Peach Radio presents Check In: Resilience

In this episode of Peach Radio, she talking about Resilience. Take 60 seconds to asked yourself do you love you?

Transcript

SPEAKER_27 0:01

They know that I'm crazy retard. They know that I'm crazy retall. My shoulders run down, no talking. I don't got time for the bark. Bitch, I'm a pull up and park it.

SPEAKER_17 0:20

Peach radio show starts now. Let's go. Take a moment to tap into Peach ENT. Download the mobile app. All the information is on my website, peach ENT dot com. Again, that's Peach ENT dot com. Check me out. Also, follow me every single Sunday on Indemex Radio from 12 to 2. This showtime. Happy, happy Sunday. Welcome to the Peach Radio show produced by Peach E T. Home of the check-in where I check into myself and share my lessons. So I hope that you check in with me. Also, this is the home of indie music. So if you are an artist, get your music played by emailing me at Pierce at P T.com. That's Pierce. P-E-I-R-R-C-H at P-E-N-T.com. So today's check-in topic will be on resilience. We're going to talk about how we were resilient. Well, at least I'm going to talk about it. You're going to think about it. So just take this moment now. Check in with yourself. Think about a resilient moment. And then we're going to talk about it. Well, I'm going to talk about it. Also, continue to follow and share in the mix radio. Shout out to Patrick for the opportunity to share my brand. I am so happy to be here. And I am thankful, thankful, thankful on this Sunday. Now, before we get started, I need y'all, listen, sis, bro, whomever um that's listening, you're non-binary, you're welcome here. Pull out your mobile phone. And I need you to head over to your app store and download the PGET mobile app. You want to get it. And I'm going to tell you why. Because if you're listening on in the mix radio, you hear the audio. But inside the mobile app, you get to see the visuals. Yes. Don't you want to see the visuals on these fire, fire music videos that I'm playing? So head over again to your app store and download PGT Mobile app. Now, let's get into this music. We're going to do things different this episode. I think I need a pick-me-up. So my first song of the day, and you might need one too. Some of y'all just might be waking up from that overnight party. I don't know what y'all did Saturday night, but I know I need a pick me up. So let's go into this music. New York by my baby Mosiah featuring Jason Harvey. Let's go.

SPEAKER_26 3:34

That's my it.

SPEAKER_02 5:31

Okay. I'm the need of new channel. I'm a big puppy. I put the city in the sweet. I'm a stick in the neck sweet. I'm a two nigga and hood. Niggas and bitches. I put the city.

SPEAKER_14 6:22

I'm a star. Any question we say is the two star. Niggas know I'm a move when it question I wanna die. Nigga, lazy, lazy, lazy, nigga, we talk too much to talk about me push in the baby. Give us having the babies. That's a fit of force to make it a bunch of fucking here. We gon' be clear. Let us do stuff in the air. I got the food in here. I got the goose in here. 44 stock. See, I got the block in here. We got the box in here.

SPEAKER_02 6:47

I'm from the city that never sleep. I'm a step happen in every street. Pull up on niggas like 50 deep. I'm from New York. I'ma do blackin' in every hood. Kill up with niggas in every hood. Who cut the hand me in every hood? I'm from New York, shittin' me. All of these bitches are feeling me. Niggas and bitches be grilling me. Shittin' me, hitting me. I'm from New York. I'm from New York. I'm from the city that never sleep. I must that happen to never street. Pull up on niggas like 50 deep.

SPEAKER_17 7:16

Ha ha that was my baby Mosiah. Oh my god. I'm from New York. Damn, y'all. Too bad your sis can't listen. I can't dance like these new kids, man. These kids be having all the dances, you know, that go with that beat Moe was playing. I can't do none of that ish. So I guess all I have to do is just bop my head to it, you know. I'm from New York. Well, I'm not technically from New York. I'm from New Jersey. Ah, all right. So right now, if you are watching the visuals, I am actually on my brand wall. And on it is one of my blogs, which is Would You Date Yourself. Now, this all everything I'm about to discuss here is inside the mobile app. Alright, so that's why I'm telling you, you got to get it. It is fire. Everything peach, everything about the R report, Mag, shout out again to Patrick. It's inside my mobile app. It's a it's a one-stop shop for everything that goes on here. So let me just continue to share. So inside the mobile app, I have blogs related to each and every show. So what's featured right now is Would You Date Yourself. It's been up, I think, for about a couple weeks. So please excuse the house clean. I got a house clean. Just excuse my house, my mobile house. I gotta do a little bit of cleaning because I had to transition into radio. So please forgive me. So there are various topics in there. Like one of my favorites is what do you expect from yourself? So you need to get in there and read that. What do you expect from yourself? And it's also a matching episode inside my app. Also, listen, I need you to go in and check in. Check in, tap in, and share your real life moments and what you learn. Please, please share. And let me tell you why it's important. Because it's always someone facing some type of adversity that you already solve. So if you go into the mobile app and click on the check-in blog, just click on it, share your story, share how you resolved it. And if it's fire, I will be sharing it on this show. Hell, I might even look you up and say, listen, sis, bro, like come on to the show. That story is fire. That'll make an awesome topic. Let's chit chat about it. You know, because I told you already in the previous show, storytelling is how we learn. Well, at least it's one of the ways. So please go and tap in to the check-in blog and share your stories. And men, please don't be shy because your stories matter. And I would love to hear them, and I would love to have you as guests on my show. Also, within the mobile app is ways to follow me again because I am on multiple social media platforms, right? And so instead of you just cruising all over the place, you could just go to the mobile app and I give you a direct link. You just click it and then you hit subscribe. Boom, that's simple. And if you are a faithful R Report magazine reader, you could download my mobile app. You could click on it. Any of the articles you want to read, or you could just tap on it and go straight to the R-Report magazine, in which yours truly is a writer. So, you know, stay tuned. I'm doing a lot of things. And again, Patrick, I am honored to be a part of your team and helping you with your vision. So please, everyone, continue to like in the mixed radio. Continue to listen to me between the hours of 12 and 2 on Sundays. And support everyone else on Ender Mix Radio. Support us. We are indie, we're not indie artists, I guess. I guess we are indie storytellers, reporters. Um, I'm the black indie Wendy Williams, I guess. The bootleg Wendy, the bootleg Sherry Shepherd. I don't know. Just support me because I'm here. I'm here and I'm doing the thang, thang. Now, I want to um let you guys know I will be taking interviews and I'll do them on the show, right? So in order for you to be a part, or if you would like to be interviewed, just email me. Pierce P-E-I-R-R-C-E at peach.com. Again, it's the same email. You're probably kinda hearing me say it, but I need to. And it's on the screen if you are actually watching the visuals. Pierce P-E-I-R-R-C-E at peach.com. All right. So that is everything that I wanted to share with you advertisement-wise. So don't be shocked if I repeat it again. But I have to do the house cleaning. Now, after this um music video, we're gonna get into by Big Gov. Uh, we'll start to jump into our topic, which is resilience. And again, I need you to go close your eyes, go deep inside yourself, and put yourself in that moment where you had to be resilient, when you had to rise above the occasion, where you had to pull all the pieces together and make it happen. Stay in that space, right? After this, big gov let me live. We're gonna go into our topic, resilience. Let's go, big government.

SPEAKER_15 14:20

I ain't go through hell and I had no heaven.

SPEAKER_21 14:24

I've been through it all, yeah. I closed out the back, you can bet I said I threw it all, yeah. And I'm still here, I got the right to be the best like I knew, yeah.

SPEAKER_15 14:37

And I wanna be alive to see 25 boots flash, I'm alive and watch my money rise. I'm packing tools, don't you want to crack? I just wanna chill and get topped off.

unknown 14:50

By your bad boots, all the coochie ain't a knock off.

SPEAKER_15 14:53

That's what the ass phone, nigga. What you mad for? You the one that wanna see a limit on my cash flow. Same nigga smiling in my face like in grass, bro. But throwin' hella stained as soon as I turn my back, though. It's hard to remain humble when you have a million and one niggas aiming at you. I think you're not becoming asshole. Looking at my past, yo. I ain't never ever going back, bro. Put that on everything I love and on that note. I have to separate the real from the fake, the love from the hate, my dog from the hate.

SPEAKER_21 15:23

I love the fact you better do it on yet. And I got the wife, the fellow I got to win, yeah.

SPEAKER_15 15:49

Find no millions, follow my fishing. Now they call it like it's up, which uh my steam got a little buzz, I'm trying to buff with time hanging out, I'm tryna live it up. It's all up, it's stuck with a buff. That's when it's you call it show. They start throwing some flippin' shots one while I walk around with rust.

unknown 16:07

I used to have a point of 50 niggas, 50 niggas, defense, we went down the tin.

SPEAKER_15 16:11

If we in the trenches, tickets, tricky fitness, falling on niggas fits. Let's move to the oh, it's back, you put some great niggas parts from the fellas. I don't think from a mile away.

SPEAKER_21 16:24

That's when you separate the world from the fake, the love from the hate, the dog from the back, you better do it on yet. And I don't want to put that on the wind, get where we found out.

SPEAKER_00 17:22

The male female, by level, there's actually another way to come in.

SPEAKER_25 17:28

Oh wow, thank you, brother. Yeah.

SPEAKER_17 17:34

Check out Beyond the Mind, produced by Peach and T Fridays at 8 p.m. Time to check in, sis. Are you ready to go within? I am what's up, everyone. So we are back. I hope you enjoy Big Gov featuring um Nisha Nache. Um Let Me Live. And I think that is the perfect song to begin the topic of uh resilience, what it means to be resilient and how we have to function in this world to even just survive, right? So, um, did you guys just see that commercial that um that was played? Um, it's from one of the shows that I actually produce. It's called Beyond the Mind, where you can actually sit down and talk to two fabulous fellas, and they will help you through some of life's tough issues. Like even if you have a problem with resilience or you're trying to change something about yourself, you need to tap in and watch Beyond the Mind Fridays at 8 p.m. Um, yes, I do produce shows, so yeah, even if you want to stream a show yourself, please hit me up, Pierce at peachent.com. But yes, tap in every Friday. Go to my YouTube channel, it's at PeachENT Brands and help yourself. I am all about self-improvement and again checking in with ourselves, right? Because only you know what needs to be fixed internally and why wait. So check out Beyond the Mind. So today's topic, resilience, right? Um, this was important to me to discuss on this Sunday because I was just thinking about the multiple times in my life I had to be really, really resilient, even when I thought I couldn't be. So allow me to share a moment in my life, and you continue to think about a moment in your life where you were resilient, and and share these stories like I'm about to share mine with you. You can even share my story if it'll help someone improve themselves. So when I was 23 years old, 23 years old, right? Again, I am halfway 100 right now, but 23 years old, when I look back to that time in my life, I don't even understand how I even pulled through to get to where I am now. So at 23, I lost everyone. I lost my mother that raised me, which was my grandmother. I lost her in the beginning of the year, my father that raised me, which was my grandfather. I lost him in the middle, and then on Christmas Eve, I turned around and I lost my husband on Christmas Eve. 23 years old, and then to top it off, y'all. I had two children. They were like stair steps. One was in my arm, wasn't even one, and the other one was two, barely talking really well. So could you imagine at 23 years old, losing your your support system, losing, you know, your husband, the person that helps you on the day-to-day. I can't even understand how I pulled myself up and was able to continue to function. And I mean, it just happened back to back to back. I didn't get a chance to really mourn my grandmother. I didn't really get a chance to mourn my grandfather, and then I had to turn around and deal with everything in between with the children and my husband, and then turn around and lose him. So I had to be really resilient. Really, really resilient. And at the time, I was barely working a job. Job that made enough money to pay all the bills. So thank God for uh the teachings of my grandparents, you know, the the things that you need in life because I was young, I could have been like uh most young people just carefree, not thinking. But luckily, I listened, I had insurance that helped me get through those terrible times, you know, from my my husband, my deceased husband. So that helped me financially, but the mental piece, thank God to good friends, you know, for standing by my side. Shout out to my best friend who was there during that time that had that ear, that had that time to spend with me. Um, one thing I regret is not getting therapy. So if you're listening and you are going through something similar, don't be like me and try to push through because you know, our culture, the black African-American culture, or whatever you want to call yourself, it's frowned upon to get therapy. So I didn't, but I'm I I needed it, I'm sure I needed it at the time. So listen, it was that was a very dark and heavy space, but luckily I pulled through with the support of my friends, and I was able to persevere and be resilient and push forward. So that's one of my stories. Um, another time I had to be resilient is you know, I got married a second time, and my marriage ended nine years ago, almost nine years ago. And imagine, because I met him maybe a few months after the death of my husband, and you know, he was a great friend, someone that was supportive and someone to talk to, and then I was with him up until almost nine years ago. So imagine you know, the divorce, the separation that was just a major loss, also, you know. So I had to be resilient again in that moment because I lost my support system, and you know, it's just not a financial thing, it's a mental thing. Luckily, this time I was wise enough to have a career as a Pede's nurse that helped me, you know, when I lost the additional income from the divorce, and I was able to persevere again and manage my finances. And this time I wasn't foolish, I actually did speak to a therapist to help me get through because again, it's you know, more loss, it's not death, but it's loss, it's loss of a person that actually knew me through and through. It was the loss of someone that was a friend, a loss of a companion. So, and I'm just glad at this moment that I had older children, and this time three children, to which one was still in high school, so but I feel blessed, you know, that I actually learned from the first experience. I learned to be more, I had to be more mindful about my finances. It brought me into the reality of you're not gonna always have someone to lean on. It brought me into the reality of you might have to stand on your own, you know, your own too, and rely on you and and and try to heal yourself mentally and also be a springboard for the little people that depend on you. It also taught me that you know, I have to re-look at what I can bring to the table for myself, you know. I had to let go of codependency, so I had to live the rest of my life trying to figure out who was I gonna become, how was I gonna maintain my lifestyle that I would build, whether it was with someone, you know, or without someone. And if they left, can I still sustain? So all of that happened at 23, and then it carried me over, and all of those things that I learned from that time period helped me to survive my divorce. And here I am um on in the mix radio sharing all of this. Um, and I could probably say that I'm still here, and my children they are doing well, they are happy, healthy people, and you know, we made it, I made it, but wow, during that time, I didn't know how I was gonna make it during my divorce. You know, I'm like, okay, I can make it because I went through all of that so young. So in that moment, I was resilient. So let's talk about what is resilience, and uh I hope someone benefits from what I just said. So, resilience is the ability to adapt and cope with stress, adversity, or trauma, right? Because in that moment at 23 years old, I felt like I was faced with so much adversity, and and yes, my stress level was through the roof. I tell you guys, assist, bro, if you're listening, it's nowhere in the world I could probably deal with that kind of stress right now because you know when you halfway 100, your blood pressure, but as a young 23-year-old girl, uh, my head used to be bumping. I was always worried, but I just kept pushing. Um, and so I'm reading from this little clip I have here. This photo. If you're watching the um visuals, if you're listening audio, I'm reading everything that's on this uh clip. This photo it says it is the capacity to bounce back and recover from difficult situations or challenges. That's what resilience is. Resilience can involve emotional, cognitive, and behavioral processes and can be developed and strengthened over time through various strategies such as positive thinking, social support, and self-care. Now, at 23 years old, I'm not sure if I was thinking about too much positive things because right now, I at that moment I was in that doom and gloom space. This is 2000 when everything is transitioning, cell phones, dot-coms, and all this other stuff. I'm just transitioning, trying to make it in the new world and learn things and trying to raise my children. So it was just really, really, really hard. But I didn't have up here the social support, and I guess my form of self-care was just taking moments to myself and actually, you know, after putting the kids to bed, feeding them, and coming home from work, just taking a moment to just breathe and have that little glass of wine and breathe. I also took moments to um do something nice for myself. Like if I had a babysitter, I would go to the movies or maybe I do a little bit of therapeutic shopping. I always did something for me, get my nails done, and I always told myself this is just a moment in your life. I don't know how many more years you got, Pierce, but this is just a moment, and we're gonna make it through this. So let me continue to read this photo. It says, it is an important skill that helps individual overcome setbacks and navigate life, life's ups and downs with greater ease and confidence. Now, when you going through, um I did not have confidence, at least I don't think so. Or maybe I should say I I wasn't thinking about having confidence. All I cared about was my children becoming the best them. Um my life was just on the back burner, so I wanted them to become, I wanted them to grow, I wanted them to have all the things that I had growing up, I wanted them to become whatever it is they desired to be. And I'm gonna pat myself on the back because we made it. We we made it, we made it, as a matter of fact. I am happy to share after the losses, after the divorce, and all the things. She is headed to med school in June and Howard University. So, shout outs to being resilient in a time where and at an age where it wasn't expected for me to be, and I kept pushing, and now I'm gonna have a med student, and currently now I never would have thought that that young girl standing there with the two babies living in this one bedroom attic apartment would now be living in a half almost a half a million dollar house. So, shout outs to me, shout out to the people that supported me. Um, I'm glad I am thankful. I am thankful every day for my life. So we gotta learn to be resilient. Now, how to build resilience? How do you build it, right? I know it's over time, and the older we get, at least most of us, the older we get, the more experiences we have, the more we put things into our tool belt to be able to handle things. So let me read this image: how to build resilience. So this is by Dr. Allison Block. She gives five factors that promote resilience if you feel like you're lacking. Um, number one is connection. It says build good relationships with friends and family, involvement in community, culture, school, charitable, or faith-based groups, um, and internalizing a sense of connectedness. That's one way, build a connection. Like I said, for me, it was my best friend that I had for multiple years, and our grandparents were friends, so it's like I already had like a uh uh I guess uh uh outside family dynamic, I guess. So not only did I have my bestie, I was close with her family, so it made things easier, and it also helped out with the children um as much as they could, right? So build good relationships, friends keep my family was kind of far. Everybody lived in the south or lived uh two hours away, so they really couldn't help, but yeah, surround yourself with good friends, build good friendships. Friends are important, right? Good friends. I'm not saying those shallow, shady ones, get you some good, good friends. Um, oh yeah, it's called chosen family nowadays. Build you a nice circle of chosen family that's surrounding you that can help you out. Now, the second that Dr. Allison Block speaks about is communication, ability to share, explain, explore, and understand. Also, the ability to reframe what has happened and develop insight and good judgment. Now, I I okay, so the ability to reframe what was happening. A lot of times, I know when my um when my grandmother died, I said, okay, this is old age and cancer, and then when my grandfather died, this is um him missing his wife, old age and heart disease. But then when my husband was killed, he was murdered. It's like this is unexpected. Why is this happening? Now, I had to reframe my mind, I had to look at it from an angle of this. Is this an experience? This has nothing to do with me. I don't have bad luck, I don't have a curse or anything on me. You understand? Because we'll internalize things and try to connect it to us, uh, to make us feel worse when that's just not necessarily, it's not the case. Sometimes things just happen, and it happens around us to us, but it has nothing to do with us personally. So I had to learn that. I couldn't connect it with me. I am not the reason these things happening, and I couldn't stay in the woe is me space. I just had to reframe, like I just told you, this happened because of this disease, this happened because of that disease, this happened because there was a person that had some type of issue with my husband and killed him. Notice how I didn't take ownership of any of that, and I just accepted it as an experience going on in my life, and I needed to heal and I needed to grow, and I needed to keep keep it moving for the children, and so I started to make a plan for me where it says develop of insight and good judgment. So, with good judgment, you know, you start to plan, you start to figure out your life and putting things in motion. Now, the third is confidence. Now, Ashley Block says, positive yet realistic view of yourself, accurate sense of your abilities, recognition of what you have learned after a problem is resolved, ability to visualize your goals and what you want, believing you can influence how things turn out. Now, with the confidence piece, now that I'm reading that, maybe I did have confidence, but I just I wasn't recognizing it as that. Um, because after all of those things happened, I started to feel a sense of I am the master of my life, I control the destination, and just like I just mentioned, I began to create a plan and follow through on it. What was the rest of my life gonna look like? That's not to say that everything was on task with the plan, but I started there, I just started writing down and building my life and going in that direction that I wanted it to go. I took control, I visualized my goals, I visualized what I wanted, I knew what I wanted in that moment. So confidence. So the fourth is competence and commitment, ability to look at the big picture, ability to problem solve, following through, not giving up, working towards your goals every day.

SPEAKER_16 39:14

Thank you, Dr. Allison. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

SPEAKER_17 39:20

Now, I called that being focused when I had to go through, right? Let's re let's let's redirect where I was looking. Of course, at 23 years old, I could have sat and sulked and said, Poor is me. Oh, whoa, poor me. Oh, I lost everything, I lost everyone. But I had to shift my focus. Like I told you, I had two children I had to care for, so I had to do a lot of problem solve. I had to shift the way I was thinking, I had to look at the bigger picture. The bigger picture wasn't me and what I wanted, the bigger picture was these children and how they were going to live, and how was I gonna provide it, and who was I gonna become because I had to become somebody to be able to be a provider and to do all of these things, right? And I followed through and I didn't give up. So, so far we talked about connection, communication, confidence, competency, and commitment. And the last one is control, managing strong feelings so they enhance relationships and productivity, developing coping skills, not just quick fixes, keeping things in perspective, understand the role that your thoughts play in how you feel. Now, I love the last one, right? Um, because I was actually raised to manage emotions, like my grandmother always told me, we're gonna feel 101 ways, right? But we need to stop in the moment, understand what emotion you're feeling, understand why you're feeling it, and then make the proper judgment as to how you're gonna react. Because if you just feel something and you just fly off the handle, you can f up a whole bunch of stuff. So I already had that in my tool belt, but to actually have to use it, it was a bit difficult, but I I managed it and I learned. So let me give you an example. Just to repeat, I lost three people in one year, so you know that's emotional turmoil. I could have been all over the place. Every time I thought about them, I could have just bust into tears and yellered and yelled and hollered and and and you know, just been unconsolable and unmanageable. I could have done this at work, I could have done this while trying while trying to build relationships with other people, but I had to understand, you know, that it's a space and place for that, and those spaces and places needed to be something private, and and you know, where I'm sorry, either private or in the company of someone who understood. I couldn't do those in the spaces where I were trying where I was trying to build, so I learned to manage my emotions um during that time. Um and it was difficult, it was very difficult, and it still is difficult now, you know. Just to give some wisdom. I I lost suffered losses maybe over 25 years ago, but it still you know sits in my heart, and I still be feeling these emotions that rise up, and I still cope and I still deal. I've just learned to be better at it as time went on. I developed my coping skills, but that was you know, basically what I wanted to talk about with you guys being resilient, especially during this time with Trump and all of the things that's going on, and you know, inflation, and we're working these jobs, and we probably necessarily are not making ends meet. This is the time to become resilient if you're not, and if you are resilient, share your scoping skills with people that are less resilient. You know, not everyone has that mental fortitude that you have. Help someone out, do some things, um, refer them to this live stream so they can hear. These points on how to become resilient, and again, like I said, at the top of this, before I actually begin my spiel about resilience, I produce a show called Beyond the Mind that can help you to become resilient, help you build it, but you have to follow me on YouTube, Peach E T brands, to watch it 8 p.m. on Fridays. It's an excellent show, it helps you to reshape the mind without um thousands of dollars worth of therapy. You'll get tools to add to your tool belt, and you can actually come up on my show and tell me did those modalities work for you. But yes, be resilient in this time, in this space. Teach your children how to be resilient, mothers, parents, because we're not gonna always be here and they need to survive. So when we go out later on in the show, right before it ends, I will play a nice video by Carl Young. It's about resilience, and I know you're gonna enjoy it, but before we get to all of that, I am going to go into my next music video. It's new, new, new, new, and it's by a fire artist. I love her so much. Um, it's called Human by Miss Kelly.

SPEAKER_01 49:14

No, that's right. You ready? Let's go investigation into the death of Ashley Robinson. Her family is demanding answers after the influencer from South Jersey was found dead during a trip to Africa where she had just been engaged. Action news reporter Cheyenne Corinne joining us live in the Satellite Center with more on this heartbreaking story, Cheyenne.

SPEAKER_12 49:38

Alicia, well, Ashley Robinson, she actually was raised locally in South Jersey, and now her death in Zanzibar is making headlines across the world. Well, today we spoke to her family in Delaware who say they aren't getting answers from her fiance or officials in Tanzania about what happened to her.

SPEAKER_22 50:03

Like a part of me has been taken away.

SPEAKER_12 50:05

On April 5th, influencer Ashley Robinson, who goes by Ashley Janae on social media, was celebrating her 31st birthday in Zanzibar, Tanzania. She was on the vacation with her boyfriend of one year, who popped the question just two days before.

SPEAKER_24 50:23

We believe that their relationship was genuine.

SPEAKER_12 50:26

Ashley's mother says she never would have expected that less than a week later her daughter would be dead on April 8th. She says Ashley called, saying she and her fiance got into an argument and were moved to separate rooms. The next day she received another call, this time from her fiance. They wrote, quote, according to the husband, he found she hanged herself on the door with several question marks.

SPEAKER_22 51:10

After some time, Joe went back to the Roman security and that's how they found her.

SPEAKER_12 51:14

Ashley was also taken to a second hospital who listed her cause of death as cerebral hypoxia by strangulation and suffocation. And the family, as you just heard, they are just desperate for information. They tell us that they are requesting surveillance footage from the resort. They also say that they have contacted police, the consulate, an embassy, and have not heard back. No action news. We also tried to contact Ashley's fiance, and we also did not get a response. The family says their next steps are going to Zanzibar themselves to try to get answers. We're live in the Satellite Center, Shine Current Channel 6. Action News Red.

SPEAKER_17 52:03

Oh, this stag on case, man. I uh all right. So welcome to the news portion of um Peach Radio show. Uh of course, I'm sure everyone um probably has heard of Ashley uh Janae by now. Um influencer from my town, New Jersey, um was uh reportedly, well, allegedly, she killed herself in Tanzania while she was out with her uh fiance, Joe McCain or McCann. Um please forgive me. I am just uh taken aback about this. It's it's just a sad, sad, sad story. Um I don't believe for a second that Ashley committed, you know what. I just don't. I believe that her fiance had something to do with her death. I don't know about you guys. Um now let's talk about Ashley herself. Now, I I am a YouTuber, right? I frequent these YouTube streets, I listen to all the stories, and one of the things I don't care for, especially about the African American, black, FDA, whatever you call our community, we are always judging people um when they end up in this type of circumstance, um, excuse me, circumstance, especially when it involves a Caucasian person. So now in the YouTube streets, um, they're saying that Ashley was actually a bottle girl at a um high-end restaurant. They're also saying that she was an exotic dancer, an escort, um, all of the things that most people in our community continue to believe is CD um professions. But for me, I look at this as a girl straight out of New Jersey being resilient, like she wanted to change her life. And so in the process of doing so, if you don't have the education necessary to do so, or the opportunity, sometimes you end up doing these things that people consider as seedy, like the escort, like the exotic dancer, you know, or a bottle girl, which I don't understand what's wrong with being a bottle girl or a waitress. Oh, well, really, none of it, none of it. If it gets you to your goal, again, resilient. We have to do the things that we need to do to become the person that we want to be. So I'm not sure exactly what Ashley's plans were, but I'm sure she didn't plan to um end up dead in Zanzibar. I don't think she well unalived. I'm sorry. I don't think she planned to be unalive in Zanzibar. Now, also, I have been listening to a lot of commentary and allegedly close people that were uh in Ashley's uh surroundings, uh like her friends, I guess, associates, because Ashley lived a very um social life. Allegedly, they're claiming that this guy Joe was an abusive person to her already. So I'm not sure how um extended that was, whether it was verbal or he was putting her hand his hands on her, but I'm gonna tell you guys, from my perspective, from me watching the videos, from me looking at the photos that's been all over the news and on the internet, the first time I saw him, I was like, I I think that this guy might be abusive. He looks like that type, like that controlling type, and just his movement since her her unaliving or her, you know, alleged suicide or whatever, it just doesn't seem right. He just doesn't seem concerned. He's he's not, you know, with this whole thing of the family raising money to get to Tanzania. If this this guy had money, right? From my understanding, why would the family need to raise money um if they were engaged, if they had a a decent, uh, normalized relationship? Like a lot of this just doesn't make sense to me. So I'm very interested to into seeing where this story goes and how it lands. Now, another thing that I discovered about Ashley, again from YouTube street, she was associated with some um some entertainment superstars, right? She was with video with Kevin Gates. Um, Joe Button had a lot of nice things to say about Ashley, like that was actually his homegirl. He hung out with her, they went to bars and clubs. Um, Joe expressed how she was just a people's person, and she didn't discriminate uh, you know, who she would be around. She was just a social butterfly. Like he said, she would be with nerds, geeks, uh, rich people, um, in the entertainment scene. She knew about what was going on in the lifestyle, like she was just everywhere. So it doesn't make sense for a woman that's driving around in expensive cars, winning, um, I'm sorry, not winning, driving in in expensive cars, wearing expensive clothing, living a beautiful life, making plans. Why? Why would a per why would she unalive herself? Even the family is taken back. Like she just wasn't, you know, that type of a person. And as an empath, I'm sorry if you don't believe in that, as an empath, it's for me to feel it. I'm not getting a person that was angry, upset, and ready to go. I'm getting victim, victim of abuse. So to my community, the black community, particularly the men, and I was very upset, and this just upsets me, right? I saw videos where the black men in the community were saying this is what she gets for dealing with a white man. No one deserves to die. I'm sorry. And to the ladies that said, oh god, when you live that lifestyle, this is what happened. I'ma say to you, no one deserves to die. Oh, we knew she was an exotic dancer. This was bound to happen. I'm sorry, no one deserves to die. No one deserves to be unalived or just no one deserves that. So again, I can't wait to find out how this goes. Hopefully, you know, this John McCann guy is found to be guilty. Um the details, we're still waiting on it. We're still waiting on um the body to be released. I haven't heard as of yet, um, if it was released to the family, so they can get some investigations going. I do know that it says she died from um expici uh sorry, for strangulation, asphyxiation. I'm sorry, that word has always been difficult for me to say, so it was some type of um strangling or hanging, or you know, to which I'm leaning towards. He strangled her to death, but that's just my opinion. I'm sure all of you have your perspectives as to what happened. I am looking at the photos of this beautiful young black New Jersey girl, uh, rest in peace, you know, to her family. Condolences, no one deserves this. When I see this picture, I'm thinking about my girls. My girls are around her age, they are beautiful, they want all the wonderful things in life, you know, and I pray, you know, that this doesn't happen to them, to my girls. And I'm praying that it doesn't happen to your girls. And forgive me for being upset. I'm literally here, really just about to burst into tears because this young life is gone. Gone because of whatever reason, it's senseless. So let me read something from Yahoo Entertainment, right? It says the fiance, as it was reported, Ashley and him had disagreements um during the hotel stay. So the hotel management team decided to separate their room. So the woman had her own room and the man had his own room. Um, police said Roberts was still alive when officers were notified and was transported to the hospital where she died the following day. Okay, so apparently uh after he proposed to her on video, somehow they got into an altercation at the um hotel, and the hotel management team must have thought it was just so severe that they needed to separate rooms. Now, I don't think screaming and hollering will warrant a hotel to just um separate you, right? Because in relationships, sometimes we just don't get along. It had to be a little bit more deeper than just you know a verbal altercation. I don't believe that. I don't think that would be enough. I mean, I've been on vacation with my ex-husband. We've argued, I I can't for that no hotel management didn't walk up and say, Listen, you guys need to be separated into separate rooms. So I think they saw something or they thought that he was about to do something to her, it had to be something severe going on to separate the room. All right, that's just my opinion. Again, this is the Peach Radio show. I am allowed to have my opinion when it comes to this, all right. And so this part where it says the police, she was Robison was still alive when officers were notified. Okay, so I guess they found her in her room. Um, apparently, where she tried to commit, you know, the suicide, and she was still alive when the officers arrived, and she was transported to the hospital where she died the following day. Now it says previously her family said there was still no official determination and characterized the circumstances surrounding her death as suspicious. Robinson's father Harris said the suicide theory was presented to the family early on, but stressed that investigators have not yet proved them with their final ruling. Okay. So said it was suggested suicide. I don't believe that for one bit. And it further says Robinson had traveled to Tanzania to celebrate her 31st birthday, only 31 years old, and became engaged to McCann during the trip. On April 3rd, she posted a video of the proposal during the Safari. Now, I um again, I'm beyond these YouTube streets. Now, I don't did this young person YouTube culture where you know they do things likes and views and for the money because again, Ashley was a um a YouTube personality personality, an influencer, what they call it. I was listening to one YouTuber that gave an alternative theory that maybe they weren't parents, they weren't proposed. There wasn't a real I'm sorry, a So I don't know how true that is, but if if this is what's going on, then maybe we need to rein in some of this, some of these behaviors, these YouTube uh stories that we're doing, these unfactual ones for likes and clicks, and sometimes it's just not worth it. But again, this is my opinion, and regardless of whether it was real or fake, no one deserves to die. No one. Alright. So it says her final post as an influencer onto Instagram was her showing herself feeding a giraffe beside rose with beside rose petals, spelling out happy birthday ash. She captured the image of chapter 31, and I'm exactly where I need to be. I'm here and I'm living and I'm getting engaged, I'm an influencer. Life is for a while. And this is chapter 31. And I, you know, I'm looking forward to other chapters. I'm sure she didn't think her life was going to um end on this trip. So all right, so let me read this one last family statement, and um we're gonna go ahead on into the next music video, but yeah, this is very, very disturbing. So in the caption it says one moment she was celebrating love and life and true ash and fashion, and the next she was born, the family stayed in a state. They added that the unanswered, answered questions surrounding the case have made the love even more difficult. So my question to you guys, right? And only you can answer it with yourself. Do you think Ashley actually on a lob or something? Do you believe that? Or do you believe Ashley was a victim? Um do you think Joe McCann did something to her? Or do you think it was something different somebody on a resort? Do you think this was a ritual? Now I was on a live stream with another YouTuber, and basically one of his followers and subscribers commented that they believed this was a ritual, that Joe McCann was trying to um go into a upper extra line in his life because you know there's rich, but then there is rich rich, and they believe that he sacrificed Ashley to become um more wealthy. I don't know. You be the judge of this story, it just sounds so bizarre to me. Uh a young 31-year-old woman life gone, all because she was resilient, she saw a way to get out of New Jersey, she tried to create a better life for herself. Um, of course, a lot of us wouldn't have went the path that she walked on, but I think we can all agree that she did not deserve to die.

unknown 1:09:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_17 1:10:00

So let's move on from ash. Next week, I think I want to have a discussion about this finger gave it. Now that came up, I've been following that story ever since it came out last year, right? But now it's new information involving this case, man, and it's just finished, right? And I'm getting all kinds of wicked vibes from him, like maybe some type of psychopath. But that whole David thing, ooh, it's giving me the creak. And to be honest with you guys, I start to feel like there are some otherworldly beings walking around out here, right? You probably like peach. Come on, girl, this is not the ex-files, but listen, the way that he, I'm not even gonna say he because he's not guilty, right? But the way that woman's body was done, as a matter of fact, she wasn't even a woman, she was 14 years old, found in D the trunk of his car. Now, the recent news that I found out is that one of her fingers was missing. They fucking poked into her uh her lungs into poke into somebody's lungs. That's a slow depth. But anyway, we'll talk about David on the next show, next Sunday. That way I can bring more videos, more facts. Um what is going on, what is going on in this world, and then um maybe we can also tap in about what's going on in Louisiana, about the father that killed his wife and all those children. There wasn't eight children, and then yesterday I'm finding out about well, what is the day before yesterday? A shooting, like a shooting at a mall. So it's just so much going on, and um I think it's time that we check in with our family to make sure everyone in their in our homes are you know surrounded us in our chosen family that their mental health is together. Like if you know someone and you know they are mentally unable, try to encourage them to get some help. You know, it's nothing wrong with it. I I I'm very big on checking in. We gotta check in on people or fucking losing it. And if you know someone in your family has a deeper psychological issue, maybe they are schizophrenic, it is nothing wrong. Don't be ashamed. Tap in with that person and don't give up on them until they receive the medication and the resources and whatever they need. Trust me, I had to do it. I had to check in. My son, he's schizophrenic. Now, could you imagine if I just would have watched inspiral all the things that could have possibly happened? He could have very well pulled a David on a girl. Or he could have very well pulled a uh uh McCann on his girlfriend going on a trip. Allegedly, right? I just gotta say allegedly because again, we don't know if that man actually did that. But we gotta check in, we got to get people is mental, they need mental health treatment. Don't sit back and watch somebody spiral because it can cause someone else their life or someone to be harmed. But that is you know, that's my skill. So next week we're gonna get into um for the news section of this. We're gonna talk about David. I just wanted to get a little bit more information. Um, rest in peace to Ashley Robinson or Ashley Janay. Um, you didn't deserve that, baby girl. You didn't deserve that. I don't care what you were doing in life, however, you got your bag and whatever your plans are, you didn't deserve this. I don't believe you killed yourself, sweetheart. Um and yes, and and RIP to those children, and we're gonna talk about it all next week in the news. It's just too much depth this week. So, um let's get into this next music video, right? The news just always bothered me. It always bothered me. And what's worse than the news is these fucking people on it, especially my people, that judge people like Ashley, that judge people that's unalive, that judge people because of the decisions they make, but they don't judge the circumstances prior. Right? Like if the person had mental health issues, why are we judging that no one in his immediate circle or her immediate circle got them help? If you knew Joe McCann was whatever his name, McCann was abusive, why nobody got him help? It's always some type of preventative measures that could have happened prior, right? But anywho, let me move on because I'm getting upset. Mental health, please check into your mental health. Let's get into this next music video by my friend Delacroix. Fabulous life.

SPEAKER_26 1:15:54

That's my issue.

SPEAKER_18 1:21:55

I can't put that over the dream on me. I know I'm okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:22:11

No, I think I like the thing, people from my bad.

SPEAKER_17 1:22:15

Because some family do so. It's time for LGBTQ plus news in black house, but I do a lot.

SPEAKER_07 1:22:25

And even then they're a fucking mess. Because if I hear fucking Billy Porter give his Donnie McClurkin story one more fucking time, I swear to god, I'm cutting off shit.

SPEAKER_17 1:22:39

What's up, what's up, y'all? Listen, I'm sorry. Listen, listen, listen, listen. So we are into this. Damn. I'm still um again. I'm sorry, I'm still caught up with this Ashley Janae thing, it's really bothering me. I I can't wait to um actually the police resolve this case so we can find out. But let's get into this LGBTQ plus in black, which is um a show stem from my nonprofit. Yes, not only is Peach a radio host on in the mixed radio, I also uh am the founder of two nonprofits, one of which is I am e Inc., which is a LGBTQ plus nonprofit, where I actually produce shows, one of which is in black. It's a LGBTQ plus show, and we discuss uh topics in black. Um if you are interested in watching, go to at LGBTQ in black on YouTube, or you could just simply go to at Iame Ink234. Also check out the website iamecorp.org for all details. Um, on the website is merch, it's advertisement for the next show, it's events and more. Now, if you are an ally to the community, this is what makes this show so awesome because you get to learn and ask questions. You don't get you know, you don't have to assume this is a safe space for you to say, hey, I don't understand this about the community, or let me ask a question about the topic that you're discussing. Now, what you heard earlier was a clip from our show Mask versus Film, Why Are We Still Divided? Is where we talked about um our views on our on the community, and we also spoke about are we mirroring heterosexual um relationships? So it was a very interesting show. You could catch it on Tuesdays, 8 p.m. It's streaming on my platform at Peach ENT Brands. Like I keep telling y'all to follow, like, and share. Also, it'll be in my mobile app where you can actually watch it. So download the Peach ENT mobile app. Um, I'm gonna continue to play this clip. One of uh the panelists, Andre, is speaking. Um, asking well, and actually, I'm sorry, answering one of the questions. I can't quite remember it now, but he's talking about uh Billy Porter in this. Um, again, this is from the show Mass versus Film while we still divided. I'm gonna play the rest of his clip, and then we're gonna get into more music.

SPEAKER_07 1:26:00

I was molested growing up, so were 2.9 million other fucking people. When do you get therapy and get through it? Stop using that to help catapult your career. Because I believe what you speak into the atmosphere, oh, that keeps coming back to you, baby. So if you're gonna keep playing victim, God's gonna be like, oh, you ain't got over this yet? You right, you a victim. But when do we okay? You you Uncle Uncle Cleo touched you, that's cool. Did you ever tell your daddy to whoop Uncle Cleo's ass? Hell, when you got old enough to whoop Uncle Cleo's ass, did you whoop Uncle Cleo's ass? Because you're older my ass whooping. Like, I'm I certain things I just don't feel sorry for no more. I'm I'm just like, nah, baby, I I used to feel sorry for people like that, but after Donnie told his story 150,000 fucking times and still in the closet, and now you got Billy Porter doing the same exact thing with that fucked up head of his and you got all this goddamn money. I know you sick, baby, but goddamn, get a good pressing iron. That shit works and some iron drops. Let's stop using what we've been through as the excuse of why we can't grow. And for God's sake, stop be a fucking human. You too grown to want to be some shit that's on TV making money because they ain't got shit to do with their life or look like all right, that was Max versus Femme.

SPEAKER_17 1:27:44

Would the person that you heard was panelist Andre, one of the five panelists that's on the M Black LGBTQ plus show. I mean, uh, listen, if you are an ally, you need to. It's an awesome show. You will enjoy it. LGBT tap It's an awesome show. You will enjoy it. Oh man, I believe the question was. Let me see if I can find that question. Alright, so I believe the question the question was okay. Okay with open with open to keep a partner. No, that's not one. Open relationships. No, that's not the one. I'm sorry. I believe that that question was something about um being masculine and um you know, sort of like the responsibilities and uh being a mask um is oh no, no no no sorry, forgive me, forgive me, forgive me. The question was is being masked or femme performative behavior? Is it realistic or is it being performative when you see men acting um like females and um femmes acting like males? Is it performative behavior? So that was the question. I'm sorry, I was actually reading you a question from our topic on relationships, right? So just check out in black Tuesdays at 8 p.m. ish. You can check it out on at PGNT brands on YouTube or at Iame Inc234 on YouTube or at LGBTQ in black on YouTube. If you're looking to um get involved with the nonprofit, which is Iame, go to imeincorp.org. So yeah, I just wanted to tap in and share my world with you again. I told you I produce shows, so I've introduced you to M Black, LGBTQ plus M Black, and beyond the mind. I hope you follow PG and T brands because it's a lot of awesome things going on. So now let's get into our next music video. It's by one of my friends. I love her dearly. It's go by Delacoy. Check this out.

SPEAKER_08 1:30:57

You gotta take care of you, Mama.

SPEAKER_19 1:33:50

Play the next banger.

SPEAKER_03 1:33:54

That's my if ladies, put the pussy on the pistol, put the pussy on the pistol. Put the pussy on the pistol, put the pussy on the pistol, tell that boy what it is. Your pussy got the power, then the phone what it is. If you wanna buy the dollar, then have to fuck your bread. Just remember you a green to the game. Put that pussy on the phone, and your body is the kingdom and get sweat too. If you wanna buy the dollar, fuck the hater, you a queen in the pussy crap. That's so mean. So fuck, before I own the noise, bitch.

unknown 1:34:36

The pussy got power with the buttons.

SPEAKER_03 1:34:40

The pussy on the post off, the bossy for the past, the boxy for the post, put the box for the post the posty for the box, the boxy for the box, the box for the post, put the box for the focus, she got the cook, cookies like the back word, she got the trip, trip, she don't have you know how to eat the five dot paint the house maintain the tower so late the lowest so late She got a full clip, see a load, got nothing and nigga can fuck with that boy what it is If you put the power for the makeup understanding to control of the switch of which the tickets to the wheel but you awkward for my low with big beat, go on for her own spot for the money fairly The pussy got power with the ones in O. Put the pussy for the past, put the pussy for the past, put the pussy for the pastor, put the pussy for the pesto, get the money, get the pussy for the pestle the body, put the pussy for the pedestal, get the money, get the money, put the pussy for the pedestal, put the pussy for the pedestal.

SPEAKER_18 1:36:00

I keep that pussy on the pedestal. I'm the goddess, I'm just looking for the decor. Keep that money, don't find that's like the edible. Who's it too sweet? I thought that nigga die of letters. I'm telling a dope, hella independent on the mission. What all my money making, mistress? Don't need a mission. You see, we got it, so we fought it, then we leave 'em with it. This appear like I'm legitimate. I look to save, then I look too. I just wanna sit on the throne, then I'm cutting your loose. Watching up my call, it's more than ever in the mouth.

SPEAKER_03 1:36:41

Put the pussy on the pistol, put the pussy on the pedestal. Put the pussy on the pedestal, put the pussy on the pedestal. Put the body, get the body, get the body, put the pussy on the pest, put the body, put the pussy for the pest, get the buttons.

SPEAKER_17 1:37:19

Yes, that was Marcus G featuring Songberg, the goddess pussy on a pedestal. That's one of my faves. Ah, I know y'all like that. Um put that pussy on the pedestal. It's the goddess. Yeah, y'all loved it. Y'all loved it, y'all felt it anywho. So, oh my god, this has been one hell of a show, right? So, I do have a few more music videos before we close out, and I hope you stay tuned because I do have that Carl Young video on resilience. There's a lot of gems inside of that video that I need y'all to listen to. So, before I actually let you go, or this will be the last time until next Sunday, you hear my beautiful voice. Um, I want to thank you all for joining me. Again, remember to follow at Peach ENT Brands on YouTube. Don't forget to download my mobile app. So, pull out your phones once again. Go to the app store, search for Peach ENT, download it so you can keep up with everything. Peach, it's all in the mobile app. Everything from the R Report magazine, where I am a writer, and you'll get the latest in entertainment news, it's all within my mobile app. Um, also, remember to be resilient, teach your children to be resilient, right? Because as parents, as sisters, siblings, as whatever, you know, whatever capacity you show up in someone's life where they are dependent on you, you're not gonna always be here. So remember to teach resilience, show up in resilience because people are watching. Um again, RIP to Ashley, Janae, that beautiful resilient, let's let's put that word in it. That beautiful, resilient sister that was born in New Jersey, that made it out, got out into this world, and gained access to uh expensive clothing, fashions, becoming a uh a freaking known influencer, a socialite in the entertainment industry, and you know, fuck all the other things that she did to get there. Just know that our girl did it. She got to the bag RIP to that baby, and if it is proven that Mr. McCann's ass did something to Ashley, may he rot in the prison that they place him in, right? Because I'm a firm believer that he did. So also, next week we're gonna talk about that sinister David character. Like, even the way he spelled his name is sinister. Go and check that out. Um, let's also pray for the babies that got killed by their father. I believe it was their father or their stepfather in Louisiana, and prayers for the people that were shot up um in that mall, I believe it was in Louisiana. So let's continue to pray. Um, also do me a favor if it's someone, your loved one, and your chosen family or your immediate family, anywhere in your circle within your grasp that you believe need mental help, have that conversation, encourage them to seek the help that they need because we can't have people out here roaming around um overly or under medicated or just not medicated at all because it runs a risk of them hurting us, and we already have enough problems that we have to resolve and be resilient. We don't need any more drama, right? All right, so let's move on again. Thank you for joining me. I'm gonna close this out with our next music video. Um, I played it last week, it's one of my favorites. If you listen to the wording, it has lots of gems in it. It talks about money and how it killed everyone and how things just you know, it's just conscious music. We can't always listen to trap, we can't always listen to dance music. So, money kill everyone by Philip Cipher, and then you'll get that all young video about resilience until next week, next Sunday, 12 to 2 on Indemix Radio. Um, stay safe, stay prayed up, and stay resilient.

SPEAKER_25 1:42:22

Play the next banger that's my ish.

SPEAKER_11 1:42:34

Why's out of we don't want it, we don't need it, got us dying for our freedom People starving, they won't feed 'em, got us dying for our freedom. We don't want it, we don't need it, got us fightin' for our freedom. People starving, they won't feed them, got us dying for our freedom. We don't want it, we don't need it. Got us fightin' for our freedom.

SPEAKER_13 1:43:14

Money kill everyone. President, scientists, musicians, civil rights leaders, breach children, money kill everyone. Money funds wars and weapons, viruses and disease. Money pays for the manipulation of you and they think. But money doesn't pay for those that's a need. Because the ones that run money are too bombarded to agree. Money kills people every day. Because you know there's no money in the cure. What's so they say? Especially if you're a minority though. God forbid you're poor. Laws are even different, depending on your credit score. Money kill my grandmother, let her rot in decay. Cause see, with a cure to cancer, they can't make money that way. Money kills people with HIV. Some people were infected intentionally. Do your own homework, be a detective for yourself, and you'll find that these man-made disasters were consciously dealt. And then you rethink any government help. Money makes women touch character from man-made wealth. While men do things, always looking for false self and wealth, man-made illusions. No wonder our generation is full of drug users. We for drug sellers, misrepresentation. See, all they're doing is selling you self-mutilation. See, money isn't a friend of mine. Cause all money does is conquer and divine. So the next time you hear someone boasting about their father, man, know that this is one of the most insecure persons alive. Now, there's nothing wrong with wanting things for yourself. But the best yet hardest task is knowing your loving self. Think about these words the next time you're dreaming of wealth. And then think to yourself, why do you want these things in spite of something else? What lies behind you wanting things that carry no weight or substance? Maybe that's why you get a burden to go to a job you never want. Money.

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What allows you to stand steady enough to carry that vision. Understanding your life is one thing. Living long enough not to collapse when life tests you is another. And this is what early achievers often lack, while late bloomers often have in abundance. The power of resilience. The resilience of the rare type is not something glamorous. It is forged quietly through years of falling with no applause and getting back up with no one watching. You have started over so many times that starting over has become a survival skill, no longer a source of shame. And that is exactly what creates a very different kind of psychological endurance. The endurance of someone who has learned to make it through long nights without anyone lighting the way. The experience of falling, getting up, falling again doesn't only produce toughness, it produces a kind of wisdom that only pain can teach. Each time you fail, you learn to tell the difference between what is essential and what is merely appearance. You lose a job and realize, so I can still breathe. You lose a relationship and realize, so I don't die just because I was left behind. You are rejected, misunderstood, and misjudged, and you still keep going. At first, each fall feels like a sentence, but later, it becomes a lesson. You begin to see that the most painful thing is not failure itself, but the belief that failure defines who you are. When that belief collapses, you become freer. Some people enter life as if a carpet has been rolled out for them. They easily land good jobs and stable relationships without having to struggle much. Yet that very smoothness can sometimes make them weaker without them knowing it. Like a plant raised in a greenhouse, it grows fast and looks bright, but one real gust of wind can break it. Because they have never lived through a shock that forces them to understand what life is made of. They have never lost enough to learn what cannot be taken away. But you have. Check and balance because they understand one truth. In uncertain seasons, the most important thing is staying lucid enough, not to choose wrong, just because you're afraid. There is also something very practical resilience gives you. You are no longer terrified of losing everything. Not because you disrespect loss, but because you have started from nothing before. You have watched your account hit rock bottom. You have watched your plans collapse. You have had to rebuild from zero, sometimes from less than zero. And once you know how to do that, losing it all is no longer the end of the world. It becomes a stretch of road with an ending point. And this creates a massive advantage in the second half of life. You dare to do what others don't dare. Resilience in the late bloomer also has another form: the ability to self-repair. You understand your mind, your body, and your limits. You know when to rest and when to push. You recognize the signs that you're heading the wrong way. Resilience doesn't turn you into hard stone. It turns you into bamboo, able to bend, yet difficult to break. And this is why it connects directly to your ability to peak later. Because reaching your peak doesn't only require talent or foresight, it requires the capacity to endure, to carry the pressure of a new version of yourself, a new future. Some people are very capable and very intelligent, yet when a truly big opportunity arrives, they hesitate because they have never carried anything heavy, and so they ruin their own timing, endless procrastination, excuses to retreat, or self made chaos so they won't have to face stepping onto a higher rung.