Why Everyone Is So Impatient Now… (And How It’s Ruining Us) #podcast #trending #viral

Is it just us… or is everyone more impatient lately?

In this episode of Discovering Our Journey, we dive deep into the growing patience crisis affecting parenting, relationships, friendships, and even everyday situations like traffic, grocery lines, and communication with your partner.

Are we raising an impatient generation?
Is technology rewiring how we handle frustration?
Are we expecting too much from the people around us?

We talk about:

• Parenting in the digital age
• Generational differences in patience
• Setting boundaries without losing relationships
• Why we take things so personal
• How expectations create frustration
• The power of communication and emotional control
• Learning to say no without guilt
• Self-growth and mindset shifts

Modern life moves fast. Food is instant. Information is instant. Communication is instant. But have we lost something important along the way?

If you’ve ever struggled with frustration, impatience, setting boundaries, or feeling overwhelmed by expectations — this conversation is for you.

Watch until the end for the biggest takeaway on how to stop taking things personally and create more peace in your life.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Discovering Our Journey. I'm your host, MC.

SPEAKER_01 0:03

I'm JC. Bam.

SPEAKER_00 0:06

Oh man.

SPEAKER_01 0:07

Yeah. Yeah. Oh man. Oh man. I don't know if you guys feel this, but like the world, there's become like there's there's we're having a shift. A shift. A shift. Because I'm hearing a lot of people battling with patience. Patience. Um, I know that I do as at a time.

SPEAKER_00 0:24

So is it patience or is it frustration?

SPEAKER_01 0:26

It's probably frustration. It's probably both.

SPEAKER_00 0:27

It's gotta be where where's the line between it's like is it is it is it are we losing patience? Or we just can't deal with frustration. You know, it's like the yin-yang question, right?

SPEAKER_01 0:37

I think it all depends because it should it be your child. I think that's a little bit more on the frustration part. Or yeah. Is it? I don't know. Because you hear it all the time, and you would think, kid, you live with me. I've grown you up for so long. You would think you'd know better.

SPEAKER_00 0:53

And that's the frustration. Maybe that's my without frustration with the world.

SPEAKER_01 0:56

Well, okay, so then with the world, it's like, what do you do when you know you you you keep having to repeat yourself, or you know, people should know when and how to conduct themselves.

SPEAKER_00 1:08

Yeah, you know, that's a loaded sentence right there. They should. You should, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:14

And we never know how they're gonna wake up, right? How they woke up that on that side of the bed that day. We don't know what's going on with within them. But that's what I'm saying is that there's a shift, and a lot of us, I I'm seeing a lot of anxiety because of their attitude. I think that's where I'm just like, ooh.

SPEAKER_00 1:33

You know what? We do live in a world where things, you know, we especially for younger the younger generation, we live in a world where I think that the amount of patience and the amount of frustrating topics or situations are just so blown out of proportion because we live in a world where I feel like I feel like even people that are older than I am have in some ways a lot more patience with stuff than than people that are younger.

SPEAKER_01 2:10

Okay, hold up. Okay, you're talking generation now. Listen, okay, but it's so different.

SPEAKER_00 2:16

We're not talking about and we're not talking about technology-wise, because we're not talking about technology wise.

SPEAKER_01 2:21

No, we're not.

SPEAKER_00 2:22

It's just there's there, you know, I mean, remember the stories. It's like when I had to make a phone call, I had to run around the run around the store, uh, the block or whatever, find a payphone and stuff like that. So for me, it's not frustrating not being able to, oh, my battery died or something.

SPEAKER_02 2:40

I'm like, oh yeah, well, I guess I can't.

SPEAKER_00 2:41

What am I gonna do? I mean, I know a time where I didn't have one. I had to beep, beep, beep, beep, beep, beep. Oh day, oh day. I got I g I got I gotta go find a phone somewhere. Anybody know where there's a phone booth around here? You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 2:53

So it's you wouldn't need one if you knew how to do the codes, you know. I got you, oh yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:57

Oh yeah, yeah, this place at that time. Right?

SPEAKER_01 3:00

You know what's up.

SPEAKER_00 3:02

So, you know what I mean? So so that's what I'm saying. I feel like there was a we had to really be patient, you know. I feel like some of the older generation, you know, is not patient only with the technology part, but they had patience at one point because stuff took forever. You know, you didn't always get what you wanted to get at the stores, you didn't always get what you wanted to get, you know, at the time that you wanted it. Right now you get a pizza, you know, which was probably the the the only thing that back in the days you could say you can get, but now it's like you it's not just a pizza, it's everything. Yeah. I mean, when did you ever call for a burger or anything else? What was it? What was it? Was it where's the fries?

SPEAKER_01 3:38

Where's the phrase? There was anything else.

SPEAKER_00 3:39

Yeah, there's nothing else. It was just a pizza, was the big ooh, I'm gonna order a pizza because that's like now. That was the only now thing that we had back in the days.

SPEAKER_01 3:47

Okay, totally agree. Agree on many, many levels that that you just spat all that information out. True. Now, for me, I'll add to that by saying, Um, I remember going home and I would have, you know, my grandma is making things from scratch. She had the time. Now we're working so hard, we want to give those our kids those things now, and we're forgetting that the schools aren't the same as they used to be. Before, remember, they used to be like uh I asked my my I asked an older friend of mine how many kids were there in your class, and he's like, Well, I remember, man, I was we had like about 15, 20 kids, you know, for those that didn't miss the bus. So now we're we're I mean that ratio is higher. Is it really? Oh yeah, that ratio is higher. So schools aren't giving the same information because there's a lot of kids on different levels, and so I see the struggle there, but we also, because we're working so hard, we're not doing what we need to do, which is in our home educate and discipline. We're leaving that to the tablet, to the phone. And yes, I know it's not about about you know technology, but we are not doing our due diligence, you know, we would rather have the now.

SPEAKER_00 5:11

And you know, that's something that I've talked about before that I feel that you know when it when we were growing up and we were younger, I don't feel like that that parents were that much different than now. I don't think that there was as much attention as there needs to be now because they have tablets and they're gonna get information from other places. You know, there's a lot of available information of whatever it is that you want. So I think it is harder for parents to realize, okay, we can't just be like, you know, whatever, because you know, to me it was like, you know, they played out on the streets and they got, you know, like I said, you had someone that they hooked up with.

SPEAKER_01 5:54

But that's where you learned your street smarts, man. That is so mandatory. Now it's all there is the where's the home smarts? Yeah, all you have is uh information, yeah, but you need to apply it. You know, the the you have the knowledge, but what are you gonna do with it? You know, so that's that's that's a big hurdle that we all have to stop.

SPEAKER_00 6:14

We do have to educate our kids a lot more now because there's div there's other ways that they are going to be guided or educated if we don't step up. Before, what was the worst thing they they they could do? Oh where'd you learn that bad word at? Oh, I think I saw it in a movie and TV on HBO or something. It's like you know, something like that.

SPEAKER_01 6:31

But now I mean you're like, wait a second, kid, I take you to church, basketball, where is this?

SPEAKER_00 6:36

Where is this coming from? You know, you watching MTV, what's going on? You know, it's like it's like that was like the worst thing. Yeah, yeah, it's the worst, it was the worst thing that you, you know, certain language or acting or why are you getting that attitude from? It's like, you know, where are you what shows are you watching? I mean, that was back in the days, like, you know, the worst thing that you could do is, you know, watch a certain show that was inappropriate or something like that. But now it's like they got it in their hands. If they don't got it, their friends got it in their hands. So it's like it's so it's like it's there, like there's we got to really educate these kids in different ways because the information that they're getting fed, whether it be true or not, is going into their Hey, you know what I was realizing too?

SPEAKER_01 7:15

Dude, what happened to Home Eck?

SPEAKER_00 7:18

An auto body?

SPEAKER_01 7:19

Right, autobody. It's like, dude, you we are doing these kids a big disservice, but you know, that's just me. What should I be? Oh my gosh, now we're like, yeah, there's safety protocols everywhere, but hello. We're gonna, we're gonna, we're gonna never do what Ricky did when he lost his the tip of his bigger.

SPEAKER_00 7:36

Right? Sanded it right off, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:38

Right. So it's like, come on, we got we cannot keep living in a bubble. But patience, bringing it right back down to patience. Yeah. I think if we hone in on understanding where we're dropping the ball, we we wouldn't have to exercise so much patience because people would know what's expected, right? Or is that a big that's the same? You know what? I'm just trying to figure life out here. I don't know, you along with you guys all, you know.

SPEAKER_00 8:06

It all starts with you though, that's the thing. It does. I mean, because the only person you can change, the only person you can work on, work with is the person who's willing to take in the information to change.

SPEAKER_01 8:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:16

Like I, you know, we heard that saying, you can't fill a glass, it's upside down. It's like, you know, as much as you try, you ain't gonna get nothing in there if it's upside down. If they're not open to receive what they need to receive to change, they're not gonna do it.

SPEAKER_02 8:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:31

So all I can say is we have to work on ourselves.

SPEAKER_01 8:35

We have to be And it's never easy, too, to be like, I've gotta be the bigger person again. You know, so many times I find myself being silent, and a lot of my friends right now that I'm working with, I'm noticing that I'm just like, well, you know, not not everything has to be said. You know, sometimes we can just be quiet about the situation about the situation, just analyze it, and then you can come back to it.

SPEAKER_00 8:58

I feel like a lot of people though put ourselves in certain situations, and and that's why it's like, you know, that's the thing. I I feel like we put ourselves in situations and then we don't know how to deal with them.

SPEAKER_01 9:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:12

So, you know, the only example I can give you Especially for the yes man people here.

SPEAKER_01 9:15

Yes, I was I struggled with being a yes man.

SPEAKER_00 9:18

Yeah, see. And well, see, you know what? But the thing is, yes man with direction. I st I still feel like I'm a yes man. I always love helping people, always you know, doing certain things. Sure. But the example I always give is like, you know, I have a cousin of mine that sometimes, you know, he's moved quite a bit in his life, and uh, you know, he could call me up and he's like, Hey, I need your help. You know, we're gonna move, you know, we're gonna move the bed and the dresser and the fridge and the washer. I was like, hey, I'm there, man. What whatever whenever you need me. Yeah, okay, cool, cool. I go, so I'm just gonna get there so we can, you know, move all the stuff. And every time I come, it's almost the same thing. What's going on? Oh man, I got all these boxes I gotta fill, this, this, and that. I was like, see these guns right here? Yeah, they're not made for boxes. They're not made for boxes.

SPEAKER_01 10:00

Are you are you are you showing them only because you're working out right now?

SPEAKER_00 10:03

Yeah, but you're trying to keep that stretch on and stuff, and I was like, but I tell them, I tell them, I I tell them, it's like, hey, I'm here to do help you with the heavy stuff. You know, I'm not here to, you know, so I got about an hour or so, so it's like we're gonna move what we gotta do. I'm here for the couch, I'm here for the bed, I'm here for the refrigerator, I'm here for the big stuff. That's what you I'm not here to put your little stuff in boxes for you, man. That's not how the help works. That's what I'm here for.

SPEAKER_01 10:30

I love what you did there because I've learned that. Um, a special tool that has helped me that I have recently passed on is yes, setting up your boundaries, right?

SPEAKER_00 10:40

So expectations.

SPEAKER_01 10:42

Right, and the expectations. So I hear a friend needs a ride. You know, great. I have to think to myself, am I available? I've got to let them know if there is between this time and this time, because I otherwise I lose my day. And I've done that many, many times. So, and and it's only because I want to keep friendship and I just want to be that person that go to, and and I and I've learned that you can still be that person just with a little bit of boundaries of knowing, hey, after this time and this time, I'm kind of like, I gotta pick up my kids, I got things to do, you know. So um there was a situation that came up. I need a ride. It's like, okay, well, I'm free between 9 to 11. How can I help you there? You know, and it's like, wait, no, no, no, but I need you from this time, and then I need to get picked up. Well, and then because I used to be a yes man, I I had to take a moment, I had to take a breath, right? I had to be like, okay, I want to keep my friendship and remember that the what what do you want to get out of this? What do you want to get out of this communication? Where do you want to land? Do you want to be angry or do you want to be understood and just keep the peace? So I'm like, well, you know, didn't you say that um your roommate wasn't working? Can he maybe pick you up or or is he working close to you there? Offering solutions because I need to get myself out of that without saying no, but kind of saying no. You know what I mean? In a in a way where I'm just like, this is this is the time I've got.

SPEAKER_00 12:10

Yeah, I mean that's you have to be, we really have to, you know, to expect to expect other people to change or get it is not the way. To set expectations of what you expect, that's the way. You can't just be like, well, I thought he knew I had just used the hot water and he was gonna burn himself when he turned on the water. It's like you can't, you know, you can't set those types of expectations for other people without having communication.

SPEAKER_02 12:34

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 12:34

You know, so that's one of those things that you have to we have to work on. Like I said, with my situation, is hey, I'm here for this, I'm here for that, let's do it. I'm ready to go.

SPEAKER_01 12:43

Now, did you tell them that before that? Did you say, hey, listen?

SPEAKER_00 12:47

Again, it's not the first time, and you know who you are.

SPEAKER_01 12:49

Wait a second. What do you mean they knew? Are you okay? So it wasn't communicate. We're talking about communication here.

SPEAKER_00 12:55

No, in other words, in other words, I didn't communicate with them. You know, they're not little kids, so I didn't communicate with them that day, but it's not the first time it's happened. Oh so, but we said, Yeah, hey, I'm gonna help you with the fridge. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But of course, and again, when you get there, they're like, Oh man, it was tough, and this and that. So it's like, all right, you know, it's like, oh, okay, you know, all right, now let's get this thing going because I gotta go. Okay, and then they then he starts pulling drawers out. I'll put the drawers in the car. Just as tick the bill, you know. So yeah. So then they start moving, you know.

SPEAKER_01 13:23

Yeah, yeah. And you know, when when we talk about everything starts with you, I've got to bring up this weekend, oh my gosh, my church, man, we are on the move. Okay, my pastor was straight speaking life into us, reminding us of like where we should be mentally and how we should be. Because so many of us, it is our behaviors and our actions um that kind of change our circumstances, you know, it really does. And so I really was excited about this series um because it it made me start reflecting on hey, you know, I want to be a better person, and it's not only about following the commandments, but it's also about my choices that I make. And that has actually brought a lot of peace to myself too. I don't know how you guys are doing with with your Sunday service, but man, we are having a movement.

SPEAKER_00 14:16

You want to share with those choices?

SPEAKER_01 14:20

Okay, so like many times I have not been able to accomplish things because I will talk down to myself. Like, I'll be like, I can't, I'm just not good at that. You know, I'm I'm not good at technology, I'm not gonna be able to get that done. And so this time around, I've been kind of changing it up, talking life into myself, going, you know what, I'm gonna get it. I'm gonna get it. Yeah, little things fall into the crack, and I'm just like, oh god, I messed it up, I'm so dumb. You know, but those little words, they do, they do cripple me. You know, they cripple me, and I need to stop thinking negatively. And so, what do I do once I take a breath? I'm able to talk to my resources that I have and and connect with friends that I know are savvy in that area, you know, that can help me out.

SPEAKER_00 15:08

Yeah, I mean that's what it comes down to is being able to use the tools around you. And again, who are you competing with? Myself. Well, yeah, it's like you set the boundaries. You set the boundaries at the limits.

SPEAKER_01 15:22

I gotta do this and figure it out. I mean, you know, it's not easy though. Sometimes it's because the world has taught you to be hard on yourself. You know, I don't know. Well, well, not the world, my family. But you know what? That's why I think I am not I am But you know what?

SPEAKER_00 15:38

But but the thing you have to understand that I think it was just the basics, remember? That's what it was back in the days. The basics. And you're you're you're taking it to an extreme. You know, you gotta, yeah, so you're taking it to a whole thing that state basics were hey, you need to be responsible, you need to be educated, you need to be whatever. It never said you, you know, you gotta make sure you bake that bread good and make sure it rises and you mess it up. No one said all that. So you're putting that in your own self, you're filling in those blanks.

SPEAKER_01 16:05

You yeah, but I mean, who doesn't though? I'm sure you've been there, especially in your adolescence, when you started to become an adult, when you're just like, you're you're you're you you've graduated, you're sitting in the big pool of life, and you're like, what do I do from here? No, I what do I have to offer? What are my skills? What what is my purpose?

SPEAKER_00 16:23

Yeah, yeah, but I don't think I was I think my problem for me at least wasn't that you know I was hard on myself. I think I didn't see my mistakes because I thought I knew everything. So that was my my my my Oh my gosh, and you're still a knowing all though.

SPEAKER_01 16:41

I'm joking, I'm joking. So a little bit. A little bit you gotten better, you gotten better.

SPEAKER_00 16:48

Yes, yes, I have. But it's good though.

SPEAKER_01 16:50

I think you I think that's what makes it in.

SPEAKER_00 16:53

See, that's my thing. I've never I don't think I've ever been like I I can't do it, I can't, whatever. I always would figure it out. That's why I am in the business that I am in. So it's like I've never not taken on the challenge. Now, believe it or not, though, uh in my older age, there's certain things that I, you know, that I sometimes discuss with my wife that she's because I had that attitude, I've realized though there's certain things that I don't want to deal with. You know, there's certain things that I just don't want to deal with. If we're talking about basic plumbing stuff, then you know, sure I can go, you know, plunge a drain, you know, check the valves, whatever this and that. But when it comes to start changing stuff or you know, really digging into there, I just don't feel comfortable doing it. I don't mind paying someone else to do it because you know what? Yeah, I mean, it sounds ridiculous. I mean, we have we live in an older house and I've changed out the water, the water, what do you call um faucets for the the knobs? Yeah, the three. So it's got I got the three style, one, two, three. Yeah, and I've changed them out a couple times throughout the years, and I I swear it always happens within a couple of months, they start to drip. And I'm like, man, I've changed the seals, I've looked at videos and trying to figure it out. I even had my father-in-law come help me, and I'm just like, dude, it it's is it the pressure, maybe? No, it's it's the style. So this last time I told my wife, I'm I'm paying for someone to do it. Yeah, so I went, I went and paid someone to do it.

SPEAKER_01 18:19

They know it, they they see it all the time.

SPEAKER_00 18:21

You know what? I love the fact that I saw the guy struggle.

SPEAKER_01 18:26

It brought me joy.

SPEAKER_00 18:28

No, it brought me joy know it all. No, no, no. What I'm saying is it it felt so good for him to struggle because he knew that there was something wrong. They weren't sitting right. He knew that the whatever, so it's like, okay, I knew I just, you know, and I just went and did them. I mean, oh, they tightened, okay, then they're good. No.

SPEAKER_01 18:47

Since it's so old, you think maybe it might be like that.

SPEAKER_00 18:50

He said that we have to change the type? Yeah, we have to rechange the type of threading that's in the walls to this newer type because this one loosens up with time. He goes, look at the wear that you have on your rings right here. He goes, and at one point, even if you get someone like myself to do it, it's gonna be a problem where they're gonna start to drip again. Yeah, you need to change the inside. So it felt good to be like, okay, I mean, it felt good in a way that, yeah, all this time I've been doing them wrong. You know, we we've been having drips and drips and drips of water and stuff and having issues with it. So it felt good that he struggled with it because then it shows that yeah, I was getting into something I never should have. Because for one, it's just it wasn't a simple like it works or doesn't. I knew there was something wrong. So he literally had a re he was there for almost an hour. He had to reset them like three times, saying, you know what, when you put them in, you gotta pick this off. And he's like, Man, I'm already teaching, you're not gonna get me next time. I said, No, man, I don't want to deal with this. He knows. He like me, I don't like mechanics because I'm I'm really tough with my stuff, and I end up breaking stuff because I'm I I just don't know like that torque. I just sometimes exactly. Yeah, and the the ability to, you know, mechanics that work on cars are like, yeah, yeah, oh, right there, that's it. And I'm like, oh, okay, sure, buddy, I can I can move it a little bit more. No, no, that's too much. It's like they know, so you're not, you know, you're not gonna there's times that you know we have to leave it to the professionals or the at least the more experienced people to know. Just like I'm in a certain field that I I I look at certain things, I'm like, yeah, that's gonna be a problem. Yeah, you know, you just stapled that line right there, and yeah, right now there's not a problem, but that pressure on that line is gonna cause a problem later because you were not supposed to staple lines, you know, unless it's got a plastic cover so it doesn't indent it.

SPEAKER_02 20:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 20:31

So I know certain things like that, and there's certain things that you know we have to leave it to someone else.

SPEAKER_01 20:37

I love that you're a problem solver. Yeah. Speaking about patience, that's that's one thing that partners when we go to, especially my honey bunny, when we go to the movies, I I I like to figure out what's gonna happen in the movies. I'm like, oh, watch, watch, watch.

SPEAKER_00 20:52

Oh, it's like killer watch. Oh my god, did you see that? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So you're the you're the one that throwing popcorn.

SPEAKER_01 20:57

Shut up! Shut up! And I paid for my ticket!

SPEAKER_00 21:00

Yeah, the movie. Uh I'm a pauser because we don't really go to movies, so we watch movies at home. So so my wife, you know, she gets a little annoyed, like, oh my god, you think I don't know? Okay. Sometimes I'm like, I just want to talk to her about what the movie's going on. It's like, stop pausing it, okay, hold on. But you think he's a killer? You think I mean that was pretty, you know. So yeah, I like talking about it. My wife sometimes gets annoyed with me because you know, we're talking about, you know, I'm pausing the the movie every as we're going, oh my god, no, it's gotta be him now. No, it's gotta be him, you know. So yeah.

SPEAKER_01 21:34

So we need patience there too. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:36

She needs more patience with me.

SPEAKER_01 21:38

Overall, patience is something that we do need to exercise a little more, especially now.

SPEAKER_00 21:42

Patience also, you know, I think like you said, we you know, it's also about expectations, but I realize that we again expect so much from our friends, our our family, our partners, you know, is something as simple as like, you know. Hey, we're gonna go put you know gas over here. And it's like, why'd you go this way? It's like, you know, oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_01 22:06

We did that just recently.

SPEAKER_00 22:08

No, but it's it's it's you know, and and it's a hard one sometimes. You know what? It took me years to to get over, you know, it's like there's a parking right over there. It's like it's like I'm I'm the type that likes to wait for parkings, and my wife's more the type that likes to drive around for parkings. So it's like it's like if you should have just waited, it's like, you know, so then I did too. So I didn't know so sometimes I'm like, and it just happened the other day, and and and you know, I messed up, you know, because again, we were driving and she saw a parking. And I always tell her, when you see a parking, you you pull into that parking like this, like, oh no, wait, hold on. It was on it was on this side. So so she was driving past it, and she's like, Oh, there's a parking right there. And and and instead of pulling into the parking, right? And to instead of pulling into the parking where it's at, she went down into the park, into a thing, and and when she went down like this, someone went and just took it. And um, she's like, Oh, I should have pulled it out. I was like, Yeah, I was like, why did you pull it? And she just gave me that look, and I'm like, Yeah, okay. No, no, shh.

SPEAKER_01 23:10

No, for so for mine, for mine, it was we we one said go left and one said go right. It takes us, it takes us where we need to be, but one has more lights and the other one doesn't. I'm not into arguing about that though. I'm just like, as long as we get there, I just voiced that hey, I think mine would be a lot more direct, yours would be, it's good too. It's just there's more lights. And so we sat there and I was I was listening to what essentially turned into a little bit of a not not an argument, but just more like mine is right. No, okay. Well, I'm like, okay, you know, I was just saying I don't gotta die for it, but I was just saying. See, it's things like this that we gotta shake it off, though. When it really isn't something that's not going to benefit you in any way, just shake it off.

SPEAKER_00 23:59

Look, my wife could say, I tell her sometimes, I said, look, you can make whatever comment you want, you can say whatever you want to me. You know, do I suggest that you make a comment that is going to fix something, you know, or or it not change, like, you know, especially a comment of, oh, you should have done this, you know, which is a negative thing.

SPEAKER_02 24:18

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 24:19

But if you want to make a closed-end comment, like, oh, I think if you, you know, go that way, that that that light takes less time. But we have to learn as a receiver sometimes just to be like, it's a comment. It's not advice. You know, advice is something like I said, that we're talking, like, oh man, I want to lose weight. It's like, hey, well, you know what? If if you eat a little, you know, a little bit less carbs and a little bit more fiber, it might help you. See, that's the whole point. That's how advice works. You know, we're talking about a subject. Advice isn't one-sided. It isn't, hey, you know, if you go that way, the light usually takes a lot less time for Maurier. And the other person should learn how to be like, okay, I take it or I don't take it. That's a comment. That's not advice.

SPEAKER_01 24:57

But even then, it all boils down to you, as the person in the situation, practicing to be mindful and patient with the scenario.

SPEAKER_00 25:08

Yeah, and don't take it into a comment, don't take it into advice like they're telling you how to drive. If they if they're not expecting a response, then it's not. And us, we get defensive sometimes. Well, you can't let me drive. Okay, so you're you can't see you can't do that sometimes. Try to, you know, and it and trust me, it is more difficult than it sounds, just it is. It is let the person talk. Again, now if they start saying, Aren't you listening? I told, oh, see, now that's a whole different animal. See, they went to a different level. You can't do that. Yeah, you you know, you see your piece, and that's it. Yeah, you got you can't now you can't overstep your bounds. Yeah, you know, and us as a receiver, you know, I didn't understand that for a very long time. I thought, you know, they were telling me how to drive or whatever. I took it really personal, and it's like, no, look, just listen.

SPEAKER_01 25:52

Yeah, yeah, but it's all learning, it's all learning. So just if anything, if you can wrap all this in a nutshell, what has helped you to just calmly get out of scenarios, you personally, because it it's it's not I don't think it's something that you can, you know, one size fits all.

SPEAKER_00 26:11

I I really think that the biggest thing I took out is don't take steam so personal.

SPEAKER_01 26:17

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 26:18

People uh have unfortunately, and and and I have to look at myself because I'm sure I do it with certain situations too. We just want to speak, we just want to say stuff we want to be heard, we want to be heard or whatever, and and make suggestions or whatever, and then it's like just listen and just be like you know, you take it or you don't, and that's it. It's it's okay for someone to say something, don't take things so personal, just let it just you know, whatever. Of course, if the person's gonna continue, then that's a whole different story. Yeah, but if someone says, Oh, you know what, you yeah, you should you should go to that bathroom because that one, you know, doesn't always work or whatever, it's like whatever, it doesn't matter what it is. Yeah, don't take it so personal, just be like, oh, okay, and that's it.

SPEAKER_01 27:00

But I I think that's a big one is take your emotions out of it.

SPEAKER_00 27:03

Yes, yes.

SPEAKER_01 27:04

Because it's not you don't always have to defend everything. Yeah, yes, there's a thing that's easier said than done a lot of the times, right?

SPEAKER_00 27:11

That's right, because you you've heard of the the the new thing that I showed you was the there's feelings and emotions, and you can put you can put emotions into feelings, but not feelings into emotions.

SPEAKER_01 27:21

Yes. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_00 27:23

So it's like it's like one of those things, and we put a lot of emotion in what other people say and take it so personal. So we just gotta let them talk sometimes. Let them say this way shorter, that lane is faster. You know, grocery store, that's a big one, right? Yeah. This lane's faster. No, this lane's faster. Don't you love that line? Did you never do that?

SPEAKER_01 27:41

Yeah, you're always racing against somebody though. You always watch somebody's cards.

SPEAKER_00 27:45

I mean, with my wife, she she'll stand in this lane and I'm like, no, this lane. Don't do it no more. I I don't do it no more, though, but that's a that's a good one. So it's like, which lane is faster? My god, I don't play that game no more.

SPEAKER_01 27:55

I mean, even when you're driving, right? When you're in a line and stuff, you're just like, I'm trying to get there faster.

SPEAKER_00 28:00

You know what? But it's all about growth. Always what do we always say?

SPEAKER_01 28:05

There's no growth without pain until next time.