“Sweet-Fire” - The Podcast
How to survive the flame when what attracts you burns
“Sweet-Fire” - The Podcast
“Next Level” - “When The Past Has A Grip On Your Life”
When the past won’t let go, it can quietly script your choices, your relationships, and even how you see your own worth. We open the mic to a raw, faith-forward conversation about childhood trauma, the lies it plants, and the steady practices that loosen its hold. With Dr. Lydia Michelle Young and Intercessor J’eanine Nichole, we explore why wounds linger, how harmful labels turn into false identities, and what it takes to break family patterns without minimizing real pain.
We talk candidly about spiritual warfare and the subtle ways the enemy targets the mind—because if he can capture your thoughts, he can steer your life. Then we pivot to tools that rebuild identity from the ground up: daily prayer that centers truth, worship that interrupts shame, scripture that rewrites inner language, and meditation that calms a nervous system on high alert. We dig into forgiveness as advanced healing—not forgetting, not reconciling with the unsafe, but releasing the wound’s claim on your future. Along the way, we share personal moments of violation and loss, the drift toward toxic relationships, and the turning point where passion for healing outweighs the pull of old patterns.
You’ll hear practical steps for building a trusted support system, setting boundaries that protect your peace, and choosing habits that heal rather than numb. Most of all, you’ll be reminded of who you are: not your trauma, not the names others called you, but who God says you are—gifted, loved, and purposed. If you’re ready to trade shame for clarity and fear for forward motion, press play and walk with us. If this conversation helps you or someone you love, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review telling us which practice you’re committing to this week.
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When the past has a grip on your life, think think about that for just for a moment. When the past, past experiences, have a grip on your life. When past experiences try to hold you from living the life that you were created, designed, even the life that you want to live, that you hope to live. Um, past hurts, uh, thoughts and feelings that are troubling. When the past, one more time, when the past has a grip, a hold on your life, childhood trauma, childhood trauma has a lasting consequence. Childhood trauma again has lasting consequences that significantly influence, that that significantly impact and affect uh uh a person's mental, emotional, and in many, many, many cases across the board, physical uh health. The health of an individual is greatly impacted uh because of childhood trauma, and then it flows into the adult life, into adulthood. So that's what we want to talk about today. I am your host, Dr. Lydia Michelle Young, here with my co-host intercessor Janine Nicole. Today is Wednesday, it is the middle of the week, midweek refreshing fire. Thank you for tuning in to Sweet Fire the Podcast. How to survive the flame when what attracts you burns. It was sweet, it felt good, it tasted good, it looked good. My God, but then it burned. It hurt, it caused some problems in your life. Uh, we appreciate you for being here. Intercessor, how are you today?
SPEAKER_00:Doing good. Good evening, everyone, and yes, thank you for tuning in to Sweet Fire the Podcast, Childhood Trauma, How to Survive Those Things that, you know, uh greatly impacted us, affected us uh uh as we were growing up in life, you know, and even in uh in adulthood, um becoming an adult and dealing with some uh some you know traumatic experiences, some painful, uh devastating experiences, but still being stuck in the past, even as an adult, you know, because not all painful, devastating, you know, traumatic experiences happen as a child, you know. I mean, it we out here life in so you know you can be of a certain age, you could be a seasoned in age and still be greatly impacted by life and then finding yourself stuck. You know, life is moving forward, but being stuck in an experience, being stuck in a place. So uh, once again, definitely looking forward to uh to diving into this dynamic topic.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, yes. Um, and that's that's a fact. It can happen at any age uh where we experience trauma, where we experience trouble, uh hardships, abuse, uh abuse, whether it's mental, emotional, name calling, uh being yelled at, being threatened. Uh it comes in many forms, shapes, and so it can happen at any age. We want to really, really look and focus in today on how, even as a child, even as a youth, how those traumas, how those experiences uh they grow up with an individual. So now we experience uh the things uh of the past today. Um, and so uh a question came to me uh you know, is it possible to outgrow and overcome childhood trauma? It doesn't fade on its own. That means it is possible to outgrow, to overcome childhood trauma. And then I had a picture of this in my mind, right? The childhood trauma, where is it stemming from? It's not the plan of God for your life, because he says, Jeremiah 29, 11, I know the thoughts. He know I know what I think of you, the plans that I have for your life, thoughts of good, not of evil. Uh, to give you a hope, to give you uh a future, to give you an expectation. And so when when I I see this picture uh in my mind, I'm looking at spirits, uh, spirits that attack, spirits that bring on the trauma, a spiritual warfare of that that that people that we experience in life. So, how do you outgrow a spirit? How do you outgrow a demonic force? Oh my god, come on, jump in on that.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, that's good. That's good. Where where does it stem from? That's an excellent question. You know, though that childhood trauma that you're you're an adult now, you're of a legal age now, you're even seasoned now, seasoned in age, but being so stuck because of that childhood trauma. Right. Where does that stem from? Why are we, you know, why do we have such a hard time as adults moving beyond that experience, outgrowing that experience? Because again, I'm I'm glad you brought up, you know, that excellent passage of scripture. You know, the plans and thoughts that God thinks towards us, his sons and daughters, is not of good, it's not of evil. So, where does that experience, how come one is unable to move beyond that experience? Where does that stem from? That's a demonic force trying to snuff, you know, the plans of God out of our life. That's a demonic force trying to stunt our growth, that's a demonic force trying to stop our identity in God, trying to stop us from becoming who God has anointed, appointed, and ordained for us to be. You know, that's where that childhood trauma comes from. Why, you know, not being able to move beyond it. And when we don't address it, it grows. It grows.
SPEAKER_01:And this is what we we want you to know that you God has anointed you, He has appointed you, and He's ordained you for a purpose. He has a purpose. Yes, my goodness, everything that you do in life, uh, no matter where you live, what you drive, how you commit your your car to God, how you commit your work life to God, how you commit your children to God, how you commit your business, your ministry to God, all things have purposes, right? And they should all be uh uh tailored with the purpose of God in on your life. On your life, there's a purpose. So, how do we find uh purpose in pain? How do we find how do we find our purpose in the pain from the past? How do we uh can I say that one more time? Yeah, how do we find our purpose from uh our pains of our past? Um you know it's never too late to heal from the past. Never, it's never too late to heal from your past, and I can see uh this where many uh are taunted by your past, you're taunted by being held captive, uh things that happened to your life, to you personally behind closed doors, things that are happening now that you don't talk about. You don't feel like you, you know, you have someone that that you can't because of fear. Oh my god. So we talk about the traumas that they create fear, they create certain emotions, they create uh criticisms, they create limitations, they create uh manipulation. It's all these underlying emotions uh that are created because of trauma, right? All these all these aspects of my God, what God has not even planned for us. We know that we have to have uh experience and testimony and trials and tribulations, and we understand that. But some things uh that we go through in life, uh I see a cycle now. I see that some things our parents went through, or you know, maybe a relative went through. Uh, it crossed my mind today how there's a few family members of mine that that touch me inappropriately. That's trauma when I was a child. That's traumatic to be touched by someone that you trust, or you know, that's my relative, or that's my big cousin, or my, you know, it's it's it's traumatizing when we trust somebody. So how do we, and I'm gonna release this? How do we outgrow that spirit? There are ways to outgrow a spirit, there's a way to outgrow um the enemy in your life, the giant in your life. Come on, come on, because I've said a lot, so uh please share. Please share.
SPEAKER_00:I'll come back. Absolutely. Um, as you were speaking, it was just, you know, so much was just flowing in in my mind and different, you know, scriptures. What the devil meant for evil, God will turn it around for your good. And I'm gonna say that again because somebody needs to hear that on this evening. What the devil meant for evil, God will turn it around for your good. You know, uh those those unfortunate circumstances that have happened to many of us uh in our lifetime, you know, those those unwanted, uh traumatizing, devastating uh uh uh life experiences, those, you know, those journeys in life that were just so uncomfortable. The devil wants to use those experiences once again to stunt our role, to stop us from from trusting God, from from keeping us from those uh those solid divine connections that God has for us in life. The devil wants to use those experiences, you know, to aid us and cause us to enter into toxic relationships. The devil wants to use those experiences to cause one to try to numb themselves of that pain by it overindulging in alcohol, or you know, getting involved with drugs, right? All of those negative things that unfortunately uh are a response as a result of what people have experienced in life. That's the plan of the enemy. Yes, you know, that's the plan of the enemy for your life, the plan of God for our lives is to heal us, is you know, is to help us get through those experiences. And I know, you know, even for myself, because again, Sweet Fire the Podcast is how to survive the flame when what attraction burn. Unfortunately, when you are, you know, violated, when you are devastated, when you encounter and experience, you know, childhood traumas, if you will, we find ourselves responding in a negative fashion. We find ourselves, you know, uh experiencing, you know, because when the when the gate is open, just even a little bit for the enemy to just, you know, peek his little ugly head in there, right? When that gate is slightly open, then here he comes with all of his demonic forces, all of his demonic realms, your demonic realm, excuse me, and we find ourselves getting involved in so much stuff. So much stuff, and then we are found being stuck there for a length of time. And I know this was my experience in life, you know, and as a result, I got involved in toxic relationships, you know, dealing with people that I had no business dealing with, you know, over-indulging here, over-indulging there, and just really just living a perverted, if you will, lifestyle because of childhood traumas, because of devastating experiences. But this is all what the enemy wanted of me. He wanted this for me because he didn't want me to, you know, uh step into divine connections, he didn't want me to step into ministry, he didn't want me to realize my call and purpose in God, right? And this is why we have to, as painful as it is, people of God, as painful as the experiences have been in your life, you we all have to get to the point to where we face that trauma, that devastation head on. And how do we do that? We cry out to God.
SPEAKER_01:That's it. Cry out. Uh don't be uh afraid to express, right? Because it does. Uh the trauma manifests through fear, it manifests uh through anxiety and depression and stress, and even like you said, relational issues. Relational issues. That's that's big. That's huge. That that's that's huge. Relational issues, relational issues with who? Okay, you didn't cause the childhood trauma, but now I got a problem with my dad. Right. You didn't cause the trauma, but now I got a problem with my mama, right? You know, I have a problem with people in general. Right. Why? Because I've been what violated, I've been mistreated, I've been abused, I've been called out by name, I've been, you know, I've been hurt. My heart has been crushed. And so it it it it it it affects us in a negative way, as you stated, intercessor. It affects people in a negative way. You may never forget uh the trauma. Right. Typically, we don't, but you can free yourself. Free yourself. You can free yourself again. Trauma doesn't fade away on its own, but you can free yourself. And and our hope today, uh, our desire today for you is that you would engage um yourself, engage your thoughts, engage your heart, really engage, you know, do a self-evaluation, really engage yourself in the word, this word that's being shared with you, even if you have to push, push, replay and rewind and whatever you have to do so that it sinks in, soaks in, so that you're saturated in how you can overcome and outgrow the spirit of trauma. It comes in many forms, but you can overcome that enemy. You can overcome that devil, my God. You can overcome the enemy of your soul, the one who really, yeah, yeah, he the enemy doesn't want us to come into the fullness of who we are, he doesn't want us to identify with our purpose. He doesn't want he comes to kill, steal, and destroy. Right, you know, so his ultimate goal is to is to is to is to to take your soul, to have ownership of your soul.
SPEAKER_00:Yes.
SPEAKER_01:Uh, if he can have your mind, he can have your soul. If he can have your mind, I mean he got you. Yeah, and so that that's where healing in the mind has to come. Having a mindfulness about who you are, having a mindfulness about you're more than that, you're better than that, you're bigger than that, you're greater than that, you're smarter than that, you're beautiful, you're wonderfully made, whether you're a man or a woman, right? That God's hand is on your life, the call of God is on your life, knowing who you are, coming into grips, you know, the past has a grip on your life. No, come into grips, you know, with who you are. Begin to love on yourself, care for you, do right by you. Stop worrying about everybody else, right? You know, have a concern, yes. Pray for others, yes, be kind, right? Do as God leads you to do for others, but what about you?
SPEAKER_00:What about you?
SPEAKER_01:Care about you, take care of you, make you number one for once, amen. Come on, make you number one.
SPEAKER_00:Come on, come on, in the same way. That was dynamic. Come on, yeah, yeah. Make you number one for once, amen. Absolutely love you, love you, you know, so much that you just you tune everything and everybody out that's trying to keep you stuck, right? That's you are not your trauma, you are not your trauma, you are who God says you are, and I'm gonna say that again. You are not your trauma, you are who God says you are. Unfortunately, so many of you know, they allow their trauma to become their identity, they allow their trauma to become their identity. All those negative words that were spoken out against you, people allow themselves to become those words. You know, after hearing that you're you're stupid, you're ugly, you're you're fat, you're this, you're that, then they become what they have heard throughout their lives. So they believe it. Because they but they start to believe that they start to believe the lie. Yeah, they that seed is planted, and because that satanic agent, because those who are calling you anything else other than your name, they're a they're a satanic agent. Point blank period is simple. So those satanic agents they plant those seeds. You know, you're ugly, that's a seed. You're never gonna amount to anything, that's a seed, and then they keep coming and they keep coming and they keep watering that seed, and unfortunately, that seed begins to sprout, and that vessel, that person begins to believe, you know, what that what was planted. Right. You are not that, you are not those negative words, you are not your trauma, you are who God says you are, God says you're gifted, God says you're love, God says you're special, God says you're anointed, God says you are appointed, God says you are talented, God says the opposite of what those satanic agents have been used to try to get you to believe about yourself. Right, right. You have to fight for it, you have to love yourself so much, you have to become so passionate about your healing. I just shared this with a young man not too long ago. You have to become passionate about your healing, you got to drown out the negative, the negativity, excuse me, around you. And you have to become passionate for your healing. You got to fight for your healing. That's where I had to get to in life. I had to become passionate about my healing. My healing and my peace had to have to uh I had to get to the point, excuse me, that my healing and my peace. Meant more to me, meant more to me than everybody else. Meant more to me than everybody else. And it wasn't until I got to that point, Doctor, that God really began to do a new work in me. It's now I got my daughter all by herself. Now the healing can begin. Now the deliverance can begin. Now she can begin to see herself through my vision, through my eyesight. She can begin to see who I have anointed, appointed, and ordained for her to be. You have to get to that point, people of God. Become so passionate about your healing. Become passionate about you. Love you so much that you fight for you.
SPEAKER_01:Fight for you. That's it. Fight for you. Fight for you. Don't give up on you. Don't throw in the towel on you. Love you and take care of you. And build a support system with trusted family, friends, if that's possible. There is someone who's privy to certain things that you experience in life. And so we have to get to that point and know who those divine connections are. So you can build. Your past is a foundation. Build upon your past. Oh my God. Find your purpose in the pains from your past. And so as we get ready to close this session out, um you can overcome childhood trauma. It doesn't have to uh significantly affect and influence and impact your adulthood. It does not. You can do it. You can outgrow the spirit of trauma. How? Through prayer. You can outgrow it through prayer, through communication with the Father. You can outgrow it, my God, through prayer, uh, through worship, through through a consistent prayer life. You can outgrow the enemy of your soul and get to a place in life where he can't handle your prayer life. He can't handle your praise. He can't handle you speaking life. He can't handle you giving thanks to God. He can't handle you reading and studying and saturating yourself in the word of God. He can't handle your meditation upon God. My God, you practicing forgiveness. The enemy can't handle that. You being able to grow up into a point where you're able to forgive those who did you wrong. Oh my God. Uh finding purpose in pain. Allow the pain of your past to be your teacher. Take the lessons learned from past experiences from childhood trauma and build you a life, the life that God has ordained for you to live. And one more thought, remember this it's never too late to heal from the past. Peace be to you, peace be to your house, and peace be to all you have.
