EP #2 DO MY THOUGHTS CREATE MY REALITY? (Part 1) - The Manifesting Formula That Actually Works

 Most people try to change their actions without understanding what's motivating them—and that's why manifestation fails. In this episode, we break down the exact formula creating your reality.   You'll learn why you keep getting stuck in the same patterns, how your beliefs are running on autopilot, and the first step to breaking the cycle. 

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SPEAKER_01 0:04

Change doesn't start with what you do. Change starts with who you are. I'm your host, Kendall Keaton, and this is the identity advantage.

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This is episode two, and we are diving into the framework of manifesting. There is a system that is running your life right now, whether you know it or not. There is a cycle. There is a motor, right? I see it as this, I see it as a motor because it's literally what motivates every action you take, right? It's what's running, it's what just driving you, it's what's propelling you forward into the next action or the avoidance, the inaction. It's what causes procrastination, it's what causes impulsiveness, it's what caught, it's what causes every action or inaction that you take. It is the motor that drives you and there is a framework for it. There is a cycle, it is a pattern. And understanding this pattern, understanding the motor and how it works is where manifesting can really change for you, right? And that's where we're headed in this discussion today. So in episode one, and if you haven't listened to that, please go back and listen to that because it really breaks down the law of attraction, sort of the context, the lens through which I will talk about manifesting throughout the entirety of this podcast, right? Not just the show, but the whole thing. Not just this episode, but the entirety of it. So, but today, so yes, listen to that, but today we're going to go a layer deeper and we're gonna talk about the motor that creates these patterns in your life, right? There's a formula, there's a framework running in the background, like a computer code that operates your system, your body, and you have to become aware of it so that you can use it on purpose. Okay, so that's today's agenda. If you're on board, let's go. We have thoughts, right? Nonstop thoughts throughout the day, right? Research shows that we have somewhere between like 60 to 80,000 thoughts every single day. Every single one of these thoughts creates an emotion, right? We have an emotional reaction to every thought that we think, and every emotion that we feel creates a motivation, right? Whether whether it's motivation to do something or motivation to avoid something, this is where your motivation lives. And every single emotion you feel, that's where your motivation is. Okay, if motivation, if you have ever caught yourself saying, like, I wish I could just be motivated or I don't feel motivation today, right? You can actually really master your motivation. That's an episode we're gonna talk about later. So um, yeah, follow if you don't want to miss that. That your motivation lives inside of your emotions. And from that motivation, you are going to take some sort of action. Or you're gonna avoid an action, doesn't matter. But after you do that or don't do it, this action or lack of action creates a result. And whatever that result is, whatever comes about through the end of this cycle, that result will always reinforce that original thought that caused it. Right? So we have thoughts that make us feel things, and when we feel things, we do things, and when we do things, we get things. And when we get things, we have a thought about what we get, and that thought makes us feel an emotion. Do you get it? This is a cycle. This is the motor that is literally propelling us through life. And this motor, up until this point, has been happening on default, right? By listening to listening to this episode, by listening to me speak right now, you're making the choice to start learning about this motor so that you can use it on purpose to get what you want instead of just get what you get and don't throw a fit.

unknown 3:43

Right?

SPEAKER_00 3:43

No, I want to, I want to, I want to plan what I get. And if I don't like it, I'm gonna change things until I get what I want.

unknown 3:50

Right?

SPEAKER_00 3:50

So this motor is happening nonstop, right? All day long, every day, it's happening right now. It's our engine. And this motor, this cycle runs over and over, and eventually, this cycle of this thought to emotion to action to result, thought to emotion to action and result, eventually this thought just becomes a belief. And now you have a belief system. You have this belief now that has been conditioned over years and years and years of this motor running all on its own. And now you have a belief about yourself or a belief about the world. And we just take these beliefs as facts. These beliefs can kind of form our personality of who we think we are. I'm someone who's, I'm just not a people person. I'm an introvert, I'm an extrovert, I'm not good with money. I make friends easily. I don't make friends easily. Whatever it is, there's thousands of beliefs that you could have about yourself, but they are all formed because of this cycle, this original thought that you might have thought when you were three or four, somebody told you that your drawing sucked, right? And that created an emotion that created a feeling, created a result, and eventually you just, I'm not artistic. I just can't, I can't draw to save my life. Maybe I could, but I was told when I was little that my drawing wasn't very good, or somebody made an offhanded comment, and it has just been running on default mode, right? That's a kind of a rudimentary example, right? We'll get into some better ones, but that's kind of how this works. You have this thought, or this thought that has turned into a belief, right? You have these belief systems that are running your motor and driving you into this cycle over and over and over again and has gotten you to where you are. Right. So this is the applicable part of the law of attraction, right? This is the science behind it. It's what keeps people in a pattern of maybe getting to the same type of relationship, the same type of relationship or the same type of person over and over, right? Why do I just keep attracting this type of man or this type of girl? Right. Um, switching jobs back and forth, but we still run into the same conflict, right? The same conflict with a boss, or it's the same issues with customers, or we keep having the same problem with the same or the same problem with different jobs. It's this pattern, right? Ugh, this keeps happening to me, right? Just feel stuck like this. This will always happen. People will always leave me. I will never have a job that I like. It's because we have a belief system that's running this motor, driving us in this cycle, and it keeps us in a rut. It keeps us attracting the same things over and over again because we keep feeling the same things over and over again. It's because we keep doing the same things over and over again. It is a perpetual cycle, right? I'm gonna give you some examples so you can kind of see how this shows up. Like the one I said earlier, like so if you're somebody who thinks you're just not good with money, or I'm just I'm not financially savvy, right? And this is the belief. So we have this thought, I'm not great with money. Causes us to feel an emotion of maybe anxiety or stress around budgeting. Maybe we have shame when we think about our finances, right? The action could be maybe you avoid checking your bank account. You just don't want to look at it. So we're we're making purchases without really knowing if the money is there, right? We don't budget because we don't want to look at it. We tend to make more impulsive purchases when we feel like this. And the result is maybe we end up with an overdraft fee. We end up with maybe more debt. We put something on a credit card, you might actually get denied when you go to use a credit card because you didn't want to look at the bill because it causes you anxiety. We just have financial chaos. And this reinforces the new belief. See, I told you I'm bad with money. Right. And then now we have this, this goes over and over and over again. I'm just not a money person. I'll never be good with finances, right? The cycle just keeps repeating. Right? There's it shows up a lot in relationships. People always leave me, right? Or I'm gonna be abandoned. I will spend my whole life alone, right? We have this fear, this insecurity, this anxiety around relationships. So in response to that, because we feel this, we feel this anxiety over, we feel this insecurity, maybe even sometimes jealousy, if we're honest about it. We take actions that are a result of this emotion. We're motivated maybe to hold on to this person tighter. Maybe we get a little bit like smother-ish, right? If they go somewhere, we want to go somewhere. We don't like it when they do things without us, right? Maybe we feel like we just need to kind of, we get a little bit maybe needy with this person because we don't want them to leave us. We're afraid that they will, so we latch on tighter. Right. The result of this is this person probably withdraws. They actually push away from you a little bit, and now you just get to reinforce that belief. See, I told you they're gonna leave me. People always leave me. I'm not lovable. I'm never gonna have a good relationship. And we end up in this cycle, right? Another one, actually, one that I saw recently, I was working with someone who had keep going on job interviews, but she couldn't get a job. And I said, Why do you think that is? And she said, Well, I'm just not qualified enough. It's like, but is that true?

unknown 8:31

Right.

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And we look down on it, it really wasn't actually true, but she just had this belief that she wasn't good enough for this job that she wanted, right? I'm not qualified enough, right? And that led her to start feeling some self-doubt. She had this imposter syndrome, right? This insecurity. So what happens is we go into this job interview answering the questions as if we're not qualified because that's what we believe. Right. And we emit this emotion of not being ready for this. The result is that she doesn't get the job. Sometimes we don't even apply for those jobs because we don't think that we're good enough, so we don't even try. And we end up in this cycle of just, well, yeah, and you reinforce the belief that I'm not good and I'm not qualified enough. Sometimes we have this belief when we've never even taken an action on it. It has kept us in such avoidance that sometimes we will actually tell ourselves, well, we have tried. I did apply for a job. Well, maybe you applied for one, but there were 10 you could have applied for, but you only applied for one. You let not getting it reinforce the belief that you're not good enough, so you never tried again. But we justify this and say, well, I've tried. I've had conversations with someone. Well, but we give ourselves these excuses that feel real to us. But it's because it's a belief system that we hold, right, that we're not qualified or we're not good enough. We have these same thoughts that create these same emotions, that create the same behaviors, that reinforce the original thought, and we just feel stuck. But you're not stuck in your situation. You are not stuck where you're at, you are not stuck, and you can't move forward. You're just stuck in a pattern of thinking. And you can change that. You just have a default cycle that you were not aware of, and people feel stuck in their lives. I felt stuck in my life years ago, like I couldn't change it, right? But it's because I didn't understand it. I didn't understand what I'm explaining to you right now. If you are listening to this, you don't have to be stuck. You are different because you are making the choice to understand it. You're making the choice to make a change. You're done living on default mode, you're done being on autopilot, and you are ready to reprogram these beliefs. Right? It's reprogramming these beliefs, changing that cycle that you start to manifest things differently. This cycle is manifesting for you. Okay, this is the scientific side of manifesting. This is the science that when I say manifesting isn't magic, but if you treat it like a science, it feels like magic, this is that science. Cognitive behavioral therapy, CBT, says that you cannot change what you are not aware of. It's literally what this is. And that's the first step. It's not changing the cycle. The first step to manifesting, we talked about this in the first episode, is that you have to trust the process. You've got to know what the process is. We talked really in depth about what the law of attraction was, like the scientific part of it, right? Now, this is the applicable part of it. This is how you apply this in your everyday life. But the first step is not changing it. The first step is becoming aware of what's already happening. Okay, this is backed by psychology. It's it's backed by neuroscience. Okay, Dr. Joseph Dispenza, he puts this perfectly. He says that your personality creates your personal reality. Your personality is just all these beliefs that you have built up, all these beliefs that you believe and are in this cycle and are acting on. And it has created your reality. It's created what you have today. It creates what you get on a day-to-day basis. Your personality created your personal reality. And if you want a different reality, you have to change your personality, which means you that's all it means is that you have to change your beliefs. You are not stuck, you were not born with the personality that you have today. We're born, yes, with genes, with probably like, you know, we're predisposed to maybe having certain aspects of us, but in all, you can create who you are. You create your personality is created over years of programming, but you can choose at any point to be a different person, to change that, to reinvent. This is reinvention, my friends. This is reinvention, people is changing your personality, deciding who you think you are right now, and then saying, but who do I want to be? And choosing that on purpose. And then we go back and we look at this cycle. We start becoming aware of this cycle and how it has created who we are. And we when we become aware of the cycle, now we can go back and we can change it. We reverse engineer and say, but what do I want to get? What's the result that I want? We're gonna go into this, and this is part one, so I'm not gonna get into that exactly. That's what you're gonna get in the next episode, part two of this in episode three. But the first, the first part of this is to just become aware. Don't change anything, just start noticing, right? And if you do this exercise, okay, just this exercise, literally just noticing over the course of a week, even just two to three days, honestly, right? Well, one day you should be able to notice some stuff, right? But take some time and just start noticing. And you might find at least, I don't know, I know this was the case when I did it, I started noticing this in other people before I noticed it in myself. That's fine if that happens, right? You might start noticing this in the people around you. Maybe you have a really common one is most of you, when you heard that thing about relationships, either noticed it in yourself or you're like, yep, I got a sister who keeps attracting the same dude over and over, like the same bad relationship, the same bad cycle. Somebody who complains about their job and they switch to a job and they start complaining about their boss. Then they switch jobs and they're complaining about their boss. Right? This is a cycle. That person in that bad relationship is getting in that bad relationship over and over because of a belief they have about themselves that's causing them to feel a way, that's causing them to act a way, that's attracting that person. Right? So start, this is this is step one. I take that back, I guess. Step one is really just understanding how this works. It's the law of attraction. It's episode one, that is step one. So go listen to that. But this is the next piece, is just becoming aware. You might start noticing in other people and then start taking tabs on your own life. The goal is for you to start becoming aware of the cycles that are running you right now. What cycles are manifesting for you? And the places that you feel stuck, what is the cycle that's running? Just notice what's already happening. And you have cycles that are serving you. There are good cycles going on. It's not all bad, right? There is there's there's things that are serving you and things that are aren't. Don't try to change anything, but just start noticing. Just notice what is there. And you might see this in the form of the result first, right? We don't always notice the first step in this is the thought, but we don't always notice the thought. The thought is happening on is happening on autopilot. It's happening so fast that you have a thought and emotion, and you've taken an action before you ever even consider changing it, and then you have a result, and you're like, dang it. Like if you ever sent an angry text message and regretted it, there was a thought that created an emotion that made you do that, and it happened so fast you couldn't stop it. You are gonna notice the result first, and that's okay. Just notice at that point when you get something you didn't want, and you're like, dang it, that was part of the cycle. Congratulate yourself and that point. That is like the first step. You have completed this task, okay, this homework. If you just notice when you get something you didn't want, when you do something you didn't want to do, when you avoid something that you actually wanted to take care of. Just notice that it happened. Okay, take mental note. If you really want to go the extra mile, keep a journal in your purse, in your pocket, in your wallet, in your car, wherever, and write down, oh, this was the cycle. The object is to be able to go from result and say, Oh, what action did I take or inaction did I do? Write that down. Then go backwards a step. What was I feeling that made me do that? Then you go back a step and say, what was the thought that caused that emotion? And this is a process. It's a process, it is work. And that's one of the misconceptions about manifesting is people think it's easy. It is very simple. It is an extremely simple concept, but it doesn't mean that it's easy. You're working with patterns that you've conditioned over decades. Right now, it does not have to take you decades to change them. I promise you that. It does not have to take that long, but you do have to take the step. You do have to do the work. Eventually, the work becomes easy. The work can be fun, right? It's just introspection, it's reflection. Okay, this is self-help and action. Sometimes this work is great. Sometimes it's a little bit painful when you have to look at a portion of you that maybe you don't care for. Okay. If you have to look at a portion of you and be like, oh my gosh, I am jealous, or I am being hateful, or I am being judgmental. We all have areas of ourselves that are less than desirable, but we have to look at ourselves without judgment and see those aspects of ourselves and become really comfortable saying I'm a human being, I have the good, I have the bad, and it's okay, but I'm just gonna make the decision now to be the best person that I can be. But there is some work to be done. But how amazing is that? There's there's actually a process, there's actually a framework to start manifesting what I want. It's not just throwing spaghetti at the wall, it's not just shooting darts at a blind target because you don't really know what's happening. There is actually a process, but you have to work it. But if you work it, it will work for you. It's just like learning to type, right? If you learn to type, you typed really slow, like finger pecking. And then after a while you got faster, you got faster, and now if you type, it's second nature. But it wasn't easy at first, but it wasn't a complicated process either. It's just something you had to do over and over until you got better at it. If you do this, you will get, it will become second nature to grab that cycle at a thought and emotion before it becomes an action. You will start to notice it sooner. You will start to notice it quicker, and then you will start to know how to change it. That's what we will work on together. But it is work, but it's work that is worth it. If you're listening to this and you're like, oh my God, that sounds awful. I don't want to do that. I just want it to be easy, then I'm not your person because I will never sit here as your coach and tell you that this is easy and it's no big deal and it's super simple. Is it simple in theory? Yes. Is it easy? Is it quick? Is this overnight? Not at all. But is it worth it? Absolutely lowly. If you're feeling stuck and you don't like being stuck, and you're willing to do the work to work yourself out of that, to get out of that rut, to get unstuck. If you're willing to do that, it takes some time, but it makes your life so much easier in the long run. More joyful, more fulfilling. And that's really all of us want to manifest in the end, anyway. Is just anything that you want to manifest is simply because you think you're gonna feel better when you get it. I want to manifest more money. Yeah, because you think it's gonna make you happier, right? I want to manifest this, I want to manifest that. In the end, if you really, really think about it, all you're really trying to manifest is a feeling. We just want to be happy, we want to be more joyful, we just want to feel maybe you want to feel like you have a per a purpose and you're fulfilling it. All that we're chasing is just a feeling. It takes a little bit of work to change that cycle, but once you do, that cycle works on default, just like the one you have now. But it's a cycle that you chose. It's a motor that you designed. So, yeah, it takes some work to build the finished product, but once you do, it works on its own. And you have to make that decision that this is the road that you want to take. No one else is gonna do it for you. We can't wait for somebody else to change our situation. We can't wait for that dream job to just show up and knock on our door. We have to decide to take the reins and do the work to change what we're doing so that we can change what we get. Right. And if that's if this is the road that you take, you don't have to do it alone. I will be here with you, right? We will have these conversations. You will make it through this. Your life can be anything that you want it to be. I will give you as much help as I can. I will be with you the entire way, but you have to make the choice. I can't make it for you, nobody else can make it for you. So if you accept the challenge, just watch for patterns in real time. Watch for the motor. All right, when it comes up, when the result happens, when the thoughts come up, when the emotions come up, just notice it. Okay, I'm gonna stop there for today, and we will continue this in the next episode, which should be ready for download. The same time this was, they were both released together. So go listen to that if you want to. Um, or just take this, do the work for a couple days or a week, and listen to part two later, whatever works for you. Thank you so much for listening. And if something you heard today made an impact or changed The way you think somehow, then share it with somebody you care about. Because sometimes it's that one moment, that one idea, that changes everything. And until next time, remember if you want to do something you've never done, you have to become someone you've never been. That is the identity advantage.