My Tantra Experience

Episode 4: My Tantra Experience

In this powerful episode of Midnight Confessions, Elle opens up about her transformative journey into the world of tantra. She shares her personal experiences, insights, and the profound impact tantra has had on her mind, body, and soul. From deepening her understanding of energy, intimacy, and self-love, Elle dives into how tantra isn’t just about physical connection—it’s a path to spiritual growth, emotional healing, and awakening to a new level of consciousness. Tune in for a raw and candid conversation about embracing the power within, exploring intimacy beyond the surface, and how tantra can reshape the way we connect with ourselves and others. 

"I want people to stop walking through life disconnected from themselves."

Tantra • Intimacy • Healing • Embodiment

xoxo LQ 🖤

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Welcome to the Night Confessions. I'm your host, LQ. Does Tantra work? Yeah, well, I'm not gonna talk about my clients, because I'm not going to. I'm not gonna talk about my clients' experiences, but I'll talk about my own. So from reading all the tantral books I could get my hands on to me going to courses, workshops, finding my amazing teacher in Vancouver. Um and then of course giving my clients the tantric body work that I do. Because don't get me wrong, every time I do a session with a client, I'm always discovering something new. Even though I know my techniques, I'm always discovering something just a little new for them and for myself. It's quite exciting because tantra can always learn something new, a new way of touch, a new way of movement, a new way of breathing. It's exciting and fun and to discover even with toys. But we're gonna talk about my experience with Tantra, so you know what I'm talking about. So the more you practice tantra, the more you feel connected to yourself, the more you're healing and you have trauma as well. Um and you're loving yourself, you're loving your body, you're loving the growth, you're loving who you are as a person even more. Because tantra is all about connecting to your your chakras, but mostly it's connecting to your sacral and your root chakra. So your root chakra is just between your anus and your genitals, um, and your sacral chakra is just um above your pelvis and below your belly button. So just there, they're very close. The root and the sacral chakra are very, very close together. So now if you go for a Reiki session, which I'm a Reiki master practitioner too, holy fire. Um when you go for a Reiki session, you're on the table or you're doing distance healing, the practitioner will never touch your root chakra because it's in your sacred space. It's by your genitals, between your anus and your genitals. You're never gonna get touched there. But with Tantra, gotta love it. You can touch that arrow because it's open, you're allowed. I'm allowed to touch my clients in that space, that sacred space, as I will touch my sacred space to just ignite it, and it's just a touch press, like I would press. So I take my um index finger and my middle finger, and I'll press between my uh genitals and my anus, and just press it, just a very soft price, and I'm just pressing it there to open my root chakra. Now the root chakra has everything to do with who you are, when you're feeling grounded, secure, safety within the physical world, and feeling really connected to your root life. This is your root life, that's where you feel connected to. Where you're moving, where you're going, when you're flowing, you know, what's happening. You know, when you're ungrounded is when you don't feel secure, you don't feel safe, your finances. Um you just feel a little lost, you feel unbalanced, that's your route. Um, but you can fix that. You can as long as you bring in the healing, you can. And then your sequel chakra is your sexuality, your central, your creative creativity, your inner child work. That is your big one. Um, that's where you like if you're feeling uncreative, you're feeling cloudy, you don't know your sexuality, or you do not feel central, you just feel completely blocked off from there, that's your sacro chakra. So now Rudon sacko chakra. I always imagine the two spinning like yin and yang together because they're so close together, but you need both of them to feel very connected to yourself. Because when you with your via self sexually and with a partner or lovers, you want to you both need to feel that safety, that openness with each other, that connection, that you're able to be vulnerable in that point, in that moment with each other, because your central self, that connection, so that allowing yourself to be that intimate, that close with another person and with yourself at the same time. Doesn't that like give you that aha moment where it's like, huh, okay, alright. Maybe think on that a little bit. That was probably like making you think about your experiences in the bedroom. Well you love her, you're partners. Maybe there's trauma, maybe there isn't. No. You think how close that is now. Now, after so many years of practicing, I would use my breath and that's where I'd start breathing. Go for walks with my fur babies in mom and dog park, or I'm around my neighborhood, and just walk and breathe. That's how I'd practice my breathing, connecting, walk around barefoot, shoes, whichever, whatever the day was like that day. I'd breathe and release and just cycle this beautiful energy up and down through my whole body. Now, just so you know, the more you practice your breath, you could have more gas. And the more I practiced, I my breath just became natural. That rhythm, that flow just became natural that I wouldn't end up having an orgasm at a dog park or while I was walking. But I was very discreet. Um just either had to stand still, breathe through the feeling of it, or I just like dropped to my knees, especially when I was at the dog park and there's no one else around, and just allow that wave to surge through my whole body. And it was bliss. When I then I was like, ooh, okay, you can use this for breath in anything, okay. So I can use the dune while I was cooking. What happened? Started dancing, I love dancing and cooking, but I'd do it in my in my tank top and in laundry because that's how I love to cook. Um and I'd start dancing and cooking, and then again start using the breath. Again, as an orgasm of my kitchen. Or it would just be a soft rhythm of heat building in my body. To my workouts. So if any of you know me, I work out a lot. I work out between 60 to 90 to maybe 2.5 hours a day. Just depending on how my day is. And yes, I do, I do a lot of walking too, but I love my strength training or my hip combinations. Now tantra breath, I started bringing that in because tantra breath brings in energy, meaning if I need I'm feeling a little low energy that morning or that day, and I'm like, I need a little bit of an oop. I'd start my tantra breath to bring me that oomph. So I work out and breathe. And you know what I find very fascinating and interesting? With my tantra breath now, I can pay attention more to my muscles, my core, how I'm breathing, inhaling, exhaling while I'm lifting weights and while I'm doing yoga. It's amazing how I've listened and paid attention to my own body even more. And that's really cool. But you're probably wondering, oh my goodness, has she had an orgasm while she's worked out? And I'm going to tell you, yes, yes I have. Um, but right at the end of my workout, like it just it happens, it's building, it's there when I finish my workout, like the last minute of my workout. I just like laying on the floor, just dripping from hand to toe. I look like a sweaty gremlin. Always tell my friends, oh my god, I look like a freaking sweaty gremlin if you see me. But I'm just laying there on my mat in my apartment in my home, and I'm drenched, and the next thing I know I'm surging with an orgasm. I'm not gonna hold it back, I'm gonna let it go, I'm gonna let it release. And that's the beauty of tantra. It just blends so well with everything you do, so you can use it when you're cooking, when you're working out, or when you're making love to yourself or to your partner, or going for a walk. It just helps you tantra breath helps you connect to everything around you even more deeply. I'm using I even use tantra breath when I am talking to my friends, because so I can pay attention to them a lot more, so I can listen, I can hear them, um, and be there for them even more. It keeps me grounded even more better as well. Um and it's just and all my friends um and family members, especially the one uh in the states, that always say the same thing. Do you always listen and you're very compassionate and you're very kind and loving. Like you couldn't there's no way you could hurt someone or harm someone. And I love they pick up on that, and I really I've registered that now, even now in my life. Which is very true. I would never do anything to harm or create. And because I do everything with out of love, I want people to be alive and feel great about who they are. Um track there. What I'm saying is you can use tantra energy in anything. Can you use it in your workspace? Um, can you stop the orgasm before it comes? Yeah, just use your breath. Allow that energy to go into your work, into your space. You'd be like, oh, I need energy to go into my project that I'm doing. And then my work. You can set the intention and flow it into that. Um just allow it. Um food, if you I do the orgasmic, I mean use your breath while you're cooking. The food even tastes even more delicious. It's it's there's something, it just opens your taste buds more. Um again, this is all my experiences. Um sex. Okay, we're gonna go into sex now. I can so anyhow. Um I associate with my body is female. That's how I am female. I don't know if I want this in here, Christina. Give me a sec. How does Tantra work with sex? Well, tantra actually um if you and your partner or someone, but we're gonna go with partner right now, because maybe more curious about partners. And um, how is it with sex? Well, one, it lasts longer, especially if the other person isn't a tantrum too, then you both get to last longer and you can last for hours if you maybe would like to. Um and you can. Um just gonna be thrown with a lot of heat and a lot of sweat, and it's delicious, absolutely delicious. If you can take a nice cold shower together afterwards, it's bliss. Um but um when you're having sex um and uh your knee and the length is connecting, is delicious, um, because you're using your breath. So it's happening with your breath because I don't a woman uh a females or if you have a yarney um non-binary, but if you have a yarney, it's our clit that gets the the O's, the orgasm, um, the most and uh it's very few women with parent penetration from the lingmen. And I'm gonna say that's actually been was true for me in the past, but after learning about tantra and actively practicing the breath and everything, I can tell you now with penetration from the Langman using my breath, the orgasms just multiply. And yes, my partners are absolutely amazing too, they're amazing lovers. Um but ever since I use my breath my orgasms just seem to expand. And the more I breathe, the more it just like makes me more sensitive and more like whoa. And I have my multi-orgasms. Um and can I keep going? Yes, I can keep going and it's delicious, it's absolutely amazing. Um and then when it's going into the shower, just laying there naked, it's amazing. Feeling their touch on my body while I use my breath, um while they're giving me a massage or they're touching me um very gently or we're just talking or watching a movie, it just makes it a deeper connection, or recording for walks, it's a deeper connection because we're paying attention to each other and paying attention to how they're feeling, paying attention to their body, paying attention to their voice, and they're doing the same thing for me without them really noticing. So most of my no yeah, my partner's lovers, um they know off Tantra, and with me they kind of learn a little bit about them. Um but what happened is they're paying attention to me without me really saying anything, and they're listening to my body and they're understanding uh what more I'm understanding about their body, it's like we're learning from each other. So but they again they haven't done the tantral world, but because I'm tantra and I just give them what they need, they're giving back to me. Um and it just kind of meshes really well like magic. I don't know how it's like tantric magic, it's just it happens, it just flows, and it's because I let go a little bit more every single time. And I love it. Um do I know this is probably a question on some people's minds, or most of you all of you, has my sex changed? Is it better than before? And then Kim Salino, yes, absolutely, yes, ever since I learned about Tantra, yes. Um then when I give to my clients I learn too. Um because like I learned something new, and I'm really really good expressing with my hands and my voice, so like my breath, and it just helps balance that energy more. But yes, I can say my sex whether it's by myself or with my partners, my orgasms, my sex is has multiplied into a different category, and that's why I say if you can learn while tantra, go to a tantric practitioner, it just opens up a whole different world for you. Even it will open up a whole different world for you as long as you feel open to learning, connecting, wanting to grow yourself, wanting to open yourself to you. Because I don't know if the tantra is about you. Tantra's about connecting to yourself again. Yeah. I think that's my tantric experience. Doesn't make you want to have um but yeah, I'd say grab a book, go find a teacher, find a practitioner. It's amazing. I'm beyond grateful that I decided to go learn about it, that I decided to be part of the tantric world, be part of the tantric community. It's I would never change it. It would never change my life because it's home to me. Tantra is my home. It's my family. It's brought me a lot closer to who I am. Sexually, essentially and my sexuality as well. Um yeah, it's brought me a lot closer. It's brought me closer to what I want in life. Um what brings me joy even more. Um it's created my own happiness. Um closer to my my fur babies because we go for our walks or we snuggle. Um Tantra just opens your eyes a lot more to the things around you. It's even helped me um see the people that are most important to me. And it's not um it's also helped me um to take risks a little bit more. Um connect to my very central self. Um it's always central, always, always, always been like that, but always like covered it up. And now it's like, hmm. This is my body, this is my skin, these are my clothes, this is my hair. This is how I like to touch, this is how I like to kiss, this is how I like to taste food and actually taste it and those flavors and senses and just be like, hmm, yep, that was delicious. Um listening to nature. It just opened up a lot of things. It's even healed a lot of trauma for me as well. Um, it still brings up a lot of trauma that I need healing of, but it it goes a lot faster now for my healing, it's a lot more intense, I'm not gonna lie. Um, because the more I do, the more it's like moving faster for me to heal and grow from it. Um and it's amazing. But yeah, tantra's definitely changed my life. It's created a whole different community family for me. And I'm beyond grateful for it. I'm beyond grateful for Tantra, grateful for myself for stepping into the unknown and grateful for those in my life that were my that are my teachers for teaching me and taking me under their wing when I'm like because when I was just practicing for fun, I fell in love. I was like, oh, this feels like home. Um and then I just flew with it. So yeah. So tantra can make you experience things in everything in your life, not just the bedroom. It can be in everything in your life. So yeah. Hmm. I can I hope that has made you curious about yourself, curious about what tantra is, and um maybe to wonder a little bit more. That's my tantra experience. XOXO LQ