The Joy in Absurdity: Your Permission Slip to Play

Ever find yourself caught in one of life's delightful absurdities, like a spontaneous concert on your late-night train ride? While under the weather, I stumbled upon just such a moment of unexpected joy—a commuter boldly belting out "Lady Marmalade" with unmatched enthusiasm and a surprisingly good voice. It was as if the universe was nudging me to notice the humor woven into the chaos of our daily grind. His impromptu performance stood as a beacon of vivacity amidst the typical scene of phone-absorbed commuters, inviting us all to lighten up and embrace life's cosmic jokes.

This episode is a reflection on the beauty of sheer absurdity and the weight we often place on life's challenges. Through sharing my amusing train encounter, I hope to remind you, and myself, that not everything needs to be taken so seriously. Sometimes, mountains we build from molehills can be transformed into moments of shared laughter and understanding. Even with a voice still recovering from illness, I felt compelled to share this story and encourage you to find lightness in your days. Let's embrace these cosmic winks and spread a little joy.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:05

hello, hello, dear ones. Oh, how I have missed you, miss chatting here with you. I have been a bit poorly under the weather, so to speak, and went from the really sensual, beautiful vocal expression that you got to enjoy in the previous episode to a not-so-savory, very congested version of me, so I've been a bit silent. But there's been a lot on my mind and I just had to stop today and share something with you all, because the universe just made it so obvious I absolutely couldn't miss it. I mean, I could, but I've calibrated myself in my life to be paying attention to the cosmic winks from the universe and so, with confirmation bias, such is what I see. So what I wanted to come and share with you today is I wanted to invite you in to the cosmic joke that this life can be, sometimes the wild absurdity that is the lived experience, and sometimes, like today, it's so absurd. It's so absurd it cuts through the numbness and the din of it all like a well-sharpened knife, but it doesn't hurt, you know, it just tickles in the sweetest way. So, to paint the picture, I had a wonderful massage, which was amazing, and so I was very blissed out and floating, traveling from the city to where I live in Brooklyn and I get on the train to head home and it's late, it's about 9.30. And the scene unfolds as such, I sit and there is this man sitting across the train car and he has his headphones on and he is just so potently in his own world, singing up a storm. Now, his voice was so loud they absolutely could have heard him. You know, a state away, but he was singing to this amazing song that had him so revved up and thankfully, you know, he could hold a tune. So the timbre of his voice was quite beautiful, just expansively loud. And I'm watching and truly just enamored, because also, to add to the cosmic wink, he's singing to Lady Marmalade. Oh my God, and that song for those of you that know, for those of you that don't, I highly recommend giving it a re-listen that song calls your diva, your inner Elton John, forward. And so this man is just performing, truly, you know, clearly he can't hear his own volume because the music is so loud in his head and he's just like singing along, living his best life, having a good old time, not harming anyone, right, just happy as can be.

Speaker 1: 4:58

And it was interesting because, as I'm observing him, I took in the scene of the fellow commuters. Some are rolling their eyes, clearly exasperated, annoyed. Some are kind of snickering to themselves Having some chats about it. Most, as you know, in the commute are just glued to their phones and completely in their own cocoon, not talking to really anyone, numbing out Also a thing, right, so very little eye contact. And then there's this ray of light, this absurd rendition of Lady Formalade, third rendition of Lady Formalade, and what I was present to in that moment, why I had to, even though I still do not feel great, even though my voice is not perfect, according to me or what have you, even though I was having feelings around sounding congested and publishing this episode, regardless, I decided to do it anyway.

Speaker 1: 6:12

Because we make life so significant and so heavy and so hard and arduous and we slug through it Often, right, guilty, raising my hands here. I have totally done this Right. I have totally done this right. Made a thing that was tiny into some, you know, an anthill, into a mountain. Right, because it was so significant for me and that's valid right. I want to share with you that if you do that or have done that, I see you, I love you, I've been there, I'm right, share with you that if you do that or have done that, I see you, I love you, I've been there, I'm right, there with you. And what I'm really proud of for myself in my life and what I'd like to invite you into is getting on the joke of it all, right, like there's just so much absurdity that for me it just I burst into belly laughs because it was so pure and I could feel the universe's, god, goddess, whatever you want to call a higher power, whatever resonates with you, the humor, the lightness, the play, the permission to be who you are as you are, to be who you are as you are, and it was so heartwarming, it was the best soul balm that I didn't know to ask for and to me and I'm going to talk about death a lot on this podcast because it's just a part of my life. I've danced with her a lot but I think, having been through an experience, such profound loss, it's really had me lean in to joy, cultivate it, reach for it, notice it, and I'll give you another fun example. And I'll give you another fun example.

Speaker 1: 9:00

So my now husband, when we first met and started dating, I was right Different ways to express ourselves in the world. And so one time he and I were walking in and around the Washington Square Park area in New York and we went into a party shop costumes and accessories and what have you. And I bought one of those headbands with the springs and some I don't know fluffs or smiley faces or something ridiculous that's like bouncing about on these two springs, like you know, antennas. I thought it was ridiculous and I loved it and so I put it on and I bought it and I walked outside and he was like, wait, what, you're going to go outside like that, what, why? And I was like, well, personally, I was confused because I was like this is ridiculous, like I love it, people are going to be smiling. Fuck it, you know. And and he was truly just glitching and confused and potentially a little embarrassed to be walking with this weirdo wearing this like I don't know clown, like antenna thing.

Speaker 1: 10:35

But you know what my stand was life is hard. Why not have a bit of a laugh whenever possible? It's free, right? And it was so clear to me that I was not doing anyone any harm. I was feeling fully self-expressed in my playful state, childlike state, full of joy, connected to it, expressing from it, coming from love. So why not? Why would I not do this thing that I know will make me happy but will likely make a few other people giggle too and potentially meet them right when they need it. Maybe they're in a tender moment and it just makes them stop for a moment and see the cosmic you know joke of it all for a second.

Speaker 1: 11:37

So I say all that to say I don't know what that looks like for you and I don't know where you are or what you're feeling at the moment or what you're navigating, and I truly, with every fiber of my being, truly with every fiber of my being, invite you into number one, attuning to joy, decide that it's everywhere and just notice, because you'll be surprised, pleasantly surprised how it does find you. And for those of you that are having resistance to this in any way, I see you, baby, I love you. That's a-okay. That's not only normal, it's perfect.

Speaker 1: 12:40

And I would like to invite you to potentially get a bit curious. What is the thing that is irking you about what I'm sharing about me, my transmission, my state of being around this, my invitations? What is that? What repulses you? Or what's the thing you keep saying to yourself over and over in your head. I wonder, and I thank your resistance for illuminating something new for you. And yeah, so that's what I had to offer to you today. And if you feel so inclined, lady Marmalade is a powerful transmission, whether it's at home or on the street, or wherever it feels good, or in your shower, put it on, let your body move a bit and grab a makeshift microphone, if that feels good too. Whatever that looks like for you, I invite you into sweetness, softness, laughter and ease. Okay, my loves, this is it for now. I'm off to rest. I love you, I see you. I have so much more juicy things to share and in store, and so, as always, stay delicious. Delicious because you already are, and until next time, ciao.