What Do You Actually Want? (And How to Start Asking for It)

Midlife has a way of asking a question we’re not always ready for:

What do you actually want?

Not what you should want.
Not what makes sense.
Not what keeps everyone else comfortable.

In this episode, Jen explores why this question shows up so powerfully in midlife, why women are often taught to adapt instead of ask, and how hustle culture trains us to stay silent about our needs.

You’ll hear:

• Why desire doesn’t cancel gratitude, it’s information
• The difference between what you want and what you’re done tolerating
• Why asking for what you want feels risky
• How to start asking without over-explaining or apologizing

Jen pairs this conversation with Fast Car, a song that captures the quiet moment when you realize something has to change, even if you don’t have the full plan yet

She also shares why she created a companion quiz for this episode, because sometimes the hardest part isn’t asking for what you want, it’s knowing what to ask for in the first place.

📝 Click Below To Take the Quiz:
👉 What Do You Actually Want Right Now?
 

Midlife isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about listening to who you are now.

Next week: We asked for what we want—now what? What happens when you go after it… or don’t get it?