How Old Friendships Shape New Ones, Relational Triggers, & Building Trust!

Every once in a while, you meet someone who instantly reminds you of someone from your past. That familiar feeling can be comforting or deeply unsettling—but what does it reveal about how we form new connections?

In this thought-provoking discussion, we examine how our previous relationships fundamentally shape our approach to new ones. When you encounter someone who resembles a person from your history, do you catch yourself making snap judgments? We confess to our own experiences with this phenomenon and discuss the challenge of remaining open while still honoring our intuition.

The conversation takes a powerful turn when we explore what we call "the four friends test." Inspired by the biblical story of four men who carried their paralyzed friend through a roof to reach Jesus, we ask: Who are your four friends? Who would go to extraordinary lengths to ensure you get what you need when life gets challenging? This question cuts through the surface-level connections we often maintain and forces us to consider which relationships in our lives are truly transformational rather than merely transactional.

As we share our personal experiences with trust and friendship, we touch on David Yeager's concept that from ages 10-25, we're fundamentally learning who we can trust in the world. These formative experiences create patterns that follow us throughout adulthood. We discuss those pivotal moments when we've had to evaluate which friends are truly "with us" versus those who simply occupy space in our lives.

Whether you're reassessing old friendships or building new ones, this episode offers both practical wisdom and emotional reassurance that everyone faces similar challenges in developing meaningful connections. And as James Dean once said, "You've got to try your luck at least once a day, because you could be going around lucky all day and not even know it."

Transcript

Catching Up on Friendships

Speaker 1 1:02

Call it in Michigan suck eye. Somebody did Somebody does.

Speaker 3 1:06

All right, all right, are we ready?

Speaker 2 1:08

We're recording now.

Speaker 3 1:09

We are.

Speaker 2 1:09

My buddy Robert Kesey calls the suck eyes, not the buck eyes.

Speaker 1 1:13

Yeah, where's he?

Speaker 3 1:14

from Michigan.

Speaker 1 1:16

I can't say I've never said that, before I've said it, plenty of times.

Speaker 2 1:18

Yeah, I appreciate you not saying it now.

Speaker 3 1:20

No, you know I wouldn't do that great small talk, but we want to welcome everybody back to Half Century Hangout. We've been talking about friendships the last two episodes and maybe we'll wrap things up here, but how have your friendships been going? You know you've been reconnecting with some old friends, or building some new ones, or whatever.

Speaker 2 1:43

I like asking the questions.

Speaker 3 1:45

I don't like answering those questions. You know, I do really try to give my older friends a call once in a while.

Speaker 1 1:57

You mean older, like age?

Speaker 3 1:59

Well, everybody's older friends to me, or do you mean like friends from your past, friends from my past Okay.

Speaker 1 2:05

You meant older, I thought.

Speaker 3 2:06

Friends that I haven't talked to for a while. You know I do try to stay in touch with friends, giving them a call. I am not. We talked about social media last time. I'm not a social media guy.

Speaker 1 2:22

I think you were surprised. He doesn't even like to text. Weren't you surprised? No, he doesn't.

Speaker 3 2:25

I text him and I got nothing. Email text, anything like that. There's techno geeks.

Speaker 2 2:32

You know which, you know. We have friends that all fall into those. Then you have, like techno tech people who are like don't know a thing. And then there's John. John's got like a category of his own over there, don't you, john?

Speaker 1 2:45

Why, thank you? I appreciate that that's okay.

Speaker 3 2:47

There's nothing wrong with that, I do like technology, but I am not a social media guy. I think you were very surprised when I put out my post on Facebook.

Speaker 1 2:58

The other day I did laugh. You put out a Facebook post. I was cracking it. Yeah, wow.

Speaker 3 3:04

You know, my wife and I went to the theater and we were watching and yeah, it was it was an all right show but I wasn't too impressed with it. But we always take a picture and she had it and I'm like, hey, let me post that. And luke commented back right away.

Speaker 1 3:21

Oh, I saw it oh my gosh john schultz.

Speaker 3 3:24

You posted a post on Facebook.

Speaker 1 3:28

Well, I think the post came through with cobwebs on it, like it just kind of came up and went. It was a little bit slow coming through, but you know it was all right.

Speaker 2 3:35

Oh my goodness, Just the fact that I'm hanging out with a dude that says he went to the theater man.

Speaker 3 3:42

That puts me in a different category I know, I do that.

Speaker 1 3:46

I said cachet last episode.

Speaker 2 3:47

so what the heck?

Speaker 1 3:50

I think it's funny how you said about you know, with friends and old friends and things like that, that this time of the year for me is big and I can't wait till next time. But we're coming up, we're getting closer to St Patrick's Day Yep, let's go, which for me is like kind of a big thing. Again, not a, as far as I know. I don't have a lick Irish in me. There's not one anywhere but living in Chicago for as long as I did it just reinvented the whole thing for me.

Speaker 2 4:18

By the way, can I just mention that we are going to record our next episode, which is going to air the week of St Patrick's Day in full-fledged brewery which is here in Council Bluffs, Iowa, and we're going to be hanging out with Desi and Marshall in full-fledged brewery.

Speaker 1 4:36

And it'll be. You know, we're here in my garage again today, which is nice, but it'll be, nice to get out and do it somewhere else, absolutely, absolutely. You know have a few drinks along the way, which we're still doing now, so it's good. But I think that what you've asked about the old friendships I mean, you can't be as old as we are and not have old friendships, right?

Speaker 2 4:56

Sure I mean.

Speaker 1 4:58

it's just not. Those two things aren't mutually exclusive. So I think that when we talk about it, when we talk about it, we have those friendships that we really cultivated or got you through a certain time of your life, or we're at a great point in your life, or maybe they were at a low point in your life, and that's why there's so many different things that could enter into it. But I think that the one thing that I always look at is that I could call that dude today and it would be like we never missed a beat.

Speaker 2 5:30

You know what I mean.

Speaker 1 5:31

Whether I've talked to him in a year or two or not, I still have a group of friends that we have a group message that goes out and maybe it's on a birthday or maybe we see something or some meme. Usually it's a meme that we see as highly inappropriate, but these guys would really appreciate it and I'll send it out and we all laugh about it. We're kind of spread out now. We're all over the country. A couple guys are retiring. It's fun to just kind of see when your kids are getting older and they're going on to things and you see stuff on Facebook and their kids are getting married and they're having grand babies and all this stuff and it's kind of like it's cool the progression of life as we see it. But we see it with our friendships and how that, as you get older, seemingly more mature, right, seemingly, uh, how that friendship changes but it grows with it.

Speaker 1 6:26

It grows at the same time you know, and where things might not be as important as they were before. It's still important and you still talk about it and you still have a good time with it.

Speaker 3 6:37

Yeah, and you, you were talking about perspective, our, our perspective changes as we get older, as we, as we grow, as we mature.

Speaker 1 6:46

I still don't know what I'm going to grow up.

Speaker 2 6:49

I know me neither.

Social Media and Communication Styles

Speaker 3 6:51

But we were talking also the other day about how we might see someone who reminds us of a person in our past. I think we talked about maybe exploring that concept and discussing how it might impact our relationships moving forward. So how those ways that our memories of our past experiences color our current interactions with others get. Maybe we should talk a little bit about that. Have you ever met someone you immediately felt like you know, I've got some familiarity with this person, or on the opposite side, that's too funny.

Speaker 3 7:37

Oh my gosh, I just saw somebody I really don't want to see ever again. Yeah, you ever got those kind of vibes from people.

Speaker 2 7:48

Yeah, sometimes they're very positive. So there's a guy that's around Council Bluffs that reminds me of a guy named Duke Raymer who I grew up with. Duke was one of my very best friends. He now lives in Topeka, kansas, and just Lawrence Kansas. Just an amazing dude Hung out last summer a little bit. And there's a guy around town that as soon as I look at him, I'm thinking of Duke, and this was Duke whenever he was like a little bit younger. And then John you mentioned, like there's some people around that man.

Speaker 2 8:28

You look at him and it's like I think I start to experience ptsd right, yeah because, like they remind you of people from back in the day where you're like, oh shoot, yeah, I remember that guy.

Speaker 1 8:41

That wasn't a good relationship yeah and so it kind of drives you back to the place that you're used to, because, uh, you know, we come up with these topics sometimes right off the top of the cuff, and I think that this topic bore itself completely out of the idea that I was looking at somebody.

Speaker 3 8:59

Yeah, you saw somebody. Yeah, I saw somebody, and I just was like oh my goodness. We should talk about this.

Speaker 1 9:04

Yeah, we should. Great porch talk, we always have the positive ones, but man, those negative ones. It comes up and you're like, oh, man. I need to go back to sleep and wake up, and hopefully this isn't Groundhog Day.

Speaker 2 9:18

You know what I mean?

Speaker 1 9:19

Yeah, yeah, and I think that sometimes, at least for myself, and actually the day that we talked about this, when I mentioned it to you guys and I was laughing when I did it was I really have to make sure that I don't become judgmental with that person, Right, because obviously they have nothing to do with the person.

Speaker 2 9:39

They're a completely different person. No, it's a different person. It's not fair to them, right?

Speaker 1 9:43

Just because it struck something in me a nerve somewhere doesn't mean that they're anything. It just means that I need to still treat them, you know, with respect and whatever. But I came over to you guys because one had just happened and I was like oh my gosh.

Speaker 1 9:58

I can feel my right temple. It's just burning right now, you know, like something's happening. But I think that there's always people and a lot of times those people when I meet people like that there's. There's people around town here that I've met over the years that remind me a lot of times of some friends that I've had in the past, or my cousin Eric, who lives up in Michigan, and, you know, I'm immediately somehow drawn to them, somehow one way or the other you know whether it's on a very superficial level or whether it's like a hey you know, dude, you remind me of this person you know and we just get to talking about something.

Speaker 1 10:35

And you know, I think it's kind of a gift sometimes for me that I could pretty much talk to anybody, but sometimes it's probably a little bit of a you can talk of a hindrance, you know, but like even last summer when we went to San Diego, right, and we were out there.

Speaker 3 10:48

He could talk to anybody.

Speaker 1 10:49

We were just talking with people and like there's somebody with a dog or you know whatever.

Speaker 3 10:53

We're out on the pier. This guy is homeless. He's talking to him, you know.

Speaker 2 10:59

It's Luke. My wife says I've never met a stranger.

Speaker 3 11:03

So I think that's not a bad thing. No, it really is not a bad thing.

Speaker 1 11:05

It really is not a bad thing, and I think that when we talk about, like, the lasting effect of relationships, right, when we see those people that remind us maybe in one way or the other, whether it's how they look or how they act or how they talk or whatever it is I think that that helps. It probably, you know, introduces more endorphins into our system because it brings us back to a good place or it brings us back to good memories of times past. Those kind of things I often try, especially more lately. I don't like to say that I live in the past, but sometimes I get stuck in that a little bit.

Speaker 2 11:45

Sure.

Speaker 1 11:46

And I don't want to do that, but I know and I realize, and my wife reminds me of it. Sometimes it's like you know, dude, you need to come back to reality here. Yeah, and I get it, but it's like there was good times and there's bad times, right for everybody. So sometimes those good times really come forward and I think, for me personally, it puts into perspective some of the things that you're going through in the present. It's like, hey, this really isn't as bad as I thought it was.

Speaker 1 12:11

Or this situation that I'm dealing with, really I'm making it more than it is, sure, or I'm being a little dramatic, you know Right, me, yeah, dramatic, yep, yep.

Speaker 3 12:19

I've been there, been there, done that yes.

Speaker 1 12:23

But I think that people, people, we work with people, that we see, you know we're drawn to people. I mean, we're human beings, right? So you're drawn to a certain kind of people, just naturally. Whether you're trying to or not, you're drawn because of a certain thing, right, it's like the three of us.

Speaker 2 12:41

Why are we drawn to each other?

Speaker 1 12:42

Yeah, just because probably because, at least in my, in my recollection of what it is is I feel comfortable around you guys. Like you said in the last episode, I could talk about something real touchy if I wanted to.

Speaker 2 12:54

And I have yeah.

Speaker 1 12:55

Now we haven't really done it on air, Not on air right. But we've done that and I'm okay with it, because you're either going to tell me, luke, you're full of crap, or you're going to be like, yeah, I hear you, but maybe think about it this way, or you're going to be like, yeah, I got nothing for you, bro, you know, I mean, and that's okay. Yeah, because really, if you're in that place where I know that I could throw anything in you guys' lap, then that's good for me.

Speaker 1 13:19

You know, what I mean, that's that's good for you, yeah.

Speaker 3 13:21

Well, and, and you, you talked a little about judging people and not judging by how they look more, and I think that a lot of times we do judge people by how they look. You know, don't judge a book by its cover. But I also heard you say you know, maybe the way they act or the way they talk or the way. And I had an experience right with somebody that maybe acted or talked that way and it was not a very good, it was pretty negative, and I learned over time that I don't want to have an experience like that again. So I'm probably not going to be friends with that person.

Speaker 3 14:07

And we talked about how we become friends with people and you just talked about us and how we've kind of become friends and it's probably a lot because you know we see maybe some other friends in the people that we have friends with.

Speaker 2 14:30

I think what we do because we're down the road a little bit further than we were when we were in our 20s and 30s, but I think there's these categories that we tend to stick people in that this person acts like this, so this person goes in this category. This person acts like this, so this person goes in this category. I've observed this behavior, so I want to. This person goes in this category. I've observed this behavior, so we're going to stick with this person in this category. And so, whether you're a Michigan fan or a Buckeye fan, right?

Speaker 1 14:57

We know what category to put you in, Chuck.

Speaker 2 15:01

We're in a category.

Speaker 3 15:03

And they're still friends people, they really are still friends.

Speaker 1 15:06

And I think that's the biggest thing, though, is that you look at it and you say, like you're saying, you put them in categories, right, in these categories, how do you say it? It's like, ok, there's still friendship categories, right. I mean, there's really good friends, there's friends that are here, you know, there's acquaintances, there's just people, right, and I think that the more that I look at it and the more that that we've gone forward, it's. It's kind of like for us and you were just bringing this up a little bit ago, when we talked about stats, which we said we weren't going to do but you said something about podcasts, and how many, so many podcasts don't make it past like five episodes, right, right. So here we are in episode eight, and we still have plenty of stuff to talk about.

Speaker 1 15:52

It's not like we're drowning for entertainment here right?

Speaker 1 15:54

No, no, we're not, we can figure it out, but I think that that says a lot to how our friendship as a group has even gotten stronger just since we started this, because I think that it gives us a deeper understanding of each other, which, if we go back to last episode, that online connection you can't always get that. I mean, there's body language, there's all sorts of things in person that you cannot get the same depth on an online or a social media or whatever type connection. It's just not quite the same.

Speaker 1 16:33

It doesn't mean you can't make those connections. I just think on a deeper level and a more meaningful, longer lasting level, the in-person thing is that much more.

How Past Relationships Color Current Ones

Speaker 2 16:42

Yeah, I think there's just a back to that point. I think there's just a quality aspect there that you can't achieve a certain quality of friendship without doing, without actually meeting face to face. Let me share a story with you guys. There's a group of guys I hang out with and there's a story it's out of the good book I hang out with and there's a story it's out of the good book, the Bible right, and it's a story about four guys who took their friend Luke chapter 7, I think took their friend to Jesus, hopped up on the roof, jumped on the roof, dug a hole through the roof. This guy couldn't walk, he's paralyzed.

Speaker 3 17:33

Lowered him down. Lowered him down, right, you know the story.

Speaker 2 17:36

Oh, I do know the story and took him to Jesus. They went to a huge expense, they put themselves out there.

Speaker 3 17:45

Big risk.

Speaker 1 17:46

They were line jumpers. They jumped to the front of the line. Yes, yeah, themselves out there big risk. And the line jumpers, they jump to the front of the line, yes, yeah and so the the question we asked in that group was who are your four guys?

Speaker 2 17:58

who are the four guys that you would that you? You know that if you were in trouble, like if you really needed something, that they would get you the help that you needed. Do you guys have four guys?

Speaker 1 18:15

Well, I have two of them sitting here.

Speaker 3 18:16

Okay, there you go.

Speaker 1 18:18

But I thought you were going down the thing of four guys who were going to lower my ass through a roof. I'm like, well, it depends on what we were doing.

Speaker 2 18:25

It'd be a big hole, I mean literally. It's not very nice.

Speaker 3 18:30

Hey, I'd be, a big hole too.

Speaker 1 18:34

I mean I think that I could you know if I was in a spot or I knew something was going on, I could find four guys. I mean I've got plenty of now they might you know. I guess it depends on proximity how close they were. If I needed to have those four guys like 10 minutes from now, it would be a little different.

Speaker 3 18:52

Well, it probably depends on their skill level too, right? Right, yeah, can they use a hammer and saw or dig through a roof or whatever it is, and are they strong enough to lower you down? But what you're saying is would they get you where you need to be?

Speaker 2 19:10

whatever it needed to be where you need, it doesn't have to be like like yeah, big time like religious stuff or whatever right it just has to be do you have like four friends that you could count on that in in the? In the end, like you know that they would, they would give you the help that you needed and I think that's, uh, that's an, I think that's an important question.

Speaker 3 19:31

That's a good thing to think about, and it kind of goes back to what we were talking about last time or even before then what develops that friendship, what makes it from transaction to transformation, and who are those people that can help you get better? You know, building those relationships and making them transformational instead of transactional. And that's your four guys, right.

Speaker 1 20:07

Yeah.

Speaker 3 20:07

Those are the people that help you get better yeah, and be a cliche, cliche, better version of yourself right, yeah that's.

Speaker 3 20:21

that's where we, that's where we want to be with friends. We want them to help us get better and help us be better, and I know we're talking a little bit of how the past colors our future or colors our friendships now. And I just wanted to mention a book by David Yeager. It's 10 to 25. And what he says is from about 10 years old to about 25 years old we're trying to figure out the world, yeah, and we're trying to figure out who we can trust.

Speaker 3 21:00

And I think trust is a big thing on those four guys.

Speaker 2 21:03

Yeah, who do you?

Speaker 3 21:04

trust to get you there, and I think we've been talking about that and dancing around that subject of trust by saying I could say anything to you guys and I trust that it would be received in a way that wouldn't make me feel bad.

Speaker 2 21:25

No, we process it with you.

Speaker 3 21:27

That it would make me better. It would make me think through what I'm saying. It would make me think about how I could play out that, whatever it is. But his book says from 10 to 25, we're trying to figure that out and it kind of goes along with what we're saying. Your experiences with people mm-hmm. Color the relationships you're going to have later and you talked about. You know, you saw someone who looked like someone or was doing something like someone.

Speaker 3 22:07

And that's when this topic came up and we said, yeah, that may not be a bad topic to talk about.

Speaker 1 22:16

I think that it's one of those things and you mentioned trust a few times with those four guys, if we're using that analogy with the four guys.

Speaker 2 22:22

Right.

Speaker 1 22:23

I think that for me personally, I have a little bit of a thing with that, because there was a time in my life where I had to really double check the idea if I trusted these people.

Speaker 2 22:38

You know what I mean.

Speaker 1 22:39

And I think it was very hard for me because I'm probably a little naive when it comes to that.

Speaker 2 22:46

Sometimes, where I I don't, I don't.

Speaker 1 22:49

I don't look at it deep enough, as I probably should.

Speaker 2 22:53

Sure.

Speaker 1 22:54

And I think I've probably you know people would look at it I've probably gotten burned a few times by that Right which, you know, those things for guys sometimes are hard to admit right. Like I don't want to admit that I did, but I think that there was a certain time in my life where I had to look at a group of people that I called my friends and be like all right, what side are they on here?

Speaker 2 23:17

Are they with me?

Speaker 1 23:19

Are they not really with me? Not that they're necessarily against me, but are they really with me? Are they really there? And those are hard decisions to make because, especially if they're your friends or you've been around them as friends, right, you need to sometimes make that hard decision to like what we talked about last episode. You know I'm not going up to them and saying, hey, you talked about last episode. You know I'm not going up to them and saying, hey, you're out of my life. I'm not saying that, but I'm pretty sure that most of those people knew that I was done with them. You know what I'm saying. Just by lack of whatever was going on, whether it was talking to them or messaging or whatever we create distance and sometimes too I don't know about you guys, but sometimes there are life takes us in different directions.

Speaker 3 24:04

Yeah.

Speaker 2 24:07

So, whether it's your job, or maybe you move from a different area, or your kids, or your kids or your time in life Right.

Your Four

Speaker 1 24:16

There are sometimes things that life just takes you in different directions and so those bonds are built maybe around kind of circumstances that are going on and in the same breath, that same group and time, where I was questioning the trust that I had for some of those people, some of those people stepped up and I'm like, oh for sure.

Speaker 2 24:39

You know what I mean. So it's both sides. You're with me.

Speaker 1 24:41

I don't want to be just like the negative, that's saying oh, you know, those people were whatever.

Speaker 2 24:44

Yeah.

Speaker 1 24:45

Because there was a lot of them that were like I'm here for you, we got this, yeah, we'll do it together, we'll figure it out. So there's both sides of it where it's not just saying oh, we're getting the Nellies out, we're figuring out who the positives are too.

Speaker 3 25:00

You know I'm in the same breath. You go through those times in your life where you find out who your real friends are, and I think that's what you're talking about. We find out who our real friends are when we go through those tough times in life. Those are not easy.

Speaker 2 25:20

Yeah, I mentioned Duke Raymer. He's a dude that I think. I've known him now for 41 years.

Speaker 1 25:30

Goodness gracious, isn't that crazy. That's a long time.

Speaker 2 25:33

That's a long time. And then there's another guy.

Speaker 1 25:35

I've been trying to grow grass in my backyard for that long and it still doesn't work.

Speaker 2 25:39

There's another guy I've been trying to grow grass in my backyard for that long and it still doesn't work. There's another guy, uh, russ morningstar, who I've known for about, uh, probably close to 40 years, and you know, those are the types of guys that that like, even though proximity we talked one episode about proximity, how proximity has taken us away from those relationships. As soon as I visit Dayton, or as soon as I go back to. Lawrence or whatever those proximities are it goes away, it's like we never.

Speaker 3 26:11

When.

Speaker 1 26:12

I go to Hesperia.

Speaker 3 26:13

Michigan. Here's what I'm sure they say about both of you. Do you remember the time that we were Luke? We were doing yeah, oh yeah, and we talk about it right when we're there. I remember when, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 26:26

And it's just one of those things that I think that for guys like us, we know those people, we know how those relationships work, we know who, the people in our life that are important, and we're going to keep that, no matter what. You know you don't ever want those to go away, you don't want to diminish it, you want to keep it there. And again, if your proximity isn't there, okay. I mean, life happens, but in the same breath it's like you never moved away or whatever.

Speaker 3 26:54

You're still there.

Speaker 1 26:55

You send your memes every once in a while or give them a call and right, yeah, I mean, it's just one of those things where you know, call them at 10, 30 at night, when you think it's 8, 30, it's just the way it works.

Speaker 3 27:08

It's an accident, that's right. It doesn't matter, it's okay sure you know.

Speaker 1 27:13

But I think that I think that for us and for the people listening I mean again, we're really happy that you listen to us and we're really hoping that some of the things that we say instill something in you one way or the other Positive negatively, hopefully, not negatively, but if it does, let us know.

Speaker 1 27:31

Yeah we want to know I think those things are important for us, no matter what, because you know our whole goal with this is not to sit here and talk. We could sit here and talk all night, not record it you know, but the idea is is to help people maybe realize or see or hear that there's somebody else maybe going through the same thing they are or thinking the same thing or whatever it is.

Speaker 1 27:58

You know and don't here's the thing I kind of laugh, because I don't want to be a self-help book here, because it's not that. It's just the idea that there's so many people in our world especially in the last let's just call it the last 10 years right, where things have changed so dramatically with social media, with COVID, with all these things that are going on, you need to understand there's still people here to help you. There's still people here that care about you. There's still people here that you can make connections with and that are just like you.

Speaker 2 28:30

Yeah, and I think that's the key. Luke, you mentioned that we're here. I think the common experience is kind of what we're looking at here. There are people who will probably stumble upon this podcast and say that I get that. I get that, I get where these guys are coming from. And I think there may be even some of our friends, whether you're in Hesperia or in Dayton or down in Florida or out in San Francisco, that are like, okay, there's a freedom, because now, what I used to feel maybe shame or guilt for at least Chuck and Luke and John have kind of experienced some of these things same things, and so I think that common experience is helpful as we navigate these waters of relationships.

Speaker 2 29:26

A hundred percent.

Speaker 3 29:27

Yeah, well, you know, sounds like we're kind of coming to the end of this show and, luke, you always have a great quote to share with us. Did you find something to help us out, well?

Speaker 1 29:42

I think that I mentioned at the beginning and I just want to. I like to segue, if I can. I always try to.

Speaker 3 29:48

Oh, yes, tradition.

Discovering Who Your Real Friends Are

Speaker 1 29:50

Either do, whatever. It is that I'm summarizing. But moving on to the next, and again, we're coming up close. We're getting closer to St Patrick's Day, right, mm-hmm. And again we're coming up close. We're getting closer to St Patrick's Day, right, and so one of them that I've heard before and I've gone back, but James Dean actually said this which is actually pretty cool. A lot of people think he was pretty cool.

Speaker 2 30:13

Oh yeah, he's a cool cat, he was.

Speaker 1 30:19

You've got to try your luck at least once a day, because you could be going around lucky all day and not even know it. You know, and coming up to St Patrick's, Day and people talk about the luck of the Irish. You know all these things and I think that it's important I mean you can read into that a little more where it's not just about the luck.

Speaker 1 30:36

I mean he's talking about a bigger situation you know, that you can't just roll your day without rolling the dice once or twice, right, right, if I want to say something to Chuck, I'm going to go say it to him because his office is right next to mine, right, but if John answers his radio, which doesn't happen all the time, but if I call, him.

Speaker 3 30:54

I usually don't have it, yeah, or the volume's not up or something. Or it's on the wrong station, or it's on the wrong station.

Speaker 1 31:00

I know that I can, but I know that I'm going to. You know what I mean? Right, and there's been moments where all three of us, one way or the other back and forth, have gone to one of us to say something that's just under their skin at that moment, or it's a celebration of some kind that we don't know about, but we're always willing to be able to step out and say something, and I think it's important for people to do that, because I think too many times and maybe this is part of the idea with the social media, where people kind of aren't as comfortable doing that as they used to be I think that we need to rejuvenate that with society is that we need to be able to talk to people. You need to be able to say something to somebody without fear of them bouncing it off your forehead and being you know, you're an idiot.

Speaker 2 31:47

Yeah.

Speaker 1 31:48

I mean, I think that it's one of those things where we just need to be able to talk to people to say hi whatever it is.

Speaker 1 31:56

I just got to say this because it was too funny. The other day I went with a friend of mine. We stopped at a local drinking establishment and we're out in the parking lot, we're getting ready to leave. We had one beer, like we just stopped in, we're going to go to his house, everything's cool. And we come out and it's kind of a neighborhood little bar, you know Right, and these people come out and this lady is.

Speaker 1 32:21

She's been drinking all day, you can tell, which is fine, no judgment. And she's like it smells like bacon out here and I just turned around and I'm like I don't smell bacon at all and she goes well, hold on a minute, you know and makes some sort of emotion like she's passing gas, right oh, okay and okay. And I'm like, oh, and her husband is just shaking his head, you know, but we're laughing because you're talking to people. Now she's not going to remember that conversation because she's Probably not.

Speaker 1 32:47

Whatever, but you know what? It's still fun. You can talk to people and not pass judgment on this gal who was apparently you passed.

Speaker 2 32:55

Whatever, don't you lie man, you passed judgment.

Speaker 1 32:56

Don't you lie, man. You passed judgment. No, I didn't, actually I didn't. She passed something else, she passed something, it wasn't judgment.

Speaker 2 33:02

Oh man, hey, don't forget to share and like this.

Speaker 1 33:07

Yeah, because these glasses are cool. These glasses are, that's right.

Speaker 2 33:09

If you share this episode and this previous episode, we're going to put you in the drawing for some half century beer mugs and whiskey glasses.

Speaker 1 33:18

These are not like cheap little plastic things. Dishwasher safe. I can't wait to tell my dishwasher.

Speaker 2 33:23

Midwest Trophy and what Midwest?

Speaker 3 33:27

Trophy and.

Speaker 2 33:27

Award.

Speaker 3 33:29

Dave Putnam, dave Putnam. There you go. Hey, thanks for hanging out with us here at Half Century Hangout.

Speaker 1 33:35

Be good everybody. Peace out Salante.