EP.104 They're Broken on Purpose!

Some people don’t want help. They want sympathy, excuses, attention, and a lifetime supply of second chances while they burn down everyone around them.

In this raw, unfiltered episode, me and my cohost dive headfirst into the ugly truth nobody wants to say out loud: you cannot save people who are committed to staying broken. We talk about the emotional vampires, the professional victims, the people who ask for advice just to ignore it, and the exhausting cycle of watching grown adults sabotage themselves while expecting everyone else to carry the weight.

This isn’t a soft conversation. It’s blunt, personal, and probably going to piss some people off. We break down the difference between helping someone heal and enabling someone to stay weak. From toxic relationships and addiction to bad attitudes, laziness, victim mentality, and self-destruction, we discuss why constantly rescuing people can actually destroy your own peace, goals, and mental health.

At some point, accountability has to matter. At some point, people either choose growth or choose excuses. And if they choose excuses? You need to stop drowning with them.

Unedited. Uncomfortable. Honest as hell.

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Everything you're about to hear is for entertainment purposes only. Listen, have some fun, but don't ever do, believe, or promote anything they say. They're idiots.

SPEAKER_02 0:12

Guys, guys, guys, guys, hold up, hold up. You should know. This ain't for everybody. Welcome to Savagely Loud. What's happening, people, guys? Welcome back to the show for the people that understand the facts. Divided by feelings equals failure. I'm Cliff. I'm your host, and I'm joined today and always by big bad Dave Anderson, the big bad Viking. Oh, before I'm tripping all over my tongue already. But before we get to him, if you want to help me out get these words out, get these truths out, you can follow me at Savagely Loud on Instagram. That is where I'm most active. On that page, you're going to find two links. One of those links is to the Savagely Loud podcast page. If you could please give us a follow over there, it would greatly help us and uh improve the footprint of the show, the reach of the show, and waking people up. The other link you're going to find is a simple link tree. Anywhere you want to see my pretty face or hear my bullshit, you can find it there. Easy peasy. Outside of that, Facebook X and Rumble at Savagely Loud, YouTube at Savagely Loud Podcast. Please don't forget to subscribe, send it to your friends, and have them subscribe. And you can email us in at savagely loud at gmail.com, and I strongly suggest you do because the DMs are just it's a dark place in there, and I don't really like to be in there anymore. No, I don't blame you. Uh last but not least, don't forget to like, comment, and share the material. It really does help. And if you could please give us a five-star review, give us a you know a five-star rating, a good review on Apple, iTunes, and Spotify. It really does help us out. That all being said, big Dave Anderson. How are we doing today, brother?

SPEAKER_01 2:01

I'm doing good, brother. I'm doing good, man. Just fucking uh enjoying the last days of vacation and just looking forward, actually looking forward to getting back to work, surprisingly.

SPEAKER_02 2:12

Yeah, it's you start going stir crazy on vacation. Like if you're a doer, like vacations seem kind of kind of hellish. They're good at first. The first couple of days, you're like, this is awesome. And then the middle, you're like, I'm ready to go back to work. And then the uh towards the end, you're like, I'm really ready to go back to work. And then the day that comes that you have to go back to work, you're like, I don't want to go back to work.

SPEAKER_01 2:32

Yeah, well, by the second day, I was kind of like that. I was like, All right, what the fuck? I want to get back to work. Right. And now I'm getting closer to work, and it's like, I'm looking forward to it, but I know when I come back, it's gonna be a shit show. So I'm like, maybe I should take another week off. You know, I'm sure they would love if I did that, but I really don't fucking care. Like that, like I have four weeks of vacation I gotta burn up.

SPEAKER_02 2:54

So yeah, well, and it's also different, like you know, because I'll be in Arizona as soon and then I'm going to Georgia. So I got like a week and a half coming up that I'm gonna be just out gallivanting. So you know gallivanting around. If you're doing something on vacation, it's a lot different than you know, like sitting at home doing the computer work, doing the clipping and the editing and the cutting and the fucking, you know, just draining monotonous shit that you gotta do because the monotony is what builds success, but yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:23

Well, no, and you're exactly right. I mean, it that's what builds success, and it it's very tedious, it's very boring at times, but it's like it has to be fucking done. Yeah, it just has to.

SPEAKER_02 3:33

Yeah, you take one too many puffs off the old one hitter, and next thing you know, you're dozing off on the couch.

SPEAKER_01 3:41

I'm not gonna lie, I've been there. I've actually been down in my studio doing stuff like hit my one, you know, hit my one things, and I'm just like, also I'm just like, I'm like, what the fuck was I doing? Yeah, oh yeah, that's right. I was doing this, and then you start getting back into it. It's like, okay, I better stop now.

SPEAKER_02 3:55

Before I fuck everything up. The best is if you ever want to come, you know, ever want to conduct an experiment with yourself to see how differently you see things when you're baked as opposed to when you're sober, just cut a couple of video clips and then on the same show, you know, cut a c get baked as shit, and then cut another couple video clips and then compare them tomorrow. Oh my god, dude.

SPEAKER_01 4:19

Bro, I I don't think I would ever want to do that because I would not stop laughing. Yeah, I just wouldn't stop laughing.

SPEAKER_02 4:26

What the fuck was I thinking? Why did I start in the middle of a sentence?

SPEAKER_01 4:29

I don't understand this. I I would probably be like, What the fuck was I talking about? And then I would have to look at my wife and be like, How fucking high was I last night? And then she'd be like, You were really fucking baked. I'll be like, that explains everything. As in the video, you see me running around with nothing but like a thorn hat and just fucking get all tribalistic and shit. I think this is the first time we I've mentioned on the show about smoking weed. Yeah, shit, it is. Well, I mean, we're I mean I I'm pro-weed, I'm an advocate for it.

SPEAKER_02 5:02

I believe in the medicine, so yeah, big pharma doesn't want you to have it because if you had it, you wouldn't need a bunch of their shit. No, exactly. But uh, yeah, so let everybody know where they can find you, Dave.

SPEAKER_01 5:14

All right, uh, y'all can find me on social media. I'm heavily active over on Instagram and Facebook at the Hammer Drops. Um, I'm also on TikTok at the Hammer Drops and all these other fun places. The best way to find me is just hop into Google, type in the hammer drops. You're gonna come up to my website and everything else. I'm all on first page hits. So best way to find sweet, right?

SPEAKER_02 5:36

And you if you're if you can't find them on the internet, you can definitely find them at the gay club down the street. It's uh that's facts. That's facts.

SPEAKER_01 5:44

I I go I go I go for the all-you-can-eat breakfast.

SPEAKER_02 5:48

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Cockmeat sandwiches. Got it. Um, anyway. Guys, we need to have a discussion here because there's a lot of fucking really good people out here that are draining themselves for absolutely zero good fucking reason. And we've got to stop this. You know, we want to change the fucking world, we want to change the systems and the processes that build the world, that have constructed the world, but we can't do it if we're continuously emptying our fucking cup into people that do not deserve our attention to begin with.

SPEAKER_01 6:25

Yes, yeah, and those people are very easy to spot, you know, especially if you're putting the effort towards somebody and there no effort back, those are the people you just want to get rid of them.

SPEAKER_02 6:37

Well, and and here's the thing, you know. Um, I I will I I I because I deal with people, like I I don't know what I like to call it. I I because I haven't figured it out because people call me a coach, people call me a mentor, they call me a guide, and I just feel like I'm a dude willing to help out. Like, you know, I don't feel like a title really you know. You're the messiah. Yeah, oh yeah, that definitely doesn't fit. Holy shit. You yeah, dude, you know what? If I'm gonna be the messiah, I'm gonna go right back to my my core. If I'm gonna be the messiah for anything, I want to be the messiah for an army of squirrels and rabbits. I I will take over this entire world with enough squirrels and rabbits to bow to me. Hell yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:19

Fuck yeah, bring on the squirrels and rabbits, bro. Let's take care of it.

SPEAKER_02 7:22

You can't fight a squirrel. You and everybody knows it. So you get enough of them things on you. It's like piranhas on land, you know, just chewing pieces out of you. You're just fucked. But here's the thing, guys. For all you good hearted motherfuckers, I I know you you there's some shitty people that listen to this, and that's okay too. You know, we all we all we all find joy in certain places, but for all you good people out there, to which most people are not bad people. And uh to to touch on that again, because everything every time I say most people are not bad people, I always get corrected. Somebody always wants to say, no, most people are good people. No, I wouldn't say that either. I would say being not bad takes no effort, being good takes active effort, and people just aren't willing to make that effort. People aren't willing to be the good guy, they're willing to be the not bad guy, okay? But even in that aspect, in that realm of thinking of just not being a bad person, we do inherently carry in our fucking hearts and souls and brains the desire to help out fellow man. And to what scale you do that makes you is what's gonna dictate whether you're a good person or a not bad person. But I would say, for the sake of argument, all people that are not bad will fit into the good category for this one. That's why I just laid all that out. Because most people, I truly not I not only do I believe, I have seen with my own eyes, uh, most people will want to help people out that need some need some guidance. They're always willing to offer advice, direction. Uh granted, a lot of these people shouldn't be. A lot of people out this motherfucker should not be offering anybody any advice on anything because their entire life is a shitstorm of fucking nothingness. So, but but because they have it in their heart to want to help a little bit, let's break it down so that we can stop you from helping the wrong people and draining yourself in the process. You see, the very most important thing that I can tell you in life, all the way across the board, is that some people do some broken people do not want to be fixed. Everybody wants to believe that when somebody has something going wrong, they want that to be fixed. And it's just simply not the case. Most of the time, broken people like to be broken because the being broken gets them attention. The attention they get makes them feel like they're doing something right because somebody's giving attention. If it doesn't make them feel like they're doing something right, it makes them feel like they're it makes them feel like people like them because they're willing to give them their attention. And this attention that I'm talking about is what we need to fucking stop because it is draining good fucking people every single fucking day because we're pouring our hearts out, we're pouring our cups out, we're pouring our energy into people that just simply will not fucking pour into themselves.

SPEAKER_01 10:28

No, that and that's 100% fact. And the other thing that people need to understand, like kind of realize, I mean, it's the whole you know, when you those type of people that don't want to help themselves, that want this chaos in their life, misery loves company. So you're pouring all your time and all your energy into these people because you feel that they need to be saved or whatever it is. But here's the thing they may start taking it and you're gonna get hooked, but all that's gonna happen is on the back end of all of that is that their bullshit's gonna start coming out, which is gonna poison your mind, poison what you believe in, and everything that you're trying to do, which is gonna take you off that path of trying to actually help the right people. Right.

SPEAKER_02 11:08

Well, when you're a decent person and you want to pour your energy into somebody, what's what like you said, what's gonna happen is you're gonna pour all of this great energy out of you into somebody else, but it they're gonna just it's gonna go one in, in one, in, out the other, like right, like in one ear, out the other fucking ear, and they're not gonna pay any attention to it. So that shit's just gonna splat down on the floor and be wasted. All of that good energy that you were hard that you were keeping inside of yourself is all gonna be fucking wasted. What that does then is it breaks you down, it empties you out. So now you have two empty people instead of one empty person, one full person trying to fill the empty person, you've just got two empty fucking people. Well, that empty person that the person that started empty, those motherfuckers, what the what when this happens, when you finally empty out your last bit of good energy, you're you're you're just you're striving for something to fill you back up, and they are gonna be the ones to fill you back up. They're gonna be the ones to fill you back up with their bullshit, their black pill shit, their fucking doom and gloom shit, their everything is chaos shit, everything is no is you know purposeless. They're gonna fill you back up because you're gonna be in a situation where you need to be filled with something, and that's the only energy you're gonna have access to because while you're while you have pouring while you were pouring out all your good energy into this useless motherfucker over here that wants to be broken, all of the people that surrounded you that had the good energy have evacuated the scene. They don't want nothing to do with it because you're emptying out, you're actually regressing, you're going backwards, and that's where people, that's what people that are going forwards don't want to be around. So you're gonna be so fucking lonely after you finally tap out your last resource of energy that you're gonna look around and nobody's gonna be there except the fucking guy that wasted all your energy, and then you're gonna be like, well, misery loves company. So let's be friends, and then you're just you guys are just gonna play off each other, and then you're gonna become the motherfucker that just never sees anything positive, never sees the light in anything, never sees anything as good, golden, great, and nothing like that. And it's gonna fucking, it's gonna tank your life. I see it all the fucking time in what I do. You know, I what I do isn't all out in the fucking open. It's not all out in the spotlight. What I do is help people in the shadows. We privately, we fucking, you know, we secretly and privately just handle our businesses, and then we all go on as this unified force of good fucking people with a lot of good energy. And uh, but in that, in that effort, in the effort to do that, I see these motherfuckers all the time because you let's face it, you don't come to me wanting help if you don't need help. You don't come to me wanting the guidance if you don't need the guidance. You don't come to me wanting direction and and and all this insight and perspective if you don't need the swap. You know, people that come to me are in the darkest fucking spots of their life. I pull them out or I help them pull themselves out, is what I actually do. I don't pull, I'm not a hero, I'm not a champion. I fucking I just help other people pull themselves out. I give them the tools that they may be lacking in the moment, or I'll or or what I do is I'll, you know, I'll shine a light on their path so that they can see the pitfalls in the path they're walking and then they can make the alterations. I don't, I I don't, I really don't like the fucking people that are like, I save people, I make their lives great because they talk to me. No, I I I help them make their own life great.

SPEAKER_01 14:51

Well, no, and you know what? And I can contest to what you just said there, because I mean, even the previous week where I had my issues going and I was going into a dark place because I was feeding off of what this other guy was doing, and it was filling me up with just nothing but negativity and anger and all that stuff. If it wasn't for you, like you and I talking, and you helping pulling me out of that situation, and realizing everything that was going on, I you know, who knows where the fuck I would be at this point. You know, I would have probably done something stupid. Yeah, you'd have fucking popped off.

SPEAKER_02 15:30

But everybody gets there. That's that you know, that's the important thing to to really realize for everybody. Everybody gets in a situation where they where they let the anger take over. Everybody gets in a situation where they let the resentment fill them. They everybody gets in a situation where they want to lash out, they want to fight back, they want vengeance, and they they're just not going to be satiated until they get the vengeance that they so do they so desire in their heart. But when you talk to somebody that's on the other side of the fence, you know, that that understands what your yard is doing, but is running his own yard, it it offers positive direction. It offers a you know a secondary thought, uh, you know, a perspective of it, third person perspective, a 30,000-foot view, whatever you want to call it. It offers that. But when you go the thing is, is that, like I said, we all get into situations like that, but you've got to be willing to receive it. You've got to be willing to accept it. Because again, this is another thing that we all deal with that help people uh in any way, shape, or form. There's a lot of fucking people that come to you that don't want to receive the help. That's what we're fucking talking about right now in this episode, right now, is the people that don't want to receive the help and how to get you to understand when you're dealing with somebody that doesn't want to receive the help. When you're dealing with somebody that wants to stay broken because being broken gets them attention, you have to be able to understand how to pick that shit out so that you can run the fuck away from it as fast as possible.

SPEAKER_01 17:01

Yeah, no, and yeah, I I've seen I and I've seen that time and time again. I've seen somebody that you know wanted to help people and all that stuff. He helped the wrong person, and it just literally drained everything from him. And it could get to the extremes where you know it starts to affect your jobs, your your personal life, your relationships with your family, your loved ones, and all that stuff. And I literally saw it like deteriorate. And once I started seeing that from that point of view, you know, it's like this, you know, uh you approach him and be like, hey man, you're going down the wrong fucking path, you're doing this, and it's ever since you started talking with this person, this person is fucking toxic. He doesn't want he doesn't want the help, right? And you try to explain that to him, and hope and you hope by saying stuff like that it pulls them out of that so they can stop. But like with this guy, it didn't stop. He's just like, No, no, no, you know, he's cool, he's alright, he's all right. And I think it it maybe took about a year and he he almost lost everything because of it, because it just poured so much into that one person, and they didn't want to be saved, and he ended up being just like that that person he was trying to help. You know, now he turned into an alcoholic, he turned into drugs and all that stuff, and it's like it can literally go to that extreme if you're not careful.

SPEAKER_02 18:17

Well, I'll tell you this, I'll give you a personal story, and I know I've spoken somewhat about this before, but I had a fucking friend of mine that uh was very, very close friend. We were friends for fucking friends for decades. We were like ride or dies. I mean, like 100% of the time we were together if we were out. Um, and and I watched him uh do absolutely fucking nothing but go backwards in his life, and I spent decades fucking telling him don't do this, at least one decade. Let's I'll throw the guy some credit and say that you know when early on, we were bullshit bags, but I started changing my fucking life around pretty early, pretty, you know, pretty soon after that, after we get we hooked up. And so I spent a decade, we'll call it, just doing nothing but trying to help him out. Don't do this, don't buy that, don't spend there, don't go here. You know, this is why. And you know, like one scenario was is, you know, he was in a situation where he was getting evicted from a fucking he got evicted from his house, you know, because they said, oh, we sold the house and he was renting that he was renting. Turns out they just wanted to give it to their parents or some shit. But he got he got booted from that and he was already on fucking hard times. He was already not making fucking barely making ends meet. And I said, All right, well, now this is what you got to do. To do this right, you're gonna want to fucking find a place that's roughly the same price, and then you're gonna want to cut your cut your budget here and here and here. That'll allow for you to not have to check menu prices. You'll you can go to the grocery store and you can buy a little bit higher level of branding or whatever, all this other shit. And what did he do? He ran out and fucking got a place that was a thousand dollars more a month than the expensive, almost, you know, just under. Uh he went from like fucking, it was like 1300 or some shit to 2300 or 2200 or some shit. And I was like, what are you doing, man? He's like, Well, it was the only thing available. I was like, dude, we live in a metropolis. That's not the only thing available. Well, then I and then he started telling me about how it was uh it was a sublet. It was a con it was a townhouse and it was a sublet from the guy that owned it. And I was like, hmm, this seems like it's gonna get shitty really quickly. And he goes, No, no, no, no, no, no. Everything I said about avoid this situation entirely, he didn't want to hear nothing about because he had it all figured out. Him and his wife had it all fucking figured out. So I just fucking stepped back and I was like, all right, well, you're not listening, so do your fucking thing and we'll see how it works out. It wasn't days after he was after he had moved in that the HOA president was over there going, asking who the fuck he was, because he's not allowed to live there. Because contractually, if you own one of those places, you're not allowed to sublet it, you're not allowed to rent it out to somebody else. That's not the way this works. So then the HOA president was doing everything she could do to get them fucking booted. And I was just like, I told you, I fucking told you, and you didn't want to listen. And then he got fucking mad. That's marker number one. When somebody does something the exact opposite of what you know is best for them, it doesn't work out, and then they get mad at you for bringing up the fact that they should have listened to you, that's fucking red, a giant red flag. It's the size of a fucking building.

SPEAKER_01 21:36

Yeah, that's at that point, that's when you need to walk away because that at that person's not gonna listen to anything that you're saying, even though you're trying to help. And the problem is is the re a lot of the biggest reason why people don't want to listen is because they let their ego get in the way. Yep, 100%. You know, and people guys, you need to learn there's a time to have your ego. We all know this, yeah, but there's A time where you need to let that ego down. I know it's hard.

SPEAKER_02 22:03

Which is 99% of the time. There's 1% of the time that you have to have that ego. Yeah, no, exactly.

SPEAKER_01 22:09

I mean, it believe me, and I know I know how hard it is because ego, you know, something you're hearing something, these things from people that you, you know, close friends that you may not want to hear, but you gotta step back and be like, okay, they're telling me this because of the situation. You need to start thinking about why they're telling you these things. They're not telling you these things because they want harm to you, they want to legitimately help you. So you need to sit back and drop that ego and be like, okay, let me look at this from a broader picture. What exactly will this help by me listening? And will these things actually happen that he's saying, what are the chances if they do happen, what where am I gonna go next? You know, and but people just don't want to, they just have that ego, like, no, no, I know best, I know best, it's my life, this, that, and the other. And it's like, drop that, drop it. You need to drop that ego.

SPEAKER_02 23:02

Well, he needed to drop the ego and he didn't, so he found out. So he found out the hard way. So, in the midst of him getting fucking evicted again from a place that I told him you shouldn't even entertain, you shouldn't be in, not only based on financial budgeting purposes and the fact that you ain't got the goddamn money, but for the fact that the HOA president told you point blank this is not allowed to happen legally, you should have known right then and there you needed to fucking run away because the law is gonna win. Well, the ego flared up and he knowed he knew best, so he decided to go on. Well, in the midst of now the the HOA president being having him evicted for the second time in you know, not very long. Um, he blew the motor in his truck. And so I go, all right, and he's panicking, he's like, I don't got the fucking money, I don't got the fucking money, I don't got the fucking money. And I said, Well, find a junkyard motor, we'll throw it in in my driveway, it'll be it'll be fine. Then he apparently, apparently, he couldn't find a junkyard motor. Uh, I don't know how on earth, and I understand that there were some some certain specification changes in this, but I don't know how on fucking earth you can't find a junkyard motor for a fucking uh relatively modern Chevy truck. There's thousands and thousands and thousands of them. The truth was is that he could find a motor. He didn't want it, he wanted something new, he wanted something different. He'd been driving that for a couple of years and he wanted something new. So I said, you know what? I was like, dude, honestly, if you're if you're you know, I said, if you're if you can't find a junkyard fucking motor, let me know. I'll find a junkyard motor because I'm in the industry. And he he's like, no, no, no, no. He's like, I'm just, you know, I just gotta, I'm just gonna get something else, you know. And he argued and argued and argued for this, get something else. I'm like, dude, for fucking four to five grand, you're gonna have this motherfucker back up on the road for another fucking 50, 60, 70, 80, 100,000 miles, and you're talking about going to spend $20,000 on something. He's like, no, I'm not gonna spend $20,000, but I do need a truck because I do side jobs. Mind you, at this point, this dude had done three side jobs in five years, and those side jobs were like weekend jobs. He was convincing himself that he needed to have a fucking truck. He didn't need to have a fucking truck by any stretch of the imagination. And most of the fucking driving, and some of the driving he did, I won't say most, some of the driving he did, a lot of the driving he did was hours and hours down the fucking highway and back. You don't need a fucking truck for this, you know, because it was for his job. I so I told him, I said, look, dude, this is what's happening in life. You're being evicted from this place you can't afford. That is a good thing. I know it's a fucking pain in the ass. I know it's a fucking clusterfuck. I know it's got you feel in all types of ways, but it's a great thing. It's affording you the opportunity to not be locked into a contract you already can't afford. So you can now go find something that you can afford, right? I said now you're looking at your truck, blew the fucking motor. That's a great opportunity because you know what? You don't want to spend four or five thousand dollars to get a new fucking, to, to get a to get a motor for it, to get an engine for it, and we can put it in, which is what I do. You know, we you don't want to do that. So take $2,000, take $2,500 maybe. Go get yourself a 10-year-old Honda Civic with 100,000 miles on it, something a fucking beater with a heater, drive that motherfucker for two years, maybe even three years, and stack every single fucking nickel that you can save. Stack cash, stack cash, stack cash while you drive this other fucking little beater with a heater. It doesn't have to be pretty, it's just gotta be reliable and it's gotta have heat. That's the only fucking things it needs because your kids are gonna go in it. I understand that. And if there's some other fucking things, I'm a body man. I fix cars and build cars for a living. We can take care of safety issues, we can take care of all this. Go get yourself a little cheap chunk of shit, drive that motherfucker into the ground for the next couple of years while you stack cash. What did this dude do? He went out and bought a fucking truck. So, and I was like, why did you do that? You know, and he was he came over expecting me to blow him over this fucking used ass old Dodge pickup. And I'm just, it wasn't gonna happen. I'm like, what did you do? Why did you do this? And he again back to convincing himself he needed a side job. Oh, I need a side job. I'm like, well, okay, fine. Let's just say, let's just pretend we're in imagination land and you actually need to have a truck. Um, why'd you buy a fucking Dodge? I know Dodges. Dodges are 100,000 mile trucks. You bought a fucking problem. You bought a fucking stack of problems that somebody else was tired of dealing with, and you probably and I guarantee you, you paid way too much money for it. I said, I said, I asked, I literally said, I was like, what'd you pay? 15 grand for this fucking thing? And he goes, No, it wasn't that much, but he would never fucking tell me, or he wouldn't tell me up front. He later then said he paid, he paid 11 for it, right? I was like, well, that's $11,000. So yeah, call it $8,000, $9,000 more than you should have spent, more than you needed to spend, all because you want to have a truck. You know, and you're gonna use this fucking your ego to convince yourself that you needed this fucking truck. Well, just like I fucking said, dodges are not good trucks when they get up in the mileage. They're just not. All trucks aren't good and aren't good at high mileage. You have to understand that trucks beat the fuck out of themselves just to operate. That's why you can fucking see a 250,000, 300,000 mile fucking Toyota Camry, but you ain't never gonna fucking see a fucking 300,000 mile fucking pickup that has had nothing done to it. You know, oil changes, brakes. No, these motherfuckers have had engines put in them, transmissions put in them, axles, differentials put in them, transfer cases put in them because trucks beat the fuck out of themselves just to fucking operate. So he does more mental gymnastics, more mental gymnastics, more mental gymnastics. And then finally, he, you know, he admits to me and himself, and I was there for it. I saw it in him where the ego crumbled because he finally, I backed him into a corner and he had to admit to himself that he only bought a truck because he wants to have a truck. Not because he needs to have a truck, because he wants to have a truck. In fact, be having a small SUV would be far more conducive to his lifestyle as a fucking dad than it than this fucking pickup truck would be. But he convinced himself, and I got to watch that ego crumble as he had to admit to himself that he he bought he fucked up, right? Well, I continue pouring energy into him. I continue pouring all this advice into him, this perspective into him, because he's still in the midst of having this fucking eviction happening. So now he's looking all over the fucking place. So he comes and then he comes over one day and he goes, he's like, well, he's like, we might have the problem solved, you know. And I was like, what, which, which one? Like you've got a you've got a list of a thousand. What problem did you do you finally think you have solved? And he goes, well, he's like, I think we're he's like, I talked to my wife and he's like, we're just gonna buy a house. And I'll and that'll that you know, that stops, and I wasn't against the idea. Totally wasn't against the idea. He's like, because that'll stop the the notion from us getting evicted, you know, for all these other reasons. And I'm on board with that because that's why I wanted to buy a buy my house, is because I don't like the insecurity of having a landlord be able to come to you at any fucking time and say, I sold the house, you've got 30 days to find out where you're gonna do, what where you're gonna go, what you're gonna do with your family, and how you're gonna how you're gonna stack the money to get there, right? Totally on board. And I said, All right, cool. I was like, where are you looking at? He named me a couple of neighborhoods. I was like, those are all shithole neighborhoods, you don't want to be in there. You know this. I don't know why you you're addicted to living in the fucking ghetto, but for some reason you are. Let's look at other other areas. So me, my wife, and him all sat down for several hours just combing Zillow, combing Trulia or whatever that fuck that other place was, realitter.com, looking for houses. We put some effort into this shit. We found we found all sorts of fucking houses for this dude. I said, All right, well, what are you approved for? And he goes, because he he had he had made mention in the process that we were already we already contacted the bank and we have already done that, and you know, we got approved. So I was like, what are you approved for? And he goes, Well, we're approved for $321,000. I said, do not fucking spend $321,000 on a motherfucking house. You need to be in the fucking buck 80. And at this time, this was possible. I understand that this isn't possible now uh in this current real estate market. Um, but at the time it was. So I said, you need to be in like the 180 to 220 mark. If you get a fucking house from 180 to 220, you live in that bitch for five years, and you can make your fucking money back and then some, and then you can put it into a nicer fucking house because now you'll have all this cash that you were able to stack in the process of living there because you were saving so much money. We went through the whole fucking nine yards, the whole 19 yards. We went through the whole fucking thing. So he goes, yeah, he's like, it's that sounds good, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Comes back over, not too, not too long later, not too many fucking, not too many days later, a week, maybe a week, maybe a week and a half, maybe. And he goes, Well, we bought a house. And I was like, fucking sweet. And I tried to be excited for him. I fucked, because I was under the impression that he took any of the advice that me or my and my wife had given him over the last fucking several years, especially in this fucking last six months to, you know, six to eight months. I was excited. I'm like, all right, dude, fuck yeah. I you know, and life's been hell. I want to pick you up. You're my boy. What you get? Where'd you get it? What show me, show me, show me. Uh, you know, he shows me this house, and it's average as ever loving fuck. I mean, average as ever loving fuck. There ain't a single fucking special thing about this fucking house uh in anybody in the wildest fucking dreams you could have, in the furthest stretches of your imagination, there was nothing special about this house. It was just an average as fuck house. And I said, all right, that's I was like, but you know what? I was like, looks great, man. Are you excited? Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And he goes, yeah. He's like, I'm really excited, blah, blah, blah. I said, so, I said, so uh, where is it? And he told me where it was. I was like, why the fuck did you move to the ghetto? Like, you bought a fucking house in the goddamn ghetto. And I'm I'm I'm avoiding fucking saying places and names, obviously, for for you know, keep privacy, privacy. Uh, we're not friends anymore, so I don't really give a fuck what he thinks. I've tried to reach out several times, but fuck him. Um, but he buys this house. I'm like, why the fuck did you buy a house in the ghetto? And he's like, he's like, but you don't understand. I was like, I do understand. You bought a fucking house with fucking daughters that are going to the local school, and you didn't even bother looking at the fucking school district, which is an absolute fucking shit. All in fact, it's the third worst in Illinois. Statistically, at this time, it was the third worst school district in Illinois, and he bought a fucking house in it. Great fucking father of year. So I was like, all right, well, uh, yeah, I was like, did you at least get it for a really good fucking deal? Like, what is it? Like it's looking like 200, maybe 230,000, you know? And he goes, Oh no, he's like, we pay, we we ended up having to pay more for it, you know. And then he he mental gymnastics, oh, it was this and it was that and the other thing. And I was like, Well, how much did you fucking pay for it? And he goes, he he go at first he told me he's like, we ended up having to pay 300,000. And I was like, Oh, God, dude, why did you do this? So you you spent $300,000 on a fucking house in the ghetto in the third worst worst school district in the fucking in the in the state, and you're driving a fucking now, you've got this fucking payment for this truck that I thought you that I thought he paid $11,000 for. We'll get to that. Um, I was like, what the fuck is going on? You know, what are you doing, dude? You don't take any advice at all, like nothing, you know, and he's like, Well, this is my life. Oh, that should have been another, that should have been the fucking flag that I needed to end a 20 fucking year relationship. It should have been. Well, it's my life. Okay, fine. Then do your life. I later then found out that while I was pouring all of my energy into this guy trying to help him unfuck his entire life, that he was lying to me the whole time. He didn't pay $11,000 for that truck. He actually paid $17,000 for that fucking truck. He paid $17,000 for a shit pile Dodge Ram with fucking 100,000 miles on it. Fucking idiotic. Most one of the most idiotic fucking moves you could possibly fucking make coming from a guy that knows cars and trucks. Then I find out he didn't pay $300,000 for the house. He paid $330,000 for the fucking house. $327,000 something. Like he, like, like it's not on Zillow. You know, like I like you can't go to Zillow and find the last purchase price on any fucking house in this country. I'm like, dude, whatever. You know what? Fuck it. Then at this point, and this is, mind you, this is decades in. Like I had helped him try to start business, try start a business for himself and do all this other shit. And he started and then stopped and started and stopped and started and stopped. I try to get his habits better, started and stopped, started and stopped, started and stopped. Like at this point, I'm like, dude, you just want to be a failure. And he gets all mad. Just you just want to be a failure. Like you want to have a shitty life. Like this is the only way you can possibly fucking look at it. Well, then it all comes out that, you know, and this was uh uh a good fair bit later, a couple of years later. Finally comes out. He only bought the house because he's uh he doesn't know how to tell his ugly ass wife no. His fucking cunt bag, shitty attitude, ugly ass wife. He doesn't know how to fucking tell her no. And she treats him like absolute fucking dog shit. This bitch fucking she spends all the money shopping and fucking having it secretly delivered. She fucking believes this and that. She should have all the greatest shit. No, now I need a new car because you got a new car. So they go buy her another fucking. Like this dude gave me every red flag that I ever fucking should have noticed or needed to notice or needed to acknowledge to cut this bullshit off. Cut the entire fucking relationship off. But because I but I spent so many fucking years pouring into them, I actually got fucking addicted to the outcome. Like, nobody's nobody's gonna beat me. We're gonna fix you, I'm gonna fix you, I'm gonna do this, we're gonna do this, we're gonna get you to a fucking point that you can live. That is where most people are right there. Most people will pour so much energy into their friends that they get addicted to the process themselves. They get addicted to the victory. We have to achieve victory because I put so much into this rather than cutting ties and fucking and walking away, cut your losses and walk the fuck away, you know, regain your own strength, your own energy. This is what they'll do. So they'll continue to pour into motherfuckers as I did. So I'm speaking from experience, and this isn't the only first time, this isn't the first time I've ever done this. But we got to a point where we finally, we had another old friend come back into our life, and uh, and you know, I finally I just had it. Like I'm I'm fucking done watching your life suck. I'm done watching you actively put your life in the shitter. This dude was spending $400 a week on fucking weed between him and his wife just so they could fucking deal with the shittiest life that they had fucking ever imagined that they actually ended up creating for themselves. So I'm like, dude, I'm like, I'm done. So I flipped the fuck out. And one of these days, I still have this. Oh, you know what? I got it right here. One of these days, I'm gonna read this fucking letter that I got that that I wrote him. This letter right here that I fucking wrote him when I flipped out on him. I flipped the fuck out on him over text messages, and then he ran away because he's not a man, and he can't handle fucking, he can't handle being told the truth and not being able to deny it, so he ran away. So then I spent a good while after that trying to get a hold of him. I wrote him a four-page fucking letter about how, dude, this is this is what you this is this needs to happen because nobody in your life is telling you the truth. And the truth is that you are fucking your life up every single day, worse than the day before. Where do you think this is gonna go? Motherfucker don't want nothing to have had nothing to do with me. And this is also most fucking people. This dude wants to be broken. His wife wants to be broken because being broken gives them the attention. Being broken makes them feel like the littlest thing they do in the positive makes it makes a huge difference. You know, I also then found out they were spending $400 to fucking $600 a week on groceries to feed their fat ass kids because neither one of them gave a fuck about the health of their children because it was all here's an ice cream cone and an iPad, shut the fuck up and leave mommy alone. You know, like it was it's fucking wild to bring, and this is only the tip of the fucking iceberg with this dude. Uh, you know, like the tip of the fucking iceberg. But this is most people. This is most scenarios involving the two kinds of people. I wanted to help him so badly that I got addicted to the victory that was never coming, and he wanted the attention so badly he was completely willing to fuck continue to fuck his life up every single fucking day while he knowingly wasted my energy.

SPEAKER_01 40:54

Well, and it and here's the thing. I mean, this I mean, obviously, this went over many, many years, and you don't get that very often, you don't get somebody that's that involved with a situation over that many years trying to help you out like that, and all you're doing, and just by hearing what you just said in the story, to me, it it almost seems like he and his wife enjoyed living outside of their means. Oh, yeah, wanted this whole status symbol. The one thing that really blows my mind about this whole thing is the fact that they didn't even take, you know, where they bought the house, like, why why lie? You know, number one, I mean, like, why would you lie about any of this? But where you buy the house at, knowing that you have kids and you're putting your kids, you're setting your kids up to fail. Like, why? Yeah, that I I don't get that, but it's just unfortunately, like you said, there's a lot of people like that out there, but there's not a lot of people that are gonna pour that much time and effort into somebody to try to help them. You know, I've been in situations like that where I've helped people, but then I've gotten to that point where it's like, okay, you don't want to listen to what I have to say, and they come to me for my advice, and I just look at them and be like, I've given you my advice numerous times, you've never taken it, so why the fuck am I gonna give you advice now? Knowing full well you're not gonna take it, and you can continue to fuck up everything.

SPEAKER_02 42:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 42:16

So then I, you know, it's that tough love thing. It's like figure it out yourself.

SPEAKER_02 42:20

Yeah, and that's and that's where I should have been with this dude. Now I I I had the ability to cut out fucking thousands of the motherfuckers, but because you know, because I had a relationship for so long with this dude, you know, we were the same at one point, and it came to the point where it's like I didn't admit to myself that I grew the fuck up and he refused to. That made us different people, and that made it so we were just never going to see eye to eye again. We were just never gonna fucking like the same shit. We're never gonna have the same conversations, we're never gonna be in the same rooms with the same people, we're never gonna have the same fucking outlook on business and relationships and all this other shit. We're just never, but I kept with it, and again, this is what most people do. Most people are fucking terrified to admit to themselves that they have outgrown one of their best friends.

SPEAKER_01 43:12

Yeah, no, no, and they are, you know, and everybody, you know, when you start to wanting to change your life and start to succeed and all that stuff, that's when you're gonna start noticing that those people that were you were tight with, that really close with, that's when you're gonna start noticing those people fading away. And you know, everybody wants you. I believe we talked about this before. You know, you have these these people that have been friends with you for 30, 40 years since high school, whatever, but they're still the same motherfucker. Yeah, they're never gonna change while you're over here changing and doing the things, so you notice that now you're starting to talk to that person less. That friendship isn't as tight. And I I've got plenty of them. You know, I I went to school, you know, high school best friend. I was known him for over 30 years. Do I talk to him anymore? No. Because we were On the same like path, you know, he was doing good, I was doing good, but then he diverted and started doing you know, drinking heavily, you know, fucking up everything. And that's when I and I started getting into business. So I went one way, I took the right, he took the left, and like we I think we see each other, maybe if we're lucky, once every five years, and it's for like 10 minutes, and then you get to talking to the person, and they're still and then you realize they're still the same fucking person. Just like, well, hey man, it was great seeing you. I'll catch you around sometime. And then but you gotta be able to do that, you gotta be able to cut ties with people that you even if you've been friends with them that long, you gotta be able to cut ties, especially in those situations, because all that's gonna do is bring you down with them.

SPEAKER_02 44:43

Yeah, well, that and and here's the other fucking thing that people don't understand. You can't receive with full hands. You know, if I try to hand you something, you can't grab it if you have your hands full. You have to fucking get to a point where you drop everything in your fucking hands because that's the only way you're ever gonna be able to receive the new shit. Brad Lee, uh, if you don't follow him, it's the real Bradley. Um Brad Lee's a fucking, he's a he's an awesome dude, he's a fucking amazing entrepreneur, but he said he used, I think it was an iPad analogy. He's like, if you've got the the first iPad and it's working like shit, barely does what you needed to do and doesn't do some of the stuff you needed to do, but you're fucking latched onto that bitch really tight. And I come up to you and I offer you a brand new iPad, how you gonna grab it? Because you won't put that old iPad down. You have to put the old iPad down so that you can grab the new iPad. And this is where people don't want to fucking be. This is this is where you know you're gonna enter no man's land. The moment you decide to put all of the shit that you have in your hands down, you now are friendless. You this is the way you feel. And for and largely, I'll be honest with you guys, because I just want you to have the reality of life and leveling up. For in the reality of it is you are you are friendless, you you are without friends because you are now entering a on the next stage of your life of growing up and growing into who you're actually supposed to be and supposed to become, but nobody around you is. They are all what you used to be, and they're not willing to become who you are becoming, so you have to leave them behind. You go through no man's land, and then you get you end up in a fucking situation where you start making friends on better levels, bigger levels, higher levels. And then you really fucking feel like then you start really fucking finding out that it's the people on the higher levels that are the realest. There, it's everybody wants, everybody at the bottom always wants to fucking mask and camouflage their bullshit. Oh, it's the people at the bottom that are the realest. No, absolutely not. They're not the realist. The people at the fucking bottom are the losers that are refusing to do anything to become a real one. The real ones are the ones that admitted themselves admitted to themselves thousands of different times things that they needed to hear but didn't want to hear, but they took the fucking courage, it took courage and they had the audacity to admit it to themselves and make themselves listen. They then level up. Those are the fucking real ones. I will tell you on this, I am not in the three comma club. I'm not in the three comma mafia. I am not sitting at a fucking table with Ed Milette or Tom Bilieu or fucking Andy Frisella or any of these motherfuckers. But I can tell you the motherfuckers that I am sitting at a table with are pretty fucking high level, and they're the realest motherfuckers I've ever known in my fucking life.

unknown 47:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 47:44

No, uh I I have to agree with that, you know. It's and it's weird because I mean you're gonna go through those cycles throughout life. Every time you're leveling up, it it's just it's a cycle, you know. I mean, the last and you're gonna you're gonna think you're without friends, but you're not without friends. It's just that they're there, you just haven't, yeah, you just haven't met them yet. Exactly. And once you do, things start clicking, things start making more sense. Like, this is where you want to be. You know, I for myself, like I lived another life, and once I just made that conscious decision that I wanted to get out of that life, I lost all of those people because they that's what they were focused on. That's what they wanted to be, this is what they wanted to do. I wanted better, I wanted more. And once I made that decision to walk away from that life and go and try to achieve what I want so much for you know a better way of life, you know, having a savings account, you know, being an adult, those people aren't around anymore. Now, the people that have that are focused on the same things that I'm focused on, those are the people that I'm involved with more. And I'll tell you what, my life couldn't have been any fucking better.

SPEAKER_02 48:57

Well, and and that's you know, and like, and I'll I'll give you guys for everybody listening, I'll give you guys a fucking example of what it what it's like to be leveled up, okay, and to have leveled up friends, okay. So for years and years and years, I had all these fucking friends, and I tried to start businesses with them. I tried to like help us help us each grow and this and that and the other thing. And uh one one second. Um I tried to help them up, I tried to fucking level them up, I tried to level up with them. So I try to start businesses, business ideas, and we would kick these things around forever and ever and ever. And unless I did all the work, then the business never fucking took off. And then the business never got built, it never got started, the ideas never got, you know, never flowed, nothing. Years and years I spent doing this. And it and with this motherfucker that I just told you the story about, I tried fucking for years. In fact, I had a clothing brand that I offered him because when he was getting kicked out, this is how much energy I put in him. This is how much I gave a fuck about this motherfucker. I offered him a contract to be a larger than minimal owner in my fucking company that was already running. I offered him a contract to be an owner. I offered him a contract that I would teach him everything he needed to know. I would fucking all he had to do is give me some time. Wouldn't do it. Wouldn't fucking do it.

SPEAKER_01 50:26

Then, then not only would he not do it, he didn't, yeah, not literally on a silver fucking platter and he wouldn't do it.

SPEAKER_02 50:33

Not only would he not do it, he didn't even acknowledge it. I actually had to end up going to him and going, like, what do you want to do with about this contract? And he's like, Oh, that's just not for me. You know, I uh I'm not trying to, I'm not trying to, you know, to to add stress to my life. And what you're not trying to add stress to your life, you should be trying to add stress to your life for the best reasons, oh, but when but rather all you do is add stress to your life for the worst reasons. Like, this is how much I gave a fuck about this motherfucker. And to this day, I will openly admit, I kinda wish he'd come back around. There is a sliver of me that kind of wishes he would come back around because hopefully after this fucking last two years or you know, a year and a half or whatever it's been now, right? I I I I I just I I I hope that he pulled it, pulled his head out of his ass. I know he didn't. I fucking know it.

SPEAKER_01 51:22

Let me ask you this. If say by some free chance that sliver happened and he's still the same exact person, what are you gonna do at that point? We can't be together.

SPEAKER_02 51:31

Like we can't. Like it's because that's the other thing is you are who your friends are, and when you have shitty friends, you level down because what you what happens is you you get into a mindset. So this is this is why leveled up people that have leveled up friends do so well. So you get into a situation where you it's competitive, you know, not not negatively competitive, but it's competitive. You see your fucking friend, oh, I just started another fucking business. Then you start thinking, well, I gotta start another business. Like, what you know, do I have it in me to start another business? You assess the finances, the budget, the time constraints, all this other shit. And then you start, but you would have never done that if that friend didn't start that business. So every time your friend does something better, you want to do something better. When you are friends with somebody that's doing nothing, you get into the mindset very quickly, very quickly, that as long as I'm beating him, I'm not doing too bad. And then you go fucking nowhere. You stagnate and you go backwards.

SPEAKER_01 52:36

Yeah, yeah, and that backwards will go very fast at that point.

SPEAKER_02 52:41

Oh, yeah. It's it's it's immediate, damn near.

SPEAKER_01 52:44

And and why would you want to like if you've already like say like you're here, like you know, you're both here, you level up here, and it's like I want to do this, but boot you just you know, no, why? It's like I I I don't understand that. It's like but but I agree with you because like when I see like my friends like really succeeding, it's like I'm happy for him, number one. You know, it's like I'll give him praise, like, hey man, you're doing a bane up job, fucking keep going. But in the background, I'm looking at like okay, what could I do now? I see him doing this.

SPEAKER_02 53:15

I want to stay at the table with this motherfucker, so what do I gotta do to make that happen?

SPEAKER_01 53:19

Exactly, you know, and yeah, I I get it. People uh you know, people are gonna be like, Well, I don't there's not enough time in the day. There's 24 hours in a day, you'll get plenty of sleep when you die. Typically, you can work, and I've been doing this for god, uh a decade, over a decade, where I sleep five hours a day if I'm lucky, if I'm lucky, and I'm still able to do things and all that, and then I still have more time, so it's like, but when I see somebody like level up and start doing this, like, okay, what could I do now? Because I'm seeing my friends moving up and I want that.

SPEAKER_02 53:51

Yeah, well, the whole idea of it there's not enough time in the day is a bullshit loser bottom feeder fucking excuse mentality. Most motherfuckers, to the fucking tune of probably 93 to 95 percent of the people without embellishing, will all tell you, I just don't have the time. No, you won't make the fucking time because you have to have your me time, you have to have your feed up time, you have to take an ordinate amount of time to do everything that you do because you do it so fucking slowly. Most people, all people have the fucking time in the day. They just refuse to fucking be more effective because people would rather be busy than effective. Every fucking time you walk up to one of your buddies, like, hi, how's it going? Oh, I'm just so busy. When somebody says that to you to me, I I shut them out. Like, I'm not even listening. You know, oh, it's been so busy. No, you're busy because you're ineffective. You're busy because you don't manage your time well. You're busy because you're not getting shit done. Just get shit done. If you're gonna, if you want to get shit done, it's real fucking simple. Get off your fucking phone, get off of fucking Facebook, stop scrolling, stop text messaging with all your loser fucking pals and say, hey, this two-hour fucking segment of this day every single fucking week gets dedicated to this task and the phone goes in another fucking room and I don't think about it. But people won't do that. People will not do that. People would rather spend their entire lives being a fucking loser and coming up with mental doing the mental gymnastics that it takes to come up with excuse after excuse after excuse to make themselves look like they're going somewhere, sound like they're going somewhere, but really they're only going fucking backwards.

SPEAKER_01 55:32

No, no, and you're right. I mean, I mean, and listen, I mean, I'll give you my scenario, you know, like for myself, I put in, you know, I work 50 plus hours a week, right? But when I get done with work, then I start doing my stuff for my my pages, my content, then we got the podcasts that we're doing. We you know, and then we got the other show that's in the works, all that stuff, and but I'm always staying busy with something, you know. Even if I'm like sitting up spending time with the wife, she's watching TV or something, she's on her phone researching her stuff because she found her new love with sourdough bread and all that stuff. I'm doing my stuff, my research on my stuff, and like literally the TV's on in the background, like nobody's even paying attention to it, but we're still constantly working up until the time we go to bed, and then it's just repeat every single day. That's the only way you're gonna get ahead in life, is you gotta do these things, and it's like a lot of people don't want to do it, they want to have these excuses like I'm too busy, you know. I work 40 hours a week, you know, and then when I come home, I have to do this, I have to do that. It's like, well, okay, you're not that busy. You still have how many hours left in that week? You know, you're only working eight hours a day, so you still have 16 more hours. You really only need, I mean, depending on your age, six hours of sleep a day. Let's be honest, if at max. So you still have all that extra time. Why aren't you utilizing that time instead of sitting down watching TV, eating your bonbons and ice cream and just getting fatter and lazier?

SPEAKER_02 56:58

Well, you want to know the number one fucking excuse that I have been told by hundreds, literally hundreds, if not thousands, of fucking people about why they don't do more. Well, well, I've I've still got to spend time with my wife. I've still got to tend spend time with my husband. Fuck you. Fuck you. How about that? I'm just gonna come right out and say it, fuck you. Because what are you guys doing when you're spending time together? Y'all motherfucker, you're on one end of the couch, she's in another fucking chair across the room, and you're both on your fucking phones. You're not even fucking talking to each other. You're not spending time together. You're using that as an excuse to not progress. You could be fucking doing business, you could be building a future, but instead, you want to use me not talking to my wife, but being located in the same general vicinity as spending time together. I could see it. I could totally understand if it was like once a week. Once a week is date night, once a week is something that I only that I reserve for my wife. You know, we go out, we walk together, we put our fucking phones on the shelf at home and we leave. And we go hold hands, we walk the beach, we go shopping, we walk around the farmer's market, we go see a movie, we go to dinner, we go to breakfast, we go to do something together without our phones, because that's the big fucking thing. Is even when you're together, if you're on your phones, you're not spending time together. You're just not. She's looking at something, you're looking at another thing, and obviously I'm saying you are not you, Dave. You, as in a general term, um, you're not even, you're not even in the same fucking, you're not even in the same headspace as each other. So why would you say that you're spending time together? This isn't quality time, this is time in prison. This is shit's shit's not getting done. Shit's you're not growing as a person, you're not growing as a father or a mother or a husband or a fucking wife. You're not growing as a fucking entrepreneur, you're not growing as a provider, a producer, a protector. You're not growing at all. But you're using it as a fucking excuse. So fuck that excuse. Like, that's one of the fucking things that I hate the most is when like if you're available, well, I got I, you know, I gotta spend time with my wife. Tell me what you're doing. Well, that's us. That's that's our thing. Oh, so nothing. Okay, gotcha. Why don't you just say, uh, you know, I gotta fuck my wife? I could I could accept that. Yeah, take an hour, take an hour and a half, two hours, have a fucking dinner, fuck your wife, fuck your husband, and get back to fucking work. I mean, goddamn, what do you want out of this life? This is not a fucking hard equation to fucking solve. You need to fuck, you want a better life, you have to do more work. You can't do more work if you keep fucking making excuses for the time that you're wasting being say say saying that you can't spend it doing productive shit.

SPEAKER_01 59:34

No, no, and you're right. I mean, let's put it, you know, another way you can put it, I mean, okay, you work 40 plus hours a week, but why wouldn't you, instead of working for somebody that you're just basically like a modern day slave for, why wouldn't you want to level up and have your own thing? Something that you're interested in, something that you have this passion about that you want to do, but then you have that excuse, I can't do because I'm just too busy.

SPEAKER_02 59:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:00

I don't know. I'm I don't have the time to do that.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:02

Or another one. Well, I'm really fucking tired. Well, how about you put the weed down? How about that? I've said that to numerous motherfuckers and they don't like hearing that. What do you mean, fucking put the weed down? I told you I'm tired. Yeah, weed makes you fucking tired. Weed makes you fucking dumb, it makes you fucking lazy, and it has the exact same effect on every single fucking person. It's medic it's a medicinal fact. Most people that smoke weed and they and they are productive, they learn how to be productive despite smoking weed, not because of it. So don't ever try to hand me that shitty. Well, weed makes me more productive. No, it fucking doesn't. Maybe in the first 10 minutes, it'll get you up off the couch. Other than that, you are fucking lacking. You are falling behind by smoking that fucking much weed. You know, there's there's ways to fucking go around it. There's ways to get around shit, there's ways to be productive and build shit, but people don't ever want to accept the truth of it. You've got some fucking bad habits, you've got some fucking habits that are in the way that you need to quit if you want to be this, and then they're just so fucking into their habit and into their feet up and their beer time and their fucking weed time that they just won't.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:06

Well, I think what people should try and do is just like, you know, and for those of you that are listening that you know have those aspirations that you want to start a business, that you want to do better, you're sick of working for a company that doesn't give a shit about you. Start by blocking out small amounts of time. Start creating a habit doing that. Take a half hour here. You know, you get done with work, take a half hour. Look into you know, half hour to an hour, take look into what you want to do, what it's gonna take you to get to that point. You know, whether it's you want to be uh, you know, how the business structure is gonna be, if you want to be LLC, start looking into that stuff. Take that half hour to an hour every day, and then do that for say three weeks, and then increase that time every few weeks. And then eventually you're gonna get to that point to break you out of that cycle that you're currently in. But that's the only way you're gonna break out of a cycle is by introducing something that's out of your comfort zone and just doing it. I mean, nobody wants to work for the man the rest of their life. I mean, I know for myself, and we've had plenty of conversations about this. I don't want to be on a road crew, I don't want to continue doing what I'm doing the rest of my life until the day I die. So the only thing that I can think of that I need to do is put in that time to level up and get out of that scenario, get out of that situation and do what I really want to do.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:29

Yeah, it's it's and it's it's so difficult for fucking people, you know. I'm tired, I've got to spend time with my wife, I don't have the time, I'm so busy. Um, but how if you're so busy, and here's another one if you're out there, you're listening to this, and you got somebody in your life that you keep trying to motivate, you try to keep, you keep trying to inspire to get do, you know, get to a better level, do something more, and and you every time you message them, they have an excuse for them or for you. Think about this hit them with this, because they don't and they're not gonna like it, they're not gonna fucking like it. But say, if you're so busy, how come every time I call you you answer? If you're so fucking busy, how come every time I send you a text message, you reply right away? Busy people don't do that. No, they don't there's times in my fucking day where I don't even get to my text messages for fucking eight hours.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:26

No, uh, and there's times for me too. You know, I know like uh I I send certain texts out every day, kind of like what you do, you know, to certain people and all that stuff, like hey man, I hope your day's going good, blah blah blah, you know, stuff like that. But it's like I don't hear back for hours, and it's like but then when they message me, then they don't hear back from me for hours, unless like if I'm in my car literally driving at that time, you know, then I can reasonably fly back. But it's like, yeah, that's that's a good way to look at it. Like, if you can like if you're responding right away or if you're answering that phone call right away, how busy are you? You're not, you're fucking full of shit, is what you are.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:00

You're busy being full of shit, is what you are. Exactly. You know, so for all you guys listening, we can start wrapping this shit up. All you guys listening, take the flags that are fucking waving in your face to get rid of some of these motherfuckers. Yes, it doesn't always mean you have to cut them out. But if you have been pouring fucking energy and effort and time and and and heartache into these motherfuckers for X amount of time that is way more than it should be, you're gonna have to start accepting the flags that they're waving in front of you and get rid of these motherfuckers so that you can actually, you're actually gonna relinquish all the shit you're holding so that you can march forward and grab new shit, new friends, leveled up friends. Because I'll tell you what, like I said, I have spent so many fucking years trying to get people to fucking start a business, do something with me. I'll help you. I'll even do most of the work. Let's do this, figuring that they would get motivated along the way and then they would take the reins of you know on their end and blah, blah, blah, and it never happened. I'll tell you a fucking really quick fucking story. I had a fucking conversation, this was just the other day, with a leveled up friend of mine, friend of ours, actually, uh, and I we were just having a conversation about a couple of different things, and in 15 minutes, 15 minutes, the idea of starting a business together came up, it was accepted by both parties, we had an attack plan, we had a business model, we had a marketing strategy, we had fucking products lined up, we had everything in 15 fucking minutes. And now, now that I've announced that, I'm about to have a new clothing brand coming your fucking way with a with a with a fucking cool ass motherfucker. Let me tell you what, it's not it's not Dave. Dave's a cool ass motherfucker, but it's not Dave.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:50

But um But I'm gonna rep the hell out of that shit.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:54

Yeah, it's uh you're gonna like it because it ain't gonna, it's nothing like you've ever fucking seen before. We've already got It rolling. 15 minutes though. Would you rather have, think about it? Would you rather have the friends you got now if you're at that level, if you're on the lower level, where people just want to feed you excuses like, I'm just so busy, there's not enough time. I have to spend time with my wife. I have this, I have that, but I can't progress because I'm busy not progressing. Do you want to have that? Or would you rather have the kind of friends that you could fucking in 15 minutes have an entire business laid out, accepted, and rolling? Think about that, guys. That all being said, Dave, let them know where they can find you.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:32

All right, folks, you can find me all over social media at the hammer drops, heavily active on Facebook and Instagram. I've also started getting back in a little bit into TikTok with some of the stuff. Um, but if you want to follow me, that'd be great. Um, I talk a lot about Norse paganism.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:48

So no more politics. And it's good shit. Yep, yeah. It's you fucking picked a lane, it's a fucking awesome lane. It's it's a perfect lane for you, and you're doing some really fucking cool shit. So check out the hammer drops everywhere. He's putting educational shit up. You don't even have to be a Norse pagan to appreciate the shit. If you're if you're an inquisitive person, you're a curious person, what is this flag behind me? He's gonna tell you one day. What is the what are the all my fucking rings and my bracelets mean? He's gonna tell you one day because that's what he does. He educates you on shit so you just know about it. Maybe it's your path. Maybe that's the fucking calling that you had that you've been feeling all along. You just didn't know what name to put to it. Maybe that's it. Maybe you're just a curious person that wants to know why people believe in other things than you believe in. He's gonna let you know about this aspect, this lane of belief structures, and he's doing a fantastic fucking job. So uh I appreciate that, brother. No worries. If you guys want to follow me, you uh you can follow me at Savagely Loud on Instagram, is where I'm most active. I am going to start becoming, I have, I know I said this before, but I I'm really trying, and I have been, I actually now, it's not I'm going to, I have been trying to be a little bit more active on Facebook because Facebook gives me the numbers, it gives me the fucking everything that Instagram doesn't give me. And plus Instagram, I don't know what the fuck is happening with Instagram, but I'm also I'm also nearly positive that the people that run Instagram don't know either. Because it seems like every single fucking day some massive change has happened, some application for monetization will come out that you can't get up, you can't get uh approved for this and that and the other fucking thing. So I am I am actively working to be more active on Facebook. Um, but you can find me there, Savagely Loud. Two two links on there. One's the Savagely Loud podcast page. Please follow us there. Uh I am gonna start a Savagely Loud podcast page on Facebook since Facebook is so much more fucking so much more um, what's the word I'm looking for, friendly to creators than Instagram has become. Um and then uh you'll be able to follow us there too. Uh the other link you're gonna find is simple link tree. Anywhere you want to see my fucking face or hear my bullshit, you can find it there. Easy peasy. Outside of that, Facebook X and Rumble at Savagely Loud, YouTube at Savagely Loud Podcast. Please don't forget to subscribe, send it to your friends, and have them subscribe. You can email us in at savagely loud at gmail.com. Don't forget to like, comment, and share the material. And please, for the love of all the things that you love, give us a good review and give us a five-star rating on Spotify and Apple iTunes. It's gonna help us out greatly. So, with all that being said, you know what time it is? We got in, we got down into it. I know we pissed some people off. I know we had it. We we reality checked some motherfuckers today well enough where they're standing in the mirror with a tear in their eye, having to come to some realizations. So instead of just letting everybody else run off and fucking be all amped up and ramped up, ready to fucking take on the world, let's remind ourselves that some humanity still exists within human with a segment I like to call hopelessly human, and it starts a little bit like people can be rough, they can be quite tough, they can get in the way, but at the end of the day, some aren't only stupid, some are hopelessly human. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Some are hopelessly human, and this one is no different. This one comes to you from MSN.com. It's titled I Was 16 and Pregnant, which is not a shocker in today's society, unfortunately, very sadly. Uh it goes, I was 16 and pregnant. My parents had kicked me out. I was crying in the park, crying in a park when an older woman approached. She whispered, poor child will be born without a father. How did she know? She gave me a card and said, Call me. That night, desperate, I dialed. The voice silenced me. I've been waiting. I froze. Who is this? She whispered. I'm the mother of the boy who who left you. He told me what he did. I'm ashamed of him, but I won't abandon my grandchild. She took me in, helped me finish school, raised my daughter beside me, and when she passed, she left us half of her inheritance. Her son got nothing. She wrote in her will, she stayed, he ran. Kindness isn't blood. It's who shows up when no one else will. That's a fact, Jack. That's hopelessly human. That's the show. Later, guys.