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10","startTime":1268.67,"endTime":1273.08,"body":"You don't really mean, maybe"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1268.67,"endTime":1273.08,"body":"you're yelling to force compliance."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1273.95,"endTime":1274.88,"body":"Just notice it."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1275.75,"endTime":1280.67,"body":"No judgment, no shame, and then"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1275.75,"endTime":1280.67,"body":"ask yourself, what would power"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1280.67,"endTime":1282.38,"body":"with look like in this moment?"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1283.37,"endTime":1287.51,"body":"How could I hold the same boundary"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1283.37,"endTime":1287.51,"body":"with respect instead of control?"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1288.47,"endTime":1291.62,"body":"How could I invite cooperation"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1288.47,"endTime":1291.62,"body":"instead of forcing compliance?"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1292.685,"endTime":1297.425,"body":"Write it down and bring it to class"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1292.685,"endTime":1297.425,"body":"on December 9th, because we're going"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1297.425,"endTime":1299.645,"body":"to workshop these scenarios together."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1300.335,"endTime":1303.755,"body":"We're gonna take your real life"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1300.335,"endTime":1303.755,"body":"power struggles and transform"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1303.755,"endTime":1305.795,"body":"them into power with moments."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1306.335,"endTime":1310.835,"body":"That's the work, that's the"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1306.335,"endTime":1310.835,"body":"transformation, and I'm gonna meet you"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1310.835,"endTime":1313.955,"body":"there and help you every step of the way."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1315.095,"endTime":1319.925,"body":"So again, I wanna just take"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1315.095,"endTime":1319.925,"body":"a moment to mention what I'm"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1319.925,"endTime":1321.545,"body":"grateful for this Thanksgiving."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1322.97,"endTime":1325.22,"body":"I get to spend Thanksgiving"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1322.97,"endTime":1325.22,"body":"with Malcolm and Dave."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1326.54,"endTime":1330.98,"body":"I get to see family this Thanksgiving"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1326.54,"endTime":1330.98,"body":"over the weekend, so I'm thankful for"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1330.98,"endTime":1336.14,"body":"those two things and I'm thankful for"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1330.98,"endTime":1336.14,"body":"parents like you who are willing to"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1336.14,"endTime":1340.52,"body":"do things differently, who are willing"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1336.14,"endTime":1340.52,"body":"to question the way they were raised"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1340.55,"endTime":1342.89,"body":"and say there has to be a better way."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1344.12,"endTime":1346.67,"body":"I'm thankful for parents who"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1344.12,"endTime":1346.67,"body":"love their strong-willed kids"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1346.67,"endTime":1348.56,"body":"fiercely, even when it's hard."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1349.415,"endTime":1353.495,"body":"Who show up week after week trying"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1349.415,"endTime":1353.495,"body":"to break cycles and build connection."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1354.455,"endTime":1355.325,"body":"You're not failing."},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1356.165,"endTime":1359.495,"body":"You've just been using a framework"},{"speaker":"to 10","startTime":1356.165,"endTime":1359.495,"body":"that wasn't built for your kid."},{"speaker":"to 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