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SPEAKER_01 0:00

This is another episode of Seven Smoke Cigar Table Talk Yeah Here in the Seven Smoke Virtual Labers Non Smokers my novice and my connoisseurs All my B O T And all my S O T L Seven Smoke Cigars Present Cigar Table Talk What's Happening Everybody Let's Get What's Good What's Good We're Here We're Back Another Week Another Monday of Seven Smoke Cigar Table Talk We're Here Live And then Color Man Uh Our New Look Of course You know Shout To Uh To Mr. Bird, I Am Bird for the New Look. You know I'm Saying Uh We Can We Able To Do A Lot More A Lot More When It Comes To Having Visitors Or Guests On the Show. We Don't Have To Be In the Same Room Now. We Can Be Yeah Yeah You See It You Move Around A Little All So That's What We Got Go, Man. It's Another Monday. Another Monday. We're Grateful To Be Here. Another Episode of Seven Smoke Cigar Table Talk, Man. I'm Cigar Law. You know I'm Do It By Myself. I'm Here My Guys, My Capre. You know I'm Sain The One That Is Here. You know I'm Saints? So the Cleanest One Oh Man.

SPEAKER_03 1:38

I I Thought You Were Talking My Self, But Young Bull. What You're Young Bull in the House, Baby.

SPEAKER_01 1:45

Yeah, Young Bull, Baby. You got Me, B Y R D Bird. Okay. Okay. We got West Side Jimmy. He's Me right now, too. Uh, But I Man, I I I But Roung Bull, Nephew Shy Popped Up Dressed For Success. Yeah, He said Something So Amazing To Me I said I Ask him, Wait, Wait, You Look Good. Where You Coming From? He said, Man, I just love a government meeting. Like, come on, dog. Like, that is that's that's that's what you want around you right there. You can you can you can expand expand off that right there. You can you can, you know what I'm saying? That that that feeds your soul, you know, that feeds your soul, inspiring a government meeting. I don't even I ain't even asking what type of government meeting, it don't even matter. It's the fact that you was in that room. You were in that freaking room, baby. You know what I'm saying? So, hey man, yeah, it's a secret aside. Yes, you were in that room. That's that's the big thing about it, man. Young, young Joker doing it like that, man. I love it. Uh uh I I I expect it, so that's why I ain't gonna say I'm proud of you. I'm just happy for you. So you know what I'm saying? So you know what I'm saying. Keep doing what you're doing, brother. Keep uh keep walking into them rooms, man, because they're talking about you in a good way. You know what I'm saying? Talking about it in a good way. So keep showing showing what you show, doing what you do, babe. Uh you know, I'm I'm your biggest fan. I'm your biggest fan for sure, you know what I'm saying? So keep pushing, baby. I got you back, whatever you need, man. You already thank you. Yes, sir. Yes, sir, yes, sir, yes, sir. Yes, sir. But uh, you know, I ain't gonna I ain't gonna hold y'all too much on that. We're gonna we're gonna check some temperatures while we're in here. We're gonna we got a good little uh topic tonight. Make sure y'all like, share, and tad because this is gonna be a relationship night. A relationship night, y'all. We're gonna talk about some relationship stuff uh that's based on that can help the relationship. Um you may disagree or agree, but however, um it's it's something that goes on in relationships. So we're gonna we're gonna talk about it and see how we can all depict the difference between the man and the woman. Uh so we usually try to get you know conversations that's all based on everybody, unisect, you know, uh, because it all matters. Everybody, everybody matters in in the walks of lives and everything that we're in. So we're gonna jump into that, and then that's gonna be a good night of conversation right there for sure. Uh and that that I don't know if Bird got the topic like that, but the topic is relationship, respect, and real communication. Relationships, respect, and real communications, umbrella of this, the little these little uh angles that we're gonna we're gonna use, these angles tonight. We're gonna use angles, but the umbrella is relationships, respect, and real communication. Um, but before we get to that right there, what up, Shannon? I see your boy. Uh we're gonna we're gonna we're gonna we're gonna uh take these temperatures real quick. You know what I'm saying? We ain't got too many on here, but uh y'all that's tuning in and chiming in, y'all make sure uh y'all let us know uh what's your temperature, how you feeling today, what's what's what's going on with you, you know what I'm saying? Where you're mental at right now, you know what I'm saying? So we'll start off with uh with the with the young bull, where you at? Where you where you where you mental at, baby?

SPEAKER_03 4:47

Uh man, uh I was at an eight all day, but since I got them live, man, like I'm at a 10. I'm at a 10, I'm at a 10.

SPEAKER_01 4:54

Hey, if I don't if I don't pump you up, shy, uh I what am I here for, baby? If I ain't gonna pump you up, man, you know what I'm saying? That's what we lacking, man. People think, man, no, that's that's not I'm gonna pump that joke up. I'm gonna live by character through that joke right there. All my guys, all my loved ones, I'm gonna pump them up, man. That's what I do. That's what I'm gonna continue to do. So I'm gonna I wanna I wanna feel how you feel. And it even if I ain't even there or in the present, I wanna feel that excitement that you feeling. I want to look, I wanna look important like you look. You know what I'm saying? That's why I feel like I'm there, baby. Like reading a book, man. Like reading a book, but I'm reading my people. Read my people. So, so uh, that's what's up, man. You at an eight. Okay, you and you came up on uh when we got on the live. That's what's up, baby. That's good, that's good, that's good, that's good. That's good. I am buried. Where you at, babe? 10 all day. Oh, I I thought you were I thought you were cold. I thought you were fro. Nah, man. I feel yeah, I feel good, been doing good. How you doing? Uh thankful for all the blessings that's been coming through.

SPEAKER_05 6:01

I have zero.

SPEAKER_01 6:05

They will continue to come through, but make sure that. Uh all I want to see everybody win, mike. All I want to see everybody win. I want to see everybody win, man. So that's good. That's good. Got some gigs in line. Yeah, man. I got plenty.

SPEAKER_05 6:24

Enter in the first standard. Yeah, man.

SPEAKER_01 6:27

Got enough lined up. So that's the blessing. That's good. That's good. That's good. That's what it's about. That's what's about. That's what's about. I'm glad. I'm glad. I'm happy, man, for your show. Like I said, uh, West Side Jimmy uh is on a uh on on a um in a meeting right now, but he's he's present. Uh oh. Oh, that's uh that's shy. My bad. I know what that was. I said, oh shoot, the feds listening. Uh but uh but no, uh yeah, Jimmy's on the uh in the in the beat business meeting right now, so uh he won't hear he'll catch on later on. But uh I'm gonna go ahead and go with my my mental, my uh my temperature today right now is it's it's been a it's been a long day, but good. I got my butt on up and did my little workout like I supposed to at 5 a.m. Which hurt. Driving there and driving from there hurt. I tell you that. Just my my feeling, my my mental, I was hurt. Not it was a good workout, too. I I was tired, but I was I was hurt the fact that I I'm sleeping and don't want to go to work. Don't I don't want to do nothing but lay down after that workout. Before going there, I just want not to be going there. I want to be laying down still. So both going and coming, I was I was based, I was I was my mental was like I was tired. I wanted to lay down, I wanted to go to sleep. But but you gotta fight through it, man. So I started out with that. That always helped my day. Um always helped my day. And so uh I it went it was a smooth day today for sure. Got some things done that I need to get done, catch up on because I was gone all last week um to the conference. So uh I'm back this week, full effect, man, and and hit the ground running this morning, man. So uh I'm blessed. My my temperature, I say I'm at a good 12 right now. 12 right now for sure. Uh still got deadlines. I gotta get things done, but I'm not gonna stretch that because I it's up to me to get it done and nobody else. So uh I'm good. So I'm at a 12 for sure, for sure. Happy 12, happy 12. We're gonna jump into our cigar moment real quick. If you're smoking a cigar, if you you're patterned with something, let us know what you're smoking on, what you're patterning it with. Uh, we'll love to hear what you got. Um, you know what I'm saying? This is part of the cigar moment. This is Seven Smoke Cigar Table Talk. But however, we talk about real life situations and questions and answers that everybody uh look for at times. So please feel free to know that. Uh and uh let us know what you're smoking on and sipping on. All right. So uh I'm I'm probably the only one smoking on my um on my end. Um so uh we're gonna we're gonna we're gonna keep moving like that right there for sure. Uh Shy buying flowers look like. I see you watch. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Bird, he he I don't think he's gonna smoke as a vapor tonight because he's indoors, so he ain't gonna be going. Well, uh but uh I'm gonna go ahead and break it down, man. Seven smoke cigar, uh, the cigar moment. Um I am cigar law is smoking a oh shoot. I do got some special. What you got then why it's smoking? Oh, I don't know. Okay, I got some got something special coming soon. It's uploading it. Okay, but okay, it's a beta tester right here. Yes, sir. Yes, sir. Yes, sir. That was part of the conversation we that was part of the conversation we had at uh at Knicks. But you you and uh you and uh uh uh uh Tony Breed. Yeah. So yeah. Okay, I can tell you like uh it's for beginners and women. That's my target. So that's it. That's all you wanna tell me. Yeah, put you in the mind of like a fat bottom bedded, Tatiana kind of thing. But it's my own thing. So I'm gonna come up with a name real soon. Um one that I wanna stick to. I got a few, but one that I'm gonna stick to officially. Okay. It's okay. It gotta be the one you stick to. It's gonna be your own. That's gonna be your baby. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Yeah. I I cut I custom smoke, I smoke smoke seven smoke cigars, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, I know there's other brands out there that I've I've grown to love and in my top fives. But however, uh, I feel like seven smoke cigars is one of the one, it ain't no ain't no slouch, man. It's a top dog. And it's it's and it and it's been sent off and been rated.

unknown 11:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 11:06

Top top 90s. You know what I'm saying? Rated 97, and I ain't just making that up. It rated 97, the chapter one, the ambiance, uh, the seven blends, and so much more flavor and and and and and and and love is inside this bad boy, man. Uh, shout out to the team, you know what I'm saying? We all put our perspective in on our best leaf. Uh, or yeah, our region of um, our region of tobacco. And Tony Breeze, who's a who's a magician, he put one. You know, he put it all in one stick. How does the communication style differ? All right, that's one we're gonna chime in, and then we got the other one would be uh what respects look like in a relationship. What does respect look like in a relationship? So those are two good powerful topics uh that we can we can or angles rather we can we can chime in on and and uh and uh you know we build from each other. Pour into each other's cup, baby. Iron sharpened iron. You know, we here for everybody. We here for everybody. You heard me? So yeah, yeah. Y'all like sharing tag, though. Like sharing tag. It's about to go down in a major way, baby. We we're here live, seven smoke cigar table talk. Um, we back. We had some technical difficulties, but we here. We back. We don't give up on that. You heard me? Shout out to Bird, man, for for figuring that thing out. He always does. Uh hats off to him always. You know what I'm saying? You know, shout out to my young bull. That boy, that boy went from Superman to cigar man, god dang it. Yes, uh, he just had a suit on out of the back, man. That's what I'm talking about. Yes, sir. Yes, sir, Nip. That's what I'm talking about. Yeah, man. Shout out from thank y'all for being here, man. Y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all bless me when I see y'all every time, for sure, for sure. Um, this past weekend, I will jump into that. We'll pass weekend we had the uh blueberry festival in Vedasta, Georgia. Uh, the blueberry festival. Uh, it was it seemed like it was a success. Uh walking down the street, you know what I'm saying? Seeing my nephew coming down, walking down, looking like a movie star, walking down the alley, y'all. Y'all, y'all just see. It's like slow motion, bird. Hey, bird. It was like slow motion, bird, bird. Joker had these these these shades on. You know, he was fresh. Walking down that bad boy, like he owned the city with a cigar. It already been lit, so that the smell lingered all the way past him, dog. It was like that the cigar was already lit. That's more like like a movie stuff, man. I was like, I was happy to shake his hand, bro. I was like, uh damn, man. They go like a I was like a grouping, man. But yeah, you know, MPC walked down that walk down that I mean that alley, like that joke right there, boy. He where he found this self, man. That you look good, man. So salute to your hats off to you, brother. You know what I'm saying? That's the young bull right there for sure, yo. That's the young bull right there, man. Doing making his way, making his way. Making his way. You know what I'm saying? I love that. I love to see that. I love to see it, man. But yeah, yeah, you you keep shining, bro. That light on the out uh uh inside don't shine bright. I mean, it shines brighter than the outlight on the outside. Just know that. For sure for sure. Keep on doing your thing, brother. Keep on doing it, man. It's gonna pay off for sure, for sure. You already you already got the golden ticket for sure. You got that. Keep running it up, baby. Running it up, running up, and don't settle for nothing. Yes, indeed, yes, indeed. Man, but yeah, we here, baby. We here, we here, we're here, we're here. Uh, like sharing tag. If you like sharing tag, man, like I said, the conversation for tonight will be relationships, uh relationships, respect, and real communication. Relationships, respect and real communication, that's the overall uh umbrella. Uh, but the angles that we'll we'll face tonight will be uh how communication styles are different and uh what respect looks like in a relationship. All right, let's get this thing rolling, babe. Let's go. Let's go, let's go, let's go. So when you think about the different styles of communication, what what comes to mind? Ah, man, you talking about verbal, non-verbal. Uh or you if you you if you if you communicating, uh, you having pillow talks or having them talks on a regular basis uh at night before you go to bed, is it something like that, or you just communicate over the phone because I ain't never there. Like you gotta take basis off of, I'm thinking you gotta base it off of if I'm present or if I'm not present. But we can still talk if I'm not present. But it's like based on you know how I feel, how you feel, you know. Uh let's see, let's see, let's see. You know, um, you gotta know your partner to know that. You know what I'm saying? You gotta know your partner to know that, know that, know that know the answer to that question right there. Like, you know, it's it differs based on whoever uh and based on their relationship, I think. You know what I'm saying? But you like I said, you got the non-verbal, you got the verbal. Um you do you sit down and have the communication? I mean, just have a have a just just have a talk. Do you sit on the back porch and just have a conversation with your with your spouse, your significant other, you know what I'm saying? Or you lay in the bed before going to bed, having the pillow talk and all that good stuff. So it's you know, uh uh, or can you read your partner? Can she can your partner read you? You know what I'm saying? Knowing if knowing you had a bad day based on how you your appearance, you look, you know, reading that stuff, which is good. That's not that's a that's a gift right there. You can read your partner, you can tell there's something going on. Tell me what's going on. I see you. Something something on you, what's you what's on your mind? Like I love that. I love the how your day been. Because you are I see how you're looking right now. You just seem like you had a long day or you had a long moment. So, you know, paying attention, paying attention, that's the main thing. Paying attention to your partner, to your spouse, to your other. That's that's that's very important. That's what it is. That's what it's about. You know what I'm saying? Paying attention, knowing what they like, knowing what they dislikes, knowing when something's going on without him saying a single word. You know what I'm saying? So that's very important, I think. That's what it is, Bird. But Bird, he uh he's buffering again. I don't know what's going on. Oh, dang. It might be bird, y'all. I know I just lied, probably lied about this this whole uh I have business internet. The restream thing. It might be bird, y'all. I'm just saying I'm nipping. And I just paid. He don't hear me right now, I'm sure. I need my money bike. It might be bird connection, y'all. Oh, dang you. Bird is a blame for everything that goes on. You hear me? Can you hear me? Well, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Y'all like sharing tab, like sharing tab. But anyway, uh, what's up, what's going on, uh Pops? Uh, Kylie, Evan, what's good, what's good, what's good? Thank y'all for joining us. Y'all like sharing tab, please sharing tab. We're trying to build this thing up, man. Relationships, relationships, respect, and real communication. Relationship, respect, and real communication. There you go, Bird. You back? You hear me? I was talking. Yeah, he now. Yeah, but you we ain't hear you. You are you a buffering, brother. Jesus. Not this. No, it ain't because everybody else wasn't buffering but you, buddy. We would have him come sit without you. We would have him come sit without you. Yeah, but no one heard you. Guess what that means? You know what it boils down to? I'ma check this playback later. We're gonna find out. Oh man, but yeah, we're gonna we're gonna dive into it. This is a dive into this thing, man. Uh, you heard me talking about that uh whole what I think the question you asked. You know what I'm saying? I answered that. Yeah, yeah, you heard all right the whole time. Yeah. Okay, so good. So what what do you think then? That was my that was my spill on it. What do you think? Answer your own question on that one. What's your style? Is what you're saying? Because I know you went through different peripherals of Yeah, I went through I you asked me what it uh what was the question what's the original question? Well, I was just saying to expound on like you know, what's the difference uh style of communications and you went through them? Yeah, yeah, so like I said, non-verbal, you know, knowing your spouse. At the end of the day, I think it all boils down to paying attention to your spouse or your or your snitchy other, who, whoever you're dealing with, paying attention to them. You knew you'll know, you'll know how they're feeling, or you'll know if something's wrong, or something bothered them, or something on their mind, or they or they're thinking about something real heavy, based on, you know, it don't have to be verbal. It can be you just look at them. You can watch them, watch, watch their moves. You know, watch how they do certain things that they ain't used to doing, you hear me? So it's like it's like one of them type of things. You gotta just pay attention, being being attentive to your significant other. And they don't have to say a word, and guess what? You can still be a fixer. Yeah. Even if they don't say nothing. You know what I'm saying? For my style.

SPEAKER_03 20:19

For me, I don't have my previous. I'll put a second. I done had like, uh-huh. Go ahead. No, um I was just gonna say, like, I done had like relationships where the person was an emotional communicator, but I done also had one whose verbal is hit. Like, I'm talking about verbal, but like then just to pick it back on for a long set, it's all about the person though. Um, like the communication stamina could vary, but it's depending on the person, though. Like you could try to open up to somebody, but at the end of the day, it's gonna go off on how they feel and who they are.

SPEAKER_01 20:59

Yeah, for sure. Yeah, yeah. So, oh man, you just it's based on the person, on based on how they take it. Uh yeah, he did. He said he did. Yeah, he did. That's I think uh I'm a verbal communicator with anybody, like any relationship. Like, if I feel something, I'm gonna say something. And that's the only way I know how to do it. Because I need to address it right now because you might can help me and tell me that I'm wrong about how I'm feeling. And cool. And I might be right, and I need you to correct that right now. I feel this way, so I need you to stop doing that because I feel this way. No, vice versa. Like what uh just said the emotional communicator. I get that a lot, so I gotta pick up on what I see like 15 minutes ago when I was talking. Until you was all happy and cool. 30 minutes later, you got an attitude. It ain't because of me. You see, we got a problem. What happened? Yeah. Talk to me. What's going on? And sometimes deflect from it. Like, it's not that. It's you. No, it's not me. I didn't hear nothing. What's going on? So I gotta pull that out of her or whatever a lot of times until eventually you tell me what's going on. Right. And it uh like that pulling teeth, dog. Like when you know you know something wrong, you know something wrong. And you you you you shrug it off. That the the significant other shrug it off, but you've paid attention enough to know something's wrong. Something's ain't right. Your energy ain't there like it. Well, yeah, your whole aura, bro. Yeah, exactly. But you're gonna sit here and tell me ain't nothing wrong. And then guess what? Guess what happens? Usually happens. Four or five hours later. Give you the whole thing. When I don't want to talk about it, I don't want to talk about none of that. I don't want to talk about none of that right now. Now you wanna say, well, you know, earlier, oh now I'm in a I'm in a good mood. Now you just brought my mood out of the way. You just you just took away my my my my happy space right now because I know I did my part by asking. I asked multiple times. I don't just ask one time. Because if I ask that one time, I'm guess what I'm gonna do, keep doing paying attention to you. Without you even knowing, I'm I'm looking at you, I'm paying attention to you, your moves, and and what you're doing, and you know, your facial expressions and all this crazy stuff. You know, you you you you if you you you know you know. You know if something, you know you, you know your spouse, you know your significant other, if you pay attention to it. It's all about being paying attention. So if five hours later, are we going out within that whole time span? We we at dinner now because we I'm gonna have I'm gonna have a good time, get some drinks, and we get some good food, and now you want to talk about what the problem was. No, but I love my appetite. I love appetite. I I love appetite. I'm I'm I'm done. I don't I love my appetite. I'm like, but yeah, but I'm gonna but but I'm gonna lose my appetite, but I'm gonna still hear you out. But you know, you know that that's that it's a thing. A lot of people don't always talk about it. Uh that's another part of compromising, I guess. Like, yes, man. I wanted to be chilling right now and be good, but now you want to talk. I asked you five hours ago, you said it was nothing, you pushed it off, you tried to blame me, etc. etc. Whatever. Like you just and now you want to talk about it. And it's just like in my head, I gotta consider it, bro. Just listen, just listen because one thing you don't want to do is cut nobody off. When anybody, friends, family, in your relationship, don't cut people off. When it's their time they want to talk, just listen. It's the same thing for me. I know sometimes I'm random. I can be a little random sometimes. Yeah, you are you need you to hear me. Yeah, I just need you to hear me right now. Like, cause this is my realm. Yeah, I didn't say it. I want to get through it real quick. Like, make sure I ain't tripping. So, you know, that that's how it be. I'm random. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 25:37

That's exactly how I ain't too. That's how I was. Like, I'm like, I y'all, it took me like some years to really get where I'm at. Like, I used to be verbal. I used to be like so verbal, so over the edge at communicating, but now, like, me and her, like, we do like a 10-minute break. If something ain't going right, something ain't going the way I want them to go, like, hey, baby, we need 10 minutes. We need 10 minutes, 10 minute break. That's good, bro.

SPEAKER_01 26:02

That's good. That's good. That's good. It's crazy. Pop said something similar. He said, him and him and his wife, they've been together over 25, 30 years. They've been at Barry. And he said, uh, oh, we don't go, we don't go more than an hour.

SPEAKER_05 26:15

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 26:15

Oh, that's that's rule. That's rule. We don't it don't it don't last more than an hour. Whatever it is, it ain't gonna last over an hour. Give me more than an hour. My damn mind will want to. If you got 45 minutes to to to calm down, you got 15 minutes to talk about it. We ain't going over the hour, baby. You know what I'm saying? So I and that what you just said, shy, like, you know, you y'all get your 10 minutes. That's that's respect and y'all know each other. That's all y'all need. That's that's good. That's real good, man. Respecting each other's boundaries on that on that scene. Because truth be told, when you when you're when you're in a household together with somebody, man, ain't no boundaries because y'all are amongst each other. So if y'all can give that, give that that 10 minutes. I know I recognize my man, my man or my girl ain't, you know, they yeah, they need a break. You know, go get 10 minutes, go ahead and get 10 minutes and get some get better, let's have a conversation after that. Like both of y'all can calm down within that 10 minutes. And so it won't be no y'all talking at each other, talking, yeah, talking. You you're you're you're hoping you're hoping for that. That's that's the whole purpose of the 10 minutes, you know, not to be arguing. You know what I'm saying? No, I want to argue. You wanna argue that's that that right there is very important. Like, it's just like boxing. Go to your side, go to your corner, like, you know, let that person chill in their corner, don't come back to them or whatever. Like, let them chill for a second. Think. You sit down in your corner, sit and think. Then y'all come back. So my brother said something important uh at our reception, and it was like they never go to bed mad at each other. And I was like, at that point, yeah, at that point in time, I was like, I'm still trying to work on that because it depends, it depends.

SPEAKER_05 28:14

Yeah, you got to, bird.

SPEAKER_01 28:17

You got so it it it's it's it's it's if you can remember, it's my stubbornness, it depends. Sometimes you just fall asleep. I just want to go to bed now, like sometimes you fall asleep, you know? Yeah, leave me alone now. I just want to go to sleep, and that's part of my stubbornness too, because then sometimes she'll try and wake me up, and I hate it. But you know, I get it, I get it, but that's me, yeah, my stubbornness. I I'm trying to get over that, so it shouldn't be like that. But the opposite of compromise. The opposite of compromise is stubbornness, yeah. Right? You agree? Yeah, okay. So yeah, and then and it's it's a work in process, uh uh progress. I mean, that's that's that's what we that's that's that's us, that's all part of compromise. You try to change what you used to and who you are, not change completely because your personality is gonna be your personality. Your personality is your umbrella. Now, up under that umbrella, to me, this is me speaking, don't think about my own self. That personality is the umbrella. Up under that umbrella is all the little things, the small changes to lead to compromising with whoever you're with, your partner. You know what I'm saying? So you got the personalities, is you. That's you, that's always been you for how many years you've been out here in these in this world. Then up under that though, is the compromising uh sections. You know, you know, you know, like like like bird, stop peeing on the wall. Stop pissing off on the seat. You know, you know, yeah. I don't do that, man. You know, like like you know, like damn. I've been pissed on the seat all my life, goddamn. But no, bird, you gotta get out of there. Just watch it. You gotta you gotta get out of there. You gotta be more, you gotta be more compassed, man. Lift the seat up. Men are both bullheaded, though. Lift the seat up and be and be there. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Like what you're saying or whatever. Like, what's wrong with that? I ain't grew up with sisters, so ps wrong with that. But yeah, nah, you gotta get out of there. I regret I even said, I regret I even brought that up, bro. I'm sorry, man. I ain't no idea. I was just saying though, like, but it's still I ain't grew up no sisters. I ain't grew up with no sister. But but real talk, that ain't a thing because my mom used to always get on us about that stuff or whatever, even though she had a whole other bathroom. But she always taught us that though, for sure, for sure. But it's just more that I don't know. I didn't grow up with a sister, it's still more stuff, yeah. Yeah, so I had to learn that over the years, like it's what she prefers. That's how she used the bathroom and all this, or how the sink is set up, etc. etc. Like, man, I had to learn all that stuff. This is what you say. It's so crazy. Uh I, you know, I I I lift it, I lift the toilet seat to pee. And if I have visitors and stuff like that, man, like I have my guys come in time, uh come over, whatever, and and they use a you use the bathroom, the guest bathroom or my or my main bathroom, whatever. And I lift the seat up and I see droplets of old gold gold piss around my rim. Like, come on, man, that's just disrespectful to me. Like, bro, really? You don't you you leave that shit right there? Like, it's so much over the years. So you do I don't even know if I used to be that type of person. Like, I don't I don't think I will ever was, but it's just like over the years, now I see stuff and I I be talking to her about it, especially like uh doing what I do now, going to other people's houses. I'm like, mmm, yeah. Yeah, man. You live like this, right? Yeah, right, right. And and I don't think I got OCD on a on a high level OCD, but there is I'm I got OCD for that. I don't, I mean, that like I can't stand the T. You you you did you you you respected the whole toilet by lifting the seat up. I get you. I appreciate it. Thank you. But just don't don't you know that when I when that piss sit on them on that seat on that rim, it's the smell gonna end up eventually the store if it's piling up. If you do this, you so you do this at somebody's house, you do this at your own house. Come on now. You know what I'm saying? Yeah like I think about I think about I think about going to a restaurant, a nice establishment. And as soon as I go to the pizza and I and I use I you know pee, and I I and I say, man, I don't want to even touch that, I don't want to touch that that knob the flush. But I'm like, this is a nice establishment. And I don't want nobody to go to my house and not flush. So my pride leaves, like, man, I'm gonna, I don't want, I don't want this on me. It's integrity. This is all part of integrity too. It helps with the integrity. I flush that bad boy. I make sure I go and wash my hands. I wash my hand before I pee and after I pee. Because I don't know who hand I shook. I don't want nobody on nobody else on me. You know what I'm saying? So it's like, I so yeah, it might be bad OCD. Damn, it might be some bad OCD right there. I don't use OCD because I'm not OCD, but in a public spot, I use my foot to flush the toilet. I use my elbow or my foot to open the door, and I wash my hands, and the paper towel that I use, I use that to open the door and then throw away the paper towel. Right. I'm with you on that, except I don't put my foot on it because I'm like, damn, somebody gotta touch this after my foot touched it. What the bottom part? Okay, that's in and that's that's where that's where it gets me. I'm like, I be want to do it. I will hope you do the same. You probably stuff this in the dog poo. You stuck this in dog, you stuff this in dog poo-poo and flush that toilet with your shoe. Another reason why not to use your hands to flush it. I can't do it. That's crazy. That's crazy. Are you using paper towel? I use I I like I say, yeah, like I said, I wash my hand before I used the bathroom. So that paper towel that I dry my hands off with, I take it to the toilet or the pisser and and I use that. I I try not to put my foot on the on the on the toilet, on, on the you know, the flush or whatever, because I know somebody about come after me and I don't know what's going on about a mushroom. You know what I'm saying? I don't want to spread no germs. I don't want to be a I don't want to think that I'm spraying no type of germs like that to nobody because of how the crazy the world is right now. Long as you ain't bare hand and then you walk out without walking. Oh, I fish a lot of things now. I even fit I fish a lot of things. I fit a lot of things going going in going going inside the bathroom, elbow or fist, elbow or fist. I don't want nothing in my my my palms, you know what I'm saying? So everything on the outside of my hand, fist, elbow, whatever. Um, yeah, you're right. So even when I when I can come out of there, I got I'm drying my hands. That same paper towel I'm gonna dry my hands with, I'm gonna open the door with. And then I'm tossing the trash, whatever. But yeah, man, because I know a lot of people don't wash their hands. A lot of a lot of them don't bathe uh uh daily. So they just go and pee, hold their stuff. Hey, hey, they just hold their stuff, pee like it ain't nothing. You walk right out the ding though, grab the handle like it ain't nothing. Hey, hey, buddy, how you doing, big dog? I'm all right, I'm all right, I'm all right. Hey, I'd rather give a give me a give me a hug. Give me a hug. Don't want to take your hand. Give me a hug. Man, but but anyway, uh going not to get off topic, y'all. We but this is part of the uh communication in your relationship. Uh, whoever you are affiliated with, this is part of your communication. Um, you know, what what the likes and dislikes of each other. Uh, how do you know when your spouse is going through something uh without them saying anything? Can you read them? Can you see? Do you pay attention enough to know is something going on, something wrong, something they ain't saying, you know, so on and so forth. You know, so it's very important. Communication in a relationship is very important. It can make or break a relationship. And we all can contest to that, I'm sure. Communication can make and break a relationship. So it's very important. You know, you won't you can't have no compromise without communication. How you gonna compromise on something you don't know about? You don't know. So it comes from communication. So uh communication starts first to me, um, and then the compromising you know things happen. You know, sometimes you may be lucky, you may have the one that don't even get a compromise. She's good with everything you do, and that's you know, I and more power to that. I like that's a that's a that's a hell of a relationship. I I'm I applaud that. That's good. But it's rare also. But I definitely uh I I love good relationships, I love to see good relationships. I you know what I'm saying, because I, you know, I like I said, I live vicariously through a lot of people, a lot of things, you know, a lot of stories. I live vicariously through them. If it ain't been through them, you know, personally, but I live, I uh you celebrate and I want to celebrate with you vicariously. You know what I'm saying? So uh, you know, but communication is very important when it comes to relationships, man. Um, and and it's needed. And it's needed. Uh we got some we got some comments, uh Marquise Cody. How do you deal with a woman who sees no wrong in anything they do? Leave them. Boy K Camp said ain't nothing that could oh hey, hey sniffs. Now that's that right there, right there, uh Cody. That that that that my Marquise man, uh I've dealt with that. I probably ah man, I dealt with that a lot, you know what I'm saying? That someone that's not that that's afraid to say it, uh say they'll apologize for something that they did wrong, even when I I break down the details. See, I'm a I'm a I'm a detail guy. I'm a let's start at the the what's the common denominator? What how did this argument or where we have it right now, where did it start? Let's go to the beginning. How did this thing right here start? I said this, you did this, you did the boom, boom. But what did I do wrong? At the beginning, yes, it it that thing built up. Now I might have said some things at the end of our argument, but let's go back to the beginning of the argument, uh uh or the beginning of the conversation, or the beginning of a statement that was said by somebody, or comment that was that was said. But it was all good by the comment, we just didn't agree, but then we we had started, we say we had to break down why we didn't agree. Your perspective against my perspective. It kept building up, kept building up, kept building up, kept building up, and then oh, the the tone changed. Oh, the tone went up a little bit on both sides. Oh boy, and then it comes to an argument. Ain't even our freaking argument, it's not even our fight. And then when when it when you see when it comes down to the point where you see go denominator, and you see you feel like you still don't see no wrong or no after if it's broken down to you, that's a that's a that's that's that's scary. That is scary and that's dangerous, that's a dangerous relationship, that's a dangerous partner to be involved with, it's scary, bro. It's scary. When someone don't see their wrongdoing, when someone can acknowledge their wrongdoing, you know, it's it still shows a lot of uh immaturity. Because a mature woman or a man, mature woman or a man will own up to their their faults, you know what I'm saying? Like you know, yeah, I'm not a I'm not ashamed to do it. I apologize, you're right. Damn, yeah. How you broke that down, you're right. I I could have taken a different approach, I could have said it differently, my tone could have been different. I apologize. That's you know, you're right. I'm I'm not afraid to apologize. When you break it down to the person, and they reply is, but you didn't have to say it like that.

SPEAKER_05 41:12

Right, right.

SPEAKER_01 41:14

Yeah, right. You gotta accept it. Like you did it. But Bird, you disrespectful though, bird. You you you you know you keep me disrespectful. You know, you you that nice, nasty to type. You yeah, man, you that nice, nasty to you had a little smile on your little spirk on your face. Hey, hey, hey, shy. You know you're talking, you know what I'm talking about, Sha. Shah. You gonna hear it? Yeah, Bird had his little spirit on his face looking like Maca Mex with his finger on the side of his face, like right here. He's saying it look like that. I bet you I know that's bad.

SPEAKER_03 41:53

What do you say, Shy? Bird gonna rhyme you off in the most educated intellectual way ever. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 42:04

Indirect insults. Indirect insults, man. My first goal, I wanted to be a lawyer. I'll yeah. Yeah. We're gonna we ain't gotta argue. I'm gonna let you know.

SPEAKER_03 42:20

Oh man. But now my keys, uh, but but my thing to your question is um pretty much what I do, bro. I sit her down, I have that face-to-face. Uh, you probably already done so, but I had that face-to-face with her and let her know how you feel, bro. And you know, let her tell you how she feels, and y'all just gotta come to an agreement. Like Lau said, y'all gotta compromise. Um, and without communication, there's no compromising. So that's what I do, bro. For sure. That's right.

SPEAKER_01 42:47

That's right. And let matter of fact, don't, and don't, don't ignore her faults, though. Don't ignore, don't allow her to ignore. You shouldn't ignore, I know you won't ignore the person that's, you know, don't let her, don't let her, don't dismiss her faults. All that has to be on the table, man. You cannot allow either one of y'all, man or woman, it don't don't ignore their faults. Don't ignore what what where where the beginning or where the argument started or something they said. Because all that stuff matters. Those are when you consider that red flag, they say never ignore the red flag. Never ignore it. So pay attention to the things they say. Don't let them, don't let them dismiss those things that they say now. Because that's that's vital. Do not allow your spouse, don't allow yourself to dismiss what your spouse said to you that might have hurt you. You gotta remember those things. You know what I'm saying? And bring them to the table. If you want to talk about it, that so you you don't forget, so you can bring it to the table and let's have a real conversation without raising our voices and stuff like that. Let's have a conversation about it. Let's talk about it, let's do that. You know what I'm saying? So don't ignore For anybody. Family, friends, spouse. Yeah. I don't care about you saying sorry. Absolutely, bro. Absolutely. I care about you changing your behavior and not doing that again.

SPEAKER_05 44:14

Somebody recognize the issue. Change it.

SPEAKER_01 44:19

Simple. Hey, tell us to stop cussing on the line. Right. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 44:26

Till I say, tell us, hey, dog. Tell us hey, no.

SPEAKER_01 44:35

But yeah, you're right, Bert. You're right, man. You're right. Uh, and and that's that's that's compromising again. It's uh it's uh it's a win-win if you do it the right way. You know what I'm saying? It's all about communication and letting go of your pride on a lot of things. Stop being so stubborn and just understand, okay, uh, yeah, you're right. I didn't do it the way you're right. I could have said it this way, I could have done it this way. I could have I could have I could have approached you better. You approached me with some with some with some fire up under you, you know, like all right, just put that put the ice up under you and let's let's have a conversation. You talking at me, I'm gonna shut down. I'm gonna shut down. I'm shutting down, man. You you talking at me, I'm gonna shut down and I'm gonna be quiet. I'm gonna say, yeah, you know what? You're right. But I'm I'm not done with that conversation. I'm done with it at that moment, but I'm not done with it right there. I'm not done with that conversation. I'm just not I'm I'm not trying to argue with you or yell or none of that stuff like that. I'm not trying to do that. I don't want to do that because I know me. That's another thing you just said to add to it, the whole communication thing. Don't talk at each other, talk to each other. You get a better uh response. That's right. That's right, especially out of me, too. Like I don't care who you are. Don't talk at me. Talk to me. That's right, man. In every situation, not just relationships, like you said. Every situation, don't don't talk at me. Because I hey don't try to sign me like like no. I'm adult, baby. Let's talk, let's have a conversation. Because I I I ain't gonna I ain't gonna take too highly of of you talking at me. Nah, when I'm damn near older than you. It's disrespectful. Yeah, absolutely. So now I'm prone to disrespect you back. Absolutely. So don't talk at me. Right, right. And my gonna pinch you. Right. It's gonna pinch a little bit. Only people who can get away with that is like my mom, my parents, like type of thing. But for them, like you're grown now, like you can't talk at me no more. Yeah, you don't talk to me. Yeah, I ain't gonna lie, that on a short lease. Yeah, that's true. It's called correction, and it's gonna come about. Let me catch it with go ahead. Exactly. You're right. Absolutely, absolutely. Uh um let me see. Uh, we got a Marquis say as a as a car detailer, I've seen the worst, and I I I was raised uh the inside of your vehicle is it vehicle is a resemblance of the inside of your house. Oh, oh, we were talking about pissing on the seat. Yeah, yeah. So that so your inside your car is a resemblance resemblance of your inside your house. That that makes sense. That makes sense. That makes sense. Bird. Bird, them headphones. I knew it. Peanut head joker. Bird.

unknown 47:47

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 47:49

Yeah, your your headphone, it was our echoing. Uh oh. So uh Shannon said, a man can't blame a woman for not being equally yoked. We choose a woman, the woman we married. Hell, you knew she couldn't communicate day one, but them cheeks, but them cheeks. Dot dot dot dot. Uh before you marry her, Shannon. Before you get to that marriage part, you gotta be, I mean, that whole when they say be friends first and all that good stuff, yeah. You that that's that's part of knowing each other. That's part of knowing each other and seeing if you can compromise and do good communication to lead up to marriage. You this it's that it's a process. It's a it's a it's a it's almost like a job, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, a trial run. It's just the it's the woman, it's just the woman I can marry. While I'm in this this little friend zone, trying to figure out, trying to learn each other, trying to know each other and all that good stuff, which is a great thing. It's a beautiful thing. You build that up and you see, okay, yeah, if if you see the compromising between both of y'all, then you probably yeah, you can think, okay, I can marry this woman. But you ain't gonna prematurely marry a woman because how they look at them cheeks, you said. Like, come on, dog. Come on. You know, and you know, Shannon. I don't even know how you even playing right now. You crazy. A man has to know how he likes to be communicated to. A man have to know how he likes to be communicated. Absolutely. I both sides, though. It ain't just no man, woman too. But it has to be reciprocated. It has to be reciprocated for sure. Go ahead, Bray, what you about to say? Well, no, I think it is some men who got married just off the cheeks alone, because I still don't understand how you get married in three to six months. And that's why all the crap happened. That's why you see all this stuff going viral because of that. Them cheeks don't get you in trouble. Some it'll work out for some, but for many. Man, yeah, to a hush man. A hush woman, it's just a cheeks. Yeah, yeah, I'm gonna get hey, you ain't gotta communicate with me. It's about them cheeks. Come on, bird. You know, that don't make no damn sense. Come on, dog. Come on, baby. Come on now. Yeah, hey, I'm I can do what I want to do. As long as I get him these cheeks, uh, he gonna be quiet. He's gonna be quiet. I ain't gotta cook this thing. I just bring him the food. That is another thing. Some men taught them that. Some other man taught them that. Not to communicate whatever was wrong, to not communicate about it, just throwing the cheeks, he'll be all right. Cook him something to eat, he'll be all right. Man, nah. Hey, uh I applaud you if that's that's uh uh I can applaud you if that's something that you like, and and you got somebody that that's just strictly they shut up and give you them cheeks. You ain't gonna stress your life at all. Your stress ain't coming from the in-house in-house. That's hey, I applaud you if you can if you hold that down, nah, for sure. But nah, you trying to that don't work. You still not correct that issue. I care about correcting the issue. Right. Eventually it's gonna come back. It's gonna come back. Yeah, let's let's let's have makeup keeks. Yeah, let's do the makeup, makeup keek. Correct. Let's talk about it. Learn to correct it. Then give me the cheeks and cook me some. Don't cook me. Don't skip the communication part though. We're gonna talk about it. I don't care how uncomfortable it is. Yeah, Marquise say, yeah, because I got feelings too. Absolutely. Marquise, you're right. We me and we we have feelings too. We we don't express them like women, you know. The the the the the the the what they call it, the the um not cliche, but it's like, you know, men are are strong and don't show emotion, and then women are emotional. Uh, you know, so but we still we well if we don't show it, we still have them. We still have them. We don't we don't express them, we don't express them like a woman would. Most of us now this new gen, the Gen Z, they they they do. They do got dog. They do. Oh my god. They show it the most men are very emotional. Very we just got too much care. We got we good at hiding it for sure. We definitely emotional. We definitely have a lot of emotional. Yeah, we don't talk about it and we're good at hiding it. Yep. Shannon said the small things can be compromised, huh? Go ahead. What do you say? Oh, uh Shannon says the small things can be compromised, but core things cannot. Uh it's you, it's your it's your job, as we we were trying to say, it's your job as a man to stand on your your core values, don't be weak now. For sure. Uh so I got a question for for Shannon with the core values far. If the if the lady don't fall in line, if your significant other rather don't fall in line with your core values, how does that how does that go? And I kind of probably know the answer, but just I just want to hear your perspective on that. But it's that's that's well said though. Uh I have to reel y'all in because sometimes the weakness seeks uh thoroughly, uh thoroughly, seeks truly. Might as well get to the last one. Yeah. No, I'm saying the cheeks is what distracts a man in the oh yeah, the cheeks, yeah. Yeah, Joker C in the teach. Okay, okay. I thought you were uh on YouTube, Tim Lasane checked in. He said peace, peace of the original fact. Peace, peace, peace, peace, god, peace, peace. And then, yeah, what Shannon just said. Yeah, uh he said, and he said, No, I'm I'm saying the cheeks is what distracts a man in the beginning. He so he wasn't saying his significant other can throw the cheeks at him and everything would be all right. Uh oh. Okay, okay, yeah, you're right. You're right on that now. You're right. You're right. Yeah, some, yeah, yeah, it's still some out there like that, but the cheeks do distract the man. Uh and and the and the man end up don't not caring about the the the latest core values or her, her, her, or person, or whatever. He's just he just see cheeks. It's all about visual, you know what I'm saying? So yeah, that that that can lead to a royal trouble. You seen the thing line line between love and hate, but uh yeah, Marquise said the same thing. Uh hell no, that's a weak man. For sure. That's a weak man, yeah. That's right. Yeah, for sure. That's the last thing. Well, um back to what you were originally saying, though. Uh I'm getting a lot more coming in. You see him? Yeah. I got I got a couple right here. Yeah, I'm still, I got, I got some.

unknown 54:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 54:54

I hit the YouTube. Marquise. That's it, that's a bonus. Uh, gotta have some something else going for you besides looks and cheeks and they good monkey. That's right. That's right, Marquis. That's right. You gotta have more. You're right. You're absolutely right, brother. Absolutely. Shannon said, This, this me, I cut off an engagement because I don't play about my leadership. Uh yeah. Yeah, you I can tell you you're hot here though. Uh uh staying on your values, stay on square type guy. You know what I'm saying? You know, even if it pissed somebody off, you don't, they gonna they're gonna understand who Shannon Walton is. So I I I I totally agree with that. Tim Lasane said uh we need to identify what is core values. That that that there you go. And I think that's to each his own. At the beginning. In the beginning, at the very beginning, and to each his own is your core values, yeah. And don't make up nothing. Don't make up nothing that uh when you get there and that question comes up. If she asked the question, what's your core value? Don't make up nothing. You gotta have this, you gotta stand on these from from from from from from years out, you know. You just make them up, you know what I'm saying? One of mine's one of mine's for me and mine's family. It was family. That's just that's just one of those things. Family. Family to me is everything, and it's very important. I don't like to see relationships where people try and make the other people cut off a family to be with them. What are you talking about? So, family to me was very important, and she got strong, she's strong with her family, same as mine's. Like, she does stuff for her family the same way I would do for mine's. And it's just like out of that is not an argument at all. I don't care what you do, what you need to do, whenever you need to do it, that's fine. Certain things we can talk about, it'd be like, you know, this dad, like you just gotta think about it a little bit more. But I'm not gonna blame you for doing whatever you gotta do. Because I do it too. Right, right, right. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. So it's just like that. If you don't like your family, are you not family oriented? Uh like that. That's that's that's tough, man. That's real tough. I don't have a huge family, but I got I got enough. And then I know what we with both sides, how they how they move. So I, you know, if you ain't interacting or why, why, why, why your family love me so much, and then my family don't know too much about you. You still you sit in the corner with a with a with a rest and beef face. No, man. Why don't you have that with yours? What's going on? What's going on? What's going on? So that's like I want to be like that with your family. And I need you to be like that with mine. Right. Something happened. Something happened on your journey of growing up and maturing. Something happened with amongst you and your family to the point where you're not close to your family. You just you just you just a black sheep out here, and and you see you go to a family union, everybody having a good time, but you like you normally. Yeah, that can happen, but you gotta show me why. Why are you cheating? Tell me something. Tell me something. Don't don't don't give into no darkness. Yeah, if they toxic like that, I get it. That's why you stray away. But yeah.

SPEAKER_03 58:37

Like, for example, for me, for me, for um, for example, for me, like my grandma died in 06, and ever since 06, family don't come home like that no more. Really don't see my uncles, aunties, cousins who stay out of the state. I don't even see them no more since 2006. You know, so I could see that part, but if y'all like in the same city, ain't nobody die, and you ain't close to your family. I wanna know what's going on.

SPEAKER_01 59:04

What's going on? Yeah, yeah. That's a name too. Yeah. That part. That part. That part, brother. That part. That's if you have that's facts right there. That's facts. So let's make my core values. If y'all got another one. Uh core value, uh uh respect the house, man. Don't don't don't don't have people outside the house knowing what you're thinking. That's that's old, that's an old code of uh of the family. Don't let nobody outside the uh outside the house, outside the family, know what you're thinking. Don't go expressing all the kind of stuff in-house stuff to outsiders. That ain't that ain't their business. Good or bad. You know what I'm saying? Like, that ain't that ain't good. You got people knowing that's that and that's how people start looking at you like, oh you you oh yeah, oh you you did right, you didn't. How you know that? Oh, because so and so said it. Oh, so you know what's going on in my household when you ain't supposed to. That's crazy. So now now we got we got multiple people living in our house because of you you got a loose mouth and talking outside. No, we can't do that. No, I'll never be able to trust you. So I can't I can't be with you. I'd never be able to trust you. And that especially if I I I had this conversation with you with you at the beginning, stated my that's one of my core values. That's I stated that at the beginning. And yet you go and do it more than one time, oh boy. Don't think I'm gonna forget. No, I'm gonna just see if you see if you after this conversation we you learn from the first time. But then you go and do it again. Ah, yeah. I can't trust you. I can't, I I can't. I I I don't give a dang what happened, what goes on. You know, you can save my life. But it's trust ain't 100% still. It's different, you know what I'm saying? It is, bro. You can save my life on something, but I still don't trust you fully. You know, that was just a moment. You reacted, you saved my life, thank you. But I overall, I can't trust you because you can't do this little thing right here and you got control of it, you got control over what you say and what you who you talk. Come on, man. Ah, nah, no, no, nah, nah. If alcohol or anything outside of your body take control of your body, I cannot trust you. With that, that that simple little that simple code of mine. And it's helpful for both of us. It's my code, but it's helpful for the relationship. People want to know about shit that's going on in your relationship, so they can use it, you know what I'm saying? Like they want to know about it. Oh, you ain't as perfect as you look, you ain't as you ain't as yo, y'all ain't as perfect as y'all be acting out here acting, seem like they see. They ready to talk about stuff like that right now. If it, if it, it a what they say, it don't get viewed if it ain't entertaining. If it ain't negative, it ain't gonna be viewed. If it ain't negative, it ain't gonna be viewed, man. So they want this gossip type. So they they want this, they want this type of effery. They want this, they want to see that. That's what that's what sales. That's because most people feed off negativity. Yeah, yeah, for sure. They feed off negativity. I'm not, yeah. I'm not gonna be able to do that. And that's what that's what the world the world hasn't become that. Everybody love people that love Trump, they love the effery that he's doing right now as the leader of the new world. They they love this, they love to see what he's done next. What I wake up, what he did, what he did next, what he what he said. They they they look for this type of stuff, not knowing that we uh people are struggling out here right here in America. We're struggling, you know what I'm saying? So, but same way these jokes, uh, they deal with their relationships, and it's in it's this in it's new time. This is what it is. The new world order has struck, baby. It's what it is. But you can miss mean different. Tim also said that uh representation is a key core value, respect is a key core value, honor is a key core value, standing on principles, morals are all core values. And it's talk, baby. Shannon said respect, so uh talk, but yeah, um representation. That also was another thing of mine that's huge, probably in my top three. That's big, man. So your name is all you got, baby. Yeah, so I got flack for this like years ago, not in my current situation. Uh-huh. The way you dress, it's representation. Oh my god. Come on, it's just like, you know, but then it was at that point in time, you're being controlling. No, I'm not. You are a depiction of me, you are a reflection of me. But then when you put on certain things, certain things will happen, and then you expect me to do what? Step in. The wrong attention will happen. That's right. I asked you not to in the first place to avoid a situation like this. Now you put me in a scenario. We're here now. Do you care about what happens to me? You put me here. You put me here. I asked you not to. That's why I asked you. Boy. Now we're here. If something happens to me, God forbid, something bad happens to me, and I'm no longer here because of what I asked you not to do. That's tough. That's tough now. That's definitely tough, bro. Well, that part right there is that's another one for me that's very important. Just hear me out. And if you can't, aye. That's right. I'm with you now. For sure. Definitely me. December I. Okay. Oh, yeah. And that goes along with our next conversation we're gonna have too, as far as respect. Talk about it. Oh, because the representation, or at least what I was talking about on that part, that's also respect. Your partner says something, listen to him. Respect what they say. Yeah. And and and so, and so, and can we can we all agree? Oh man, I'm about to, oh man. Can we all agree? Men are hesitant on venting. Alright, let's let me let me break it down a little bit, first of all. A man that don't ever vent or not too expressive. You go, uh you finally, yeah, yeah. I'm just let I'm just let it go. I'm just talking to her. When I talk to my significant other, I'm just I'm just hypothetically speaking. I'm not I'm just using me for an example. This hasn't happened, but I've seen it happen before. I talked to my significant other, tell her my what's what's going on in me, inside of me, and so on and so forth, blah, blah, blah. And she turned it around by saying, but, but what you what you shouldn't, what you be doing, what you should, what you should, what you, what, what, but what damn. I wasn't even looking for no advice, babe. I'm just trying to get this off me. You ain't you looking for a solution. I'm looking for to get this off me so I can find me some closure, so I can breathe better. You know what I'm saying? But you tell me, but what you should, you shouldn't, you shouldn't have did, you shouldn't have said, you should have did. Yeah, I wasn't looking for you to tell me no stuff like that. I want you just listen to me right now. I'm venting and console me. Don't tell me what you think I should have or should have done in it's your fault that it happens. I don't want to hear that right now. I just need to get this off because I've been holding this on for years. You hear me? For years now, I finally feel like I feel like I trust you to get this off. And you you make me regret it. You make me regret talking to you. Now I'm sure a lot of men can contest to this right here. Talk about it, man. Talk about it. That and that's that's part of that's part of communication. You you have us, you always, or a woman would say, a man, you don't, you don't, you don't express, you're not too expressive. You know, I I I sometimes I just can't afford to be just in there expressing. I got I got things I gotta do. I gotta I gotta keep things uh afloat. You know, I I don't think about that, what you think about. You think about expressing. I'm I'm not thinking about expressing. I'm because I'm I'm steady moving, steady trying to get things done, which is also can be a bad thing, can be a you know, can be a nuisance to to to the relationship. A man just steady moving and and and but if you know that tent a man, hey, sit down, stop, slow down, slow down. Have that woman tell you to slow down. Go sit down, go get your two, three hours, smoke a cigar, and just relax. Just just stop doing stuff. That's just just just stop. Just stop, just breathe a little bit. You won't that. But I mean I ain't I even in the midst of all me moving around, I can't I ain't think about no expressing. Nothing. I ain't I because I ain't nothing, I feel like ain't nothing you can do. I it's just ain't got it's a I can't you can't do nothing about it. So we bypass the expressing and we we set it moving, we can't continue to go, continue to go, go, go, go, go, go, you know. So it's uh it's a slippery flow. You know what'll make you stutter because you asked it so much, and nobody asked you, how was your day? Simple little thing like that, bro. You asked everybody else, but nobody returned that question. But if they did, it might make you stutter. Are you sure? Yeah, because you don't get that often. It makes you stutter. Yeah, so it's that like it's just like you know, some type of way too. That's a simple, that's a simple, simple thing that see y'all. If you if women that's if you're out there listening right now, women, or you live, if you're listening, all we look for if you ask her how our day been, sincerely. Or just do it because we say sincerely, how was your day? Come sit down, how was your day? Tell me about your day, tell me about your day, like talk to me. That right there can can can break Superman. That right there, simple can break Superman. You hear me? Like, oh damn. Nobody asked me. It's gonna make you think a man that's been moving around so much, it's gonna make you, it's gonna it's gonna it's gonna make you sit down and think, like, oh wow. She actually actually had my day moving. Like, damn, that's you know, that can that simple thing, how was your day? How was your day? Them four words, how was your day? Can definitely change, and then the man can look forward to expressing more on a regular basis if that simple four-letter, that four-word question pop up. Babe, how was your day? I just added babe, so that's fine. But anyway, how was your day? It's gonna stop the joke from moving around so much, and you might sit down like, oh, let me think. Damn, how's my day? Oh, and now the conversation starts. That conversation leads to more conversation, it leads to more conversation, and then you let you got all of a sudden you you were you are in a in a strong conversation with your person. You in a strong conversation with your person an hour later. She she forced you to come, she forced indirectly forced you to calm down and forget about all the stuff that's been going on with hey, let's talk. That conversation, communication, bam, there it is. You got us, it's helpful. But we know it's complex. One thing I just started this year, I throw it out there. But I'm telling you. I need to get it off. I need to get my shit off too. I ain't gotta get it off. Yeah. So I just started throwing it out. When we sitting there, you know, like we were saying earlier, for the communication styles or whatever, too. Like sometimes when we laying down before we go to sleep, yeah, I throw it out there. Yeah. Yeah. I you know, not too important or nothing like that, but just you know, I'm gonna throw it out there real quick. That's it, man. Sometimes doing the deal like Friday. If you don't ask, just say it. If you don't if you don't ask, then just tell. Yeah, like Friday. I just call her. I'm gonna I'm I'm now I'm just gonna start throwing out though. That for you might work. That so don't ask. Don't ask. I'm gonna throw it out. And so, Bird, now only thing you hoping for with that, not saying what you're hoping for, but if she just listened. That's it. And say, uh, and seem concerned, seem seem concerned, even if you don't give a shit about what he's telling you right now. Just just show that you're concerned about how he's saying or what just happened. Like same as I do for you. Come on. Come on. That's it. That's all I'm saying. Come on, man. You ain't got communication is simple. Yeah. Communication, bro, is simple. We just make it complex, man. Any relationships, we make it complex. We don't have to. We make it complex. We don't have it don't have to be, it don't be have to be hard, man. Just simple stuff like that, right there. The simple things. Those simple things right there, the the intangibles. If you just, hey, how's your day? I see, I see, I I see. You seem like you, I seem if you just pay attention, man. It comes to paying attention. Just pay attention to your significant other. Pay attention to. They'll tell you everything without saying a damn bang. They'll pick that you'll see. You'll see it. We still got some more comments before we move to New York. Yeah, sex and mic. What's happening? Sex Mike just popped up. We say, fellas, what's happening with you, bro? What you got on what you got on YouTube? Uh Tim Lussain said it's like the movie John Q just fix it. And that's earlier when you was talking. Yeah, yeah, yep, yep, yep. I got you. Yep. Good movie. Good move. Good depiction, too. Damn. Um, that's all you got over there. We got a couple more from Shannon. Yeah, I see them. I see Shannon stuff. Uh Shannon said, uh the perceived image of how their family views them in it is very important. Uh they will view you the same way when you're around a person's family for the first time. The looks and questions asked will question asked will tell somewhat of how they are viewed in their families. That's true. I feel you. I I feel you. I feel you. I feel you. Uh, he also said, I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm a wordsmith, but truly a man only needs to say uh what he means and means what he says. True. I won't argue with you on that either. I won't argue with that either. I'm looking for something to argue with you about, Shannon, but uh, you you you stride on on that one. A man, my pops always say a man does what he says he's gonna do. Hey, he say what he does, he does does what he say he's gonna do.

unknown 1:15:42

Right.

SPEAKER_01 1:15:43

And that's that that all comes for the improvise adapting overcome type deal, you know what I'm saying? Make a way, make a way, make a way, son. Make a way, figure it out. Like that, that's and that's it, it could be a gift from the curse, I tell you that. I ain't got time to vent. I gotta figure this thing out. I gotta figure this thing out. I'm always, and that's the whole moving around for me. If I'm speaking for me, moving around, I gotta figure this thing out, gotta make sure that I uh ah ah ah Right. Even before I lay my butt down. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:17

And I think that's my problem. It's like I'm always like I'm always gonna go, I'm always trying to find a solution, and I and I never just pause. I never pause and reflect and just sit back and relax. I'm always trying to, I'm like, oh shit, I ain't do this, let me go do this. Oh, this ain't complete. Let me complete this. This ain't work. Let me try it this way.

SPEAKER_01 1:16:39

Yeah, yeah, we don't sit down long enough. We don't sit out long enough. Only time I sit down and relax is when I'm doing this cigar table talk, Monday.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:16:49

Yes, sir. It's not good though. And I'm not applauding that. That's not good. But you're absolutely right, bro. It's like, it's like, it's like uh we we always got something to make sure the house is good, the family is good, we gotta make, we moving, moving, moving. And uh we don't sit down. We don't we don't sit down and have that little that little breather, you know what I'm saying? And like I always say, we can't afford, we can't afford to be stressed or worried. We gotta, we can't, we we gotta keep going. We gotta keep going. So so I I so I do got a question. So is that a man thing or is a learn thing? Um I don't want to sound like a uh a chauvinist or nothing like that, but I I I I've you know when they say uh you say back in the day the the the rate of men dying before women. I'm gonna use stats. I mean I'm gonna I'm gonna go to the stats out of things now. A woman live longer than a man. Yeah, that's all I'm gonna say. The old stat was a woman live longer than a man. Because a man gonna worry rating, pops all the way to rural ratio gonna kill you, but you worry too much, you're gonna keep in the woman still be living. And my grandma, my grandma and granddad on both sides. Both of my granddads died before my uh my grandmamas. You know what I'm saying? It's just like it that's just an old old way. The grandma ain't, you know, she had the house, she's making sure everything's good in the house. But that man is trying to make sure the house is still there, god damn it. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, that's that's the that's the thing. He's trying to make sure that house is still there, make sure that family's still good. You know, that's and that's that was the old, that was a way that we we were rude growing up into that, basically. Yeah, not saying that's what it is right now, but that's it, that's what we've gotten. You know, a man, we gotta make a way, figure it out. We ain't got time. We can afford to sit down and stretch and be worried and be pouting and all these other shit. We gotta move, we gotta move, we gotta move, we gotta move. But we gotta still find time, we gotta still find time to release. You gotta find time to release. That's another thing, too. I was gonna say if anybody else could tell me, because, like, were we indirectly taught this? Or was it directly taught to you that you have to do X, Y, and Z, or did you take it upon yourself to feel like you have to do X, Y, and Z, and then the women took it upon themselves indirectly to say that's that's what you're supposed to be doing. It was it was all built, it was built into us. It was like what we saw, it was like what we grew up now, not like I say, nowadays, bird. No, you don't see too much of that, okay? But what you know, I'm 43. I'm an 80s baby, for sure, for sure. You know what I'm saying? Early 80s. So it's like it's the that my parents, my grandparents, this is what, you know, this is what I always saw. My my granddaddy was a was a was a was a he he he held the he led a he was the the man and he and he had a uh he was he was all about the farming. He was about big in farming. He had a crew with him, he was ahead of that crew, he picked his own crew, and he's gonna make sure to get paid. Even if it rained that day, you can't pick nothing out of that dog on field. Guess what? Grandpa's gonna make sure your ass has some money in your pocket. Yeah. To make up for that, right? That's how it was. And he was feared, he was feared. He was a mean joker, but he was feared. He never been mean to me. I love it. Hey, but pops will tell you some stories. Y'all just ask Pops about him. That that's the that's the other law. That you know what I'm saying? That's you know what I'm saying, God rest his soul. But he was a he was a mean and he care about he wasn't scared of nothing, he carried that shotgun, he wasn't, he scared of no clans member, no nothing. And it and he worked on their fields. He he was he he went to their fields and picked their stuff, but yeah, he's gonna make sure we pay him. You ain't gonna play with him. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, so it's it was like that. Then my my on the other side, my granddad on the other side, you know, he was the one that he was uh he was the one that made things happen. He he found a way and figured it out. And now my pops, that's all pops taught me, you know, and like hey, he always says, You're McGee, but you gotta figure it out, find a way. You know what I'm saying? So, you know, carry the name, carry your image, carry your yeah, your you know, your your your That's what it is. That's what it was. I'm gonna say this because I'm gonna follow up behind Tim from what he just said on what I want to say too. He said you was taught that directly, be it verbal or visual, it's a learned behavior for sure. And I don't feel bad about it. Learn, yeah. I don't feel good. Right, I don't either. It makes me feel good inside. It makes me feel mad at all that I can do this and I do this and I do that, and I was doing so much when it was just me. But now I'm doing so much more that is others that I gotta do for more. And I'm just like, I could never imagine if it was still just me, I don't think I would have anything I have. Because my motivation wouldn't have been the same. And and guess what, bird? You compromised. You were you adapted to your what you got. You adapted to what okay, oh it ain't just me no more. Oh shoot, I gotta, oh shoot, I gotta change. Motivation is different. It hit you. Yeah, man. Yeah. Like when it was just me, yeah, early 20s. It's just like, I'm doing enough. Boy, boy, all my 20s. Yeah, I was good. I was good. Oh my god. But I'm just doing enough. But having others behind me, I'm doing so much more that I I probably wouldn't even imagine doing all this stuff. Yeah, right, right, right, right, right. I got so many skill sets and etc. etc. It's I wouldn't have done that if it was just me. Yeah, yeah. Well said. Well said. It makes sense. It makes a lot of sense. You gotta adapt to your your your your your surroundings and what you you know dive into. You gotta adapt to it. You gonna dive into it, you gotta adapt to it. You ain't you you you took in, you you don't have the biological, but you took in some kids. That you now you gotta adapt. Now you gotta, now I gotta be big daddy. I gotta be big daddy for real. Now, damn it. I don't and I'm I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna use what I've I've been taught growing up by my dad, by my mom, to use it right now. And then learn learn more based on the the times. You gotta learn more as the times go. Let stuff slide. Yeah, bruh. Yeah, yeah, man. Now just imagine having one from have imagine having one from birth. Boy, I'm a I'm a I'm a I'm I'm up. I'm up. I'm up. I'm high, I'm high wire. Boy, I'm boy. You finna kill somebody. Man, listen. I'm trying to stay everything good, we good. Everything good. I'm alive wire, you know what I'm saying? But hey, you but you you learn to adapt and and understand and and and and all that good stuff, man. It's possible to be better when it comes to this type of thing, this communication type thing when your spouse and so on and so forth, your your significant other. It's it's a it's it's it's a it's it's an easy test. It's an easy test. Now, now if you're gonna take the easy route or you're gonna make this this this this test a complex test, now that's on you. But it's something that we can control. We can actually control this right now. And with that, you can see uh if she for you or he for you, if if he or she is not for you. You know what I'm saying? Because, you know, I'm trying to, I'm I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna make be tough love, I'm gonna play and laugh, it's gonna be tough love, but then they're gonna protect you. I ain't gonna let nothing happen to you. Ain't gonna let not happen to you. I'm gonna go down swinging on on account of you. On the account of you, I'm gonna go down swinging. I'm gonna give you some tough love and show you how this world is. The world don't care about you, they don't owe you nothing either. And I'm gonna say, did you die? For sure. Did you die? Did you die? And he's I have these same words, like I said, I don't have my own biological, but I have these same words for them. But let me say this uh go ahead. Yeah, go ahead. For sure. Shannon said, uh, I cried in front of my wife, but my dog had died. No, seriously, if you can't be a bit vulnerable with your wife, she is a waste. Simply because we are one, and I must give her the chance to grow in her. I ain't gonna lie, like I know how to say that word. Illuminancy. Where are you at? Where you at? Uh simply because we are one and must give her a chance to grow in her uh felinity. Okay. Now you reverse because I hope you said that right. But with all the resources, I can't help. But to be wise, be wise. Yeah, because times are times are different from your grandfather. Time times in your grandfather are different now that he's he'll be so unfamiliar with. It's like it's like someone been in jail for 20 years. The last 20 years, yeah, you missed out on a lot. Now you gotta jump out here in this world. You just got released, you just jump out in this world. Man, it's unfamiliar. So, grandfather, you learn from grandfather, absolutely. But however, you gotta carry the torch to learn even more for your grandchild. Just like you did with grandfather. Like things, times change. So everything out here changed, man. We the social media and all this crazy stuff, man. You gotta be able to adapt to these these young these young these young kids, man. They like they yeah. And I'm 43. But it's like, damn, wow. And I don't listen to the music like I used to listen to. I listen to podcasts and and I I listen to audible books when I'm driving. Like, I don't listen to the radio, you know what I'm saying? I listen to audible books, you know. So it's like I don't I don't keep up with the music. I don't I ain't know they made music videos no more. It kind of makes you feel old. Like it makes you feel a little bit older. Yeah, like now I'm at that point. But it makes me feel wiser. It makes me feel uh wiser though, because I'm not on that no more. I gotta I gotta move with times. I gotta be greater, be better. So I'm I'm gonna try to impact myself. Feel my own cup if I can be able to feel somebody else's cup. Exactly. Got uh a couple more from Tim on YouTube. He said, Male and female are creatures of habit. Uh either way you Slice it, our environment had a major impact on our lives. For sure. Absolutely, bro. Absolutely. Absolutely. That's what I said. Indirect. That's that's like that indirect learning for our grandparents. Mm-hmm. Yep. The things that they do. We talk about that all the time, but granddad never did. Grandma never did. Yeah. Yeah. Grandma. Grandma ain't had no grand grand grandparents, ain't grandma didn't have no no no degree, but she made sure that food was cooked. She was she was home. She took it out. She was a she was a expert. She was a professor still. She knew how to get it. She knew what to do. She knew what to do. So now you got more women that's in that affarol. The opportunity is open for the women now. They open and do big things, great things, and I applaud it. But they ain't on that whole grandmother side of things. I'm gonna say great grandmother, the way the great grandmother held it down. You know what I'm saying? You know somebody shy, shy. You know I ain't lying, shy. Boy, at all, at all. Come on, man. You know, so the great the great grandmother for the new the GNZ, the great grandmothers for the GNZ was the ones that was in it. It was in it. They took care of the house. They made sure they ain't worked, you know, they ain't had no degrees and all that other stuff. They just they just they made sure that their job was and they they skilled, right? They skilled. They can sew your clothes up, they make you clothes, they make food out of uh make make food out of nothing. Nothing. Everything that was a that was a freaking skill, you hear me? We used to go pick I mean uh blueberries and uh the red berries off trees. And my snake berries and snakeberries.

SPEAKER_03 1:30:05

And I think that's the luxury that we missing today. Like that's the luxury we're missing today. Like the grandmas don't know how to and God forgive me, but some of the grandmas today don't know how to do nothing, don't know how to hem clothes, don't man, they don't even know how to make lemonade from scratch.

SPEAKER_01 1:30:20

Come on, though. Come on to the uh 30 grandkids at their house. Right.

unknown 1:30:26

Right.

SPEAKER_01 1:30:26

Without without a tablet and made breakfast, all of them fresh biscuits. Fresh biscuits. Hey uh know how to make know how to know how to make know how to make jelly out of fruit, nigga. Come on, come on, man. Come on, dog. Stuff like that. Like, man, it was different, bro. It was different. I don't know. We all there, we all ate good the entire time. Yeah, yeah. They know not to step out of the line. All 30 of them. All 30 of them. I might need to call my wife back in here for this. Because I heard uh Ricky Smiley say this too. I know I'm not the only one. My grandma then used to make us bathe in bleach and laundry detergent. And you cannot let that water out. That water had to be dirty, dirty. And thick. I know I ain't the only one. Thick, thick, thick, thick, think, think around the think ream around that tub. We ain't got no showers. The thick ring around that tub. I'm talking about the dirtiest ones. The dirtiest ones. Grandma didn't want rich.

SPEAKER_03 1:31:48

They had the damn nigga in the lower there was rich. We had everything. We had everything back in the day.

SPEAKER_01 1:31:54

They ain't bad like that. She put out chip and she said, uh, so your grandma was washing y'all like clothes? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, pretty much. Hey, hey, you know, hey, not let that water out. Hey, don't not don't not have uh wow hot water here. You gotta warm that water up on that stove. I'm telling you. Hey, I'm hey, hey, hey, I'm real with you. I'm real with it, baby. I'm real. Yeah, I think he lived with the stove. I'm as a grown man. I was stuffed don't happen. Whatever this like my first shower was in '98. Truth be told. I was born in 83. I was born in 83. My first show, my first shower was in 98, boy. Well, mine, I was like, I'm gonna 2000. I'm gonna live. I'm gonna live now. I'm gonna live. What was the shower? What was the shower?

SPEAKER_05 1:33:05

What was the shower?

SPEAKER_01 1:33:07

Yeah, I didn't know, but I didn't know. I was I didn't know how to act. I ain't know how to act, boy. I didn't even know how to take a group. I didn't know how to bathe myself in the shower. I was learning. I I'm about 15. 14, 15. Me too. I was 14, 15, not eight, bro. Yeah. Broke my hand. I broke my hand the same year I got the shower. Now I gotta put a plastic bag around my freaking hand and take a shower. I'm like, damn, I'm trying to learn how to take a shower, but now I got this, I got discrepancy. Yeah, I gotta, I gotta forgot his name, man. Come on, man. Come on, dog. But I was in high school, high school when I forgot my shower, bro. Yeah, and nowadays they've been in that shower taking so long. It's like, what are you doing? Hey man, don't you bring it up? Everybody say I take a long shower. I don't say no long shower. I've been in the bathroom long, but I'm in the bath, I'm in the shower long. No, you ain't had that long back in the day when you were taking a shower, like, get out. What you doing? Hey, my boy GB say, boy, you better three minutes in. I said, Yeah, three minutes out. That's crazy. Yeah, like an arm. Like you're in the military. Daddy gonna come knocking on that door. If you took a shower, it had to be like you in the military, in and out. Yeah. You better run that water and take a bath if you want to be in that alone. Yeah. Yeah. All in all, I'm gonna be some reading. Shannon said, I hard, uh it's hard to type everything I have to say, but one day I'll uh join and be David Ruffin to y'all temptation. Yeah, we're gonna we're gonna pull you in now. We can pull you in now, uh Shane. We'll we'll set it up to you. But we got you got you gotta be cautious with what you say, but you're gonna you're gonna you're gonna you get you gonna be you're gonna get ate up. You're gonna get ate up on this thing. I know you can hold your own, but you're gonna be ate up in here. But uh he said, yeah, the true uh country folk gonna live as long as Aries in uh bodies built different for sure. I totally agree, totally agree, bro. Totally agree with that one now. Yes, indeed. Yes, indeed, man. Yes, indeed. Hey, so all this right here, all these the things that we are saying right now, ladies and gentlemen, that those that just joined us, we're talking about communication and how we are uh how we you know live our lives nowadays, the new school way, you know, uh the communication, you know, and and crazy thing about it, bird, granddad ain't had too much to say when he got home. Granddad ain't said nothing. He ain't say nothing, but that but I know you ain't gonna touch that big piece of chicken in there. You that that plate gonna be uh boy. Oh come on now. Oh my god, boy, I can go, I can tell you some things, man. Oh my god. Come on now, yeah. Yeah, that's one thing I still appreciate. Like, still in my household, it's like that. Yeah, yeah. Put daddy, yeah, put daddy plate up. And plate up in the microwave, wrap it up. Don't touch it. Don't touch that. That's for him. Don't touch it. That's the first plate being made, but if the last it'll be eight. Exactly. The last it'll be eight. And I don't even know. Six in the morning to ten at night, eight at night, six in the morning, he gone, five, six in the morning, he's gone, he comes back around eight o'clock at night. Ain't too much conversation. It's he going to bed, he waking up and doing the same thing. Yeah, and I don't even ask for that. Because my thing is make sure the kids eat. Make sure they're good. Make sure the kids do. I don't care about that. Like, I find something. I'm growing up the city. That's a new, that's a newer time right now that we that we have up. We have we have uh we have more to do that with. You know what I'm saying, Bird? We ain't gotta be in the field all from from sun up to sundown type deal. You get what I'm saying? You know, if you go ahead and make sure y'all go ahead and eat. If you don't want to eat, I'll bring some food home. I'll bring some food home so you ain't gotta cook if you've been, you know, so it's like a we we do compromise indirectly. I just don't like that that that mindset. Like, okay, that's my mindset. I want to make sure the kids eat first. Cool. Right, right, absolutely. Her mindset is saving this to the side. Don't touch that, don't do this, get y'all's this is. Get them kids, feed them kids, feed the kids. Now, I got ice me off. I can eat some period. Well, ice me off over time. I come home and I got nothing. Always okay. Come home, you ain't got nothing, then you gotta go back out to get something. Okay. That right there hurt. That hurt. I got that. If I gotta do that, okay. I might well, I might well stay out. There's a lot of more stuff gonna be turned off in here. I can go live by myself. Hey, baby. Yeah, hey, hey, wait, wait, hey, uh Kim I say gonna be a they're gonna be a dark cooking this year. You know, since the old black folk treat. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, all that, everything going on. Everything. What's good, Coach Smithy? Coach Smith, what's good with you, baby? Good to see you, man. Good to see you, good to see you. Old coach from college right there. Big dog, for sure. What's happening with you, coach? Coach Smithy in the building, baby. Oh, wait, you still in Ohio? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. For sure, for sure. Thank you for joining us tonight, man. We ain't got that many viewers, but we're talking about good old, good old stuff. You heard me? So y'all like sharing tad, like sharing tad, man. We're talking about some good stuff, man. Uh conversation that we need. Hey, fellas, excuse me.

SPEAKER_03 1:38:54

Um, I got a slide. Uh my girl's birthday, so we're finna uh trying to. Oh, hey, turn up, though. Do your thing.

SPEAKER_01 1:39:02

Hey, Ray, hey, Razor Roof. I know you're nothing about that. Yes, sir. Love y'all, man. Appreciate it, man. Y'all take care of it. Love your boy. Love your boy. Help me down. Yes, sir. So they got a house full. Yeah, for real. They about to party. I'm about to go over there. Bird, you with me, bird? Let go, bird. Let go. Man, on the usual Monday or wood. Yes, sir, man. Yes, sir, yes, sir.

unknown 1:39:36

Yes, sir.

SPEAKER_01 1:39:37

Man, we can hold on to that next one though. Uh if you want to. We can. Yeah, let's do that. Tim hit it. That was that one and the first one, original. The first original one, too. Both of them. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's what we're supposed to talk about. So the next couple weeks are gonna be based on the relationship thing and how we dealing with relationships and so on and so forth. So the umbrella, like I said, uh the umbrella of this conversation, the overall topic is relationships, respect, and real communication. Relationships, respect, and real communication. Uh, what we dove into tonight was uh how communication styles differ. Uh, yeah, how communication styles differ. All right, we had another one, but we're gonna save that one. Uh, and we got another one after that. So we're gonna we're gonna week by week, most of these things are gonna take two hours to talk about, anyways, apparently. We know we know they're gonna do that tonight. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So uh we'll we'll we'll I want you to put this in y'all head. All right. The next one we'll we'll we'll dive into is uh what respect looks like in a relationship. What does respect look like in a relationship? I say it again. What does respect look like in a relationship? So we're gonna dive into that one, and we got another one uh that we'll dive into the week after that. So let's let's let's uh keep this uh that's that's this is uh part one, bird. Yeah, let's just say that. Part one part one part one of three, chapter one of three. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So that I like that. That's that's that's good. I'm glad you caught that. I'm glad you caught that. The name of the episode is called Lost in Translation. Lost in Translation.

SPEAKER_05 1:41:22

Ooh!

SPEAKER_01 1:41:23

I like part one. I like that, broad. I like that. West Side has popped up. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Uh, Coach Smith say I'm in Greenville, South Carolina, for a work conference this week. Oh man. Oh man. Damn, Greenville, that's that's close, that's real close, man. I I went and applied for a job in Greenville back in the day. Coach Gentry uh uh brother didn't hire me. Coach Gentry's brother told me to go to the uh BMW, uh the BMW uh manufactory where they make the uh the X5s, all the SUVs are made right there in South uh Greenville, South Carolina. The only place in the world X5s are made, Greenville, South Carolina. He told me, go and get a job over there, hit my brother, but my man, they ain't hiring me. That's the only time I've been to Greenville, South Carolina, and it was snowing that day. Crazy, I'll never forget it. I never forget it. Damn. That's what's up. That's what's up. You in Greenville. You close by, you close by, you close by, bro. Damn. We go we're gonna I'm gonna get up there and have a smoke with you, man. We're gonna I'm gonna get up to South Carolina, I mean uh Ohio and kick it with you sometime, man. We're gonna kick it, man, for sure. I'm gonna get up there. I'm gonna get up there. I'm gonna start traveling a little bit more, more than I've been doing. So I look forward to it too. I'm gonna stop in Kentucky, my old summit ground, and get on up to Ohio, man, and we're gonna we're gonna kick it. I'm gonna find you. We're gonna we're gonna we're gonna kick it, bro. Yes, indeed. That's my old coach right there. Old hard, oh hard-nosed coach right there for sure. Hard nose, man. I'm still glad I see you out here moving around. I'm I'm happy for you. I'm glad to still be in contact with you too, for sure. You're a part of making me who I am today. I can say that. You are a huge part of making me who I am today. So I appreciate you. Salute to you, hats off to you. Awesome. Yes indeed. Coach Schmitty, baby. Coach Mitty. One and only Coach Smith.

SPEAKER_02 1:43:32

Why ain't none of my band coaches showing up? What'd you say, Jimmy? Why ain't none of my band coaches showing up?

SPEAKER_05 1:43:51

Hey man, don't stuff. Oh shoot. Boy, I had to pause. I had to think about that thing, boy. You stupid, boy.

SPEAKER_02 1:44:12

Damn, Miss Us. Where you at? Hey, where you at, girl?

SPEAKER_05 1:44:16

Where you at, Carter? Where you at, man? Damn.

SPEAKER_01 1:44:20

I missed it. That was good, dude. That was classic right there, boy. That was good one right there. Damn.

unknown 1:44:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:44:30

Damn.

SPEAKER_05 1:44:31

When you stupid boy.

SPEAKER_01 1:44:36

Yeah, man. Oh, man. Wait a light in the move, boy. Wait a light in the move. Damn. You missed a good one, though, Jimmy. You missed a good one. Good conversation, man. Um, Bird just made a suggestion that uh we make it uh part one because we had the umbrella of uh relationships, respect, and real communication. Let me see, make sure that's that's right. I'm saying uh relationships, respect, and real communication. So that was the umbrella of the conversation. And uh, but there were three angles that we're gonna use. We only use one tonight. We're gonna use we were gonna we're gonna use two, excuse me, but we're gonna we use one tonight because of time frame and all that good stuff. So we got two more. So we're gonna have a next week we're gonna we're gonna tackle another angle, and if we got that, we'll take another angle. So uh Bird came up with a good idea on that part right there. So yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's gonna be good. Yeah, but it was good when the night uh for sure. It was real good when the night. Okay, okay. Yeah, man. You been at gym. You back home?

SPEAKER_02 1:45:42

Huh?

SPEAKER_01 1:45:44

Wait, you back home?

SPEAKER_02 1:45:46

Yeah, I just made it back in, man. Okay. Go on back in here, boy. Bird, ask you where you were where you been. Oh yeah, man, down there at the uh beer company. Down there at the beer company, man. The beer. Yeah, man. Uh try some things out, man. Try some things out, a few different things, and uh, yeah, they pretty solid. They pretty solid. Did you meet the owner? Oh nah. I I mean I I met him when they first opened. We used to we used to party with him back in Remington. I know.

SPEAKER_01 1:46:28

And won't even know where he is. Damn. Yeah. Uh we need to get in contact with him again, though. You need to get back in contact with him for sure. You gotta figure that part out. We gotta get in contact with him. I got a card that they they they gave me when I when I went up to to try to set something up with him. But uh, yeah. They don't I don't talk directly to him. I'm talking to some other folks. I don't want to talk to everybody else because they don't understand. I can I can talk to him and explain to him what I'm trying to do, but I don't want to talk to all these the help. I don't want to do that. I mean, I understand the business, I get it, I I respect it for sure, but they won't understand unless I'm unless I talk to them, you know. So yeah, gotta talk to that owner right there for sure.

SPEAKER_02 1:47:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:47:19

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

unknown 1:47:23

Yeah, man.

SPEAKER_02 1:47:24

Yeah, other than that, man, yeah. I'm here, man, back at the crib and uh uh getting how I live. Getting it how he live.

SPEAKER_01 1:47:38

Yeah, man, we got a smoke going on back there. You see, he sound like he's comfortable, Donnie Bird. He sound like he's comfortable.

SPEAKER_02 1:47:46

I actually feel like put putting it in the air tonight, but I've been dry on cigars for months. I ain't and I ain't really thought to buy now. Dang. So I'ma just chill.

SPEAKER_01 1:48:01

Just chill, huh? Ain't man, ain't man, ain't man, ain't man. I'm still I'm still trying to debate on this this weekend, uh, Westside.

SPEAKER_02 1:48:11

Yeah, well, you know, uh I mean, you know. It's Tuesday already. Right, right. No word been put out yet. So yeah, we gotta hold off then. We'll hold off.

unknown 1:48:27

Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 1:48:30

Ah, it still pop up. Pop out. It may be something light, something light, just to just you know, not not nothing advertised, just go and put something there. That's it. But yeah. See all she not. There you go. More like got him again. Uh-oh. Yeah, well, yeah, but T get back on, we'll we'll what you got, Bird? Well, last time we was out there, we had Ronnie Jordan kicked it with us. Ronnie Jordan? And Big Nicks. Yeah, the comedian Ronnie Jordan. Yeah, kicked it with us out there. A couple of them, both of the comedians kicked it with us out there. Uh him, Lav Love, and Foolish. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We got one from Detroit, one from Atlanta, and Lav Love. He was in Atlanta. So yeah, we had all three of them. The the host and the two comedians was out there kicking it with. BT Comic View. Real talk. They was out there. Real talk, man. Show some love and everything. Show love to having smoke, man. We appreciate y'all, boy. For sure. I've been busy. I've been trying to put that uh that clip together, the whole thing. Oh, yeah. I saw you over there. I saw you over there. Yeah. Yeah, I got that clip. I saw you over there. Doing your thing. Yeah, that yeah, yeah, that'd be good right there, Number. That'd be good, bro. That'd be good. That'd be good. Hey bad, we on here. I can't believe it. Sure. Wesley Thomas III, man. Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome. Thank you. You got you got us at the end, the butt end of uh of the conversation, man. We're about to get off here, but I'm glad you showed up anyway, still. Uh tonight's episode is chapter one of part one of our uh three-week long conversation. Uh three-week long conversation is relationships, respect, and communication. If I ain't mistaken, relationships, respect, and real communication. Uh that's our umbrella. So we uh we we we tackle one one angle up under that umbrella tonight, which is uh how communications, uh communication styles differ or differ, how communication styles differ. That's our first uh topic for tonight. Uh we're gonna continue with another topic up under that umbrella of relationships, respect, and communication and relationships. We're gonna tackle the next topic, chapter two, next Monday, uh, and hold it down right there. So uh please, please, please chime in next Monday night around 7:30, baby, go down and smoke, smoke up in there and all that good stuff. So yeah, chime in next next next Monday. We'll uh we'll we'll continue this conversation right here uh with another topic, uh, another angle rather, up under the umbrella. So yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But I'm glad you showed up tonight for show, still, still sure. Absolutely, absolutely. I'm playing real quick. Y'all can see. Yeah. Okay. Okay, okay. No, I ain't shooting Facebook. Let's go. We hang with the two comedians, uh coming through comedians, uh, where we're now uh well-known comedians that we uh the last uh Seven Smoke uh Cuban Nights uh and Big Nick, shout out to Big Nick man for branding comedians, and had a comedy show and they kicked they they came out on the patio and kicked it with the Seven Smoke crew. You know what I'm saying? So lady love, big love to them guys right there for sure, for sure. Yes indeed, yes indeed. Like I was saying, uh, I had uh Jim was doing his thing. Huh? Jim was doing his thing on that DJing part when I listened to the background of it all, like he was doing his thing. If y'all see two guys, Jimmy and Bird, DJs know how to feed off each other, the transitions. Oh my goodness these two these two guys right here hold on the DJ side of things for sure, for sure. At Cuban Knights and the day parties and all that good stuff. So yeah, these two guys right here, they ain't just they ain't just uh uh uh uh uh uh highly intelligent when it comes to conversation. These guys right here know how to hold it on when it comes to that uh that DJing side of things too. So and they did that. They did that. So shout out to y'all, man, for sure, for sure, for sure.

SPEAKER_02 1:54:03

No, no, no, shit. I was just being funny when I said that. I don't know what I was talking about. Um but yeah, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. No, no, no, yeah, yeah, yeah, no, no. What I was saying was, you know, you know, it was cool to do like a a lounge night. Like you just lounge it. It ain't necessarily a whoop the whoop the whoop whoop, you know. Okay, okay, yeah. Just lounging, you know what I'm saying? Just lounge, lounge on the patio. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Star, star power, you know, whether you have an event or just lounge, people flock to you anyway.

SPEAKER_01 1:54:44

So that boy said star power. You said everything right there, Jimmy. You said everything right there.

SPEAKER_02 1:54:51

Yeah, that's too easy.

SPEAKER_01 1:54:52

Yes, sir. Yes, sir. So that will be at this where we at this Saturday night at Big Nick's? We out there, man. Live and effect, man. Live and effect, right? Going down. Going down. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. All right, we'll hold it like that then for sure. For sure.

SPEAKER_02 1:55:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:55:10

Take ours will be on deck, so don't worry about that. The vibe will be there, of course. You know what I'm saying? We might put a playlist on the speakers or whatever, but the music coming from the outside inside goes to the outside, so we we maybe we all we need is uh is our presence.

SPEAKER_02 1:55:26

That's it, you know. And we just trying to, you know, we just building up the patio, everybody, folks. We're on the patio. That's that we're branding that. We're branding the patio as the patio. Patio.

SPEAKER_01 1:55:40

The patio.

unknown 1:55:42

Yep. I like that.

SPEAKER_01 1:55:44

I like that. Yeah. We on the patio this weekend. We on the patio. We on the patio. It sounds good. Got a nice. Yeah. Yeah. Y'all know where I'm gonna be.

unknown 1:55:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:56:00

37. Oh man, hey, nah, yeah, wait, no, I ain't doing no day part now. Hold on, hold on. Oh, oh, oh. Just regularly kicking that. Just kicking it. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We'll be out there, we'll be out there at six. A regular time. Okay. Yeah, man. We hold we're gonna hold off on the day, man. We're gonna hold off on the day till we get everything else situated.

SPEAKER_01 1:56:27

Right, right, right, right. Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:56:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:56:34

I like it. I like it. I like it. Let's do it.

SPEAKER_02 1:56:38

Well, I ain't talking to you, bird.

SPEAKER_01 1:56:40

We just made it up, bird. I hell. That was first. That next week. Oh. That's this week, I mean.

unknown 1:56:54

This week.

SPEAKER_01 1:56:55

That's this week. This Saturday coming up, baby. The 18th. The 18th is going down in the middle of the week, baby. The stars come out of the patio. Woo! The stars come out of the patio. Yeah. Y'all know what it is.

SPEAKER_02 1:57:14

Y'all know what it is, baby. Man, we'll make it happen. We make it happen like that. That'd be pretty cool.

SPEAKER_01 1:57:21

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Simple, simple and sweet. Simple and sweet, baby. Sure. Well, anything y'all got? Anything y'all wanna add, Bird? You got something, Bird? Okay, no. Okay. Okay, okay. Anything you want to add anything, bro? We got it. Other than what? Oh no, what we already talked about, we already said it.

unknown 1:58:00

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:58:01

Yeah, I ain't got nothing to add, man. Meet us on the patio that weekend, man. We'll be out there lounging. You know, uh uh to kickback, man, conversation. Um, you know, I hate to use the word vibes. I'm trying to not use such uh repetitive words. Um but we'll be out there. Yep, we'll be out there. We'll be out there. We'll create create our own words soon, Jimmy. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, we'll be out there, man, uh, this Saturday, big Nicks. But on the patio. On the patio. BKA on the patio. You know, that's what we'll be at. From six until uh music. You know, uh from the from the inside out. You did. Uh we ain't gotta bring, you know, we ain't gotta do the live DJ stuff this time, but you know, we just everybody chilling. Everybody get a chance to chill. Everybody get a chance to chill. It's downtime. So Saturday, Saturday gonna be beautiful. Uh the weather is gonna be beautiful. It's gonna be in the uh mid-80s. Um yeah. And and and and at night, uh, it probably reached like the 60s, but it's still gonna be a beautiful time. Um cigars will be on deck, as my partner said. Uh, of course, Nick got the good drink for you. Uh the few, the food is there. Um, and it's just really just to come out and have a good time, man. If you don't feel like staying in the house, uh you want to come out to eat, you don't necessarily want to eat inside, you want to feel the weather, the breeze, come on out to the patio. We'll be able to live an effect.

SPEAKER_01 1:59:49

That's right. So stay less, brother. What can you say after that, man? God no, you want somewhere to be, you want somewhere to go? Hey, there we go. We on the patio. Oh, bar. Go out to them bar. Bar, right up, bar, bar. Hey, come on now. Hey, come on, baby. You're on the patio, baby. Yes, indeed. Yes, indeed, man. Uh, I gotta make sure I let my people know that my new folks that I uh ran to, just ironically, they from Baltimore, husband and wife, uh, military, cast it down here. Uh ironically, living uh AR and everything. But they said, man, you need to do it two times a month. Man, I be going all with it to uh okay, say less. I got your number. I'm gonna just let you know we're gonna be at the patio. I'm gonna let you know we're at the patio, baby. This Saturday it's going down in a major way, baby. For sure, for sure. Yes, indeed. So I would definitely uh hit them up and let them know what we what we got going on. And yeah, so that's dope. That's dope. That's dope. Well said, Jimmy. We'll see. We'll see. We'll see. We'll see. Well, if if if Bird, you ain't got nothing to uh add to it, man. We're gonna get up out of here, man. Yeah, yep. You good? Yeah. All right, cool, man. Another episode of 7 Sports Sigar Table Talk, man. Uh, great conversation tonight, man. Uh, like I said, this is uh this is part one of our relationships, respect, and communicating in a relationship. That's that that's our that's our umbrella right there. But we got angles. We got three angles. We we we tackled one tonight. Uh it was based on how uh how does communication differ uh when it when it comes to a relationship. So uh we're gonna tackle another one next week, next Monday. So make sure y'all chime in then. Tell a friend, tell a friend, tell that friend and tell another friend, you know what I'm saying, and pack this thing up. Let's have some conversation, man. Real, real talk, real spit. Men or women, it don't matter whether whatever, whoever show up, y'all all can relate to this, these conversations. So we need to hear it. We need to hear it. It's only gonna it's only gonna challenge us and uh and challenge our perspective and uh allow us to see different than ourselves. So you know what I'm saying? So come on out on Monday, next Monday, 7 smoke cigar table talks. It's going down the major way, 7:30 p.m., baby. Right here live on Facebook, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, YouTube, uh, Twitch. Wells, bird. That's it. Yep. That's it. Alright, cool. So uh I'm gonna cigar log. You know, I'm doing myself here with my brother, my compadre. You start with my my guy up top. What you got? I see I see left and right. Oh yeah, I got top and bottom. Well, you got me, B-Y-R-D, Bird, okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yo, yo, yo, yo, what you call it? Jack Double, too, by the way, for the record. I bet. You the only one breaking up. Cool. Y'all be cool. It's all for y'all. Hey, bird, hold it down, man. I appreciate you, man. I appreciate everything you do for us, brother. For sure, for sure. Who else we got, man?

SPEAKER_02 2:03:08

Hey, it's Jim.

SPEAKER_01 2:03:15

That is it, y'all. Y'all heard. Y'all heard, man. Hey, man, until until next time, man, y'all stay fresh, stay light, stay love. Love on your people, check on your people, man. Turn all your paint into champagne. When all this fails, you know what to do. Y'all better smoke.

SPEAKER_00 2:03:32

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