EP #4 DO MY THOUGHTS CREATE MY REALITY? (Part 3) - The Missing Piece of Manifesting -Aligned Action

 What is aligned action?  Aligned Action doesn't mean quitting your job or making massive, terrifying leaps. 

In this unexpected Part 3, we clarify what aligned action really is—and why it can be as small as sending a text message. You'll learn the difference between inspired action (that flows) and forced effort (that drains), why you need to act on those little sparks of intuition before your logical brain talks you out of them, and how to build trust in yourself to use manifestation without breaking your comfort zone. 

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Change doesn't start with what you do. Change starts with who you are. I'm your host, Kendall Keaton, and this is the identity advantage.

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All right, we are back, and today is episode four, which I probably mentioned was going to be about the emotional guidance scale, and it's not. But I think that will be the next one, which should be available now as well, if you want to go and listen to that. But this is going to be an unexpected part three. Originally I just thought that thoughts creating reality, that it would just be a two-part series. But when I was re-listening to the second part, it occurred to me that we need to talk about what action means. We mentioned that action was kind of that missing piece of manifesting that no one really talks about. There are a lot of people talking about, you get what you think about. Thoughts become things. But that next piece in the motor in the cycle is that action piece that everybody wants to change, but we need our thoughts and our emotions. We have to be conscious and aware and in control to a certain extent of our thoughts and our emotions so that we can take the actions we want to take. And I mentioned something called aligned action, and that's the direction we're going to go today because that needs explained. Action can seem very aggressive, take action, massive action, but that's not always the case. And I want you to know that. Because aligned action is not the same as efforting, it's not forcing, it's not doing something that you don't want to do. Action, aligned action, when it is aligned, actually, to be quite honest, any aligned action feels good, even if it's not aligned with what you want. Because hang with me, because that might have sounded weird, but if you are doing something out of, let's say the emotion motivating you is a fear. A fear of like not wanting to step out of your comfort zone, a fear of judgment, um, a worry or anxiety. If you are making an action coming from anxiety, fear, worry, more than likely your action is like an avoidance of something. You don't do the thing you're scared to do. You don't go on the trip, you don't take the job, you don't go on the social odding or whatever it is that you're going on. You don't do it, and it feels good not to do it. You feel a relief from it because it is aligned with the emotion that motivated it. It felt good to do. What we want is the other type of aligned action. The aligned action, the action that is moving you towards something that is coming from hope, joy, excitement, all of those good feeling emotions. But the action you're taking does not always have to be some big, massive quit your job type of action. That's something that really irritated me in the very beginning of my journey when I was reading the books and I was listening to the teachers, and I would read about people who just would say, Well, I just got so fed up, I just quit my job one day, and then everything was better. I quit my job, I moved to India, I lived in an ashram, I learned from a guru. Like, we can't all do that, nor do we all want to do that. I don't, even I, even if I could, I did not want to quit my job, leave my three children at home while I moved to India for six months. I didn't want to do that. And it was very frustrating reading and listening and trying to learn about it and seeing and hearing all these people saying, just quit your job, that that's what they did. In order for them to change their life, they had to quit their job, throw caution to the wind. And that was terrifying to me, and it's not something I wanted to do. And I want to make sure that you don't think that it's something I'm telling you to do. The action you have to take does not have to be gigantic, it doesn't have to feel life-changing. The action just needs to feel inspired. And the action that you take that is motivated by a really good feeling can be small. When you are in a good feeling state and you are, maybe you've just done a gratitude practice and you just feel really good and you feel you think of somebody you haven't thought in a while, thought of in a while. You think of them and you think, you know what, maybe I will just send them a message. And you do take that action. That's an inspired action. You were in a good feeling moment, you were feeling grateful, or you were feeling hopeful, you were feeling compassionate, you were feeling loving. Somebody popped into your head, send them a message, say, hey, I was just thinking about you. There have been so many opportunities that have come into my world simply because I followed the urge to reach out to someone I had not spoken to in a while, or reach out to someone that maybe wasn't a close connection, but I just said, Hey, I was thinking about you, just wanted to see how things were going, and it turned into a collaboration. It turned into me doing a workshop with them. It turned into me speaking at one of their events. But I didn't reach out to them because I wanted to speak or work with them. I just said, hey, I was thinking of you, how are things going in your world? And so many times they will message back and say, Oh my goodness, I was just thinking, I need a speaker for this, or I want to do a workshop, would you be interested in doing it with me? I didn't ask for that. But that's where serendipitous things line up. That's where synchronicities happen. That's where manifesting starts. It doesn't have to start in a huge, life-altering, terrifying type of action. It can start in a small action. It's the impulse to make a right instead of a left, an impulse to text this person, an impulse to go that way instead of this way, an idea that sparks in a moment of inspiration. And the trick is that you have to act on that impulse when it happens. You have to act on that inspiration in the moment before the logical side of your brain can come in and say, that's ridiculous. They probably don't remember me anyway. Well, that's stupid. I don't have time to go that way. What am I thinking that's never going to work? Right? That fearful side of our brain, that type of that part of our brain that's trying to protect us and keep us in our comfort zone, keep us in the normal, keep in, keep us in what we know, keep us in certainty, thinking it's keeping us safe, but really it's just keeping us stuck. Before that side of your brain comes in and says, you really want to do that, you have to act on it. You have to send the message. You gotta say yes to the invitation you normally would have said no to. Anything you feel inspired to do in a moment of feeling really good about it is something you should follow. Because if quitting your job right now is terrifying, don't do it. It's just going to throw you in a giant loop. If you cannot be aware of the fear that you have, know where it's coming from, and consciously, consciously, purposely change that cycle around it yet, then it's not good for us to jump ourselves into massive action. It's not good to jump into goals that are so huge and so big that they scare the shit out of us. And we can't control our fear around it. And so we go into a state of emotional chaos. That's not a good thing to do. So I want to make sure that I'm not encouraging you. I want you to know that I'm not encouraging encouraging you to take action that is going to put you in a bigger state of fear, in a state of risk that your nervous system, that your emotional agility cannot handle yet. That is what I realized was one of my issues early on was that even once I trusted that the process worked, it was like, okay, I know that the law of attraction works. I'd had enough proof in my own life with the things that I have done and the things that I had tried and the things that I had manifested to know that it works. I'd had enough practice, I'd had enough proof to understand and to know. And then I would ask myself, why am I still scared then? Why am I still scared to quit my nine to five? Which I eventually did, and I have left that job. But before I did, I really had to ask myself, why am I still in this position? Why do I still feel, even though I understand what the law of attraction is, and I trust the process, and I don't have any doubt that it works, why am I still scared? And the thing that I still had doubt about was not the process. It wasn't if it really works. I had doubt in myself to be able to hold my vibration high enough and long enough for the things to manifest. That's what I had to build. I had to build a trust in myself. And sometimes we have to start small by following those little inspired actions. Not the huge quit your job, move to India type of actions. The message this person because you thought of them type of action. Because even that at first is a little bit scary. Because we have those thoughts that no, that's random and that's they're gonna think that's stupid, or they don't even remember me, anyways. Start following those inspired actions first because you have to build a trust in your own ability to use the system to adjust your cycle, to have control over your motor, over your thoughts and your emotions and your mastering of your own motivation. That's the trust that we now have to build. And we don't do that by launching ourselves out of our comfort zone with no safety net. Do you need to get out of your comfort zone? Absolutely. But your comfort zone is made up of the emotions that you feel on a daily basis. And we're gonna talk about that in that next episode, okay? The emotional guidance scale, okay, where you live on the emotional scale is what we are 100% talking about next. But I wanted to clarify that aligned action, because I think I made it sound like it is this do, go, push kind of thing. Run before you walk, don't do that. Aligned action is simply an action that was inspired by a really good feeling, by hope, by love, by compassion that you acted on before you let your logical brain say, no, that might turn out badly. You have to trust, you have to be able to look back and say, No, what was I feeling when I was inspired to do that? Was I feeling fear or was I feeling hope? Was I feeling sadness? Was I feeling joy? Was I feeling lack and scarcity or was I feeling abundance? And when you can say, No, I was feeling really grateful and abundant in that moment when I wanted to do that, so that's an action I have to trust and I have to move on. And move on it at a level, at a capacity in which your fear can handle. So if that action seems huge, if it's an idea that you want to write a book and you have the concept of it now, and you know exactly, oh, this is gonna be fantastic, you don't have to go tell 50 people about it and start looking for a publisher. Just make 10 minutes out of your schedule writing time for you and sit down during that 10 minutes and start writing down those ideas. That is an action that is aligned with something that felt really good and is gonna get you more of that good feeling. Don't quit your job to become an author. Just take a couple minutes out of your morning and dedicate it to that, to that action, to that, to that idea. You don't have to message that person you thought of and ask to work together. Just say, hey, how are things with you? Was thinking about you, wanted to say hi. Whatever feels right. But manifesting starts small. It is a trust process that you have to build. Not just with the law of attraction and what it is and the knowledge around it, and then the trusting, the proof process that it works, but then trusting yourself with the ability to use it. So that eventually, as you start taking these small aligned actions, you will start getting more comfortable with taking a little bit more advantageous actions. Eventually, these actions you will be inspired to take larger and larger movements, but it will also be comfortable for you because your comfort zone will expand with you. But we don't want to break it, we don't want to bust your comfort zone. There are times where you need that. There are times where your nervous system needs that calm refuge. But we slowly take your comfort zone of where it's at now and we expand it, and it actually moves. Your comfort zone is made up of maybe two to three emotions on that scale that are somewhat in proximity of each other. And we take that and we start just slowly moving it up the scale. But you can't jump from grief to joy in one moment and then hold on to that joy because you are tethered to that grief because you've been there for a while, and that's okay. That's being a human, that's humanity, that's part of this physical existence. Enjoy that joy while you're there. Notice that inspired action that you have when you want to do it, and then when your comfort zone brings you back down into that state of fear or grief or whatever it is, becoming aware that wait, when I had that inspiration to do this thing or talk to this person, I was feeling good about it in that moment. So I'm going to trust it and I'm just gonna send that message. I'm just gonna shoot that email. I'm just gonna say yes, I'm gonna go to this dinner. Do the small things and then bigger and bigger things will start to feel more and more comfortable for you. We don't have to jump out of the airplane without a parachute. We're gonna build the parachute first. It's okay to need a safety net. Aligned actions come from really good feeling emotions and they don't feel like effort when you do them. And I am saying all of this to myself as I'm saying it to you because the reason this jumped out at me when I re-listened to that episode is because this is in my life right now. There will probably, we are not perfect, and there were always there are always things that we are working on. There are things in my life right now that I am doing out of effort. And I know that. And I am still working. It is a work in progress. It's about the journey. This is something I will work on my entire life. So this is not a one and done. I am not promising you the trick to manifesting so that you can ever have everything that you want tomorrow. This is a way of life that can make you feel so much better on a daily basis. Do I always live without fear? No, there's things that I'm still scared of. Do I always live completely stress-free stress-free? No, there are moments where I feel stressed. There are moments where I get worried about something, but where in years past, that worry could take me to my knees. That worry, that negative spiral, that doomsday thinking could literally put me in tears over something that's not even happened. That doesn't happen anymore. But it's because I'm more aware when that emotion hits that I don't like. I am very aware that it hits because that's not my comfort zone anymore. My comfort zone has moved up that scale. I am very aware now when I hit boredom because it's below what I'm used to, and I don't like it anymore. Boredom used to feel good because it was up on the scale from all those other emotions that I didn't like. The point of all of this is to know that action does not have to be huge. Action can be small if taken from the right motivating emotion. Trust that spark of intuition. You won't always know where it's going. It might not always make sense, the person that you think of to message going a different way to work. Saying yes to a dinner that you really don't even think you want to go to, but in a moment of feeling really hopeful, you thought, oh, this could be a good thing. Just because you take that action doesn't mean all of a sudden the path is going to be completely illuminated and you're going to see step three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, twelve all the way to your dreams, and you know the whole path. You might just see step one from that. You might not see where the whole thing is leading, and you don't have to. It's a trust process. Just trust. Even if the first step is tiny and it feels like nothing, when you start following those little sparks, those little inspirations, things will start to shift, things will start to show up, doors start to open, things start falling into place. And it doesn't feel like effort, it feels like flow, like being in the flow. And again, do all of this without judgment of yourself. When you find yourself taking actions that are forced, that might be something that you have to do right now. There are still areas in my life, even after all of this, there are still areas in my life where I'm doing things out of effort. And I know that, but I'm not judging myself over it. I just know that's an area of my life that I still need to do some work on. So I'm compassionate with myself. And I know that there will come a time where I will be ready to give away that effort. Whether it's we are still efforting because we think not doing it is going to hurt somebody else. Maybe we have people in the lives in our lives that we take care of. We think maybe our children will be affected if we stop doing that. Maybe we think somebody else in our life that we care about will be upset if we stop doing that. Maybe it's a financial issue, maybe it's bringing in income that you're scared to lose. Whatever it is, if it feels entirely too terrifying to just stop doing that effort, to stop efforting, that's okay. Do this work, build that safety net to start trusting yourself to be able to raise that emotion a little bit. You don't have to quit whatever that is, cold turkey. Just start looking for those moments where you feel good and have a little spark of inspiration, a little bit of motivation to do something small and just do it. Do it and trust. Don't overthink it, you just do it. And you trust that when you follow that inspiration, the path will eventually reveal itself. In the end, you look back and be like, oh my goodness, had I not done that one thing, I don't think any of this other stuff would have happened. That's manifesting. It's how things show up, and you look back and you're like, how in the world did that even happen? How am I living the life I'm living right now? But it's all because of this one thing. So pay attention to those small sparks of inspiration, of aligned action. Know what they're aligned with, what emotion pushed you to do it, trust it, act on it, go with the flow, and just watch what happens. Thank you so much for listening. And if something you heard today made an impact or changed the way you think somehow, then share it with somebody you care about. Because sometimes it's that one moment, that one idea that changes everything. And until next time, remember if you want to do something you've never done, you have to become someone you've never been. That is the identity advantage.