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Peach Ent presents Check In: What Do You Expect From Yourself Part 3
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Welcoming the new show Peach Ent presents Check In now airing each and every Sunday at 12PM EST. On this episode of Check In she's talking about what do you expect from yourself.
I'm done.
SPEAKER_04I am done. Oh my god.
SPEAKER_05Stick a fork in me.
SPEAKER_04I am done. This is the first time.
SPEAKER_05You know what? It's is is ridiculous. It's ridiculous. Are we being sabotaged? Must be because this ain't never happened to us before. So but yeah, when you try to spread awareness about yeah, girl. But anyway, y'all. So what I expect from myself again, if I expect to be the great parent that I am, uh giving the best that I can to my children, that's including my grandbaby. I expect to continue to provide service that we that we always do. Like I said, we always want to provide some type of a service to people. We always want to help others. And I feel like that's something, you know what? And I was you know, we all about zodiacs because we both cancers. And that's one thing that is within us. We always want to help someone and provide that service to someone. So, but uh what else I expect from myself is to just to have a better life than what I had when I was younger. You know what I mean? Because I didn't have a great life when I was younger, you know. Well, it was a good life, but even though it was a poverty life, but we still had a good life, but I want better. You know, I just that's what I expect for myself. I expect to grow. I expect growth, but um those are some of the things that I expect for myself, you know. Well, what about you, P? What do you expect from yourself? That's a deep question, though. That's like you're you are muted.
SPEAKER_04Okay, so when I thought about this question, and I hope people tune back in, I do deeply apologize because I don't know what's going on, but this message must gonna be impactful. Um, for me, for me, when I think about what my expectations of self is, um I wrote a list. I re I expect self-respect, yes, inner self-respect. Yes, um, I expect inner love, I expect success from myself, I expect um internal patience from myself because you know, of course, it takes patience and time for you to become who you're gonna become and for you to learn things. I expect um value in myself, self-value, self-goodness, um, self-care, yeah, self-care, self-loyalty, yeah. Um, all of these things, and I got to this, and I could remember the the exact moment where I got to this space and I started to think that way. Um, as you know, and the audience may not know if they ever come back because we've been flipping it on and off. I lost so many people at the age of 23, 22, 23 in that range, and when you lose people, you can no longer be um a selfish person because I believe everybody has some selfish tendencies when you have uh your immediate family, you're allowed to uh latch on. And I was raised by my grandparents, and I also had a husband at that moment, so I was latching on to the love of my grandparents, I was latching on to uh the love for my husband and the love of my children that I never had to really internally evaluate myself until I lost all three of those people in the same year. Wow, so now I had to in order to cope and become the best me, I had to internally go inside of me, fix me, love me, and then bring that out to the world. So everything that I mention on my list is stuff that I expect of me, and then things that I push out onto others, hoping that they will reciprocate because I always feel like um life is uh too short, too precious not for you to internally practice self-love for you, if that makes sense, right? Right, so that's you know why this topic just resonated with me so much because I had to do the work so young.
SPEAKER_05And you you know it is funny that you did mention like your loved ones that passed away because I have been lately feeling like empty from those who have passed away, you know. I feel like it's like a piece, parts of me that is just not there anymore, you know? And I don't know, you even you see now how even um posted something, you said, girl, what you want here crying for? You know, it's just sometimes it just come at me and hit me. It's like, dang, my people is just not here anymore. So where does it where does that leave me? You know, so it kind of makes me reflect more on my life and what I want for myself and how I'm gonna how I'm gonna get there. You know, it's like very emotional and I get emotional talking about that type of stuff, but I definitely have been reflecting more on me and definitely trying to stick to a create a plan and stick to it to make my to make certain situations better for my life, you know, because I do want I want to continue to love myself, you know what I'm saying, and not worry about what other people think or say, you know. I don't want no one else's negativity to reflect on me, so right I expect, you know, right?
SPEAKER_04So it's just crazy, right? So I see people tuning back in. Um, we do apologize, we don't know what happened with the stream, but we have been talking. Let's just I'm just gonna recap everything that I actually personally felt. We were just having some technical problems and we had to refresh. So Toya and I um talked about what we expected from myself, and I can go back into it. What I expect. Hey Vonda. Um, no, we just clumped out for some reason. We don't know. We had to refresh the browser, but we are here. Um, so I'm just gonna recap what I felt. Um, what do I um expect from me? And basically what I shared with Toya, and now I see everybody coming back in. Um, what I share is okay, my list. My list of reasons, my list of things of what I expect of me. I expect self-respect. Like I gotta respect myself. I expect self-love. I expect success. I expect self-value from me, and I expect goodness, I expect kindness out of me, I expect patience, I expect success, I expect growth of me, I expect so many things of myself internally, and I cultivate it from me, um well, I cultivate it inside of me, and like I said with Toya, because a lot of you guys weren't in because something went wrong with the live. Um, and it's funny because we have people watching us with the broadcast, but okay, so like I expressed to Toya, I did this in a work at a very young age, and as anyone that knows me that's close to me at 23 years old, 22 23 years old, I lost my parents. I was raised by my grandparents, and I lost my husband, and um during that time, you know, at 22-23, you really don't do too much internal checking in. You always live off the love of the people around you. Like I lived off the love of my grandmother, I lived off the love of my grandfather, I lived off the love of my husband, but I never checked in with myself, and of course, I lived for my children, but I lost all three of them in the year of 2000, and it forced me to have to check in with myself and deal with me, and when I was dealing with myself and also handling the grief, I realized that I had to master the internal self, I could no longer be selfish, I could no longer expect everything from everyone else. I couldn't expect you know my husband to do these different things. I couldn't expect my grandparents. If I all the way up, they're gonna be there to pick me up. I did, I couldn't expect um my grandfather if I needed extra money because I blew all my money to give it to me, I had to become that. I could no longer be petty, like I was the kind of person, Toya, that if I had a friend and that person wasn't doing what I wanted or they wasn't meeting my expectations, why the hell do I gotta sit around and negotiate with you? You can go instead of realizing no life matters, people matter, and it's not about what you want personally, it's about building healthy interpersonal relationships. But in order for me to do that, like I said, I had to go inside of me, check me, find out what I wanted for myself, build my self-expectations, build my worth, and then put it out, give it out outwardly, right? And then if someone chooses to come into my life and offer what I'm trying to give, then that's fine. But if the person is not, then you still love and let it go. So that's why I'm a big, I'm a big um, I'm big on just self, the self, the inner self.
SPEAKER_05You know, I I've also found seeing in myself that I used to worry and try to appease to everyone else's feelings and stuff like that. Just try to make everyone else feel good, and I didn't care about my own feelings, you know, and so like I don't know, it's something about a certain age that you get to that you start realizing, like, hey, like what am I doing? You know, why am I why am I making sure everyone else is okay? Why am I not looking out for myself, not caring about me? You know, why am I not putting myself first? Because Vestibel is some other people, they're gonna put themselves first, and which is okay. But like, why am I not doing that for myself? So I had to like sometimes you you just tell people yes, yes, yes, all the time, and then as soon as you tell them no, it's an issue. You know what I'm saying? But sometimes you have to tell people no to save to save yourself, to save your feelings, you know, like and it's crazy that you have to go through that. Hey Frank, what's going on?
SPEAKER_04Hey everyone, hey y'all, so welcome. Um, again, when I think of this topic, and everybody in the chat, tell us what you expect from yourself when you look inside of yourself. What do you expect from you? Because again, at like I said at the top of the show, and I think we were cut off. We always have these high expectations of others, and we get mad when they fall short. But have you ever stopped that they are to think that they are a reflection of what you're giving? Right, right. What are you expecting from you? What are you expecting from you? Are you actively doing what you expect, and are you projecting that outwardly?
SPEAKER_05That's just like like it's funny that you said that because I have said this before. Like, you know how when you are dealing with someone and someone is treating you badly, you know what I mean? So, and you like, why is this person treating me so badly? It's not necessarily why is this person treating you the way that they're treating you. What are you giving off to make them feel that it's okay to treat you this way? Because we tend to sometimes give off a certain type of energy to people to make them treat us a type of way, if that makes sense. You know, that's why it's good to look within yourself. Sometimes you have to work on you, it's not necessarily the other person, you have to work on you within you and fix what's going on, you know, because some it's just crazy. We just give off these certain energies that is sometimes negative energy, sometimes a using energy, it's different type of energies that we give off to people to make them perceive us how they do.
SPEAKER_04Uh Smack said for the past year, I told myself it was time to be authentic and transparent. Thanks for this show.
SPEAKER_05And you know, as we're getting older, anyway, like why do we have to we gotta start looking out for ourselves, period. Periods. It's like what you said, I'm already after a hundred. You know what I'm saying? I don't care what no one else thinks, like I don't care about none of the the bull, like the bullshit that's going on, you know what I'm saying? I'm just gonna do what I want to do, like you gotta just look out for yourself sometimes, and it's okay, it's okay to be self, self, selfish, self, selfish, like it's okay to be self, selfish, like it's okay.
SPEAKER_04So, look, let's flip this now. Watch how easy this is, right? Let's flip the question. What do you expect from other people? I bet you you got a long list in your head, right?
SPEAKER_05Right. So when you spoke about what you expect from yourself, you expect respect from yourself. I respect, I expect respect from others, you know, the same things that I expect from myself, that's what I'm expecting from other people, honestly. Like, I'm expecting um the respect. I'm sp I'm expecting the love as well. If you if you know, from other people, the same love that I'm putting out. I'm expecting these things. You know, I'm I'm expecting someone who wants to grow with that wants to grow or to be successful within themselves. And we talk about partners, I'm expecting my children to um to be respectful to me as well. Like that, it just the same things I was I expect from myself, some some of them I expect from other people as well. What y'all expect from other people?
SPEAKER_04What do you what is say you must learn to be selfish before you can become selfless? That's deep.
SPEAKER_05You some sometimes you do have to be selfish, you know, because how many yeses you done give out, you know. But as soon as you give out a no, that people don't like when you say no to them.
SPEAKER_04They don't like it to Liv said I expect the world to reflect my assumptions. You get that toy, whatever I assume, uh I want the world to reflect that. Okay, and that's not necessarily gonna always happen, but you could expect that, but it's gonna happen. So for me, right? And again, like I said, I had to go through all of this um internal work at 2223. But prior to then, oh man, I was a little jerk, man. I was a spoiled little jerk that thought everything was supposed to go my way. Um, I thought people was in my life to give me things to do things. Uh if you ain't gonna do this, you can't be here. If you can't give me this, you can't be there. If you don't want to do what I want to do, and this is a problem, but you can't wow, you can't you had to learn, you had to learn, yeah. But it's not unrealistic, it was unrealistic. You was young, so you know listen, listen, Maybach often said on the show he would have funerals for for people. I used to do that like on a regular basis, but again, like I said, after personal growth, I realized how that's not great. That is not a good characteristic to have. Um, you have to be. I chose well, I'm not gonna say what you have to be for me. It wasn't a good characteristic because I was losing out on some great people because at the time I wanted them to move the way that I needed them to move, and I needed them to reflect whatever I needed to reflect, like the mirror image, and it just was not real, it was not real. I wasn't building real friendships, I was building. Um, I don't know, I don't even know what I was building with these people, it wasn't even no real connection, it was just so superficial level crap, you know. And then when I lost everyone, and I needed people because the people believe you me, the people around you will not always be here. You're gonna need people, and if you keep weeding out the good damn people for silly things, it's just your life is just gonna be all over the place, it's gonna be chaotic. So, again, I hated what happened to me, but it helped me get into a better space to just kind of look within and then you know move on to having a better life.
SPEAKER_05But see, you you acknowledge that the type of person that you was, and that helped you, that helped you grow to become the person that you are today. So, look, you looked inside yourself and you seen that was a problem, and you dealt with that issue, you know. But like that, you was young. We all we all was young and did some dumb, some dumb shit. You know what I'm saying? We we done pushed people out of our lives, you know, good people, many a times because our actions, you know, because we didn't we didn't give a damn, we just didn't care.
SPEAKER_04Like I'm saying, yeah, because we didn't expect much from ourselves, right? We didn't expect much from ourselves that caring about us the most, you know, we push them away, yeah, and that's because we expect more of them than we expect from ourselves, right? I've had different, I've had so many different and better experiences with people when I expected what I needed for myself from me versus expecting it from you, you know, and if you gave what I would like that out that no, excuse me, if you gave me whatever I gave to myself, that it was a blessing, and then I said, Okay, me and this person align because you're giving me what I'm willing to give to myself, and a lot of people don't probably see it that way, but that's just my version of life, and it works for me. Um, because it just kills me, like even in the dating scene, it kills me, like our topic last week. What are we talking about? Uh Helping your partner, right? In order for you to be in the space to lift somebody up, you had to already lift yourself up. You already went inside yourself, did the work, and it's not just about elevating that person, it's about also going in with that person and having these conversations and helping them or encourage them to do the work, the inner work within themselves. And that's the way that you could kind of grow and build together. If that makes sense. So two people expecting the most from themselves, and you're actively working on you and doing the work when y'all come together, it's gonna be fabulous, you know, because y'all both are taking the initiative to be the very best you, and then you come together and and y'all become the very best us. But that's just you know, my perspective of you know that and how I handle relationships and why this topic is so important. And chat, please continue. Tell us what do you expect from yourself again? This is a very hard question because we don't like to sit with ourselves and go within. Like I said at the top of the shelf, I suffered from sleep deprivation this week. When I finally got the time to get some rest and pull myself together and check in and say, Hey, I had to tell myself, expect to do some self-care, sis, because you're not right when you ain't, and you're messing up relationships and you're being foul and nasty and rude. You could have potentially lost your job. I had to check in with myself, expect to get some.
SPEAKER_05Who likes to do that?
SPEAKER_04Like, that is a dope ass expectation. Expect to tell yourself you're wrong when you're wrong. Can you do that?
SPEAKER_05Right, who wants to do that? No one wants to admit that they're wrong.
SPEAKER_04Why not? I I'm willing to do it. I could do that, but a lot of people don't like to do that. Listen, I'm willing to tell myself the positive things, and I'm willing to tell myself the negative things, and I'm also willing to deal with it, whatever that is, whatever it looks like. It toya look like she walking and she talking, but chat, like I said, I see y'all watching, drop in the chat. Tell us more things, you know, what you expect from yourself, or something that you and if it's hard for you to think about it, think about it in reverse. Think about what you expected from someone else and ask yourself, did you give that to yourself? Are you actively giving it to yourself? Like, for example, I see uh a lot of women again, like the the the chat last week, the topic last week, expecting men to take care of them. Do they ever look inside themselves and expect to take care of themselves? Or are they just sitting around and they're like, yo, no one's taking care of me? That's not an outward thing, that's an inward thing. Take care of yourself, and then someone will see that and reflect that back onto you, or see that uh energy, that spirit of growth and change, and will come probably invest in your growth and change. Stop expecting stuff from other people. That's just one you know, situation, just like with my career, you know. I always often tell y'all I am a pediatric nurse during the day. The parents rarely have expectations of themselves to know how to take care of their child, they expect that from you though, but you gotta expect it from yourself when you put your best foot forward for you know your child, then other people want to put their best foot forward, and you can apply that to multiple things that go on in life, multiple things. I don't care what it is, don't care what it is. Trying to think of some other examples for you when I was younger, um a mess. I was crazy. I expected people to be physically fit and I wasn't physically fit, you know, expecting people to um I don't know, do cook and I didn't even cook half the time. You know, it's just certain things. Stop expecting things from others if you don't have that expectation of yourself. If it's a need and a want, you have to dig in. You have to dig in and fix you. Uh Toya, are you still there? I think Toya's out. So I'm gonna drop the link to the chat and let you come up and just kind of share, you know, your thoughts on this. Um, before I actually do put it in there, I just want to give a shout out to let me move this overlay, okay? Because I can't see nothing, I can't see a thing. I want to give a shout out to Patrick and in the mix radio. This broadcast uh currently is not streaming right now on the radio, but it will be streaming next uh Sunday from 12 to 2. Toya and I will be syndicated. The check-in will be on multiple platforms. So, shout out to Patrick. Thank you for the opportunity. Um, it's gonna be great, it's gonna be a great experience. Um, it's gonna be more exposure. And again, if you are listening, um, when this airs or in the mix, please tune in onto um one of our YouTube channels at Auntie Toya Brands on YouTube or at Peach E T on YouTube, Peach ENT brands on YouTube, and you can watch us live at 7:30 p.m. ish, and you could be a part of the actual radio stream. So tap in, tap in again. Thank you, Patrick. We look forward to it, and eventually we will be getting to doing a live broadcast on the air. We are excited, the check-in is expanding. So, yay, kudos to us. A great um idea that's expanding. See, expectations when you expect something wonderful from yourself, the the universe responds with something wonderful, all right. So, Toya, did you have anything you wanted to say before I actually put up the rules? Because again, we're trying to limit the show to a two-hour block, and uh, we want to give everybody an opportunity to say what they need to say and come in and chat it up.
SPEAKER_05You said let's go. But let's go, let's do the rules.
SPEAKER_04Oh, did you want to show the what the F moment, or we just gonna jump into the rules? I'm excited about let's do the what the F moment before we actually drop the rules and the link. All right, so the what the F moment. Um oh for me, uh, it's a little, I don't know. I don't know why it's a really a what the F moment because I kind of figured this, but I'm gonna share it anyway. If you're listening on the radio, we about to share our what the F moment. Um, it's uh actually a segment during the check-in where we me and Toya are always on the internet, and if we see something that we like, what the then it becomes a part of the show. So our what the F moment is Ray J is coming out the closet. What the is going on? What is that really a what the F moment?
SPEAKER_02Did I just come out of the what closet? Should I been out the closet, nigga? Nigga, been out that motherfucker. Nobody give a fuck about no closet. I'm the dead homies, bro. Shout out to the motherfucking gatency, nigga. Come see me anytime they want, nigga. Shout out to the gatency, nigga. Did I just come out of the what? Closet? Should I been out the closet, nigga? Nigga. Ben out that motherfucker. Nobody give a fuck about no closet. I'm the dead homies, bro. Shout out to the motherfucking gatency, nigga.
SPEAKER_05You know what? Ray J is going through something right now. But like he said, he been out the closet, so this is not shocking to me at all. Hey, how to work. Yeah, this is not shocking.
SPEAKER_04That's the what the F moment. Like when I seen it, I was like, it was saying Ray J come out the closet. I was like, what the what did I expect from him?
SPEAKER_05He feels like he's about to he feels he got this um heart condition going on, so he's saying he's about to be dying soon. So maybe he he's spiraling right now. So um, but it's not shocking. No, it's not. I wouldn't be shocked by anyone, honestly. I'm not like, I don't know. What's your thoughts out there? Are y'all surprised at this? Like, are y'all are y'all surprised by this news that you just heard with Ray J coming out the closet? I'm not surprised.
SPEAKER_04Oh, Smack said that's oh that it was promo for his gaugency. Oh, okay. Because when we I seen it, I was like, um, again, what do you expect if a man is uh I mean, if he had the expectation of creating the gaugency, then it's something to it, is either he's an ally or community, either way, he's adjacent to it. So that was just my thoughts about it, but um back to the topic. That was our what the F moment. What the F moment.
SPEAKER_05Oh my goodness.
SPEAKER_04What do you expect from yourself? I see we got new people in the chat.
SPEAKER_05Oh, yes.
SPEAKER_04What do you expect from yourself? What did I expect? I'm gonna drop the link in the comments. Y'all could come up and tell us. Let listen, we have some rules again. We are going to be syndicated, and we can't have things going drawn out. We need you to come in really quick, less than a minute. Let me put up these rules.
SPEAKER_05Um, even um, we even switched it up a little bit. P said, what um do you expect from yourself? We also stated what do you expect from others? So let us know.
SPEAKER_04Yeah, let us know. Yes, let us know. What do you expect from yourself? What do you expect from others? Yeah, and then I want you to think about it. Think about it. I look cute. I'm always in the print. Oh Lord, let me drop this link. Howard is crazy.
SPEAKER_05Hey, howard, how are you coming up?
SPEAKER_04Oh lord, you want Howard to come up? Oh god, I thought Howard was coming up.
SPEAKER_05You dropping the link.
SPEAKER_04I thought how it was coming up. So I dropped the link in the chat. So panel rules 60 seconds or less, no advertisement. Um, limit the cursing because we're trying to limit it, and don't get up here and start arguing. Oh man, this is a great space for just sharing and and you know what?
SPEAKER_05Everyone is not gonna be on the same page, which is okay, you can debate, you know, but we don't want no arguing, you know what I'm saying? So everybody has their different views on things, you know.
SPEAKER_04Yeah, everybody has their different views. So, what do you expect from yourself? Come on up, who's brave to come on up here and tell us what you expect?
SPEAKER_05Who's the brave one?
SPEAKER_04You know, ain't nobody gonna come because that's just too hard to do, right?
SPEAKER_05It's too hard to do when you look in the mirror or you looking at your life. What do you feel that you need to change about yourself or that you expect an expression that you expect to change basically? Because I feel like everybody always so have that thought that it's something they want to tweak a little bit in their life or something, okay.
SPEAKER_04So I got one, I expect for me to be committed, committed to what myself, and share that commitment with another person. Who to life? So if I'm committed to myself and I don't want to share myself, then you know, I want to be committed to life, and I want life to feel that you know what I'm saying. Well, see, if you expect to see again, you going in is hard. If you expect to share yourself, then you're gonna expect to be out there sharing yourself with others and they're come on now. You're gonna get whatever you expect in the inside. What are you giving to yourself? I have a commitment to myself, so I want to have a commitment to someone else. Howard, just click the link that's in the chat and come on up, come on up, and whatever chat Howard is in, if the link is not popping up there, could you drop the link in this so howard could come up and talk about self-expectations? Shoot, I expect. Listen, I expect for me to be successful. So I'm going to do the things to become successful, right? And then in turn, who am I gonna run into? Or you know what people are gonna come around me? People that what want to be successful, right?
SPEAKER_05Right, right.
SPEAKER_04Hi, Vonda.
SPEAKER_03How about hey, what's going on, y'all? So one of the um, I did share this with a lot of people. I see my brother's on here, so big ups to Howard. Um, he he can't hit a link because he's driving, but anyway, one of my things that I am still working on is staying out of my head. I overthink and overprocess. So I'm trying to learn how to not overthink and overprocess because it will cause stress. But the one thing that I'm glad of is I'm I'm putting boundaries up and being more accountable and transparently transparent. So I am not doing things that I really don't want to do. You know what I mean? You know, sometimes you look at the relations that you have with people and you'll do it because of those relations, even if it's something you don't want to do. So that's something I'm working on. But I uh I love my leadership um things, speaking out for my community, speaking for the voices that just can't speak for themselves. I'm good in that aspect, but when it comes to personal, I still got some things to work on, and thank y'all for y'all's show because it helps.
SPEAKER_05Thanks, Mac.
SPEAKER_03You're welcome.
SPEAKER_04You're welcome.
SPEAKER_05I understand that overthinking. I do that a lot, I do that a lot too. Like, I'll tell you, my thoughts sometimes have thoughts, and it will drive me crazy.
SPEAKER_04So you expect peace. So now your new expectation is expecting peace from yourself, yeah. So which I always call in peace for myself, like peace.
SPEAKER_05I I'll try to meditate and everything like that. If I just keep going, I'm like, oh, I can't even meditate, it's just like boys got something to say.
SPEAKER_04Yep, I expect love, love, love, self-love, so I can give love. And if y'all didn't hear me at the top of the show, I will repeat it again. I am sprinkling love onto my partner, the person that I'm with, life. I love life, and I'm sprinkling love onto life. If y'all didn't hear it, I am because we were bonking out. I am involved and I am evolving. So anyone that's been jumping in my inbox and you're thinking of trying to get with me, it's not happening because I'm in love with life, and one day maybe I will introduce life. Life will come up and have a conversation with everyone on here. But until then, I love you life, and I will continue to harness love for myself and sprinkle the love onto you, and we love life, right? And what anybody else want to come up? What do you expect from yourself? I told you this is gonna be one of them damn topics, is gonna be one of them damn topics where people like, I don't know what I expect from myself, but I know what I want from you, I can tell you all day. My advice again: if you know what you want from someone else, then you know what you want from yourself. If you want respect, you want love, turn it, point the finger this way, whatever it is. Point it when you're pointing it that way, point it like this. You're pointing at yourself, right? That's why we said think about what it is you want from somebody else, and whoop for the people that's listening over the radio. I'm pointing at myself, I point it outward and I'm pointing inward, right?
SPEAKER_05You gotta look within.
SPEAKER_04Have you do you got some situations so they don't want to come up? Do you got some situations where you got into actual arguments with people over an expectation that you had of them? And then you just thought about like, damn, I don't even do that myself.
SPEAKER_05Right, it's is well, arguments about people treating me right, you know what I'm saying? Because that we all have moments where people don't treat us the way we expect to be treated, you know. So it just argued with them about that, and then you look in yourself, like, well, am I like am I treating myself right? Accepting certain stuff from people, no, you're not treating yourself any better when you ex when you are accepting these negative feedbacks and energy from other people, you know. So that's pretty much it. I don't argue with people.
SPEAKER_04You know what I um you know what I find interesting, like in this whole YouTube space. Hey to live in this whole YouTube space, right? Do you notice people always crying out from for support? Oh, you don't support me, you you that one that's true, right?
SPEAKER_05That one, but then when you gotta point the finger back at them, do you do but do you support people exactly? I just seen that too on a um on a video. This um lady was like, Oh, my cousin, she does nails, and she's saying, Oh, nobody supports her, but she don't support no one either. Like, you have to support in order to expect support support, right?
SPEAKER_00Hey, notice when you're pointing at someone, you have three pointing back at you.
SPEAKER_04Yeah, so it's like come on, that's why I'm like everybody's quiet about this topic. It's it's such a it's not the to me. The question is not that deep, but evidently it is, it is because again. We always got all of these multiple things. We got expectations of our children. Like, how many times? Okay, think about this. How many times you have the parent that's not so educated, but will beat their children down. The expectation is to be educated, right? But then when the child says, Well, mom, you didn't even graduate from high school.
SPEAKER_05Well, I want you to be better than me.
SPEAKER_04But that's an excuse, you know why? Because you pointing at your child, but why don't you put the finger back? It's never too late.
SPEAKER_05No, they yell, they gotta do better.
SPEAKER_04No, but point it back at you because if your child saw you doing better and trying, wasn't that you think it would encourage them to want to do the same?
SPEAKER_05It might. Doesn't it make sense? Just think about it. That's like for people that he that's it's just contradictory. Like I said, people that want doing drugs, they tell kids don't do drugs, drugs is bad.
SPEAKER_04But you do oh well, here's another one, right? Expectations of others. What about the man that won a skinny wife, but he's fat as hell? Take the finger and take it away from her and put it on you. If you want your wife to be physically fit, wouldn't it make sense for you to be working to be physically fit or take some initiative? Again, for me, for me, whatever I you know, I again I expect things for me and then I push it out, and then if it comes back to me, it comes back, and I'm I'm highly appreciative. But if it doesn't, you know, and we can't match match up, then you know maybe I have to release you in love, but uh it's never gonna be in negativity because I'm always good with me.
SPEAKER_05But what you expect to live from yourself.
SPEAKER_00I gave my answer. I I meant that, you know. I I see the world as your own assumption. And if you assume that or say that, well, it doesn't always work that way, well, that's your assumption, right? And I and I think that a lot of what people experience is subjective, and since the mind's job is to produce reality that you experience, your subjective reality will always produce some sort of things you call facts, but once once you change your mind about something or change your perspective, those things are no longer facts. Just think about how many things when you were younger you thought were true. It wasn't because you were delusional, you had a belief, and there were things that supported the belief, right? That you called were facts. But what happened? A new thing was introduced that had more validity and was able to convince you of something, and therefore you go, okay, well, that's not true anymore. But we do that with a lot of things in life, you know, and I think while a lot of people may have not uh chimed in on this one, it's because you you're very right, Peach. Uh you're posing a question that is a ponderance question, one that makes a person internalized, right? They have to ask themselves, well, what do I want? And that reverberates, right? And so, unless that's something you already are operating from, most people are going to step back and have to take a moment because we're not taught to actually identify what we want. We've been taught to identify what we don't want, right? And and and because of that, we have externalized our experience, and so now we project onto others that which we want to see in ourselves, you know, and that's called, you know, uh parataxic distortion, right? And that's when you're triggered by something and you put that image of that thing onto something it doesn't apply to, and people do that in relationships all the time. They bring their old relationships up. Somebody does something, it has nothing to do with the old relationship, but it's triggering for them. And now they paint the identity of that person onto the person, you know what I mean? So I think a lot of it what you're saying, or everything you're saying is is right out the park. I don't think it's as much fear or people unwilling to address. I think what you've done is you've triggered people to actually ponder something so they can't answer right away because they're still trying to answer it to themselves.
SPEAKER_04Damn, I look, I didn't even think the question was that hard, but hey, I'm me, and like I said, I've been doing this since 22, 23 years old. You know, it's always been, you know, when something happened, I never revert to oh, son. This person could do it. It's always bitch, what you gonna do?
SPEAKER_05Right, what you gonna do?
SPEAKER_04What you gotta change, what you gotta make happen, even in breakups. Somebody break up with me. I don't be like, Oh my god, they broke up with me. It's more or less, okay, they broke up with you now. Let's go inside and reassess you inside this relationship, see where you could have been better, and then take it where you're gonna take it. It's just I don't I don't know.
SPEAKER_00That's that's a very powerful thing you said. Now, just step outside of your your shoes for one minute, right? And realize how many people haven't had that self-realization, and they haven't been in the situations you've been in that allowed you to to develop that muscle, right? And and think about the fact that they didn't have the lack of or the support system that you had. You see what I'm saying? Meaning the people that was there or the people that wasn't there. You you see what I'm saying? Everyone has their own little dynamic, and then we have to also remember we're influenced by our family, and a lot of these people are coming from families that they had a belief system, and they made sure they beat that belief system into their kids because poor people were taught to stay out of trouble and to stay right and to make sure you can make it in this world, you got to follow the rules, right? And if you don't follow the rules, you're gonna be punished. So, what do we do with our children when they don't follow the rules? We punish them. Now you look at liberal or people who are wealthy. What do they do when their kids mess up? They sit them down, they talk to them, they try to rationalize and get to understand it, and they understand that that child has an underdeveloped mind. No matter how well you think he understands it, the complete understanding will only come with the growth of the brain. Right? But we've been taught a whole nother way of being, right? And now that shit don't work no more. Excuse my language, I won't curse anymore. But I, you know, I don't really think I'm not a big, big fan of cursing because I don't feel like it supports anything, it doesn't make what you say more valid, right? It just shows that you don't have the words to express what you want to say.
SPEAKER_05Sometimes it's nice, though, so it's good.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, you know, that give me in my element when it's necessary, but when I want to convey something, rather uh things that people can actually go look up, I rather use the appropriate language for that, you know. And and and so I agree with you, Peach. I I agree. I think that uh people need to one, when you were saying about meditation, I think it's very difficult for people to meditate because it's become a lucrative business. The life coaching, spirituality, self-help thing has become a business model, right? So people are now irresponsibly teaching things the wrong way. So a lot of people don't know how to meditate, they really don't know what meditation is, right? And when they sit down, they think they just close their eyes and they just breathe, right? And a lot of that is not how it really goes. And then and one thing I could say is the first thing beyond just learning how to meditate, what you should learn how to do is breathe. If you ever notice someone when they're upset, they're not breathing. If you notice when you become agitated or annoyed or anxious, notice the change in your breathing because your sympathetic nervous system is activated, the survival nervous system, and when that's activated, it's pumping all these cortisols, it's pumping all these endorphins in your brain, and you can't think clearly. You see what I'm saying? How can a person make a rational decision like that? While their body is screaming, we're gonna die.
SPEAKER_07Yeah, right, right.
SPEAKER_00So the best thing to do is first learn how to breathe. I like to say, do box breathing. What is box breathing? Just take a deep breath in for four seconds, hold it for two, breathe out for four, hold back for two, breathe in for four, and do that four times. And watch, it'll activate your parasympathetic nervous system that'll send you back into that uh uh uh state where now your body is creating dopamine and the right chemicals that make you think clearly, and then you'll see people uh act will act way more rationally, but most people don't act rationally because they're in a fight or flight body response neurologically, not consciously, because nobody's holding a gun to their head, right? But when the body and the mind don't align, that creates a distortion, and your body would produce chemicals, and you know when the chemicals, Peach, you know, when the chemicals start going in your head, you could be a damn super scientist, you're gonna become a very bumbling idiot. You're gonna be saying things you're gonna regret, you're gonna be saying things you don't mean. Yeah, because we're we're complicated and they try to simplify us so they control us. We're not that simple, we're very complicated. Nobody's black and white. We all have this complex, rich tapestry of a life that's founded off of multiple people that that moved us in ways we weren't even aware of before we even turned 10 years old, more or less the people we went out to encounter on our own reconnaissance reconnaissance. So, yeah, I'll be quiet.
SPEAKER_04Well, we are down to like what that last half hour or whatever, and I do appreciate everything you say here to live. And as and you know, with this whole meditation, um, I just to chime in a little bit, I think people don't want to meditate because they're afraid to be alone with themselves, and I do and I and because being it's one thing to be alone with their thoughts, yes, it's one thing to be in a room by yourself in a television or on a phone, but it's another thing to have to be inside dealing with yourself one day, Peach.
SPEAKER_00Oh, you gotta give me at least five to ten minutes one day, and I'll show you all what it feels like to act truly relax. I can guide you through that and show you what. See, nobody taught us how to do it, so you sit in there on your own trying to figure it out, you're bumbling, you're and it becomes irritating, right? Because you don't have a method. You give me five, ten minutes more time, I'll show you.
SPEAKER_05I ain't gonna say no one, some people do, but a lot of people don't know how to just clear their mind. Just no, you don't even have to have your thoughts when you meditate, and it's just like you're just your mind is cleared.
SPEAKER_04Soya, people don't even if you're not meditating, people don't want to just be with them to face facing yourself, is just right so hard for many.
SPEAKER_00It's not people never get a chance to actually face themselves because they can't get past the stories that their mind is telling them. They don't want it's not the fear of facing themselves, it's the fear of the nonstop stories that is living went free in their head, which are programs, which is dictating their behaviors. And when they sit down and be quiet, there comes an opportunity to let that story come in. But we've been taught that we have to deal and fight with our problems, not to sit there and let those thoughts come in and be what they are, not engage with them and see how they can't stick when you're not engaging. We've been taught the mind backwards. Your conscious mind is the worst mind for problem solving because everything that sticks in your mind is in the subconscious mind. This is why you can't just tell yourself, I'm going to quit smoking, and it just works. You see what I'm saying? And people are on a conscious level trying to make deep changes without understanding how to get to that subconscious level. That's what I do. And and one day, Peach, if y'all want, I will just five minutes. I'll just take you through a little quick thing, and you'll see what that feels like. And then you'll at least have some sort of understanding of what you're trying to even experience because you're gonna never stop the mind from thinking. You cannot not think. Here's an example: don't think about a pink elephant. You see what I'm saying? Okay, in order to not think, you have to think about not thinking. That's thinking. How can you not think because you're not the thinking, you're the one that's aware, right?
SPEAKER_04And I'll leave boom boom. Ah, boom. That was Talib, everyone that's gonna be um listening on um uh in the mix ready. Talib is a part of the cast and comes in. Talib, introduce yourself and tell everyone exactly what it is you do and why you're on the show, why it's important you're on the show.
SPEAKER_00Uh thank you. Um, my name is Toli. I am a hypnotherapist, and I'm currently working on becoming a clinical hypnotherapist specializing in mind and bike mind and body psychology. But I have certified in neurolinguistic programming and several other hypnotic modalities. What I do is I help people understand and work with their subconscious mind so that they can make profound, life-lasting changes. It's not something I magically do. I don't help people that don't want to help themselves. But anyone who's ready to make a significant change working with me, you'll be more than capable of making that change. I can be found on Bears Only Now or on Instagram, on TikTok, and as well as YouTube. And I also have a link tree in the bio, in which I have a website that I set up and do sessions. If anybody would like to book a session, I also do a consultation before a session to see if we're a good fit. So you don't have to worry about feeling like you'll be wasting your money or anything. And that's it. Thank you.
SPEAKER_04Thank you. Um, Howard, hey, Howard says everyone is different, guys. We must understand each other. That's the problem. Um Howard said, people are influenced now by social media. Oh my god. Smack said you can't expect your other half to be fit and you looking like Barney.
SPEAKER_05They look how they want, but they want their significant other to be looking like uh the person in their damn dreams. Like the person in their dreams, that's what they want their person to look like, but they allowed to walk around here looking like what the fuck.
SPEAKER_04Listen, the link is I'm gonna drop it in the chat again. Um, and I love what Talib said about people. This question is just you know, if you're still pondering and or maybe you figured out what it is that you expect from yourself, you'll just pop in and let us know. Um, I love to hear your thoughts about you, you know, what you expect from you. Hell, maybe what you expect from yourself is something that I need to consider for me, right? You know, maybe you have something that you thought about that I haven't thought about for myself, but again, I will reach out.
SPEAKER_00You got the ultimate superpower, yo. If you if you can actually do self-reflection, then you good.
SPEAKER_04Oh, I do it all the time.
SPEAKER_00You know how powerful, you know. I mean, you know, that's why everybody out here blaming everybody and putting fingers in everybody's business, right? Because they can't do no self-reflection.
SPEAKER_04You see what all the time.
SPEAKER_00Think about when I did that heavy gym show, everybody who came up there was asking me about something that was going on in the world, and and and every one of it ended with them getting help about what was going on in their life. Because nobody wants to do no self-reflection, because self-reflection means what responsibility, yeah.
SPEAKER_04You gotta have accountability, nobody wants to face bussy, right? That's just who I am, and and you know what? It's so programmed that my mind, as soon as something happens, it automatically triggers going in, repeat it. It's like repetitive. What could you have done better? What could you do differently?
SPEAKER_07Yes, yeah.
SPEAKER_04My mind doesn't go, oh, them and they and duh and duh.
SPEAKER_05Yeah, my I don't necessarily blame other people like immediately. I look at and see what I've done wrong. I always like to look at myself and see what I've done. That could have been something, and then I weigh it too.
SPEAKER_04I weigh it to see if it's even worth going through the motions for. No, okay, well, let it go.
SPEAKER_05I feel like how that's how a lot of people get into like bad situations or any situations, they just react without actually thinking about it first. You know what I'm saying? Like I'm I'm not a just a react person. I'm gonna that's probably like Sai said, I be thinking too much shit. I done went around, I done thought so much about it. I'm about to not even do it at this point sometimes. Like I talk about let's go, let's go wrong, let's do it, let's go. Nah, I gotta think too much about it. Yeah, your person too much how we're howard.
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SPEAKER_06Yes, you give me a fighting chance.
SPEAKER_04Oh my god, this was an awesome check-in, even though our audience is very solid. I mean, I didn't mean to throw y'all off with this question, I just knew everybody was gonna have their list of things because I sure got my list of things. I do it often. But you know what? I love to check in this show. Um, how many of y'all always leave off just in self reflection after the show? Or you thought about any or if not everything we've said here, and then came back and said, Oh my god, I should have typed this and I should have typed that, or you know what I mean. Maybe not even that. Maybe you just became an overall better person when you left the check in. Is it anybody that had that experience in the chat where you just learned something and you just was like, whoa, I feel better. I feel renewed. I can take some of this stuff and apply it to my life. Is it anyone?
SPEAKER_05You know what? Even if it doesn't happen right now, you know, something later on happens where it comes back to them, like, you know what? I what we say comes back to them. Like, let me reflect on this. You know what I'm saying? So it might not happen right this moment, but I guarantee y'all, it will happen to y'all later on if it hasn't already.
SPEAKER_04Has it happened to you, Toya?
SPEAKER_05It happens to me all the time. All the time.
SPEAKER_04I know one thing. Look, some of the stuff to live be saying about people, I start to notice it. I'm like, wait a minute. I be looking like, oh well, hold on. He said that was gonna happen, and this they was gonna behave like this. I can't remember the situation, but I was just sitting there, like, oh shoot, this is a Talib moment right here that I'm having with this person. I don't get it. Oh, they need to watch the check-in, they need some help.
SPEAKER_00I think it's just a matter of time for the show becomes more popular live. I noticed that people like to go back after you've gone live, and then I'll be seeing like that's where the numbers really start hitting that, you know. And um, I think people are gonna start, and then you know, you do this thing where you be like, you know, 730-ish.
SPEAKER_04Yeah, we'll be on CP top.
SPEAKER_01You know what I'm saying? Like you throw people for a little bit of a loop, you know what I mean? Well, she says 7:30 is so I'll check around nine.
SPEAKER_04Look, 7:30 p.m. ish means between 7:30 and 8 o'clock, we we coming, you know. I make up nine ain't right, you know, and and listen, y'all. You know, one of the one listen, me and Toya having the same color on, like every show is not an expectation. We just happen to pop on like this.
SPEAKER_05Y'all, this happens all the time, it doesn't even matter, like it happens all the time. I think it's a cancer thing, like it happens all the time, y'all. We always have this same color to a nine times out of ten.
SPEAKER_04Yeah, it's wild.
SPEAKER_00It shows that y'all are really good friends, and you like we be in two, like yeah, we're even without even with our um other friend Kiva, she's a cancer too.
SPEAKER_05So we like when we come around each other in um age of two, we it's like four of us. We come with the same colors and same coaching, it's ridiculous. Like what we was in each other's closets or something, it's ridiculous, but uh it's cool though.
SPEAKER_04Yeah, it is cool, it's nice to have camaraderie, you know. But back to the topic, what do you expect from yourself? I hope everybody enjoyed you. Still have time to get on. This is gonna officially be a two-hour show. Um, thank you, Smack. So, uh in the mix radio will be airing the check-in starting March 23rd, 12 o'clock to 2 p.m. Um, you could pop in and listen. We should say listen during your Monday lunch.
SPEAKER_05We might have to do another one because I don't know what was going on with today's show. I don't know. We might have to do another show. I don't know.
SPEAKER_04The universe did not want us to talk about what do you expect from yourself?
SPEAKER_05Listen, y'all, it was crazy, it was a crazy start of the show. I could tell y'all that, but it was.
SPEAKER_04I didn't know what was happening.
SPEAKER_05She kept happy within the show, and then like shit behind the scenes is happening. I'm just like over it this time. Like, I appreciate y'all all for tuning in. But this was this has been a crazy show today.
SPEAKER_04I just like uh yeah, we just genuinely appreciate you. We hope that you enjoyed this topic. We hope if you didn't say anything tonight, that you will go home and really sit down and think about what you expect from yourself. I think I think it's worth doing. I think this is a topic and exercise worth doing, and then once you figure out what you expect from yourself, get to work on it, right?
SPEAKER_05Right, get to work seriously.
SPEAKER_04You know, one to work.
SPEAKER_05One thing I don't know if we said this, but um, talking positive to yourself. I think a lot of people don't do that, they have they talk real negative to themselves. Start speaking positivity into your lives, positive thoughts, positive, just just do that. I think it's really important.
SPEAKER_00I would feel like you know, she's right though. She's right, she's right, she's 100% correct. She's a hundred. We have most people break down from their negative self-talk. Yes, you know, so you do have to talk to yourself very positively. Your mind does respond to that. You you have to start talking to yourself better, and the easiest way to do it is all you have to do is do this before you respond, just ask yourself this simple question is what I'm about to say in service to me, or does it make me a victim? Right, because we've we've intellectualized victimhood here. The more intellect, the better your story about why you're a victim is, the more acceptable it is. And we've gotten real good but explaining why we're the victim.
SPEAKER_04I totally agree. Justina says she's right, and some people don't talk to themselves at all. Well, we were taught not to talk to ourselves because you would be crazy if you did.
SPEAKER_05Crazy, but I talk to myself all the time. Are you kidding me? They say you would talk to yourself, but don't answer yourself. No, I'm doing both of them. Sorry.
SPEAKER_00And and and remember, talking to yourself like it's also what it means is not literally also just you know, or it's called digital auditory. That's when you talk out loud your thoughts. You know, I got a mother that does that, she'd be like, Man, what the fuck was that?
SPEAKER_05You gotta replay it sometime, you gotta replay it out loud.
SPEAKER_00Like, but everybody has this form of self-talk to where if you're doing something, you don't feel you're doing good at it. This oh man, what are you failing? This is not this not going good. Oh, you now the self-talk begins. Everybody has some form of it, it's not necessarily words in your head, it's this internal dialogue or conversation that occurs that makes you start questioning what's happening, right? I agree with you, you're 100% right.
SPEAKER_04Be realistic, right? Right, you have to be very realistic with yourself. I i find that people are so grandiose in their thoughts about them that they really never go in and address anything. I am the best, I am this, I am oh, oh yeah.
SPEAKER_00Peach, those aren't people that actually believe that, those are people that proclaim that because they need the theater so that they can believe it themselves. And that's it's it's it's like people who's always complaining about other people and how stupid they are. Look at this idiot, he's a fool. That person's a more haunted, they don't know how to weigh the table. This is they look at it, look at the psychology, it's twofold, right? What are they inadvertently saying? If I say you're stupid because you can't do A, B, or C, what am I saying about myself on the opposite end? That I'm not right.
SPEAKER_05They think they're right, they're smart.
SPEAKER_00So so now what do they have? So when you see someone who's constantly doing that, what they're trying to do is use the physical world around them to reinforce something about themselves they don't believe.
SPEAKER_04So they validate themselves. Exactly. Well, listen, get real and get right. Get real with you.
SPEAKER_00But if you really believe that, that's what you're gonna experience. Okay, there's this you can look this up. There is a common denominator. They did a they did they did a uh research, a scientific research to on luck to find out if there was any kind of way we can actually measure that, or could it be you know, study, right? And they found a common denominator when they measured luck with people, and they found this. Everyone who is lucky believes they are lucky. There are no accidental lucky people who don't believe they're lucky that is lucky, so you your mind is gonna do whatever it can to produce what you think is happening, right? Right, you see what I'm saying? So that's why you don't ever go in to win something thinking about well, I could lose.
SPEAKER_04Right, right, right. No, I'm a winner. There you right, you see, yes, I'm a winner. I'm going in a matter of fact, when we get off here, I'm going to the casino. I'm a winner.
SPEAKER_05I know that's right.
SPEAKER_04I'm just lying. I ain't going to no damn casino.
SPEAKER_05Well, I can start thinking I'm lucky more often than oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_04Yeah, thank you for joining us, Justina Howard. We had a few new people popping in.
SPEAKER_05I know, I ain't heard those names before.
SPEAKER_04Yeah, I'm feeling blessed, I'm feeling good. Yes, but this is what I expect. I expect the check-in and turn to do well. I expect to impact people to change their lives. Yes, I'm adding that to my expectations list. Expect it, yes. Yes, I expect it. Come on, Toya. What else do we expect? What do we expect? Yo, y'all expect to be outside.
SPEAKER_05Piers expect to be said we expect to be outside. It's about to be it's about to be busy, y'all.
SPEAKER_04I don't expect we might have to go outside this week to an event at the Marsden house. It's gonna be some um entertainers there, and I think we might have to pop in there and check in with these entertainers, female artists from Delaware and other spaces, and ask them, you know, what did they expect from themselves that got them to where they are today?
SPEAKER_05Oh, maybe we'll record a couple of them and then put them, yes, you know, expectations.
SPEAKER_04We used to do that a lot, yeah. What did they do? What did they say? What was the inner wording, you know, to get them to where they are that made them believe that they can do what they're doing?
SPEAKER_00You left out two important questions whenever you want to model someone's behavior, and that's how and why. Okay, why did they do it that way? Right for you. How did they come up with that? You know, what was their process? You want to model the processes, the things behind what you see them doing. So that goes into how they were thinking about what they did. And if you approach something from how they are thinking about it, you'll get the same results they did.
SPEAKER_04Okay, so let's ask ourselves that to you. Uh Howard said, I expect for you guys to be on time. He's talking about us being on time next week. We said 7:30-ish. He said, No, you better be there at 7:30.
SPEAKER_05We said 7:30-ish. Oh my god, we was having technical difficulties today, Howard.
SPEAKER_04Howard is a trip. Um, so listen, we hear you. Let's ask ourselves that question. How did we come up with the check it? Like, why and how? Why expectation?
SPEAKER_05Yes, we the expectation was to voice.
SPEAKER_00What was what was the assumption?
SPEAKER_05The assumption.
SPEAKER_04Well, the assumption was when I had the conversation with Mayback, is that people really don't go inside themselves and check in, right? And so, how are we gonna get these people to do that? Maybe we should have a live stream where we have topics asking people to go inside themselves and give us an answer, and you assume that it would work. Yeah, we assumed.
SPEAKER_00We assume that's how it always starts with an assumption. Go ahead, Peach. I'm muting.
SPEAKER_04Howard said uh 7 30 p.m. ish doesn't work. I'm sorry, however. I'm sorry you feel that way, Howard. Go ahead, Talib. Finish up your thought.
SPEAKER_00No, no, I was finished actually. I was like, you know, uh, you guys on the road. I'm just I'm just sitting here. I'm glad I'm I'm allowed to be here longer than 60 seconds.
SPEAKER_01You got part of the ass.
SPEAKER_00I mean, why do you say 60 seconds though? That seems you know a little like I guess no, no. You know what? That's clever. That's actually super smart because then people be thinking 60 seconds. Like, let me get let me just get to the point, and then you can get them to get around trying to. Yeah, that's great, very smart. Y'all got 60 seconds up here.
SPEAKER_04Yep, oh my god. So listen, y'all don't got the hows and why so why we created the check-in. Y'all got to hear a little bit more about me. Oh my god, I shared a lot of me. I told you the time and space where I had to literally expect more from myself, and I can honestly say I see the fruits of my labor from doing that. My life is um, I live a uh a good life, I do think it can be better, and I expect it to be better. I'm expecting greatness from myself um until this day, and I'm always working on me, it's always about the self. Um, you also got to hear about my new my relationship with life and how much I love life, and I'm hoping that we can you know have a great journey, but if not, I'll be back on this live stream expecting myself to attract someone outside of life, right? Because life gotta keep going, but no, for right now, I'm happy with you, life. I love you dearly, life, right? Um, and Toya also shared her expectations of herself. We also talked about, you know, what we expect from others, and sometimes we gotta stop doing this, stop pointing at the finger and do this, yes, point to ourselves, point to ourselves, and we also share with you guys that we are now going to be syndicated on radio to radio, yes, wow, in the mix radio. So Toy and Agua will be popping up multiple places, we'll be popping up on Amazon, we'll be popping up. Wow, Spotify will be popping up, iHeart will be popping up in some major spots. Also, get to the mobile app and begin to read some of the articles. Like you watch the check-in. We also have check-in articles. What we discuss here tonight, an article is created, and you get to read, you know, and you get to learn some things that way, too. We also have some awesome merch based off our topics, like you know, um our favorite one, bye. You know, that was a good show. Um, was that our first show? No, I'm not sure what our first show was, and then we got the bye bitch by mugs, we got by bitch by tops. Yeah, uh, we got the fuck your fuck your type, I'm it, t-shirts, all of that stuff, all the lovely things that we discuss here, all the fun, lovely things. So, again, continue to support, like, and share the check in. Um, again, what I'm gonna play the commercial again, then I'm gonna take us out. Please scan the QR code that's up there on that commercial. If you can just get it quickly so you can download the radio app and listen to us from 12 to 2 on Sunday. Everything you hear here now is what you'll hear on that actual um programming. So don't worry, Toya. It's gonna be all right because um they have to put the drops in so they'll catch um all the little quirks that happen tonight. I don't know. It was like this, they were like, No, we don't want y'all to get nobody to go inside themselves. I don't know, but um, Toya, is there anything that you like to say?
SPEAKER_05Um, um same go just go um follow our pages, y'all. Um, the YouTube pages. Make sure you just keep updated with everything we got going on. Kish just mentioned um the merch. Go get your merch, y'all, because that's some funny shit that that's in your merch. I'll tell you. You're gonna be like, where you get that from? Let them know you got it from us, y'all. Check in. All right, um, just stay updated, share, share, share, y'all. We want to reach as many people as we can because if it ain't you, it's someone else who needs to look inside themselves, and who else who may have some questions as well who want to come on and chat it up with us. So just make sure y'all share it, y'all. And I just appreciate everyone who is coming on. The um new people are returned, um, guests as well. We appreciate y'all taking out the time and just checking in with us. Appreciate y'all.
SPEAKER_04All right. Well, until then, I will see you on Friday for the Peach Edition check-in. That was awesome. Um, if you missed that episode, please um go to my page. I talked about getting to the bag, it was hilarious because I have gotten to the bag in so many different ways. Um, it's clips on my page. I actually talked about me trying to be a stripper for like 10 minutes and how it didn't work out, but either way, watch all the check-in shows. Hopefully, we brighten your Sunday and your Friday. Um, y'all have an awesome, awesome night. We're gonna stay tuned and don't go nowhere because I'm gonna play the check-in commercial and then we are out. Um, see y'all next Sunday. Me and Toya will see y'all next Sunday. Hi, Angie baby. Bye. All right, y'all.
SPEAKER_05Have a good night. Stay safe, y'all.