Tell Her
Tell Her - Extraordinary Ordinary Women
In Tell Her, I sit down with inspiring women, many of whom I’ve met as clients in my hair loss clinic, to explore their incredible life journeys. Each guest reflects on what they would tell their past, present, and future self if they could offer her heartfelt advice.
Our conversations shine a light on the resilience and strength of ordinary women doing extraordinary things. From navigating health challenges to surviving domestic abuse, undergoing treatments, and balancing work amidst adversity, these stories reveal the courage and wisdom that often go unnoticed.
Join us for real, raw, and uplifting discussions that celebrate the beauty of perseverance and the power of shared experiences.
Tell Her
The Fight For Her Life: The Ultimate Comeback Story From Breakdown To Breakthrough with World Champion Nicola Barke
Nicola’s story isn’t just about surviving trauma, it’s about rising with purpose and doing something powerful with the pain.
From performing ballet at a national level to becoming a world champion in Taekwondo, she’s always been someone who pushes boundaries. She’s taken that same tenacity into the boxing ring, into corporate leadership at HSBC, and into her advocacy for mental health. But behind the titles and achievements is a woman who has had to fight harder than most, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
After a car accident left her with PTSD and a serious injury, everything Nicola had built her identity around vanished overnight. She went from elite-level athlete to someone who didn’t recognise herself. The breakdown wasn’t visible, but it was all-consuming.
This episode of the Tell Her podcast is a powerful reminder that rebuilding isn’t about bouncing back, it’s about consciously choosing who you want to become next.
Nicola shares what it really looked like to start again. The therapy that almost broke her before it helped her. The boxing glove moment in the park that gave her the tiniest spark of joy. And how that led to her redefining strength, success, and identity on her own terms.
Today, Nicola balances a high-level corporate career with competing in boxing, mentoring others, and continuing to advocate for women in sport and mental health.
She’s a reminder that growth doesn’t always look like progress and that true power lies in honesty, ownership and showing up anyway.
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Key moments include:
✔️How a brain tumour diagnosis changed her relationship with control
✔️The pressure of performing identity when everything underneath was falling apart
✔️Rebuilding herself through therapy, boxing, and raw honesty
✔️How she’s using her platform to open space for women in male-dominated arenas
✔️The truth about navigating burnout, loneliness, and friendship as an ambitious woman
✔️Why she no longer needs to be the loudest in the room to be the most powerful
🎧Listen now and be reminded that your greatest comeback starts when you stop
trying to go back to who you were.
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Chapter Breakdown & Timestamps:
[00:00] – From Ballet to Black Belts
[06:25] – Resistance at Home
[10:45] – The Accident That Changed Everything
[15:09] – Boxing in the ParkThe simple moment that sparked something again and why joy was the starting point.
[21:14] – Finding the Right Therapy
[27:05] – Strength, Softness & Self-Trust
[33:38] – Who She Is Now
[36:01] – Changing the Game for Women
[42:00] – Corporate Queen Meets Combat Sport
[45:00] – Deep Friendships & Faith-Led Nudges
[52:30] – The Brain Tumour Diagnosis
[58:00] – A Message for the Woman in the Middle of It All
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Resources & Mentions:
🔗 Hair loss Education From Sharni: https://www.sharniknightonacademy.com
🔗 Connect with Sharni Knighton:
https://www.instagram.com/sharni_k_hair?igsh=eGU1YmwwcmdpNTVp
🔗Connect with Tell Her Podcast on Instagram:
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🔗 Connect with Nicola Barke on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/the.burmesepython?igsh=MXRodWcxYWVqZHhsZQ==
🔗 Connect with Nicola Barke on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/share/1Be5CCfkqY/?mibextid=wwXIfr
🔗 Connect with Nicola Barke on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/nicola-m-barke
