Untangling from Codependency

Key Takeaways

Your emotions are yours to own.

·       Codependency often ties your emotional state to others, making their chaos your own. Healing starts by recognizing that your peace and stability don’t have to depend on external circumstances or people.

Becoming self-aware is only the first step.

·       Untangling yourself from codependence begins with self-awareness. Identify the beliefs and behaviors, like hypervigilance or the need to fix others, that may be holding you back. This is the foundation of reclaiming your independence.

You can’t fix everyone (and that’s okay).

·       Helping others is noble but doing it to find your own peace will only leave you drained. Learning to support others without trying to “fix” them is key to healthy relationships and self-respect.

Find peace within yourself first.

·       True peace isn’t something you get from fixing the world around you. It comes from within. Building internal peace allows you to navigate life with stability, even when the world feels chaotic.

Release the fear of abandonment.

·       Codependent tendencies often stem from a fear of being abandoned. Confront this fear and trust that you can stand strong on your own, without needing to make yourself indispensable to others.

Boundaries are a form of self-love.

·       Setting boundaries with yourself and others doesn’t mean you’re selfish. It simply means you care enough to preserve your well-being. Boundaries create space for healthier, more authentic relationships.

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. 

·       Growth often requires stepping into discomfort. Whether it’s being alone, saying no, or letting others handle their own struggles, learning to navigate these moments will strengthen your independence.

Build your confidence through taking action.

·       Start small: take yourself out alone, make decisions without asking for advice, or say no to something you don’t want to do. These steps help rebuild trust in yourself and affirm your ability to create the life you desire.

Let these takeaways guide you as you work through untangling from codependency. Remember, this is a journey, not a race, and every small step toward freedom is worth celebrating.

Disclaimer

***I am not a licensed mental health therapist or clinical counselor and everything I am sharing is knowledge through personal experience and or trial and error in my own healing journey. I am not diagnosing or prescribing anything to anyone through my words or stories that I am sharing in this podcast. All this information is meant to help draw awareness of these topics and shine light on the darkness in our lives. Do not try anything you do not feel comfortable with or that might cause you any form of physical, spiritual, or emotional pain without consulting a medical health professional. I am not responsible for anything that may come up during your personal inner healing journey and urge you to find a licensed mental health professional to help you dive into deeper pain or trauma. I am not responsible for your personal healing and encourage you to use this podcast simply as a resource and a place to start off your healing journey. ***

Resources

If you are looking for more resources to help you on your healing journey, please check out the Pursuit of Freedom companion workbooks that can be found here https://stan.store/PursuitofFreedom