Modern Dating From A Male Perspective - with Guest Justin Brown

In this episode of the Elite Level Status Podcast, I sit down with Justin Brown aka Jay Snow for a conversation about modern dating and relationships from a male perspective.

We start with Justin’s background, his respect for women from being raised by a single mother and his work as an entrepreneur and broker. Then we get into the modern dating market and why mindset matters so much. Justin shares his thoughts on social media, “nice guys finish last,” red pill content, and why so many people are too focused on being cool instead of being honest, warm, and emotionally real.

This was a strong conversation about what men really want from women, what makes a woman stand out, and why gratitude, femininity, and support matter so much. Justin also breaks down the biggest misconceptions women have about men like him, the red flags he notices in women, and why selfishness and bad influences can quietly ruin relationships.

If you want a grounded male perspective on dating, relationships, and how to move with more maturity and intention, this episode is for you.

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SPEAKER_00 0:00

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SPEAKER_01 2:02

So I grew up in Orlando, Florida. Uh born in St. Louis, Missouri. Grew up in Orlando, Florida. Uh single mom. I saw my mom make you know move mountains for me and my siblings. So uh definitely huge love and respect for women. Women make the world go around. For sure. Believe it or not, I don't care what nobody says.

SPEAKER_00 2:18

100%.

SPEAKER_01 2:19

Women keep us going. So it's definitely respect there. Yeah. A thousand percent.

SPEAKER_00 2:24

Yeah, for sure. So a lot of the traits that I've heard women say that they want it in men, you know, they want a guy that's successful, in shape, tall, knows how to treat a woman. That's why it was important for me to bring a guy like like you in in here today. So we can kind of get your perspective.

SPEAKER_01 2:42

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 2:42

So um, you know, we we talk a little bit of about your background. What what about your your career? Like, tell me about like what you do, some of your investments, some of your entrepreneurial things that you're into.

SPEAKER_01 2:53

So pretty much, you know, I help people structure their money to where it benefits them in the future so that they're able to leverage it instead of you know going into debt or having to take out loans. Okay. So, you know, when you got your money working for you, that's a whole nother level of the ball game. So I pretty much, you know, I work with my clients, you know, I'm licensed in 15 states as a broker. Uh I have a brokerage and I also have an agency that I'm part of. Um, very, very good people doing great work for a lot of, you know, families and communities throughout the nation. Um, I'm the new kid on the block and um I got a lot to prove, but I'm a trailblazer and I've been moving pretty quickly. I've been able to grow very fast. Uh, but it comes down to it's not about me, it's about the people that I'm helping. And when I'm able to show people that there's another way, when I'm able to show people that, you know, it's bigger than what you think and you're able to get that house or you're able to get that car, they it's amazing how happy it is. Like people get excited when I'm able to structure these policies for them. And, you know, if you're if you're a mom or your father or anything happens to your family and you don't have nothing to offset that burden, you know, a lot of people are cooked, man. And so these are the kind of things I ask. It's not really about selling anybody, it's about providing value so that they recognize that value pretty much.

SPEAKER_00 4:08

I always say the sign of a good business is when you can solve a problem and help people. 1,000%. That is exactly what you do. 1,000. So yeah, definitely respect it. A lot of success coming. You already got a lot of success, but definitely a lot of success coming to you in the future, man. Because at the end of the day, you're giving back to the community and you're helping people. 1,000%. So that's that's the game plan. There's no other way. Yeah, yeah. I love that, man. So, okay, so let's let's get into some of these modern Danny questions. So again, I just want to re- reiterate. So I appreciate you coming in. Um, I I feel like you have a lot of the qualities that I feel like the modern woman is looking for in a in a guy. But I also feel like a guy like you gets judged a lot before he even gets a chance, right? So it's it's important. At the end of the day on this show, I want to bring people back together. Right, right. And so I want to have these conversations so that some of the preconceived notions that people have, especially the negative ones, we can try and kill those and get people to trust more and get back out there in the dating market. So the first question what are your overall thoughts on the modern dating market?

SPEAKER_01 5:17

I mean, look, you know, life is what you make it. You know, it's like saying the economy is bad and like moping around. Like at the end of the day, there's always gonna be trials and tribulations. But it's mindset, man. If you think the world is bad or you think it's bad, that's what it's gonna be. Now, now, however, there is a lot going on in this day and age. You got cell phones, you got all these distractions, but it's still about mindset. So if you think the world is what it is, this is what it's gonna be for you. Like, there's no way around that. I kind of tailor my mindset because I caught myself drifting off into like, oh, this is this, this is that. That's not a good mindset to have, and you're not gonna be a happy person.

SPEAKER_00 5:57

So Yeah, and that's important. You know, people are quick to talk about manifestation and you know, uh attracting what you want. Right. But when it comes to dating, everyone has such a negative mindset, and I feel like that's part of the problem. So, step one is having a more positive attitude about the dating market. And I think if you if you do that, you your chances are a lot better of attracting a relationship that you want. 1000%. So, first of all, what about social media? Do you see social media as helping the current dating market or hurting the dating market or both? It can be both.

SPEAKER_01 6:32

Um, you know, it could benefit a relationship and it could be detrimental. Access is everything. So, you know, like you always hear back in the day, we didn't have all these phones. Like people knew who are there, who was in their town or who was on TV. Yep. Now it's like you could DM somebody so fast, and that could be a good thing or a bad thing. It just depends on who you're dealing with. You know, me personally, at this stage, you know, I turned 28 on uh May 6th. So you know, I kind of grow faster. My mindset is just different, man. I just want to help people. I want to provide value to people, and I just think different. So like I've been able to date many women and gain a lot of experience, but I feel like I'm at an elite level to where like if I was with a partner, that's that's that's nothing. Yeah, it's just a social media account, you know?

SPEAKER_00 7:25

Yeah. I love that. Okay, so here's kind of um this could be a controversial question. Okay. What's up? What's up? A lot of people say nice guys finish last. Now listen, I think me and you are two of the nicest guys you're gonna find. Right. We never finish last. Right. So give me your thoughts on that kind of just quote: nice guys finish last. Nice guys finish last.

SPEAKER_01 7:51

I mean, I'm not gonna lie to you. Just be yourself, dude. Like, what is a nice guy? I know some dudes in the streets. They're nice guys, they're they're good people, but they're very good with women. Yeah. So, like, this nice guy thing, I think it's a form of like, from what I've seen, it's a form of like manipulation, just trying to sell, oversell yourself. Just be you. Just be you, man. Like, I mean, I I wouldn't say I'm a nice guy, I'm a good man. Yeah. Am I perfect? No, I'm not perfect, but I'm a good man and I'm definitely reliable and I'm accountable for my actions. I just feel like nice guys, they they they they say that I'm a nice guy because they're not getting the results that they want, and they oversell it, and it gets to a point where those be labeled the weirdos, or women don't care what you how good you look, they care about how you make them feel. Right. They care about if you listen. Right.

SPEAKER_00 8:40

I would I would say women want someone. Women don't wake up every day and wish to be mistreated by a guy. They want to be treated well. They do. I think that this nice guy's finished lasting came from guys where their number one trait was was their trying to be nice. Yeah. I think that you need to have something going for you in order to help build uh attraction. You have to be successful, you have to be competent, you have to be strong, smart, funny. Right. Okay. And so I think if you have those those things and you're nice, I think you're gonna find the woman that you want. I think the nice guys finish lasting comes from guys who think that they can just show up with some flowers and be nice and have nothing going for them, and then they're wondering why women don't take them seriously. 1000%.

SPEAKER_01 9:30

You know, I think there's a lot of building blocks. Women are very observant. I think relationships come down to alignment values and consistency. Okay, explain that. If it if it's like alignment, being honest about really like if you like somebody and you feel it inside, just be honest about it. Stop trying to be cool. So many times in the past, like I just, I just I have an ego. I have a sh a big ego. Most people do. And it's it's played in my favor, but it's hurt me in a lot of ways because you would have never known what could have been if you would have just, you know, manned up. So just you know, say what's on your mind. Like if you care about somebody and you're feeling something, just say it. Stop trying to humble them or just stop trying to hold back because you're you don't want to, oh, I don't want to give her too much brownie points. Give people their flowers while they're here. If they're making you feel good, give them their flowers. And that's been working for me so far.

SPEAKER_00 10:20

So I I want to sit here for a second. I think that's an amazing point by you, especially for men. If a woman is doing something right and you like it, then tell her. Right. Because I I think that it's it's more rare for a woman, especially when you guys are first meeting, it's more rare for a woman to verbally explain to you that how she's into you. I think you're better off if if you like her on a relationship type of level as a guy, you verbalize that. Tell her why she's special, tell her why she's different. Right. And then either one or two things are gonna happen. She's she's gonna like what you're saying, and you guys can keep going forward, or not. But at least you know. At least you tried. At least you try and you can move forward accordingly.

SPEAKER_01 11:07

Right. Instead of being in that weird middle area. 1000 and that middle area is not a place that I enjoy being. I mean, it's like gambling. Like you gamble with life, you take opportunities. If you never left your hometown, you would have never known what you would have been able to do. It's the same thing. Now, obviously, this listen, listen, this works for this works for men if she likes you first. Like, let's let's not let's not get too ahead of the train, okay? If she likes you and you guys got something going, tell her that she's doing things correctly. Yeah. If if if you don't, you're not sure, just feel it out. But this is if she likes you. I just I just wanted to say that.

SPEAKER_00 11:40

And and whatever you tell her, make it specific to her. Right. You want what you say. You don't ever want her to think to herself, oh, he tells this to all the girls. You want to, if there's something specific that you can say to tailor it solely to her, I think that always helps. 1000%, man. Okay, so you mentioned a couple of things. So you said alignment was one of them. Alignment.

SPEAKER_01 11:58

We hold on. We got alignment, communication, consistency.

SPEAKER_00 12:01

Okay, jump into those other two.

SPEAKER_01 12:03

So communication. Communication is very important. Like I said, ego. Oh no, you know, like some people purposely like not read text and not do stuff. They like it's weird. Yeah. Like it it the society is so weird. Just be real. If you see someone's text, okay, you're driving or you're busy, you can't reply back. But like all these games. We're all adults now. We don't need to be a game. We're adult games anymore. But people think this is leverage and they listen to date. This is another one I wanted to talk about. These dating coaches, and people, there's guys watching this stuff. It's poison for the brain. I uh it's poison. This red pill is poison because that's not how life really works. There's so many different avenues you could go through. So communication is key. Like communicate with your woman.

SPEAKER_00 12:49

And and guys are are watching this red pill stuff on social media, taking it to the real world. And this is why women are like just creeped out and just don't understand why men do the things that they do. And and they don't women don't know because it's it's not on the women's feed. Right. You know, but but dudes are taking this stuff, digging it into the the real world, and then a guy like you has to pay for what these red pill guys are saying.

SPEAKER_01 13:14

I ain't paying for nothing. Like, hey, look, they recognize real recognize real. I'm me. The results that I get in life, that's my results, but they're gonna pay for their own actions. Like, if you're if you're listening to another man on camera who had his heartbroken back in junior high, yeah, and he's still heartbroken because his daily life is not what it is. Yep. And these guys be having money and everything, but they're still sour and bitter because they're not getting the attraction from women. That's on you, buddy. Yeah. Like you got to deal with that as a man, but I don't take advice from other men who are hurt.

SPEAKER_02 13:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:45

I like to take advice from men who are, you know, they are confident themselves. Yeah, they're confident themselves, yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:50

Absolutely. What exactly does a woman need to show you in order for you to take her seriously?

SPEAKER_01 13:58

For me personally, uh man, I just like a good feminine woman. Like a good, like that's the core. That's what I noticed. Thoughtfulness, the smallest things, femininity, yeah, and just a sweetheart. Yeah. You know, I'm not, I'm a simple man. I don't really ask for much, but I like a thoughtful, I like a thoughtful woman who's like she thinks about the smallest things. Yeah. That's I pay attention to a lot of things. So that's what I like. Thoughtful, consistent, and feminine. Feminine for sure. Cause I gotta know, like, hmm, I just gotta know how much you really like me. I don't, I don't know if you like the idea of me or do you really mess with me?

SPEAKER_00 14:35

Like, that's you know, yeah. And I think that most men are are pretty simple. I think that most men are aligned with exactly what you said. What you say right there? I'm like, hey, if I could copy and paste that answer and take it for myself, yeah, for sure. I I think a feminine woman, um, a thoughtful woman, a grateful woman. Oh, grateful, oh grateful, yeah. Nothing in this world to me is better than a grateful woman. Just just tell me things. You just tell me you appreciate me.

SPEAKER_01 15:05

Right. Man, this this life, like, I, you know, I have friends who are very well off and all that, but it's not all about money. Like, this is another thing. People think everything's about money, money, money. This life is bigger than that. Yeah. You can have everything and you still feel empty inside. So, I mean, just when you're going through the world as a man, you know, the trials and tribulations, it could get kind of like mentally rocky. And we want to feel appreciated. I want to feel appreciated from the women in my life because it may it shows me that, like, okay, I can keep going. Like, my armor may have some cracks in it. Okay, now my armor's new again, you know? It it gives you strength to keep going.

SPEAKER_00 15:43

We we want to be the, and correct me if I'm wrong, but we want to be the providers. We want to be your your rock. We we we wanna know that we're uh appreciated. If if if you articulate to us that you're grateful and thankful for what we do, I feel like there's no limits to how far a man will go to make sure you're good.

SPEAKER_01 16:03

I'll go to the end of the world for any woman that's doing the right thing. I don't care. I don't care. I'll go to the end of the world for her. And I'm right there with it. She, I'm not finna just do it off rip. You gotta you gotta show me something too. This is not like, and this is another thing, and this is addressed to the these females who the if the shoe fits, wear it. But y'all be expecting stuff and y'all like y'all don't have nothing. And I'm not talking about money or none of that. You just don't have no substance, you don't have nothing that a man of value or a man that's on the come up that's got a bright future will want. So like you gotta really self-evaluate yourself. Like, I just want to put that out there because it's like, oh, this man gotta do this, this man gotta do that. What are you doing?

SPEAKER_00 16:39

Yeah, and and I I was to say to that is that, you know, women say they, you know, they require certain things, they need to make it clear to the guys why it's worth it for the guy to provide that stuff. Even for something like, you know, flowers or whatever it is. I think that women, women know their their value. I just think that they don't do the best job of articulating and showing to men what makes them valuable.

SPEAKER_01 17:07

Right. And look, and look, like, you know, there's different calibers. I just think honesty is everything. Like all these mental games is crazy, but like there's different kinds of women. Me personally, for a while, I was like, I don't want a relationship. I'm just having fun. And like I've done that. I've been all around this country, I've traveled and I've dated so many different women, and it's to the point where like my energy is not energy I'm just gonna, you know, about to give to just any woman. Yeah, my sexual energy is not something that I'm just trying to just give to a bunch of women. Yeah, like I'm very aligned on my success and my goals and what I'm trying to do.

SPEAKER_00 17:40

Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 17:41

So it gotta make sense. Like any girl I entertain, like, what is your mind? Are you just trying to have fun for the next five years? Or are you trying to find someone you can lock in with? Because it's only gonna get worse. The dating market is only gonna get worse. That's all I gotta say. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:57

What are what are some of the biggest misconceptions that women have had about you?

SPEAKER_01 18:02

Oh, he's a player, he looks like an F boy and all that. You know, I don't want to curse, but like he looks like an F boy, he's a player, and he's this, and he's a pretty boy, all that, you know, the same, you know, same thing. I think I think it's funny. I just yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:16

How do you how do you handle that though? I mean, because it's almost like you're penalized for trying to be your best self. Yeah. And they just judge you and assume you without giving you a a chance. So how do you handle that um as you as you live your day-to-day life?

SPEAKER_01 18:31

At the end of the day, man, you can't force nobody to mess with you. And I'm not the type to beg. So if you don't see my value, if you don't see how I can be an attribute in your life, I don't even want to be involved with you. So shout out to the women who could look past the image first. Oh, he looks like this, he looks like that. If you really knew me, you'll be surprised. Cause like I'm a very well-rounded dude, but oh, he's a pretty boy and all this stuff. Like, you don't know me. Yeah, you know, you don't know me. So that's that's how I feel about that. Like, oh well, next.

SPEAKER_00 19:02

Yeah, yeah. I mean, and at the end of the day, you know, it's just like giving giving people a fair chance.

SPEAKER_01 19:07

Yeah, give me a shot. Yeah, and then if I blew the blow the shot, that's that's on me. Like, if I blow the shot, yeah, that's on me. But like just judging somebody, oh, he looks like this. You don't know who I am. You don't know what I could show you as a man, you don't know what I could do for you, you know, or what we could build.

SPEAKER_00 19:22

So what are some of the biggest red flags in a woman, in your opinion? My opinion.

SPEAKER_01 19:32

Oh man, that's that's that's a good one.

SPEAKER_00 19:37

Red flags. Yeah. You're you're non-negotiables. Things that when when you see them, you're you're good. You're you're you don't even want to entertain it.

SPEAKER_01 19:46

I just think a woman who's not really aware, and she's easily like influenced. You know, a lot of girls nowadays they have this hive mindset. Like if their girlfriend's doing something, they're gonna do it. I like a woman who has her own mind, and I get people like to have community, and not all women are like this, but there's some groups where there are certain like influences, and it's like birds of a feather do flock together. So if you if you're hanging around this kind of woman, that's probably gonna be something that pops up in your life.

SPEAKER_00 20:16

That's all I gotta say about that. Well, that's that's actually a great point. I've never thought of thought of that. And I that's that's why as men you do need to kind of be mindful of who your girl's friends are, especially if if the girl that you're talking to isn't a a leader uh among her peers. Cause I yeah, if if she has if she has friends that are bad in influences, I mean you're you're you're only human, like right.

SPEAKER_01 20:41

You know, you know, um and and another thing, selfish. Like I'm like I said, I'm very simple, but I don't like someone who's not thoughtful. Just it's me, me, me, me. That's not gonna fly in my world. Yeah, you know, I don't come from success. I've been able to gain some what, you know, some success, but my trajectory is different. Yeah. So I want somebody who sees the power that I have, yeah, and they're like, man, this is this is a man that I'm about to, oh yeah, I'm gonna talk to you about, you know, everywhere I go, I'm gonna shout you out. I want you to be successful. I love that. Instead of me just like, oh, I want to go on dates, and I'm like, okay, let's go on a date then. And I do it. And it's like, okay, what am I getting out of this? Like, what's next? Yeah. You know?

SPEAKER_00 21:23

I think, yeah. As as as you talk, I'm like, yeah, I agree. Yeah. I mean, as a man, you want your woman to be supportive. You guys support each other. If if someone's overly selfish, I mean, I don't I don't think that's good in relationships. I don't think that's good in in life not even in business. Yeah. Yeah. If you could fix one thing about the modern dating market, what would you fix?

SPEAKER_01 21:50

Man, it's we're we're in some real dark times. People are just miserable. And you can feel the energy. I I bring back your soul, man. Um recently I I I discovered that I'm not as cold as I thought I was. I still got a lot of love deep down. Bring bring out the soul, man. Bring out that warmth. People want to feel that warmth. And it would be like, wow, like you'll be surprised when you have that warmth, people aren't used to it anymore because it kind of faded. It is, you know, with this social media, everyone wanna be cool and play tough. Bring back that warmth.

SPEAKER_00 22:21

And it goes back to what you said earlier. If you're into someone, tell them.

SPEAKER_01 22:25

Right.

SPEAKER_00 22:25

Everyone is trying to be too cool.

SPEAKER_01 22:27

Yeah. And you're gonna miss out. You're gonna miss out when you're too cool. You're gonna miss out on money. You're gonna miss out on everything. Yeah. 1,000%.

SPEAKER_00 22:35

Do you think relationships should feel easy and smooth, or do you believe that relationships are work? They're work.

SPEAKER_01 22:43

It should feel fun, though. It should feel like a fire. It should feel like if it's easy and smooth to too fast, that's not good. There's gotta be a plot. There's gotta be like some kind of plot where we met this way, and you could look back on that story and tell that story with a sparkle, a sparkle in your eyes. If it's too perfect, it might, I'm sure it won't last. It gotta be some kind of spark, and there's gotta be some kind of disagreements, and then you guys are you just find your way to each other again, and then something else might happen as long as it's not too far past the line of no return. Yeah, but it just gotta be fun, man. Like people don't people don't make stuff fun. Everyone's living off of social media quotes in Justin Le Boy. Yeah, Justin LeBoy, they're living off of Justin LeBoy.

SPEAKER_00 23:30

When you see a girl that follows Justin LeBoy, what are what are your things? Oh my god, like they live their life based off of that page.

SPEAKER_01 23:39

Whatever whatever this dude says, yeah. Whatever he says, if he says, oh, if he like for Valentine's Day, like it's he just be talking stuff, like he be copying stuff and like pasting it, but I'm like, you're living your life off of this quote. You want to talk about killing the dating market?

SPEAKER_00 23:54

I I feel, yeah. It's funny though. I love laughing at my phone. I laugh at my phone. And that's the problem because some of the stuff he says is is funny. But but that's the problem. That's the problem. Yeah, and so you know, you you get people that sort of identifying with what he says and taking it into real life, it's it's it's not good.

SPEAKER_01 24:14

Right. Like there was one thing I think it said, uh, well, one man won't do, another man will. Like, look, that sounds good. That sounds great. Yeah, but you'll be surprised, no male would do the no man of value would do anything if you don't fix yourself.

SPEAKER_00 24:29

Yeah, and and you know, to to that point, I would say as as a man, it's it's our job to to build our value and make ourselves an air replaceable. You know, if I in my opinion, if a woman thinks that she can replace me, go ahead. I'm I'm not doing my my job. Yeah, so so you want to get to the point where like, okay, hey, go out there and try and find someone like me. Right. And and let's let's see how that works. But I I think as as men, uh, when I hear stuff like that, I I take the challenge of, okay, like I need to build myself into something that can't be replaced. Replace easier to replace. And there's not much of that.

SPEAKER_01 25:05

Yeah. And when I tell you this, I like I said again, I'll reiterate, I've been around state to state, I've been in different cities, and there's not a lot of men that I could really respect, like some of the you know, few people I have in my life. It's it's hard to come by.

SPEAKER_00 25:18

No, no, there are a lot of like male role models out there to just, yeah. Yeah, I agree. What about marriage? Do you think it's smart for men to get married nowadays?

SPEAKER_01 25:27

Oh man, you know, cheese their own. I don't, me personally, my views on marriage, like I'm only 27, you know, but you never know. You never know. My favorite actor, Denzel Washington, is married. Yeah. And uh, he's been married for a while. He's also a lot older than us. He's a lot older than us, but he's been married for a long time and he's very successful. So he's my favorite actor. So I just threw that out there. But you know, everyone's different. Me personally, it's just gonna depend on where what I feel like that, you know, at that point. I just don't want the government in my business.

SPEAKER_00 25:59

When you when you see all these stories of like, you know, the pro athletes, you know, and you know, uh child support and divorce settlements and things like that. Does it give you apprehension about marriage? Does it not have an effect? Yeah. What are what are your thoughts when it when you see that kind of stuff?

SPEAKER_01 26:18

A lot of those dudes, a lot of those dudes, they just get some money and they just say, whatever, and they just do whatever. They get the first girl pregnant, and they, you know, I feel like I have a lot more control.

SPEAKER_00 26:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 26:29

You know, um, sexually, you know, you gotta be able to, as a man, you gotta be very responsible. So if you're not protecting yourself and you're just moving reckless, then those you go, you're gonna get reckless results.

SPEAKER_00 26:39

You're gonna get reckless results.

SPEAKER_01 26:40

Each person, like, that's on them. You know, protect yourself. You don't have to get her pregnant, but you did. So deal with the consequences.

SPEAKER_00 26:47

Deal with the consequences, yeah. Yeah, I like that. What has dating taught you about yourself? Dating has shown me like I have low patience.

SPEAKER_01 27:00

Like, I have low patience, but it it's shown me patience as well. Um my way is not always the end all be all. I've been able to see different perspectives and learn and listen. Dating has taught me to listen.

SPEAKER_00 27:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 27:19

Listen, and listen not just to hear, but to understand. Communication, like we said, is everything. That's dude. Um you know, I've been in two relationships and each of them are like two and a half, three years. So being able to keep a woman over a long period of time, that's not something that these guys nowadays are able to do. Things fizzle out for them, three months. Like, if you can't keep a woman, you're just not a good option.

SPEAKER_00 27:46

Straight up. I I like what you said. You you said uh don't listen to listen, listen to understand. That's deep.

SPEAKER_01 27:53

Don't just listen to hear. Oh, I hear you. Do you understand what she's saying? Yeah. Or do you understand what he's saying on the flip side? Yeah. It's about communication's number one, man. Like communication and alignment. If you guys are not aligned, you someone's gonna veer off this path, and it's not gonna work.

SPEAKER_00 28:11

Okay. Um if you could give dating advice to 16-year-old Justin, what would you tell him?

SPEAKER_01 28:19

Allow yourself to feel. Stop trying to be cool, stop trying to put up this wall when you don't need to. Live your life. Allow yourself to make mistakes and feel. That's what I would say. Instead of gatekeeping yourself. For a while, I gateked myself for a long time. And I was just like, you know, I'm not dating no girl, but who knows? You could have found somebody that would have been for you. You guys could have, who knows? She might, she might have said your name in a room and that would have propelled you to a whole different level. And that's another thing. Women could get a man in rooms that he'll never have access to. That's just the the the power that women have. So just allow yourself to you know what I'm saying? Like allow yourself to feel certain things. We're all gonna die one day. At least you could say you gave yourself a shot compared to having regret and oh, I wish I would have done this. Give yourself a shot.

SPEAKER_00 29:10

When you when you talk about the power of women, especially what you just said right there, women are able to obtain information and get you in the rooms, like you said, that men I I always didn't think about it like this. When I, if I'm asking a successful guy for like tips for like, you know, success in business or whatever, I feel like a lot of times he's apprehensive to tell me if he doesn't want to help me. If you put a beautiful woman in front of him, he'll spill everything. He because he wants to impress her, he wants to seem smart. Yep. So I I I do think that, yeah, to your point, recognizing the the power and the value um that women have is important. As men realizing that you're gonna get a lot further respecting women and treating them well, um, then you will go in the opposite way, is is very important for men. So at the end of the day, it's about reciprocity.

SPEAKER_01 30:04

You give, I give. You receive, I receive. If you, you know, you you can't dog no woman now and expect her to stay. No. And then when she finally leaves, you're like, oh, bro. Come on, like, are you slow? You gotta you just gotta do right by and if you got sisters and if you have a daughter, you have a mom, like you're doing this still, that's pathetic. That's pathetic, yeah. I get it. Some women are, you know, you know, they got issues, but that's not all women. You're gonna punish the whole village because of you got your heart broken.

SPEAKER_00 30:28

Yeah, no. Um, yeah, and I yeah, I think you know, in readership, with when both sides go out of their way to make the other side um, you know, be their best. I think those are the best.

SPEAKER_01 30:38

1000%. We we we need each other. Yeah. We need to bring each other, like you said, bring each other together. Times are getting interesting. So come together. That's all I gotta say about that.

SPEAKER_00 30:48

So listen, I appreciate you coming in. Of course, man. You know, um, I I think that your answers are very smart, very well thought out. Um, you know, like I said, the the goal of this show is to bring people back back together. Right. Fix the disconnect between men and women. I think there's a huge disconnect right now. And I think these conversations are important so that we can understand each other better and start um, you know, helping the dating market, building trust in each other so that people can get find the relationships that they want.

SPEAKER_01 31:16

We need each other. It's about community. We need each other. We there, you don't even gotta be dating them, but we need that camaraderie. A woman shouldn't feel like, oh, this guy's you know crazy or he's you know weird. She should feel calm and safe. That's how a women should feel. Yeah. And if she don't feel that way, good luck. Good luck, buddy.

SPEAKER_00 31:34

Um, for for anyone that wants to like follow you on a social media, can you drop your social medias and help me contact?

SPEAKER_01 31:40

Uh JSNOW101, the letter J S N O W W 101. Um that is my main page right there. Okay. I have a website, my bio as far as my business. So if you want a consultation on how to grow tax-free cash value, hit your boy up. I also do a state planning. I'm licensed in 15 states. Uh, we're out here, man. We're growing, you know. We're growing. Yeah. So love that.

SPEAKER_00 32:04

And I'll definitely have that tagged when I when I post this. Cool. Any other thoughts? That's it.

SPEAKER_01 32:09

Man, um, uh I'm I'm I'm honored. I'm glad we were able to make this happen. Yeah. Uh the first time I was disappointed, you know, because my alarm or whatever. But it's a pleasure to be here. And I look forward to maybe coming on again. And this is hey, we're the young trailblazers. We gotta, yeah, we gotta put our best foot forward.

SPEAKER_00 32:25

Yeah. And I I think it's important for men like us to to be the leaders that we are, especially uh among our peers, you know, um, because I uh I think if we can continue to do that, we can definitely spark change in in the positive. So cool. Amen. I appreciate you. Amen. Cool, appreciate you. I'm Will Scott, Elite Level Status Podcast. We'll see you guys next time.