER_01:Three, maybe, four. Okay, uh picnic? No. Um went to Logan's a couple times. I really can't even. Not a memorable person for me. Okay. I don't think so. Okay. Um, so really his feedback was not necessary. I I really was just like going through and like the fact that I don't save these people's numbers on the phone is not helpful.
SPEAKER_00:If you could please in the future, save it. Even with cause then if you do that, you can go in their contact card, right? And write notes. Went to Logan's awful.
SPEAKER_01:I know like I know who it is. I know who it is. I just like don't remember. Like Yeah. I don't know why I even sent it to this man. It's just like so funny. How many responses have you gotten? Um, so I got three in the survey back, one texted back for feedback, which is the worst possible thing that could happen. I just like Carla, people filled this out? Yes. I get to text Jason. I know he's upstairs, but we had a conversation about this. Of course. And and to be fair, I didn't expect people to really fill it out. If I'm being honest, that's just why I didn't send it to like like I didn't send it to Greg because I really didn't think I really don't think it was. I don't I don't expect him to fill it out. No. I would love for him to like more than anything in the world, I'd want him to fill it out, but I don't think he would. You know what I said, Jason?
unknown:What?
SPEAKER_01:Car sent the survey out and people responded. People responded. And like the feedback has all been positive. Like no one said anything. Well, yeah, no one said anything like which I Is there anything constructive? Yeah. Ooh, are we gonna get into that?
SPEAKER_00:Um Yeah, sure. We can.
SPEAKER_01:I don't it nothing.
SPEAKER_00:We don't have was there anything okay. What was like the the top two things that were constructive that you were like, I'll take that under advisement?
SPEAKER_01:Um uh constructive nothing nothing, nobody said anything that nobody said I did I did anything wrong. No, of course, but like quite literally, like Yeah. Nobody had anything negative to say.
SPEAKER_00:But there was nothing like who who did you go on a date with that a bird shit on you? Um he did not fill it out.
SPEAKER_01:Which I knew. Don't let birds shit on you. Yeah, like he like I knew I sent it to him. He did not He's the one that didn't answer. Yeah, he didn't respond. Like, that's fair. He ghosted me.
SPEAKER_00:He ghosted you. Which I mean We all need a good ghosting to remind us why we don't ghost, you know? Of course. It's fine. Yeah. Um But nothing that you felt was like like you know when everything's just like positive, keep going, girl, like that kind of feedback, you're like, but that wasn't like what am I getting out of this? Like I just keep doing what I'm doing. Yeah, that's quite literally what someone said. Okay, just keep doing what you're doing.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, and I hate that he said it. I'm sick to my stomach that he said it. Why? Because who was it? The most recent person. Really? Yeah. And I'm like, okay. Okay. Great, thanks. See on the dating app in a few weeks when you decide. No, he better not be. No, I'm kidding. He can be. No, I instead. But he has a reason. He better. He didn't he's the one who didn't, he texted me the his response. Okay. And it was like long. It was like Oh. Yeah. And he was like, I don't, I don't think this is this he's he's telling me that like I don't think that sending this survey is gonna give you the feedback you you want. I don't think this is a good idea to send it to people. Um Okay. And I was like, tell me why. Like, give me, give me a reason why. And he's like, I just don't think it's gonna give you the feedback that you really think you're that you're looking for. I'm like, what it first of all, you're not giving the feedback that I'm looking for. That's right. The feedback you're giving me in this text message is not the feedback I'm looking for. Like I said it already, thank you. Yeah. Just like give me the answer. Tell me the answers that because like the feedback he gave me, he was like, it was like, um, I think you're a great person, like you it it was all positive things, which I knew. Like I knew he wasn't gonna say anything bad, because like there was nothing bad. There was nothing bad he could say, yeah. And it really, like, I mean, there was a little bit of confusion about who ended things. I'm a little bit like what did he say? He was like the way I saw the conversation, the way I in my head, the way I I heard the conversation ending, like the our the ending conversation was like I I said I don't think we should see each other anymore because I don't feel like you've got the time for this. That's how I that's what I said. Yes. In his text match, he's like, I ended this relationship because um I didn't I didn't I didn't feel like I could give you a fair shot. And I'm like, you didn't end this relationship. I don't know Yeah What to be fair like it didn't end either like you know what I mean like it wasn't a clear like we're done it was just like this isn't this isn't working cloying Yeah like and relationship Yeah what relationship what are you talking about like I don't know what does that mean I don't know but so but did you take his feedback as opposed to my feedback saying it's a bad idea and now that he said it's a bad idea is it a bad idea? I don't think so, and he'll fly. Um the man from the beginning of the year who filled out the feedback, who filled out the survey. Yep. So one of the questions in the survey, for those that are listening, and like I've just forgotten we were even This is so great. One of the questions is like, um, if the timing is right, would you consider going out again? Yeah. He was like, yeah. I said, mm-hmm. So how's the timing? Yeah, like is the timing right now or is the timing right right now? Are you feeling like so like should I you know what he also put his name? Oh he did. Because you like it's a it's an anonymous service, unless you want to add your name to the bottom. He put his name. So I'm like No shit. Wait. So should I get in touch? That's funny. And the very next day I saw him on Bumble. Like I I saw him the very next day. What did you did you swipe? No, I didn't. Did you close the app? Yep.
SPEAKER_00:What have we done since?
SPEAKER_01:Just left it.
SPEAKER_00:I bet if you swiped, which way is the accept way? Yeah, it's swiped right. I don't know. Right? I'm like, if you swipe right, I'm not willing to I'm not willing to try it. I'm betting he swiped right on you and that's why he's coming up. I don't know. I don't know. I'm not willing to re I'm not willing to take through this. But if he swiped no already and you swipe yes, he'll never see that you swipe.
SPEAKER_01:If he swiped no, he wouldn't, he probably wouldn't be showing up. But there's also there's also a chance that he hasn't swiped at all. And if I swipe right and I show up on his, he could still swipe no, and then I'm embarrassed. Like, I'm not gonna do that. But like, does anybody know what you swiped unless you match? If I swipe, if I swipe right, I'll show up on his and he has the opportunity to swipe left, and then like Okay. Cause it's bumble. Yeah. Yeah. Like I just I'm not willing to take the risk. I see. That's so awkward. Like maybe the timing's just still not right, you know. Right. Like I'm not willing, I don't know. I don't know.
SPEAKER_00:I'm sorry, sorry, I hijacked your happy crappy for this. That's totally fine. I totally forgot about that server. No, that's amazing. I can't believe you sent it. I'm gonna drink to that.
SPEAKER_01:That's so funny. Yeah, I did it. I still want to send it to Greg. I just really don't think I'll fill it out. I really, really don't think so. And do we need him to fill it out? I really need to know his answers. I'm dying to know his answers. I'm dying to know his answers. This is I I would say it again, but No, I get it.
SPEAKER_00:I'm damn near horse after saying it so much. I get it. I'm losing my voice over here telling you. What if the tarot reader Yeah, okay. This is not for you, you know? Okay, let me get I'm sorry, let me move on. I can't. Tell me, tell me more, you're happy and crappy.
SPEAKER_01:So, um, my happy this week. I saw my dear friend Steph. Yes. Got to catch up with her. It was such a good time. Like, I don't see her often enough that like I know. And it just like I just so enjoy her company. How's she loving the pup, the married life, the house, the She's just such a delight.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Her dog was a delight, she's a delight. She just got back from Italy. I saw they had pictures up. She's just like so fun.
SPEAKER_00:She's so beautiful. I know. Yeah, just like Stephanie, you're listening. You're gorgeous, girl. I know that's probably so awkward for her to hear like she's just honestly inside and out, just a whole amazing human.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. So it's just like good to catch up with her and like hear how life is going and you know, upcoming all the things.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Where's she working? She's still at excellent. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Wow. And she like Oh wow. So that's one of my happy. The other happy is, of course, my niece turned 15, and I just like anytime her birthday comes up, I get to like go through her pictures and like just see where we come. And I just like Throughout the years. I love her so much.
SPEAKER_00:Are you starting to bond with the littler one?
SPEAKER_01:I don't want to say their names on like I yeah, I love her too. Yeah. I love her too. It's just like and you've kind of moved along with Yeah. I've grown up with like half of her life. Like I've known her since I was 20. Like it just is like, oh she's just like so cool.
SPEAKER_00:I love that. She's so cool. Is she gonna start taking drivers ed this year? She's in driver's ed now. She is. I didn't know if she was one who was like gonna do it or if she was gonna be like, I'll wait.
SPEAKER_01:No, she's I'm like excited for the bit. Her to get like a cute little permere license so like I can get drunk and she can like DD. You know what I mean? Oh my gosh. Very exciting things to be up. Terrible influence, but how fun. How fun. So fun. So she turned 15. Okay. And yeah, uh that's one of my happies. Like I got to go through my memory lane of pictures of us from day one to now, and I just like she's just like the joy of my life, truly. Like, I just love her so much. I love that. Happy birthday, girly! Happy birthday. And then my crappy. Um, I had a a date this week with a man. This is the second date I went on with this man. Was this on Wednesday? This was on Thursday. Thursday. Okay. Yeah. And I just This is the second day. I went on a date with him the week before. And like he I don't know if I told about him. I was gonna say, which one was he? He uh we went to Hopcat the week before. Okay. He originally suggested Applebee's, and I was like what? What? That's a Betty recommendation. Yeah. Is there room for negotiation on that? Because no. What did he say? Did he say yes? That's funny.
SPEAKER_00:Anywhere else?
SPEAKER_01:And I was like, oh, let's get because I saw on his profile he worked. He's like a general manager for um Russ's. I've never been to Russ's, so I don't even know what that is. I was like, let's go to Russ's. He said no. I was like, oh okay, why? Did he say why? He said no. Um I was like, okay, well, how about Hopcat? Like, sounds like perfect. Yeah. I also found out he lives over by Applebee's, which is why he suggests he, and you know how I feel like.
SPEAKER_00:What is up with men who are like, I'm not gonna drive? To be fair, like they're going on a lot of dates right now. That's gotta be it.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know. Kelsey, when I told Kelsey about that, she was like, I don't think it's that crazy to suggest a place that's by him. Like for it, because to me it's crazy, but I also like it's only 10 minutes for me. It's not not that far.
SPEAKER_00:That's does he know where you were at, too?
SPEAKER_01:No, he didn't ask.
SPEAKER_00:But like without that information, like if I didn't have that information on somebody, I'd recommend one of the dive bars around here. Would you? Probably. You would think of when I was dating.
SPEAKER_01:Where I would end up. I no, I wouldn't. I don't know. Well, I my search radius for me is five miles around my house. So, like, I know. It's crazy. What? It is crazy. I really recommend it.
SPEAKER_00:Five miles? Lazy dating. I ain't coming to you, man. Which is why, like This was so offensive, right? Let's go to Applebee's. That's outside of my radius.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know. It didn't, and it doesn't work because I never change it. Like I never turn my my location. Like right now, my it's five miles from here, so I'm getting men five miles and from all the places you go, which is nice. Yeah. So like, you know, but still. Wow. Um so you had your second date. It was miserable. It was so like so we I'm sorry. It was so bad. Like, not no, it was.
SPEAKER_00:I just like can't. I Let's start with the first bad thing. Like, what was the first thing that you're like, this is going on the list of reasons I didn't like this date? He was a a mansplainer.
SPEAKER_01:But like, no, that wasn't it. He's a he's a contrarian. Like, oh and I hate, I hate that. So like how hard, like pretty. Yeah. Yeah. Like, um, we so our date was to, we were gonna, we were gonna go see our prize. Like, it's the last week of our prize, it ends today. Um, we were gonna go see he hasn't been to our prize in like seven years. Yeah. Like, oh, let's go see it and then we'll go grab dinner. Okay. We get downtown, like to downtown our prize at seven o'clock, seven p.m. Okay. That's late. That's late. That's late. Our prize ends, like viewing in places ends at like 8 p.m. It's like who picked the time? He did.
unknown:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:He did. Because if it's up to me, let's go at 5 30. I'm already downtown. Right. I can I'm already here. Like, why go home, sit around, wait, and then yeah. Cause now I'm gonna eat before I come in anyway. So I'm hungry. Yes. Anyways, um, and he was like, and so we were like walk, I walked there, and so like it's already getting dark. Yep. We walk there, and he was like, where do you want to go first? I'm like, um, let's just we are at the bottom, like, let's just go in here. There's already places, there's places in the bob to look at the our pieces in the bob to look at. Yep. Like, let's start here. Perfect. We go in, he's like, Oh, this is nice. It's so nice. I'm like, I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah. What kind of art do you like? I'm like, and he's like, I like things that are like classic. Things are like, I don't like people, it looks like people are trying too hard. I'm like, oh, what's your favorite type of like what's your favorite medium? Do you like like photography? Yeah. Do you like um he's like, I really like like crayon. What? Classic crayon? What does that mean? Huh! What's that mean? Crayon? Like you like pictures that are drawn in crayons? Is he trying to tell you he has children? Are you uh he doesn't have children? I checked out on date one. What do you mean crayon? I don't know.
SPEAKER_00:He likes classic pieces and he likes crayon.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know. That's what children do. That's correct.
SPEAKER_00:But I guess some classic artists that I don't know about.
SPEAKER_01:I didn't see a single crayon piece in art prize. What did you did you laugh when he said it? Because it had to be a joke. I was like, oh, okay, cool. And he was like, what about you? I'm I'm I I'm in I don't have a favorite type of like me. I don't have a favorite medium. Like I like all types of art.
SPEAKER_00:Like I don't really because I'm not like super into anything enough to be like photography's my jam or whatever. Exactly. Like I don't really textiles are my jam.
SPEAKER_01:Mixed textiles. I actually do like that. Yeah. So I'm like anything I see that I I I enjoy like I like it all. Yeah. So I'm like, I'm going around like taking pictures, like I'm like into all of it. We get to this one piece that's in the M Way, and it's um it's made of rose petals. Like it's ten feet tall, and it's made f it looks like it could have been like Either like a photograph or like someone drew it, but it's made of rose petals. It's the coolest thing I've ever seen. And the artist is there, and it's like he's describing the piece. Yeah. And I'm like, I'm talking, I was like talking to the artist. And I can hear like my date's net right next to me. He's like, I don't really like this. He's like, it's the rudest thing I've ever heard. Like he's saying it like about the piece. He's like, see, this person is just like, and I don't think he realized the artist, like, I was talking to the artist. And he was like, I just I think it's just too much. He's like doing too much. I'm like, can you shut the fuck up? This is so Can you see that I'm Do you see him right here? What are you doing? Like Oh my god, how do you handle that? I was like, okay. I don't know. I just like I just like walked like elbow. Yeah. I was like, oh okay. I was like, I was like, thank you so much. Like I like took a picture of the piece of like of like the QR code. I just I voted for it. So like because it it was what was really cool. Yeah. And we like walked to another piece um of like uh there was like the Eiffel Tower, and it was like a bridge. I don't it's like a whole thing. Yeah. And he like walked up to it and was like, he looked at it and he's like, man, I wish he hadn't used powder coating on this because it made it look fake. Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Oh my god.
SPEAKER_01:What are you doing? What are you doing? Like, what is this? You're being so annoying. Oh, you're ruining this experience for me. And after you got through it, did you still want to go to dinner with him? Probably, of course not. So of course not. But you couldn't get out of it? Well, hang on. Oh no. And like, and and even like we were like, we kept walking around trying to like go to other places. And he would like, I live downtown. Yeah. I am downtown every single day. Even like when I don't walk to work, I go for walks downtown every day. Like I walk to the grocery store, I like get my steps in. Yep. He has not been downtown in like seven years. Like he said it that day. He's like, man, I haven't been down here. It looks so different. And so I was like, oh, that's so crazy. Like I'm always down here. Yeah. And so we were like walking. He's like, I want to try and find the blue bridge. I think it's this way. I'm like, it's not. It's actually like I promise you it's over here. I literally walked here, I walked under it on my way here. And he's like, no, I'm pretty sure it's this way. Let's just go this way. I promise you, like, it's this way. And I was, and he was like, no, no, literally, uh, let me trust me, it's this way. I'm like, okay, let's go this way. Let's go, let's go. Let's go. Yeah. We won't make it to the blue bridge. Yeah, we're gonna miss it. But let's go that way. Yeah. And he's like, oh shoot, I thought it was over here. And I'm like. Sir, I live here. Why did you think that when I literally told you? And I'm like, whatever. Okay, fine. And I was like, and I just made a comment. I'm like, man, it's I forgot that it gets so dark. It's so early. He's like, yeah. Man, I'm like, he was like, oh, I can't, like, I can't even believe it. Like, I like it must be daylight savings time this time, like right now. He's like, no, it's not till November 2nd. It's not, I promise. It's not, it hasn't happened yet. It's November 2nd. He's like, no, I'm pretty sure it happened already. It's November 2nd, I promise you. It's November 2nd.
SPEAKER_00:Carla? He's like, no, it happened. Reminds me of my nephew. You know what I'm saying? Just he knows. What? He just knows things.
SPEAKER_01:And I was like, okay, sure. Yeah, you're not. Sure, sir. Yeah, I must have, I must have I must have missed that. I missed that. I missed through it. Whatever. Oh my god. So like twice, and then like he tried to go to the DeVos Place, and we like, you know where the Devos place is like Michigan and like Ottawa, whatever. Yeah. Whatever. We ended up over by the Van Andel and was like, it's definitely the other way. Like I promise you, it's we'd be like, we walked the other way. He was like, I'm pretty sure it's it's like over by the arena. It's not. Why are like so many times already? Just listen to me. I know where I'm I've walked this way every day. I don't understand. Oh my god, I'd be so pissed. And then like it got to be like 8 30, and I'm like, Sir, I'm hungry. What are you thinking? I was like, are you getting hungry? Like, what are you thinking? He's like, um, I are you getting hungry? I was like, I mean, I could I did eat a little bit before I came, but I could eat if you're like really feeling. He's like, um, I'm getting kind of hungry, but I do have to get up early. I was like, oh, if you have to get up early, then let's just call it a night.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, yeah. Get some on your way home. No big deal. Go get Applebee's. You know what?
SPEAKER_01:Doesn't Applebee's sound good for you? Like, I don't if I had driven, I would totally meet you there, but like I don't unfortunately have to walk. I had to walk home. I don't want to walk home. It's too, it's hard to meet kind of.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I try not to eat after eight o'clock.
SPEAKER_01:Unfortunately, so it's gonna be a whole thing. So he's like, Are you sure? I don't want to like leave you hungry. I'm like, no, no, no, I can eat on my I can eat at home. I do have like a salad I was gonna eat anyway. So and he's like, Okay, well, do you want to try and get again to get it together again next week? And I was like, sure, yeah. Oh my god, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Um, yeah, let's keep in touch and then keep in touch. We'll figure it out. I haven't spoken to him since. How do you say to somebody when they ask that? No. Like, want to get together next week? No. I would never say to his face, to be honest. If someone ever said that to me, I'd be like, okay, well, thanks for being honest. Like, then I'd go home and cry.
SPEAKER_01:Literally.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:I was like, yeah, just let me know when you make it home.
unknown:Oh my god.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, let's just keep in touch. No. I just like how uncomfortable. What a miserable ass time that was. Like, just it sounds like he was like super kind of negative too. Yeah, I like didn't like it. I was like, I don't like that energy. Such a bad vibe. Such I'm so it was either gonna be like a Thursday night or a Friday night. I'm so glad it wasn't a Friday night date. I'm so thankful.
SPEAKER_00:Good point, actually, because being Thursday with having work and yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, thank god.
SPEAKER_00:Then you couldn't have gone on a better date on Friday. Yeah, and it was a better date. Yeah. No, that was Saturday, actually. Sat that was Saturday.
SPEAKER_01:That does feel like it was Friday night.
SPEAKER_00:It that was, yeah, last night.
SPEAKER_01:What did we do Friday night?
SPEAKER_00:Huh. What did I do Friday night? What did I do? I just said homecoming. Trying to think if I texted you and where you were at. I didn't do anything. I started Love is Blind. Okay. The first episode. Okay. Yeah, crazy.
SPEAKER_01:But what's the other show that's out too? That I've been watching. I don't know. Mm-hmm. That you've been watching.
SPEAKER_00:Stranger Things. It's on a Mondays. Why can't I think of it? Shit. I wanted to watch it. The Bachelor. Do I watch it? That's coming. Um no, it's something I was watching without Jay. Oh, duh seeking sister wife. Oh.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, The Bachelor is coming. When does that start?
SPEAKER_00:Um I forgot about that. I'm writing that down too because I can't remember. I'm keeping it in my list.
SPEAKER_01:I probably forgot about that.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. And I put nobody wants this on there. And when. Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Alright, anyways, that's my happy crappy. Yeah. Dang. More happy than crappy. Yeah. And of course I'm happy to see you.
SPEAKER_00:I'm so happy to see you. It's always a good time. And you were so sweet today. So y'all, Carla did the nicest thing.
SPEAKER_01:What are you doing?
SPEAKER_00:Um, you picked up the pizza for all the boys.
SPEAKER_01:Of course I needed to.
SPEAKER_00:She's like, Can I help? And I was like, yes, because I've been stressing so much, and you know that, and I've been sharing that, and we had to record, and it worked perfect.
SPEAKER_01:So I needed to be I needed to be out of I needed to be here.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. I needed you here.
unknown:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:I always need you. That's so nice.
SPEAKER_01:How love you?
SPEAKER_00:Wanna do listen, bitch?
SPEAKER_01:Let's do it. Let's do it. I meant to count these cards. I know.
SPEAKER_00:We're gonna make it for the end of the year. Are we gonna make it? If not, I'm gonna have to get those the next ones we want to get. Are you picking one on purpose? You smiled at it like you don't set. I was just thinking, like, I don't I don't know. That was your devious smile, so I don't know what it was. Remember when we went to the farmer's market? Yeah, exactly what you're talking about. Yes, and I have one on my fridge upstairs.
SPEAKER_01:I actually have like a whole box of some one of my old co-workers gave me.
SPEAKER_00:Really?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I don't know where it is, though.
SPEAKER_00:We also need to that game you got, that new one, putting it in the back of my head for the girls. Oh, sure. You wanted to look at one of your games. Yep.
SPEAKER_01:Yep. Okay. Not that game. Not that game? Okay. What game are we talking about? Not the one, not the drinking game.
SPEAKER_00:No.
SPEAKER_01:We'll talk later.
SPEAKER_00:I don't know. You have so many games, and I can't keep them straight. Like which one does this go to? And yeah. Alright, this one says, listen, bitch, tell the negative assholes in your head to sit in a corner for a lifelong timeout. Tell the negative assholes in your head to sit in the corner for a lifelong timeout. Don't let those negative assholes be in your brain. Taking up space, you know? Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_01:I'll do my best. I'm gonna do my kin best to do that.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I think we all try, right? Nobody's like, come on in, hit me up today. I'm ready to take some punches. They're loud though. They are loud though. They are loud. I'm doing my best. I'm doing my best. Listen, bitch. Do your best.
SPEAKER_01:That actually leaves me to my hot take. Yeah. If you don't mind. I don't mind. Because I was in the middle of a spiral moment.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:I'll be so sick of me having spiral moments.
SPEAKER_00:I'm not. I I want you to be in tip top shape, but I'm not sick of like how your brain works.
SPEAKER_01:Girl, and it's working.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, it's overdrive right now.
SPEAKER_01:Um this happened at work this week. And I almost lost it on my coworker, Suze. Um it was it was on Friday. I was telling her about my survey, how I sent it to the love of my life, and how he texted me, and she was like, Well, that's the end of that. She said, It's not the end of the world. And I was like, Suze, stop telling me that. Because you know what? This is the end of the world for me. So I want to say, my hot take is let's like stop telling people that it's not the end of the world. Yes.
SPEAKER_00:Because the end of everybody's world is different.
SPEAKER_01:It looks different. We have different infrastructures. We have different infrastructures in our world. Like for me, slow clap. The end of the world happens two or three times a week. Uh huh. You have to stop saying that to me. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Like my infrastructure is like shaky. It's fallen. I'm literally holding on by like tape and glue over here. You know? It's those buildings that are on the stilts when the oceans come together. It's fragile. It's fragile. It's fragile over here.
SPEAKER_01:So stop telling me that. Yep. Stop telling people it. Like, please. Yes. Literally, yes. It is the end of the world for me, Suze. Today. Probably in a couple days. Yep. And probably in a couple days after that. It's the end of the world for me.
SPEAKER_00:But then it's it comes back. Of course. The world comes back. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:But like today, it's the end of my world. Yeah. Just know that. Hot take. Hot take. Stop telling people that.
SPEAKER_00:I I a hundred percent actually agree with that one. I have no rebuttal. None. Just saying. Just saying. You had that hot take, and I had a couple things too. Okay. Sorry. Nope. I know we're like popping. Um. Okay, I have three things. Okay. I don't know what you brought today. That was all I brought. We might not get to the game today. I'm gonna be real honest. Okay, ready?
SPEAKER_01:Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_00:We were talking about this earlier.
SPEAKER_01:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Categories of kissers.
unknown:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:We could skip that one, but I've got some good categories on here. Okay. Something I want to talk about. Uh, two other things I have to talk about. One is my opinion and a hot take. Okay. But I want to go lighter for a second. Okay. Okay. I want to talk one night stands. So we have talked before about like what makes it that. Like what a lot of different things about it. But my question is, is it, and this is a yes or no. There's no black and white here, and I need a yes or no, is it still a one-night stand? I want to know your answer first. Go ahead. If that's my question, bitch.
SPEAKER_02:That's fair.
SPEAKER_00:If the next day, after like two people separate, after they have a one-night stand, they separate, they shake hands, they high-five, whatever. Sure. Um, then the next morning they go to breakfast together. Okay. Questions. Mm-hmm. You meet that night. Yep. Hold on. Like we Is a one night stand someone you've known ahead? Oh. Sh well we've had that, we've had that debate before. I was saying. It doesn't have to be a new new person.
SPEAKER_01:Like someone we match on hinge. Yeah. Hypothetical situation. We match on hinge. Yep. Go on a date that night. Go home together that night. Yep. Have sex. Yep. Split up that night. Yep. Right? One goes one way, one goes the other. Yep. And then the next day, you go for breakfast. Yep. Is that a one-night stand? I don't know.
SPEAKER_00:I Well, it was in the moment. I think here's the problem. A one night stand is a one-night stand in the moment. That's the caveat, right? Because a lot of people, like you've heard, you've seen it on movies, you hear about it in real life. Like someone hooks up one night and then they end up dating down the road. But they still had a one-night stand. It doesn't negate the fact that that person was a one-night stand. No, it I feel like it does. I think one night stands are more about the intention, not about the action. The intention is I just want to sleep with this person tonight.
SPEAKER_01:No, I think the intention is I want to sleep with a stranger and never see them again. Yeah. But then if you see them, if you see them again, that makes them no longer. Like that makes it. I don't know if it doesn't negate it. I'm I'm flip-flopping here on what my brain was thinking. I'm feeling the same. Yeah. Cause I don't know. I really don't know. I really don't know. I think, I don't know. I you know what? It's a gray area, isn't it? I'm really m very much like if I slept with somebody last night. Yeah. And then like they went home, or I I went home and I went to breakfast with them. Yep. I would say that that was not a one-night stand. Now that I've I'm thinking it through. Yeah. That is a very frustrating feeling.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Why is that a frustrating feeling? It's conflicted to have such conflicting emotions about it. Yeah. Meanwhile, I braced and I changed my mind on it. And now I'm feeling like it is. You feel like it is a one-night stand.
SPEAKER_01:You know what though? Like I doesn't if you exchange phone numbers. Like and then it like I don't know what it what's if the intent is to see each other again, does that matter?
SPEAKER_00:Honestly. Now that I'm thinking about it, hypothetically speaking, if I was in Savannah years back, hypothetically. Sure, of course. And was out drinking and met up with someone bar hopped and then invited them back to the hotel and then went our separate ways. And I did have that person's phone number, hypothetically. And they had mine from that night because we're bar hopping and like But then I just like we just like sent each other high fives the next day and said get home safe or whatever, and that was that. That's a one night stand. Yeah, that's that is a one night stand.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know that that's the same. Yeah, yeah. That that is a one-night stand. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Hypothetically. Of course. And hypothetically, if we didn't have sex but we did other things, that's still a one-night hookup.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I wouldn't call that a one-night stand though. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:That's different.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Okay. I think. I don't know. I know. I don't know. There's so much great air in this now.
SPEAKER_00:I thought it would end up being like for me like a super yes or no. It's yes and no. Weigh in, please. Weigh in. So I gotta know. We talk about these a lot, like just stories we hear, things that come up. It's been weighing on my brain to know if you go out to breakfast with someone the night after a hookup, a one night stand, what you perceive is a one-night stand. Well, one, what makes it a one-night stand? And two, if you go to breakfast the next day, does it like matter? Does that like help say yes or no to it? That's all. Just curious. Just curious. So that was uh one of mine. Had to go with that. Didn't mean for it to be more of a hot take. Um I do have a serious hot take. Uh-huh. But if you're not ready to shift gears, you bring up some topics first because I know you got a list for me.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know, you're fine.
SPEAKER_00:This one's more serious. Um, this is the one we were talking about from today. Okay. This is for parents.
SPEAKER_01:Sure.
SPEAKER_00:My hot take. Okay, it's not even a hot take.
SPEAKER_01:It's uh taking this either, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:No, it's like a hey parents. Um I okay, so today kiddo had other kids over. Birthday party. I asked my husband before the party. I said, before we used to plan, like if parents stay, we had to have seating, we had to make sure, is it too hot? Is it good? Younger kids, like what are they doing? It's just more of a fuss. As they get bigger, it's not so much of a fuss. Yeah. However, I said it sounds like everybody's just dropping their kids off and going. Are we at that stage now? Like, is the 10-year-old stage the like it's okay to drop our kids and go, but not just that.
SPEAKER_01:Can I ask you a question before we get into this? Do any of the parents of those children watch this podcast? I don't think so. Okay. No.
SPEAKER_00:And I'm not, I'm not judging. I'm so sorry if that sounds like. Yeah, I won't say names or anything, but um, and these parents, like, we went out. I know, I know one of them, but two of them I didn't. Um, and I obviously I know Christine, so I need two of them. That one's for sure doesn't count. Yeah, there's two that I know, there's two that I don't know. Um, but this got me thinking about it. And that's are we at that stage that it's okay to drop your kids and you believe that, like, hey, it's not a like I need to stay thing. Um, because parents, if you ever want to stay at a party I'm having, you're welcome to, obviously. I will never say no. Um, and are we past the point of having to plan for that? But then followed up, that's like one A, but there's one B, which is parents don't check out other people's homes.
SPEAKER_01:Or like at least meet the parent. Like, did they come in to meet you? Like, have you or do you have a lot of people? Jason went out. I don't know, like no, I still think it's like kind of crazy.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I'm like the parent that'll walk up to the door, like, come in if it feels right. If it doesn't feel right, why doesn't it feel right for me to come in? No, it should feel right.
SPEAKER_01:Like, I I would at least want to meet the the parents of the person that my child will be staying.
SPEAKER_00:Yes, that to me. To be fair, in this situation, the kids coming already knew me from school. I don't think it matters. I know it matters. It's just a layer that maybe like provides comfort because like the school background checks employees and all that stuff. I'm saying like you get a comfort of like Okay. Do you feel like that would matter to you? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Sure. If it's a school employee, I know that they don't have a criminal record. Not that I like I don't know. Okay. Like anything, or like that they don't have um that they're not in the sex offender registry. There we go. You didn't have a teacher sleep with students when you were in high school? No. Okay, we did. Really? Yeah. Multiple. You know, after I was done, I heard about sex. Yeah, there's just like that's like not a reason to not. No, you're right. You're right. Like, no. No, you're right. But there's there are things that I think we traditionally find comfort in, and now I'm no I'm starting to no longer find comfort in those. And like for me, I want to know when my kid's going somewhere. Do you have guns in the house? Are those guns locked up? I know there's laws, Michigan laws, and like they are being communicated out, but people don't follow them. That's why we have issues. Um, not just guns, but like, is there alcohol? Are there drugs in the house? Are those put away? Like, I'm not asking for like perfection. I'm just asking for like safety.
SPEAKER_01:That's what I want to see. When you were growing up, like what was your what was your parents' rule? Like, did you did they go in and meet like or like when you were going to a friend's house, did you did they have to meet your friend's parents always?
SPEAKER_00:So we were the house that people came to. Oh, sure. Because we had the pool and like had parties and stuff. Um, I had one friend whose mom was kind of absent, so like she didn't ever check into anything, and we were like a second home to her. But anywhere else, like my parents knew my friends' parents from like sporting things. Sure. Because I didn't go to friends' houses until they were like older. Like middle, like high school? Yeah. Yeah. Like late mid or yeah. So really it's just for birthday parties, and a lot of birthday parties then aren't at homes, you know. That's true as well. I forget that. That a lot of people very much. Very true. Yeah, people go out. Like, have we just forgotten like etiquette on like that's a good point? Not forgotten etiquette, but like we're getting more comfortable just saying, go inside this home I've never been in. I don't know.
SPEAKER_01:I'm really like, I didn't realize that was a thing. Like, I don't know. Like, I would never like what about sleepovers?
SPEAKER_00:Like, if you were to were you let your children go to a sleepover, Elliot got invited to one like two years ago, and I said, I'm not comfortable with that. Definitely not. And we came up with an excuse. Yeah, I just like can't imagine. And it was an older boy too, and I'm like, no. Oh no. Oh my god. He met him on the bus. Like, it was a last-minute invite, like it was okay. Definitely not. But yeah, it just it startled me in the sense of one, my first thought is we're dropping kids off now, we're not staying. Because anytime we used to drop the kids off, we would at least go in, feel it out, ask if we were welcome to stay. And they'd always say yes. But then I would say, okay, well, it once I felt it out, I'd be like, Okay, we're gonna go grocery shop. A lot of times that was real. If you're listening and you're one of the parents I've said that to, anytime I've used it, it's real. Yeah, I do have shit to do. Yeah, I have shit to do. Your house feels comfortable, you seem great. I didn't see any guns laying out, anything like that. Um, but I've always like walked around the house and seen who else is there. Are there older kids? Are they related? Are they neighbor kids? Is this just like a neighborhood everybody's gonna run around in? I don't want my child to have to feel like they have to make adult decisions when they're at someone else's house to be a child. Yeah. So um did any of the kids here have phones? I don't know. I mean, they brought like one brought a gaming because it was a gaming party. Sure. So they had access to like one brought a tablet, one brought the gaming system. Maybe they have communication means on that. I didn't see any phones. Um, I think eventually too, when kids someone was telling me this is another thought. I'm pinning it in my head about phones at parties. Um, but I don't know, it's weird because we're in a world that we want to be able to trust our community, right? And like the the friends my kids have, I want to trust their families. Yeah. But I don't know if I can all the time. And like you should always be kind of questioning in the back of your head. Um, because here, like, we do have guns, they're locked up, they're in the safe, you know. We have some hunting rifles, we have a shot or a pistol. Um, so just just some things I'm thinking about. And then when um no one came up to the door, came in until like at the end when one of the parents walked around back because the kids decided to go in the pool. Yeah, but that was the only parent that came up. Huh? That was the only guy who did the only person who did. That was the only person.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Um, which again, I'm seriously like, no, no, it's not.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, it is it it's just like an interesting thing.
SPEAKER_00:It's an observation, it's more or less like a I don't know protocol and etiquette. And like it surprises me that my thought is I always want to see inside the home. Yeah. Um, I don't care if it's clean, y'all. I don't care, like, no, no, I don't care. But I do care about things that I might see and that my kid might see, you know, and I just want to make sure I think that's totally fair that it's an appropriate environment. Yeah, yeah. Um, so that today was just it it made me think of that. It made me think of when my kids start going to people's places. Jason and I were talking, we would love this to be a hangout place, you know. Um my house was like that growing up. Like we had friends over and they felt comfortable in our home, and I felt comfortable being in a home that could provide that.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:So I'd love to be that for my friends' kiddos. Um, today was really lovely. And all y'all, I don't know how you're handling it if you're a parent, but I just hope everybody, yeah, let us know, and I hope you're all being careful. Yeah. Yeah. And I think some people, depending on their community and like who they know and stuff and the age of the kids, it all makes a difference. Yeah. Um, yeah. Yeah. It'll be interesting to see how like as you get older, as the kids get older, like how that changes. I know. And once they have licenses and like at that point, it just is what it is. Bye bye. Yeah. You won't even see them. Oh, sorry, I went from like one direction to the other, but um definitely weighs heavy lately with a lot going on in the world as it always is. Okay. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:I like I like that happen, that that conversation. Yeah. Interesting.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Different take, right? Different take. Mm-hmm. Hmm.
SPEAKER_01:Anything else? You want to say that?
SPEAKER_00:No, I think those were my uh sometime. I am gonna bring up the categories of kissers. I want us to like prepare this. Yeah, yeah. If if you're listening and you like are like, ooh, I kissed someone once and they were extra whatever, fill in that blank, send it our way. Because I need to make I need like a thinking board, like a wall I can write on. The more and more I think about it, we do need a whiteboard here.
SPEAKER_01:How and then get up and like write on it as we drink. Oh, yeah. No, write it on ahead of time. Yeah, because I'm not about to open it.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, but yeah, if you have a certain type of kisser in your life, tell us. If it's like a current kisser, maybe send it anonymously. Like, I won't call you out for it, but if they see it, that would be bad for you. I for sure will put the name on it.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah. Jason Carly said you're a bad kisser. I never said that's not true. I'm sorry.
SPEAKER_00:Not that she definitely's honestly like one of the best. Here we go. Sorry, babe, you're like one of the best kissers. You're like the best kisser. What's she gonna say that you're a bad kisser? My ex-boyfriend, the one who um he's not listening, I don't care. But Jason knows who he is. Um, the one who I was dating when Jason and I were like friends, like it ran in that friend group, and that's why Jason and I know each other. That guy, um, he told me I didn't use like that I how did he word it? I'm gonna summarize. Basically, that I wasn't using my tongue enough. Interesting. He liked it when the tongue swirls around the other tongue. I don't know what that means. More swirling. I can't remember how you provided that feedback. You, but like you shouldn't have. That's all.
SPEAKER_01:No comments I think about years later.
SPEAKER_00:Like, just you use too much tongue. There we go. All these years I've been holding that in. I've been waiting for this podcast for episode 41 to tell him you used too much tongue. You expected too much, too. Oh you should have been more grateful. That's all. Clapped it. All right, truth or drink. I can't drink my drink now. I'm gonna have water, so when I finish this drink, I'm still hydrated.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Are you almost out of that drink? A little bit. Give me two.
SPEAKER_00:Down here. Don't do this. How far? How far is yours? It's like here. Let me feel it. No, no, no. Let me feel it. It's black cherry. I'm not gonna have.
SPEAKER_01:No, CI.
SPEAKER_00:Alright, who's going first on these? You go ahead. What one are they? They're the same. I don't know. Same ones, okay. Last call and extra dirty. Okay. These are those, uh, those cards. What are they called? Last call and extra dirty truth or drink. Truth or drink. The cold hard truth or a nice stiff drink. Love that. Okay. Ooh.
SPEAKER_01:Extra dirty or last call?
SPEAKER_00:Extra dirty. Of course. Have you ever had a threesome? Would you?
SPEAKER_01:Respect. Yeah, I'll drink to that. Um. Oh, uh. Do you think I'm too clingy or to demand too much attention?
SPEAKER_00:No, but I know it's one of your insecurities, and you are not too clingy. I don't perceive you as too clingy or needing too much attention. Why'd you say it like that? You you have yet to get survey feedback. Maybe someone does. I don't know. Did you just put one aside? I just wanted to grabbing the one you put up. I set that one. Yeah. No, you are not too clingy. You don't need too much attention. In fact, you try to make yourself too like, I don't want to bother people unless you start bothering people. Like live out loud, you know? I feel like I do. You do. And I love you for it. Last call. What ethical boundaries are you happy to cross?
SPEAKER_01:Oh let me think. That's a good question. What ethical boundaries? Um, I'd probably kill for some people. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Not a lot of people, but maybe like my niece. I would depending on the situation. Yeah. I would consider it. I would probably consider it. I I don't know. I don't know.
SPEAKER_00:What about you? I it depends because I think ethical is some people view certain things. Like I have something I know I would do that a lot of people, like 50% would be like, oh, like if I needed to, you know, drive someone across state lines for like something. Sure. I would definitely, you know. Yeah, that to me, yeah. Yeah, like that kind of stuff. Like, but that's not an ethical question to me. Like that's true. If someone needs care, a hundred. And they ask me, I will find it. With that question. Yeah. As long as there's someone I like know I'm not driving strangers. Yeah. Maybe I am. I don't know the situation. In my head, there are ethical boundaries and there's no. That to me is not one.
SPEAKER_01:That to me is like Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. That's just like being a comedian.
SPEAKER_01:Healthcare is like.
SPEAKER_00:Healthcare is like important.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:I thought that was a really good question. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:I didn't realize it says like everybody answers on here. Like, oh it does? No. It says nothing. Um have you ever done butt stuff? If not, would you like to?
SPEAKER_00:I mean, sh my husband and I have explored in many ways. Yeah. Why'd you say it like that? I just didn't want to say we're uh said yes or no question. Yeah. Yep. Okay. Yep. Everybody answers. Oh, I have I not. No, no answers. I have not no answer. She has. She has. I mean, all signs point to. Everybody else answers. Oh. This round's on me. Extra dirty. Where's the strangest place? Everybody else answered?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, mine says that too.
SPEAKER_00:Oh. I didn't realize that. So I didn't even have to answer that one. Apologize. My honest ass over here being like, you've done that. Everybody answers. Where's the strangest place you've Had sex.
SPEAKER_01:Strangest place.
SPEAKER_00:Strangest, which is it's always so interesting to hear that. Like, what is strange to one person is not would it be like most risky? Oh, good question. Or is it like strange? Like, probably not a lot of people have done da-da-da. Um, strangest. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:This is so inappropriate. Um I don't know that I can say mine. No?
SPEAKER_00:Only because uh the person involved listens, or yeah. Okay. Well do you know what mine is? No. You do. I probably would. I just can't think of any places that I would say are strange.
SPEAKER_01:Um I uh um a workplace. Oh, okay. Strange? Maybe not.
SPEAKER_00:Um, it's not strange, but like Did I have no I can think of yours.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, not I don't know if it did it say sex or what did it say?
SPEAKER_00:Um where's the strangest place you've had sex? Oh, like actual sex sex. Yeah. I wouldn't say that I've had a lot of like strange place, but I would say one of my friends a long time ago, um, after her and her husband had gone to the beach, she like texted me or left me a voicemail and said, like, would not recommend sex on the beach. Always sounds good until you're like you got sand in your asshole. And I was like, Oh, good to know. I wouldn't do that. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:That's not that can't be your answer because that you didn't have sex on the beach.
SPEAKER_00:I didn't. No, I don't have I'll drink. I don't know where's a strange place. Outside.
SPEAKER_01:You can't think of any place, but you didn't, it's not like sex. I don't want to say it, but like think about a time where we were on vacation.
SPEAKER_00:Yep, yep. In a bathroom at a restaurant. Totally. Yep, there we go. In a bathroom at a restaurant. I always said I I never did that. Now I'm thinking about that. I have. Totally. Yeah. Look at me. Have you Oh god. Is this a last call or an extra dirty? Last call. Last call, okay.
SPEAKER_01:This is so dramatic. Have you ever considered ending our relationship? Yours and mine? Stop. And why?
SPEAKER_00:No, so there's no reason.
SPEAKER_01:Imagine.
SPEAKER_00:I have a long list of reasons that I don't ever want to end our relationship.
SPEAKER_01:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Because I love you. What was the other one? What's the most amount of money you would lend me? I mean, I only have so much. It's gonna depend on the time of year for me. Sure. Where am I financially right now? It would be a very small amount. Like 50 bucks. Like a hundred. Sure. Yeah. I would probably never ask for that, but okay. Yeah. I uh like if a friend needed a hundred bucks, I would hope they would ask me though.
SPEAKER_01:If I had it. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. 100 bucks I would lend you. Yeah, like let me know. I can probably do that, you know? Unless it's like right before the mortgage is due and like bills were heavy, you know. Some months are kind of tight, you know. Last call. Oh, what's the I hope you have a good answer for this one. What's the most needlessly mean thing you've ever heard me say about someone else? Needlessly mean thing. You've ever heard me say about someone else. Um because sometimes I have heard the things that come out of my mouth and I'm like, did I just say that? That was actually mean.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know. I really don't know. Needlessly mean. I don't think it's needlessly mean. Yeah. I really don't know. No.
SPEAKER_00:Do you feel like there's anything like needlessly mean? I feel like there are some times I'm like a little petty and I'm like, Yeah, but it's not needless. You're right. It fills my soul for that moment. I don't think, yeah, I can't think of anything. Well, I feel better. There was A, by the way, if you wanted to read what that one was. That's the one you read the other day, I think, when you were flipping.
SPEAKER_01:Quite literally today. That's the one you said the other day. The day's literally like the moments. No. I think there are some maybe some moments that I could probably stop drinking. You're just young right now, you know. Yeah, I'm living. I'm literally spiraling to the end of 2025, and I'm gonna Then we're gonna pick it up. You know, I'm gonna go hard in 2026. 25 in the year 2025. Yeah. And then in 2026, I'm really gonna lock in 2026. After Christmas.
SPEAKER_00:No, no, no, not in 2026. Um I feel like I could ask you A, but you're not gonna answer it or know what to say. I might. Okay. What problem do I think I I think or you think? Hold on. What problem do I think I'm successfully hiding from everyone, but is actually completely obvious? Oh. Do I think I'm so what problem do you think? Because it can't be I think, it's you answering. Okay. That you think you are successfully hiding from everyone. I think I'm successful. It's not for me, it's for you. We're reading them to each other.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, I don't think I'm successful hiding any problems. I think I'm very obviously a mess. I don't think I'm hiding anything. Yeah. You're not, you're not a mess. I'm a Carly. You're having I think I'm sorry, I'm hiding it from maybe like people. Yeah. But like if you if if we talk regularly, like every day, like there's nothing I'm hiding from Kelsey or you. Yeah. Yeah. There's just nothing. No. Okay. Clearly. You it is what it is. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:I hate that expression. It is what it is, though. It is what it is. The other question on here was do you see us as equals? No. No, I don't.
SPEAKER_01:Why not? Um, I think you're way above me. What are you talking about? Ew.
SPEAKER_00:Ew. What do you mean ew? Rejected. No. Next card. Ew.
SPEAKER_01:That's crazy.
SPEAKER_00:I'm just gonna start saying that when I don't like something you say, ew.
SPEAKER_01:So much better than me. That's really crazy.
SPEAKER_00:Jason and I side note on how I met your mother. Marshall and Lily talk about the Reacher and Sedler thing. You know, which one is? Sometimes this is the most unnecessary mean thing I do say. Sometimes Jason and I, when we're out and we're when we're in the out for the first time in a long time, um, we will ask each other, like, who do you think is a reacher and who's the settler? Between you two? No, in a relationship around us, just based on a conversation we hear or something distinct, right? Something will have had to happen and we're like, which one? Like, if someone's mean to someone, if they're nice to someone, if whatever, who's the pushover? And uh, I think it was at PF Chang's the other night that we just did this again. Like, which one's a reacher? So when you said how you answered just now, I'm like, no, no. It's it's the Reacher Sedler conversation. Yeah, no, it's very okay, no crazy. I am so majorly fortunate to have you in my life. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Uh okay. There is no rebuttal to that. Period.
SPEAKER_00:All right, which one did you choose? Um, it's extra dirty. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Um I know the answer to that one. I'm not gonna. Okay. How confident are you in your oral sex skills? And how do you know? Confident feedback. Confident, not very confident? 10 out of 10.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, damn. Oh, yeah, I'm very confident in I got this. Yeah, I have no. I am not drinking today.
SPEAKER_01:All right. Yup. Yup.
SPEAKER_00:Oh my god. These are two really good questions I'm asking both of them. Okay. Do you think I'm good parent material? Yeah. Thanks. You've said that before, so I know your answer. But like, whenever I feel like I'm a shit parent and I tell you, you're like, no, that sounds pretty normal. Like, I would be losing my mind too. Um, what thing do I love that you absolutely hate? Oh, there's so many things. Are you swapping cards, bitch? Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Because I'm interested to see what question you pick. Um what thing do you love that I hate? Yeah. There's so many things.
SPEAKER_00:There's so many, right? I mean like double eggs. Um the orientation of toilet paper. I love it when it goes over. Um, there's so there's so many things. Yeah, there's so many things. That's gotta be another like. Yeah. That's like a whole thing. That's not a good thing. Yeah, we'll set that. That's uh Gemini. Yep, I'll leave it face up. Yep. Um two more cards left. Is that it? Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Your last one's yours.
SPEAKER_00:We're almost to last call, y'all. Have you uh Okay. Um have you ever paid for porn? I imagine the answer is no. I don't think so. I'm just trying to think. Like, is there any time? No.
SPEAKER_01:Do you know where your G spot is? Yes. Are you sure? That's also in the question. I think. You think, so you don't know.
SPEAKER_00:I even know. I know.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I know.
SPEAKER_00:Alright. This is extra dirty, and she's not gonna answer it.
SPEAKER_02:I'm just curious.
SPEAKER_00:You know what I'm picking. Describe the present state of your pubic hair.
SPEAKER_01:I'm not gonna answer it.
SPEAKER_00:Let's just drink to that one. Let's just let's just cheers to Carly.
SPEAKER_01:Sorry, I just remembered.
SPEAKER_00:The cheersing man. Yes. Sorry, you left this in a message, and I never asked you.
SPEAKER_01:It's the same man that I went on a date with was put like on Thursday. He cheers me like He's a weirdo.
SPEAKER_00:We knew that.
SPEAKER_01:He cheers me like 17 times.
SPEAKER_00:So you're out, where were you?
SPEAKER_01:At Hopcat.
SPEAKER_00:And he he's like, cheers to that, cheers to that, cheers to that.
SPEAKER_01:17 times. I totally forgot about that. That's weird. I should have fucked. I should have known. Same drink, or were they all new drinks? No, same drink. We'd only ordered one round of drinks. Yeah, yeah. I was like, nah. What? And even like after the round of drinks, like we stayed after we like finished our food. I didn't even finish my food. I like got my few meals.
SPEAKER_02:Like, uh huh.
SPEAKER_01:I had half my sandwich and was like, alright. We're still there for like an hour and a half talking. Stop. I'm like, oh my god, please.
SPEAKER_00:Please, no.
SPEAKER_01:Let's go. He's drinking so slow. And what do you have to cheers about? It was like nothing. It was random shit. Like, huh? We're talking about travel, and he was like, Well, we've decided our next trip. Cheers to that.
unknown:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:He, I think he doesn't like art that's trying too hard because it is how he feels inside about himself. He tries too hard. Let's cheers a bunch. Let's like talk about this art that we hate. Let's like. Such um I just what did you call him? Um I don't know. Shit. You said a great word earlier, and I was like that. Yeah. I don't know. Yeah. Miserable. I'm sorry. Miserable. You're a miserable man.
SPEAKER_01:He's gonna make some girl so happy someday. I don't know. It's not gonna be me. He's not gonna be me. I also hated his outfit, but what was the like top thing? About what? His outfit. That I hated? Mm-hmm. Oh god, so much. Um also the man I went on a date with last night, his shirt was not backwards. Like inside out. I know. That's like really crazy.
SPEAKER_00:Maybe he showed up after a different date.
SPEAKER_01:Imagine. Imagine. I would lose my fucking mind if I found that out. Uh-huh. Cause, huh? Didn't you go on two dates once in one day? Let me stop. I'm talking shit. Let me stop. I've definitely done I've gone on three dates in one day. You're right. Let me stop. But I didn't, I didn't like have yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:There was no reason that your shirt would have been on inside out, huh?
SPEAKER_01:That would be crazy. My gosh. I've wondered. Now I'm so curious. That absolutely could be what's going on. Let's send a survey to him now. Oh my god. I did mention the survey. I might send him a survey. I'm gonna send him the survey. But then ask, have you ever? Oh my god, I'm gonna send him the survey.
SPEAKER_00:All right. Oh, that was so loud. I'm so sorry. I keep throwing things violently on this table.
SPEAKER_01:Um we're good. Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Is that a wrap?
SPEAKER_01:That's a wrap on episode 41. Yeah, right? 41?
SPEAKER_00:Hell yeah.
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