{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":1.2,"endTime":4.41,"body":"Welcome to Real World Peaceful"},{"startTime":1.2,"endTime":4.41,"body":"Parenting, a podcast for parents"},{"startTime":4.41,"endTime":7.08,"body":"that are tired of yelling,"},{"startTime":4.41,"endTime":7.08,"body":"threatening, and punishing their kids."},{"startTime":7.62,"endTime":11.73,"body":"Join mom and master certified parent"},{"startTime":7.62,"endTime":11.73,"body":"coach Lisa Smith as she gives you"},{"startTime":11.73,"endTime":15.15,"body":"actionable step-by-step strategies"},{"startTime":11.73,"endTime":15.15,"body":"that'll help you transform your"},{"startTime":15.15,"endTime":17.4,"body":"household from chaos to cooperation."},{"startTime":17.82,"endTime":18.33,"body":"Let's dive in."},{"startTime":23.94,"endTime":28.62,"body":"Welcome, welcome, welcome,"},{"startTime":23.94,"endTime":28.62,"body":"welcome to today's episode."},{"startTime":29.4,"endTime":34.35,"body":"I am so energized to be with you"},{"startTime":29.4,"endTime":34.35,"body":"here today, and I wanna start today's"},{"startTime":34.35,"endTime":38.73,"body":"episode with the message I just got"},{"startTime":34.35,"endTime":38.73,"body":"last week from my mom who reached"},{"startTime":38.73,"endTime":40.92,"body":"out asking about joining the Hive."},{"startTime":41.43,"endTime":42.78,"body":"Let's call her Jessica."},{"startTime":43.5,"endTime":47.31,"body":"Jessica was completely defeated"},{"startTime":43.5,"endTime":47.31,"body":"when she sent me this email."},{"startTime":47.88,"endTime":52.47,"body":"She said, Lisa, I've been trying to do"},{"startTime":47.88,"endTime":52.47,"body":"peaceful parenting for six months now."},{"startTime":53.22,"endTime":54.78,"body":"She said, I stopped yelling."},{"startTime":55.47,"endTime":57.39,"body":"I started validating feelings."},{"startTime":58.17,"endTime":62.82,"body":"I'm working on connection, but my"},{"startTime":58.17,"endTime":62.82,"body":"9-year-old is walking all over me."},{"startTime":63.63,"endTime":68.01,"body":"She talks back, refuse to do"},{"startTime":63.63,"endTime":68.01,"body":"anything I ask, and yesterday she"},{"startTime":68.01,"endTime":73.2,"body":"told me, I'm not even a real parent"},{"startTime":68.01,"endTime":73.2,"body":"because I won't let her have TikTok."},{"startTime":73.26,"endTime":74.4,"body":"Like all of her friends."},{"startTime":75.3,"endTime":78.66,"body":"I held the boundary, but"},{"startTime":75.3,"endTime":78.66,"body":"she was so upset with me."},{"startTime":79.47,"endTime":84.57,"body":"Did I ruin our relationship and am I doing"},{"startTime":79.47,"endTime":84.57,"body":"this whole peaceful parenting thing wrong?"},{"startTime":85.35,"endTime":86.37,"body":"Jessica asks."},{"startTime":87.51,"endTime":88.14,"body":"Oh my goodness."},{"startTime":88.14,"endTime":90.24,"body":"Can you feel the"},{"startTime":88.14,"endTime":90.24,"body":"confusion in that message?"},{"startTime":90.69,"endTime":94.98,"body":"The exhaustion, the fear that being"},{"startTime":90.69,"endTime":94.98,"body":"peaceful means being a pushover."},{"startTime":96.39,"endTime":97.74,"body":"And here's what breaks my heart."},{"startTime":98.7,"endTime":99.9,"body":"Jessica isn't alone."},{"startTime":100.74,"endTime":102.69,"body":"I see this pattern all the time."},{"startTime":103.83,"endTime":107.85,"body":"Parents come to peaceful parenting wanting"},{"startTime":103.83,"endTime":107.85,"body":"to stop yelling and build connection."},{"startTime":108.63,"endTime":109.5,"body":"Beautiful, right?"},{"startTime":110.19,"endTime":114.48,"body":"But somewhere along the way, they get the"},{"startTime":110.19,"endTime":114.48,"body":"message that peaceful means permissive."},{"startTime":115.274,"endTime":120.524,"body":"Holding firm boundaries means you're"},{"startTime":115.274,"endTime":120.524,"body":"not being peaceful enough, and let"},{"startTime":120.524,"endTime":124.455,"body":"me say that's absolutely not true."},{"startTime":125.235,"endTime":129.884,"body":"100%. 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