“Sweet-Fire” - The Podcast
How to survive the flame when what attracts you burns
“Sweet-Fire” - The Podcast
“Years Later & It Still Hurts” - “Next Level”
Pain that lingers can feel like a private storm—loud on the inside, invisible on the outside. We open up a clear, compassionate path for anyone carrying old wounds into today’s relationships, work, and self-talk. Together, we explore how to identify what actually hurts, unmask the emotions beneath the mask, and release them in ways that protect your peace and your people.
We start by naming the problem: unresolved trauma doesn’t disappear with time; it grows with us. You’ll hear how masking shows up in marriages, parenting, and everyday habits, and why the first brave step is identification—calling the feeling by its true name. From there, we get practical: how to create safe channels for anger and grief, how to trade reactions for responses, and how to set rhythms that help your body and mind let go. Expect grounded examples, simple language you can use in hard conversations, and small practices you can repeat when the heat rises.
We also weave in a spiritual lens on release—casting your cares as a daily boundary with your burdens. Whether you pray, journal, or take a walk to speak your truth out loud, the principle stands: emotions are motion, and healing happens when they’re allowed to move through. The goal isn’t forgetting; it’s freedom. By identifying, releasing, and responding with intention, you start to shrink the giant that once ruled your choices. If you’re ready for a lighter you and a steadier life, press play, take what serves you, and share it with someone who needs hope. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: which step are you taking first?
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Last week we explored how uh trauma from our childhood, childhood trauma uh has the potential disability. Uh it's potent. It could filter into adulthood, childhood trauma filtering into adulthood, and how to identify uh what those spirits are, because this is really a spirit when we think about trauma, uh what traumatizes a person, an individual, um, and how to outgrow that spirit, or how to outgrow that force, how to outgrow and overcome those feelings, those emotions uh that are overwhelming, that come to attack us or to make us feel low or to make us uh feel down. We experience it, we experience, excuse me, several different emotions. And so today, yeah, last week was a segue uh until today's into today's uh podcast where we're talking about when the pain lingers. When the pain lingers, when trauma is trapped inside. I am your host, Dr. Lydia Michelle Young. I am here with my co-host, Intercessor Janine Nicole. Today is Wednesday. It is the middle of the week, Wednesday, mid-week, refreshing fire. And I am sensing that there are someone, there's someone who's listening, whether it's in America or in another country than America, who um who is uh longing uh for healing, who's longing for a change, longing for a difference to be made in your life, and you're you're looking for an answer uh to how to deal with the trauma uh that you're experiencing, trauma that's trapped inside, pain uh that has been lingering in your life for many years. Um, intercessor, come on and jump in on that. Good to have you today. It's good to be here. Good evening, everyone. Um trapped trauma, trapped trauma. A lot of people um don't realize that there's trauma that's you know it is trapped in the inside of them because you know, for so many years they've been able to wear masks, if you will. You know, they've been able to put on that smile. They know, you know, when to put on that smile, but then they go home and you know it's a it's a different set of emotions that they're experiencing that they've been dealing with. Uh, relationships, you know, a lot of people have gotten married, and they don't and they've taken that that childhood trauma into that marriage. And now that marriage, uh, there's such a divide in that relationship because of that trauma that's trapped within. You know, uh people have had kids, they've birthed kids into the world, brought kids into the world, and you know, their relationship with their child is not necessarily what they would desire it to be, and they don't know why. But the answer is because of those unresolved issues, that trauma that's trapped on the inside, that trauma that's been allowed to grow up with the individual. You know, how many of us know what when there's issues that are unresolved, just because we are, you know, we're getting older in age, it doesn't mean that the you know, the uh the trauma, the issues, they just disappear. Where do they go if they're not dealt with? Where do they go if they're not faced head on? Where do they go? They go nowhere, they grow up with us. So definitely looking forward to jumping into this uh subject on this evening. Absolutely. You said uh where they're unresolved. So the trauma uh is a result. There are feelings, there are emotions. We talked about that term emotion intercessor, where emotion, that word literally means to stir up or to move out. Emotion, motion, motion, there's movement that's taking place on the inside, right? So feelings like there's a distortion, there's uh all types of um, there's all types of feelings that could actually alter and change a person uh on the inside. And and so it's years later, it still hurts. It happened years ago, but years later, uh, there's still that pain. Years later, there's still depression and stress and anxiety and sadness and loneliness and all these underlying emotions. Underlying emotions. It it's my goodness, it's the weight of a loss or the weight of a breakup, the weight of being mistreated, the weight of abuse, the weight of a lie being told on an individual. And and today we're discovering, we want to share how to process uh the pain, the emotion, the trauma that has gone on in your life that's been unprocessed, it's been unresolved. And then what happens? It still hurts. Years later, it still hurts, and then the memories cause the feeling to resurface. Come on, jump in. Yeah, one of the key factors, um, you know, in addressing that, the uh the trauma, the devastations, those emotions that have yet to come out, right? They're they're trapped on the inside. The number one way to address those is identify.
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SPEAKER_00:We have to identify, right? We gotta you gotta get to a place in life that we stop running, we stop, you know, trying to sweep it under the rug, we stop trying to cover it up, we stop, we stop trying to put a band-aid on an open wound that has, you know, just expanded, it has grown over the years, right? The band the band-aid can't do nothing because the wound is so deep, it's wide open, you know, and a lot of uh uh uh uh toxins and you know uh uh just a bunch of stuff has has uh crept in. It crept into that open wound to cause it to expand even the more. What is a band-aid gonna do for that? Absolutely nothing. So the number one thing that you know we have to uh do in life, we have to identify, identify that pain, right? We got to put an identifier on it in order to you know to start the process of healing, to start the process of uh of becoming whole. We have to identify. That's the first step. And a lot of people don't want to take the time to identify because when we take the time to identify, then what are we doing, doctor? We're facing right that identifier head on, and we begin to start dealing and experiencing you know uh those emotions that are so uncomfortable, right? With the the well opens up, if you will. The well opens up, and we could find our you know, our ourselves at work, and the next thing you know, our faces are just flooded with tears because that well has opened up because we have identified. And one of my mantras, some of you are are well aware of my mantra, right? It takes strength to heal, it takes strength to heal, it does, but healing is painful, but it is worth the process, and a lot of people don't want to, you know, uh um deal with the healing process because of the strength that is required, because of the strength that is required. But the number one, if you want to be healed, you want to be made whole, you got to first identify. You gotta identify. You have to name it. You know, you have to name it. And it's when traumatized people feel permanently damaged. There comes a time, a moment in life where it's time to release the emotion. Release the emotion, it stirred up in you. Now do something where it calls where your actions cause it to move out, right? To move out. See, we bottle up feelings, we allow feelings to build up, then there's resentment, and then there's bitterness and hatred and just so many. Uh, there's an elevation and escalation even in that, right? We don't get any better when you said, like, sweep it under the rug, right? You know, we have to uncover, unmask it. We have to unmask the pain, unmask it, not suppress it, right, but unmask it. And so, because if we fail to do so, um, it's going to interfere with healing. The pain, the trauma will interfere with healing, it will interfere with our work life, it will interfere uh with our relationship with our children, it will interfere with our relationship with the spouse or with our parents, it will interfere with sleep, it interferes with us being able to function. Health, it interferes, mental health, physical health, our our total well-being is dependent upon us being able to release those things that have called us, caused us pain. We have to release, learn to release. Come on, come on, John. Yeah, learn to release. I like how you put that unmasking the emotions. You know, it's exposing those emotions. Those emotions, they don't want to be exposed. They don't want to be unmasked, they don't want to leave you, they don't want to leave, you know, uh uh that dwelling place. The dwelling place is is is your heart, the dwelling place is your overall being, right? Those emotions, they find a home, you know, they find a home, and then after a while they become so uh they become so comfortable, excuse me, to where we have to evict them. We gotta make them so uncomfortable with being comfortable. We gotta want to get them up out of us, you know, and and that is a part of that healing process, and it is a process. Healing is a process, it is a step-by-step, moment-by-moment process. And many of us who have gone through that process, we have not arrived. We have not arrived, but we have learned to walk out of that process, you know. And like I've said on here, you know, in past episodes, we have to become so passionate about our overall well-being. I'm gonna say that again. We have to become passionate about our overall well-being, to where we don't allow anything and anyone to stop us, to prevent us from being whole, from being whole emotionally, from being whole physically, from being whole spiritually. So, number one, again, we have to identify, and number two, we have to release and let those things go. Unmask the emotions, right? Unmask the emotions, name them. What is it? What is it that uh that that I feel? What's that feeling? Identify it. What is it? Is it anxiety? Are you sad? Are you feeling sad? Are you feeling broken? Are you angry? Is it has fear set in? What do you feel? So unmasking, identifying and naming it, call it out, call it out, and so the the importance of releasing the emotion or allowing the emotion to stir and move out. Uh, what's important about that is it allows a person to express. You can express what you feel in a healthy way, right? You know, it's important that we learn to release, that we we learn to let go so that that build-up, bottled-up resentment doesn't, it's not a reaction. Reaction is when we don't think clearly. We just do, we just move, we just do something, and it's impacting when we react. There's an explosion. But if we think thoughtfully, we can respond to what it is we feel. We can respond to that loved one, we can respond to that friend, we can use healthy words, you know, have a healthy conversation, be assertive, but don't go off on nobody. Right, right? Uh learn how to unmask and expose the giant in your life. Expose the giant in your life. It it's outgrown many of you anyway. When we hold those things in, those emotions, that problem, that trauma, it has a way of outgrowing us. That's why we've talked about you can outgrow that giant, you can outgrow that force, you can outgrow, you can overcome that big thing in your life that has tried to dominate your thinking, that's tried to dominate the way you move, the way you function, the way you, the way you talk, the way your conduct, your body language has tried to has tried to dominate and control your life. And so your life is going in the direction you don't desire, or the direction it will it's not really destined for you. Why? Because of the giant. Expose the giant in your life. Believe your situation will improve. Don't allow your mind to get stuck because when we suppress, we get stuck in our minds. And it's hard to come through, it's hard to get that breakthrough. So when we're loaded down, we must learn to unload. Name it, call it out. Come on, inner ceasing, right? And I like how you put, you know, uh, we can express ourselves. There's a way to express ourselves even when we're angry, right? I mean, scripture says, and not everybody tuning in, you know, uh uh is a believer or or you know uh considers themselves to be Christian, but scripture does clearly say, be ye angry, sin not. Be ye angry, sin not, right? So, in other words, it's okay to be angry, it's okay to be, you know, upset. It's okay to not, you know, be happy about the experiences that you have experienced in life. That's okay. There's nothing wrong with that. We are all out here life and together. We are all out here gonna experience and have experience, you know, of various emotions, and not all of those emotions have, you know, been emotions that have been delightful, full of joy, and just put a great big smile on our faces. You know, some some of the experiences that we have had in life have been very uncomfortable and have made us very angry. But there is a healthy way to express oneself, you know, even if, yes, you've been in a room full of people and everybody in that room has done you wrong. You are justified in how you feel. However, there is a healthy way to express it, right? A healthy way to address the issue, and it's not for the sake of others, it's for the sake of ourselves. You know, our healing is about ourselves first, so that we can be better suited and better fit for those relationships. Right, exactly. So it's really uh um what came to me, intercessor, uh listening to you is um is uh 1 Peter in you know 5-7. It says, casting all your care. You can release what's inside you said that there's a healthy way to do it. So my thought uh to follow up on that is the more you do, the more you practice, the better you become. Right. The more you give effort, the better you become. You will be sustained in your efforts, right? You will be sustained. Why? Because there's a hunger in you to heal, there's a hunger in you to be well, there's a hunger in you to do better, there's a hunger in you to release all the toxins. It's toxin, it's poison, right? What happens when there's poison on the inside? It causes sickness, emotional, mental, even physical. I mean, emotions can uh manifest in our bodies. Don't let don't allow the emotion, uh the trauma to stay trapped inside because it can bring illness. It can bring illness. But when we look at 1 Peter, if I could bring this out, 5 and 7, it does say casting all your care. Even in uh Psalm, I believe it's uh 5522, and it says casting uh all your care. Why? Because uh if you cast your care on him, what does it mean to cast? Even in the Hebrew, it means to forcefully throw, it means to uh to hand over, to give over to him, hand over your worries, hand over your anxieties. That's the problem. We're we're holding on to so much. We're holding on, open up and release yourself, right? Release yourself, he will sustain you, he will keep you. Who am I talking about? The one who created you. And so it's important to cast all your care. If you have to cry, cry. Cry it out, shed those tears, allow the toxins and the poison to flow out of you. Um, and so when you cast your care, you you forcefully throw, you abandon those emotions that have held you back, you eject those emotions that have crippled you mentally, emotionally, and you move forward, you learn to move forward in life. Come on, intercessor. Come on, yeah, absolutely. Don't you want a lighter you? Yeah, I'm asked that question again. Don't you want a lighter you? Get the weight off, get the weight off, learn the truth of who you really are. You know, get to know you, spend some time with you, make you your number one priority. Walk into the truth of your identity, the truth of who you are. Identify it, release it, and let it go so that the healing process can begin. It is worth it. It is worth it. There's a beautiful lighter you that awaits you. Fight for your healing. Let the healing process begin on this evening. That's it. Peace be to you, peace be to your house, and peace be to all you
