Vayeira: Meeting Life's Tests with Love, Just Like Avraham

In this episode, we are learning the Nesivos Shalom on Parshat Vayeira!

If you want to follow along inside, it is in Nesivos Shalom Bereishit on page kuf yud zayin (117). You can find a pdf of the piece here.

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Hello everyone. This is Rabbi Robbie Chernoff and you are listening to the Hasids for Life podcast. The podcast. We learn a deep Hasidic insight every single week and explore how it can lead us to a more meaningful, vibrant, and spiritually uplifted life. In this week's episode, we'll be learning the Cevo shalom par ra. If you would like to follow along inside, you can go to the show notes for a link to A PDF, but feel free to just sit back, listen, and enjoy the ride. This week's episode is anonymously sponsored by a dear Talmud Lima, my grandmother, RA Basim Vy Maura Cecile Stein. Thank you so much to this week's generous sponsor. Remember, your sponsorships are what make this podcast happen. If you would like to sponsor an episode of the podcast and the next few weeks are open, please email Rabbi chart off@gmail.com or see the show notes for more details. Alright, with that, let's jump into Parsha Ra We are in the vo Shalom on page UF Parra. the idea of te relating to the 10 tests of Ava Nu, which continue on in this week's par. T. He says that there were 10 tests that Aran was tested with, and he succeeded in all of them. Why was he tested LA to show how Beloved Avram was to, we need to understand. We have to understand why does the Torah go at such length to discuss all of these tests? Quantify them. It goes and it lists all of these 10 tests. Of course, this final test of a Y. Abraham. It tested Abraham. By the 10th one, it goes out of its way. The P tell us that God was testing Abraham with this intense 10th test of the Al-Qaeda, which is given with all of its details. The Torah, an eternal Torah. The, it's not just telling us stories for the sake of telling us stories. Um, what is the Torah teaching us in teaching us all of these tests and telling us all of these tests of a, okay. It's very nice to know that Avra went through these things, but what, is it relevant to me? What's the meaning for me in understanding the details of all of these tests of Avra Vinno? Top of the next column. Additionally, why is it that only in the 10th and final test does the Torah call it a test? Meaning we know Al tell us that he went through nine tests before the A, and yet in the text of the ACH itself, AK only tells us in the text of the mash, by the 10th test by the A who tested Abraham and not by the other test. We also need to understand that which the, the maal asks mad. Why is it that we find by ANU that he's tested with 10 tests, the votes? Why are the other AVOs not tested with 10 tests? Why specifically AAV Abraham? It would seem that should all go through all of these trials and tribulations. Why is it specifically AAV Abraham who's given these 10 tests? So he goes on and says in the next paragraph. Vi, we can understand this idea, tu, based on that, which it says beautiful, just like Abraham was tested with 10 tests says. So too does every single one of us go through our own 10 tests, each one of us, according to our level? What does this mean? Because every single Jew has a unique purpose, a unique mission, which he was sent to this world to accomplish as we discussed at length last week. That we were put in this world to fulfill that task, that goal, through these tests that we go through, we fulfill those tests in this world. We fulfill our purpose in this world. V like the Ram says the next page. The Ramban himself actually says that the great Maa, the Great Heights. That Nu achieved was not necessarily because he kept all the Torah, and by the way, he kept the Torah before it was given. He figured out what a Q wanted him, and he kept rah before the Torah was even given and says, the Ramban says that wasn't the greatness of Anu. What was the greatness of Nu? It was that was that he overcame these 10 tests. De that. Through that he showed how much he loved and that was the main heights that he reached his greatness, his glory, his splendor, and showed how much he was beloved to a Q Sparkle and how much he loves a Q Perle. The Nu, what this tells us is that keeping the whole Torah a had, he just kept the whole Torah. That in and of itself would not have shown us how much Only through those tests did it show us how much he loved the k. Ha So too by every single one of us, each one of us goes through 10 tests, each one according to our level, the whole Torah. It could be that a person keeps the whole Torah and they haven't even begun, begun the purpose of why they were sent to this world. It's the test that we go through that show how much we that bring out the fullness of the A from within us. That it's through them. We fulfill our purpose and our mission in this world. Every one of our lives are complicated and we read these 10 tests of arah. Anu is going through one test after another test, after another test, after another test. And if we put ourselves in the shoes or imagine or try to put ourselves in the shoes of Anu, you see how challenging as life was. We, we we're familiar with these stories and we know the ending and we know the middle and we know the beginning. We know these sorts of beginning to end and we've been talking since we were children. And so we don't feel the challenge that Aino must have gone through. Think of what it must be like. Think of your life as it stands right now. Think of yourself sitting in whatever room that you're sitting in listening to this podcast. Think of yourself walking down the street where you're walking right now, or sitting on a bus or on a train, wherever you happen to be, and imagine that. Then suddenly there's silence. Comes down and talks to you and he says, listen, my sweet Jew, I know you're in the middle of everything. I know that you've got friends, you've got family, you've got life, you've got a job, you've got school, you've got, you're dating, whatever's going on. Do me a favor. I need you to drop everything right now. You can't even stop at home. I need you to start walking and I'll tell you when to stop. I think about that for a second. The craziness of that. Could you do that? Could you not tell your friends? Could you not tell your family? Guess if you're married, you could take your family with you. If you've got a lot, maybe you could take a lot with you, but like that's it. You just start walking. Can you imagine getting there? You finally arrive, you have no idea where you're going. You keep walking and walking and walking. Suddenly you arrive at this beautiful land Express, says, ah, you've arrived. You make him these bay. You settle, you've done it. And a few days later, suddenly there's a famine. Coach Merk, what's going on? He's like, I'm sorry, I'm a little busy right now. You figure it out and you're sturgeon for food and suddenly you end up in Egypt of all places and you're afraid your wife gets taken. I mean, just like you think about the life of Mino, these aren't simple things. He didn't know the end of his own story. He didn't know if he would get Surah back. He didn't know he'd be sent out with Al. He didn't know when he went to war against the Four Kings when he got enmeshed in a World War with his 318 men behind him, that he was gonna be able to crush the four Kings. He didn't know when he took the knife, but he wasn't gonna shack the son. He didn't know the end of the story. The life of Vinno was crazy, but the depth of the life of AAV Vinno. In every single step of the way he is. He is the MI of Ava. He is as the Navi calls him, we read it in the ha last week. He is Aha, who loves me. That's his defining characteristic is Ava. He loves me, he cares about me and everything that came Abraham's way me to walk. Let's go. Let's go for a walk. Let's go for a pati, however it goes. Okay, we'll take a little walk, see where it goes. There's a route. Okay, we'll go down to meet. Trying. So Pao takes my wife, she'll come back, she'll come back, it'll work out. Pao goes, God, what's going on? And, and suddenly sends him out with Al. Suddenly he's set up for life, taking the wealth of Egypt with him. He has to separate from Lotes. He doesn't have kids. He's got Ave, he's got problems with Ishmael. He, I mean, all the things that happen right now come back to our lives. All the things that happen, we don't know where we're gonna end up. We don't know what's gonna be. We move here. Is it gonna work out? Move there. Is it gonna work out? ne. There are people who make Allah ne. There are people who make Yida and it's really, really painful. I know people make yida. It's very, very painful when you go and they just to leave and you're hoping to come back when tears in their eyes when they talk about it. All they wanna be is neuro. It feels like a K sparkle sent them back. What do you do when you start to amass wealth? How do you deal with it? You wanna have kids, there's infertility issues, sibling rivalry, like craziness. Craziness. The things that AAV Nno went through in his life, they were to the extreme. But all of us have those notes. We all goes through those tests. And I think that, maybe I'm projecting here, but I think that part of the depth of what he's saying here is, is it's wild that you can go through those tests. And with yak shamayim, with fear of heaven, you can keep all 613 mitzvahs. You can do that. You're suffering and it's painful and it distracted. Okay. But throw a couple of tea lights on the table and I'll light Shabbas candles and I'll buy a couple of collar rolls from the bakery and I'll get some meat from the store and like, we'll have a little meal, but I'm exhausted. I gotta get some sleep the next morning. Okay. Em cha starts, shul starts at like 11 o'clock. I can sleep in a little bit and get my act together. And then I'll go, and then in the afternoon, like I'll, maybe I'll have a little bit of a meal, like, but I'll, I'll get it done. I'll go to chakras. I'll find a Matza Minan, 18 minutes or less. I'll fulfill my obligation. I'll throw on something to fill'em, throw them off. I said, Shamona, esra. At least a few steps back. And he says, forward. I'll get it done. I can fulfill out of, to at least get the mitzvahs done. What shows? He's smiling and laughing and loving, loving AK K through every challenge and through every difficulty. Like most good men, I have the pain tolerance of an infant. I can't even imagine. Imagine Ravino is 99 years old and he gets Bri Mila at 99 years old and he's at the height of pain and in the heat of the summer, and he's sitting there at the heat of at least say, PEs off time the beginning of the spring. Either way it's good. Say it's November in bees right now and it's still 90 degrees. Right, and so you're in the heat of Erit Israel in the in the spring. And he is sitting. It doesn't matter. He just wants guests. He's talking to Aade himself, but he wants to serve him. Ako. I want your guests. I wanna show people who you are. I wanna spread your love. I wanna spread your name. I want people to serve you. God sends him Maki just so he can appease him. This is Aino sparkles is everything to him could sparkle. What do you want? I wanna give to you. We can go through life and it's possible and it's not an easy thing, but it's possible to keep all 613 mitzvah. While we're suffering and while we're depressed, and while we're angry, and while we're questioning and while we're frustrated, we can still keep the mitzvahs out of yra. Listen, neba, I still want to hedge by bets and I wanna lose, you know, I don't lose o Haba after 120 if I Kish. Burko is real, and o Haba is real. But man, a Kash Burko is really making me crazy. Or we can sing and dance like avnu to the trials and tribulations of life. We can sing and dance the tests of life. We can allow those tests to be the opportunities to bring out from the depths of our souls, the depths of our hearts, the love for ku, the joy for ku, the joy in ku. That's the opportunity that a Kku gives us. That's where it's at. Something comes up. A person goes, they're coming to Sha. If they're fired up and neba, something happens and they have to go home for a couple of months, right at the beginning, do you go and you go back with Joy because of Ka Bur who said, this is what I want from you and I'm gonna go through it. I'm gonna come back and I'm gonna be great. Like Agan send back to me Israel. I go off to college and all I wanna do is be back in the base med rush and I'm, I'm suffering in my studies. It's not what I thought and have to work so hard. Knows I'm gonna be a tremendous doctor and I'm gonna heal people. I'm gonna be a tremendous lawyer, and I'm gonna make sure the Jews that I, that, that I keep their parnassa and keep them in check and everything will be good for them. I'm gonna be a han, which means that I'm not working hard in school now, but I'm not gonna make money later'cause I wanna serve a Kash Bku. In the later challenge of not being able to, to serve a Kash Bku with great wealth, I go and I'm I'm, I'm struggling at work, how to find a job. I got laid off. I got laid off. I feel like nothing. It's a test. It's a test. Can I serve a Q Boko with joy in the depths of the what can be very long and painful job searches. I'm searching for ab bahar. It's so hard. It feels like it's been so long. How many years? I kako? How many years am I able to smile with each one? No k with you. You can keep messing with me. You can keep me more and I'm gonna make it. I'm gonna make it to the end. You want me to get married? Do you want me to have a family? You have a mitzvah of marriage, a m of Pervu, a mitzvah of simbi has to be, you think it's gonna work and then it doesn't work out. Can you bounce back and bounce back with a smile when you're going through that really, really difficult time afterwards? Fertility issues. Can you say, you know what, a kba A and Sara, 10 years, 10 years, they waited. It's gonna be hard. But we're gonna, we're gonna get there. We're gonna get there. We're gonna get there. And I take your, I take your challenges with Simha. Medical issues. I take your challenges with sim problems with my children. I, I, things I never expected. Things I never thought. S with sim it's that joy. That's the, these are the pars of not just what it, we'll learn how to do Jewish later. Schmo var. Don't worry. We're gonna get lists and lists and lists. And Parsis full of mitzvah. Don't worry. We're gonna learn how to do Jewish later. How do you be a Jew? It's avra. First, we didn't know how to be a Jew. Then we learned how to do Jewish. This is how to be a Jew. You go through it with a smile. You go through it with excitement. You go through it with love for kale. I know you're bringing me this test, and I love you, and I'm gonna get through this. I'm gonna get through this. An unexpected medical situation came my way and I'm scared and I'm frightened to my core. I test. I'm gonna smile through it. Everything that happens, I'm gonna smile through it. It's all a test, but the test brings me closer to him. That's our, let's take it a little bit forward and see how he, how he un unpacks it and opens it up. He says in the next paragraph, how do we explain this? The goal of all of Torah, the goal of all of Mitzvah, the whole goal of the Torah, everything that we're doing, it's all the ultimate goal of a, it's all an ultimate goal of de Tohu. To cling to a Q, the Zoar tells us that this 613 mitzvah are 613 pieces of advice. Of how to get closer to the main mitzvah B to get closer to the main mitzvah of clinging to a qba. They're all ways to get there. They're all streams that flow into that big body of water, which is voi B, it's to get you closer. It's ultimately the goal of all Tour Mitzvahs. Vais. You'll note in these 10 tests that our amido goes through, that every single one of us goes through each one on our level. They reveal and they bring out that love and closeness to, to express how beloved HA is to us so we can bring that out. We always, we often give a ma of, of a husband and a wife for our relationship with q. When a person has challenges in life and a person has challenges in their marriage or whatever it might be, when their spouse is going through something or even when they're going through something with their spouse, can you smile and be there for them? Can you smile and be there with them through that challenge? Through that challenge, your wife is going through a difficult time. Your husband is going through a difficult time. and it's weighing on you. It's taking you off track. You smile and say, ah, this is why I'm here. This is why I got into this relationship. The word aha is it's often given over as a cute idea, cute vort in a, in a les or whatever, and we cheapen deep torahs with cute vts. It's a very, very deep concept. Means to give. The whole point of getting into a loving relationship is to give Rebi said in, in the most poignant of ways, he said that. So often when we're dating other people, we sit across the table and the secular world trains us that we're meant to ask. What is she gonna do for me? Is, is she gonna make me happy? Is she gonna give to me? Is she gonna do for me what I want for me? Is she gonna make me happy? He says, you better make sure. At least once. And honestly, you should do it way more than once and for way longer than a few minutes. But at the very least, you must ask the fundamental question when you're dating, when you're sitting across the table from that person. But can I give to that person for my, the rest of my life? Can I envision myself giving to that person for the rest of my life? And if the answer is no, you end it. Because that's what real love and real marriage is. That's what aava is. It's not taking, it's giving. Can I give to this person for the rest of my life? And then when they're going through those challenging times, you take it with a smile because I'm, I get to give even more. I get to give even more. And it hurts me that they're in pain and I feel their suffering and I empathize. But I'm here for them with a smile. I'm here for them with a smile. But IQ Boku the half deal. But again, it's a mushroom. We go through difficult times. The kku makes it hard for us. We, we told the Kku, I'm with you through thick and thin. He says, great. Where do you see what I've got teed up for you? We'll see the thick and the thin very quickly, very seriously. All of these challenges. K How am I supposed to be close to you with all of these things? The, the, the, the sickness and the, and the monetary issues and the kids and the marriage and the dating and the, the, I, I come on. Every time it comes your way, you smile, Kaku, this is why I'm in it. I'm in it to win it. I'm in it for you. I'm in it to be with you. Great. It's hard. I can give more. You're giving me the opportunity to give more. And the beauty of it is, and we don't do it because of this ka, but the beauty of it is the more you give to a Q, the more you give of yourself to a Q, the more he gives back to you. Because love goes both ways. If you give for the sake of taking, it'll never work. But deep down, you can know also that if you give for the sake of giving, you'll also receive. And it builds a love that just gets more and more and more and more. And these tests allow us to come closer together. The friction, the difficulty, the struggle. We only grow through struggle. And if I go into the struggle with love. My love grows through the struggle. It's an incredible opportunity. Every single test. Every single test. So he says the main tests that he had were all in the level of Ava, all in the attribute of love. Sha that ki it was like these, with these tests, it was like there wasn't his ability to do anything and it wasn't even tell, it wasn't even dependent on his, his freedom of choice. It was that when these things came upon him that were not even within this realm of he, he had no choice. He was theone, he was forced into these terrible situations. The test was, is through it all. Could he still bring out that love? Like for example, he says here, there was a feminine in the land. Was a famine in the land. That wasn't his choice. It wasn't like a Kaddish Burle said, here's Vera, it's up to you. Are you gonna serve me? You're not gonna serve me. No. Adish Burle brought a famine to the land. There was no food. It wasn't to right or wrong, tusser. That wasn't the issue to me. Tahor. The issue was there was no food. God made no food. Now what The only option was, was to go to me. Time to get food or are you gonna die? Can you love me through the challenge? Will you love me through the challenge? Will you love me when things get tough? Nothing to do with ra. He was bringing out the ava. He didn't get to choose. His wife was taken, his wife gets taken to be parro. His wife gets taken to be. How do you respond? Do you respond with anger? Do you respond with resentment? Do you respond with heresy? Do you respond with love? If that's the question, how do you respond? Right. That's the whole book of eeo. It's the whole book of eeo. EOF has everything and then God takes everything away. No choice of his own. How do we respond? And again, nobody's judging an eeo. I hope what he reveal, if you don't judge, I hope we don't, even if he's fictional, unclear, if he really lived, or if he was just even Mo Shao just expressing his, you know, confusion about how to deal with these sisters of Sodic, Ralo. But but not even judging you. Like do we respond with frustration, with anger, with resentment, with confusion, or do we push through to respond like a with love? It's such a challenge again, in all these situations. I didn't have a choice. It wasn't choosing between Hector and Issa. It wasn't choosing between Mitzva, Avera, it just happened. And how did he respond? He responded with love, he accepted it with love because that was'cause the main, the main attribute of Nu is the of, of loving kindness. the. Meaning the test was always the tests of Abra were all tests of, can you love me even with this challenge? Can you love me through this challenge? Can you just love me despite this challenge? Can you love me because of this challenge? That was the question. The main, the main test was about s. That we see again, that it's being brought out to the, by the Mafar. By Rashi, even by the ade. God says, go check your son. How are you gonna respond? And now you can even read this rash in different light. So it says, Rashi says Via got up in the morning that he got up early in the morning with Zs to go get on the donkey to go start running, to go and do the icqa. Oh, look at the beauty of Avrum. There's reason ma the mitzvah, that he would go and he went to with fervor to do the mitzvah. He's saying it deeper here. No, God said to Shak his son, he could have said, okay, fine. I'm not gonna go. How do you go against God? You're, you hear God talk to, you're not gonna go against God. It's insanity. But do you at least sleep in, when you go to sleep the night before, you sit with your wife and you cry? And you're depressed and you can't get outta bed for a day or two, and then finally, neba, you slap yourself outta bed. You take a couple of rest stops. You're crying the whole time. You're hoping something will change. You're delaying. No aino goes. The point is, it's not that he just was reason to make demon. La Mitzvah says Hels Deeper than that, he got up early because he wanted to show This is what you want. I love you so much. All I wanna do is what you want. I love you. It's about my relationship with you more than just running to do the thing. I'm running the thing because I love you. That's what it's bringing out here was out of his love to do. Who wanted he? He got up early. He saddled his own donkey. He had tons of servants. Anybody could have done this for him. He didn't just saddle his donkey. She asked one of the guys to go put the thing on, have an extra 10 minutes, eat breakfast. How many of us would do that? I'll tell you, if I had a driver, I'm not. Do me a favor, warm up the car, bring it around. I'm gonna take a few more minutes to get myself together. I'll see you outside. A hundred thousand percent I who says no. I could put the keys in the car. I could turn on the ignition. I could get another few seconds ahead to go into what abo who wants bring it on? What servant? What attendant? What chauffeur? I dunno what you're talking about. There's me and God. There's me and God. So with the essence of the itself, how does a, how does a father sha the son? I don't know. I don't know. How does Aino go and sha the son? Because love makes you crazy.'cause love can make you that crazy. S how crazy in love. Uh, a it was never about the masa because was never gonna have him do it. It was about the, because yesterday you told me that through, yes, I'm gonna have children in Star Nation, and now you're telling me to bring him as a as, as a corban, you are contradicting yourself. Again. Imagine a marriage. You're making me crazy. Yesterday you told me you wanted one thing. Today you're telling me wanted a different thing. You're making me crazy. I'm gonna yell and I'm gonna scream and we're gonna fight. No, you say, tell me one thing. I'm, I wanna do it. I love you so much. Do you Tell me a different thing. I wanna do it. Trust me, I'm talking to myself as better. I'm talking to every one of you. Right. It does make you crazy. And husbands make wives crazy and wis make customs crazy. It's the way, it's the way that our cottage bro design the world as it should be. And it's to get to that point where it doesn't matter. Hey, great. You switched your mind, Mr. Sarah. Okay. Fuck. Great. I just wanna be there for you. I just wanna do whatever you want me to do. I wanna show my love for you. Just bring it on, bring it on with love. The whole goal of to M, that's all brought out through the tests the most. I mean, beyond to the aa. And while me may not, it could be you listening, you do. I don't it. If we don't have that level of aava, we're not on the level of being able to sha our own song. We're not on the level of being able to fill an A top of the next column. The main idea, the main concept that yes, is shaak to every single one of us. If you're listening to this, you will have 10 tests. You may have already gone through a bunch of them. You may have a bunch of them ahead of you. You will go through 10 tests, and if they're not hard, they're not tests, they're gonna be hard. The goal is to bring out that love for K on our level. On my level, on your level. Ava, the whole thing is really about Ava. It's always about relationships. I, it, it's, it's a wild thing to me, and I'm sure you've already experienced this even in the 30 some odd episodes that we've had so far. We always talk about relationships. It's wild to me that every single year that passes, you know, you wait for ish sometimes what's the new thing that's gonna come out? And the ish for me is. That every single year I just get more and more and more of an understanding that all of Torah and Judaism is really just about relationships. That's what it's about. And that's what Nic Al is saying here, and that's what the, the De Hashem says in the, in, in the beginning of chapter two, Everybody, you know, backs this up. That Decos de says that decos is the main thing. What is vagos clinging me, clinging to God and God in return allow me to clinging to him. What is that? That's a relationship. Are at the center of the world, the center of the universe, at the center of the mea, the two kru, the angelic figures looking lovingly one another. Are they relating to each other or not? That's the icker. I'm shocked that every year it doesn't stray. It's not a new thing. It's new angles and new depth of the fact that relationships are at the center of everything. That's what it's all about. There's 613 mitzva, but it's all about creating a relationship with the Q and to be clear. It's a relationship that must exist within the confines of those six 13 mitz vote. They define how to have a proper and correct and a holy relationship with the Q bur. It has to be within those confines, but the ITER is the relationship. It's all to get to the relationship. It's all to get to the ava, the Mitzvah, the Torah, the tests. It's all to get that relationship to the deepest level of AVA that you can get to in your lifetime. Every little bit of Ava You out, it's bringing out that love between the, that every single one of us has, he meets. It's not from keeping the Torah. Again, Hava, all of us just keep all the Torah, but that's not the goal. That's olive base. Olive phase is God created you and said you need to do CI 13 mitzvahs, and if you do it, you get rewarded, and if you don't do it, you're gonna get punished. Ci. That's it. That's baseline. That's just the framework that's just creating the outline, the parameters of the relationship. Ella Rock Notes. It's overcoming these tests within that. It's saying, Haku, I'm keeping all of your mitzvahs. Why are you ganking things so hard for me and changing to Haku? I'm keeping all your mitzvahs and hashem. You're still making it hard for me. You're still pushing me to love you more. That's the twist. That's the shift. Is only by coming through, surviving, thriving through these these tests that through that he fulfills his mission here, his goal here, which is to show how much to bring out each one of us to bring out how much we can love. These beautiful words of the, are they light up for us? This whole discussion of the 10 tests of which are written in such length in the Torah, the, and why don't we get the test of ko? Beautiful. He says, we don't need to know the, of course, went through 10 tests. Of course, Yako Vita went through 10 tests, and we see some of them overtly in the Torah, but we don't talk about them. Why?'cause Avram's the first. He's the first Jew, and he teaches us that every single Jew, each one on their own level is going to go through it. So we don't need to count out and hear about every single one of KO's tests, and we need to count out and go through every single one of KO's tests overtly, because if Yako goes through 10 and he's setting the stage for everything that's gonna be, then of course they do just like us. And of course we do just like them. Next paragraph. This aspect of the Torah, this part of the Torah that goes through all of these tests of a, then when it comes to every single mitzvah, there's the essence of keeping the mitzvah itself mitzva, which is the action of the mitzva. But then there's the goal and the internal world of the mitzvah. That's the highest, highest levels of the mitzvah. Ironically, it's so easy to do a mitzvah. Just do the thing, grab the palm branch, grab the lemon, and shake them in all six directions. You're good to go. Take the fire and let a couple of candles rip off a little bit of challah before you go and put it in the oven. Tie your shoes in the right way. They're simple things Deep down. They're simple actions says, yeah, but how are you bringing them to life? With what attitude are you coming to the mitzvahs? How are you approaching it right back to marriage? You can fulfill everything that your spouse wants. You can do everything that your wife wants. You can do everything your husband wants and it's check boxes. A spouse can sniff out so fast that you don't care. So many husbands and wives out there are so confused. I don't understand. I do all the things he wants me to do. I do all the things she wants me to do. What's the problem? Do you care? Do you love me? Yeah. The thing is important, but the thing is a vehicle through which to share that love. The mitzvahs are vehicles through which to share the love that we have through ak and they bring out, do we really care? Just like the of which is at the end of last week's par in that context, walk before me and be tamim. Be perfect. Be whole. Which says that I'm so excited about your words. Like I found this tremendous treasure talking about the, we still give it. The MVA mitzva when it comes to the mitzvah of Mila in every mitzvah, the internal world of the Mitzvah and the real school aspect of it, it's the sim. What mother wants to see their child go through a medical procedure on day eight. It's not normal. It's not normal. But we invite all our friends and we invite all our family, and we go to the shul and we have a big sda and we sing Miros, and we sing the, and we give Brahas. Why?'cause it's a mitzvah. It's the mitzvah. That's what we're bringing out. I'm, I'm overjoyed from your words. Like I found tremendous treasure. And when a Jew has a clarity, a clarity of mind, there's no greater'cause You in your life you see and everything and you're doing the. This is the greatest day by a Jew when a Jew goes and takes their son and is able to bring their son into the bri of, bring him into the, to become part of the Jewish people. Be part of the, the, the court of the King mitzva. This is at the heart of a mitzva. You do it with Joy s Mitzvas, where at their core, their center is there's m, their center at their core. Still keep them with Ava despite themselves. Which are all about that. The inside of, of the Mitzvahs is really to bind a Jew to KU to deepen that relationship. La, all of these tests. Is all to get a person to a place of, it's such a deep thing. Mitzvahs are endless. It's such an incredible thing. You can sit there and you can spend and, and, and people do this and it's a beautiful thing and I look up to such people. You could sit there and you could be me and a mitzvah. You can go and you could spend a whole morning ser on one mitzvah. You could spend a whole week of morning seders on the mitzvah. You could spend a whole month of morning seders in pill, pool, and UNE on one mitzvah. At some point you go to the next mitzvah, and at that point you know all the details. What else is there to talk about? Everything. There's everything to talk about now that you know the details need to bring the mitzvah to life. And so often we forget that to bring life to the mitzvah, to bring the mitzvah to life, to not just three seconds before skia quickly, one, two, light the candles and say the brah. You're bringing out the oranas, you're bringing out a K's deep light into the world to get into the zone, to light them with love. The the candles, the Indian of Lighting, Shabbas candles. One of the main is Shabi, and we can be me pale in all of it. What is Shabi? Shabi means that I can see in order to have sim in the home, because then it's not uncomfortable and I won't trip. No da, no. Okay, but did you actually have Shalom Ma? You're by yourself in your house. You're getting from the light coming out. Do you feel a K Spark's light of the seventh day of creation, the light of a Q sparkle that he's holding for the end of days? Are you feeling that? Are you getting into that? Are you getting into the Z light in the candles? Are you enjoying the light? Are you feeling it? You put on fill every morning? How many Yeshivas are so happy at the success of a guy who comes out of Yeshiva after a year or two years, and then puts on Fillin every single day? How many guys just put on Fillin every single day to say the re shalom beforehand, to bind my heart for the, to bind my mind to do it. How many of us take off our fillin as quickly as possible to make sure to get out and start our day? How many of us look at the clock and say, can I squeeze in an extra minute to fill in? Can I keep myself bound to Aku for one more minute, bring the Ava to the mitzvah. Bring the life to the mitzvah When we go through these tests, not just to get through the tests, to become something, to become a better em, to these tests, to bring out levels of love and care and, and, and capacities. I never knew that I had. I never knew I could be pushed so low. I never knew I could be pushed so hard. I never knew that I could go through such challenge and love you even more. That's gotta be the end of the sentence. That's gotta be where it goes. It's a big ish. It's not STA that Avino is the first Jew. Avino sets the stage for what it means to be aju. That we're gonna go through our lives with tests, that we're gonna go through our lives with difficulty, and we meet it with aha. We meet it with Ed and Aava and love and excitement and passion and VAs, and we use every moment of our life and dka the moments of challenge to bring us closer to a q to be able to recognize our own 10 tests. When a Q who brings them our way to smile when we recognize them and see them. To let them bring out of us those levels of a who we never knew that we could have to give to a, that which we never knew we could give. And through that, bind ourselves to a, in ve in this world, in Amir s in the next world as well. All of us. Everybody. Thank you so much for tuning into this week's episode. If you enjoyed the episode, please rate the podcast and hit that follow button and join us every week for a new episode. Once again, thank you so much to this week's sponsor and a reminder that you too can sponsor an episode of the podcast. Email Rabbi turnoff@gmail.com For more info or to share any thoughts, comments, or feedback on this week's episode? See you in the next one.