EP #9 Stop Waiting For Clarity - How to take action when you don't feel ready

Are you waiting to feel ready before you take action?

Waiting for the perfect plan.
 The perfect timing.
 The perfect clarity.

Here’s the truth: clarity doesn’t come before action — it comes because of action.

In this episode of The Identity Advantage, we talk about:

• Why waiting for clarity keeps you stuck
• How uncertainty creates paralysis
• Why action creates alignment
• The power of pivoting without apologizing
• How to stop overthinking and start moving
• Why being willing to be “bad” at something is the fastest path to growth
• The real reason you’re afraid to start

If you’ve been stuck in indecision, second-guessing your next move, or waiting for your ducks to be in a row — this episode is your wake-up call.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:05

Change doesn't start with what you do. Change starts with who you are. I'm your host, Kendall Keaton, and this is the identity advantage.

SPEAKER_01 0:19

Welcome to the first official episode after this rebrand. So if you have been listening up to this point, you already know things look a little different, they sound different, and I am here to tell you that I am freaking excited about it. And I want to address something right out of the gate. This show has only been going for about four to five weeks, and I already made changes. And there was a part of me that was thinking, like, is this too soon soon? Are people gonna think this is inconsistent? And you know what? I'm not here to play small anymore. So we're gonna talk about this because this episode I want to talk about today, it's not really about why I changed it. It's more about why it didn't start out like this. And more importantly, is how do you take action before you're clear on what that action should be? When I launched this podcast on day one, when it was the manifesting mom, I was not a hundred percent sure. I still wondered if it was the right title. Was it the right messaging? Were the graphics right? Was the tone right? And questioning that had kept me stuck for months and months and months. I had stopped recording, I had not launched it, I was asking dozens of other people what they thought and what they thought I should do. And the more I asked, the more uncertain I got. I got so uncertain that I stopped moving. And eventually I just had to say, you know what, this is good enough. We have to be okay with good enough. And if it needs to change, I will know when I know, but I've got to move. I have to get this out there. I have to start moving. And that's what we're going to talk about today is how do you take action before you feel ready? Because the reason you don't feel ready is usually just because you don't feel clear. You don't know or you think you don't know what to do. Because we tell ourselves, if we just know for sure what to do, we'll do it.

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Right?

SPEAKER_01 1:53

We'll look up to the heavens, we say a prayer, prayer to who, or pray to whoever you pray to and say, well, if you just tell me what to do, I will do it. Just tell me the next step and I will take it. And the universe is looking back down and saying, if you will just take a step, I'll tell you if it's right or not. But move. This is why we buy the books. This is why we will buy a course. Like tell us step A, B, C, D, E, F, G, and I will do it. But I want to be clear about the start and the finish. And if I do that, I will move. We want step 12 before we take step one. We want the path to be completely open. We want to see the ending. And if the path looks messy, we're scared to go. If the path looks messy, if it looks overgrown, then you're gonna have to take your own hatchet and you're gonna have to clear it as you walk through it. It will become clearer when you start moving. It was only by launching the podcast with a name that I wasn't sure was right, with messaging that I wasn't sure was right, that I got enough information to realize what was, to know what the next best step was. You don't need the whole path. You just need the next best step. And after you take it, then you'll be shown what's the next best one after that. And this right here matters because you have to be okay with pivoting when you need to. You have to be okay with some people liking it, some people not liking it. It's not supposed to be for everyone. That's a huge part of what I had to accept. I thought I was taking a risk. I thought I was stepping out of my comfort zone or being edgy, but looking at it now, after more of the clarity that I have gotten, I was still playing it safe. I was trying to make sure that everybody or most of everybody was comfortable, that I wasn't turning anybody away. I wasn't putting anyone off, wasn't scaring anyone off. But when we try to be for everyone, we're not hitting anyone directly. So last April, I was at a business event in Arizona. And this particular morning, I had this, this strong, just intuitive feeling. It was, it was very vivid, like today will matter, something important is going to happen today. I listened to somebody speak that day at that event, and it hit me so hard. It was, it was one of those moments where you realize like I was looking at her on stage and listening to what she was saying, saying, and I had that moment of that's what I want to do. What she's doing right now, that's what I want to do. And afterwards, I went up to meet her and I just wanted to tell her how much I appreciated her message and her talk. And she hugged me. I cried a little bit and she grabbed me by the shoulders and she said, You will polarize people. People will love you and people will hate you, but you are not here to please everyone. You have a message and you have to be willing to polarize people. And in that moment, I nodded like I understood it, but I know now I didn't really, really accept that. Like I've always been this person who tries to say the right thing. I want to keep everyone happy, like the mediator, just diffuse the situation, a little bit of a uh people pleaser, maybe a lot of a people pleaser. So even when I thought I was taking risks, I was actually really trying to be safe. And now looking back, trying to figure out why do things still fill off, I realized I'm not polarizing anyone, I'm not polarizing shit. Because here's the truth: if people are not not just flocking to you, but also fleeing from you, then you are probably not being the full version of you. We are not here to be everyone's cup of tea. We are just here to be us. You are just here to be you. I am just here to be me. And that's where this rebranding comes in because the only reason I have clarity now is because I launched even when I didn't. I did not get clearer by waiting. I got clearer by moving. Uncertainty will keep you stuck in circles. Round and round you go saying, maybe I need to do this first, but maybe that needs to be done first. What if I do the wrong thing? And you will think yourself into paralysis. We want clarity before we take action, but action is what creates clarity. There is no other way around it. You can try and you can try, but I guarantee you you are moving in circles and you are getting nowhere and you are not getting any clearer than you were months, years ago. If you are waiting to be completely clear, you are never going to move. You are going to stay right where you are. And you might be comfortable right now sitting on your ass, but your ass is gonna get sore and you're gonna want to get up, and you're going to, and you're gonna realize how much time you wasted. A lot of us are just afraid to be wrong. We don't want to move because what if we're wrong? We're afraid, and I speak about myself right now as well, afraid to do something and not be the best at it. I'm a fairly competitive person, and I feel like if I'm not gonna be great at something, it's very hard for me to do it. But I'm not gonna ever get anywhere that way. We have to be okay with being bad at something first, right? And not just bad. You might have to be okay with being shitty at something first. There has to be a first version before there's a refined version. You have to write a rough draft before you get the final draft. And if you never put pen to paper, there's never gonna be anything at all. The version of the show you're hearing now only exists because I was willing to launch a version that wasn't perfect, that I was unsure about. So if you are sitting there and you're waiting on the perfect plan, right? You're waiting on the right title, the right idea, the right diet, the right workout. If you're waiting on anything before you move, you're waiting on your ducks to all be in a row, you're telling yourself that you're trying to make sure the timing is right, but you're not. That is a lie. You are scared of uncertainty. You're unsure and it's scary, and that means you're human. So no shame around that. That's just biology. Uncertainty is unsafe to our body. It's human. But if you never move, you will never get anywhere. So, yeah, if you want to try to spend all this time getting all of your ducks in a row, but I'm gonna tell you what, they never will be. At some point you have to say, fuck the ducks, I'm moving. They can catch up or they cannot catch up, but it doesn't really matter because the only thing that matters is that you get to where you're going, that you spread the message you need to spread, that you reach the goal that you have set. The people who don't want to come along, the people who don't like what you're doing, they don't matter. The people who need what you're building, they matter. The ones who need the message that you're spreading matter, the service that you're providing, the product that you're selling, the art that you're creating, the business that you're building, the version of you that fully shows up, the people who need that, that's who matters. And the people who don't like it don't have to stay. They are free to go find what fits them. And if you're listening to this and you're thinking, damn, this girl is off her rocker, this is not for me, good. That's data for you, that's clarity for you, that's clarity for me. Somebody else is spreading the message you need to hear. And if they're not, maybe you're the one who needs to go spread it. Somebody needs to hear what you have to say. But if you're the one listening to this and you feel this hit home, it hits in your chest, and you're like, yep, that's me, I'm waiting and I need to move, then here's your truth. You will not get clarity sitting still. Clarity will meet you in motion. You have to take the step. The clarity is there, but it will not come until you move. Clear the path as you go. If six months from now you need to pivot again, then pivot it. If six months from now I get a different vision and something else feels right for me and this show and my future, I will change again and I will not apologize for it, and neither should you. Two years from now, things change, you got to sharpen some more edges, fantastic, even better. Sometimes it feels like inconsistency, or you will think it will look like inconsistency, but growth is not inconsistent even when it looks like it. Growth is alignment. You are changing, you are evolving, it's not inconsistent. Failure does not mean you fail. Failure means you learned something new and then you go try again. The only things you fail on are the things that you stop trying to do. Until you quit, you are not a failure. It doesn't have to be right, it can be wrong, and you can try anyway. Step into that version of you. I will consistently step into the version of me that I think I am meant to be, and I want you to do the same thing. Start. Be willing to be wrong, be willing for it to be okay, be willing for it to be good enough, be willing for it to be shitty, but just move. That's what I'm doing. I'm moving into the next version of whoever it is that I'm going to be. I'm always wanting to move towards the better version of me. And I want you to come with me. I want you to do the same thing. So if you are along for the ride, this is where your fear stops getting to drive the car. Kick it to the shotgun, kick it to the backseat, kick it to the curb. But we're not going to let fear hold us back anymore. And this is where action starts. Stop waiting for the right move, stop waiting for the right step, and just take the next best step. And Clarity will meet you on the way. Thank you so much for listening. And if something you heard today made an impact or changed the way you think somehow, then share it with somebody you care about. Because sometimes it's that one moment, that one idea that changes everything. And until next time, remember if you want to do something you've never done, you have to become someone you've never been. That is the identity advantage.