“Name Your Flame”

Something keeps burning you, and it’s not going to change until you can name it. We sit down mid-week for a direct, heart-level conversation about the “flame” behind the stress, the burden, the depression, and the relationship patterns that keep going up in smoke. When we stay vague, we stay trapped. When we get honest, healing can finally start.

We break down what it really means to confront the issue instead of circling it, numbing it, or distracting ourselves with overindulgence. Using the burning building metaphor, we talk about toxic relationships, soul ties, unhealthy attraction, and the rubble left behind when you’ve poured in your time, money, energy, and hope. We also share why naming the flame is not about shame. It’s about clarity, boundaries, and reclaiming your self-worth so you can stop repeating cycles that drain your life.

We go deeper into why people get delayed and weighed down, even when opportunity is right in front of them. When you carry unhealed pain, it can block connection, steal confidence, and keep you from walking toward purpose, destiny, and identity. Our mantra stays simple: healing is painful, but it is worth the process. And on the other side of that process is relief, strength, and a new kind of peace.

Listen, share this with someone who’s been living in the smoke, and then tell us: what flame are you naming today? Subscribe, leave a review, and help more people find the words that lead to healing.

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Transcript

Name Your Flame Opening

SPEAKER_01 0:02

Name your flame. Name your flame. Name your flame. Your problem. Your issue. Your pain. Your burden. That thing that stresses you. That the thing that burns you out. Name it. Put a name to it. Identify it. Name your flame.

Meet The Hosts And Purpose

SPEAKER_01 0:21

I am your host, Dr. Lydia Michelle Young. I'm here with my co-host, Intercessor Janine Nicole, here in the studio. This is Wednesday, middle of the week, Wednesday, mid-week refreshing fire, where we share words with you to refresh you. And then also to remind you of your worth. We appreciate you for tuning into Sweet Fire the Podcast. And Intercessor is here. Come on, greet the people.

SPEAKER_00 0:51

Good evening, everyone. Yes, thank you for tuning in to another episode of Sweet Fire the Podcast. Name your flame. Name your flame.

Why Naming The Issue Matters

SPEAKER_00 1:02

I love this particular um topic that we're getting ready to address this evening because it's not until we name our flame, until we identify what that issue is that's holding us back, that's keeping us from the realization of the truth of our worth, the truth of our value. It's not until then, you know, that the healing can truly begin in one's life. So definitely looking forward to jumping into the topic on this evening.

SPEAKER_01 1:36

Absolutely. And

The Burning Building Metaphor

SPEAKER_01 1:37

when we talk about the flame, name your flame. Again, the mantra uh for our podcast, Sweet Fire the Podcast, is how to survive the flame, how to survive that issue, how to survive that problem, how to survive the pain, that oh my goodness, that burden, that stress, that depression, the trouble in your life, how to survive it, that thing that attracted you, that person that attracted you, um, that that that issue, whatever it might be that attracted you to it, how to survive that flame, uh, but then it burned. Um, it went up in smoke. And remember, uh, for several weeks now, we've been using for a metaphor um the burning building, relationships that went up in smoke, um, connections, ties, uh, soul ties, um, being attracted and uh addicted, or you know, where that irresistible uh connection that you have with maybe a person or a substance or a thing, no matter what it might be, how that thing, how that relationship went up in smoke. Why? Because it really wasn't purpose for your life, it really wasn't intended for you. So now there's rubble, now there's dust, now there's smoke. Um, how to survive that flame?

SPEAKER_00 3:05

Come on. Jump

Stillness And Self-Examination

SPEAKER_00 3:06

in. Yeah, and with you know, uh, name that flame, name that flame. It it causes a person to do what? To spend time with their self. It causes a person to be still and really look within and really begin to do some identifying, really begin to pull back some layers, you know, that was that that they haven't pulled peeled back. They haven't peeled back. And as a result, they find themselves jumping into toxic relationships. They they find themselves overindulging, not necessarily over-indulging, you know, with another person, but just over-indulging in in different uh veins, if you will, that keeps them so distracted and hindering them from realizing the truth of their value, the truth of what it is that they have to offer in society, the truth of what you know, what it is that they have to offer within their own families, the truth of what it is that they have to offer in different relationships, working relationships, naming that flame, it forces that one to sit down and really examine themselves, really look within, and really be begin the process of coming to know the truth of who they really are.

A Personal Turning Point

SPEAKER_00 4:30

And it wasn't until for myself, because we can only speak about our own personal experiences, and that's really what this podcast wise even in into uh existence. We're pulling from our own experiences, our own uh uh different things that we went through in life. And as a result, you we want to give back, right? We want to give back and let people know we get it. Absolutely, we get it, we understand it. We survived many of flames, have spent times in many burning buildings. Oh my god so we speak from experience, and it wasn't until what was it, 2016, 2017, that's exactly what I did. I had to name my flame, right? And it wasn't until I named my flame and I faced the truth of that flame head on. It wasn't until then that my healing process began.

SPEAKER_01 5:29

Right.

SPEAKER_00 5:29

Prior to that, I was a wreck, I was a mess in one burning building after another after another. But I had to sit down, spend some time with myself, and put an identifier on it. And that's when my healing process began.

SPEAKER_01 5:47

Wow. And um I uh you said so much right there, it was so impacted. And if

Healing Hurts But It’s Worth It

SPEAKER_01 5:54

I can unpack a little bit of what you said, um when we talk about name uh your flame is to call it out. Right, right? Right, absolutely to address the issue, to confront the issue. Um, not to engage yourself with it because you I mean, we've already engaged with that's why we that's why people get in trouble because they engage themselves, but we're talking about confronting the flame so that you can heal. What's your mantra? Share your mantra right now. Healing is painful, but it is worth the process. Healing is painful, it hurts. Yes, it has been hurtful, it's been complicated, it's been hard to deal with, it's been difficult. Uh, you've been in a dilemma, but going through it and coming out of it, it it when you come out, oh my goodness, you you can open up your mouth and say, it's been worth the process. Come on, jump in.

SPEAKER_00 6:50

Absolutely.

Relief After Calling It Out

SPEAKER_00 6:51

There's nothing like before, oh my goodness, before naming the flame, there's just a whirlwind of confusion, there's a whirlwind of shame, right? There's a whirlwind of guilt, there's a whirlwind of hurt. There is so much junk, so much weight that comes to a person's life prior to naming that flame. But my god, once you name that flame, the relief truly begins. You begin to feel lighter, you know, it's almost like you're floating, you know, because so much has been lifted, right? And you just become a new person. The confidence that comes with it, and then you know, you may encounter you know that flame here or there, right? Seeing it in another. Right. But the attraction that you once had to that flame is no longer there. Right now you want to go to that one in which you identify, you recognize that flame because that used to be you, and you want to share your experience with them and let them and let them know I've been there. Right. That flame is deadly. That building is getting ready to come down.

SPEAKER_01 8:15

Right. Exactly.

When Overindulgence Pulls Others In

SPEAKER_01 8:18

And you mentioned, I appreciate that, you mentioned a term uh that really uh resonated as well, the overindulgence. When we overdo, when we overgive, when we over involve ourselves. Um and you said so much junk. Yes. You know, the debris of the flame when it when it when it when the relationship, when that situation goes up in smoke, you put your trust in it, you put your efforts in it, you sweat, your sweat, your tears. I mean, you put so much, your finances, yes, you put your all into it. And not only that, you put your all into it, but you carried your children into it. Right. You carried your family into it, yeah. Your loved ones into it. You put everything that you've ever known into it, and now everything is up in smoke. Now you're at a disadvantage. So it's important for us to identify, as you said intercessor, call it out, address it, confront it so that you can reduce the power that it has over you. Jump in.

SPEAKER_00 9:25

Yeah, absolutely. And I like, you know, uh what you just stated about the uh how you bring your children into it, you bring your family into it, you bring your potential into it, your purpose, your purpose into it.

SPEAKER_01 9:40

Yeah, you jeopardize your destiny.

SPEAKER_00 9:41

Yeah, absolutely. You jeopardize your destiny with it. It's just it's not worth it. Right, it's not worth

How The Flame Delays Destiny

SPEAKER_00 9:49

it. That that flame is in place and it's used to try to drain you from realizing the fullness of your potential, to try to stop you from reaching your destiny, to try to prevent you from fulfilling your purpose. And it does, it does.

SPEAKER_01 10:07

There's a lot of lost people here, a lot of lost people that are walking around fully grown, right age, but have no idea of their identity and what their purpose is in life. I jumped in.

SPEAKER_00 10:18

No, but absolutely, but that's that's so true. That's we can speak from experience. Exactly. We can absolutely speak, it delays you.

unknown 10:26

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 10:27

That flame can delay you and deny and deny you, and drain you, and drain you, disappoint you. Come on with it. You can disappoint you. Absolutely. That flame, it brings a lot of heartache.

SPEAKER_01 10:41

You can die over that flame, you absolutely can. You know, and it's we're we are a podcast and a team here about giving life to support you, to help you to live and to move forward and to survive that flame that attracted you to it. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_00 11:00

Yeah, go ahead. Absolutely, absolutely. That's why this podcast is in place because there's many right now, many right now that are delayed and being denied, attempting to walk through, you know, a door where there is truly opportunity on the other side of that door.

SPEAKER_01 11:20

But you're carrying so much difficulty inside of you, the weight is holding you back. Absolutely. Where you can't even make it to the door because it's so heavy.

SPEAKER_00 11:28

Because it's so heavy, so heavy. It's so heavy. Those connections are not going to happen because you're carrying that heavy weight.

SPEAKER_01 11:37

And the truth is, some of you don't even want to connect because there's such a depression resting on you because of the connection that you've been engaged in. That flame, that burning building. There's a depression that's resting on you.

Closing Charge To Name It

SPEAKER_01 11:52

Yeah. But we want to share some last-minute words to lift you, hopefully, uh out of that depression, out of that delay, out of that dilemma, out of that difficult place that you're in right now.

SPEAKER_00 12:05

Come on. Absolutely. And as we're preparing to close, you know, name that flame. Name it. Name that flame. You really want to realize the fullness of your potential. You really want to go further than those in your family. You really want to accomplish and and up and obtain your destiny. You really want to just really be identified with the truth of who you are and why you are here, why you have been placed in your family, why you have the children that you've been blessed with. You really want to come to know the purpose that is that is in place for you to fulfill, then name that flame. Once you name that flame, then the healing process can begin so that you can fulfill what you are here to fulfill. You are great, you are worth fighting for my you.

SPEAKER_01 13:09

You are worth fighting for you. You are worth thank you, intercessor. You are worth it. You are worth fighting for you. You are worth fighting for your children, you are worth fighting for your purpose, your destiny, your calling. You are worth it, you are worth it. Peace be to you, peace be to your house, and peace be to all you.