EP.95 Nobody Gives a F*ck Anymore… That’s Why They're Losing.

Most people walk through life like nothing matters anymore.

No standards. No pride. No effort.

In this episode, we rip apart the “zero f*cks given” mentality that’s quietly destroying people from the inside out. From how you show up in public… to how you handle your job… to the way you run your home and your life—everything reflects one simple truth:

If you don’t give a damn, it shows.

We’re talking about the little things people ignore—how they dress, how they carry themselves, how they speak, how they work—and how those “little things” are actually the difference between being respected… or being overlooked.

Because here’s the reality:
That careless, detached attitude everyone wears like a badge of honor?

It’s not freedom.
It’s not strength.

It’s a slow path to being average.

If you actually want something out of life—respect, success, control—you’re going to have to start giving a damn again.

This one isn’t for the comfortable.
It’s for the ones who know they’re capable of more… and are ready to prove it.

Transcript

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SPEAKER_03 0:12

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SPEAKER_02 1:58

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SPEAKER_03 2:10

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SPEAKER_02 2:51

Pay off some credit cards, you know, and all that stuff. You don't want to be the lowest bidder, because if you are, this is what you win.

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Yeah, and if you don't bid at all, all you do is you get daily inundation emails with my with my rhetoric card.

SPEAKER_02 3:05

What a way to go. What a way to go.

SPEAKER_03 3:08

You thought you could avoid me by not listening to the show or watching my content, but I've got news for you. Little do you know what's coming. Yeah. Let's just ask my wife what's coming. She didn't understand how hard I was to get rid of when we got together.

SPEAKER_02 3:26

Like a cockroach, it just won't go away. Not even nuclear nuclear holocaust won't get rid of him. No, no, no, no. He's like a little uh love tick. He's just gonna burrow his way into your hearts and your minds for the rest of your life. A love tick.

SPEAKER_03 3:40

I don't bring Lyme disease. I mean, that's a pro that's a that's a positive, right? That's a plus. You just bring nothing but love, man. Nothing but love. You know why? Because I care what other people think. Yeah, yeah. So let's get into that. Let's just let's let's talk about what other people think and what other people how how everybody operates in this world. Because you know what? Let's be honest with you, honest with me, me honest with you. This world is fucked. It's fucked, man. Everywhere you look is some sort of pain, some sort of suffering, some sort of turmoil, people going through shit en masse, people can't afford their fucking bills, can't afford to get to work because they can't afford gas, they can't afford food, they can't afford school. Seems like everybody can't afford shit, and when and the ones that can't afford it, they don't want to afford it because it's so fucking astronomically expensive that they start getting dark, and then every all this shit culminates into this one absolute bullshit phrase. I've said it, you've said it, Dave has said it, we've all said it. So let's just get it out in the open. Ready? Three, two, one. Zero fucks given. Right? Is that that's that I mean, we've all said that, right? Zero fucks given. You get to a point in your life where you're just like, I don't give a fuck. I don't give a fuck. I don't give a fuck about you, I don't give a fuck about your thoughts, I don't give a fuck about your perspectives, your opinions, your whatevers. I just have zero fucks given. That is a fucking giant problem when you've got everybody in the world that's already fucked running around losing more fucks to give.

SPEAKER_02 5:22

Yeah. No, and you're exactly right. And I mean, when nobody gives a fuck about anything that's happening, I mean, that's we're we're definitely uh uh in some deep, deep, deep water here. Some dark deep water. Doomed is the word you're looking for. Well, I was trying to, I wasn't trying to be so like negative. I don't want yeah, doom and gloomy. I don't want to be so negative, but I mean you're right. I mean, we're fucked. I mean, literally, I mean, because nobody gives a fuck anymore. Like people, like I've said it, like you said, I've said it, you've said it, everybody says it. Like, I don't give a fuck what you think, I don't give a fuck about this, I don't give a fuck.

SPEAKER_03 5:56

It's just yeah, it's uh it's it any so let's break into the origin of zero fucks given or not that you know the whole notion of not giving a fuck about what people think. It's not what it is, it wasn't what it is today. It this this whole thing has morphed into some giant steaming pile of shit that is ruining lives, uh, ruining countries, ruining this entire fucking world. Here's the thing, guys, you gotta understand everything that happens, it doesn't matter what it is, any thought system, any train of thought, any anything like this, it can become perverted and will become perverted over time because people, the more often it gets used, the more blanket statement it becomes, and then the more fucking excuse it becomes for people to act like shit in their own fucking life, especially when you're talking about zero fucks giving. Look out at your friends. Don't even look out at the broad scale society, look out at your friends. And I fucking promise you there's one, at least one of your fucking friends that leaves the house in pajamas. I guarantee you there's one of your friends that gets loud at restaurants. I guarantee you you have these people in your fucking life. Now, oh, I see you got something to say.

SPEAKER_02 7:15

Yeah, I was gonna say you're being awfully nice by saying at least one.

SPEAKER_03 7:19

Yeah, exactly. I'm trying to give people the benefit of the doubt. I don't wanna I don't want to make all of our friends here on the camera think that uh I don't believe that they have any good friends. I'm sure they do.

SPEAKER_02 7:28

Yeah, but yeah, it's probably more than one. I would say maybe a handful of good friends. I mean, let's be honest. In today's day and age, I mean that's kind of what it is. And most of those other people, like you said, they'll wake up, they'll go to the store in their pajamas, or you know, it's they just don't care. You know, they don't they don't care about their appearance, and it just shows like fuck it, I don't care if I go to work, fuck it, I don't care if I go do yeah. I I think it's a lot more than just one. I think they have more friends than that.

SPEAKER_03 7:55

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 7:56

Well, and and and here's especially especially when you're in a when you're at a fucking restaurant and you see the whole table and they're all friends getting loud, it's like, okay, so all you guys are pieces of shit.

SPEAKER_03 8:05

Yeah, yeah. You're getting loud at a restaurant, you look over, and uh it's happened a dozen fucking times. I look over and the entire fucking table's wearing pajamas. Like I that is that is the standard, right or wrong, whether anybody likes it or not, that's my standard right out of the gate. I know I will never be friends with you if you're out in public in fucking pajamas. Will not happen. It's we're just not we're two different fucking people and we're so different, we ain't never gonna fucking see eye to eye.

SPEAKER_02 8:33

But if you wear a tutu, he'll be your friend.

SPEAKER_03 8:36

Yeah, fuck yeah, I'll date you. I'll I'll bring you home and let you shack up with the wife, you know.

SPEAKER_02 8:45

But seriously, I mean, you're right. I mean, I I'm I feel the same way. Like if you have to leave your house and you show up at a place and just your pajamas just you don't you just look like shit. Uh chances are I'm not gonna be friends with you either. You know, because you that just tells me your character, that tells me who you are as a human, and it's like I don't want to associate with that.

SPEAKER_03 9:03

Yeah, and you know how many fucking people right now are listening to this going, you don't fucking know me. Fuck that. I don't give a fuck. I'll walk out of this motherfucker, my pajamas. At least I got pants on. Let me fucking discuss this with you people, bring you back down to reality as to what we're talking about here. You see, when people that actually make shit happen, I know you think that we're just some do nothing podcast hosts, but we got a lot of shit happening that you just don't know about because we don't talk about it in the show. That's not what this show is for. So when you've got do nothing, uh, you know, some do th do things, you got some doers, right? You got some people that make shit happen, and they see you out in public looking your worst. We understand this isn't this isn't about you not caring what people think of you. This is you not caring what you think of you. This is you not having any self-pride. I'll tell you this. In fact, it just happened this morning. I woke up, I fucking got up way early. It was like fucking 4 45, 4 50, and I'm like, I need some fucking coffee, this and that. I'm just not gonna bother going back to bed because it was one of those situations we all get, right? You wake up a little bit before you normally do, and then you drift back asleep, and then you can't wake up for the whole fucking day. Like your circadian rhythm goes fucking haywire, and you just feel mostly tired all fucking day. So sometimes it's just easier to get up, even if you don't want to. I had one of those days this morning, so I got up and I was like, man, I want some coffee, and then I got down. And typically I drink my coffee black, no sugar, no cream. I just drank coffee, you know. But today I wanted some fucking cream, and uh, yeah, I just yeah, and I was gonna spice my coffee up a little bit today. But uh, so I looked in the fridge and there was there was just enough for my wife's cup because she's a cream holic, like she loves that shit. And I was like, well, fuck it, I'm gonna go to Jewel, you know. I got you know, Jewel is our Meyer Publix, it's our thing. It's our local fucking grocery store up here in the Midwest, North Midwest, but uh you know, central Midwest, I guess I should say. Yeah, but uh yeah, that's our thing. So I was like, I'm gonna go to Jewel. Well, then I fucking I walk my happy ass right the fuck back up the stairs, got dressed, not primed and prepped to the nines. I don't got a fucking tie bar on and my fucking, you know, but I've got real pants on, real shoes on, I got a hoodie. I look presentable to normal people. I could have gone to fucking Jewel, especially where I live. I guarantee you there wasn't gonna be a motherfucker in that store at that hour that of that didn't work there. Like there's nobody in this area that's gonna be up that fucking early. It's just the way it works. Well, I got up and I fucked, I went up back upstairs, got dressed anyway, because I will not walk out of this house looking my worst. I had I gotta shave the old nugget on the face. I get that, but I bet I haven't been shaving because you know, bald people, we gotta get a good sunburn in or two before the the season really starts. Well, you gotta let the hair grow out a little bit after that sunburn happens because you don't want to be scraping razor blades across that shit. Because when I burn, I fucking I burn all the way.

SPEAKER_02 12:06

Because I do I go at least you fucking tan.

SPEAKER_03 12:10

Yeah, dude. Two days I get a fucking nice deep red purple fucking sunburn. Two days, deep Mediterranean tan, like a like a Greek god, except for the body and the composition and the attitude and the perspective and the thoughts. But you know, other than that, the color is is right there.

SPEAKER_02 12:28

I I I burn. If I burn like that, I get blisters. And then I turn white again.

SPEAKER_03 12:34

Yeah, that's my wife. She goes, she goes from fucking pasty white to fucking beet red, right back to pasty white.

SPEAKER_02 12:42

So for all you motherfuckers that can tan that easily, fuck you. That's all I have to say.

SPEAKER_03 12:46

My son is a ginger, so he don't fucking he don't tan barely at all. And then uh and my and my daughter, she's she's like me, she's got the same hair color, blonde hair color, and all that stuff, you know, dirty blonde now. And she's the same way. Like it takes 20 minutes in the sun and she's got a nice deep tan. You people, I swear. She tans, she'll tan so dark sometimes that I'm like, is your mom like part Mexican? Because you've got this like really even complexion and it's darker than I'm used to seeing.

SPEAKER_02 13:24

I do the same thing with my wife. She's the same way, like 20 minutes in the sun, and then she's tan, but she's great.

SPEAKER_03 13:29

So yeah, and then and the tan lasts too. Like, yeah, these motherfuckers they they get a tan real quick and then they go out one time in the sun and the tan lasts for the entire season.

SPEAKER_02 13:38

Yeah, I don't understand it, but hey, that I wasn't born with it, so I don't care. But look at that. I just said fuck it, I don't care.

SPEAKER_03 13:46

Oh, yeah, see, zero fucks given. Yeah, I don't care, I don't care. But let's let's break into the origin because so many people don't understand where this came from. It's quick, it's easy. Zero fucks given was originally intended for an entrepreneur, for a doer, right? So anybody, any one of us knows, you probably know, listening or watching right now. You under you're about to understand what I'm saying. When you get on a pathway to progress, a pathway to success, a pathway to becoming someone or something that you can be proud of, what do all of the people surrounding you do? They start telling you reasons you shouldn't do that. Don't lose who you are, don't forget who your friends are, don't be a stranger. They'll say shit like this. And and the whole the whole reason they're saying all this shit is to drag you backwards. A lot of people, I I've dealt with thousands of motherfuckers in coaching. A lot of people. Most people don't want to admit this to themselves because they don't want to feel like their family and friends that are closest to them don't want them to do better. But the truth is, they don't, because the better you do, the more they're reminded of what they're not doing. People don't like that shit. So they're gonna try to drag you backwards. They're gonna try to pull you, pull on, pull on you and keep you anchored right where they are, because if you're in their realm, they are now comfortable, especially considering if they already know you wanted to do something, if they already know that you've got big plans, big goals. I shouldn't say plans, but I say big goals and big dreams. They already know that if you're not executing on them, you're a little bit more depressed than they are because they don't have those goals. They don't have those dreams. They're not, they're not worried about what they're doing, you know, today to get us to tomorrow, to get us to the next day, to get us to the finish line. They're not worried about none of that. But they know that if they can keep you pigeonholed into their little fucking group, their little fucking chain link area, that you're gonna be more depressed than they are because you do have them. And you're not conducting, you're not executing, so you're gonna feel worse. People will always try to fucking hold you back. And then once you start actually moving, once you break through all their fucking chains and all their rhetoric to hold you back and you start moving, that's when the insults come. That's when that those slight jabs start coming in. Like, oh, Mr. Big Shot, hey Hollywood, what's going on, Playboy? That's when that shit starts. That is where zero fucks given is supposed to lay, right? When they start coming in and they start insulting you and throwing you these jabs, you're supposed to say, I don't give a fuck what you think or have to say. I'm on my path. I'm marching forward. I'm going to get myself to my goals, whether you fucking like it or not. That is exactly where zero fucks given is supposed to reside. The problem here is that all these slimy shit pile, lazy motherfuckers doing nothing with their lives have be have figured out that they can use zero fucks given, they can use the notion that I don't give a fuck about what you think of me as a, you know, basically just use carte blanche to do whatever the fuck they want in their own lives. Look like shit, smell like shit, don't cut your fucking hair, don't trim your fucking beard, don't comb anything, don't dress well. It's not that, people. And here's the fucking thing you gotta understand is that if you're one of these people, I'm trying not to throw you any fucking shade, even though you fucking deserve it. And we'll be honest with you, if you're one of these people that gives so little of a fuck about yourself, you can't, you know, I'm sure, I'm sure if if you are one of these people, you're probably not listening to this show. It's just not gonna fucking happen. However, for the stragglers that don't know the show, if you're listening and you're one of these motherfuckers that continuously go out to dinner or go shopping or go to the gas station looking like hell, you know, hairs up in a fucking rat's nest, got sweatpants on, stained fucking t-shirts, smelling like shit, looking like nobody, nothing everybody want to talk to. If you're one of these motherfuckers, listen up because I want we're trying to fucking help you here, man. We want you to do better. We want you to have the life that you keep telling the mirror you want, but won't fucking do anything to get. Starts with A1, it starts with A number one, and that's you, right? We uh we hear all the time if you want to be successful, start by making your bed. Because that way, once you get up, you've already accomplished something that 99% of the other people haven't accomplished, and that's making their bed. Because most people don't make their bed. I know a lot of fucking people that are all over the internet talking about how you're supposed to start out making your bed, and they don't make their fucking bed because people are full of shit. We are not full of shit. I can tell you what I don't do in the morning. Make my fucking bed. No, part of it is because my wife is still in it, and the other part is because I don't give a fuck. I really just don't give a fuck about making my bed. Now, is it nice when I come home and I got, you know, I can do all my shit and then I go up to go to bed later on in the evening and I come to a nicely made bed? Of course it is. It's very nice. I just that's not one of the things I give a fuck about. I replace making my bed with making my body, like making myself look easy. I work in a shop. I still comb my beard, I still make sure my hair's trimmed up, I still make sure my fucking outfit, you know, my outfit. Yeah, clothes I wear to work. It's not a uniform, but it's clothes I wear to work. I still make sure that's clean. I'm I still make sure it doesn't smell like shit. I do things to take care of myself to make myself a presentable individual when I go out into society. That's where I think everybody should start. I really don't honestly give a fuck about making your bed because I'm gonna be honest with you. All these little fucking tips and tricks about how to fucking set yourself aside, this and that and the other fucking thing. Let me tell you, billionaires, these motherfuckers are the ones telling you to make your bed. You think these motherfuckers wake up and make their bed? They don't make their bed, they don't make their fucking bed.

SPEAKER_04 19:54

No.

SPEAKER_03 19:54

They wake up, they go get in the shower, they get themselves pressed and dressed and ready to rock for the day like they should. And then the maids come in later, or the fucking nanny comes in later, or the wife comes in later, the husband comes in later and makes the fucking bed. That's how it happens. I don't listen. That's why I don't listen to most people, because most people are just, oh, what can I think up now that'll really, really make it sound like I'm a thinker? And it you come up with shit like this. Right. Like I'm just being real here. Is it a bad thing to make your bed? Of course not. But it does everybody do it? No.

SPEAKER_02 20:25

No, no, and you know what? You know, I I personally, again, I'm like you. I don't make my bed first thing in the morning because I'm up at the butt crack of done. I'm up at 3:30 in the morning. The wife's still sleeping, so it's kind of hard. I mean, I suppose I could like fuck with her one day and make the bed while she's still sleeping, but just fucking two-foot her out of bed and then fucking then make the bed. I gotta make the fucking bed. I'm leaving.

SPEAKER_01 20:44

The influencer on the internet says I have to make my bed so that I can have an accomplishment that nobody else has to start my day. So you gotta go.

SPEAKER_02 20:54

I mean, and I but I have to agree, I mean, making your bed is not like, but leaving your home, you know, the way you want to present yourself, that that is the most important thing.

SPEAKER_04 21:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 21:06

Because that sets the stage for everything. That shows everybody that you actually give a fuck. You know, I couldn't tell you how many times I, you know, just like you, like, even on the road crew, like, yo, I'm on a road crew and stuff like that, and I make sure, you know, I can jump out of bed, jump into my clothes, and fucking go, but no, man. That's to me, I was raised differently. Like, the first thing you do is you you take care of yourself, you brush your teeth, you take a shower, you trim your fucking beard, you comb your hair, you know, stuff like that. Make yourself presentable. I think the only time for myself that I'm not presentable is at night just before bed when I'm taking the dogs out for the last time, and that's when I'm wearing like my like sweatpants or something, and taking them outside for a walk. That's the only time that you'll catch me like looking like that. Otherwise, even sitting in the house, if I'm sick, I'm taking a shower, I'm brushing my hair, I'm doing my hair, I'm doing all my daily stuff, putting on clothes because. That's just how I am. That's who I am. You know, it's like I don't like to lounge around just like I don't it's just it to me, it's disgusting.

SPEAKER_03 22:08

I just don't understand how people lounge around, and I know a lot of people that do this, and I'm not throwing any shade, I'm just simply stating I don't understand. Right. I don't understand how people lounge around in their fucking pajamas all day. I just don't. Like I don't feel like the day has begun until I'm dressed. Like until I'm looking human, I'm feeling human. I'm I've I'm waking up, I'm getting up, I'm getting moving. I don't feel like the day has started. So like on the days that I have done the jammy thing all day long, like I get to the evening, I feel like the day's never started, but now it's fucking wasted.

SPEAKER_02 22:40

Yeah. No, because I didn't get dressed. Right. No, I'm and I'm the same way. Like if the day started, the day means if my day is starting means I'm dressed, I'm trimmed, I'm proper. I'm you know, because at a moment's notice, you have to go out. If you can go have to go somewhere at a moment's notice. And why would you want to go in a moment's notice just looking like complete shit?

SPEAKER_03 22:59

Well, you know, and like I've got a like all my shit. It's like I might have to fucking leave at a moment's notice to go to a fucking meeting for something, or I might have to jump on fucking camera with a meeting for a meeting with something or a live event or something. Uh you know, I couldn't tell you many fucking times in the last two months. I've gotten calls out of fucking nowhere. Dude, jump on cam. I need you on the mic. Boom, I'm on somebody's fucking show. Within four minutes of of the message or the phone call, I'm on their show. It's not, give me 30 minutes so I can go shower, cut my hair, trim my beard, trim my mustache, get fucking dressed and all this other shit. Just be dressed, be ready to go. How can you expect things to come great things to come your way if you're never ready for them? Like that's a lot of how life works, how energy works, how your gods and my gods and all their gods and all this shit, that's how this works is you have to help yourself before these gods will help you, before the fates, the universe, before all that shit will help you. So if you're waking up and saying, fuck today, fuck my body, fuck my appearance, fuck my mindset, fuck my personality, fuck my self-esteem and self-worth. What why would you ever think that the fucking universe is gonna deliver you something positive?

SPEAKER_02 24:13

Well, it's like a boomerang effect. You're putting that out in the universe, it's coming right back at you. So that you only have one person to blame for what you're not accomplishing, and that's yourself at that point, you know, because you're putting it out there, you know, and it's a boomerang effect. You know, you put that again. We've talked about this the negative energy, the positive energy, and how quickly it goes and all that stuff. But doing something like this, and you just boom, like let's throw that boomerang out, you know, fuck it. You know, I'm not gonna take a shot, I'm just gonna launch around. It's gonna whack you eventually. Yeah, because you you know, who knows? You might get a call, you know, somebody that you know. Oh, somebody somebody that you may know ended up in a car accident or something like that. Heaven forbid that doesn't happen, whatever. But if that did, what are you gonna do? You're just gonna you're gonna leave the house looking the way you are, you know. It's you know, it it just doesn't look good. I mean, for me, that's again, I mean, I guess it's I don't know if it's just how people are raised or if that's just the mindset that we've gone to in society where you know, the whole fuck it, I don't care, you know, and it it's it's really bad that we're in that kind of a situation because you should care about that, you know, because if you want anything to be able to happen for yourself, anything positive to happen for yourself, it starts with you. You put that out in the universe.

SPEAKER_03 25:26

Yep. Well, you gotta be ready. That's the here's a and and here's a perfect example, perfect illustration of being ready at all times. So it's like, you know, like I've I've I've actually said people like, why the fuck are you going grocery shopping in your fucking pajamas or your fucking filthy sweatpants, whatever? It's just grocery shopping. Who gives a fuck? You know? Well, let me tell you a story about grocery shopping. I was literally grocery shopping one day, a couple about a year and a half ago. And I just move with a different energy because I'm dressed, I'm proper, I I I carry myself with a straight back, shoulders back, you know, I have a different energy. I was at Meyer grocery shopping, and a motherfucker approached me who also gave off a different energy. And I'll so I was intrigued. I'm like, okay, cool. So we're like the only two motherfuckers in this place that got dressed today. Okay, what's up? What's going on, man? And he's like, you move with a different energy. He literally said that. He's like, you move with a different energy. He's like, Do you got any social media or this and that? And I so I said, Oh, you know, I was like, Yeah, and we did the whole phone in the aisle thing, you know, and he's like, Do you want to be on my show? He's like, I'd love to have you on the show. He's like, You're an intriguing dude. I actually got an opportunity to be on somebody's fucking live podcast because I got dressed. I was at the grocery store with a cart full of crap and I got a fucking opportunity. This is the thing you gotta understand is you don't ever know when opportunity is going to knock, but you've got to be willing to answer the fucking door when it does. You can't be like, oh my God, they're so-and-so. Oh my God, I look like shit. And then you try to avoid that person. What if you're avoiding an opportunity? And what if you spend your whole life like that, just you know, diving and dodging and dipping and ducking around fucking opportunities all because you just didn't want to shower today, all because you didn't want to go get your fucking haircut, all because you didn't want to trim your beard or get dressed.

SPEAKER_02 27:08

Well, I mean, let's be honest. I mean, if you're if you're putting yourself out there like that, you know, chances are those opportunities are not gonna come to you at all. Right.

SPEAKER_03 27:16

Oh, no, they're not. Nobody's nobody's gonna fucking approach somebody in public in their jammies and go, no, you look like an awesome human being. Let's get you on the show.

SPEAKER_02 27:23

Yeah, for me, well, me personally, I see somebody at at a grocery store in the middle of the day in their uh pajamas or something like that. I just look at them like pieces of shit.

SPEAKER_03 27:31

Yeah, you're the scum of the fucking earth. Like it's you waste of humans. And and you know the funniest thing is is these motherfuckers are the most proud to. The fucking worst looking individuals on the fucking planet, when you see them in public, you you go to their inner, you or you go to their internet, you go to their fucking social media, and it's all about proud American, proud this, proud that. Well, you're not fucking proud anything. You're not even proud of yourself. You don't even have the fucking dedication to your own self to put fucking real pants on before you leave the fucking house. How are you out here talking about pride? You don't have any. Shut the fuck up.

SPEAKER_02 28:08

Right. No, they don't. I mean, it's and I've done that too. You know, I've had some people like um, you know, uh message me, you know, when I was doing my my show and all that stuff, like, hey, you know, I'd like to get on your show, this and then I I would go on their social media and look, and it like all their shit is just like random, just junk, you know, and just some of their pictures, their profile pictures, it's like you want no, yeah, it's like no no, I'm not happy.

SPEAKER_03 28:33

That's what you want the entire world to see of you first, is that picture? Fuck right, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:38

It's like what the fuck is then it's like you have to ask, like, what the fuck is wrong with you?

SPEAKER_03 28:41

Yeah, yeah, you know, yeah. Oh, you gotta, you gotta, you gotta love the motherfuckers that do nothing with their lives, and yet they're and you guys listening and watching, you guys know these people too. You've had run-ins, these motherfuckers think they are just the best things since sliced cheese. They are so interesting, they've got so many stories to tell you, they've got so many accomplishments to tell you about, yet their fucking profile picture is some dog shit photo of them from fucking 18 years ago because they haven't taken a good one yet. It's so fucking ridiculous.

SPEAKER_02 29:18

It's like, how can you not take a good picture of yourself with the technology that we have today? Oh, that's right. That's you're using the technology today, but that's just the way you fucking look.

SPEAKER_03 29:27

Right, right, right. So, I mean, but it this carries on. Like, look at the globe, guys. Everybody, look at the fucking globe, the entire world. Look at India. Do you think India is statistically, this is 100% factual information? I'm not throwing any shade or hate, um, even though I just I think it's a disgusting shithole, uh, and it needs to be cleaned up. That is exactly what it is statistically, is a disgusting fucking shithole. India creates the most amount of undealt with trash on the face of the earth, literal entire rivers, just full, fucking top to bottom, 13, 14, 15 feet deep, just solid fucking garbage rivers. Do you think this kind of shit happens because everybody gives a fuck about themselves enough to just get dressed in the morning? Do you think this kind of shit happens because people give so many fucks about their surrounding areas that they want to make them better and actually take fucking charge and make things happen to make that to you know to turn the place into a better place? No. India is a perfect example of what you get when nobody gives a fuck. Zero fucks given. I dude, these motherfuckers smell like fuck. I'm again, this is just fucking factual information. They smell like piss, they smell like shit, they smell like body odor, they don't fucking shower, they barely fucking prim their hair, they barely trim their fucking hair, they barely fucking shave, they they look like fucking hell when they walk out. They they live in an absolute disaster of a fucking shithole. Like this is India is the country that happens when all of everybody in a country says zero fucks given. That's what you get. You get fucking India. You don't get America. I see America's still nice in most areas. I would say 90% of America is really fucking nice. You've got your population hubs, you know, that the Democrats run, then they fuck everything up. And you've got some other Republicans that make things too fucking expensive, so they they they contribute to that too as well. But for the most part, 80, 90 of 90% of fucking America, we'll go 90%. 90% of America is beautiful. Why? Because for the most part, we give a fuck. For the most part, we are a people that do get up in the morning, get showered, get cleaned up, smell nice, look nice, get dressed, and then attack the day. That's the difference. When you have a country full of people that attack the day the proper way, you don't end up with fucking India.

SPEAKER_02 32:01

No, no, you don't, you know, and you know, I I gotta say, I'm gonna throw my neighbors underneath the bus here because they're I mean, you can tell they don't give a shit. Like we all we all redid our decks in the back because they were all falling apart, rotting out, and stuff like that. Our neighbor, you know, their deck is like literally, I wouldn't walk on there with it. You can pay me to walk on that deck, I'd probably fall through. But but and that's just not it. They open up their garage and they leave it open, and it's just piled with garbage. Like just shit. You know, it's just like how do you live like that? Well, and that's even worse because you're in a fucking townhome community. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And they leave it open, and I'm surprised like the association that we have, because they'll send people walking through and make sure everything's nice and proper and all that stuff. But I mean, it comes down to like not just having yourself being proper, but you know, the things that you own, taking care of them, you know, taking care of your home where you live, your domicile, whatever you want to call it. You know, I mean it just to me, it just blows my mind how anybody would want to live like that, you know. Just like looking at their garage, I I don't even want to know what the inside of the house looks like at all. You know, because it's just like you can tell you tell you can tell a person's character again, not only by the way they they present themselves, but how they present what they're what they own, how they take care of their shit, and all that stuff. You know, and if it's looking like that, they don't give a fuck. They don't give a shit at all. And it's like those it's to me, it's just how do you live like that?

SPEAKER_03 33:26

Yeah, it's tacky as fuck. I can't wrap my head around it. I just can't, you know? And then they're and coincidentally, they're the kind of fucking people that would always be bitching, oh, opportunities don't ever land in my lap. I'm sure they I'm sure glad they land in your lap. Must be nice.

SPEAKER_02 33:42

Well, and I hate to, you know, and I I wasn't gonna say I'm not gonna say the race, but I'll tell you that right now they're not white. That's my next door neighbor. So I mean that says it all right there, and that's uh and I understand because the country that they originate from is a shithole. You can't drink the water there, you know, nothing like that. That's that's the type of thing that they're used to living in. And unfortunately, they're bringing it here, and it's just like, you know, I remember one time they had the garage door open, like and it was it was like 40 below out. My pipes in my bathroom, upstairs bathroom, were starting to freeze because they had their their door open. The kids come out because the mom's non-existent, it's just the kids are. I looked at the kids, I'm like, you guys better start closing that fucking door, you're gonna be paying for that broken line that's gonna happen in my house, and then you know, it's it's not gonna end well for you, you know. But I mean, these guys are just but again, I mean, at least zero fucks giving, Dave.

SPEAKER_03 34:30

I don't give a fuck about you. Why would you give a fuck about you? They obviously don't even give a fuck about themselves, right?

SPEAKER_02 34:36

Exactly. I mean, that's the again, and that's the thing. If they don't care about themselves, they're not gonna care about you. So, I mean, and those are the people that's why for myself, I don't want to associate people with with people like that because you know, I know I could sit here and say, you know, I don't give a fuck, but if you look how I present myself, my house, and all that stuff, I do give a fuck about those those things and other things. It just comes to certain circumstances where I don't.

SPEAKER_03 35:02

Right. Yeah, I mean, it's not to say you gotta give a fuck about everything. It's just I'm I'm just saying, you know, you gotta give a fuck about you if you want anybody else to give a fuck about you, because that's another fucking facet of this, another aspect is, you know, so many fucking people, and and this one's no shade, it's just reality. So many people in this life are just absolutely depressed. They're they live in darkness and they just because nobody respects them, nobody honors them, nobody cherishes them, nobody treasures them, nobody respects, nobody wants anything to do with them, and they just can't get it through their fucking head that they don't want anything to do with you because you appear as though you don't want anything to do with you. When you per you when you portray yourself in a way, in a manner that tells everybody right out without even fucking saying it that you don't give a fuck about you, nobody else is gonna give a fuck about you. Why would they? Yeah, they shouldn't. They shouldn't. Like literally, they should not give a fuck about you if you don't give a fuck about you.

SPEAKER_02 36:04

Oh, exactly. And and the funny thing about it with a lot of those people that don't give, you know, that are like that, that they just don't give a fuck, those are the same people that will, you know, you're trying to do something better for yourself, you're starting something. Those are the people that are gonna give you the unsolicited advice on what they would do. And I love those people because they're gonna be like, and I've had that, I've had it happen with businesses that I've owned. You know, people come up to me, oh, you should do this. And I just kind of look, I'm like, well, what gives you the um authority view? Yeah, exactly. The authority to give me the give me the ideas of what I need to be doing with my business. Well, you know, I did this back when I was like, you know, work for this company. I'm like, okay, you work for a company. Have you ever done it on your own? Well, no, it's like, well, you know, it's just like, but you don't have that authority to give me any advice because you know, those are the people they're giving you that advice to again for you to fail. Yeah, they want you to fail. Yeah, because now they have to, again, like you said, they have to look at themselves in the mirror and come to the realization that their life is shit. Yeah, so when they realize that their life is shit, they want everything around them to be shit.

SPEAKER_03 37:08

Yep. And they want to they still want to feel good about themselves, but the only way they can feel good about themselves is that if everything around them is even worse.

SPEAKER_02 37:16

Well, and the thing is, they can feel good about themselves, and this is and this is what's fucked up in their mind, is that they're gonna feel good about themselves because they they're like, Well, I gave you great advice, so they're gonna feel good about that when their advice was actually detrimental on what you're actually trying to do. But you know, so but they're gonna twist it. Well, they'll twist that and they'll be like, Oh, I gave you some good advice, you know, blah, blah, blah. It's like, no, the fuck you didn't.

SPEAKER_03 37:39

Do it.

SPEAKER_02 37:39

That's why I don't take your advice.

SPEAKER_03 37:41

Do what I do. When like I I have no problem admitting that somebody's giving me good advice, like, even if they're shit piles, right? But this is what happens when I get good advice from somebody that is obviously not very loving of themselves. Um, I'll listen to it, I'm like, oh, you know what? I was like, I'm I'm gonna take that to heart. I, you know, that's interesting. Um, and then I'll kind of break it down a little bit and uh I'm like, well, let me ask you a question. Um, you know, you said yourself and that is this is good advice, and I believe it's good advice. My biggest question is, why aren't you taking it? Yeah. Like, why aren't you taking this advice? I can see by looking around in the place that you live and how you, well, don't take care of yourself that you're not taking any of this good advice. So now you're sitting, now you're telling me you're a person, without telling me, of course, you're telling me that you're a person that has the information you need to turn your life into something fucking awesome, and you're flat out refusing it. However, at the very same time, you're flat out refusing to take your own advice, you're demanding other people take it because it's such great advice. This is an interesting fucking balance we're working on here. And then I just make them feel like absolute shit. And you know what happens every fucking time that happens? I see them a couple weeks later, fucking dressed, they got their fucking shirt all buttoned up, they they smell decent. It's because sometimes, most of the time, shame works better than fucking support, right? If somebody's fucking their life up, don't go, oh, it's gonna be okay. You just gotta keep marching, dude. You know, just stick with it. It's gonna be fine. You're perfect the way you are, it'll all fall into line. That shit don't fucking work. You say, You well, I mean, I don't know what you want to hear, dude. I mean, you're telling me your life sucks, you're telling me nothing's going right as you're sitting in your pajamas on a three-day shower. Like, what the fuck is happening here? You you know, or the people like a fucking friend of mine I used to have has a real thin beard. Instead of shaving the fucking thing off, which would have been the proper fucking thing to do. I call let's let's interject, let me interject myself here. Let me give PSA to the men out there. Um, I know, guys, we all want to have beards. We all want to feel like men. But please, from the bottom of my heart, I'm I'm trying to help you. When you have a beard that doesn't grow in in patch, you know, grow or grows in in patches here and there, growing it out doesn't make you look better. It doesn't make you look manlier. It actually makes you look more unkempt, makes you look more childlike because it just looks like you're you haven't all the way gone going all the way through pro puberty yet. So if you've got one of these patchy beards, you don't grow it out. Shave that shit off. Make yourself look better. I I will tell you, a clean shaven man looks better every single fucking day of the week. I don't care if you got double and triple chins, a clean shaven man looks way better than a man trying to grow out a beard that doesn't fucking exist. That's facts right there. It's fact it's just the truth. It's just the fucking truth.

SPEAKER_02 40:43

I've seen it so many times where people, you know, guys like that will have like stragglers coming out of the cheeks and like a few down the chin, and it's just like, bro, why don't you get rid of that? You look like complete shit.

SPEAKER_03 40:53

Yeah, you look like you're homeless.

SPEAKER_02 40:55

It's starting to come in. It's no, no, no, it's not. It really isn't. I don't know who's lying to you. It's not coming in, it doesn't look good. It makes you look like a fucking moron.

SPEAKER_03 41:04

You're 44 years old, it's not coming in.

SPEAKER_02 41:07

Like, oh my god, man. You haven't even hit puberty yet.

SPEAKER_03 41:10

Or here's the other one. Here's another one for you guys on the beard topic. When you grow a beard and it's let's just say it's thin, it's not patchy, it's okay, it's just thin. Don't fluff it, don't brush it in an opposite direction to make it look thicker. If you're not watching right now, I'm like making the motion to brush from the jawline to the hairline going up. Don't do this because it just makes it look absolutely fucking terrible. If you're growing, if you can grow a beard but it's thin, just keep it short. Keep it short. Have a distinguished, a distinguished short beard. You'll you're you trust me, if if you're listening to this and you do that, you fluff your beard trying to make it look thicker. All you do is look even more fucking homeless and even more patchy and even more thin. Just shave that shit down, comb that shit down, tame it down, do whatever you gotta do. Just rock the distinguished short beard. You're gonna be fine.

SPEAKER_02 42:05

Yeah, I used to have my beard even longer than what it is now, and out riding motorcycles and stuff like that. That fucker would fly up in my face and be like, and then when I get to a spot, it'd be like this. Yeah, I got so sick and tired of it just being all up in my face. I that's why I trimmed it. It's like I'd like it to be. I don't like those like when it's all fucking wiry and just like looks like all fucking shit. It has to be trimmed, it has to look nice.

SPEAKER_03 42:26

I call it the Uncle Cy Beard because uh remember if that show Duck Dynasty, that fucking Uncle Cy and that show, that motherfucker, there's no way he had ever run in his entire life, ever run a comb through that beard.

SPEAKER_02 42:39

It was dog shit. Well, and that's the other thing, folks. On the beard topic right now, if men, if you're gonna have a beard, you gotta groom it just like you groom your hair on the top of your head. Right. You gotta comb it. There's beard oil that actually works very well that helps put that shit in. Comb it.

SPEAKER_03 42:57

And if you don't want to brush, yeah. And you got beard oils, you got beard butters, you got beard balms. Like if you got a big long beard or you got a beard that's a little wiry and it likes to get out of place, you're gonna use your butters and your balms. If you got a dandurf problem, you know, but everything else seems to fit in place, you're just gonna use the oil down in the roots. Use this shit. There's nothing wrong with it. How come? And that's the funniest thing. It's all these fucking men back to zero fucks giving. They walk around with a shitty looking fucking beard, but their their fucking hair on top of their head is prim and proper. Like at all fucking times, always done. What the fuck is happening here? Well, it's my fucking beard. I, you know, men don't use all that shit. So you're gonna tell me that you're gonna go to a fucking salon, get your fucking hair did, you're gonna wake up every fucking morning and wash that shit with all these different botanical oils and fucking things like this, put all this grease in it to make it make sure it holds its shape. That's what men do, but they don't extend the same courtesy six inches lower to their fucking to their jawline. Get the fuck out of here, guys. If you're gonna have a beard. Take care of it. You know, shut that's the number one fucking thing for a man that'll tell me if you have a beard and you're a man, I don't give a fuck what the rest of your body looks like. I'm gonna look straight at your fucking beard and I'm gonna know what I need to know at least enough to decide whether I'm gonna continue a conversation or even start a conversation or I'm just gonna walk the other fucking way. I don't give a fuck if you're in a fucking three-piece suit and your hair is perfect, but your beard looks like it ain't had a fucking comb run through it for the duration of it, the life of it, we're done. You can't hide your face, people. Being ugly is one thing, but if you're gonna be ugly and have a beard and do all this other, take care of it. That's all you gotta do. It's the same thing as like maybe rub a little lotion on your skin. Like what did Bill Burr say? If you know, if your dick looks brand new, but the bottom of your feet look like a prehistoric riverbed, it's time to increase the circumference of the lotion distribution. It doesn't make you a fag, it doesn't make you gay, it doesn't make you a pussy or effeminate. It makes you it makes you appear as though you actually give a fuck about yourself.

SPEAKER_02 45:04

Well, I mean, well now let's take this, like let's let's do some history here real quick. Over a thousand years ago, thousands, thousand years ago, you know, the Norse, one of the biggest things, they found combs and all that stuff. These people literally made their own combs and groomed themselves. If they can do it without the stuff that we have today and they did it back then, you have zero fucking excuse. Yeah. Zero fucking excuse.

SPEAKER_04 45:29

Zero.

SPEAKER_03 45:30

It's just it's mind-boggling to me how much how there's so many fucking people out here that look like absolute warmed over dog shit. And they're they're the same people that are always bitching that opportunity doesn't find them. They're always the ones bitching that they can't get a better job, they can't make more money, they can't get more friends, they can't build more influence, they can't get more followers. It's because you you're you're not you don't care about yourself, and your outwardly appearance tells everybody that. Now, I to caveat, because I know there's a lot of people probably fucking screaming at us right now, to caveat this. I absolutely I act I absolutely do know a couple of people, and it's just a couple. They are good fucking people. They are goal, they got golden hearts, they care more about everybody else than they do about themselves, this, that, and the other thing, and they look like shit. I get it. Anomalies happen, but here's the lesson. We have to stop comparing ourselves to anomalies. It's the same thing when you look at celebrities, the same thing when you look at influencers, the same thing when you look at entrepreneurs or you look at bodybuilders or you look at CrossFit people. There are anomalies out there. There are people out there that don't have to do the kind of work that a lot of us gotta do to look good. They got better genetics. I'm fucking sorry, but just because somebody else has better, better genetics and has to work a little less hard at making themselves look good doesn't mean you shouldn't work at all to make yourself look better. It's it's it's mind-blowing.

SPEAKER_02 46:57

No, it is. It is. I mean, you if you wanna if you want these scenes, if you want to look better and all that stuff, you gotta put forth the effort to do it. Nobody's gonna do it for you. There's no magic pill, there's no magic formula, there's none of that shit. You just gotta put in the effort. Yeah, you have to, because that's where it starts. If you put in the effort, it's gonna show that you put in the effort. Now, for those of you that are watching, I mean, you look at me, I mean, I I got a beard, I've I've got tattoos all over the place. Most people will look at me and think that opportunity wouldn't come my way, which is exact exactly the opposite. I have opportunities coming at me all the time. I have a great job, things that we got going on, you know, all this stuff. But that's because I put in the effort on myself first.

SPEAKER_03 47:40

Yeah, yeah, it's it's quite that simple. And now, here, let's take it long game. Now that we've gotten all that out of the way, why? Why does this matter? What is fucking happening? Okay, so let me ask you this for people listening, people watching. What do you want out of your life? If you need to pause this right now, do it. Pause us for a couple of minutes. Think about this. Really give it some good hard thought. Where do you want to see yourself 10 years from now? Where do you want to see yourself 20 years from now? Think about it really hard. I guarantee you it's not in a fucking trailer park eating Doritos off of your chest while you're laying on a couch that's you know stained with piss and full of roaches. I guarantee you it's not that. So, how do you, how are you going to get to that fucking place? Well, it's gonna involve other people because coincidentally, hand in hand with taking care of yourself is working with other people, right? So I did a video the other day and I said, if you want to go really, really fucking fast, you want to just get to the end of life as fast as you possibly can and have nothing to show for it, go alone. Because everybody out here wants to think that they're a lone wolf and they want to wear that like a badge of honor. I myself, if I say it all the time, I'm a one-man army. But here's the reality the reason that I can do the things that I'm doing and build the things that I'm building and go the places that I'm going with is because I'm uh I'm allowing myself to work with other people. And by allowing my to allow myself to work with other people, that means I have to give a fuck about myself. I have to give a fuck about what other people think. Now, I understand this in that in that video I did the other day. My buddy Bruce Calero, he corrected me and he goes, or he clarified, he's like, just to be clear, you know, it's it's make sure what the you know what the right care about what the right people think about you. And that was a that was a poignant statement because you don't need to give a fuck about what the bums think about you. You don't need to give a fuck about what people that have no right or reason to be in this fucking country think about you. You don't have to think about all that. But you do have to think about what certain other people think of you because if you really want to go fast, you go alone. But if you want to go far, you want to build a life that is worthy of being proud of and bragging about to your friends, having your friends be so jealous of your life that they don't even want to be friends with you. If you want that, you're gonna have to work with other people. Go fast, go alone. Go far, you gotta go with other people. But other people aren't gonna allow you to go with them if they can look at you and fucking tell within 10 seconds of meeting you that you don't give a fuck about yourself. If you can't even take fucking 20 minutes, 10 minutes, five minutes and run a brush through your beard, comb your fucking hair, make sure you're dressed before you leave the house. If you can't do that, there's no limit to the shit you can't do. Right. Right? I mean, if you can't do that, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 50:30

If you can't do that, I mean, you're pretty much you're you're the only reason that's stunning everything from happening for you. Yep. You know, because if you cannot just take it's literally, it's it's it's so fucking simple. One step. Take care of yourself first, and then everything else is gonna fall in line.

SPEAKER_03 50:48

Yeah, and this, and you know, and and you know, you and I are in this fucking next aspect. Um, weight. Your fucking body weight, your body weight says a lot to people that need that need you to say very little. Um, I'm a fat dude. I'm I'm on my fucking journey. I've been on my journey. Dave's a fucking chubby dude. He's been on his journey. We yeah, I give you a little credit, you fat fuck. Uh but we're on our journeys. We're we've been doing it for a long fucking time. We're coming down, we're getting down there, we're we're looking better, feeling better. Um, but that's another thing, guys, unfortunately. And as two fucking chunky dudes, fucking telling you, I've been a lot fatter than I am than I am right now, and as has as has Dave, um, let me tell you, the amount of respect that I got from people when I was way heavier than I am now paled in comparison to the respect that I get from people as I am right now. And as I am right now, that that level of respect will pale in comparison to the level of respect I get when I'm down to my target weight and I've got my fucking, you know, I've got some visible muscle, and you know, where it where you should not be visible, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02 51:57

You know, he's not talking about in between the pants, right?

SPEAKER_03 51:59

Yeah, no, that's not that that hasn't been visible since I was like six. But uh it's like two inches on its tippy toes on a proud day. Like it's it's it's nothing to brag about. But everything else, you know, like we could get that, we we're getting that arranged, we're getting that rectified. But that's another thing. It's like, you know, even Andy says, Andy Frasella said, you know, if I could I look at you and you're a fat, sweaty fuck, I know you can't even say no to the thing to you that you're putting in your mouth. Like you can't even say no to things you put in your mouth. What makes you think that I'm gonna be able to trust in you that you're gonna be making better decisions with what's going in my mouth, so to speak?

SPEAKER_02 52:35

You know, now on the caveat to that, I know there there is medical conditions that that cause people to be like that, and you know, we're not annoyed and all that kind of shit. Right. So we're not cast in shade to that, but for the able-bodied people that are actually able to do that, I mean, listen, my story went for losing weight, I used to weigh over 400 pounds. I dropped over 200 pounds in about two years. And I never felt better. I gained some weight back because you know, my job has my job and my you know lifestyle changed because of my job. So I put on some weight, you know. So I have people like, well, you know, yeah, you gotta lose some weight, but like, yeah, and I then I fire back and be like, yeah, at one point in my heaviest, I was over 400 pounds and I lost over 200. And they're like, oh shit. You know, but that's discipline, you know, and that's another part of that's something that people need to really learn. It's it's discipline, it's dedication, it's you know, putting yourself knowing that this is what you gotta do and just fucking doing it and not caring about what people are saying behind your back when it comes to that because you're taking care of yourself.

SPEAKER_03 53:38

Now I'm gonna use that, and I'm not throwing shade, but I want to use it as an illustration because of an uh of because I interact differently with a lot of people, right? And I want to give people the tools, I want to give all you guys out there the tools that you're gonna need to combat certain situations that you're gonna run into life, right? So let's say I didn't know Dave, right? And we we ran into each other, we got into the conversation. I don't know what the fuck happened, but somehow we started talking about how you used to weigh 400 pounds, you lost 200 pounds, you gain a little weight back, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I would immediately be like, okay, so why did you stop at losing 200 pounds? Well, you know, my fucking job, this and my lifestyle, that. No, you you you're using that as excuses for your lack of discipline. And that's why you're you're gaining the weight back, is because you failed at the discipline. You failed to keep that rolling. I'm just getting I'm just using this. And and you have I I understand your your situation. We've talked about that. It's is it's really not that, it's not all that. Like I get what you're you know, you're still on your thing. Um, it's just it's it slowed because of life changes and shit. Like everybody understands life happens. But for the people out there listening, that's what I would give you. That's some shit that I would give you. So be prepared for that. So, because and and the reason I say this is because if you know what people will fight you with, you know how to fight against it before they even bring you the battle, right? If you know, if you're that person to say, man, I used to weigh 325 pounds and I've lost 111 pounds, or I lost 111 pounds, and then I and I'm kind of gaining, I've gained 35 pounds back, and this and that, and the other thing. But you're using it because everybody that's ever lost weight uses that as their big thing. Like we see these stupid motherfuckers on the internet, their whole claim to fame in their entire fucking life is I lost a lot of weight. Yeah, you gained most, you gained a but part of it back, some of it back, most of it back, whatever, but you're still hanging on that victory that you lost all the fucking weight. If you know that people are going to say, This is what you why'd you stop to discipline? You're you're starting to, you're you're just camouflaging your lack of discipline with excuses. If you know that that's what they're gonna say to you, you know the game. You know what's gonna happen. So you know right then and there that you've got to up the discipline. You because you don't want to be that fucking guy. You don't want to, you don't want to have this giant claim to fame because losing weight is a lot is really fucking hard, especially losing a lot of fucking weight. One of the hardest things, if not the hardest thing you'll ever fucking do is lose absolute tons of fucking weight. You don't want to be the guy that went through all that, or the girl that went through all of that struggle, all of that pain, all of that turmoil, all of those sleepless nights, crying yourself to sleep because you can't get rid of the cravings, this and that and the other thing. You don't want to be the one that went through all that to go through all that again and then go through all that again and then go through all that again because you keep losing discipline. You get you get down to a certain weight, you feel a lot better. Oh, I can ease up today, I'll go out to dinner. Oh, I can ease up this week. Oh, I can ease up this month, and then pretty soon you're just eased up on your whole fucking life and you're right back that way. Keep that fucking shame in your head that you felt when you didn't like you. Keep that shame in your head that people will deliver you in the battle when you start hitting them with this is my life's fucking, this is my whole life victory here is I lost a bunch of weight 20 years ago. Keep it in their fucking, keep it in your fucking head of what they'll say to you about new now, and it'll keep you moving.

SPEAKER_02 57:02

Oh yeah. I still have pictures of me with my heaviest, and I will look back on those because that's that that kicks the motivation in. Like when you when I'm not feeling motivated, I look at those. And I I know my discipline for myself, I consider ego aside, my discipline left because I hit my goal weight, and I was like, okay, you know, then yeah, okay, I got a new job. It got comfortable, it got more comfortable to eat what I was eating because it was easier on the fly type of shit.

SPEAKER_03 57:33

Well, and you've been married for 20 fucking years. It's a whole different dynamic when you're trying to chase the pussy rather than you've got it already locked down. Well, I I lost all that weight when I was married.

SPEAKER_02 57:43

Right. So it was like, you know, it but it was just for me, like it just got to a point where it's like, wait a minute. Okay, I'm not happy with where my weight is. I'm I'm done with this fluctuating, going up and down, and all that shit. I'm done having to buy new fucking clothes because they're not fitting. I refuse to buy clothes because they don't fit. I won't buy anything until they're so loose that I have to buy something. You know, so I do these things kind of like for myself, but I mean I lost that discipline, you know, and it now that it's coming back, you know, it's the meal prepping, you know, it's going back to the way I it worked for me before the meal prepping, counting the calories, the proteins, the fiber, the fat, the carbs, everything. Keeping track of everything. You know, it sucks. Believe me, it sucks. And uh, do I like doing it? Fuck no. No, if if if anybody says that they like doing it, they're lying to you. They are flat out lying to you.

SPEAKER_03 58:40

Or I will let me cat let me let me I'll I'll I'll devil's advocate. If they like doing it, I do some people do like doing it, but here's the thing. If they like doing it, it's it's because that's their life. Like they don't have 900 other things going on, and this is just something I have to do. This is the thing in my life that I am making my mission, which I have absolutely zero fucking hate on. If that is your mission, your life's mission right now is to fully, fully and wholly focus your energy on your body composition and your health, and you enjoy my fitness pal, every fucking calorie, every fucking gram of fiber and protein. If you enjoy that, fucking fantastic. Run with that shit as fast and hard as you can. There's no shade. Most people, again, that's an anomaly. Most people, we're just trying to get through it. Like we're just trying to make it happen so that we can get this other shit done, you know? Like we're we're we're fixing to be on you, Dave and I, with you know, we'll uh more announcements in the future, but we're fixing to be on fucking TV one day. So we we're we're we're deep in the heart of holy fuck, man. I gotta get on this treadmill.

SPEAKER_02 59:51

Yeah, yeah, no, exactly. It's like fuck do I want that, do I want that fucking quart of ice cream or should I eat it something else? I'll go with the healthier option. Yeah, let's leave the ice cream alone, you know. But I mean, those are again decisions that you gotta make because things are happening. You want things to happen, this is how they happen. You gotta take care of yourself, and you gotta do it first.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:11

And that's that's the other thing that people do it for yourself. Well, they just don't fucking get yo, you should definitely do it for yourself. Um, but I will also say that it, you know, sometimes you need an external motivating factor. You know, sometimes just doing it for yourself isn't enough to go through the amount of work, labor, heartache that it takes to lose massive amounts of weight. You got sometimes you have to do it for other people, sometimes you gotta do it because you just want to be around for your kids. Sometimes you gotta do it just because you want to be hotter for your wife, or sometimes you gotta do it just because you want your dick to look bigger. If you're curious about the penis size, it's about a quarter of an inch for every 10 pounds that you lose, men. Quarter, you gain a quarter, quarter of an inch optically on your on your fucking long dong uh with every 10 pounds you lose. That's that's scientific, rough scientific fact there. But that is a fact. Sometimes you just gotta do it for other things. But I I I'm not hugely into you know why you're doing it as long as you're doing it. Um, it should be done for the right reasons, but there are multiple right reasons. The only right reason isn't ah, it's for myself. No, no, no, no. It doesn't have to be that. Whatever the fuck gets you off the couch, whatever the fuck gets that ice cream put back in the freezer or not even brought into the fucking house, do that. Whatever helps you, do that. Because all of this shit. So I made another video uh I think last week sometime. Um is is, you know, the other reason people's lives don't look like they want them to look, is you know, they don't have the career they don't they want, they don't have the wife or husband they want, they don't have the fucking relationship they want, the kids they want, the fucking job, they don't have all the shit they want, is because they won't do what most people won't do. Is and that's the preparation. You see, for any big fucking amounts of success, for any big opportunities, for any big payout, for anything great, you it takes preparation. Preparation is the shit that you do while nobody sees you, while nobody watches you, and nobody listens to you, and nobody gives a fuck about you, nobody even knows you exist. The preparation happens then. People don't want to do the preparation, they don't want to do all that work because nobody notices them. Why am I gonna go through all this headache and heartache and all this, all this turmoil and suffering when nobody even notices? Nobody gives a shit, nobody the well, it's because if you want people to give a shit, if you want people to notice, if you want people to offer you opportunity, you have to do the work first. You have to fucking put it in first when nobody's watching, which is coincidentally, which is a whole nother show, but that's what that's why most people are never going to reach success. They they will mental gymnastics their way around the shitty life they're living into making it, making themselves feel content with it because they didn't, they they know they didn't do the fucking work. And they know they didn't because they didn't do the fucking work, they didn't get the opportunity. Because they didn't get the opportunity, they didn't get the success that they felt like they wanted or they they deserved. It's all about doing the fucking work when nobody's watching. That's the most important shit. The most important thing you can fucking do is the work that you'd get done when nobody is watching.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:22

Exactly. Well said. And that's facts right there. I mean, you gotta put in the work, you know, nobody's gonna watch you, nobody's gonna give you the gratification, give you the pat on the back for you know what you're doing behind the scenes. And that's where it all starts. Well, nobody gives a fuck if you're trying.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:39

Nobody gives a fuck if you're trying. That's the other thing you gotta get under your stand. Like, people uh always want to get this claim to fame is that I'm trying, I'm trying, I'm trying. Um, I'm not trying anything in my life. I'm doing. I'm either doing or I'm not doing. That is there's no gray area for me. You either you either are or you ain't. That's the fucking way it is. This trying bullshit is what people fucking tell other people so that they can feel better about not doing anything. Stop fucking trying, stop telling people you're trying, saying this is the when people ask you what you're doing, this is what I'm making happen. This is the trajectory I'm on, this is the course I'm running, the path I'm on, the avenue, the route, the whatever the fuck you want to call it. This is what I'm doing. This is what I'm not doing. There is no fucking trying. So stop, get just stop all that trying shit, get rid of all the trying. You either are you ain't, you either do or you don't. That's the way it is. If you live without a gray area, you will conduct yourself differently to a much higher level. So I think we could wrap this shit up. If you want opportunities to come, start by not looking looking like shit. Start by fucking, I mean, and maybe you are one of these people that deeply love yourself and you're completely content with who you are, you're not, you're still not gonna create opportunity just because you love you. You have to get other people to love you. You have to get other people to at least respect you enough to have a conversation with you. That means, if nothing else, you've got to operate based on optics. Maybe you love yourself deeply or you know, more deeply than anybody out here loves themselves. But if everybody looks at you and thinks, given the way you appear, that you don't love you, opportunity ain't coming, and that's just the fucking way it is.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:24

Nope, it's not. And you know what? I just want to say one thing. When somebody asks you something, maybe instead of saying that I'm trying, start throwing out the list of what you're doing and what you're not doing, like how you were saying. You know, instead of saying get that I'm trying out of your vocabulary. Go with I'm doing this, I'm not doing this. Leave that I'm trying out. And I I guarantee you things are gonna be a hell of a lot better.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:48

Yeah. And throw away all your big clothes. All the fucking, all of us fat people, every time we start losing weight, we always keep a couple of shirts just in case we put it back on. Get rid of that shit, get rid of all the safety blankets, burn the fucking shit. Ships, burn the boats, burn the bridges, and let's make fucking headway forward only. Yes. All right, that all being said. If you want to help us out, get these words out, get these uh these truths out, you can follow us on Instagram at Savagely Loud is where I'm most active. Uh on that page, you're gonna find two links. One of those links is the Savagely Loud Podcast page where you can reach out to both of us. Um, help us grow the show, give us a follow there, share the material, share the content, share the page. It really, really does help. The other link you're gonna find is a simple link tree anywhere you want to hear my rants, see my bullshit. You can find it there, easy peasy. Outside of that, Facebook X and Rumble, you can find me at Savagely Loud, YouTube at Savagely Loud Podcast. Please, please, please do not forget to subscribe and share it with your friends. Um, also, you can email us in at savagely loud at gmail.com. Yeah, don't forget to like, comment, and share the material. And for the love of all the things you love, please, please, please rate and review the shows on set on Spotify and Apple iTunes. Give us a five-star rating, give us a good review. Uh, it really does help.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:59

Dave, let them know where they can find you. All right, guys, you can find me over at on social media at the hammer drops. I'm heavily active on Instagram and Facebook. If uh you also want to email me uh directly on a different email, you can email me at david at the hammerdrops.com. And obviously, you're listening to this, you're watching this, take that two seconds and hit that like button, hit that subscribe button, and help us again break those algorithms and get this information out to more people.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:23

Absolutely. That all being said, we got down into it. We pissed some people off. We pissed ourselves off, I think, a little bit at a certain point. Maybe even made ourselves feel a little bit subpar, but we don't want to walk away feeling like that. So let's just take a second, remind ourselves that humanity still exists within humans with a little segment I like to call hopelessly human, and it starts a little bit like people can be rough, they can be quite tough, they can get in the way, but at the end of the day, some are only stupid, some are hopelessly human. Yes, they are. Some are hopelessly human, and this one is no different. This one comes to you from RD.com. It's titled A Family's Food Angel. It's a very short one, but it's good. While going through a divorce, which I have been through a divorce, and I know that life gets real rough when you're a male and you're getting divorced. I'm not saying it's not hard for females, but on broad spectrum, it's very hard for males. While going through a divorce, my mother fretted over her new worries, her new over her new worries. No income, the same bills, and no way to afford groceries. It was around this time that she started finding boxes of food outside uh outside our door every morning. This went on for months until she was able to land a job. We never did find out who left the groceries, but they truly saved our lives. That's from Jamie Bolin, Emmett, Idaho. Now, real quick, some of the best fucking deeds you could ever possibly do are completely anonymous. Somebody showed up at this at this woman's house for months and gave her food so she could feed her family, and that person looked for no credit. It didn't, they didn't write a note being like, oh, this is me, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Just keep that in mind. Some of the best things you can do are completely anonymous, even though you would like some credit. It imagine the the love and the compassion that this person feels knowing that somebody didn't give a shit about the credit, but rather only gave a shit about them than them feeding their families. That's helplessly human, and that is the show.