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Embracing Friendship: The Gift of Relational Wealth

• Yelena Mogilev • Season 1 • Episode 4

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In this heartfelt episode, I invite you to join me, along with my purring Persian cat, for a deeply reflective and tender conversation about the richness of friendship and the beauty of living authentically. Anchored by a card from the Wisdom of Hafiz deck, we explore the profound concept of relational wealth—the abundance found in meaningful connections with friends, loved ones, and even ourselves.

Together, we delve into:

  • The transformative power of presence and gratitude in relationships.
  • How embracing life's fleeting nature can deepen our appreciation for joy, love, and connection.
  • The importance of authenticity, even in the face of others' judgments or projections.
  • Practical insights for nurturing friendships and creating a life aligned with your true essence.

Through personal anecdotes, reflections on love and loss, and playful musings, I share how embodying love, joy, and curiosity can reshape how we engage with the world. Whether you’re rekindling an old friendship, navigating grief, or discovering what truly brings you pleasure, this episode offers permission to embrace your unique path and celebrate the magic of connection.

✨ Featured Wisdom: A life-changing weekly practice from Jen Nash, author of The Big Power of Tiny Connections: How Small Interactions Spark Awesome Outcomes, to deepen relationships and cultivate relational wealth. Plus, an invitation to become a “pleasure researcher” in your own life, inspired by the profound teachings of Regena Thomashauer (Mama Gena), founder of The School of Womanly Arts.

Thank you for being here, for listening, and for sharing this journey. As always, stay delicious, because you already are. 💖

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Speaker 1:

hello, hello, dear ones, welcome, welcome. It is so good to see you here and to be with you. Also, for today's episode we have a special visitor, my persian cat. I say persian because he looks like, if he has a flat face, like something is always not to his liking, whereas, quite to the contrary, he's really kind and loving and social. But he wanted to join us for this conversation. Potentially he might know his mama has a thing to say and might want support. But also he just curled up purring on my lap and it is the greatest honor. But I'm just letting you know, giving you an inside look into my life and this moment, so that you can, in essence, sit next to me or be in the room with me or have me in the room with you, and this is very allergy friendly. Okay, so I have something I want to share today that's on my heart and that's beautiful, and my voice is also very low and very deep today. So you're welcome To start this off on a light note.

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I've been public speaking for a really long time, for, you know, a decade plus, and my grandmother, when she was still with us, she, you know, we're from Ukraine, we're immigrants, we came over here. You know I've been in New York for well. You don't know, I've been in New York for over 33 years, coming over from Ukraine, and whenever I, you know would work and do these public speaking engagements or be talking a lot or working, my voice would naturally settle and she would be so tickled and would tease me to say I mean, this is the time in New York for those of you that remember, aunt Cleo was on the TV so often, the psychic hotline, and it was only $3.99 a minute. And so my grandmother would tease me and say oh honey, this is perfect, just a new side. Oh honey, this is perfect, just a new side. You know, way for you to make some extra money. That's your $3.99 a minute voice, and so I'm putting it out there. If any of you go to my website, communicationismagiccom, and go to the podcast tab, you can submit any questions or topics that you would like me to talk about here. But additionally, if there's any particular talk track that you would like to request for something you want to be reminded of in this voice, please do it ASAP so that either now, while it's super settled and quite deep, I can record it for you and post it and or share it at some point in the future. So I'm inviting you to be, you know, express your desires. It is a safe, beautiful place to do that and I am excited to offer you this opportunity and it'll be fun. So I'm really looking forward to creating that for you, my sweet whispers of nothing and deliciousness into your ears and your subconscious.

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Okay, on that note as I do, I pulled a card, uh, to anchor us for this conversation and to invite you into a construct, a possibility to play with, to enjoy, to savor, to explore. So I pulled from my wisdom of hafaz deck. Again, it's an Oracle deck with renderings by Daniel Ladinsky, art by Silas Tobal, oracle by Angie Sullins. It's lovely and truly, the imagery is lush and exquisite and each card features an actual quote from Hafez himself and then the musings, the interpretation for us to connect with and explore and relate to our own lives and experience. And so the card I pulled is number 27, which is actually my birthday, is July 27th. I thought that was quite lovely and I will explain how.

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That is a segue into this conversation and it is embrace friendship. The visual to bring you into my world is, if you can imagine, these beautiful warm, copper, dusty, rose, desert tones and a cloud cover. So these gold clouds, among a warm terracotta mist, and hovered above the clouds is a crescent moon, a gold crescent moon where two beings, two friends, are connecting and talking and there are stars everywhere up above, in true cartoon form, but beautiful and it is exquisite. So to read you the invitation. Hafez once said Most are just one wing the other. A friend needed to fly. Oh, how exquisite.

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And what they call us into with this invitation of embracing friendship is Call upon your friends, bring them close. This is not a time to stand solitary and go about your business alone. Laugh and cry with your friends, dream with them, trust them with the details of your life. Then, little love, notes of gratitude and appreciation, and remember that friendship comes in all forms and in all dimensions. Old books, favorite songs, a snuggly blanket, the moon in your window, your four-footed companion, all have the power to befriend, embrace and celebrate them all. Yum, what a wonderful invitation. And today, actually, as my cat Nisu sits in my lap, my dear friend, soul, fellow, with the full moon in Cancer, today, the wolf moon moon officially full at 5.27pm. I think it's Eastern Standard Time. Change it for your time zone Quite perfectly is this invitation Come up.

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So, wherever you are, I invite you to embrace friendship and pull it towards you in whatever way feels nourishing my dear friend Jen Nash, who has written about the power of connections tiny connections I'll share about her in the podcast description, but I want to bring in this beautiful wisdom from her that she has stated has changed her life. So I know, as our lives get busy and full and our responsibilities overflow, it can be harder to maintain connection with people that we love and adore and our network. And yet relational wealth, as I've talked about previously, is true, true abundance and wealth. And so she shared a practice recently that I love that she's brought into her life. I don't remember if exactly if it was one today. I have a feeling it was maybe once a week, but that's the lens I'm going to invite you to Once a week, just call somebody you haven't talked to in a while, just say hello and check in and extend a bit of grace and love and curiosity.

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And I know this is a practice I have brought into my life. Whenever I scroll through my phone and I get an intuitive hit to hit the button and reach out for someone. I've trained myself to never second guess that and obviously I do this when I have capacity, or or I'm on a walk or what have you. I don't force it and I don't mistrust it or rationalize it away. And what I have found is that the response that I get is oh my God, how did you know I needed you? Or this is such perfect timing, or I'm so excited to hear your voice. I was just thinking about you Insert many different options here, and overall I found that it's always a hugs for the ethers and finds people at just the right time, and I've had people do that to me in tandem in response, and it's always been exquisite. So wherever that finds you, I invite you to take it on in the way that aligns with your life and your day and your flow, and I promise you that, if you let it, it may surprise you in the most wonderful, like life-altering, delicious ways. So my gift from you and from Jen Nash, who's wonderful, is a dear friend and a profound thinker and creative, and so I'm excited to share about her world and her work with you as well. Ah and so, on that note, the topic I want to dive into today as I, which is my favorite thing.

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So I gathered at a friend's yesterday for old new year and he's someone who gathers just wonderful people in such a passion of his and we really relate. And so my beloved and I went and I had no idea what was waiting for me on the other side of the door and I found myself stopped in my tracks. Stopped in my tracks because I was after many years of not seeing this dear, dear friend. I was faced with a friend that I love and that has known me in some of the most tender, expansive, transformational time period of my life, and he and I were dear friends. I'm going, I'm gonna speak and I leak just letting you know. We met through my beloved, who passed 11 years ago, or sorry about. Uh, now it's probably 13, 13. Wow, what is time.

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And so my dear beloved, who was one of the kindest, most magnanimous embodiment of what it meant to be a lion he was a Leo beings in the world, with jet black fuel, hair and skin that looked like warm sand and eyes so luminously green. It was as if moss, you know, lent him its color and he was exquisite. He was so kind and warm and open and playful and cheeky, and I share all this in detail, in a way of like People remember how you make them feel. And he loved me so much and I loved him so much. And so to see this friend that you know knew me in this time in my life, my beloved passed. I was 23 and he passed on his birthday July 24th, and the service to honor him was on mine a few days later, on the 27th.

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And to see this friend that knew me then, who's known me since and seen me shapeshift in so many ways as I have, was a hug. It felt like a hug from my beloved at the perfect time that I couldn't have orchestrated if I tried, and I share this with you for many reasons, but because also, what my friend said yesterday really stuck with me and invited me into a beautiful inquiry. So at some point in the night we were chatting after the shock wore off and the softness took hold, the joy, the giggle, the pure exaltation of the surprise. He said to me he's like I haven't seen, you probably haven't seen each other in more than five years. And he said what are you doing? You haven't changed a bit. What are you doing? You haven't changed a bit. You are so happy and full of life and beautiful and glowing, like what are you doing.

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And and I said to him, the form of every form of tenderness, in all of its dimensions and flavors, could relate. So, because I've known so much loss, so many of my dear beloveds have transitioned, and the first being my beloved who taught me actually and I'll bring this up for a moment he so profoundly changed my life, although I didn't know how to love myself, then changed my life, although I didn't know how to love myself. Then and I say this to be a permission slip for you wherever you are in that journey it was hard at that age to be with somebody who loved me so profoundly, so fully, because I didn't love myself. Then I found it hard to let him love me and let his love in at times. And, and so this profound shift in reality, the world with him in it being a phone call away, and then the world without him in it, or at least not in physical form. He was always in it, even after to me, just in a different capacity.

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And so I said to my friend, I said, you know, because I've danced with death so much and loss. I'm so clear now that the gift of life is, in fact, that it is a gift, and so I don't take it for granted. I have allowed that tenderness to invite me into profound presence. You know and really clarify that no next moment is guaranteed. None of us can know that and I don't say that to be morose, I do not say that to be a Debbie Downer the fact is that none of us can know without a shadow of a doubt that this next moment is coming, that this next breath is happening, and thankfully, you know most of the time it does, and that's perfect. And yet I could walk outside and have something happen, and I'm not calling that in. I'm telling you all none of that. I'm not calling it in. It's not happening. And you know life happens as it does.

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And because I'm so clear of the literal gift of each breath and each moment and I'm far from perfect, right I totally veer off and I numb out sometimes in life, right, and it has taught me what is important and some of the things that I have learned is to love on my people, to be with my people, to love them fully and be present and not be staring into my phone when we're having a conversation, to make eye contact and to really be curious and to be kind to as many people as I can as much as I can, because I don't know what they're dealing with. Right, and my kindness and grace doesn't cost me anything, and yet it could be meeting them at a time when they really need it, and so I strive to. This is going deeper than I imagined, but we're here. These are daily transmissions. This is what's alive. You're getting the raw and the real and the what's there, and so I aim to live life a little differently than what people are used to, which connects to what my way of being that my friend remarked on reflected.

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I live my life backwards. I start with what I want people to be left with Remember, reminisce about roast before laugh and share with stuck when I'm gone and so I work backwards and I really try to be as human as I can and be honest and show up for repair when I inevitably blunder. Practicing being human, I've learned that none of us are spared our humanity, and I'll say that again. No one is spared their humanity, and that's the point, and so you'll hear it here. I laugh a lot and I speak and I leak, and I will address the elephant in the room first, or as often as I can, and also try to be as empathetic as I possibly can, because there's things that are going on in the love and the hearts and the lives of the people that I know that I may not have context for, and so I try to reach for that understanding and softness. Until I try to reach for that understanding and softness. And so when he asked me that question, to me the answer was clear Some of the most important work I can do in this life is to embody love as much as I can, as much as I can, as often as I can, as deeply as I can, and not because I'm doing it as a way to get something, because I have it to give and because I truly believe with every fiber of my being that the most important work I can do for my soul is to come back to love and be it and move from it and speak from it and reach for it.

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And yeah, because the hard comes on its own right, like when we're living full out, it just does. And so what I've found? That softens the tension and the pain and discord and hurt and disappointment and grief and the general contrasts of life, is to just come back to love and presence and play as much as I can, as often as I remember, and then the air around me feels softer and people feel the shift and feel welcome, ideally and safe, which then has my environment and the people in it feel more regulated and seen and heard and loved and at ease, and that feels like a really good use of my time while I'm here. So I hope you found nuggets of gold in this tangent and these stories and this construct for a way to interact with life and your relationships and your friendships. Um, interact with life and your relationships and your friendships and I love you Wherever you are in this journey.

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You are exquisite and perfect and, as I've said before and I love that Amanda Francis says it all the time she's wonderful as well. I'll share about her. She has some of the cleanest energy of anybody in the industry, very generous and kind. She always says you cannot fuck it up and I love that permission slip, so I'm offering it back to you wherever you are. Whatever you're doing, however you're doing it, however you're not the minute, you know and notice how to do it better, just do better. You know, it's another one from Maya Angelou, and it's another one from Maya Angelou, and for a moment to dig into it, that really is my belief. Right, we're all doing the best with what we can and have at any given moment, and, ideally, when we know better, we do better, and that's all we really can do sometimes. So, for what it's worth, you're doing great, yeah, the other thing I did really want to mention this is making this episode a little longer, but it is what it is. Welcome to my world.

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I speak in iLeak, I talk in spirals, I always land the plane, and my tangents and my stories, I hope, really create new layers of depth for you to explore and savor and connect to. And I also invite you that you can come back to the space and listen to it again, because each time you listen, you will be a different person, having lived through new, different things, and so you will always hear something new and or potentially hear the same thing, but be able to really absorb it and have it really touch a different part or meet you in a different way, such that it really transforms something in your life. I have full confidence that that will be the effect, because that is just how it works and it's perfect. So the other thing I wanted to share is something that has been a tender point for me, but it kind of relates to these conversations and meeting people and friendships and being seen and being accepted for who you are, right, being appreciated for who you are. So my friend remarked you know how are you always so happy? It's beautiful, right. And I'll share a tender thing because it hasn't always been something that has been so easeful Historically and I say this word very specifically because I am talking to my nervous system just as much as I am talking out loud to you.

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I am talking out loud to you. So a side note, our nervous system is always listening. Our body, mind, our reptilian brain, whatever the term really lands with you. You know, if we take on that, our body is living consciousness that is my experience personally. So sit with it, play with it. If it doesn't work, throw it out. Whatever, my experience is that our body's always listening. So when we say certain things because our nervous system, our body, mind, doesn't have a sense of humor, it just takes it as fact. So by saying historically this has been my experience, I am delineating and marking it as a past phenomenon. What I am sharing is not a right now phenomenon, it is a piece of historical data. It is a piece of historical data, so it takes it out of self-identification, your life, you say something as a present moment, right now phenomenon versus a historical piece of data that no longer applies right. So that alone, please, please, please, come back to this part of the episode and I will try to earmark it. Um, because this is an absolute game changer in the world of communication and regulating your nervous system.

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Okay, but coming off the tangent, coming back so, historically, what I have found is people have met me not everybody, but this is something I found as a pattern and they meet me and they're baffled and they actually dislike me because they have said to me, historically you can't be real, or said it to someone else, that person can't be real, she must be fake. Nobody's that happy, naturally. Nobody's that nice, naturally, it must, whatever must be an agenda or what have you. And so this has been a theme that I have experienced and all this phenomenal data. Right, this was something I couldn't have perceived and this was also, to be clear, what they were projecting on me, where I've had people, you know, be really disoriented by it, confused, truly dislike me because of it, because it was illuminating a part of them that wasn't that or didn't have that as a possibility potentially, and so they projected it like through the tar back at me of like, oh, you can't be real, you must be fake or whatever the flavor of shit it was.

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And I've had other people that were a bit more curious and regulated, that said to me. You know, I did have that for a moment when I first met you, but then, as I took time to get to know you, I was like, oh, that's just you, how lovely. And so I also share this story with a permission slip for you, to you, to be genuine in who you are and how you be in the world and what brings you joy. Because somebody is always going to have a goddamn mother effing opinion about it. They are going to interpret it as they will, because they will. That's what we do, naturally. And they will have a thing and an opinion and a perspective and a judgment or whatever, and that's okay.

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And what I have learned is, when I'm in my joy and my true expression, not doing anybody any harm, that's okay. They can keep it because I am regulated and happy and sourced. And so the people who can see it and recognize it and see me for me and accept me for me great, that works, and those are my people and those other people, that's okay, but they're not my people. And then the theme of friendship, right in the essence of relational wealth, and to tie in right all these different things that I am been sharing about building upon, I've come to love and remember that and embody with humor and joy that I am not everybody's cup of tea, and that's okay, because there's so much, you know, variation of tea out there.

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It's exquisite, that's my word of the moment, exquisite, it's delicious, it's wonderful, it's just the best thing ever. There's so many flavors of tea, so many interpretations of one type of tea, and so for the people who I am, their flavor, yes, I love you, thank you. And for those that I'm not, I love you, thank you. And for those that I'm not, that's okay. Baby, I love you so much.

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Thank you for taking such good care of yourself and choosing the tea that most nourishes you powerfully, because when you do our soul collective, the world is better, because you're happy over there, where you are doing the things that bring you joy and with the people that bring you joy and regulate you and nourish you and see you and amplify you and your magic. Great, and I'm over here doing the same, as I want, with every fiber of my being, this conversation, in all the different dimensionalities and ways that it has spiraled, to meet you with a space of softness and be a permission slip to do you boo, to live your life, for you, not to say that you are selfish and don't care about other people I mean, you're going to do what you're going to do I'm not going to regulate that and to really truly reach for and discover if you haven't in a while what are the things that really bring you joy. Maybe even start an app in your phone I mean a note in your phone and just whenever you notice it, just jot it down. Maybe you love the color and the style of this pottery, or you love a hot beverage, a tea, a coffee at your you know midday of jewel tones in furniture form or the sunset, whatever, whatever. That is Another phenomenal leader Regina Tomaschauer, well known as Mama Gina, who I've studied with, who started the School of Women in the Arts with, who started the School of Women in the Arts and is a powerhouse leader in the sacred sexuality empowerment space, has this construct that I learned in her mastery program that I love of being a pleasure researcher and I find that to be one of the best roles that you could take on in your life is to just be in the noticing, in the curiosity and the exploration, and to take on that.

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Pleasure is everywhere, joy is everywhere. Magic is everywhere, as we just spoke about in the previous episode, because you've declared that that's so. Magic is everywhere, as we just spoke about in the previous episode, because you've declared that that's so. And now you're just step two. After you've declared that magic is everywhere, pleasure is everywhere. Pleasure and abundance is your divine right. We'll say that again pleasure and abundance is your divine right, pleasure and abundance is your divine right. If abundance is your divine right, if you declared all that, and just why not? Because it's all made up and you get to play the game.

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And then now you're just in the next stage. You're in this delicious, noticing what brings you joy, what brings you pleasure, writing it down in your note. Um, also, after a while you'll notice you've written down potentially a lot of things. So, oh, wow, life is full of pleasure and joy, and also noticing who brings you pleasure, softness, joy and in the relationships in your life. You may be surprised. And again, no right or wrong here, it's all just wonderful curiosity and yeah, that's what I have to say about that.

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So, to kind of bring it all home and tie it into a bow, relational wealth is a thing. Really investing in it will bring the highest yield you can ever imagine. And set your life up for true thriving. Set your life up for true thriving. Reach out to one person you haven't talked to in a while or met only once and want to deepen a connection with, maybe once a week. Keep it simple, don't overload yourself. Keep it accessible right. Keep it practical, being present right In the right now phenomenon, because the next moment is not guaranteed. Be who you are, because everyone's always going to have an opinion.

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So you really just reach for getting to know who you are, doing your pleasure, research, your joy, research and aligning and calibrating your environment to that true expression of you. And love and play, because why not? So I love you all. I hope that you enjoyed many different nuggets of gold that you pulled towards you and feel seen and supported by, and for all those that I know and love already. I thank you for all those I have yet to meet of you or haven't met, and you are in my field somewhere listening to this. I love you, thank you for your trust and your time, and so, as always, stay delicious. I love you, thank you for your trust and your time, and so, as always, stay delicious, because you already are, and I'm truly looking forward to connecting again further in our next conversation and daily transmission. Until then, ciao.