What is Tantra to me

Episode 3: What is Tantra to me

In this episode, join Elle Q as she takes us on a journey to explore the essence of Tantra from her personal perspective. Through insightful stories and profound teachings, she delves into what Tantra truly is—not just a spiritual practice, but a way of living that integrates mind, body, and spirit. Whether you're curious about the history, the practices, or how Tantra can enhance your life, this conversation offers a deeper understanding of its transformative power. Tune in to discover how Tantra goes beyond the physical to unlock greater connection, presence, and awareness in all aspects of life. 

"I want people to stop walking through life disconnected from themselves."

Tantra • Intimacy • Healing • Embodiment

xoxo LQ 🖤

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Welcome to Midnight Confessions. I'm your host, LQ. Thank you for joining me tonight. So I'd like to talk about Tantra here. When you think about Tantra, you're probably thinking, hmm, that's taboo. Or you're thinking, hmm, that's wrong. Or oh you're blushing. Or I've never heard of Tantra. Wow. I do practice tantra. My own practice for myself with my lovers, my partners, or just simply by myself. I also provide tantric sessions with my clients. But I combined it with spiritual tantra. Because I love blending both. Because we keep everything so separate. But I combined it the spiritual and the sexual energy, the presence of both. Because you can't have one without the other. And the beauty of it, you have the body, and it just brings this beautiful ecstasy to it. I've been practicing for many years. And I love what it creates for myself and what it creates for others. For my clients, for those around me. What decision may look like in your mind. There's no right or wrong answer. Because if you've never heard of Tantra, or maybe you've heard so many different versions of it. And that's okay. But I'm going to tell you now what it isn't. Tantra, when I see my clients, there's no sex involved. But yes, tantra is all about the sexual energy, sexual connection. But it's about you as an individual. Or as a couple. What are you needing? What are you seeking? It's about your sensuality, your sexuality, your touch, your breath, your connection to your body, to your needs, to your desires again. That's what tantra is all about. It's about loving yourself again, loving the connection about who you are. Bringing confidence, growth, self-esteem, releasing any doubt. Yes, and it's also about having those amazing orgasms, all those tingling feelings in the tips of your fingers and your toes, or feeling your body vibrate with so much connection to yourself. But that's if you let go. Allow yourself to surrender. Allow yourself to just simply let go and trust the process. That's a no-no. Sorry. To my listeners there. But I'm gonna tell you when a client comes and sees me, and there's always a hug in the beginning. Always ask first. To help calm, bring a sense of welcoming and love. A glass of water. And just taking a seat on my sofa. And here's the big one. I have a Christmas tree. Just sitting in my living room. It's always on my every single client. And that is a major topic. That I'll share. And they love it. They absolutely love it. Probably wondering why my Christmas tree is still up. My Christmas tree is gonna be up year year round. And plus I don't like big lights in the ceilings. It's not me. Just takes away from the natural light. But when I have sessions, I like to have just a little bit of light. And my Christmas tree, my candles, my incense, and my sage. And my tantric music. But everyone always comes in and comments about the tree and how much they just love it. And it makes them calm. I don't know why. It's kind of interesting to see. It's a fake Christmas tree, of course, with my gold and purple Christmas balls. And it's just there in the corner. And it just like soothes them. And they take a breath and they just simply relax. And they start talking. I'm not doing anything. I'm just sitting with them. And they're talking. And they feel completely calm, completely relaxed, able to express themselves of what they need. I do ask what they need. What do they need from this session? What brings them to see me? What brings them today to be here? And I just sit with them. And I tell ask them, do I have consent to connect? Do I have consent to touch? And always ask about boundaries. Boundaries are very, very important to know. And if they don't, if they say they have no like everything is open, we go with it. But I always say, if there's an area that I touch and all of a sudden it brings up a memory of thought, because tantra does bring up, can bring up trauma, can bring up emotions, and maybe that just brings up something. I tell them, simply grab my hand, grab my forearm, and say, L, not today. This area is not today. And I simply move on. Isn't that beautiful? A boundary? But I give them that opportunity to hold my hand, forearm, and say, not today, not this moment, because it points at something. Has that happened in any sessions? No. Because I go slow, I go gently with them. Especially if it's their first time or many times. But if it is first time with me, I go gently. I pay attention to their body, to their words, how they are feeling. So we sit and we listen. But remember, now they've given me consent to touch them, to connect with them. All I simply do is touch the back of their neck on the base of their um skull with my fingertips, my nails, and I gently scratch and tickle. That makes them feel absolutely more relaxed to holding their hand, continually talking as they keep talking. When they pause and have nothing else to say, I say to them, you tell me when you want the table, you tell me when you are ready. If you just want to simply sit here for two, three or four hours for the day for the session, that's all we do. We sit here. But when you feel ready, you tell me. Because this is your session. This is your moment. This is your time. You get to choose. Or sit in silence. Looking at the Christmas tree, candles, listening to music. And you know what? That's completely okay. Chris Tantra is about connection. So maybe, just maybe, that's all you need. There's just someone there sitting with you. Holding your hand, rubbing the back of your neck, your hand oh. Rubbing the back of your neck. Holding you. It could just be that. Two. The table. Now you're probably wondering. Oh, the table. Yes. There's a beautiful massage table. Got my all my oils. I have all my oils for you. And with tantrum needs a lot of heat with the breath work. And you get to be fully naked. Be completely naked. Love it. But I give them the choice. You can be completely naked or semi-naked. Whichever you prefer. And now get on my table and I'll always start face down. And I'm very gentle at first. I shouldn't say at first. I'm always gentle. But I will put pressure where it's needed. I will tease where it's needed. Because remember, I asked what they needed. I asked what they're feeling. What they would love to connect with. When I just watch their body, I'm so fascinated with the body, how it moves, how it connects, how it flows with every touch, with every breath. And while they are on my table, they teach the breath. Because it makes it simpler because you're more relaxed while you're face down and you're hearing my breathing, and then you've connecting that breath. It's beautiful. Beautiful to see. And when they feel very relaxed face down, I simply ask them to turn over and then begin to do tantra work in the front. Always checking in with them, seeing how they're feeling. From the top of their head to the tips of the toes to the tips of the fingers, on their whole body. That's what tantra is about. When my clients come in, when my clients come in, they're coming in to a space where they will feel heard, seen, and loved and pampered, and relaxed, without shame, without judgment. You can say anything, and it'll be okay. Because this is a safe space to express yourself, to release, to let go, find out your hidden desires, your feelings. And that's the beauty of tantra. Every time I see a person on my table, I just give so much love. Self-care. Noticing any tattoos, noticing any scars, noticing any marks. Seeing the beauty on the body, how it moves, how it flows, just seeing it. How beautiful you all are. How handsome, how gorgeous, how stunning you all are. I watch sometimes I see it on social media of how much we judge so quickly on age or whether you're um in your teens or twenties or thirties, forties, fifties, sixties, seventies, eighties plus everyone age, just like it's on the age. Oh, that person has scar, that one has silite. It's just there's so much out there. And it breaks my heart because we forget to actually look into the mirror of ourselves and see how actually how amazing we are to see our beauty, to see our growth, see how much we have changed from early age till now to our present moment. We never give ourselves the grace and compassion and the gratitude or like the astonishment of like we have done so much with ourselves, with our bodies, our life, that we never give that to ourselves. We're so quick to receive judgment from another, harsh words, negativity. So it's the main reason why we need a tantra, because there is none of that. It's just union, it's connection. It's about honoring your body, honoring yourself, your sexuality again, and allowing your essential and sexual self to explode. So when you come on my table, when you lay on my table, I actually take the time to look at everything, your whole body, how it moves, how it flows, is there an injury? Is there a story with that tattoo or that scar? And I just think, man, they're gorgeous, they're beautiful, they're handsome. They're young. No matter what age you think you are, you're all young. And I think all of you have forgotten that. You're all very young and incredible. Absolutely incredible. So my sessions is about loving you. It's about seeing you for you, hearing you for you, giving you what's the word making you feel alive again. Making you feel alive. That is my main goal with Tantra. Yes. The main one giving your orgasms or giving you making you feel pampered. But the one thing out of all of that is making you feel alive again. Making your whole body, your heart, your soul, your heart pumping, your blood pumping, feeling alive. And that can mean anything that you're feeling, meaning maybe. It's making you feel confident, sexy, connected to your sensuality, your sexuality again, connected to your breath, connected to your life force. That is what tantra is to me, making you feel alive again. Instead of just walking around, comparing yourself, judging yourself, or hearing the harsh words of another, my space is to lift you, to rise you up. So whether you come and see me for a session, or are you just listening to these episodes? I want you to feel alive in this life. This life is yours. So what is Tantra? Tantra isn't just about sex. Tantra is about you becoming alive again. From all your chakras to your body, to your soul, your sexuality, your central self. Allowing yourself to be creative and to be seen and to be alive, to grow, to explore, to expand into who you are. Tantra is about releasing the old wounds, the past, the trauma for you to step forward, to live, to be alive in this world. That is what tantra is about. From my words to you. And the only dare I have for you, to be honest with us, I want you to go research tantra. You're gonna come up with a whole bunch of tantra. You probably will come across me as well, and my amazing teacher in Vancouver. And I just want you to explore the tantra world. Every tantra person, practitioner, teacher there in this world will give their own way of expressing how what tantra is to them. But I want you to take what it means to you. That's the only dare. And if you want to experience a tantra session, find a tantric practitioner, find a tantric practitioner near you. If you live in Alberta, Edmonton area, because I work in that surrounding area, you can find me. It's sacred red. I'm book a session. There are lots of tantric practitioners out there. And teachers. Every experience will be different. Because every teacher, every practitioner will have something new to discover with you. In how many sessions? Oh. That depends on you. But if you love the feeling on Tantra and the touch, the feeling, the connection, if you can do it once, twice a month. Just to discover yourself, discover who you are. Me, I work with individuals or couples. And I love it. It's absolutely amazing to see how much to see how much you grow as a person. How much you want to learn about yourself when you just allow yourself to let go just a little bit more. Each session you do. And I love it. I love seeing it. I love seeing everyone come alive. So that's my idea for you. Go discover go discover tantra. Google it. Research. Read books. I have lots of books read that I read or listen to on audio. I have both. And I wish for you to do that. That's my only dare. That and focus session. Find a tantric or tri find a tantric practitioner near you. If you're not near me. Who knows? Maybe traveling to the side of the world. I'd love to meet you, love to see you. But it's not only there. Come alive. Because that's what every session with me is helping you come alive again. Exo, XO LQ.