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Make It To Wednesday
50 Episodes of Masculine Energy
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Welcome to Make It to Wednesday, the podcast that gets you through the week with laughs, real talk, and all the Gemini energy you didn't know you needed. We are your hosts, Carly and Carla, two best friends born a week apart, but somehow total opposites. Here we dive into life's big questions, small wins, and messy moments. Think dating, marriage, family, pop culture, and everything in between. Whether you're thriving or just surviving, we're here to remind you you're not alone. So grab your coffee, your wine, or whatever gets you through, and let's make it to Wednesday together. Welcome back to Make It to Wednesday, a hump day podcast. We are your show hosts. I'm Carla. And I'm Carly, and this is episode 50. The big five-oh.
SPEAKER_00:And we even brought balloons. Look at it. We're so festive today.
SPEAKER_01:So festive.
SPEAKER_00:It's a celebratory thing. Yeah, but we thought those balloons would be bigger, to be honest.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, we did. We thought they'd be like the ones from 26. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Which are like this tall. Turns out, they're this.
SPEAKER_01:I was so like, we can't get 40-inch balloons that I didn't look at the size of these ones.
SPEAKER_00:In our head, these were like 25 inches. But they weren't. They were 14. Turns out we don't know what inches look like. This big. This big. It's all the same. Wow. Depending on who you ask. No comments. No comments. Uh no comment. It's episode 50.
SPEAKER_01:Episode 50. I brought a fact. Oh. It is crazy to think about. Um, I brought a fact from the 1950s. Okay. So Silly Putty. Do you remember Silly Putty that came in like the egg? Yeah. That is still being produced today under like Crayola, whatever. Um, Silly Putty first sold on shelves in the 1950s. Interesting. It was like, I I guess apparently it was an accidental creation. Accident.
SPEAKER_00:Like, what does that mean?
SPEAKER_01:In 1943, they were trying to figure out a way to make like a rubber substitute for World War II. I didn't really like read into the why. Okay. And it was invented in 43 for that, but I think it didn't go anywhere. And then someone like rebranded it and was able to get it on shelves and sold it. For children now.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Interesting.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, because they realized it could be like flexible and malleable and all the things. And like it was essentially a fidget toy before fidget toys were fidget toys.
SPEAKER_00:I guess. Yeah. Yeah. I guess that's fair. It's like the slime of I guess it is technically slime. It is a version of slime. Yeah. Interesting. I know. Um. Did you read other facts from the 1950s? Um, a few other ones. So I had a guest over on sorry. Steve number two came over on when Wednesday. Someday last week. I don't remember what day it was. This week. One was reading up on facts from the 1950s, and he wanted me to ask you a question.
SPEAKER_01:Alright, Steve, what's your question?
SPEAKER_00:He wanted to know if you felt like the facts that you read about the 1950s really um signify the turn of the century. No. Okay. She said no, Steve. I don't know. I don't even know what's I don't know what he read to like I don't know. Huh. I have no idea.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, I just brought a fact today for the 1950s.
SPEAKER_00:Sure, and I don't I don't feel like that fact really like that one didn't change anything.
SPEAKER_01:Um so no, no, Steve. Um, the 1950s, I don't feel like anything significant has been brought to the table.
SPEAKER_00:Maybe she just saw yeah, maybe she just saw like a different set of facts than you saw. I I'm interested in understanding. Like, he didn't say more about it. I told him not to tell me the facts. So I told I like to be surprised. Oh, okay. So I have no idea what he saw.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I mean, sure, yes, there's a turn of the century, but like I'm also very I'm I'm like now I'm curious what he saw.
SPEAKER_00:I know. I'm not sure he'll tell me like when I see him.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, it was the stuff like we already talked about the things leading up to with war, with baby boomers, with all that. Like yeah, I guess in that sense it was the turn of the century.
SPEAKER_00:The turn of the century.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Oh sorry, Steve. That's an expression I've never thought much about either. Turn of the century. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:When do you feel like do you feel like you've lived through the turn of the century? Like No. Oh, interesting. No.
SPEAKER_01:Not even when two through some things. Yeah, I wouldn't call that the turn of the century. Why? Because what century are we talking about? The 1900s or like the 2000s?
SPEAKER_00:Like within that cluster, I don't think it's defined either of them yet. You don't think you've lived through the turn of what do you mean? Of a century? Sure. Not the century.
SPEAKER_01:Like, how are we categorizing these?
SPEAKER_00:Like nobody's living through the turn of more more than one century. That's true. You know, that's true. We're all living through the turn of a century. I don't know. Just curious. That's a good good question, though. That's a good phrase to the turn of a century. Yeah. That feels that feels important. You know what I mean? Like important. Feels like it really means something, even though it doesn't actually mean anything. It always makes me think about farming, like turning over the fields and crops. Like you have to go through some stuff and like turn things over to get it to like bloom again. Oh, that's really sweet. I would have never once thought about that. No. Do you feel like that's what the turn of a century is? Like you have to go through some shit to that's how I'm choosing to look at it. Okay. That could be. That's fair. I really don't. I really don't know. There's nothing evidence backed here. What do you mean? At every turn of the century, like something, something I won't say drastic, but something happens. Something happens to flip things. Normally the economy. Yeah. That's essentially that's for almost every single time what it is. Yeah. That's always the economy. Fair, fair, fair. Yikes. But happy 50th episode car. Happy 50th episode car. I don't think we'd get this far. You didn't?
SPEAKER_01:No, I I had no opinion on where it was gonna go when it started. I just wanted, I knew we wanted to do it. I never thought, oh, we have to make it to episode 50 or we have to make it to episode 100.
SPEAKER_00:Like it's just always been like a little treat to make it to the next episode. Do you feel like now that we've made it to 50, we have to make it to 100 now? Absolutely. You do. Like you feel like we still like have to like now we're gonna turn of the century. We have to make it to a century now. Do you know what I mean? Like, yes. Interesting. Yeah. Happy 50th. Happy 50th, everybody. Thanks for being here for 50 episodes. Yes. That's crazy. It is. Like the more I think about it, that's like a lot.
SPEAKER_01:It it is a lot. And I keep now calling it our after dark episode. Yeah. Guys.
SPEAKER_00:Welcome for joining us, or welcome to joining us. Um te drinking. That's the problem. That's the problem. Some more than Actually, I don't think that's true. I don't think that's true. Probably about the same amount. Yeah. Yeah. It's been a fair amount. Yeah. Yeah. It has been a fair amount. We are still working on a bottle of vodkila. Yeah. That was brought to my home by someone uh many moons ago. And it has traveled with me to and from festivities and is still like I got here and there was still half a bottle left. Like you say it's been traveling with you, but like how can that be?
SPEAKER_01:I'm the only one drinking it when it traveled.
SPEAKER_00:Apparently, and you're drinking sips at one time.
SPEAKER_01:Sips. I made a massive drink with it. You say that was like how can that be true? How can that be true? I did.
SPEAKER_00:I don't know. We're not working it hard enough. So we did shots of Aquila tonight. Two. More than one, more than one shot. Technically, one was a double and the other was a regular, so we did three. And we also did like a wine tasting. Mm-hmm. Crazy.
SPEAKER_01:With some of the stuff that he just brought out. What?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:What do you mean? Um, the server brought out. Oh, he brought like three samples at all. We've been drinking.
SPEAKER_00:We've been drinking. But it's episode 50, so we're gonna drink more because we're doing truth or drink today.
SPEAKER_01:We are doing truth or drink today, and I'm just gonna like them open.
SPEAKER_00:We're gonna crack yours too. Ready? Ready? One, two, three. I'd already opened mine, guys. I'm sorry. She told me too late that we were gonna do them on camera, so it is what it is. But I'm drinking my usual um Lucky One lemonade, a blueberry lemonade. And this is still one from the summer, isn't it? Or is this the last time you came over? The blueberry gin lemonade. Oh my god, I have no clue. Did you like yours? Yeah, I love them. Okay. Mm-hmm. Okay, yeah. Oh, it's so sweet. Uh-oh. Yikes. Oh, I chose poorly. I chose poorly. No. Whew! Anyways. Um yeah. We're doing truth or drink nice day. We're doing truth or drink. We were sports moms today. Sport sports. I was sport auntie today.
SPEAKER_01:Auntie. I love it.
SPEAKER_00:Did you say auntie or auntie?
SPEAKER_01:Auntie. I say auntie. Well, I don't say either, to be fair. I say aunt.
unknown:That's fair.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, yeah, yeah. Did you ever say auntie at any point? No. Never. I think I just tried it a minute ago and it didn't feel like it. For the first time? Yep. Oh, is that cultural? Probably. Oh, I didn't realize that. Yeah. Never want to realize that. I say Auntie Paula. Oh, Duncan. Auntie Bridget, yeah. Auntie Patrice. Yeah. I've always said auntie. That's a really true. Yeah. No. I don't think it's cultural though, because we say my friend Andrea is Auntie Vicky. Huh. Yeah. Andrea that I met. Yeah. Oh. It's Auntie Vicky. Auntie. Where'd you pick that up, girl? Like, where'd you get that? And she's always done it since I've known that. It's just a little bit. Maybe it's a regional thing. Maybe it's regional. Yeah. Where are you from? And what do you call your aunt? Is it if you're in Michigan, is it auntie or aunt? Or aunt. Or aunt. Auntie? Aunt Auntie. My auntie. Aunt Lori. You say Aunt Lori. No, I don't. Aunt Lori. Aunt. Aunt Laurie. Now all I can see is a little aunt. Totally. I was thinking the same thing. Oh my gosh. Sympathical. All right. We are here.
SPEAKER_01:We are here. It is been a nice day. It is episode 50. We have been out doing the sports things, the wine tasting things, the hanging out things. It's been really lovely.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I've enjoyed it. I have two. Um, we ran out of listen bitch cards. Are we just gonna go right to into that? We're not gonna do like our we're gonna do our stuff. I'm just saying it's staring at me because it's two-sided, and now like it's hard. I'm I'm not, but like we're gonna really be up to it. So I was like, Oh, you had it covered. Yeah, let me just I was trying to like cover it up so we don't like read it. Smart, so I don't read it. You already read it. No, I didn't. I just saw the word love. I saw the word love as well. Yikes. Um I do have a text message and it's driving me crazy. Is it driving me nuts? I see it. Can you check in on that? No, I might pull up the laptop though. Um, okay. Happy and crappy. Happy crappy. Do you want me to go first? You want to go first? I can go first. Go ahead.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I just feel like um this week I had a really good week at home with not at home, but like our time at home with the kids was really good this week.
SPEAKER_00:Love.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. We for the most part didn't do tablets and like did family time and activities and stuff, but the crappy for me was that I didn't feel good a lot of this week. And therefore, neurovirus or I don't know. I uh it was mostly like I feel like in my head, like migraine and congestive and all of that.
SPEAKER_00:Like you sick? Like, I don't know. I'm exhausted. No. Uh okay. You said maybe flu. Maybe flu. I'd like to not get the flu before. I got the flu shot, so oh, so you did get the flu. I believe that's what I said, isn't it? Interesting. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:So yeah, I didn't feel great, you know, on my day off. At least it was on my day off and not a work day. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:And I could just relax and sleep and all the things, but um, still had the boys this week and still tried to navigate like being exhausted. And being a parent. Mm-hmm. It just sucks because like you just like don't get a break. Like, what do you do? My break comes when like on our off week. So then I'm just gonna go. Sure, sorry, that's not my on week. But like, no, but like what do you do when you're on? Because you don't get a break when you're on. Like, if you get sick and go down, just like have to deal with it. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Ew. Well, that one night I had a migraine and I came home and I said, Boys, you can play in the tablet for an hour. I gotta shut my eyes. Two hours later, when my husband walks in the door, I'm waking up and I'm like, I'm sorry, I'm a piece of shit. Why? I just felt so lazy. He said it was fine. Obviously, it's fine. Like, I just felt bad.
SPEAKER_00:I felt bad. I'm sure they don't care. The kids did not care.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I'm sure they didn't realize it was more than and after like he got home, we started dinner and then we did some family activities, so it was fine.
SPEAKER_00:Like, I still got time with them. I promise you. Yeah. If I'm if I'm them, I'm not waking up either. Yeah. Like I'm staying on my tablet. Yeah. And they did fight. 100%. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Yep. They weren't fighting when I woke up, nothing. So it was a good week.
SPEAKER_00:Good. I'm glad. Yeah. Okay. Love that. How was yours? Um my week was relatively good as well, I would say. Yeah? Yeah. I'm trying to think like yeah. It was pretty busy, but like not in a bad way. Mostly good things. I had something every night this week. Which like at this point is to be expected. Is the norm. Yeah. You know, as a single girl, you live in life in the big city.
unknown:I can't.
SPEAKER_00:The biggest rapid. Like it's like not. Uh-huh. Like biggest around here, sure. Okay, sure. Yeah. Bigger than not bigger than Detroit, but like I guess it's like not around here. Yeah. Also, would you say, like, I'm not wrong. I we live in southern Michigan, right? We live in West Michigan. Sure, but like also South Michigan. No. Why not? This is not. Tell me why. We're closer to mid-Michigan than we are to South. But if if up north, if if the UP is northern Michigan, how is this not South Michigan?
SPEAKER_01:Oh. I see what you're saying. We live in the lower peninsula.
SPEAKER_00:It's also called South Michigan. How is it not? It's just not. No, it is the upper peninsula. Sure. And then there's the lower peninsula. But if you call it northern Michigan, why is this not southern Northern Michigan could be anywhere to the north. We were up. How is this not anywhere to the south? Just asking. You know what? I don't care enough about this argument. Yes, we are southern fucking Michigan. Thank you so much. You're welcome. Um, but yeah, my week was really good. I should that's not true. It was fine. It was fine. It was good for the most part. Um minor annoyances here and there, but like good dates. Minor annoyances. Yeah. Yeah. But what do you consider a minor annoyance? Um please describe. I really like don't want to say it because I No, no, I need to know. Just like irritating things that happened this week. Um, oh for example uh let me think of something that doesn't involve a specific like specific people. Is it me? No. My headphones broke this week. Oh, that's a minor annoyance. I actually would call it a major annoyance. Which headphones? My big ones. Like the ones that look like this. Oh. That left side of it snapped. I said, God. How long have you had those? A year. They should not have broken. I mean, the same exact thing. The exact same thing happened last year. Are you serious? By almost to the day. Almost to the day. Like my ex my insurance runs out December 9th. Almost to the full day. Isn't that crazy? So I will be in back at Best Buy tomorrow. Wow.
unknown:Uh-uh.
SPEAKER_00:Fix this please. Thank you so much. I mean I have Apple Care, so like it's fine, but like. Wow. Do you pay for Apple Care by the way? No. For nothing? Like not even your phone? No. What it what all does Apple care cover? Your phone. Oh, no, I don't mean that. I mean, like I my my phone, my my beats pros, like my my pros and my like Studio Pros. Oh, it covers all that? If you pay for it, yeah. Oh, that's nice. But if you don't pay for it, it covers. No, nothing. Wow. So you don't have insurance on your devices? Do people do you guys have a like Apple Care? Some people have like the protection, whatever. That's what it is. The$19 a month, whatever. I mean, it's like$13, but sure. Oh, I don't know. But still, but like my mom and Jeff just got it when they got their new phones just for the first month, but no. Interesting. I don't carry it after the first month. So if your phone breaks, you're just like shit out of luck. I guess. Okay, fair enough. Yeah. That's crazy. Yeah, that is kind of crazy, huh? I mean, your phone's never broken, right? I mean, why would we say that out loud now? Neither had Jeff's, and then That's fair. Yeah. Also valid. Yeah. Mm-hmm. I don't know. Just curious. But that was like a minor annoyance thing that happened yesterday. Okay. Oh, this was just yesterday. Maybe Friday. A Thursday. It was Thursday before our holiday party. And I was like, okay. I forgot about your work's holiday party. Yeah. You went? I did go. I know I said I wasn't gonna go, but I did go. And it was fine. Did you take anybody? What? I don't know. A date? A date? Yeah, did you take anybody? Imagine? No, it wasn't like that. It was like a hour. I did have a date afterwards. Um I was like really close to bailing on. Really? But you went? Well, I was I wasn't gonna go, and I was telling Sue, I was like, should I just like bail? And she was like, No, that's so rude. And then she literally gets up, asks the entire group. She's like, Carla has a date in 30 minutes. Is it rude to bail? And then everybody was like, Yeah, it would be rude. I'm like She asked everybody? Yeah, which is like who was everybody? Just like all the board members that were there. It's not that crazy. Board members. I'd already asked them like if it would be like I'd already asked them like a pretty invasive question, so like it's like not that crazy. But like I I think what did I ask? I asked them if it was like, should it be expected as like if they're in um in a relationship that they as men, if they if they as men or if their husbands should be expected to wipe their car off of if there's no and one man was like, no. I said, okay. You must not be in love, sir. Yeah, lucky girl you got there. I mean, like whatever. I don't want to Jason would actually like flip his shit. Like why he thinks he should do nice things and like does them. Most and that's really lovely. I think a lot of a lot of the men uh actually I won't say this. I would say depending on what the demographic where uh group you were from, yeah, was the like it was that's the answer you got. Like so like um the superintendent of the GRPS is a woman of color. Yeah. Her husband, she like wouldn't even like her husband wouldn't even dream of not wiping her car off. Yeah. Same as the other people of color on the board. Now, the people that maybe are of the less melanated versions of skin tone. The white man. Okay, sure. Um, they were like, no, I don't I usually don't wipe off my skin. Really? Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:It was really an interesting Jason would not be part of the sure.
unknown:Sure.
SPEAKER_00:Part of that model. Yeah. I mean, it I don't think it just was an interesting thing to note. Yeah. They're also there was an age, like the f the older people, there was these are mostly the older people, I would say, as well. Which is interesting to note as well. Because where did chivalry go? Where did chivalry go? I don't know. Just something to note. Yeah. I'm just curious. Like, so you think that your man should I think that I don't mind if he wipes it off. And so if I don't mind, I probably like it. Yeah. Would you be upset if he didn't? No, I wouldn't be upset if he didn't. But also we've worked really hard to not put ourselves in positions where we have to wipe our car off either. Of course. Sure. If you we clean that garage out so we can both park in the garage. Let's take the garage out of it. Okay, garage is gone. We park outside. Yes. We leave similar time. He leaves first. Okay. And you like you, he leaves like an hour before you do. Okay. And you go outside and your car is like not wiped off.
unknown:Don't
SPEAKER_00:Even come home. Is that I mean you already wipe yourself, you got buttoned up, you put your gloves on, you did all the things. You know I'm rushing to get out the door because that's fair. Life of mom, you know. Does it make a difference if he was running late or not? Like, like what of what is like barely. It barely like get up early, you know. That's the get up earlier.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know. I'd be better prepared. I don't know.
SPEAKER_00:Interesting. Yeah. What if he didn't have to wipe his car off? Like, what if he got home after the snow had stopped? Like you'd been home all day, so this your car's covered. Covered in snow, but his is not covered, so he didn't have to wipe his off. Then I wouldn't be that mad at him. Yeah, that's fair. Yeah, okay. I don't see any reason to be. Okay. Yeah. Just kidding. But if he's out there, like in his attire, whatever that is, wiping shit down. And he just like sees your car as well, and he's like, she got it. Yeah, no. No, he better. That's fair. I don't know. I've always grown up that like like my like I I always think like my brother would do it. Yeah. My brother doesn't even drive, but he would he would do it. That's the question. Without question, yeah. Yeah. So like I'm like, huh. Maybe my maybe my maybe my dad and my brother set the standard too high. No. I don't think so either, but I'm just curious. No. I don't know where we came where we got here from, but I don't know either, but I like it. Also say, I had a pretty good week. Yeah. My date went well after that holiday party. Good. New you said first date or not? Yeah, he's the one who said I had masculine energy.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:But we still liked him. Here's what it is. He explained it. I shouldn't have said that. I don't know why I said that on the podcast, because now that sounds crazy. You're giving daddy vibes. He didn't say that specifically.
SPEAKER_01:Masculine energy.
SPEAKER_00:How else are you gonna take that? Like that's how I took it as like I'm giving I I I radiate man. Like, I don't know.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know how to don't find me attractive.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Yep. That's not how he meant it. He meant it is that I'm an independent woman who don't need no man, which like and he thinks traditionally that's a masculine masculine quality. Which is crazy. But wow, that's insane to say. Yeah. But you had a nice time anyways. Yeah. Otherwise it was totally fine. Have you messaged since the day? We've been texting all day. Okay. Yeah. Cute. Sure. And you might go out again. Okay. I don't know. I've there's other things that I'm a little like. Were there red flags? Um I don't know. There were flags. Um I don't Yeah, there were flags. Okay. Cautionary ones. I don't know if the I don't know if I'm just being crazy or not. You know? Uh would you want to talk about any of them? No, I mean sure. Uh he like he was he's newly single. Not newly single. He was in a relationship up until August. So it's not like newly single, but like Newly single. Recently single. Long relationship. Yeah. Yeah. And I just like don't feel like that's enough time. It's really not. And I told him like, I'm not trying to be a rebound. He said, I don't feel like I need a rebound. And I even asked him like on the. Yep. A few times. Yep. I asked him like while we were there. I'm just like, is this like awkward for you to be here? He's like, I haven't been on a first date in a really long time. And I was like, that's if you're his first first date in a long time in eight years. Eight years. Holy shit, what pressure. I said that same thing. He's like, there is no pressure. I was like, that's fair because I'm gonna go into this. There wasn't, and then he called you masculine. Well, now, who's paying for this date now? Am I expected to pay for this? Or should I go get my date? Like, I don't Yeah. How awful. Totally. I would die right there. Yes. Have you ever felt like less of a lady? You know what I mean? Just walk out. I was wearing such a like I was wearing like heel, like heeled boots and like a skirt. Yeah. Tights. I'll just drive myself home now. I did drive myself home to be fair. Yep. And you walked me to my car, so oh, okay. Who's masculine now? I I still drove myself home, so I guess I don't really know. I don't know. Anyways. I'm just like talking. It's so phenomenal. This is our ketchup time. It's episode 50.
SPEAKER_01:We're having fun. Um, okay. So we talked about how we're switching up our cards from listen bitch to what we're calling the awesome cards.
SPEAKER_00:Now, what we haven't figured out about the awesome cards yet is that they have two sides. Yeah. I do feel like because we've already read this one, we have to read this one now. Like we now that now that we've seen the word love. Yeah, let's just read it. Do we just read both of them, though? Do we read one? I think we just read the one. I think we read both. Why? Not at the same time. One is during start and one to close. Yeah. Okay, let's try it. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Let's try it. Yeah? Okay. So I'm gonna read the one that's facing up right now. Okay. Okay. So these are awesome cards because behind us, you'll see I redecorated once again.
SPEAKER_00:Can you yeah. If you go, if you'll recall episode maybe like two. One of the things that I said, well, one of the reasons I said I don't think I could live with Carly is because she redecorates her house so often. And if you'll see there was a new table behind us, because Carly has again redecorated the podcast space, which is not a bad thing.
SPEAKER_01:It's fine. This was an extra table. It holds our podcast shit now. Of course. We can hang shit above it.
SPEAKER_00:It's good. Yeah, it's not a complaint. Just to be clear.
SPEAKER_01:But I move furniture again. So I put the deck of cards back there. And what does it say? Don't be afraid to be amazing. So now they're just amazing cards.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. And there's an author in there, so I don't know who there's a lot of cards. There is an author. Something Andy. Emily? What? How did you say Emily? I saw Andy. Funny. I think it could be Andy. My eyesight is really poor. Must be nice.
unknown:Shut up.
SPEAKER_00:I really must be nice. You're gonna get glasses, you think? I'm so jealous.
SPEAKER_01:I don't want glasses. I probably need some glasses. Yeah. One day. One day. Alright. Awesome card. The first one ever. Okay. Episode 50 says the highest love of all finds its fulfillment, not in what it keeps, but in what it gives.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, that's sweet. Father Andrew. We won't be reading the authors, I think, for these. The fuck is that? The author matters less than the central. Of course it does.
SPEAKER_01:The highest love of all finds its fulfillment, not in what it keeps, but in what it gives.
SPEAKER_00:That's sweet. That's really pretty. That's perfect for the holiday season as well. It is. Huh. It's what you give that matters. It's what you give. Is that what you got from the same quote? Like it's what okay. What did you get instead? Like, what do you mean?
SPEAKER_01:The highest love of all finds its fulfillment and not what it keeps, but in what it gives.
SPEAKER_00:Just like don't keep things all to yourself. Show love by sharing those with others. That's way better than like. Okay. Yeah, that's really sweet. That's that's really sweet. It's cute. I like that. Okay. Yeah. I love uh cute. I quite like it actually. Okay. Now I'm curious what the other side's gonna say. Like it's gonna be something totally different, you think? Totally different. We'll figure it out at the end of the episode. And we'll figure it out then we'll see if how the two per episode is gonna go.
SPEAKER_01:How the two compare as well. Yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Also, I'm curious how many ep how many cards are in this box. It looked like more than a year, more than a year's worth. Yeah. Okay. That's that's what's most important. We need to make this three year. I think it'll be fine. Okay. Yeah. Um so we also yeah, we're gonna play true the drink. Yes, I have a question first. We have time. Yeah, we have time. Hell yeah. I have no idea. We have time. We're a mess today. Question. I love it, yes. Um hypothetical situation. Hypothetical, okay. You're in bed, okay. And you hear a noise at the in the middle of the night. Am I by myself? No, you're with your husband. Okay. Sorry, that's fair. Yep. Yes. You and your partner are sleeping in bed at night. Yep. You hear a noise. Whose job is it to go investigate that noise? Yes. His of course it's his job, right? Like, I'm not crazy like if I hear a noise. Yeah, unless it's like something where I'm like, no, you need backup and we both go. Like, it's that. Oh, am I crazy? Not a situation where we both go. No. Well, it would be a situation where you both go investigate.
SPEAKER_01:Where I don't want to stay and get murdered in the bed by myself. Sounds like someone's breaking in. What if they come around to the slider in the bedroom while he's out looking for them?
SPEAKER_00:The slider's locked.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:They could break in. Okay. I would go with. You think? Yeah. There's less likelihood of one of us dying if we're together. And if we're together, then we both die. Hmm. Okay, that's fair. What about you? Um, yeah, there's not a situation where I'm going to check out. I don't even have a weapon. What the fuck am I gonna do? You're just letting the other person like go figure it out. Yeah. Yeah, of course. Did something happen recently that made you think about this? Not particularly sweet, not I mean something happened. What was it? It was not, I don't want to.
unknown:He's gonna tell me.
SPEAKER_00:Oh my god. You have to say it now. Not I mean, like, nothing actually happened. There was a situation where I was in bed um with a fr um a partner. A partner at one point in my life. Yep. And uh we had heard a noise, and like I was like, what? Did you hear that? And he's like, Yeah, what was that? And I was like, I have no fucking clue. Why don't you go find it? How would I know that? Um first of all, I'm on the inside. Like, I don't sleep. There's not like I'm also I'm not by the door. I'm not by the door. Uh-huh. You're closer. Why would I get up and go check? I love this. Like, go look. I don't know. Yep. Um he's gonna kill me. Um and so like he had gotten up, like we had just we were just we had just been talking. Like it wasn't even like we were just we were talking and like so he had gotten up to eventually go get water to like refill his water bottle. And he like came back to like go to bed. Yes. And uh nothing there was nothing. Like he made sure the doors were locked, everything's safe. Yeah, everything was safe. Um we wake up the next morning and uh he gets he has to go to work first. Um so he like I'm still I'm half asleep. Uh he's like, he wakes up, he's like, I'm getting ready, I'm gonna head out. He's packing up his stuff to get ready for work. Yeah. Um all of a sudden he just goes like hey, what's that over there? You know how like like look that way to like something and like run out over quick? Yep. He had like brought his weapon into my bedroom, which to me is a really crazy thing to do. And he said, Hey, what's that over there? Yeah, he's to like distract me while he like grabbed his weapon to like get it out of my bedroom. And he got it when? When did he like it? I guess when he like went to go get water, he like what and also grabbed his his weapon out of the other bedroom, yeah. And like brought it into the bedroom to sleep with. And I'm like, what if my dog had seen that? Like, what if my dog had like stepped on it and it was it on the ground? Yes, Carly. Like that's wild. The craziest thing. Huh. And then did you like not turn and you're like, no, I see. No, I really I really was like, is there a bug on my wall? I used him a dumbass and looked and was like, but what is it? Like, and then you see him trying to hide. No. I was like, wait, what is it? And he was like, nothing. He came back and I was like, wait, what was it? What did you just do? He eventually told you. Yeah. And then of course I like went back and looked at my camera. I was like, he's the I was like, there's no way you actually brought it up. Yeah, like that wasn't. There's no way you brought a weapon into my bedroom without me knowing. Did you see when he brought it in? Like, yeah, watched everything. I went back and looked at my camera. I was like, this he really brought He really just walked in with it. Oh my god. Uh huh. I felt so unsafe. I'm kidding. I felt I was I didn't even know. No, I I understand why he did it. Like I understand, I understand the reasoning. Yeah. I just Was there a lot of activity? We're just not sure. The noise we heard, just to be clear. Yeah. Like, so you know I have my TV going. It was a commercial. Oh. It was like my fire like I have my YouTube TV going, like the the YouTube going and like the fireplace noise in the background. It was that. It like switched into a commercial. Oh my gosh. And that was the voices we had heard. Stop. And so like. It was nothing. It was literally nothing. But anyways, so you think it's all it's never ever the woman's job to go first? I don't I mean. Sure. Like pending what the dynamic is. What's the dynamic where? Sure. Allegedly, according to the man. That man is so according to the man, we'll call him Timothy. I don't know what the fuck. Whatever. According to Timothy. He does not know how to have a conversation on a first date. It's crazy to say to a person. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Wow. To be fair, he hadn't been on the first date in eight years, so. That's true. But is that something he would have said eight years ago? And if so, how did he ever get into a relationship? It worked out for him. I mean, they broke up. Why did they break up, did he say? Um, he just said that they like it just like wasn't working out. Huh. Okay. No, I don't feel like that. After eight years. It's never enough detail. I would agree with that. I'm sure. I was really trying not to cry. Uh-huh. I was really trying not to be nosy. Because in my head, again, we're just being friends right now. Yep. But I need to know. Like the job. Were y'all married? I just have some questions. Like, tell me more. Because were you were you not married? Like, were you together eight years and never got married? Because that's also something I need to know. That would also be something of note. Here's another question. Yeah. What's a situation? You and Jason are together four years. Okay. Five years. Um To me it doesn't really matter. Hypothetically, any number of years in an unmarried, unwed situation. And you want to get married, you're like, you love him, he loves you. Yeah. Is there ever a situation where you're getting down on one knee and proposing to that man? Huh? I'm not sure. Really? Yeah. Like there's a chance. Well. Like, why isn't it happening?
SPEAKER_01:You know, like what has the barrier been? Why isn't he doing it? I'd be wondering.
SPEAKER_00:I can't think of a single situation where like I would sit in love for that long. Yeah. And we've been wanting to move in that direction. Huh. Like I get, I get equality. Like I get Women should be able to do all the things that men do without judgment and fear of, yeah. I don't get on my knees. No. I'm not begging you. Of course not. I would rather literally lick my dog's asshole. Like there's just there's actually no way in the way in hell. There's no way in hell. I get on I get on bend and knee for the Lord and the Lord only. Yes. Honestly, like it's just like not happening. It's crazy. It's just like. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:No.
SPEAKER_00:I feel like I agree with you on this one, actually. Like. Yeah. It's just not happening. I get it. Like I totally. And like, no shade to anyone who any woman on here who was watching this who was proposed to their man.
SPEAKER_01:But you and me, our personality needs a guy to like validate his feelings for us and like 100.
SPEAKER_00:Give us that 100. And I'm not also I'm not waiting 10 years. I'm not waiting eight years. No. I'm not waiting five. I'm not waiting. I'm not waiting. If you know, you know. Sorry. I'm not waiting. Look at Jason and I. Literally, yes. Yep. I don't understand what the what are we waiting for? That it's not love. If you're waiting, it's not love. You hate me, actually. You're just like wasting my fucking time. Yep. You're waiting for the next best thing. I'm literally so toxic. It's not the most toxic thing you've ever. Anyways. I love not toxic. Truthful. Truthful for sure. A total space for both things. Both things can be true. Both things can be true. I just feel like I cannot. I just can't. I can't imagine if you told me like Carly say that. Take me out back and shoot. I've lost my fucking mind.
SPEAKER_01:She's gotta go to the farm, you know. Yeah. I've lost it.
SPEAKER_00:Yep. If you ever see me going looking for engagement rings for a man. Yep. Seriously, Carly, I'm so serious. Like, just like take me out back. I've lost my I really say this isn't the man for you. No. Like, we gotta end this. Yeah. And if you won't do it, I will lock you in a cage in the basement. Kill him or something. I don't know what to say. Like, yeah. Just on a laugh. Yeah. Oh my god. Seriously. No offense.
SPEAKER_01:No, but truly, like, there are people that maybe are strong enough to do that and like have it be significant and meaningful and like a great moment for them.
SPEAKER_00:I wouldn't be included in one of those people. I don't think you would be like. I don't know a lot of women who would be. No. I know a lot of strong women. I know I don't think it has anything to do with strength, actually. I don't think that's what it is. I don't know what it is, though. Like, I don't know. I don't know. It it maybe it's just about wanting to be desired. I don't know. Is it desirability? Wanting to be desired, like chased after, like I don't know. Yeah. Yeah. Maybe. I'm just not doing it. I'm sorry. I'm not doing it. Anyways. My gosh. That's making me think though. Like, who are the people that would like you can think, can you think of anyone in your life that would consider it? I feel like if I thought hard enough, there's probably someone really who would propose to a man because their man's not proposing to them. Nah. Because it's not about like it this is not like you've had the conversation, you know, like this is like this is this is you're not making it happen. So I'm not sure. So I'm gonna do it, yeah. Yep.
SPEAKER_01:I'm gonna grab the bull by the horns and get after it. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:I don't know.
SPEAKER_01:Is this you? Are you listening?
SPEAKER_00:You're like wanting to propose to your man and now we're making you think twice. Uh please think twice about it. Yeah. I'm sorry that we're making you question it, but like you should. Yeah. Question it. Is this really the is this the man for you? Why isn't he giving you the validation that you so desperately need? Because not even validation, not that, but like confidence, like boosting you. Like he doesn't want to be with you. He doesn't want to be with you. He doesn't want to marry you if he's not getting down on one knee. I'll just say that I'm sorry. Yep. That sounds really mean.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, it's truthful. If he's not getting down on one knee saying marry me, he doesn't want to marry you. Like, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:That sounds awful, but it is what it is. Yeah. I'm so sorry. Like, anyways, um those are my questions. I'm good with that.
SPEAKER_01:I love that. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:I didn't bring any questions for you. I just brought vibes. I'm good with your vibes. I just brought vibes. And good vibes at that. Thank you so much. Um, truth or drink. You pulled some cards for us. Yes, I haven't read through them. I'm hoping they're not repeats. They're out of that after dark, or what are they? After dark? Last call. Last call. That's what it's called. Thank you. Just a quick round or two. Just a quick round. My body's mad at me for drinking at all tonight. Why? I don't drink like that. Shots and wine and if anyone was ever curious why Carly doesn't want to like wouldn't be maybe a good participant on my all-inclusive honeymoon. I also, though, barely slept last night. Like, let's also credit. I barely ate today. And I barely slept last night.
SPEAKER_01:You know what?
SPEAKER_00:I'm just saying, and it's fine. You know what? It's fine. That's not a bad thing. I'm just saying.
SPEAKER_01:I would get a lot of sleep if I'm gonna drink a lot though. That would be my plan. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Um is it giving two options? It is. Yeah. I think I've redone one. Do I often seem like I'm seem I'm like I'm being fake? Do I often seem like I'm being fake? Yeah. No. Oh, really? Yeah. I'm not sweet.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, I always make you think you I always think you're making fun of me over stupid things. Oh, but not.
SPEAKER_00:I'm not, but there's not that. That's a good one. Thank you. Simon has joined us. I love this. He's been here. Loving. Loving this. Sounds like skunk. Do you smell it? No. Okay. It's very strong. What's the most egregious lie you've ever told me? Oh, you. Oh, I don't know. Um, I'll drink. I really don't think I have one. No? What's the most egregious lie you've ever told me? Well, you kept a boyfriend from me. You got me there. Mm-hmm. Not a boyfriend, also, let's not call him that. Someone you were seeing for four months. Not a boyfriend, though. Someone you said you thought you were starting to fall in love with. Not a boyfriend though. You know how often I say that, by the way? I know. It's like if you don't label it, you're like, well, it's not a boyfriend. That's exactly it. Yeah. Thank you so much.
unknown:Fuck you.
SPEAKER_00:What negative thing have I said about you that's haunted you forever? I don't think I've ever said anything like that. Good luck. Good luck coming up with a one for you.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I don't know that I have one actually. That's fair. Yeah. One time you like questioned me about something. I can't remember what it was. And I was like, that's a good friend questioning my judgment, making me feel uncomfortable, but I gotta think about this one.
unknown:Oh.
SPEAKER_01:And I was really proud of you. It was like earlier on in our friendship, and I was like, I appreciate that. Like you made me look at something from like a different angle, and I was like, Oh. Yeah. But that was it.
SPEAKER_00:That's the only thing I remember that I was like, oh, we're bringing the hard stuff. Okay, I'll I'll take that. That's an answer. Yeah, there's an answer. Simon looks like an angel right now. He is an angel. Truly. Like. Um, what's the weirdest thing about me? The weirdest thing about you? Yeah. So interesting to hear your answer. The weirdest thing. You know what's so funny? I think you would have a different answer than almost like anyone else. Really? Yeah. Why? Um, the way you know me is different than the way anyone else knows me. Aw, really? I don't know if that's a good thing. Why is that not a good thing? I mean, like, it's a good thing, it's just like not a good thing for me. The weirdest thing about you. But I also don't think that you would consider it.
SPEAKER_01:I was gonna say most of the stuff you consider weird about you, I'm like, that's pretty normal. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:I don't know that I have anything that stands out. Oh, that's fine. The weirdest thing. I mean, maybe it's like the items you keep in your car for years on end without them ever finding a home.
SPEAKER_00:That's valid. I was gonna ask what, but I don't want you to name the thing I'm thinking. I feel like you'd you would name. Yeah, because it's still in your car. What does it start with? Is it what I'm thinking of? Uh, hold on. What do you call it? What's the official name of it? It's it uh uh is it appropriate? Like nope. Yeah, okay. Nope. It is still indeed in my car as we speak. So moving on. Of course. Okay, moving on. Moving on. And to be fair, that does come out of my car. When? Um, when I go home. When like children can't be around. I don't know. Oh, have you ever ghosted someone you were close with? What do you mean close with? Yeah, let's define close. Yeah, like talking too consistently and then you just disappear. Yeah, I have. Same. Not not recently though. No, I'm proud of you. Now we're like all about ending things like nicely as adults, you know what I mean? Sending surveys. So proud of you. Thank you. Thank you so much. Um do you think I'm more or less honest than you? That's easy. I'm less honest than you are. You think so? 100%. Yeah, I would say so too. A thousand percent. Yeah. I'm sparing people's feelings.
SPEAKER_02:Sparing.
SPEAKER_00:This round's on me. Oh, drink up. Do you even remotely care what I think of you? Everybody else answers. Yeah, I do care what you think of me. Oh my god.
SPEAKER_02:Of course.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, anyone that says they don't care what people think about them at all, like anybody. You're a liar. Yeah. There's like there are people I don't care what you think. Right, but like the people around me. Yeah, you're not. A person who says no one, I care about nobody's opinion. That's a lie. Yeah. Sorry. Then you're just like a monster. Yeah like you're someone who doesn't have boundaries and like yeah. Or too many boundaries, maybe. Maybe. Lower some boundaries. I don't know what to tell you. Um, what's the wor Oh, is this the best I've looked since you've known me? Ooh, uh like not right, not this moment in the right. Is this the best I've looked? Sure. Sure. Whatever. Yeah. I don't feel like that's like not right now. Yeah, I mean right now, but you're gorgeous. You were gorgeous then, you're gorgeous now. Sure. Yeah. Sure. Thank you so much. You're so welcome. Cheers to that. Cheers to that. Cranking through these cards, by the way, guys. There's like one more. That's so funny. Ooh. Ooh, what's something you know would make you a better person, but you just don't want to do it. Oh, uh, going to the gym. Working out, eating better. I love that. I took it as make you a better person, like emotionally, like internally. Probably like doing the work that my therapist asks me to do. Yeah. Would probably make me a better person. Following the plan. You know what I mean? Like, like not overthinking everything like she asked me to do. You know what I mean? Like, yeah, like actually not in a space where I've learned to do that at the moment. So we're just gonna get through the holidays first, you know. Listen. Yeah. Listen. I'm doing what I can. Yep. With the tools that I have in the moment that we're in. You know, so just trying to make it to 2026. This girl's doing good. She's gonna get we're gonna squeak in. Yep. Squeak in. Barely making it. Um what am I most ignorant? This is the last question, by the way. What am I most ignorant about? I would never say that you're ignorant about something. I'm ignorant about so many things.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, we all have stuff to learn, sure. But like, like we've talked about this before. Like, you can use that word, but it just has such a negative, like, yeah, there's a lot that we all could learn about.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. But I wouldn't say there's anything that I'm like, yeah, that's the thing Carla's ignorant about. Like girls just ignoring learning about Oh, that's fair. I'm always open to learning about things. Yeah, that's a good point. Yeah. What about you? Are you ignorant about anything? So many things. Totally. Yeah. Totally. Anything you'd like to learn more about right now? No. I'm in a season of I don't want to learn more.
unknown:I felt that.
SPEAKER_00:I really felt that atmosphere. My brain is full. I'm tired. I'm exhausted. I'm so tired of learning new things. And you know, that actually makes me think this is such a tangent. It's okay. Such a tangent. That's what a horoscope said. So that's exactly what a horoscope said. That we're on tangent. It's gonna be a tangent episode. Oh my gosh. I love that.
SPEAKER_01:So um I saw this thing the other day. I was scrolling somewhere, right? Yeah. That said, um, if you're having a hard time like keeping up, you're not responding to text, you're not leaving the house. Like, this is not normal. And like, you need basically like a let us help you. I don't know if it was therapy, if it was meds, if it was whatever. Sure. But I just was like, okay, first of all, we're all overwhelmed now. Yeah. We're not leaving the house because there's a whole world out there and we're barely keeping up with the world in here. And I'm not responding back because I can't keep up. Like, I just can't, emotionally, brain power-wise, whatever. Um, and so I saw that, and old me would have been like, yeah, that's so true.
SPEAKER_00:And now I'm like, no, like what they are telling us that we need to be better at keeping up and doing all the things. I'm like, no, we need to say no more. Interesting. That's how you took that message. Mm-hmm. What okay? Yeah. Okay. Do you think that like I wish we had I wish we knew like where that was from, like where you where you saw that message? I know. It was something that just like popped up. Like, was it like a talk space? Like an ad, a talk thing, a TED talk, maybe. I don't know. Damn. Yeah. Damn, damn, damn, damn. I didn't screenshot it. I just remembered in that moment going, huh? No. No. I don't prescribe to that. Yeah. When when do you feel like you made that change? Like, when do you feel like now that I truly can't keep up? When did that start? When did that start?
SPEAKER_01:Um becoming an adult, motherhood, life in 2025, like this year, like so many things. It's a mother too. Correct. But I think it gets worse and worse. Like it's a very now realization, but it's like a thing that's been building. Okay. Yeah. And I don't think anybody can keep up, truly. Like, how many of us are saying, I missed that bill, I forgot about this? I like that's not normal if we're gonna talk about something not normal. But like, we're doing too much to do all those things that like don't contribute to our lives. Like, we're spending a lot of time figuring out our weeks and planning for our holidays and not like living today.
SPEAKER_00:Do you feel like our parents weren't doing the same thing? Like, do you feel like is it just the age we're at, or is it like it's what society like do you feel like our parents were as busy as we are? Uh yes and no.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I think there's a tipping point around probably our parents' age of like where divorce starts becoming bigger and things like that.
SPEAKER_00:So, like I think that affects stuff, it affects people's livelihood and well-being and expectations, and then those contribute to how we feel about future generations, which makes things worse. But I don't know, like it's all tied together. I'm not gonna discredit that, but I think it's like very much current state of things.
SPEAKER_01:Like, we had a home phone when we were kids. How many people were texting us and expecting responses?
SPEAKER_00:We have we have immediate, we have immediate contact with people and we didn't have the and we expect immediate response.
SPEAKER_01:Like, if we let a text that we feel like an awful human being and apologize for it, yeah, like my favorite thing about Elena was one day she's like, I know you'll respond. Might be today, it could be tomorrow, it could be like weeks from now.
SPEAKER_00:But like, you'll get there. Yeah, yeah. That is nice. I will thank you for understanding. I really appreciate that. Yeah, yeah, that is really nice. But it just it hit me that like we're shoving it in people's faces that it's not normal to not be able to keep up. Who def who decided who decided that though? Like, it obviously is normal if we're all feeling the same thing, right? Like, but there's people like commenting on this stuff and being like, I can't do it, I need help.
SPEAKER_01:No, you need to start saying no and you need to like be okay with not responding.
SPEAKER_00:And that's so funny. Do you feel like you are okay? Like, do you feel like you're I'm getting better about it, yeah. Good. Like I've I let so many I mean Kelsey, sorry, I still owe you a text. Well, it's gonna be a group text. It'll be a group text. She says I can't talk to you anymore without her on it. Yep. You think that it's unreasonable? Like, like you can't be friends without me.
SPEAKER_01:I think that yeah, I think it's unreasonable.
SPEAKER_00:You do like why though? I'm a homo. I get that.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, um, that's valid. And it's like I I can do it in the group text. There's no reason I can't. We can start a group text, Kelsey. I adore you, but we'll only be texting in a group setting.
SPEAKER_00:But tell me tell me why you think it's unreasonable. Like that's not unreasonable. But I just curious, like, why is it crazy that not crazy, I don't like that word, but why do you think that like it's what's the word? Not strange. Like, why is it I unreasonable? That's the why is it unreasonable that I would want to be included in your conversation? Because I think um like it would be unreasonable for me to want to be included in every conversation you have with people that I like, right? But it's not just people that you like. This is my friend too. People I like know or like But that's not what the that's not what the situation is. Yeah. Like if I if I So like if you were gonna text someone that I'm friends with and ask them a question I'm just friends with, though. Like that's not what I'm that's not what we're talking about, though. We're not? No, it's not just somebody I'm friends with. This is my other like very best friend, you know what I mean? Like, why can't I be like I also want to be included in the conversation? I don't feel like that's I don't I don't know. I don't like because what what do you like? Why there's no reason I mean I can include you in it. There's no reason not to. I just think because there's no reason not to, I'm like, why do you want me blowing up you? Like it'll be on mute, trust that. But like I just still want to be like because I want to be talking about, I want to interject. Because I want to have like a an opinion on something that we're yeah, yeah, yeah, just in case, especially because a lot of it is probably school system based. I have a question for you later on on the on the camera, but yeah, yeah, or like even like when you talk about strange th like maybe maybe if you talk about stranger things, that may be something like maybe yeah that pushes me to want to watch it because you made it sound so interesting. I'm just saying, like, you never know. You just never know. I will include you when I respond back to it. I appreciate that. Yeah, thank you so much. Yeah, you're very welcome. Okay, I feel like that's being a little bit more. Do you want to read the rest of the thing? Oh, that's right. We did that. Okay, so we did through the drink. Yep. Okay, we did it.
SPEAKER_01:Now we got the backside of our card. Of our great cards, our amazing cards.
SPEAKER_00:Okay. Find your passion and pursue it with whole heart and single mind. Find your passion and pursue it with whole heart and single mind. What's your passion? Do you feel like you have your you know what your passion is? Who is just one passion, by the way? I know. I have a thousand. What's your uh is your passion just like life? Can I say that? Yeah. My passion is life, so like learning new things, pursuing life, pursuing life, conquering whatever comes my way. Conquering, that's a good word. That's a good word for like 2026. I don't feel like that's like that's a very large word.
SPEAKER_01:It's a very large word. Has some negative connotation, but like it doesn't have to. Conquering, that's like I feel like it's a very war term, war-driven. Oh, okay. Conquer. Take over. Yeah. Interesting.
SPEAKER_00:But it doesn't need to be. It can be a very like positive. Okay. Yeah. Okay. I never once you're right, it is a negative. There I can see why it it is like a war, like giving warfare. It's giving warfare. It's because I've been reading all these war facts. Yeah. It's fucking the 40s, we're killing us, yeah. They were a dread out now. We're back in the room. Yeah, but now we're in the 50s. We're in the turn of the century now. There's some dicey stuff in there too, but oh, there's definitely some dicey things coming. I'm a little nervous about what that's gonna do first. Uh-huh. You know.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:The racism era. Um, uh era is crazy because we're still in it. But yeah, there are some facts we'll bring forward. There will be a lot of facts we'll bring forward. Some might still be relevant. Yeah. Most. Well, I shouldn't say many. Many, many. Um, find your passion and pursue it with your whole heart and single-mind. Also think what who is a single-minded these days?
SPEAKER_01:Like, that's like not we we can't have single minds.
SPEAKER_00:We're responding to 18,000 texts and jobs and going here and going there and kids, and yeah. Is there anything you feel like you are single-minded about? Ooh. I think no. Really? Not one thing. You don't think you're like a single-minded, single-minded about parenting? No. Really?
SPEAKER_01:I was thinking about like my values and who I am. Oh, no, because like I believe in fluidity, and like if someone says, I'm not sure that you're holding that value in the right regard, like, I'm open to hearing that too.
SPEAKER_00:Um, like what give me an example of what like a value, a value you would be willing to like navigate through. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Like, if if I look at certain situations or scenarios in a way that could diminish my thoughts on a person, right? Or like whatever it is, and someone were to question that push against me. Like, I don't want to be so single-minded and so like narrow-minded that I can't see like the additional perspective that would help me look at something differently.
SPEAKER_00:Are you thinking of a specific situation?
SPEAKER_01:Not necessarily. There could be many that could be fought for here.
SPEAKER_00:Right. Yeah. Sure, sure, sure. Yeah, but like quite a few. Okay. Yeah. Okay. I don't know. I don't know about that one. I don't I don't know that I I don't sorry. When you say value, are values and beliefs the same thing to you? Not necessarily. Okay. Is there a belief that you feel like that that of yours that you feel like is fluid? Ooh.
SPEAKER_01:Well, I think like a belief system that I hold space to be fluid is religion. Like, not not seeing like like when you're looking at the belief systems and the values within certain religious practices and things like that. If you're like, So you're trying to be open to additional. I see.
SPEAKER_00:So like not religion as a whole, like correct. But just like the individual correct religion. Okay, that's fair. The segments of religion and like what you look at and value within those. Okay. That's fair.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. Yeah. Okay. But like I don't think there's anything that I'm so single-minded on that I'm like, no, I have blinders. I'm not looking around for Yeah. I maybe there are though, and I'm just like thinking I'm like, I'm not gonna stop fighting for rights for people and certain rights and things like that, but I still am.
SPEAKER_00:I don't know. I think there are I think there are like there are beliefs that I hold that I'd I'd know that I I won't ever change. Like obviously, like injustice there that I won't like ever go back on. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Like we've built those blocks to get here. But like where we go, I'm very open.
SPEAKER_00:But I I also feel like sometimes that's not true too. Oh, what do you mean? Like there are people in positions of power that I don't agree with anything that they do, right? And so I'm not gonna be open-minded about their policies and perspectives and oh okay. That's fair, that's valid. That's very fair. Do you but you but you could you believe that people can change the the way they think, right? Yeah. So you can be open-minded about that open-minded that people can change the way they think and the way they they the things that they believe. Yeah. Right? So like in that sense, I guess. Yeah, in that sense, it's all kind of flexible and ever changing. That's like, yeah, that's certainly not that's that's really like a reach, I think, in that aspect. But like, yeah. I don't know. Interesting. I don't know. I know it's an interesting, like, deep dive into how the brain and like people work. Ugh.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:You ever get like so sick of people? Yeah. I get so exhausted. Do you have intrusive thoughts?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Do you? I do, yeah. Um yes, do you want to tell me about one of them? I had one when I was in Lansing or in Detroit with Steve. Yeah. And I shared it with him. And like he was so like put off by it. He was like Really? Yeah. He was so like, I don't know. I've and I felt like dismissive or something. No, not dismissive. He was so taken aback by it. He was really he thought it was the craziest thing. Like, how could you think that? How could yes? And I was like, it I wouldn't actually do it. Like that's not at all what I was saying. It just is like But like they're there. They just like play in my head. It's just like a would you ever just have you ever thought about you know what I mean? Like you know how many um new parents, especially, want to just like drive over a bridge or crash into a tree. That's exactly the type of thing I was thinking. Like, yep. And not and it's not in this like grandiose like whatever. It's just yeah, that's a thing people do. That's there are options. That sounds awful. It sounds awful. Yeah. Of course. Yep. And I don't and I actually shouldn't, I don't even know if I don't know. It's it's how but I think we need to hold space for the fact that that happens for people. It but I thought it happened for everybody. Is it not something that everybody expected?
SPEAKER_01:I think it happens for a good amount of people. I would say probably a majority of people. Like I think with men it's less. Intrusive thoughts, really? I I feel like statistically speaking, I feel like I read something about this once that a lot of women didn't realize that.
SPEAKER_00:Like I really thought it was just like everybody. I yes, yes. Yes, I really thought that. I guess I'm I don't think I've ever shared with somebody about an intrusive thought. And like obviously never fucking will again. I'm so embarrassed about it. Like it was just like, okay. I mean, Jason and I like openly share intrusive thoughts. Yeah, that's fair. I don't know why I shouldn't have like he's not my husband. No, but I mean I've shared with other people before him too, and I don't think I've ever gotten a like Yeah, I I me neither. I wasn't expecting the reaction that I got, and so I was like, I was like, oh, maybe I I'll just never share anything with you again. I just kidding. Yeah. Uh yeah. I don't know. Anyways, yeah. I think we need to do like a mental health episode at some point, like bring out an expert or something.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, yeah, yeah, and just go through like some we have talked this year about so many different things that are happening. Yeah. Personally in the world, in the United States, with our friends, like there's a lot, there's a lot of science behind it. There's a lot of like ways to get around some of it.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. But it's hard. It's hard. It's so hard. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:That's why I'm excited to be celebrating episode 50 of the podcast. Yeah. It's something that we're like pushing forward with and doing, and it gets me excited for next year, for sure. Yeah. Excited for like episode 100, episode 150. You know what I mean? Like. It's like fun things to come for us. Even if like no again, even if nobody ever watches another episode. This is just us getting to have fun and saying, I love that. And like it's just like a bonus that people watch it, you know what I mean? Yes.
unknown:Yes.
SPEAKER_00:It's just a bonus.
SPEAKER_01:And speaking of people watching it, apparently you were saying earlier last week that there were some folks that felt like we might have been referencing people they knew in their lives. And I just think it's so special that we have enough listeners, yeah, that like our shit resonates with them.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:And that they're like, I can guarantee, like, no one that's listening is anybody we have been referencing or talking about, at least in reflection to last week for portion of it. Yeah. Um, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. But just I felt really humbled when like you said, oh, people are feeling like we're talking about them specifically. Them that specifically, yeah. Yeah. Like thank you. Just in general. People just go to show like people in general. There's like kind of shitty people. I'm just kidding. That's not what I meant. That there's so many that like. So many, like yeah. Hysterical. Hysterical. Alright. I gotta call it. I am so I should have been in bed like hours ago. This is truly an after dark episode. Actually, not even midnight. It's so it is so close to midnight. It's really not 1123. So crazy to think about, isn't it?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, it is kind of crazy.
SPEAKER_00:But it's just so crazy because like we're gonna go upstairs and like do more shots.
SPEAKER_01:I think I have the flu or something. Okay. I really must, right?
SPEAKER_00:Like my eyes are heavy. Uh-huh. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. I can't hold my booze. I've had too many shots. That's what it is. That could be.
unknown:Sure.
SPEAKER_00:I'm kidding. Okay. Um, thank you so much. We're tuning into episode 50, the big five-o of Make It to Wednesday, a hump day podcast. We are your hosts. I'm Carly. And I'm Carla. If you like what we're doing, every free to like and subscribe. Give us a big old thumbs up. Follow us on all of our social media. We have TikTok, we have Instagram, we have Twitter, we have Facebook. Um I have Tinder. Swipe right. Um subscribe to our YouTube channel. Um follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify Podcasts, anywhere you enjoy podcasts, actually. Leave us a five-star review. Please do. Yeah. And you know what you should do? I don't feel like we said this in a long time. Share our shit. SOS. SOS. We have not said that in such a long time, actually. I totally forgot about that. Yeah. Share our motherfucking shit. We'd love that. Thank you so much. Um we'll be back next week for episode 51. We're in our 50s. We're in our I hate to say that out loud. For the podcast. For the podcast. For the podcast. And of course, age-wise, I'm in my like teens. Yes. So young. So young. We'll be back next week for episode 51 of Make It to Wednesday. See you then. Bye.