“When Their Opinion Doesn’t Matter”

Know your worth, and your whole life starts negotiating differently.

We sit down for a midweek “refreshing fire” conversation about self-worth, identity, and the quiet damage that happens when we let external validation define us. When your confidence is built on other people’s opinions, pressure from the outside starts shaping the inside, and before you know it you’re living as a stranger to your own purpose. We talk about why your value is already established: priceless, unique, chosen, and full of potential.

From there, we get practical about what knowing your worth actually changes. It strengthens you to walk away from toxic relationships, abuse, and chaotic cycles that lead to low self-esteem, depression, and even suicidal ideation. We connect self-worth to relationship standards, calling out trust and respect as foundations you can build on instead of “rubble” that collapses under pressure.

We also share the reality that reclaiming your worth is a journey, especially if you’ve spent years trying to be who everyone else expected. Learning to trust yourself again takes time, but it produces something powerful: fearless movement toward your goals, dreams, and calling, plus boundaries that protect your peace.

If this message hits home, subscribe to Sweet Fire the Podcast, share it with someone who needs a reset, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway. What’s one area where you’re choosing to honor your worth this week?

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Transcript

Know Your Worth Mantra

SPEAKER_00 0:03

Know your worth. Know your worth. The value of who you are. Priceless, unique, special, phenomenal, chosen. The value of your worth. Know your worth.

Welcome To Midweek Refreshing Fire

SPEAKER_00 0:21

I am your host, Dr. Lydia Michelle Young. Here with my co-host, Intercessor Janine Nicole here in the studio. This is Wednesday, middle of the week. We refer to this day, a Wednesday, as midweek refreshing fire, where we share words with you to refresh you and also to help you to remind you of your worth. We appreciate you for tuning in to Sweet Fire the Podcast. And now come on, jump in here, intercessor. Know your worth. That's what we're talking about today.

SPEAKER_01 0:57

Yes, good evening, everyone. And what a way to kick off the middle of the week with coming into the understanding of your worth, you know, and gaining even more strength and even greater confidence because realizing one's worth. I think this is an awesome way to kick off middle of the week. So again, welcome to Sweet Fire the Podcast, and thank you to each and every one of you who continues to tune in and to support Sweet Fire the Podcast.

SPEAKER_00 1:29

Absolutely. We do appreciate you. So know your worth. Know your worth.

Worth Without External Validation

SPEAKER_00 1:35

And it's your worth is not dependent upon external validation. It's it's not uh uh based on you know what others think of you, others' opinions of you. Oh my goodness, it you know, knowing your worth is is you making up in your mind that you refuse to settle for less than you deserve. Jump in on that.

SPEAKER_01 1:56

Yeah, yeah, I I love that because I know for uh me, my personal experience, excuse me, everyone, my personal experience for many years, you know, with growing up, um really trying to develop, you know, who I was and shaping it around, you know, the opinions and thoughts of others. And I believe that a lot of people can relate to that, right? You know, so because I lived for so many years with, you know, defining myself based on the opinions of others, defining myself based on, you know, what others uh thought, you know, um that I should be or who I should be. And don't get me wrong, a lot of this was not negativity, you know, a lot of it was negativity, and then a lot of it wasn't negativity, but again, I was trying to be, you know, who I thought I should be based on the external factors around me.

SPEAKER_00 2:59

Exactly, and I think a lot of people can relate to that, right? Right, because external, uh, this external validations, what's happening outside of you applies a lot of pressure to what's inside of you. Right. And then things become distorted if I can say so. Right.

Strength To Walk Away From Harm

SPEAKER_00 3:15

So understanding your worth, knowing your worth, your value, uh, that you who you are, um, the fact that you are priceless will enable you, will will strengthen you, will equip you to walk away from situations that bring you trouble. Walk remember the mantra, how to survive the flame when what attracts you burns. So when you when we know our worth, we're able to walk away from that uh undesired situation, walk away from that toxic relationship, walk away from abuse, walk away uh from uh you know that dark space where you know we um we that can cause us to go into uh low self-esteem or or depression or suicidal ideations, all of these things happen. It's just a reality, it's real

Trust As The Relationship Foundation

SPEAKER_00 4:06

life. And so last week uh we kicked it off talking about trust being the foundation or should be the foundation of every relationship. We're not building upon rubble, right? Right, but there we should be building up on trust. Our foundation should be laid out upon trust. There's some other things, respect. Come on, jump in.

SPEAKER_01 4:27

Yeah, I like that. That that's uh loaded right there. Um, and again, you know, just basing off of my own personal experience because again, the mantra is how to survive the flame and what attracts you burns, right? You know, even for me, how I became, you know, how I begun the journey, right? Because it is a journey after a while, you know, when you spill when you spend, excuse me, everybody, so many years building, you know, or trying to define yourself based on the external factors. When you spend so many years doing that, it becomes a journey, you know. It's a journey to try to get to know you. You know, it's a journey, you know, with with you

The Journey To Learn Yourself

SPEAKER_01 5:10

know, uh getting comfortable with spending time with you, getting comfortable with getting to know who you are, getting comfortable with trusting yourself, right? You gotta get comfortable with, you know, trusting yourself, trusting that, you know, you have uh some jewels on the inside of you, trusting that that you are special, right? Trusting that you know what's best for you, you know, you have to you have to uh get comfortable with that, and it can become a journey because when you spend so many years with living life based on others, based on others' expectations, you know, that that that can take a lot out of a person. And it took a lot out of me.

SPEAKER_00 5:56

Right, right, right. I like I like uh appreciate what you said about building um based on external um other others' opinions or the circumstance around you, the pressure around you is forcing you to build. Now you're not your authentic self, right? It's not truly who you are, right? Um, and so now you're outside of your element, you're outside of your terrain, your territory, your authority. Right. You're you're operating outside of the authority that you've been uh given. You're operating outside of who you were truly designed and created to be. Now, now when we are in that position, we lack the strength needed to pull ourselves together. We lack the strength needed to walk away. We lack the strength needed uh to even you know really endure a thing. We lose hope.

SPEAKER_01 6:54

Right, we lose focus. You become a foreigner in your own space.

SPEAKER_00 6:58

Right. There's a weakness that can overtake us if we build our lives, if we build up on the external factors, remember that who you are, you've already been equipped, you've already been created, you've already been made, you've already been handpicked, you've already been chosen. I mean, you're unique even before that seed, you know, in your mother's womb. Right. You you you were impacted. We talked about living this life being full of potential, you know, and being certain that you deposit your potential in the earth. I'm gonna stop right there, jump in.

SPEAKER_01 7:37

Yeah, yeah, I like that. Um, I believe that really helps somebody out there. Yeah. Um, yeah, the full of the potential. And when you are living your life again, you know, um thinking that you know your worth because of what others think about you, because of what others say about you. Right? So you think you know the value of you, you think you know, you know, uh uh your worth when the truth of the matter is you don't, right? You you've been deceived. You know, you really don't know you, right? You really don't know you. And you have to, you know, uh uh get to the place in life to where you're strong enough to say, you know what? I think there's more to me than what others have been saying, right? You know, you you that takes strength. You gotta become strong enough, you know, to say, I think it's time for me to step away. I think it's time for me to trust that this is the right time for me to get to know me. Right. And that's and that's what happened for me. Right, right. And that took strength to do so. You know, many of you have tuned in to uh uh uh I think it was episode three of uh talking about surviving the spirit of suicide when I, you know, shared my story. Separation. Separate separation, thank you. When I uh uh shared my story that, you know, God had to separate me. He had to, you know, get me away from my comfort zone. And that's when, you know, I began to really understand that there's more to me than what I've been believing. Right. There's more to me than what others have, you know, thought about me. There's more to me than what others have said about me. That's when the journey began for me to learn my worth and begin to, you know, for me to come into the truth of my identity. But it took strength.

SPEAKER_00 9:43

Knowing your worth, um, getting to know you. And when we I like what you said, knowing your worth, you become fearless.

Fearless Boundaries And Final Blessing

SPEAKER_00 9:53

Yeah, you can move forward in life fearlessly. Yeah, you can pursue your worth without fear, pursue your life, your purpose, your goals, your dreams without fear.

SPEAKER_01 10:06

Come on, yeah, yeah, yeah. And it's funny because I actually have a little uh a beanie with a little ball at the top that says fearless. Fearless. And it's the truth because there's a confidence that comes with, you know, your knowing your worth. There's a confidence that comes with tapping into the truth of who you really are. There's a confidence now, you know, you can't pay me to be in a toxic relationship. When I didn't know my worth, that's all you know I was comfortable with. That's what I ran to. Toxicity.

SPEAKER_00 10:40

Right.

SPEAKER_01 10:41

You know, now you you can't pay me. There's there's not enough money for me to go back to anything toxic, right? Right, to anything, you know, chaotic. There's not enough money.

SPEAKER_00 10:50

There's nothing you can offer.

SPEAKER_01 10:51

There is nothing you can offer me. You know, why? Because I have come to know my worth. Have I arrived? Absolutely not. You know, I'm far better than I used to be, right? And I'm only going to get better because I choose to get better.

SPEAKER_00 11:07

I absolutely choose to become better so you can do better, so you can have more, so you can do more. Embrace who you are. Know your worth. Peace be to you, peace be to your house, and peace be to all you have.