Courage and Confidence

Confidence Is A Consequence, Not A Prerequisite

• Lee Iggulden and Michelle Rogers • Season 3 • Episode 3

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Have you ever told yourself you'll do that scary thing once you feel more confident? In this episode, Lee and Michelle tackle one of the most common confidence myths head-on: that you need to feel confident before you act.



The truth? Confidence comes after you do the thing, not before. As Michelle puts it, "confidence is a receipt: you get it after you've made the purchase."



Drawing on personal stories (including Lee hiding behind a curtain at a networking event and cancelling a paid-for photo shoot), the pair explore why we avoid the things that scare us and why that avoidance actually makes things worse, not better. They dig into the science of how the brain processes fear, and why every time we push through a scary situation, we're literally rewiring our response to it.



This episode is packed with practical, actionable wisdom:

  • The minimum viable action: what's the smallest step you can take towards that scary thing?
  • Why preparation is the foundation of confident action - from Googling the street view of a new venue to writing down your questions before a difficult meeting
  • Why inaction doesn't just stall your confidence, it actively erodes it, just like a muscle you stop using
  • How lockdown quietly stripped many people's confidence and what that tells us about keeping our skills sharp
  • The brain's "threat database" and how doing scary things repeatedly shrinks the fear response over time


Whether you want to speak up more in meetings, go to your first networking event, ask for that pay rise, or simply advocate for yourself at the doctor's surgery, this episode will give you the tools and the encouragement to take that first small step.



🎧 Listen now and start building your confidence, one tiny action at a time.

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