Calling All Women

10. Part 3: Unpacking Boarding School Trauma

Dr. Jaap Kaur Waraich

The British Boarding School system has left a lasting impact on generations of students, particularly boys who were sent away at a young age. In this third installment of the series, we dive deeper into the psychological and emotional repercussions of this system, exploring the trauma of abandonment, neglect, and the survival mechanisms these children develop. We also discuss how these early experiences shape their adult relationships, particularly in marriage, where unresolved childhood wounds often resurface.

Tune in to hear:

  • How the boarding school experience is rooted in neglect and emotional abandonment.
  • The psychological survival mechanisms children develop, including dissociation and the creation of a "false self."
  • The impact of repeated re-traumatization when returning to school after breaks.
  • How abuse—emotional, physical, and sexual—is often embedded in the boarding school culture.
  • The additional layers of complexity for children in colonial-era British boarding schools.
  • How the trauma of boarding school manifests in adult relationships, particularly through projection in marriage.

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