Interview with Bride Amanda (pt. 2)

Part two of what should be called "A Few Drinks In", Amanda reflects on her wedding day eight years later, sharing intimate details and offering wisdom for couples on maintaining their connection through life's challenges.

• The ceremony and vows were the most special moments, creating an intimate connection while being surrounded by loved ones
• The unity box included a private note for their daughter, creating a meaningful connection between their wedding and their child's future
• Using her parents' wedding song for the father-daughter dance created a profound connection with Amanda's late father
• DIY elements and personal touches reflected both families' cultures and personalities
• Family support was evident as both sides had already bonded through their daughter before the wedding
• Staying present and intentional about observing special moments helped create lasting memories
• Regular date nights are essential for maintaining connection after children, careers, and other responsibilities
• Tito's advice: "Continue to water your tree of marriage - even if the tree gives you fruit, you still need to water it"

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome Back to the Wedding
• 1:29 Favorite Wedding Moments & Unity Box
• 4:43 Father-Daughter Dance & Special Memories
• 8:43 The Power of Family Support
• 15:33 DIY Wedding & Vendor Experiences
• 19:56 Emotional Moments & Staying Present
• 29:18 Life After "I Do" & Relationship Advice
• 36:10 Watering the Marriage Tree

Transcript

Amanda: 0:04

Welcome to the Wedding Where with officiating by Amanda. Welcome back to the Wedding where we are picking up with the interview with my bride, Amanda, and all of her insights from the wedding. This is part two, so if you missed part one, go back and listen to that. You'll also want to listen to the wedding where I cried for some additional context and I'm very pleased to say that the next few episodes are also based on this wedding, so let's get into it.

Amanda: 0:53

So here I'll let you get a little more sip of drink. So we're going to transition into the wedding world. Perfect, put your head eight years back the day. I don't know if my audio file automatically triggers out gulping, but I'll have to change that.

Amanda: 1:11

Little cheers of the Helen's melon. Yeah, oh, I love it. By the way, it's delicious. It really does give me vibes back to like the 90s childhood, and you'll know this. The cucumber melon bath and body works. Cucumber melon bath and body works. It feels it. Yep, that was top notch, right on par.

Amanda: 1:29

So, looking back on your wedding day, what stands out as your favorite part?

Amanda: 1:34

Oh, I mean hands down, the ceremony and the vows. Hands down, I mean, that was just I. I mean the. The rest of it was just icing on the cake, but that was, hands down, so special, so intimate, just the fondest. You know, I look back with the fondest memories of that just standing and I mean looking out and seeing everybody there to support us. And looking out and seeing everybody there to support us, and you know, you're looking, you see all of these people come together for us and yet, like it's just, it felt like the two of us at the same time.

Amanda: 2:13

You know what I mean and I don't know if you have it for a little bit later on, but I'll, with your unity box, yep, that you guys had the note for your daughter in there and what I love was that that was something so personal and private. You didn't read that out, no, just in my heart of hearts, knowing that that note exists, yeah, and that it's there for her, yes, oh, yeah, that that was glorious. I felt like I'm in on this inside, yes, inside little thing, yeah, but the end, I know nothing, right, right, you guys know, yeah, and that I always recommend for couples to try and find something. Whether it's an inside joke, yes, sneak in. Whether it's a special pin, a look and anything that, because there's so much of the day that you are sharing with everybody else. Yes, so to have something that really truly is not for public consumption and it's just for us, just for you, yes, and for you guys. I loved that. That was the note for your daughter yes, yep, that was so special and hopefully I didn't steal it. But what's the one smaller personal touch you included that means the most to you, because I share what means the most to me. Right, right, right, right, no, and and that I mean absolutely is is up there.

Amanda: 3:28

I think for me and I don't know if you remember the details to this, but, as you know, a big part of our wedding was wanting to include the ones that have passed on, I mean, especially, you know, my dad being that he wasn't there to walk me down the aisle, and so we had decided on a father-daughter dance, and I don't know if you remember, but the actual song was my mom and dad's wedding song. I didn't know that. Yes, so that was their wedding song, and so we used that as the father-daughter dance and I just got to sit down, and that was my choice. I decided that I wanted to sit down and I wanted to watch. You know the dads, your husband dance with your daughter yes, my husband dance with my daughter, and all the other fathers dancing with their daughters. And I just sat and I watched and I took it all in and I cried and it was just so special. We all cried, we all did Many, many times.

Amanda: 4:27

Not a dry eye, yeah, at your wedding, yes, yeah, and the episodes out and everything, yeah. So the wedding where I cried it's all yours, all yours. I love it.

Amanda: 4:38

If you could relive five minutes within your wedding day, when would you? When would would you go to?

Amanda: 4:45

I would just go back to the end of the aisle looking into tito's eyes and he was sweating buckets. Yes, he was sweating bullets, so nervous and, like I said, just feeling like it was just the two of us. Here we go well, and we had talked. Yeah for recording us.

Amanda: 5:06

You guys have a unique story where, in outside of your first couple months of being together as a couple right, it wasn't ever the two of you, so the fact that in that moment it was out bits of the ceremony, you could get that it's just the two of us, because it hasn't been before exactly, and I think back on that often, just just standing and looking into each other's eyes and, like you know, like you said, just for the five minutes, it was just the two of us and you know everybody was was there and everybody was supporting us, but but it was just the two of us. I know it felt like five minutes to you, but I think you actually had closer to a 20 minute ceremony and then I realized that that there were, you know, a hundred people sitting there watching us, but but no it, yeah, just for a couple of minutes, it was just the two of us. Was there any moment during your wedding day? That took you by surprise? Good, bad, or just like, oh, that wasn't the plan, so not really to be honest with you, and so not really to be honest with you, and not that I I mean not that this came as a surprise to me, but it just. It was not a surprise, but it was just to see, to see everybody coming together. It was just like, wow, you know what I mean, we do have so much support, and to see it all in one place, I think was just like, again, not a shock, but it was just like a pleasant surprise and the fact that there was no drama at the wedding. You know what I mean. I don't know what I expected. I don't think I expected there to be drama, but usually at least behind the scenes there's a little bit of drama. I mean, there was no drama, it was just all fun, it was all you know, it was all love and support.

Amanda: 6:54

And you know, part I guess part of me was just like wow, that was so much easier than I thought it would have been. You know what I mean. And especially when you'd had, you know, so much in the planning, I'm like, oh, we have to get to that guest list. So from being able to bring forward the name on a list that made a cut, made a decision, to an actual manifestation of a human yeah, it's like I knew they were coming, I knew I wanted them here, I invited them, I knew that they were, they said they were coming, but to actually physically see them here, holy cow, exactly, it's that it finally all comes in a circle.

Amanda: 7:33

Yes, exactly, yep, if you could change one thing about the wedding and again, it doesn't have to be because something went wrong about it, but just change one thing yeah, what would you change? So I would have definitely taken ibuprofen? I did. This is not a sponsored video, right, I did. You know, when we were getting ready, up in the loft, I did have a glass of wine or two on an empty stomach and I think I just I should. You know what I mean. I should have had a little something in my stomach. The nurse in you now thinks that you should have, yes, yes, been a little more pro-active, but that was that's pretty much the only thing I mean. Looking back, I ended the night with like a killer headache. You know, I ended your wedding with a killer headache. I think there were quite a few headaches that we had Jolly rancher on tap, exactly. That's all we have to say about that. But yeah, just being a little more proactive about taking care of things beforehand, but the physical wedding itself, I wouldn't have changed a thing.

Amanda: 8:44

I make it a rule that you are not allowed to say me so what was your favorite vendor or service and why would you recommend them? Well, there goes my answer. Sorry, amanda Wall. No, so honestly, we didn't have vendors. Our wedding was Hair and makeup. You had people. We did. We did Exactly. We had people. We did right. We, we did exactly. We had people we had one of our close friends doing hair and makeup. We had the venue itself catered, so we had half of the food catered by them and then the other half was brought in by our family, which was so sweet. Other than that, though, I'm, we really didn't have.

Amanda: 9:28

Maybe, looking back, maybe we would have added like a you know what I mean, like a little coffee truck or something like that, but you guys again, walking in, and maybe this is a testament to the venue, it looks seamless, like you never would have been able to convince me that it was. You know, oh, hey, we just have a couple of, you know, friends provided this, or people were called upon to do this, because and that's really what it was, you really again, it was beautifully executed, thank you, you wouldn't have known, thank you. I appreciate that and seriously, that speaks to, I mean, the kind of support that we have and the kind of friends and family that we have, because, truly, I mean, they set up, we did all of the decorations ourselves. You know the venue took care of the catering. You know what I mean, and I mean so, really, I even liked when they closed the bar. So I didn't like when they closed the bar, right, but from a, I'm already three jolly ranchers in and we need to save some for the rest of us. Plus, food will be served soon. Right, it was very, very smart. Yes, they did a really good job, I think.

Amanda: 10:36

And just, I don't know if they like tapped you throughout and said, hey, you know, we seek your permission, we're gonna do this. Or they just were like, we're doing, like it's done, it set, don't you worry about it. Yeah, no, I think that was more so. I think they just sort of, yeah, exactly, and I know some brides absolutely love that Like, let go and let God, like let the venue do what I'm paying you for, yes, and there's others who are like like, ooh, I really want my hand in this, I want to be consulted, I want to be like just checked in with. So there's always that little. Where does it play in? Right? I'm sort of like, you know, I leave it up to the people that know what they're doing, because I certainly didn't know what I was doing and I had full trust in you and the venue, and you know, like you said, and the venue, and you know, like you said, I think everything was pretty seamless and I mean, everybody just came together and did their little part and it just, yeah, it really did come together.

Amanda: 11:35

Yours was one of the first weddings, if not the first, that I did a blessing for the reception. Yes, all the more that there's a future episode you should listen on on why you should not fly your ministers with alcohol and then throw blessings at them. But because a lot of times, if people are asking for blessings yeah, a reception they've gone with a more religious ceremony to begin with. Therefore, they're not necessarily in my realm or sphere. So it was just a really, really great honor to be able to be up there and I had mentioned, I think as well I say I think I don't know for sure Couple drinks in Couple drinks in story of this podcast that I shared.

Amanda: 12:23

I also was out there looking in the world. Yes, how do you pick the right person when, right, every day, there's a lot of new picks and none of them seem kind of great? Yeah, I did a wedding that was Harry Potter themed A few after years, a few years. Okay, and I equate it to the Goblet of Fire. You know it's out matches, yes. Online dating yes, fire, you know it's out. Matches, yeah. Online dating, yes. And how do you find the right person when none of them are great, right, like, do you just pick right, next best right, or do you wait? Yeah, well, you didn't have to wait for anything, but I didn't. I mean, you and dito story, we didn't wait, we didn't wait, we didn't wait for anything, we went speed ahead, but I wouldn't change a thing.

Amanda: 13:16

Speaking of the wonderful Tito, how did you and him incorporate your personalities into the day? You know the intimacy from the ceremony and then adding in little funny, you know, bits throughout. I think that totally represents our relationship and our personalities. And then just including, like I said, foods from our different cultures and backgrounds, making family so key, right, exactly. And you know, just just a little like, we had our signature drink, jolly Rancher. I looked up how to make it after that. Yes, yeah, and it's pretty easy. Yeah, I believe we've had it a couple of times since then.

Amanda: 13:58

It was the drink of choice at the New Year's, the year that you got married. I made it, I love it. I love this, yes, yes, it reminds me of it. Oh, actually it really does. The melon, yes, because it's a melon liqueur, right, and then it's like apple schnapps and cranberry juice or something yes, cranberry juice. So it's a little bitter and a little sweet. Yep, flash, yep, flashbacks to Nam, I know.

Amanda: 14:25

But yeah, just, you know, just the food, the drinks, the music, I just think it was a little bit of him, a little bit of me and you know, and, like I said, our families all brought in a little something from their end and it just all came together and it represented us and our families and how important family is to us. Yeah, yeah, I wanted to let you get a good drink in there before I asked what was the most emotional moment for you? So, definitely the little nods to our loved ones that couldn't be with us, specifically the father-daughter dance. I just let myself have that moment and, yeah, I let myself feel and no shame moment. And, yeah, I let myself feel and no shame during the ceremony, when you added in a quote that my dad had written. Yeah, have you looked back on it since? I have, because I have, and I cry every time because when I pulled it up again, I almost have it memorized. Yeah, because I I think about it a lot often, but pulling it back up and reading it. I almost didn't get through the recording, I know Without I know Getting emotional, which I know and like I just look at that as such a kismet moment that you found it. When you found it, yes, and it came about.

Amanda: 15:45

Yes, the words were so fitting they were, you couldn't have written it any better in the moment. It's like he knew it's. He knew he 20 years prior. I think you'd said the quote had been written because it was in a book for his friend. Yes, and wow, oh, glass. Yes, and it was if it. It was as if he kind of yep, because if you'd had a little boy instead of a little girl, it would have been the same, I know it just was as if he was there talking from beyond, and we so rarely get those moments. Yeah, exactly, and you got one of them. We did, and I am so fortunate to have been able to give those words life and to have been a part of that, because we don't get those. We don't. I don't quite know how we you know auto-quote or caption sobs on a podcast, but we'll get it good. We'll get it good and, for those that are wondering, I highly recommend that I will not be saying the quote again right now because I was not intoxicated the first time I said them and I will not be intoxicated the second. Please listen to the previous recording for the amazing words, absolutely, that we found from Amanda's dad that we were able to put into the wedding.

Amanda: 17:07

And I, recently I was at an expo younger couple, probably 20, 21, very young, and they're talking about like a 20, 28 wedding. They want to save up money, they want to have some time, and the bride mentioned that her aunt is not doing well and most terminal. And I immediately thought doing well, okay, and most terminal, sure, and I immediately thought okay, yeah, see, if your aunt has a brooch, a piece of jewelry, something that if you're not going to move the wedding to fit her, I would never ask anybody to do. Exactly, you need to work on your own life and your own children. Absolutely your own life and your own children. Absolutely. See if there's pieces that she currently has that at least then she knows upon passing, you are carrying into her wedding day. Yes, my grandmother would have never thought of that, right, that you know her. Right, my cousin and I both have bits of her jewelry that we put on our birthdays, right, right, but you make sure she knows that, yes, if you know that is so special, if you know what you know, you make sure she knows, yes, that this is getting carried forward.

Amanda: 18:16

And right, get a quote. Yeah, get something in writing. Yeah, ask her to just do something as simple as define love, yep, and, and hang on to it. Yeah, take it and run with it and put it into a wedding ceremony, write it in your kid's baby book, write it down, do things with it. Yes, because that is the greatest gift that we can have. It is as I told you at the podcast. I'll hold this, even the whole unedited portions, in perpetuity. Right, and should there be a day where your kids want this, absolutely, we've got it. I love it. We've got it. I love it. Okay, oh, yeah, oh.

Amanda: 19:01

First one I cried at again. The first one I did was for a dear, dear friend. I did not cry, I was more stressed and frustrated. Right, right, yours is the first one I cried at, and and you weren't, yeah, you weren't alone, probably. The second one was a sorority sister who, throughout college, I'd watched her, you know, yeah, for the bad guy, yes, the heartache and her. See, why am I? When? When is it going to be my turn? Yeah, and I married her to the love of her life, yes, yes. And then, if you want a full circle moment here, she did a reading at my wedding, okay. And she comes up to me at the reception and says I'm drinking water, and I go, oh, stop it, honey, stop it. I'm at a baby shower next month. Oh, that's fantastic. Again, those full circle moments I love. So again, I'll be back here again, I love it.

Amanda: 19:52

And the fact that you were a bride that I didn't even think I would do this at all with my life, I know. And now here you are, I know, on my podcast. I love it, I'm so excited for you. We're like dead. Oh, I love it. And cheers to that too, you know, congratulations, polish, that, polish, that polish, that one down, cheers to that. I only have to pack a house tonight's wine, no biggie.

Amanda: 20:21

So, as we, we take a moment, yeah, ourselves, from some really great and deeply felt emotions yes, you talked a little about this before, about, you know, kind of those moments, key with tito, of like, wow, it's just the two of us, right, and that you, you know, sat out for the father-daughter dance to really soak that in. Were there other moments of the day that you really wanted to make sure that you stayed present for, and that you were like ha, like click. This is a memory, right? And how did you find the time to do that? Right, right, right, and how did you find the time to do that, right? Right, I do like I am, I think, by nature, a sentimental person, and I do, I think, just from going through the things that I've been through, I do often find myself reminding myself to take those moments, to sit back and just take it all in.

Amanda: 21:11

Take in every feeling, every smell, every you know what I mean. Just take it all in, even if just for a minute, and just breathe it in and make it intentional to remember it going forward. But I do remember, you know, the moment, standing looking into Tito's eyes and just being intentional about looking at him and just not thinking about anything else that was going on. I remember a moment in time we were they had us sitting at the front of the venue and it was, you know, the sweetheart table, or whatever they call it and I just, yeah, that's a good backdrop. Yeah, that's a really nice backdrop, thank you, that was DIY as well, of course. I mean everything was DIY.

Amanda: 22:00

But and just sitting and just being able to have that view of all of the tables laid out and all of our family members gathered around and and, like I said, we come from two very different backgrounds and just to see everybody getting along, I mean it sounds like a fairy tale, but I mean truly everybody gets along in our families. You know what I mean Everybody's come together and just to be able to sit and look out amongst our guests and to see everybody mingling and dancing and laughing, and I just remember just sitting and just watching and just, you know, just feeling like it's all come together. And here we are and look at all the support we have. I mean that's just everything, that's absolutely everything to us. You guys had a ton of support from the support we have. I mean that's just everything, that's absolutely everything to us. You guys had a ton of support from the get-go and throughout your relationship.

Amanda: 22:57

But I think it's also really, really wonderful that, again, your families in coming together, I don't want to say, you know, they knew like put up or shut up, but like right, you had the next generation already there. The families have already combined. Yes, there, yes, there's no need to be like, oh hey, who are you? We don't know you. It's like, nope, we'll see you for birthdays, we'll see you for christmas. Exactly for all the holidays. Yeah, because there is already this next level in our family story.

Amanda: 23:30

Yes, and I think a lot of families at weddings depending on you know, maybe, if they're from different states or how much they've actually gotten to interact with each other before the wedding there is a little bit of not standoffish, but just, I don't really know these people, sure, and, yeah, you know how do I invest my time with them. Right, where, when you, you know, already have a kid in play, it's like, hey, this kid is already calling me aunt and uncle. Exactly, this kid already knows that I'm grandma and grandpa. Yep, like we are already family. Yes, we just finally get to call this as we talked about before. This is a celebration, reunion, not a funeral or exactly something really rough and tragic. Exactly, together, this is the good. Yeah, come together. Yes, yeah, that's exactly right.

Amanda: 24:20

What is one thing that you think brides may forget to consider in either planning or in the wedding process? Like, what's something? Right, it goes by the wayside. Yeah, I would say a backup plan, a plan B, that is something that I did not consider. I just kind of thought everything would go without a hitch, and it did. You know, a couple little bumps that I don't I mean looking back, you don't remember now Exactly. I mean my. You know our flowers. I don't know if you remember this ordeal, but our flowers had all died in my twin sister's refrigerator and so it was like what are we going to do? And it was, I mean, and we figured it out. You know she ran to a couple local flower shops and she pulled something together.

Amanda: 25:12

But just having a backup plan for things like that, did you have any stress that the dress won't fit now hold a summer? Amanda was near months postpartum, looked freaking amazing in her dress, thank you. The back was like drape off, like, yeah, almost like 1920s, yes, glitzy. The fit of it, yeah, sort of it was gorgeous, thank you, and it's exactly what I wanted. And, fun fact, my twin sister picked it out for me. Of course you did, go figure, yeah, thank you, but you know, I know, so I had. I have obviously lost a lot of weight in past years. Dresses and outfits have been fun, right, I found a dress thrift store 75 bucks. It's in that closet there, I'll show you later, okay, and had a sorority sister take it in and customize it for me. Yeah, I was so stressed I kept losing weight up to the wedding.

Amanda: 26:08

Oh my God, we were thinking it wasn't going to fit in the swim at me rate, right, were you worried in a recent postpartum of, like, what if it doesn't fit? A little bit, yes, because another fun fact is that I tried my dress, like I went wedding dress shopping at six or seven months pregnant, but that might not have been too bad when you consider, like, the conversion rate. I bit forgiving. So I, but I was a little worried, thank you, you need to be forgiving. It was bonus, thank you, I wasn't. I wouldn't say it was at the top of my priorities or anything like that, but but I was a little bit worried about you know what if it doesn't fit right in this area or that area? But I mean, I think it came to. I mean, like I said, I figured if it looked good on me six months pregnant, it was bound to. You know, look half decent, you know, two months postpartum, yeah, that was, I wasn't super worried about it, but it was a thought in my head for sure, and I'm like, hey, if it fits now, it'll fit then. Right, because so many, I mean they don't think in terms of that for future planning.

Amanda: 27:41

Right, I had a bride. She actually got married August of this year. She was supposed to get married December of last year. Okay, I emailed her six months out and said are you just checking weddings still? Yeah, she. I emailed her six months out and said are you just checking weddings? Still off, she goes. We knew we forgot to tell somebody I'm pregnant. I'm due the week of the wedding. We are moving the wedding. Hope you're still available.

Amanda: 28:01

Oh, I know, life happens, it does. Life happens, yes, it does, and it's one of the reasons, in addition, to like the quote from your dad of things we find at the last minute. Yes, why I don't write scripts too far in advance? Because I have found that some of your most free-loving we love craft beer and concerts. Yeah, by the time I married them a year after, console they are. We love our family. Yes, we love our child, yes, oh, oh, weekend free. We're not backpacking, we are watching miss rachel. Right, right, exactly.

Amanda: 28:40

And I want to capture, yes, the sentiment of where you, where you're at, yep and similar thing, with family members passing, yes, again, the 20 something year olds who meet with me, right, I don't wish any of it on them, right, but if we get closer to the wedding and you say, hey, we need a moment of silence, right, we are darn sure you're gonna take it exactly because life, there's room for that, yeah, and life has that way of yep, of creeping, yeah, on us. Yes, it does. I don't want to be so stuck in my way to say, oh, no, your scripts are in. I wrote it the second I met you. There are no changes. Exactly, exactly, no, yes, so here we are. We've made it through two balls of wine for those counting. We've made it through laughter and through tears, yes, in as much details you want to get.

Amanda: 29:36

What are you up to now? So we've been so busy, I mean, with you. Know, it's been, like I said, full speed ahead. We have two children now a little boy, little girl, our, our little rosie is seven years old, and our br Bryn, brynton fun fact that's, you know. You know the story of Brynton, my maiden name. He is two and he's got the most gorgeous locks of hair, not that Rosie didn't, but Bryn's hair. He's got the little ringlets Curls, I know, and that's got to be Tito's side, like he's got the curly, he's got the little winglets curls, I know that's gonna be tito's side, like, yeah, he's got the curly, got the curls and coloring is that of the hair. It's, it's auburn. Is that your side? That comes from my side, yeah, that comes more from my side. So he's got a little bit of both in us. But I mean, they're, they're keeping us so busy at all times. We both are kind of in new jobs. He's working from home as a freight broker, which is, I mean, that's his world.

Amanda: 30:46

And you know, I don't claim to know you know I'm still in healthcare, a nurse, a proud nurse I am. I absolutely am. I do pediatric nursing. Now, what was your nursing around during COVID? Well, during that time I was do pediatric nursing. Now, what were you nursing? What was your nursing around during COVID? So well, during that time I was doing pediatric nursing. So you know, since Rosie was tiny, I've been doing the pediatric, which I never saw myself doing. But here we are, like seven years in and I couldn't see myself doing anything else but prior to the pediatric, I was actually on the geriatric end, so total opposite ends of the spectrum. And, yeah, we have a house, close family. You're so incredibly close with your family, yes, and if you aren't, I am because I'm friends with your mother.

Amanda: 31:32

And as our final question, our final cheers, cheers. If you could give one piece of advice to a newlywed couple. So again, you know, might not be all the clarity that you've got, right, but look back at who you were then, right, you know, maybe it's another bride who's finding herself planning while pregnant, right, right, a piece of advice to a newlywed, what would it be? Oh, like I said, said I could, I could, just, I could go on and on. Might not be the advice that everybody needs to hear. Looking back, and I, I think you know this has been kind of something that we have been really intentional with. Could we be more intentional? Absolutely, but we're busy. We get time, yeah, exactly, but just keeping your relationship at the forefront of everything.

Amanda: 32:27

Intentional date nights Tell the people what you're doing after this. We have a little date night arranged. We have babysitting arranged, going out for a little. We have a little date night arranged. We have babysitting arranged, going out for a little. You know. Dinner date reservations, you know the whole thing. After eight years, you have to, oh, absolutely. Two kids, two jobs, a house, family. You have to, you have to, and it really is a priority for us. We don't necessarily have a set, you know, oh. Or we have to do a date night every month or every, you know.

Amanda: 32:59

But you know when you're missing it exactly, you know when it's lacking, you know when it's needed, as soon as you notice that, hey, it's been a while. Right, see something, say something. Friends exactly say, hey, I notice it's been a while. Cough, cough, wink like nudge, nudge, and if you have to hit, hit exactly, hit, exactly. We should plan something because you don't want to ignore that warning.

Amanda: 33:22

Yes, and my husband said something. Really we were, you know, just kind of I don't know. This whole thing has given us a chance to sort of like relive, you know, and just look back and it's something that we don't do often enough just to sort of like rehash and relive. We know, we, we always know why we're here, you know what I mean. We always know how we got here, but just to like sort of think back and talk about it and, like I said, relive, and my husband made a really good point and and it was super sweet the way he said it, so I have to include it, of course, but he said Full credit to Tito. Full credit to Tito, he's an amazing man.

Amanda: 34:04

He said continue to water your tree of marriage. Continue to water the tree that marriage is, and if, from the roots on up, from the roots on up, and if the tree gives you fruit, you still need to water it. You still need to water that tree. And that was so sweet to me because our tree has given us fruit. You know what I mean. We do still need to water it, you know, to keep the fruit going. And when there's not fruit, maybe there's flowers, exactly, maybe it's a flowering tree, Exactly, and maybe it's just leaves, maybe it's just getting an inch taller every year. Yes, you still have to water it exactly. I loved it too. I thought it was so sweet.

Amanda: 34:47

So, yeah, any final thoughts, feelings, words that you'd give out into the world? I'm just thank you for mean. This has been so fun, like I said, just to be able to sort of relive and rehash and look back, and it was just like we needed this, you know, and I like doing it with couples who've been married a little bit Right, because I feel like the advice, I can't believe it's been eight years. But here we are, because the things you would say at myself, you know five months out or you know a year out, are different, different, they get colored over time. Yes, and I love that. Again, I gave you and Tito a reason to reflect it. Yeah, here's one.

Amanda: 35:33

A lot of people reflect at 20, 30. Yes, nope, you had an excuse. You of people reflect at 20, 30. Yes, nope, you had an excuse. You got to reflect at eight. Yeah, and maybe there's a few couples that are at four or five and I'll be able to get them on and do some additional reflection. Yes, I love it and thank you for having me. That was so fun. Cheers again. Thank you for listening to the Wedding Wear with Officiating by Amanda. Cheers again to help us reach even more listeners who might laugh a little at the wedding wear. For the links referenced in the show, visit Linktree at Officiating by Amanda. You can also follow the business on Facebook, weddingwire and the Knot to stay up to date on everything going on. If you have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast, just send an email to theweddingwearpodcast at gmailcom, and if you're ready to inquire about officiating services for your own big day, you can reach me at officiatingbyamanda at gmailcom. Thank you so much for tuning in and until next time. This has been Amanda.