The Sonder Effect
The Sonder Effect
Every person you pass has a life as vivid and complex as your own.
The Sonder Effect dives deep into the human experience, exploring the untold stories, emotions, and connections that make us who we are. Through raw conversations, reflective insights, and thought-provoking narratives, this podcast uncovers the beauty and complexity of ordinary lives—revealing the universal struggles, triumphs, and moments of clarity we all share. Whether it's navigating relationships, mental health, identity, or personal growth, The Sonder Effect invites you to pause, listen, and truly see the world through someone else's eyes.
Because every story matters.
The Sonder Effect
Perfectionism & Avoidance: The Tug-of-War Keeping You Stuck
Have you ever found yourself waiting for the “perfect” moment to start something—only to never actually begin? You’re not alone.
In this episode of The Sonder Effect, Alexa Montemayor and Mariam Ayvazyan dive into the sneaky partnership between perfectionism and avoidance. Through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), they explore how these two inner forces keep us stuck in cycles of procrastination, fear, and self-doubt.
Join us as we uncover the deeper fears driving perfectionism, the ways avoidance convinces us to stay in our comfort zones, and—most importantly—how to break free. We’ll share practical strategies to reframe self-talk, practice mindfulness, and develop self-compassion so that you can move forward without the pressure of flawlessness.
If you’ve ever struggled with putting things off until the “right time” or felt paralyzed by high expectations, this episode is for you. Tune in and learn how to take action, even when things feel imperfect.