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Justin and Steven share candid stories and perspectives on movies, music preferences, work experiences, and relationship boundaries in this wide-ranging conversation that moves effortlessly between humor and depth.
• Christopher Nolan's Memento sparks a discussion about psychological thrillers and movie preferences
• Comparing J. Cole, Drake, and Kendrick Lamar's music and their differing impacts and replay value
• Justin's disastrous experience as an Amazon delivery driver in LA hills, complete with a truck hanging off a cliff
• Steven's approach to management and efficiency in previous jobs
• Navigating the potential of growing recognition as content creators
• The challenges of maintaining authenticity on social media while considering audience growth
• Perspectives on blended families, dating partners with children, and relationship boundaries
• Agreement that safety concerns trump all other considerations in relationships, especially regarding "crazy" exes
Movie Talk: Memento and Horror Films
Speaker 1And we are back with another episode of Two for the Culture. I'm Justin Devante, I'm Steven Ray. Yes, sir, we're back. How you feeling, feeling good?
Speaker 2man Feeling great. Oh yeah, weekend's good. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Like I said, it wasn't nothing too much A little bit of tequila, a little bit of movie. Watch Memento if you've never seen it.
Speaker 1What is it about?
Speaker 2memento. You've never seen it, was it about? It's just about this guy. It's about this guy who cannot hold new memories, so every five minutes it's like it's new and he's trying to solve, basically, a murder let's hit it okay.
Speaker 1And who is like, is he just a regular citizen?
Speaker 2basically, basically like a regular guy who's murdered uh his wife. His wife was uh raped and murdered oh, wow yeah, so he trying to find him and, um, he forgets every five minutes. So he has to have polaroids. He takes pictures of things. He's like he checks his pocket. He's like, okay, I stay here, all right, this person I could trust. This person I could.
Speaker 1It is is really cool. Okay, so my next question is um every five minutes. So at what point did he start losing his memory?
Speaker 2uh, when when happened to his wife because they came in, they broke into his crib and when he tried to save her, some dude clocked him on the back of his head or something and then he hit the pavement and then he started bleeding and shit. Okay, so it was in that moment. That's his last memory. Is his wife?
Speaker 1getting murdered. But now he has to remember every five minutes for the rest of life. So he has to remember that he can't. So he can't remember anything.
Speaker 2Nope, not in the last five minutes. It resets every five minutes, every five, five, ten minutes.
Speaker 1But he remembers his wife dying.
Speaker 2Yeah, so that's his last memory. Yeah, okay, yeah, everything was normal.
Speaker 1And then after that, every five minutes, yeah, I have to see this because I already have so many questions.
Speaker 2I couldn't even check Instagram. I couldn't do anything else but watch that Like you're going to miss something if you take your eyes off the screen. Okay, it's Christopher Nolan. So, that's basically one of my favorite directors.
Speaker 1Inception.
Speaker 2Interstellar what was this on Amazon Prime.
Speaker 1Okay, so this is like an Amazon Prime original.
Speaker 2No, you know Amazon Prime. They got movies now.
Speaker 1Yeah, but I'm just saying they also yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2Well, bi-movies are, you know, kind of like Netflix. You can look up Nutty Professors.
Speaker 1Right, that's what I'm saying Like. Oh okay, Hold on, Let me make sure I'm on the same page. You know, like Mr and Mrs Smith series is strictly on Amazon.
Speaker 2Prime, not an exclusive thing, it's a movie that came out.
Speaker 1Oh, okay.
Speaker 2I got you yeah, in that came out, oh yeah, in theaters in 2000. Okay, so this is an old movie. Yeah, this is one of his. I think that that movie catapulted him. Okay, well he he, he filmed batman begins, and that in the same like couple years.
Speaker 1Okay, yeah did we talk about weapons?
Speaker 2I didn't see weapons, but I'm not gonna see it you're not no, I saw a trailer. I'm straight. I heard it was great though no, I do believe that it was great, but I don't fuck with scary movies oh, okay, right yeah. So at first I thought it was just like a little scary or whatever, but like when I saw it I'm like I gotta watch this on like a Saturday at noon or something like that I feel you, but Sinners is not a scary movie to you. Not at all.
Speaker 1It's a vampire death. It is a horror movie, Horror movie yeah, but scary. Yeah, I feel like.
Speaker 2The shit gets silent and then you can get scared in movies.
Speaker 1If you're trapped in that environment, then if you go to the movies you liked it, then that one's scary okay. So I'm saying those are horror movies though they're horror movies yes, but I'm just saying weapons. It seems like it's a, you know, a well scripted movie that is also a horror movie yeah, I heard a couple people say how scary it was.
Speaker 2Okay, yeah, so even the trailer. The trailer looked like I don't know, I just pick up on certain vibes, it's just like I don't know if I want to, but I I do want to see great movies, though, and it seems like that goes into that category. So yeah, I might see it. I might see it like insidious is a. I'm not watching it.
Speaker 1Yeah, exactly, that's a scary movie, yeah, and somewhat the first one at least that what I watched was like a well-scripted scary movie, like, okay, it's not, it's intentionally scary, yeah, but it actually plays off of a somewhat of a good storyline.
Speaker 2That is fairly well so so, on this podcast, I'm gonna just ask you a bunch of questions okay, just cuz like. On the last one, I felt like I was talking a lot, yeah, this one did this one. So so, like out of all the movies that you've seen and stuff, what, what, what comes to mind? Let me say it because now I have like the back story of this shit clipping and like talking too long or something. But if you could see yourself in a movie, what movie would that be that you've seen before?
Speaker 1If I could see myself in a movie, yeah, what is like relatable, You're like.
Speaker 2This speaks to me.
Speaker 1Speaks to me.
Speaker 2Yeah, as in you feel like you could be playing that part. Okay, so like you see yourself in this movie.
Speaker 1Okay, so if I'm acting, what type of I can see?
Speaker 2myself acting, not that you act, but it's very similar to your life. Who I am, yeah, who you are, oh, okay, okay, it's very similar to like your life, yeah, who you are.
Speaker 1Oh, okay, okay, I got what you're saying. You're like damn, that's me yeah uh-huh, um, I don't, I yeah, I don't know, I feel like it would be a will smith movie, but there's no will smith movie uh, many blacks yeah yeah, nah. Um, that speaks to me. I'll have to get back to you on that, because that's very specific. I feel like that I don't even know what that is for me yeah, yeah, I feel like there is probably something like that's very highly relatable, um, but I can't.
Speaker 2It's nothing that is coming to mind at this moment that there will be a stretch to try to figure it out for you too. I just like thought about it I was like what wonder, if you know?
Speaker 1yeah, I mean music wise.
Speaker 2I feel like j cole spoke to me a lot oh, for real, like yeah, damn, he had me on lock for a minute yeah, yeah, like I think it felt good to knowing that I didn't have like.
Speaker 1I wasn't the only one that thought how he thought no, fuck bitches get money uh, I don't think I'm gonna cheat on my girl I don't know what j cole is to you, but that's not.
Speaker 2No, I was going back on the, the, the way he used to be when he was coming up. That's what he was talking about. He was, just, like you know, adjusting to fame.
Music Discussions: J. Cole and Drake
Speaker 1I'm well, j cole. I do love j cole, so I wasn't trying to just only put the negative out there, but I was just playing around.
Speaker 2But uh, right, right, yeah, no, he, he definitely spoke to me for sure, especially in those those college years yeah, yeah so what's your favorite one? What's your favorite uh?
Speaker 1uh, my favorite, j cole song album uh 2014 forest. A lot of people love that shit.
Speaker 2Yeah, I don't like it I mean I not that I don't like it, but I just love boring center yeah, I like uh boring center.
Speaker 1It's cool. Yeah, but um 2014 for sale jobs was my favorite one yeah, there's a lot of people's favorite I think that was a good point in his life to where he was, like you know, reaching another height but still, you know, relatively, you know, like was in tune to the streets, yeah, yeah. So you know, and I think he still always will have an element of that. But, you know, he's by far a super rich nigga.
Speaker 2You know what I mean?
Speaker 1yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah so, uh, there's a level that one foot out of it you are. You know right yeah, yeah I can see that, but he still had like one foot in it, if that makes sense yeah, um, yeah, he, he seems the most genuine I guess, but who's your favorite rapper?
Speaker 2My favorite rapper is I mean, I just try not to say Drake. Who's your favorite artist, who's your favorite rapper? Who's your favorite? Yeah, drake. And why is that? Drake get 90% plays.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah. And why is that? Is it the versatility?
Speaker 2It's the versatility. I think it's my voice like a personal thing, like it's in my range of, like how I speak and like my tone If I were to hum certain things. It's things, it's very in line with it, so it's so easy for me to sing along to these things. So, yeah, he got me a long time ago, but I do love the theatrics that.
Speaker 1Kendrick portrays in his music.
Speaker 2It's very I was going to say Oscar-worthy, grammy-worthy, like it's a movie just playing out you know?
Speaker 1Yeah, no, I feel that you can like feel it a little bit more.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, when the inflections in his voice, it is very theatrical. Yeah, you're 100% right.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's very beautiful, and get you, get you, get you, get you drake ain't doing that. Yeah, right, yeah yeah, drake is very much a here and now I don't know it's, it's, it's, it's very right now music like you play the track. I'm hopping on this hoe like that's drake, uh, for the most part, but kendrick, it just seems, except gnx, but like his other stuff, it just, it just seems so, so well thought out, like, like niggas can write essays on that shit, yeah yeah, so to people, butterfly is one of my favorite albums.
Speaker 1That and uh, late registration okay, yeah, yeah you, you did bump late registration a lot uh to be able to fly. Um, I tried to get into it. Still not a super fan. It's been a little bit better since I first listened to it, but yeah some, sometimes it just doesn't land you know, yeah, and you know I still like a lot of kendrick music. I'll listen to us still a lot of his stuff, but damn, didn't grow like I loved him when it first came out but I don't really care for it now that's usually how it's like, for some reason that's the same thing with me.
Speaker 2Drake for some reason just got staying power. You don't even got to be talking deep, but it's just got like that replay power and Kendrick. Kendrick for me is usually a moment Like damn. I remember playing that and then somebody said, you know, it's supposed to go in reverse too, and all that type of shit, and I started getting deeper into it and they had me for like a month, just like that was the only thing I played, like studied that shit. Antipipa Butter played like, studied that. Answer pimple butterfly studied that. And then after it, you know, it's just like the moment just kind of goes away and then you know if I'm anywhere, I'm not just going to play that, you know what I'm saying. Or when you're in a car, like on the radio and all this you know it.
Speaker 1it usually switches back to Drake. Yeah, I would say Thug Motivation 101 is one of my favorites. I remember that shit on the CD, yeah yeah, yeah, twisted Dark Fantasy is another one, yeah. It still gives me chills when I first played that For real.
Speaker 2Damn Thug. Motivation was one of the ones. Alright, I gotta read this today. That's crazy, it's good Did you hear the story on that.
Speaker 1On the Thug Motivation.
Speaker 2So Jeezy said that he went to the photo shoot for the cover and they wanted to make him look like. You know what the cover looked like and the boxes were all filled with fake money and he was like I can't be doing this and it's fake money. He called his homie and got like over a million dollars in cash and replaced the fake money with his real money, just so he could be as authentic as possible on the cover that's some real shit.
Speaker 1Oh, that's crazy yeah yeah, that's hilarious. I'll take the fake money.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah but for what it was and, like the, the, the essence of that's that's. That's right up the alley of what really all he was talking about on that album. So that's that's dope. That's some, that's some real rich nigga shit.
Christopher Nolan and Filmmaking Dreams
Speaker 1I got you Going back to Christopher Nolan when you talk about Kendrick and theatrical, is that I guess my first question is do you want to make movies, Absolutely? Do you want them to have ultimate meetings to them?
Speaker 2Yes, like, yeah, like Easter eggs yes, okay.
Speaker 2That's my yes. That's why I'm watching those type of movies right now. You know, I'll say when I do finish scripts, versus, like I'm working on this, but, or, in addition to that, that's, that's my route, that's my. I can't do that in these videos that I do on Instagram. So, like when I was making movies with Rob, like I'm really into the script, and with my ex uh, we used to, we used to write scripts together too. So, um, yeah, like I'm really into that shit, bro. Like, yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2The, the, the, looking the, the, the the, the the the science part to it, the the psychological aspect that you gotta like look back and you know, get certain things, like you said, easter eggs that's. That's completely up my alley.
Speaker 1So what if you did do that in your videos, in your small clip video, like I've done it?
Speaker 2before, but, like the, the farthest that I would go with, that is, I'm talking about somebody and only they know like that's really as far as I can get in like a 30 second clip.
Speaker 1Yeah, I got you right yeah it's only one person, it's like and you know other than that.
Speaker 2I can't really well, I don't want to say I can't get too deep into it, but it just is. It's more difficult to do that in like a 30-second thing. So yeah, that's why I like just making longer content. Yeah longer content, okay.
Speaker 1Yeah, and I feel like it's hard to, because you could even do five minutes on something just in general, like making a skit. Is that fairly difficult to do?
Speaker 2uh, with the green screen yeah, I guess yeah uh, yeah, with the green screens. Yes, in a way, the last time I did that was the granny the iskit. It did that like I don't know how long ago. Um, that took two weeks to edit. So I mean, it takes me like an hour to edit now for like a 20 second video.
Speaker 2That took two weeks of nothing but editing on this one thing and I'm very proud of it, I'm glad I did it. But like that shit was a lot Like I'd rather even though it was genius, like how I did it, but like it's almost I'd rather put that time into like making a short film or something else. That's like closer in line with where I'm going, even though it is because it is a short story or whatever, but putting myself in there and green screening myself in there and editing it all together, and that was a lot so, which is why I never did a five minute video again but um did you get good viewership from it eventually later on it was about 10k, which is good for YouTube, but I would have to do that consistently over and over and over, like maybe once a week type thing, and it was just incredibly taxing.
Speaker 2I got you and on top of that, like what, I'm not putting anything out for like two weeks and it's just exhausting.
Speaker 1And when you say two weeks, is what is that? What's your day? Look like?
Speaker 2that's eight hours a day spending on this one video yes okay, two weeks of that whole time, that that man, it was too exhausting first time?
Speaker 1huh, is that because it was your first time, or you think it will always be two weeks?
Uber and Delivery App Experiences
Speaker 2yeah, because, like it, wasn't just a one-on-one conversation. This is me outside the house, walking in the house, saying hey, granny, the door opens, I gotta edit all this together. I walk into the room. I did there's so many clips, it was too, it was too much. But you know, like I, I'll be willing to do that if I was like funded for something like honestly, I wouldn't even want to do that, I just want to pay somebody to do all that and I just come with the script okay, I got you do you think that it's easy for you to uh distribute roles and control distribute roles.
Speaker 2What?
Speaker 1do Like you do this one thing, you do that, or do you feel like you micromanage or you're a micromanager.
Speaker 2I think for my own stuff I'd be more passionate about it for sure. And me with an editor mindset, I can see me being a little bit like that.
Speaker 2But not like, but not like. I'm not like a annoying guy to work with, but I'm me being passionate about it and it's mine and I'm an editor too. Like, if you tell me you can't do something, like, bro, like I've been doing this by myself for like 10 years, you can't do this, so I don't know, it wouldn't be, it wouldn't be too much of a micromanager, do you?
Speaker 1micromanage like at your, at your job.
Speaker 2I'm saying like, like, when you work at Amazon like other jobs, no.
Speaker 1You're just like he's going to get fired anyway. No, I give you I am.
Speaker 1If I'm managing somebody, I'm going to coach you the way you want to be coached and that's how I receive it to other people I tell you like hey, you can come to me with anything, as long as it's respectful and you know know, just give a sound argument and I'm okay to be critiqued if. If that's how you like it, then I'll give it to you that way. If you don't, if you want to be off for yourself, then I'll let you be up to yourself. If you want to be, want to be me next to you and try to give you some guidance through the whole thing, then I can do that. It's just how, however, you like it you know as long as well.
Speaker 1I'm gonna have to get my feedback anyway yeah, I give you oh how I feel like hey, you know I'm always trying to be respectful like hey, I think, trying it this way, would be good, and then you'd be like, nah, I think this way.
Speaker 1I was like, okay, well, you know, all right, fine, you know it's nothing today. It just depends on what the time on job looks like, and as long as you're being productive, then it is what it is. Yeah, so when I did manage, I don't think I was ever really that difficult to work with. So, yeah, and it was operating off a good team, good vibes, we had a good time for what it was. I mean, we're in crawl spaces and attics.
Speaker 2So yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1So really, you just want to get the job done, but we had audits afterwards, so we'll have to pass the audits up. If we didn't do it right the first time, we'll come back. But you know that's the part of things Mistakes are going to be made, so I'm not going to be the one to be upset at a mistake or anything like that, but I'll have to come behind you, because it's also my duty to make sure that the job is done too.
Speaker 1So, yeah, but it's like, hey, we need to work on this thing, or delegating, have the battle is being prepared. So what is the job world going to look like? Hey, you do this. If we can get this done in 45 minutes, then we can get to we can finish for the day and get paid you know, paid for the rest of the day if we can get this done in two hours.
Speaker 1So I'm going to do this work on this. If you give before, I'll come help you and yada yada and just have it built out beforehand. It's a collaborative thing If everybody's invested, which typically who doesn't like to get paid for eight hours when they're working five? Yeah, yeah. So it kind of works out that way, just how the structure is. So that's why, when I was talking to the boss, the owner is like let's make it also incentive based. If you don't get mad if they step on the roof, you know or any of us do it if build, build that into the structure of your compensation quality, how many times you come back and then you know you'll feel good about it being more efficient and you'll feel less bad if somebody makes a mess out because they don't get paid for that so everybody has buy-in.
Speaker 1so that's structurally how I recommended things. Um, because ultimately I don't like to be. I'm an efficient-minded person, even though I don't apply that in all my lives, which I need to do, but outside of me, like I like to. That's where my mind really goes. It's like, hey, if we can actually look for less tools and that takes out an hour out of our day just trying to find things let's organize it beforehand, let's get everything done, and that you know we can cut our business by 30%. So those are things I like to do and you know you can apply or you cannot. Yeah, so I'll always bring those recommendations, but don't come to me whining. It's not as fast, because I gave you the recommendations that I suggested on what would help and your way didn't go as planned. So it is what it is.
Speaker 2I remember working at Amazon when I was in LA, as a delivery driver, and the people on my team I guess I would always have to meet them, because I was always late to meet them, because, like, I was always late, like, not not late to work, but they would finish at like, if, if, if we clocked in at 10, you know, they would finish at like 5, 5 pm, uh, maybe even four or three, and they would always have to come help me because I, like, I just could not get that together, and then they would have these suggestions and they'd be like, you know, all you got to do is this, this, this, this, this, and I was like oh, you know what that does speed up time and I would still be coming out there like 10 at night not even finishing and like that.
Speaker 2So I don't know man, maybe sometimes people it's just not the job for them sometimes people, it's just not the job for them.
Speaker 1I mean that that is true. That's true too.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah but did you have a reason on why you wasn't successful? Bruh I, I was puzzled at myself you know how.
Speaker 2You know how frustrating it is like everybody's giving you the tools of what you need to succeed and you just in here, failing, and you just like, bro, I was doing everything they said. You just in here, failing, and you just like, but I was doing everything. They said, oh my god, it, I was just, it, just, it just would not go right. It just would not go right every single time and I tried but like, yeah, that, that that wasn't for me, or maybe I just should have stayed there for a couple more months, or whatever yeah, I mean, I think that you it sounds like I mean the one that wasn't the world for you.
Speaker 1Yeah, also too, is you didn't, you didn't give it enough time yeah, yeah, no, I was just new.
Speaker 2I was just new, but I don't. I won't be liking that, even if I am new, I'm like all right. So how do I get better than last week? I just was not getting better, yeah.
Speaker 1I'm like yo what? What is going on?
Speaker 2yeah, and I crashed that truck too.
Speaker 1Oh wow, yep, sure did, definitely did that it was on a hill, Because we in LA, we in LA, la Like the Hidden Hills type thing.
Speaker 2Bruh, the driveway is so skinny it goes all the way up. They gave me this huge truck, the biggest one, and I got to come all the way up here, boom deliver this and I had to get back down and I can't turn around.
Speaker 2How do people do? And one time it was on, it was like it was. It was like when Simba got lifted up off of which car off the Lion King yeah, the cliff it was. I was on a real cliff and I'm bagging this shit. I think I Got a 50-50 chance of making it home today. Well, I'm on the cliff, I'm bagging up and then the truck is coming off and of the cliff and I gotta like turn it around and go down. It was too scary.
Speaker 1I knew I was, I wasn't gonna stay there yeah, that would have been enough for me to be like I'm good. Yeah, I don't even like to do that in my expedition, yeah yeah do you have like rear cameras?
Speaker 2rear camera. Yeah, what did I see? The sky like I'm on a cliff. I'm just saying, yeah, I see a bunch of clouds, like what the fuck? Like? No, that was scary, that was too scary, that was scary. Yeah, yeah, I knew I wasn't gonna make it there, yeah, yeah, nah, I'm good you tried it yeah, yeah, that is what it is well hopefully they made recommendations on maybe getting a smaller car.
Speaker 1Just yeah, like give a personal Well hopefully they made recommendations on maybe getting a smaller car. Yeah, like give a personal car. Do they do Amazon Flex?
Speaker 2They do, they do. Yeah, that's your own car.
Speaker 1I think, yeah, exactly, so maybe you can get those type of cars and take those deliveries or something, because that seems very dangerous.
Speaker 2I definitely came back down and one of the OGs that worked there the next morning they had put him on the heels because that seems very dangerous. I definitely came back down and one of the ogs that worked there the next morning, they had put him on the heels. And then he just straight up say so, I told y'all I don't like doing them heels. I I did. He switched me with somebody else. I'm like damn, I could have just said that yeah, I wrecked the out of that. That had scratches all on, that did you report it I didn't have a choice.
Speaker 2Okay. Okay, I came back in the warehouse the was down there falling off. I was like, yeah, I did this. Hmm, okay, make sure you make a report about that, like all right, like whatever. No, I definitely I'm not gonna. I quit that. I quit that one, like maybe two weeks after that yeah, I just knew how long did you stay two weeks. I mean, yeah, it wasn't that long at all.
Speaker 1I was miserable. Of course you wasn't going to get another job.
Speaker 2I just wasn't. I wasn't getting better. I'm fucking up the cars. I'm a liability. I just wasn't, bro, like nothing was working. I wasn't getting better, I'm fucking up the cars.
Speaker 1You was only there for two weeks.
Speaker 2I'm a liability Matter of fact. This job is a liability to me now.
Speaker 1No, I think they did. Do you think they just didn't train you well, because it just sounds like they just told you to start driving.
Speaker 2Oh God, oh God. They said go around these cones, cones. I hit one of them like it's good he's ready.
Speaker 1What? Yeah, I just fucked y'all up now. Yeah, yeah, of course. Yeah, yeah, it's over, that's hilarious.
Speaker 2I mean they be trying to get them out there, people be quitting and you know it's like a temp agency damn near right. So you know you can't turn everybody around, but I held it down, you know, in the training.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2I greeted everybody. Anybody that needs to go first, I'll go first.
Speaker 1I was trying to be number one.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, yeah. You gotta jump onto the FedEx truck because the thing I fucked that shit up the footstool whateverool, whatever gone.
Speaker 1I got you. Uh, I think who could you think you could do around here and I'm not doing that ever. No, no, I'm just saying, like this one would probably be a little bit better maybe, yeah, no in the streets.
Speaker 2It was cool. It was definitely cool. The only thing is just like with any other job, you just get used to the job itself. So after the, the physic, the physical portion of you just like holding boxes and running around all day. After that things get smoother. But no, it was too many different things in la, but like yeah, like downtown and now you can't park here.
Speaker 2And then you got to figure out, yeah, it's, it's a lot of aspects to it, but again, I just wasn't there that long, yeah, and I knew, yeah, yeah, and I don't be liking that part part of things too.
Social Media Recognition and Fame
Speaker 1It's like it's not um, because I had a similar thing with like uber eats and door dash when I was doing that. It's like bruh, I gotta find somewhere to park downtown to pick up this food and you know they, they didn't have any me, any tickets specifically for uber eats but, you'll see it happen. You know, and I was like dude, you're supposed to right. And now this is when they somewhat paid well yeah yeah, exactly, even pre-covid before.
Speaker 1Yeah, like not to get too much into the weeds, but I could. You got surge charges with uber you make still get element of it now, but surge charges matched uber charges when you're a driver and a uber eats driver that you can work off hand in hand with each other, so it's surgeon all together mmm and then now I would just eat off of surges.
Speaker 1So it still wasn't really worth it to do go in a parking garage and then wait for the order. Then come back and have it validate your parking and all this stuff.
Speaker 2That still was doing too much.
Speaker 1But now it's even worse. Yeah, to where you're getting three bucks for an order and you hope that they tip. Yeah, it's like I don't have to live for tips like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you hope that they tip. Yeah, it's like I didn't. I don't like have to live for tips like that yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2I feel that that's kind of what it was with instacart exactly, and then you got it again.
Speaker 1It was cool with them yeah, and then you got to go all the way up to the floor and stuff like that. I heard instacart though yeah, I mean I didn't like that either. Yeah, because then you got a place like Sprouts to where you got a half a cup of macadamia nuts and I didn't know Sprouts like that. So I'm looking for all the things and you got the timer ticking. Yeah, like oh, the macadamia in the owls. Yeah, scoop it into the bag.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's so dumb. And this was during COVID, when I was really at the instant cart height and so half this ain't there. Yeah, yeah so now I gotta have a replacement of the pedia lights.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, yeah, like no I remember that that was a terrible time I hated sprouts too, until, like I, I learned sprouts.
Speaker 1They're all sort of similar well, yeah, now that I go to sprouts, but at the time that's like going into like a new galaxy where yeah like I didn't know nothing. The owls wasn't really. They're not really set up to really look to see what you need at the time yeah, yeah, because they're kind of like all laid out on the wall and if you don't know where you're at, then it's, it's confusing. Now I can go to spross because I go there often and I can know what I need, but then I've never been to spross before yeah, costco used to mess me up too, though.
Speaker 2Yeah, exactly, because they ain't got. They don't even got the words. Yeah, exactly oh my god.
Speaker 1But the only thing about costco is, they tipped well on costco oh, facts, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2Nice families, yeah, nice little lifestyle exactly they.
Speaker 1They tip well.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely agree with that.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Usually, it's usually a nice little house you pull up to.
Speaker 1Exactly. Yeah, yeah and just drop off on the porch. Yep, yep, and this is before pandemic. Before, like, dropping off on the porch was a thing.
Speaker 2Did I tell you that I did Instacart and it was a naked woman at the door?
Speaker 1Oh nice, no, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2I think I did tell you. Yeah, one day. I'm Instacarting and nice little neighborhood or whatever, and I have the order and I see a guy with his shirt off outside while I'm pulling up. It's a guy with his shirt off outside and that's all.
Speaker 1I saw.
Speaker 2Very normal, very normal, very normal. You know, sunny outside Always sunny in California and I get the water. And then, as I'm walking up to the porch, the door is wide open. Door is wide open and there's a lady that just starts like walking for it. It looked like a silhouette of the lady at first. So there's just a door is wide open. It's kind of dark in there and in the back they have the, their door open, the, the back door open, so the only thing you see is dark room. It's bright in the back and a silhouette of a body walking toward the front. So, and then, you know, the light start. I have to walk up to the, the, the porch. So like I'm seeing this silhouette come closer to me as I'm going to the porch, and then light hits her and I mean fully naked, tatted up all the way, older lady, clearly had work done, like big boobs, big, you could see the butt from the front.
Speaker 1So you saw her vagina and everything.
Speaker 2I'm pretty sure, yeah, I'm pretty sure. But what caught me off guard was she talk like this yeah, this, yeah, okay she was fine with being naked in front of you, absolutely okay.
Speaker 1Okay, I didn't know if you just saw her no, no, no, she's walking to the door, while I'm yeah so, and she's walking to the door.
Speaker 2I see her. I'm like hell, no so then I get the rest. Wasn't cute in the face then no, she was like an older white lady okay an old white lady, not an older like 45, I mean like maybe 60. Okay yeah, and got the body, all that shit done, tatted okay, tatted up, and I just remember putting the last thing down and it was like thank you so much what was our man doing chilling on the couch.
Speaker 2This is them. This is just this day lifestyle. I wouldn't be surprised they were somebody or just the hippies from LA. Yeah, so you know there are people out there, but that that threw me off one time yeah, the only time I've came well, I'm not gonna say close to that um, because there's one particular time uber driving you know you get hit, you get uh proposed for sex and stuff like that. Okay yeah, yeah, so I was thinking flirting, that's all right no, I mean no, that wasn't that.
Speaker 1Yeah, there's flirting, that happens. But yeah, some people want to be instantly with it.
Speaker 2Hmm, and you want to tip.
Speaker 1They wouldn't ask me for the only thing. It would be close to asking for money or like paying. Format is like paying for my time was like I still gotta work do. How much does it cost to get you stop working?
Speaker 2yeah, yeah, but they'd be lit for real. Yeah, yeah, yeah, like two, three in the morning yeah, yeah, so I got 200 no, no I was like that's price.
Speaker 1I didn't say it to them, but in my head I'm like that's prostitution, you know yeah, yeah, I don't want to feel like a prostitute. Yeah, yeah, yeah, but you know some people be cool and then you chat up and then you can exchange. Yeah, yeah, I don't want to feel like a prostitute. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you know some people be cool and they chat up and then you can exchange numbers that way. But yeah, that was a thing for a while. Yeah, dang yeah.
Speaker 2Was it a thing for a while because you kept going to the same spot purposely?
Speaker 1Same spot, Like these type of girls come out of here. So how much is purposely like these type of girls come out of here? So I'm just uh, I mean two o'clock. Well, keep in mind we're a tourist city, so it's not like there was one place that you would go and the girls will be with it. It'll be like you're just driving, naturally and since this is a bachelorette city, I have a bigger car, you fit more people in there and somebody's probably gonna be down for some type of thing yeah, so it'll be like that, but yeah, so that's why I'd be like it's.
Speaker 1You know it's a different type, it's different types of women out here that I could, you know you could. If you don't know your woman like that, then you could be there definitely. You know loyalty concerns for sure.
Speaker 2Jeez yeah. That's why I don't mess around. I feel like that energy is going to come back one day, or maybe it'll just happen, I don't know.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, because they can definitely be with it and you know it was definitely a norm for a while. Yeah, yeah, Now that I do most of my drives in the Model Y, it's not really that, Because it's really more like a couple passenger vehicles. You know, like two passengers in there.
Speaker 2Versus the whole party.
Speaker 1Yeah exactly To where it's going to be more turnt, there's more people involved and there's going to be a lot of hyping up.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah.
Dating, Relationships, and Family Life
Speaker 1Versus, you know, just like her and her friend you know, or you having a ride home and want to feel comfortable in your ride home, or couples, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2I don't think I've had any crazy stuff. I used to Uber in Atlanta. Actually I don't think I purposefully Ubered at night. I was always kind of shaky of being recognized as Ray, so Silly. So yeah, I got recognized twice out of like 500 rides, yeah, and I actually picked up some influencers that I didn't know but like were around when people were creating content that I was around and I just never looked back. I just never looked behind me, I got you, yep, I know exactly who they were. It's too funny.
Speaker 1I got you, yeah. Yeah, Did you pick them up from a nice house Like damn, they doing way better than me.
Speaker 2Ha Shit in Atlanta, man, all them folks was they, was they was out here getting money.
Speaker 1yeah, I got you.
Speaker 2But um, uh, uh, uh, uh. No, I would usually be from the airport, yeah. I would do a lot of airport rides. So that that was my main. That was my main thing was the airport rides.
Speaker 1Oh, okay.
Speaker 2Yeah, so yeah, I fucked with it, but um.
Speaker 1I think it's a hustler's thing like I like. Maybe one such another appreciates that you do that because like, hey, that's a way to make money oh yeah, oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2And then I was scrolling and saw a clip of young jock over it and they was getting on his ass like in the car. You ever saw that the man was in the car? They was getting on his ass like in the car. You ever saw that the man was in the car that was getting on his ass? It's like why are you over him? And he had to finish the ride.
Speaker 1Yeah, so I was thinking about I was in my head a little bit, but I mean I understand, I think it's yeah, I'm glad. I'm glad I don't live like that yeah, where it's like I'm not a recognizable face at all. Yeah, yeah, so it is kind of like sometimes, sometimes it's certain areas certain areas but I haven't felt like that.
Speaker 2No, wow, I mean honestly, the last time I felt like that was at your house a couple times, oh yeah just uber eats and shit yeah yeah, it was literally like I don't know, it's know it's a different type of crowd. It was like more black people. When I was at your house Well, then again I don't really order anymore but yeah, yeah, a couple of Taco Bell, wendy's visits or just Ubering somewhere, like, yeah, I would get recognized, yeah, it's cool.
Speaker 1Then it's like, yeah, I understand that because I look at like you have people that recognize you. It's like 500,000 people, okay, yeah and there's like dang, that really changed. Because you think like that, I think that spread out throughout America. Thanks, yeah, yeah, but somehow there'll be a lot of recognizable faces of that 500 000 that like oh, I watch their videos yeah, it's pockets yeah yeah, pockets of um cities, you know certain certain uh demographic um out here, memphis there's a couple different places. Yeah, so it can happen.
Speaker 2Yeah, that kind of scared me out of not scared me out of but I just like the difference between being where I was at in. Atlanta and. Memphis and LA, because LA is, like, who am I for real? Like Jamie Foxx is across the street. You know y'all ain't worried about me, right, right, so I definitely liked it more, um, in terms of not being recognized out there. Can you see yourself um dip into that, because you're actually you know, you're actually doing that, yeah right yeah, but also I'm not.
Speaker 1you're doing a lot of social media stuff, so I don't really be in that world you are. I'm just saying like it don't feel like. I just feel like I upload. Yeah, I do the audio podcast stuff.
Speaker 2That's it, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1There's no comments in that you know when you're working on it.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, so.
Speaker 1I don't really see it so. I'll see it on you really don't have a presence, I guess like on social media, so it's not like I can gain a following, because everything that I'm attached to is the the two for the culture account, so that's more of a business thing yeah if you know, like, if I'm taking myself out out, like, no, I know it.
Speaker 2I know it for a fact. I was gonna. I was gonna say that I I realized that in one of our podcasts I was like, oh, he doesn't know, this can go viral, yeah like it was like something. It was something you said and I was like, oh, he just hasn't seen it yet. He don't like not saying you don't know nothing, but like yeah, it's going. It's like the more that we do this, you're on my page.
Speaker 2Like so I'm not going to stop making videos, we're not going to stop doing the podcast. Like that, shit is going to grow and then you will be in that you might be somewhere one day and then somebody might give you the little eye. Yeah, yeah, yeah for sure, and that you might be somewhere one day and then somebody might give you the little eye.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure. I'm nowhere near that now and I don't. Yeah, yeah and but, so if, if, like 10 people are coming up to me like, oh okay, this taking off, but I'm gonna feel it before you, like I'm not completely clueless to it, all right yeah yeah, so it's like I'll see the youtube shorts. Yeah, yeah, but um, so I'll see like. All right, these hoes are getting a hundred thousand.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1But also I want to speak authentically, my truth too. So there's a level of like I want to stay out of it because I don't want that to get in my head, cause I can easily like I shouldn't say that but so-and-so is going to hear this thing, easily like I shouldn't say that but so and so is going to hear this thing, and. But I still want to speak my truth because, like what we mentioned with j cole is he, he speaks, you know the truth, he, you know he's authentically himself, and that spoke to me and I want to be that in my own way for somebody else. Like you're right, hey, he did have a lot of struggles growing up and I can.
Speaker 1I can certainly relate. Maybe that may help me get through this moment of time that I'm in. So there's a level of authenticity Because I can easily, because even being in a relationship, even how much I do say, there's so much I hold back on yeah yeah, and I can't say, yeah, that's not going to go well, I was like this ain't going to go. Well right, I was like this ain't gonna go well, yeah.
Speaker 1I can at least defend this if I go here, that'll be saying too much and that can make her feel uncomfortable effects.
Speaker 2Yeah, right, right, no, yeah, it can't seep into your own life. Yeah, he's, certain things he's easily, and you know there'll be time.
Speaker 1When I did my last podcast, like my sister was like I heard you say it. It's not like I said your specific name yeah but I I'll defend it you know, I'll defend the action of what I thought was inappropriate. And now you handle a situation yeah yeah, and, and it's kind of and I'll use sibling, I have three sisters, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2So you don't know who I'm talking about exactly for real, yeah no, I did. Yeah, no, I I do that. I do that too. Yeah, I just look at it as like. I mean, I look at everything that I do at this point, like on social media that you know just automatically assume everybody's watching this yeah, just because you don't know, you don't know audio. We can have like 50 videos and they get two views and one of them got like 10 million like you don't, you really don't know.
Speaker 1But yeah, and I'm my own critic, so I'll see certain things like I need to change how I handle that or say that or do that, or my look, you know, because now I put those Invisalign joints back in like yeah like yeah real. To my face. I can see the cricket. I was like I need to fix that.
Speaker 2Yeah. I critique myself as well on certain things and how to speak. It is helping me a lot in terms of speaking on camera or just having a conversation on camera. I feel like in the beginning I was a little bit more reserved or held back or whatever.
Speaker 1Yeah, but um, I do want to get into one thing though yeah.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'm trying to think of something random too.
Speaker 1I got you uh, tracy Ellis Ross, did you see her comments? Comments um, so she was just talking about, I guess she dated a guy, didn't work out, but, um, like Obama's a close friend of yours, and either it was I'm probably saying it wrong Either it was a recommendation from a friend or from Obama.
Speaker 2Hey, you should date this person.
Speaker 1Or he knew about him but didn't say anything Like hey, this is actually not a good person for you and kind of left it alone. She kind of blamed him jokingly. But the overall conversation is how would you do you think that you could be put on by another? I got to this is too partial to park question. Do you think that you'll be willing to accept um a date if me or another friend was to recommend a girl to you? That was that think it could work between y'all two uh, from yeah, maybe, maybe.
Speaker 2yeah, I just got this thing where, like you know, there was a time where, well, this is different, but I just feel like everybody likes who they like, so, like, if it doesn't happen, naturally, then it probably wasn't like kind of meant to be. I've never been set up on a date before, so that would be weird. I would probably do it just to do it once, um, because I mean, y'all know me, so you know that I probably would.
Speaker 2I, I don't know I I could say maybe, yeah, maybe, I would uh-huh, what would you?
Speaker 1do um with. Uh, if I was single, yeah, uh, yeah it, it it would have to be, yeah, for sure y'all I would take it because yeah, y'all gonna, y'all gonna think she cute if and that's the first part of it- yeah, right like if the only time I don't is when it's like um from a girl oh, yeah, I was like I'm probably. I'm way more kind of probably like now I'm cool.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Yeah, I had to be that shallow Like. Let me see your Instagram account.
Speaker 2No, I'm good yeah.
Speaker 1I'm like I'm cool on this one, yeah, yeah, yeah, because they're more personality driven and like my single, you're single, my friend single, come together, I like y'all both Like no, that's not how it works, yeah.
Navigating Safety in Relationships
Speaker 1We actually be compatible, right, yeah, so the guys, the homies, they're going like, hey, she bad and she kind of like you a little bit, or you know, we told her about you and she got this thing going. Is she fine, and you got this thing going. I think this could work, yeah, and so I would be more willing to that for that. But my second part question is could you be a friend that'd be willing to hook up? What do you mean. Your other homie.
Speaker 2Have you ever alley-ooped your other homie before? No, I haven't. That goes more to what I was saying, what I was about to say. So, like I have a homie, and one time there was this girl who, um, he was in a relationship and the girl dm'd him and he's just basically like hey, or like you, cute something like that that.
Speaker 2And then he was in a relationship, so he was just like hey, bro, she DM me, but she's available if you want to talk to her, and I'm just like to me. That just doesn't make sense.
Speaker 1At this age.
Speaker 2It's just like people, like who they like she, like you, you, you know I'm saying so, like to try to alley her to me first of all, like we're two different complexions where you know, I'm saying like people who like me, gonna like me yeah right, yeah, so the um, the, the alley thing. To be honest, I don't know. I don't want to say go too harsh, but I feel like if I could easily alley a girl, you can't bring her home to mama.
Speaker 2If you get what I'm saying she's a whore just like, if it's that easy, just like oh, what's this ain't work for me, go ahead.
Speaker 1I did that, I did that before was she a whore? Yeah, you know her. Yeah, I'll talk to you about a podcast. I mean, you don't know her like that.
Speaker 2Yeah, oh shit, I thought it was all right.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, you know her through me.
Speaker 2Oh, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, so yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1This was back in the 0201 college.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1Was it? Was it a college campus? Campus Crossings campus, campus crosses, yeah, so those were back in those days, we had really good times there, yeah, yeah, really good times uh. But yeah, yeah, I tried to do that one mile homeboy like she, she going, yeah, and then, uh, he was just doing too much. We talked about it. We talked about it, uh, actually recently, and I was like you know from my understanding how she said it was like he was doing a lot.
Speaker 2Oh damn, yeah, that sucks like too quick you're like you're too my understanding how she said it was like he was doing a lot. Oh damn, yeah, that sucks like too quick.
Speaker 1You're like you're too quick, he's like no, actually I spent time. Yeah, yeah, yeah, and then I, you know, I tried to say, okay, that's not how she portrayed it, damn, because she was like, you know, like before modern feminism. She was kind of that to be like she was cool, um, but going at the same time so it was like she's a friend but she's willing to be down for whatever.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, because she she's less emotionally attached to things and you know if, if the vibe is right, she'll she'll be down for it yeah, yeah, so it's not like less emotionally attached, so it's all adding up.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, yeah, so it's not like less emotionally attached, so it's all adding up.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it's not like you would like corner, like she's a hoe yeah at the end of the day, she is a cool human being, but she's down for the vibes so yeah sophisticated? Yeah, definitely not that oh damn.
Speaker 2I was trying to give her a couple pointers.
Speaker 1Yeah, but it was bottom line. It was like he was doing too much kind of like too quickly.
Speaker 2How would you feel if like has that ever happened to you to where, like, you were with a girl or whatever, and then later on you found out she said something behind your back, like about you. Like this nigga's lame.
Speaker 1I'm sure.
Speaker 2As in, like you heard about it, I wouldn't say this.
Speaker 1This guy's lame not not, I just threw something out there, but yeah, yeah, something like that was a critique about me yeah, yeah, yeah, I think for real, I don't think I've yeah, like not nothing, I don't know, maybe I don't know yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1I mean it's not gonna be like, hey, she said this thing, it was, I think it was. You're gonna say it. You're gonna say it to me for real like yeah, for the most part I'm trying to think well, that's not true. I was like, for the most part, anytime I've like kind of dated, I have a relationship afterwards, but that's not actually true. But but sometimes, yeah, you hear a critique or whatever. Like that's fair criticism yeah yeah, fine yeah, yeah yeah, I do do that thing yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2So that's too bad. I'm pretty sure they do that, but I haven't heard anything like. Come back to me yeah.
Speaker 1I mean it kind of is what is if you, if yeah, and that's kind of sometimes it centers I live by. It's like hey, I did the thing, so I got to kind of own it yeah and it sucks that it's in the forefront, but it's the truth. So it kind of is what it is. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it might sting a little bit, but that's the truth and I did.
Speaker 1I did something that they that was funny or slightly embarrassing, so you gotta kind of live with it and then at the end of the day I got a brother who is doesn't let you live down moments, yeah, and my sister's good for that too.
Speaker 1So they, they always bring up the the they're embarrassing thing oh yeah, yeah, so it's like, but I was 10 years old and so those, so I have to live with that in the worst way. So when you say a thing that's kind of like halfway true, it's like, why would I try to defend the thing? When it's kind of true, I get what you're saying. So now you got to really take it with a smile.
Speaker 2Yeah, I don't know. Well, again, I don't know.
Speaker 1I'm pretty sure every girl does that. But like I just haven't Well most I'm pretty sure most, most, most people do you feel like you're too cool for things. Too cool for things? What do you mean?
Speaker 2yeah, like, like I think I did at one point.
Speaker 1Yeah, like I'm too cool, like too cool to um, like be embarrassed type of thing.
Speaker 2Uh no, I used to used to when, um, I think I told you like I, I put like everything on me being light-skinned at one point like this is my confidence, my look, I cared about people thought like how am I? It could be a party and I'm just standing on the wall, I'm like how can I stand on this wall? The coolest that I can, like, you know, and eventually this is like being yourself.
Speaker 2It's just like the, the best fucking thing ever and then you know, like dating as well, that kind of brought me closer to like life is just life breath. Like you know, I've been with women who are just super clumsy, so so pretty, but like one of the clumsiest people you would ever meet and they just did not give a. And then, like you know, just just meeting certain people like that took me out of that, that like trying to be too cool type thing. So yeah, otherwise I wouldn't be dancing on tick tock with my daughter you know what?
Speaker 1I'm saying like not caring if I'm hitting this move right, yeah, but at the same time did that feel like that brings you to hoes too?
Speaker 2Just.
Speaker 1Just no.
Speaker 2No, no, okay, I love my daughter. You know, two things can be true at once yeah, yeah, yeah. Of course Two things can be true at once. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't think it. You know, I'm going to just say no, oh God. I'm going to say no, yeah, yeah, yeah, yep, but it's good vibes. Yeah, yeah, yeah, good vibes.
Speaker 1I say no, yeah yeah, but um, it's good vibes, yeah. Yeah, I think it. It pairs well. That's something that's fun with your daughter and she loves to do that too, but it's also people. I mean, it shows love like that shows a fam, a family man yeah so it pair, if those both of those things pair as well with social media in general so I think, it's. It's good for both worlds. It's a win-win, I think yeah, no, for sure.
Speaker 2Even even every time before I post kaya, I always ask myself, like, who is this for?
Speaker 1you know, with a lot of the posts that I that I do, you know.
Speaker 2Like, yeah, do I just just genuinely love this video, or am I trying to get some views on a Saturday or some shit? You know what I'm saying and I never go that route. I'm very intentional with that, with her.
Speaker 1Yeah, and I think it also goes back to what we talked on a previous podcast about promoting positivity. We ask hey, can you be a righteous billionaire? You will naturally see it. You don't really see it on social media.
Speaker 1I think it's just. It's always good, regardless of the bash. You're just doing this for social media. I'm promoting positivity, so you can look at it however you want to, with a lens, but out of all the negative we see all the realities. You know, salacious stuff, all this drama-filled headlines that I'm, at the end of the day, promoting positive. Would you rather do that as a see that amongst black people, black family, black unity, or you know, what I mean.
Speaker 2For sure.
Speaker 1In an era where we all grew up with well, not we all, but a lot of us grew up without the fathers in the household and you see somebody say that's a win, yeah. So if you want to nitpick and say like, even did you see Money? Long critique, the Life Jennings video must be nice yeah, yeah, yeah. She was pretty much saying like you know, like that was like she grown up and realized that was kind of like a haters anthem.
Speaker 1You're like must be nice but really it was just like he was saying that's ultimately what he wanted oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's not like yeah, yeah. So it's like I'm saying that to say it's like more of a nitpick thing. It's like, hey, yeah, this you can say, hey, this is just about views or whatever, right, honestly, it's promoting, um, something that everybody should try to have and that's a relationship with their daughter, the child, uh, when their father. So I'm here for it yeah, no, that's true that.
Speaker 2I definitely, I definitely. Uh, keep that in mind every time before I click upload with her. It's positivity, yeah yeah, she, yeah, like I'm uh, if she had an instagram she would blow up oh, okay yeah, like I think about that all the time too, but I mean literally like she doesn't even.
Speaker 2She doesn't even know how this stuff works, but she knows how it works. Like if I give her my phone and she said I just want to take a video of me flipping on like on the bed, she starts it off, just like this. Hey guys, uh, today I'm flipping and I'm and I'm just like yo, if you had a platform, it'd be over with. It'd be over with that.
Speaker 1That scares me, though, but she got a lot of you built into her but she got a lot of you built into her.
Speaker 2I see that I don't. Yeah, it's there, like, yeah, it's definitely there. So, yeah, that kind of messes with me a little bit, because she's so talented and you know, like big, big, big, big stars, they usually start off small they usually start off small, then they get in there and then, you know, then it builds their whole career from there and I can kind of see, like if she wanted to, like it could do that.
Speaker 1But I'm also scared because she's a child you know, I would have to be everywhere with her, like literally, like no, that should. Just scares me a little bit, I guess. I guess my last question to you is how does it, do you think that having a blended household could work for you and meaning that, say, if you had custody of your, your daughter, and then they had a child as well, coming together, do you think that would?
Speaker 2be as in like when she comes over the other child comes over.
Speaker 1Well, so you? You marry a woman that has a child and then you bring your daughter into that. Oh is that is that something you could do without, or you wouldn't mind living in that that line.
Speaker 2Uh, I would love for that to to. You know that's the, the, the vibe. Yeah, I would love for that to. I don't see.
Speaker 1Well, I guess, I guess, does the thought of that puts you away from it, like, nah, I'm not going to.
Speaker 2I mean, it is what it is at this point.
Speaker 1Okay, you know, like I, I'm saying if the other lady had a child, mm-hmm, yeah, I'm saying the thought of her coming into your domain with your child. I was like, nah, the thought of that doesn't sound right.
Speaker 2Or like that's fine. I haven't gotten to that point yet, but I'm not opposed to that at all. I feel like that would be extremely selfish of me to kind of like have that concrete boundary, especially if I really like a woman you know like, and I could see, like my life with this girl and all that you know, that's an, an adjustment, it's a very like, mature thing to do. So, uh, if anything, I would want to be with somebody that that would be the result of, you know her having a kid, because otherwise we just wouldn't, we would stop the relationship at a certain point versus progressing to that. Yeah, that's a different. I've seen it happen. I've seen it happen before, so you know, so I'm going to give you a scenario.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1So you've been dating this girl for four months. She has a child, and then four months y'all intense love.
Speaker 2You think?
Speaker 1about proposing.
Speaker 2Hell. No, I ain't thinking about no proposing no four months.
Speaker 1This is a scenario, okay, all right, all right, all right, add eight months to it, all right. And then you realize and four months sounds better, because it sounds impossible that this scenario will happen in eight months. But four months, four months. You're at least thinking about it. It's not like you're about to do it.
Speaker 2Yeah, she's too perfect.
Speaker 1Everything's great, founds out she has a crazy baby daddy. Yeah, is that a deal breaker? She's everything you want in a woman.
Speaker 2It's going to do something. It's definitely going to do because then because now your stress is my stress, yeah, so it would it would do something. I don't like. I don't like, yeah, I would probably break up with a girl over there. Yeah, because, like, if you're, if your mom is childish, or if your cousin, this girl, just child, whatever, just just like if we have a martin and pam relationship you know, I'm saying we're always roasting each other. Just get the fuck out my foot, brian, trying to talk, I could deal with that. However, a man and like he crazy. And then now, if I love you, there's some form of protection that I have to be involved with. And now what? Like?
Speaker 2men are crazy you know, and we talking about a crazy man, like anything can happen and I ain't putting myself in that type of shit. So I had to check that up to the game.
Speaker 1Could you do it? No, yeah, yeah, it's not worth one, it's different. You know, it's not just my safety involved, it's the people that you care for safety involved. It's like what links is this person wanting to go to? You know what I mean? He, he's he. I don't know his moral code or anything.
Speaker 2Right, yeah, yeah, so he could step to my grandma's house, yeah yeah, yeah, oh God, or whatever, some niggas be ready to blast off of an argument.
Speaker 1Your child. Yeah, exactly, yeah. So I got to not only worry about my safety. I got to worry about the safety of the people closest to me that I tend to.
Speaker 2Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1Yeah, of course not. It's never worth that. Yeah, no, I agree with that.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1Because I got to be selfish on my side and say, hey, I'm willing to put my family at risk because I love this individual, absolutely not.
Speaker 2Hell, no, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1And I love myself too, yeah yeah, it's like yeah, there's. No, I don't. At least, I've never experienced a bond like that in the world that puts my life and my family's life in danger because I'm dating or I love somebody. That would be selfish on my part and that would be a selfish request of you to ask me to be standing here by you when that was your decision to make with this man in the first place right sucks for her definitely sucks for her.
Speaker 2I don't know who she gonna get with. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1Well, you gotta be another crazy nigga, you gotta have that equal opposite reaction. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2Then they cancel each other out oh god, yeah, yeah, yeah, the best friends, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1Both them niggas crazy yeah, yeah, and then at the end of the day, I'm not willing to not only go to jail for, but go to trial for. You know, as like yeah, yeah, you know what I mean. Like I should I gotta go through the whole legal process on pleading my innocence let alone.
Speaker 2I don't even like arguing with men yeah, I don't remember the last time I argued with a man like for what? Like no, it's too much. That can happen, bro.
Speaker 1People are too crazy and people are very crazy, and I just said crazy.
Speaker 2It's too easy to just.
Speaker 1Yeah, 100%. Too easy yeah. And people be doing it for less.
Speaker 2I just saw a video the other day of this dude in his car and he was just talking in the camera and then somebody came up basically saying man, give me your chain. The man said no, dead.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's insane.
Speaker 2Dead. I'm like bruh, you can't even say no, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1How about you give me, let me see the gun before you shoot me?
Speaker 2At this point I just automatically assume yeah, I got you, I ain't even trying to yeah my chain ain't worth the damage. Now let's make it just like give me the money.
Episode Wrap-Up
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Hmm, no, I just didn't want to show you the real shit. Bow Over with. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's just too easy to kill somebody. I totally agree, yeah.
Speaker 2Yeah, so no I think we did it.
Speaker 1Yeah, we're good, for sure, for sure. All right. Well, this is Two for the Culture. I'm Justin Devante, steven Ray. Yes, sir, we'll be back.
Speaker 2All right.