The Peaceful Mompreneur
Encouraging and equipping Christian Mompreneurs to have peace in their lives and business while staying grounded in Jesus Christ.
The Peaceful Mompreneur
Escaping the Burnout Trap for the High Achieving, Ambitious Mom
Are you drowning in the constant hustle of motherhood while trying to build a business? That's not the life Jesus has invited you to live.
Ashley Perry Lambett, Christian lifestyle strategist and founder of the Prioritized Women Collective, brings a refreshing perspective on what it truly means to thrive as an ambitious mom. Having walked through her own journey of postpartum depletion, identity loss, and burnout while raising two young children, Ashley shares the transformative practices that helped her rediscover her purpose without compromising her values, health, or family.
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The conversation begins with a powerful reminder to start with stillness—sitting in silence with God before reaching for your phone or tackling your endless to-do list. Even five minutes of asking "Lord, where do you want me in this season?" can completely shift your perspective. Ashley then unpacks the divine order of priorities that many high-achieving moms overlook: God first, yourself second (yes, yourself!), your spouse third, followed by children, and then business or ministry.
For women accustomed to putting themselves last, this hierarchy feels revolutionary. But as Ashley explains through her river metaphor, water must flow into the river before it can nourish everything around it. Similarly, you must be filled before you can effectively pour into others. This isn't selfish—it's essential for sustainable motherhood and business growth.
Perhaps most liberating is Ashley's reminder that your current constraints are temporary: "You can do everything, just not at the same time." By focusing on the one or two priorities God has highlighted for this season and letting go of the rest (for now), you can break free from burnout and find deep fulfillment in His divine order.
Ready to rediscover who you are in Christ without compromising what matters most? Take Ashley's Overflow Quiz to identify your biggest struggle and receive personalized resources to help you reconnect with God's purpose for your life.
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hustling in motherhood is wrecking your calling. So the question is what does god really want for you? Instead, if you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed or like you lost a piece of yourself since becoming a mom, you are not alone. The world tells us to hustle harder, do more and all and chase all the things, but that is not the life that Jesus is inviting you to.
Speaker 1:I want to introduce my guest today, ashley Perry Lambett, and she is a Christian lifestyle strategist and the founder of the Prioritized Women Collective, a faith-based movement helping high-achieving moms live in alignment with God's divine order so they can thrive in motherhood, marriage, health and purpose. As a wife and mom to two little kings, ages two and four, ashley knows firsthand what it feels like to lose yourself in the demands of motherhood while trying to juggle business, wellness and faith. After walking through her own journey of postpartum depletion, identity loss and burnout, she made it her mission to help other ambitious Christian moms rediscover who they are in Christ, without compromising their values, health or family. Ashley, thank you so much for being here with us.
Speaker 2:I am so honored and so excited to be here with you and your amazing community. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1:Yes, absolutely. So you are right. In line with what we're doing right, we are running businesses, we are doing things, we are juggling the mom life and all the things we're doing it grounded in Jesus, and that's really the only way to make this work right. So it's not a foreign idea to most of us that this burnout, this hustle, is like like drowning us. So why do you think that that happens?
Speaker 2:I think there's many reasons, so I'll touch on a few. So I think for one, being a high achieving woman and just being a go-getter we wanna be in control of everything, and so sometimes it's easy for us to like go ahead of God or think we're supposed to be doing more, when God is saying actually slow down and do less in this season and just be present with your babies. I also think, just as a woman who just wears so many different hats, right, it's like we just get overwhelmed and we think we cannot take a break because then everything is going to just implode and just be a hot mess. But God called us in this journey for a reason. He's put you here for a purpose and he's already equipped you. So this like striving and hustling culture that we see it's just not for us and that's not what Jesus intended for us as women in business and women who are raising families and the next disciples.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely. I love that. So I know that you coach women, you work with them. So what do you tell someone when they first get to you, right, and they are burnt out, they're struggling, they have this business, they have these little people that require them to keep them alive and they're just not sure what to do. And what is there something they can even let go of? Like, what do you do with them when they first get there?
Speaker 2:Yes. So, first and foremost, what we do is I encourage them to just sit with the Lord in silence. So if that's five minutes before your kids wake up, if that's while you're breastfeeding your baby, whatever that looks like for you and just to ask him where do you want me in this season, what is my focus in this season? And let him just minister to your heart and see what he says. If you have a journal, write it down. But I think sitting in stillness and just allowing him to speak is something that's so foreign, especially having littles and running a business and doing a million different things. You're like, oh wait, sit in silence. I haven't done that in a while. Let's try that. And normally the Lord, when you ask him something, he's always going to come through. Maybe not in the way that you expected, but he's going to give you some sort of answer for us to start moving in a direction closer to him and his will for your life in this season.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love that. That's very practical and so hard, like it doesn't sound difficult. I just went on this retreat with my mastermind and we literally sat in silence for two and a half hours, like we just like wandered off by ourselves. And I was so excited about it Cause I used to spend so much time with the Lord, like by myself, without, like you know, people needing you and so. But it was so beautiful and so part of it was easy and then part of it got hard. I was like what am I supposed to do now? But you're right, like just being alone with Jesus will, it'll just change everything, right, like that's that's so good Silence and solitude, and I love that.
Speaker 1:It's like not a cookie cutter thing. I ask you what to do and you're like go to the Lord. That's the answer. Man, that's the answer. I like it. I like it, okay. So how do you? So here they are, okay, they have done this, they've gone to the Lord, and they're like wondering what are some practical steps that they can take after they've sat in silence with the Lord.
Speaker 2:Yes. So then we start getting more into alignment, like what are your priorities? And for a lot of women, our priorities are just all over the place, like, first and foremost, I go by a divine alignment, so it should be God first and foremost, and then it should be yourself, and a lot of us forget about ourselves completely, where it's just like the kids take over everything. And so how do we bring ourselves back to being a priority? Whether that looks like going for a five minute walk, whether that looks like doing some stretches, whether that looks like telling your husband I need some more help. Like what does that look like for you in this season? Because the Lord did not call us to just be like suffering and in this survival mode. That's not what he called us to in motherhood, and then, after you, it should be your hubby, right?
Speaker 2:So a lot of women, we forget completely about them. When we have kids, it's like, oh, you're fine, I've got the kiddos over here, and so just bringing some spark back into that relationship. Whether that's sitting and talking with your spouse for five minutes how was your day? How are you? I miss you, you know, I haven't seen you and then we start talking about our kiddos. And then we start talking about our business, our ministry and all the other hats that we wear, but, like, let's get ourselves back into the priority list. What does that look like for you? Sitting, having coffee, meeting a friend? Like, what does that look like for you? And then let's start making steps to do that, to start refilling your cup as a woman, as a mom, as a wife, as a business owner all of those things you have to pour into yourself in order to flow out into everyone else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely, and I like what you said. The divine order, that's beautiful, that's perfect, and you can say that a lot of things are important to you, but if you're not living them out, they are not actually important to you. That's what I talk to my clients about. It's like are we giving these things lip service or are we really living them out? Right? So let's talk about so.
Speaker 1:I like you're talking about making sure that you are, you know you're doing well, that you're being filled up, that you have that intentional time, whatever that looks like in the season, which changes depending on how old your kids are and how many kids you have or what season of life you're in with your husband. So, but I feel like guilt very quickly becomes a problem here, right, and? But I feel like guilt very quickly becomes a problem here, right, and so I know that you've ran into this. So how do we make sure that we are doing the right things for us in the season we're in, but that we're not allowing guilt to like steal that joy that we should be getting from that?
Speaker 2:Yes. So this is such a beautiful question because there's even there's just like a lot of guilt whether it's not spending enough time with the Lord, not going to church every Sunday like you used to before you had kids, not spending enough time with your husband, like not doing everything that you think perfectly for your kids, like there's so many areas where guilt starts to like fall upon us, and I think for a lot of women it's like. So let's ask the Lord and let's see what his word says. And so we go back to. I like to explain it to women, like if you think of a river, like water has to flow into that river in order for that water to keep flowing, and that water flows into all of the plants, like the animals drink the water and all of these things, things that you never even see, that ripple effect. It has to come, being come from, being poured into. And so when they think about that, like okay, oh, yeah, that's right. Like you can't pour from an empty cup, so it doesn't have to look like you're going off for an hour in the gym or whatever. It doesn't have to look like that. It could be whatever feels good to your heart in this season and, of course, take it to the Lord, like your heart in this season. And of course, take it to the Lord Like, do you feel like this is what I should be doing?
Speaker 2:And sometimes the Lord will give you the answer you don't want, like, no, I don't want you doing that in this season. I want you to just be still and be present and not start that new business, not start that new venture, and so just being in tune to like taking what you think to the Lord is this an alignment for what you have in my life? And he will give you the answer. I even think about myself. After I had my first son. It was like, all right, I'm ready to go 110% in my business and do all these things and go talk and do a trial. The Lord was like, if you don't just sit down in this season and be present with your baby because he's going to grow so fast, this time's going to go so fast, you're going to miss this time and you're going to regret not being present. So just taking it to the Lord again, letting him speak into your heart and letting him give you the truthful answer, not what you want to hear.
Speaker 1:That's beautiful. I love that and I like that. What you're talking about, it's like God has given you this gift but we're like so worried about all the other things that we could be doing. It's like, nah, man, just this, this is what I gave you. Do the thing I said. I really like that and I can totally relate to that, because my son's two and a half and I was ready to roll, like I wanted to be with him. I didn't. I wanted to do the other things and even now sometimes I'm like have to make myself like no, this is not the time for those things. These are not the time for those things. So when you're talking about like this alignment and making sure that you and the Lord are on the same page and correct me if I'm wrong, but I would imagine the next step would also be talking to your spouse, right, if he's not on the same page with you, then he can't know what you want, need what you need, and he can't help you get there Right.
Speaker 2:Exactly yes, like they, a lot of men, like they just don't know what to do. They don't know how to help you, like they see you, like struggling, and like they don't know what to do. And so, if you can sit down and talk to them and even pray together and just explain to him what you're going through, I think about one of my clients where she was like she got pregnant like immediately after having her first baby, and she was like I had to go to him and be like I love you, like thank you for these beautiful gifts, but like I need you more, like I need more help, and he had no idea because she didn't voice that to him. Like they're not mind readers, like as much as we want them to be, you know, they're not mind readers.
Speaker 2:And a lot of times even I think about myself when I'm praying like Lord, fix him, lord, do this. The Lord is like turn that finger to yourself, sister. Like you need some work as well, like you need to change how you're talking, how you're communicating. And so I think it's so beautiful when we can actually turn that point to ourselves and be like how can I be better? Because then, in turn, that's going to help him be better. That's going to help you be better as a unit. So I think, just taking reflection too on yourself- can be really helpful as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely, I love that. Psalm says like search me, oh God, and know my heart, you know. It's like point out anything in me that offends you and lead me along the path of righteousness, and so it's like are we willing to pray that prayer? Right, it's so easy to be like fix these other things, but it's like show me what's ugly in me, Cause I know there's some stuff in there, Right. And so it's very I love that like self reflection, making sure that you are also you know where you need to be. Okay, so you have this growth method that you have talked about a little bit, so can you tell us a little bit what that looks like and what that means? How does that help?
Speaker 2:Yes, so the growth method is basically the steps that I take women through, and it includes your mind, body, heart and soul. So we start with alignment, figuring that out, what that looks like for you in this season, and then start bringing in the physical aspect as well of your health, because it's one thing to be praying and all of the things, but faith without works is dead. So if you're in a season where you're like I'm always tired or I'm not feeling my body properly, I'm not eating well, like we have to take care of those things as well. And so we bring that in to this beautiful growth method where we not only talk about our relationship with the Lord but we also start figuring out steps to help us be better women, mother, business owners and all of those things. And so I like to bring in the physical aspect of movement and that is such a beautiful form of worship.
Speaker 2:One of my favorite ways to worship the Lord is just to move, go on a walk with him, literally. Like we talked about silence earlier, like if you go on like a five, 10 minute walk inside, it's so hard at first because you want to put your ear pods in, you want to listen to a sermon or a YouTube video or book, whatever, but he will just talk to you in such a beautiful way and give you encouragement that, like you didn't even know you needed, if you just allow him that space. And so I love to bring in all the aspects of the woman, so her physical, her emotional, her spiritual. All of that makes up who we are, and so it's really important to me to make sure that we start tapping into all of those areas to make us the strongest holistic woman as possible.
Speaker 1:That's wonderful, I love it. That's perfect. So I really like what you're talking about, about when you're going on walks not putting your headphones in. I have been purposely doing this and it is so helpful. It's basically blocking out the noise of the world, because how much input are you allowing in your life? All of it can be really good, but if there's so much that you're never actually talking to Christ himself like there's a problem, and so you got to give that space to the Lord to be able to talk to you.
Speaker 2:Yes, so good. I saw a reel the other day where she was talking about that. She's like we're so quick to go to a YouTube video or a sermon or this or that or whatever, and she was like the first thing we should do is just go to the Lord Like ask him what does he think about this situation? What do you, what should I do? Like go to him, first and foremost, not your friends, not your family.
Speaker 1:Go to him drop it at his feet, and so I love that. You said that I can't agree more. Amen, awesome, okay, so how do we break this burnout cycle? Cause that is a thing that we suffer with, especially as being high achievers wanting to do all the things but like really wanting to trust the Lord in all of our ways, right, so how do we break that?
Speaker 2:cycle. I think one huge way is just to focus, like in this season, what is most important to you in this season and what do you want to accomplish most in this season? What do you feel the Lord is calling to you to do right now? Because we forget sometimes that this is a season where your kids are like so little and they need you for absolutely everything. We're like it's going to be like this forever and the Lord is like this is such a small, precious window, like please take advantage of it, be present.
Speaker 2:And so, I think, focusing in because, as women, we like to do so many different things, like we have so many ideas and all of these things, but it's like just focus in on one thing, like what's giving you joy, what's allowing you to serve in this season in a way that still fulfills you but doesn't take you away from your family, your husband, all of those things.
Speaker 2:I think focus is one way that we can really get out of burnout mode, because we don't have this. I have to do everything and raise a baby, and if you're a new mom, it's like I don't even know what I'm doing anyway, so I'm already like overwhelmed to the hundredth power. And so if we can just focus and remember that this is only a season, it's not forever, it's really helpful with I can still do this in six months to a year, two years, like ask the Lord, what do you want me to do in this season? Give me one or two things to focus on that are going to fulfill me, and then move forward in what he tells you to do.
Speaker 1:That is perfect. Yeah, I love that Somebody. I heard someone say you can do everything, you just can't do it at the same time, and I'm like that's beautiful, that's perfect, and giving yourself the grace to say, like not right now, but it may be, I mean, it's not never right. Like your ideas are good. God made you like the women that we're talking to. I feel like I can really, you know, understand them. Yes, I have a million ideas, always something that everything's a good idea and so, but, like, just write it down, friend, write it down, it'll still be there and you can do it later. Maybe, and maybe you'll even hate that idea, cause there's a lot of the ideas up here that I'm like that was a dumb, but that's okay.
Speaker 2:Um, but, yeah, it doesn't mean no, it just means right now you know and he may have to prepare you.
Speaker 2:Like I think about myself and where I started my business, like in health and wellness. The Lord has taken me on this like journey that I had no idea that it was in my future, but it's just refined me and made me better in every area of life so that I can be the leader that he's called me to be, the woman, the mom, the wife. And so let him start to shred you those, those lies that you've believed your entire life, those things of the world that you're idolizing Like. It's a hard process, but you're going to be so much better on the other side of it, Just letting him, just surrendering everything to him and letting him make you new. It's, it's I, it's life-changing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I couldn't agree more. I love that. That's perfect. So you have it. Looks like you have three faith-fueled mindset shifts to overcome struggles. Can you break those down for us?
Speaker 2:Yes. So number one is going to be what we talked about earlier is prayer, sitting in silence with the Lord, first and foremost, before you reach for your phone in the morning. What I like to do is I like to just open my eyes and say Lord, I'm asking you to come into every part of my day, my actions, my words, my thoughts, my work, everything. And then also I like to ask what do you want me to focus on today? Like, what do you want my focus to be for today? Sometimes he'll give me a word, he'll give me a scripture, he'll tell me something and I'll be like Ooh, yeah, I probably do need to to work on that, but I think just, first and foremost, like prayer and stillness. And then number two what we also talked about is similar is that focus right? And that being present in the moment and just being thankful and showing gratitude for where you are in this season?
Speaker 2:That will change everything. If you can just sit down and write three things that you're thankful for, at the end of the day you will be like I am so blessed. Even if you don't feel like it, you're like I'm so blessed and I'm so thankful for what the Lord has done and continues to do in my life in this season. And then I think number three just being a high achiever is to really just prioritize yourself. Like don't get into this place where you are totally neglecting every single need that you have, because it's only going to make everything else harder, because you're coming from a place of complete destitute, Like you have nothing to give, because you're giving to everyone else. So making sure that you're getting yourself on that priority list, whatever that looks like in your season, whether that's asking for more help from family and friends, your husband taking a nap, grabbing some coffee with a friend like still prioritizing you because the Lord still wants to do amazing things for you in this season, even if it feels very difficult.
Speaker 1:That's beautiful, that's wonderful. Okay, so tell everybody about the quiz that you're offering. Yeah.
Speaker 2:So it's an overflow quiz, so it's really to help women see where they are struggling with the most and where the Lord wants to speak into your life the most in this season. And once you take this quiz, it's going to give you tools and resources to help you start connecting more with the Lord in the area that he's chosen, whether it's your physical, your mental, your emotional, your spiritual, your motherhood, your relationship with your husband, like. It will give you tools to start reconnecting and restoring that area of your life. And it's just, it's a short, quick quiz, but the resources are so good and they're so helpful. If you feel like you are drowning like this, this quiz is for you. He wants to restore you.
Speaker 1:That's amazing, all right, awesome, and so that will be linked in the description of this. So definitely check that out. And then, if you had one last piece of advice for the Christian mompreneur who's just sitting here listening right now, what would you tell her?
Speaker 2:I would tell her that you are beautifully and wonderfully made and even in this season of motherhood. If you don't feel that way, or you feel like you've lost yourself in this season, or you feel like you've lost yourself in this season, like, go to him, surrender it all to his feet. He will restore you, he will replenish you, he will show you your purpose in this new season, if it's changed. He will show you your giftings. He will show you exactly what he wants you to do in this season, if you allow him to.
Speaker 1:Awesome, awesome. Thank you so much, Ashley. This was great. Thank you him to Awesome, Awesome. Thank you so much, Ashley.
Speaker 2:This was great, thank you. Thank you, I'm so honored to have been here with you.