EP #14 When Happy Feels Hard - Why it feels hard and what to do about it.

Why does being happy sometimes feel so hard?
If you’ve been trying to think more positively, improve your mindset, and feel better emotionally—but it still feels exhausting—this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Identity Advantage, Kindyl breaks down why positive thoughts can feel difficult to hold onto when your mind and body are used to stress, sadness, anxiety, guilt, shame, or overwhelm. She shares her personal story of depression, emotional exhaustion, and the mindset tool that helped her begin changing her life from the inside out.

This episode explores how your thoughts create emotions, how emotions reinforce identity, and how that identity loop can keep you stuck in patterns that feel impossible to break. You’ll learn why “just think positive” often doesn’t work, why certain emotions can become familiar, and how to begin building the emotional stamina needed for real change.

Inside this episode:

•  Why happy can feel hard when you’ve lived in survival mode 
•  The connection between thoughts, emotions, behavior, and identity 
•  How emotional patterns become self-reinforcing loops 
•  Why changing actions alone usually doesn’t last 
•  A simple journaling process to identify the thought behind the feeling 
•  How to move up the emotional scale one thought at a time 
•  Why consistency matters more than perfection 

If you’ve felt stuck in depression, anxiety, overwhelm, or negative thought patterns, this episode will help you understand what may be happening beneath the surface—and how to start shifting it.

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And the fact that this tool came into my life is not an accident. And it's not an accident that you are listening to this right now. If you don't need to hear this, somebody in your life does. Change doesn't start with what you do. Change starts with who you are. I'm your host, Kendall Keaton, and this is the identity advantage. Listen up, if you are somebody who has really been trying to work on your thoughts, if you have been trying to be more positive, if you've been trying to shift your mindset, because you know your thoughts matter, but it still feels really hard sometimes, then this episode is for you. Okay, that's what we're going to talk about today. It's when we are trying to just, I just want to be happy and we're reaching for those positive thoughts, we're reaching for those better feeling emotions, and we feel like we can grasp it, but it just feels so hard. Staying happy feels hard. To try to remain positive all the time, especially at the beginning of the journey, can feel exhausting. So if that resonates at all, this episode is for you. If it doesn't resonate, I will guarantee you that there is somebody in your life dealing with this issue right now. That they are putting on a smile, they are trying to be happy, and they are emotionally exhausted inside, just barely holding on. That is either you or statistically, it is somebody very close to you. You might know that they're dealing with it, you might not, but I'm telling you, this is affecting people who you communicate with every single day. And I want to take you, I'm gonna take you back, I'm gonna get a little personal today. And I don't often talk about my story, and I'm not gonna talk about the whole thing today, but I really want to take you back just a little bit to the beginning. Because when I started all of this work, I was at the rock bottom. And when I say rock bottom, I mean rock bottom. I'm not gonna get into the whole story today, but I will tell you this that there was a point in my life, and really for a solid decade of my life, at least maybe possibly two, where I was battling massive depression. My kids who are teenagers now, their young adults were little. I hadn't even had my third child yet. And he's 14 now, so this is at least a decade and a half ago. And I will tell you that if I had not learned these tools, if I had not specifically learned the tool that I'm going to share with you today, had I not learned how to implement the things that I share on the show, the whole reason for this podcast, there's a very real chance that neither he nor I would be here today. This is how serious this was for me, and this work absolutely saved my life. It saved both of our lives. I was in the middle of emotional turmoil and massive mental angst. And I was given the medications, but they weren't working. I was on antidepressants, every single one of them. I was on anxiety meds, I was on mood stabilizers. I had been diagnosed with depression, with uh bipolar, and then it was borderline, borderline personality disorder, and then oh, let's add ADHD on top of that. I was on every medication and nothing was working. Nothing worked for me. Now, I am not, I want to be very clear and tell you that I'm not telling you telling you to get off medication. That's not what this episode is about. Medication absolutely serves a purpose, and for a lot of people, it's what they need. Now, if you are on medication, I'm telling you that this tool right here needs to supplement what you're doing. Take the medication, absolutely, I'm not saying get off of it, but do this also. Use this tool to make your life easier, to make yourself feel better. And if you are somebody who, like me, has tried the medications and they're not working, or if you're like me, you tried one medication which caused you to have a symptom that needed another medication, which caused you to need another medication, and finally you just said, screw it, I am not doing that. I either had medications that didn't work or medications that caused worse problems than the one that they fixed. And I knew deep inside of me, I knew, I knew the truth of what so many people will say, but nobody, I'm not gonna say nobody, very few people believe in it to the point that they will base their life on it, that they will make it a philosophy of the way they live, that the way I believe and the thoughts I think absolutely shape my life. And I had to believe in it with that kind of conviction because nothing else was working, and I didn't even feel like I had a life anymore. And I had two kids at this time that I really needed to take care of and I needed to be there for, and I I really wasn't. And the reason I get so passionate when I talk about this, the reason I'm so passionate about the work I do, the reason I even started this podcast to begin with, is because I want to teach this to as many people as I can, because this changed everything for me. Most people will admit that, yeah, my thoughts matter. I should be, I should think more positive, but I just I cannot express this enough that if you will commit to using it consistently enough to let it change your life, it will. Because this is not a diet, it is not a pill you take, and then the problem is solved, and then you stop, and now you're magically fixed. This is a practice, it's a commitment, it's a philosophy, it's a belief that you are stilling inside of yourself. That's so much of what I talk about here is that our beliefs create everything else. Who you believe that you are affects everything that you do, it affects everything that you get. And the tool that I'm talking about today, the skill set, is how you start to change those beliefs that are not serving you. That belief I had that I didn't deserve to be here, that people would be better off without me, that I had absolutely nothing to offer. That is the place that I was in. And I knew that if I didn't change something, I wouldn't be here much longer. And the fact that this tool came into my life is not an accident. And it's not an accident that you are listening to this right now. If you don't need to hear this, somebody in your life does. I was at the end of the road and I decided, you know what? I'm just gonna take this and I'm gonna run with it. There's something in this that sounds true. So I'm gonna pick up a piece of paper, I'm gonna pick up a pen, and I'm just gonna start writing my thoughts. If changing my thoughts really can change my life, what do I have to lose at this point? And so I started the work, writing all the thoughts, all the emotions that were connected to them that didn't feel good. I had to sit in the uncomfortableness of it, in the discomfort of all these nasty emotions, because I didn't have a lot of good ones to feel. But it didn't take long for me to be able to start changing that, for me to be able to work out of that depression into actually feeling happy some of the time. But here's what happened: happy felt so hard. It felt hard to be happy. It wasn't even comfortable, like I could hold on to the happy for a moment, and then it just felt mentally exhausting. And when I would let myself come back down into this negative self-talk pattern, I remember telling my best friend at the time, she's still my best friend. She has been through this entire insane journey with me. But I remember telling her, there's something really comforting about being negative. Like when I go back into that like self-pity, telling myself like all these negative things, just telling myself what a piece of shit I am and how everyone would be better without me. And there's there's a comfort piece, like some part of it feels good. And she was somewhat confused about it. She's like, Okay, I've been there, but there's nothing about that that feels good. But here's why it felt good to me and relief to me, and not to her. Is because my body at the time had experienced so much depression for so long that that was its comfort zone. Every thought we think creates an emotion, and every emotion we feel creates a chemical, and we get addicted to chemicals. Cortisol is created, it's a stress hormone. And we create it ourselves by thinking thoughts that make us feel bad and anxious and worrisome and depressed. And our body gets a dose of cortisol and we get addicted to it. So when I would have those thoughts, when we have those thoughts that create a bit of a happy emotion, our body doesn't latch on to the oxytocin right at first and just be like, this feels fantastic. It says, Hey, where's the cortisol? I need my fix. It's addicted to the drugs, to the hormones, to the chemicals that are created when we are living in that pity party and feeling all of that. And so when I finally at the end of the day would just let go of all those happy thoughts, I was trying so hard to think and just let myself fall back into the depression, it was like this dose of relief because I was getting my fix, I was getting my drug, and it felt comfortable. If that is you right now, you are not broken, you are not doing anything wrong. If that is you and you are listening to this show right now and you have grasped a moment of happy and you know what it feels like to have happy feel hard, that means you have started doing the work. That means you are on the road to a completely different life. Do not give up on it. Do not give up on yourself. You just have to develop the emotional stamina. It's like, so those of us who are in a deep depression and we are trying to grab onto happy. And if you have heard me talk about the emotional ladder before, you're gonna hear me talk about it all the time. This is a concept that you can't hear about enough. So if you haven't got used to it, you better get used to it because I'm gonna talk about it all the time. But happy is if you think about it of your emotions as a ladder, depression is at the bottom, and happy is pretty close to the top. So when we get up there, it's very hold hard to hold on to it because it's so far away from where we're at. Imagine if you decided you hadn't ran in forever, and you decide all of a sudden one day you're gonna run a mile and you're also gonna do it in under five minutes, and you just take off running in a massive sprint, and you're gonna you you're just gonna make this work. If you're me and you don't run very often, you haven't even made it through one full lap, like a quarter mile, and I'm gonna be exhausted. I'm gonna have to stop. I'm gonna have to get the relief of stopping and catching my breath because my stamina is not built up for that. I cannot sustain it for that long. It does not feel easy. No matter how bad I want to run, stopping feels better. That's the same thing as happy, feeling hard when you are so used to feeling emotions that are low on the scale: depression, guilt, shame, anger. And I think I've said why I know that I've said this before, I'll probably say it again, is that's why anger sometimes feels so good. We're addicted to certain emotions. When you're somebody who's been angry for a long time and you just go ahead and just let yourself be angry, your body's like, yeah, this is the drug that I like. Happy can become easy if you continue the practice. And if all you've been doing so far is just trying to think positive thoughts and it's felt good for a little bit, and then it's just sucked after that, and you just fall back into the same patterns, all you need to do is just develop consistency with this practice. Every thought you have creates an emotion. And at first, the process goes so fast we don't even know what's happening. The first thing that we have to do, and it's usually the last thing we want to do, because when we start feeling these negative emotions, the first thing that we we usually tend to do is to numb it out. And we all have our own numbing mechanisms. You might scroll your phone, you might um get on Netflix. I was a huge, I love movies, and I would just get involved in a series or in a movie or something, and it would completely numb me out. And it made me feel better because I didn't have to feel those negative emotions. But they were always still there every single night. I would come home, feel awful, choose something to numb it out. It was either Netflix or it was food or it was both. And that is a cycle you do not want to be on. When you feel yourself, you have to identify what your numbing behavior is, what your numbing behavior is. It's something that will deaden the emotion. Sometimes it's something that'll give you a little bit of a dopamine kick. So playing games on your phone or scrolling TikTok. Um, one of mine was I love comedy reels, and so I would get invested in the comedy reels, and it would like trick me into thinking that I'm feeling better because I'm laughing, yada yada, yada. But you know, 45 minutes of just mindlessly scrolling those is not healthy. I was not using it to make myself feel better. I you was using it to avoid reality. We have to be really mindful of those things. We have got to sit with the emotion long enough to figure out what thought is creating it. Step one is to name the emotion. If you do not have the scale, the emotional guidance scale, I will link to it in the show notes. And those of you who have already gotten the scale, I have updated it. I've adjusted it over time based on what's actually worked for me and what I've seen work in the research, what I've seen in the commonalities between the different approaches. The original emotion guidance scale comes from Esther and Jerry Hicks and the work they did with Abraham Hicks teachings. But there are also pieces of neuroscience, of psychology, emotional regulation work, NLP, specifically some of the work of Dr. Richard Schwartz, and it needed to be incorporated into this tool. So I've kind of adjusted it to reflect some of the newer tools and the newer modalities that are surfacing. So if you have the old version, I want you to go get to the new version, the one that I've updated. The link will be in the show notes because it also has a page two to this that will walk you through some steps of how to go through and name the emotion and change the thought. Questions that you can ask yourself, the actual process of using it to create a shift in your emotional state. We have a loop that is running. We have a software. We are a computer program that has been programmed over the years, and we have this pattern, this software, this coding that is just running us, right? It's our identity loop, is what I call it. And your identity is made up of every belief that you have about yourself, about the world, about those around you, about how the world operates. And according to your beliefs, is what thoughts you will think at any point, given any circumstance or anything that happens. So you have an identity, who you believe that you are. And because who you believe that you are, you are going to think certain thoughts in certain situations. And you're going to think those thoughts almost reflexively. And then that thought, instantaneously, that thought is going to cause an emotion. And that emotion will create a chemical response in your body that will create your motivation to do something or to avoid something. And we will act from that motivation and our actions deliver results. And that result will always reinforce your identity, that belief that you have, that thought that you thought. It is a loop. And this tool interrupts that loop. So many people try to change their action. I need to do this, I want to do this. We all know what to do. There is not a lack of information in this world. Right? It's not that you don't know that smoking is bad for you and you want to stop. It's not that you don't know that vegetables are good and you're supposed to put more of them in your diet. It's not that you don't know that working out is good. There is so much information out there right now. AI can quite literally develop you a nutrition and a workout system in like five seconds. So it's not that you don't know what to do, it's that you don't know how to make yourself do it. You don't know how to make yourself change. And everyone's trying to change the action, and it never works. You're trying to change yourself and make yourself get up earlier in the morning. That's the action. But if you are caught in a depression, if you are caught in a guilt loop, in a depression loop, in a shame loop, in an anger loop, those emotions don't create motivations to get up early and work out and make your life better. It will never happen. This tool does not try to change the action. The tool, this system, the philosophy basically that I have lived my life by over the past 10 years and has completely changed everything about my life in that time, interrupts this tool at the thought and the action point. That's where change happens. I know sometimes there's this big like there's a big push to just you have to make yourself do the things even when you don't want to do them. Yes, that's true, but that's not sustainable. Can we do hard things? Absolutely. Do we want the thing to be hard every single freaking time we do it? No, that is not sustainable. That's why just changing the action might work the first time. You might go work out on Monday, but by Thursday you've broken it. Usually, if you're me, you're by Tuesday. I go work out one day. And if I haven't changed my thoughts and emotions around it, I'm not going on Tuesday. The only reason I went on Monday is something probably happened that caused me to feel really excited about it. And so I got up and I worked it. Now I'm in a better loop on that right now because I've changed my thoughts and emotions around it. Give myself a pat on the back, I'm like four weeks straight to the gym. But a month ago, I could not have said that. It's because I had not taken the time to go back and do this work. And so I could change that action about one day a week, but it was not sustainable. That's why restrictive diets don't work. Sometimes, yes, you have to do things you don't want to do, but a better strategy is learning how to make yourself want to do them. And there is a process, and this is it. If you will just sit down with a pen and paper three to five minutes, you can shift your emotional state enough that now you actually want to take whatever action that is. Even if that action is just getting up out of bed to take a shower. Some days when I was at my lowest, that action was to get up and brush my teeth. You might be in a place, somebody you know might be in a place right now where that action is just to get up and go to work. Ideally, this is a daily practice. Morning and night. When I do this every morning and every night, and I'm not gonna sit here and tell you that I'm perfect because I'm not, and I will tell anytime the topics that I'm talking about are usually because it's something that either somebody I'm close to, somebody I'm working with, or I myself have seen this pattern jump back up and it's rekindled the idea in my mind, and I've had to go back and work on it again. That's why I say this is not a one and done. It's a lifestyle. It's a way that you choose to set yourself up for every single day that you live, for every decision that you make. This process that I use when I just need myself or I just need to get myself out of a place of feeling a little bit low is the same process I use if I need to make a decision, big decision, small decision. If I just can't really decide, I'll use this process. How do I really want to feel about this? What thought would I have to think to create that emotion? Now you can go from the action state. What action do I want to take? What feeling would I have to have in order to be able to take that action? What thought would I need to think in order to feel that feeling? Now I don't know how this sounds to you. I don't know if this sounds completely logical, if it sounds insane, if it sounds, if it sounds doable, if it sounds difficult. I can tell you it works though. And if it sounds confusing, me just spouting it to you right now in words, that's why I made the document. That's why I made the tool so that you can go download it and see it. And then email me when you have questions about it. That's the whole reason I'm speaking to you right now that I'm talking about this, is because I want everybody to not just know about it, but I want everybody to know how to use it. When you know how to use this tool, you're gonna want your kids to know about it. You're gonna want your grandkids to know about it. I've had to use this tool a lot the past week, which is why I'm talking to you about it. There are a lot of really exciting things coming up for me in the next like three to four weeks, and I'm super happy about them. But also because it's a lot, it's also put a lot of pressure. I have suddenly a lot of added responsibility. And with that comes a certain amount of stress, and so I've started to feel sort of this roller coaster emotion again, and I've noticed when I'm dipping into some of those lower level emotions, which now that I've done the work, it's not depression and guilt that's pulling me back down. I'm more around like the worry, doubt. If you are if you look at the emotional scale, you'll kind of see what I'm talking about here. But worry, doubt, anxiety a little bit because there is so much to do. And my thought around it that was causing my anxiety was that there was not enough time. I had to go back and use this tool myself. I had to go back and say, okay, how am I feeling right now? If I just and I'll be completely transparent with you and walk you through exactly what my thoughts were. I had to sit and say, okay, what am I feeling? I'm feeling super anxious. And I feel it like almost in my chest. It was super unsettling. And I could feel it in my chest, almost in my stomach, like a really Nervous feeling, like if you had to have a really important conversation with someone and you did not know how it was going to go and you were super nervous about it, that's what I would compare this to. And it wouldn't go away. I couldn't sleep the other night because this is the feeling I had. And I had to stop, I had to grab my journal out and I had to start writing about it. Where is this anxiety coming from? I feel a little bit of doubt. I feel a little bit of worry. And I had to start just free writing all of my thoughts that were out. And what I realized, what the what the root thought really was, was that I had two, actually, two thoughts that were coming to mind was I don't have enough time. Which, if I really think about that, it's not it's not true. The two biggest deadlines I have coming up, I have two weeks to do it. I have plenty of time. It's a little bit closer than what I would like it. Normally I would take three to four weeks to do this sort of thing. I have to do it in two weeks. But I have time for everything that has to get done. Every, I had to start switching this thought instead of I don't have time, which I'm gonna tell you, I didn't know that thought was there until I sat down and started free writing for a lot for a while. Your thoughts are sneaking, you might not know right at first what the thought is that's causing all of this depression, that's causing happy to feel hard. Stop and give yourself a couple minutes. I realized that one of the thoughts I had was that I did not have enough time to do it. Now that made me feel extremely anxious, worried, which was causing my cortisol to spike, which is actually making the action that I needed to take a lot harder. The cortisol made me unfocused, made my tasks take longer, made me not get as much done during the day, which ended up as a result of not all of my things getting done, which reinforced the belief I don't have enough time. That's how that loop works. But when I can go back and say, you know what, let me look at this. What do I really need to get done? Let's take away the things that aren't absolutely necessary. What actually has to get done in this next 14 is actually 17 days? When I really got realistic about it, I have about three things that really have to get done. There's a lot of things that we tell ourselves that we have to get done that aren't exactly that urgent. So be honest with yourself about that. So I realized that what I had to get done was not actually as much as my brain was telling me. I was definitely over-exaggerating in my brain what was gonna have to be completed. And then the thought, I don't have enough time, that's not true. That's completely subjective. I know I have enough time for the things that I deem priorities. I will always make time for the things that absolutely have to get done. I've never had a situation in my past where I've not got something done and it been life-threatening because I'm still here. It's never ever been as detrimental as I've ever made it in my mind. All of my thoughts were quite irrational when I really let them come to the surface. And when I clear all this out, I feel a lot more calm. I feel relief, I feel a little bit content around, okay, I know I can get these things done. And when my cortisol levels drop because I've changed my thoughts and emotions around the whole situation, now my days are more productive. I get more done. It reinforces the belief that, yep, you're gonna have plenty of time. No matter what emotion you are feeling on that scale, it is causing a loop. It's causing a pattern. And that pattern, in the midst of that pattern, is an emotion that's causing a chemical reaction, and you're getting addicted to that chemical. So I'm speaking now to that person who's having a hard time breaking the depression loop, the guilt loop, the shame loop, maybe even the anger, anger loop. And you are able to grasp happy every once in a while, but it feels mentally exhausting. And maybe you've even told yourself, I just don't want to even try anymore because it's so much easier to just be like this. This process is not about being perfect at it. Ideally, this would be a daily process. If daily feels like too much for you, just decide on weekly. Maybe this is something you do on Saturday, maybe it's something you do on Sunday. Maybe you feel like, okay, I could make myself do this at the beginning of the week and the end of the week. If you're super ambitious and you're like, no, I'm ready, tell me what to do. I'm doing this every day. Fantastic. You're gonna get better that much faster. You're gonna feel better that much faster. But don't expect perfection. Don't expect to be able to run a mile in five minutes your first day or your second day or your third day. Tell yourself that this is a lifestyle change and it's okay if it happens slowly. As long as it happens. If you are where I was at the bottom of the barrel, I couldn't get any lower. I'm like, damn, any improvement from where I am at, I'll take. The more you do it, the easier it will get, and the faster you can make that emotional shift. I can make myself shift now in just a minute or two, sometimes even faster than that, because I've practiced, practiced it for so many years. But even if it's your first time doing it, it really only takes a couple of minutes to be able to get yourself to that point. It's just about picking better thoughts, just slightly better thoughts. If you're in depression and every single thing that you think, every thought you think is just making yourself feel worthless, and you have a thought that you think that makes you feel angry, and that anger feels good, that's because anger is higher up on that emotional scale than where depression is. It's okay to be angry. Okay to feel angry. That's also why anger feels good at moments. Because it's a higher frequency than depression and guilt. But get that emotional scale and look, what is slightly above anger? You might have to go through blame, a little bit of frustration, a little bit of overwhelm. But every single one of those is gonna feel better and better and better, and different thoughts will create each one of those emotions. And the more you use this, the better you will get at it, and you will start to attain thoughts that make you feel happy. And then you'll fall back down a couple steps, but then you'll be able to get back up to happy again. Eventually you'll notice that the bottom of your roller coaster, your emotional dip is not depression anymore. Maybe your emotional dip is anger. That's fantastic. And then you'll notice your emotional dip is frustration. My emotional dip right now is overwhelm. When I start to feel that I'm not feeling all that great, and I really sit nine times out of ten, it's like an overwhelm feeling, which comes from this root belief I have somehow that time is scarce. I think a lot of us have that belief, and I'm working, that's one of my active beliefs I'm working on shifting right now. I am not ever going to bring you a tool, a system that I have not used, that I'm not currently using, or that I don't know for sure works, that I don't have proof that works. I have seen this work in my own life. I have seen it work in the lives of others. Some of the most successful people in the world, this is what they do. They don't yell at from the rooftops, some of them do, but this is the work that the majority of them are doing. So don't expect perfection. Just one step at a time. One emotion, one thought at a time. That is how the shift happens. That is how emotional stamina is built. And it's how happy gets easier to hold on to, and happy will start to feel less hard. Happy will start to feel like your norm. And not because you forced it, but because you built the capacity for it. So if happy feels hard to you right now, do not give up, do not stop. You are not doing it wrong. You are building your stamina for emotional health, for emotional wealth be well-being. And if we go back to thinking about the whole running a mile thing, the people who eventually run that mile without stopping, the people who eventually actually get to the finish line in the amount of time that they wanted to get, the people who actually finish the race, who get to that point, they're not special. They're not any different than you or me. They don't have special personality traits, they don't have some sort of special sauce, they weren't born with some sort of special gene, they just didn't stop trying. That's it. They just never gave up. They said, no matter how long this takes, I'm committing to the process. I will run this mile and I will do it until it feels easy. It does not take a special person, it just takes a special amount of commitment. And anybody can make that commitment. Make the decision, go get the tool and use it. If you can make it a daily practice, please make it a daily practice. If you can only do weekly right now, that's okay too. Just do it as often as you can and be generous and be gracious with yourself. If you need help, that is what I am here for. If you have not followed the show, please go click follow because there, like I said, there's some really exciting things coming up that are gonna make this work even more accessible for me to be able to teach it on a larger scale, to be able to work with more people one-on-one and in group settings. Okay, and I'm super excited to share those with you very soon. So make sure you're following the show and anybody that you feel like could benefit from this, send it, send it to somebody that you care about. Because I guarantee you, somebody in your life right now is dealing with this. Maybe you know it and maybe you don't know it. But this is my mission to spread this tool, to spread this awareness. So people know that no matter how low they feel, no matter how impossible things feel, no matter how long you've been in that place, there is a way to make a change. Even if you feel like your situation that you are in is the thing that's making you depressed, and you feel like you can't change your situation, I'm telling you this works. I was in a financial situation that nobody wants to be in. And I felt better before my situation changed. I had to feel better until my situation could change. Because I was the one in charge of my situation. I was the one in charge of my future, and you are the one in charge of your future. Nobody is going to change it for us. Situations do not change us, we change the situations. We change, and then the situation changes. And I'm telling you, if I can do it, you can do it. If you knew me 15 years ago, the real me and where I was. If you knew my story, sometime I will I will tell it, and then you could see me today, you would say, What is that girl on? Give me some of it. Guarantee you. Do not give up. Even when happy feels hard, know that you are not alone and that there is a way out, and that you have so much more control, so much more power than you are giving yourself credit for. You are more of a powerhouse than you realize. So get the tool, do the work, don't do it because I told you to, do it because you want to, because you're ready for a change. And when you really get down to it, the process is so incredibly simple that we are all missing out on something huge if we don't use it. I'm telling you this because I care about you. I care about each and every person listening to my voice right now. You are worth more than you realize. There is somebody's life that you are meant to change. I don't care if it's a million lives, it's a hundred lives, if it's one life. There's somebody's life that you are meant to change, but the life you have to change first is yours. And it starts here and it can start today. You get to make that decision. And if you're still listening, I'm guessing that you have. So I'm gonna stop here so that you can scroll down to those show notes and get the free resource and start your journey. And in all sincerity, I am telling you, I want to know how it goes. And one more thing for those of you interested, I will be doing a live event in Riverton, Kansas. So if you are in the Southeast Kansas or Southwest Missouri area, I would love to see you there. It's a live keynote event. I will be sharing the one degree shift, how one belief and small actions can create massive change. If you want to know more, if you are interested, you can check the link in the show notes. It is a free event. There is no registration required. We will start at 7 o'clock p.m. So be there a little bit early. It is Wednesday, April 1st, 7 o'clock p.m. Come a few minutes early. If you want to know more, check the show notes or look me up on Facebook. It's just my name. You can follow me, send me a DM, I will send you any information you would like to know about it. But if you are in the area, I would absolutely love to see you there. Thank you so much for listening. And if something you heard today made an impact or change the way you think somehow, then start with somebody you care about. Because sometimes it's that one moment, that one idea that changes everything. And until next time, remember if you want to do something you've never done, you have to become someone you've never got. That is the identity of