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Building A Sovereign Life While Navigating The Modern Dating Market - with Guest Becca Conrath

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In this episode of the Elite Level Status Podcast, I sit down with entrepreneur and realtor Becca Conrath for a conversation about modern dating, marriage, and why building your own foundation first matters when it comes to finding the right partner. 

We start with her background growing up in Kansas City, moving to Las Vegas after a major personal loss, and how she has repeatedly turned painful relationship experiences into fuel for personal growth and new business ventures.

Then Becca shares her honest thoughts on the modern dating market, why it feels scary, and why transparency is non-negotiable if you want to date with intention. We also get into social media, red flags, and why relying on another person for your security can quietly turn into manipulation and soul-draining dynamics. 

We end with marriage and the pressure women feel to lock something down too early. Becca gives a unique perspective on why people should be more cautious about labels, more focused on alignment, and more committed to building their own life first so a relationship becomes a true addition instead of a necessity. 

This was one of those episodes that mixes real-life experience, hard-earned wisdom, and the truth about modern dating. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to like, comment, subscribe, and share with someone who needs to hear this conversation.

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SPEAKER_02

Thank you for having me.

SPEAKER_00

So first let's talk about your background. Where and how did you grow up?

SPEAKER_02

I grew up in Kansas City, Missouri, not Kansas. There's a difference. I grew up on a farm.

SPEAKER_01

Okay.

SPEAKER_02

My dad gave my mom everything that she wanted. She loves horses. He bought her a whole farm. She still has it today. So I grew up in that country life kind of lonely. I had to be my own best friend. I didn't have like a lot of friends around. Um but I had I had a pretty good childhood.

SPEAKER_00

And then at what point did you move to Las Vegas?

SPEAKER_02

I moved to Las Vegas in 07. Okay. I went through a crazy experience. Okay. It kind of ties into our topic today. I lost my boyfriend. Very young. I was 21. Okay. This was with him for four years. And you never expect to lose the person that you wake up to next next to every day, go to sleep, you know, like your person. You never expect to just lose them. And that's probably one of the hardest things I've ever been through.

SPEAKER_00

Wow. Wow. Okay. Yeah. We'll we'll touch on that here coming up. Um I noticed you have a couple um business ventures. Do you want to talk about those real quick? Just tell us what um inspired you to start them and then what you're working on.

SPEAKER_02

I am a realtor. I've had my license for almost 10 years. I sew, I have a bikini line. I also have a few ventures that I'm expanding on that to try to just expand that business other than just sitting in a sewing machine all day.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_02

Um, I have a few other things that I'm into. Right now I have a night job, but it's it's gave me a whole new perspective because I've been going through a pretty hard time for the past year with the relationship that I was in. And I kind of took that job because I didn't want to sleep next to that person at night.

SPEAKER_01

Okay. Okay, interesting.

SPEAKER_02

But it gave me a lot of stability and a lot of time to think at night. It's very peaceful at night. I watch a lot of podcasts, YouTube, and I've come across just a whole bunch of different information that's opened my mind to a lot of things, and I still explore and expand. And I think that's why I can't stay in a relationship very long, because I evolve and I grow. And if the person that I'm with doesn't grow and evolve with me, we're not on the same page and it doesn't work.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, for sure. But I I do love how you've you kind of took a negative situation and you've made it a positive.

SPEAKER_02

That's what I do with everything in life. That's how you survive this world.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, for sure. For sure. What um what inspired you to get into sewing?

SPEAKER_02

I that's the ending of another relationship.

SPEAKER_00

So so the thing about you is that you're a relationship.

SPEAKER_02

I turn bad relationships into a more positive, beneficial life for me.

SPEAKER_00

I I love that. I I love that. And I I think that's that's important. I think that people, a lot of people so can get down on themselves and don't use that fuel to but better themselves. I mean, you're you've done that on multiple occasions. So I love that.

SPEAKER_02

I've been there. I've you know been like, what did I do wrong? This is all my fault, like totally beat myself up over it, but you're just not compatible with that person anymore, and that's okay.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah, for sure. Okay, so let's let's jump into some more dating questions here. Um, first of all, what are just your overall thoughts on the modern dating market?

SPEAKER_02

It's scary.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, why?

SPEAKER_02

There's so many different unknowns out there now. Yeah, I just feel like it's a little bit dangerous. You just hear everybody plays games. Um, I've had a lot of bad traumatic experiences, but I'm still open to get ready and date again.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

But right now I'm just like focusing on myself, focusing on my businesses, keeping myself busy. I have three dogs. So I really don't have the time or energy to get out there and date, but yeah, it's scary.

SPEAKER_00

So you you say that the dating market is scary. What can a man do when he's making a first impression to kind of calm your nerves and ease your fears?

SPEAKER_02

I like comedy.

unknown

Okay.

SPEAKER_02

I'm so unserious. So I like somebody who can get my humor and make me laugh.

SPEAKER_00

Okay. Yeah. Okay. Does anything else come to mind as far as just um getting getting you to offer a little trust to potentially pursue a new relationship?

SPEAKER_02

That's difficult. I'm very much an energy frequency vibe person. Like either I'm feeling you or I'm not.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Either I'm gonna be like, okay, let's let's entertain this, let's see where this goes. Okay, let me give him a chance to see what he's gonna pull out of his back pocket.

SPEAKER_01

Right, right.

SPEAKER_02

But I feel like a lot of people just send in their representative and you're not really getting to know that person. And unfortunately, like you really don't get to know somebody until you're like two years into a relationship.

SPEAKER_00

That's a great point. That is that is very, very true. People want to put their their best self forward. Um, and yeah, a lot of times um you're you're meeting a representative. Um, I'm not sure how you get around that. Um, but yeah, I I do think that adds to the overall lack of trust that people have.

SPEAKER_02

And I feel like you really have to depend on your intuition and not ignore the red flags. And if that's something that's a deal breaker for you in the beginning that you don't like, it's only gonna be 10 times worse the farther you get into a relationship. And it's like the more you let stuff slide, the more they're gonna test you and press your boundaries.

SPEAKER_00

Love that. Love that. Um, speaking of red flags, what are some major red flags that are non-negotiables for you?

SPEAKER_02

Uh other women.

SPEAKER_00

Okay. Okay. So in I I can understand that you want exclusivity when when you're dating. Um what if a guy um what if there's a world where in an effort to be honest, a guy straight up tells you, hey, I want to pursue something with you, but I was talking to, you know, maybe I have a baby mama, maybe I was talking to somebody, but before you, and I'm still talking to them. If he was honest, would you still pursue it? Or is it just like, no, you're not playing that anymore?

SPEAKER_02

Be transparent so I can make the decision on my own. Um, at this point, I'm not really looking to just casual date. I want to be intentional about the next person that I date. So I'm probably going to be a little bit more strict on my boundaries and the level of things that I'm willing to accept.

SPEAKER_01

Love that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

I understand that not everybody doesn't have, you know, somebody that they're like talking to, texting, going out to eat with.

SPEAKER_01

Right.

SPEAKER_02

Like I do. But it's okay.

SPEAKER_01

Right.

SPEAKER_02

It's okay. And just be transparent about it so that you guys are on the same page.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. For sure. Uh, what about social media? Do you think social media has helped modern dating or hurt it?

SPEAKER_02

Both.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, explain.

SPEAKER_02

Now you can see if your man is posting other girls or if there's like funny stuff going on. Um, it's also helped it because probably nobody would know who I am because I'm always at worker in the house. You would be invisible.

SPEAKER_01

Right, right.

SPEAKER_02

But I don't really date off of social media. I've never dated somebody off of an app or anything like that. It's always been like organic in person.

SPEAKER_00

Okay. And you you read my money. That was my my next question. Like, how do you prefer to meet men? Is it um is with what you just said, you would prefer to like meet in person. Maybe a friend introduces you or a man approaches you, um, and you kind of go down that that row.

SPEAKER_02

Exactly. Because I'm such an an energy person to see if, you know, I have to feel like the texture of you pretty much. And that's very hard to do online because you can fake it so much online. Like you can be anybody, like look at the show catfish.

SPEAKER_00

Okay.

SPEAKER_02

Like that's scary.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Is okay. Let's let's say you meet a guy, he has good energy in person. Um, are you going to then, you know, I'm I'm sure you're gonna check out his social media. Is there anything, um, any red flags that you look for on a potential partner's social media? And also green flags too. Like, tell me what you like to see on a potential partner's page and also what you don't like to see.

SPEAKER_02

Okay, it's probably the same for men and women. Like if a guy goes to a woman's page and she's all like half naked, a lot of bikini picks, et cetera, they're gonna be like, uh, she's a little bit too available to the world, um, trying to, you know, seek attention from the masses. But I could take accountability on that. I do have a bikini line, and that's how like kind of I push my line. You're doing business. I'm not everybody. You're doing so I probably get judged a lot in that aspect, and and I just don't care what people think of me. No, and and you each but as as looking at sorry, I didn't mean to cut you off, but looking at a guy's page, like if they have a lot of thirst trap photos, like you know, the shirt off in the mirror, same thing. Um, as kind of like, um he's probably a little bit extra in his DMs. Um things that I do like to see is positive messages. Um, if they do have a family, if they do have kids, like they're not trying to hide it. Um, just stability. If they have a business, I'm really into entrepreneurs because I am one myself. And I feel like it works best if somebody understands my lifestyle and I understand theirs in that aspect because it is very different than just a traditional person who works a nine to five or has like a regular career.

SPEAKER_00

For for sure, for sure. So yeah, it it kind of is one of those things where it takes one to know one if you you guys can both understand each other and the demands that come with entrepreneurship.

SPEAKER_02

Because I'm gonna know how to support him and he's gonna know how to, you know, support me as a business owner or entrepreneur.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, for sure. For sure. Um, on that note, how important is is money? Like, does your does your man need to be making more money than you?

SPEAKER_02

It would help.

unknown

Okay.

SPEAKER_00

Um is would you call that a non-negotiable? You said it would help. So like you're you're okay. If he's working towards something, maybe if he's aspirational, that that helps, right?

SPEAKER_02

It does help. Don't fall in love with potential though.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, I like that. I like that.

SPEAKER_02

Can you because I don't want you to get comfortable living off of my success either. Okay.

unknown

Okay.

SPEAKER_02

But just like a man, like, okay, many men do. They there are still men out there that want to provide and they don't care if their woman works or anything like that. But I just want somebody to have their own stability so that they can support me on my journey. And then I have my own stability. So it's it takes away that dependency.

SPEAKER_01

For sure.

SPEAKER_02

Because a lot of people out here are looking to get taken care of by somebody else.

SPEAKER_00

I mean, that's that's facts. That's that's absolute facts. Um, so you don't you would recommend not dating on potential um Do not do that. Okay. Um And can you go a little bit deeper? I I would assume that it it plays into like kind of the trust that you were talking about earlier, too. If you are placing your expectations onto another person, you're opening yourself up to be getting disappointed.

SPEAKER_02

That and then when like let's say you are dating for somebody who is financially successful and you want them to take care of you, whether it's a man or a woman, because this goes both ways. There's guys out in the 2026. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. So you give up your kind of control and power over your life when you depend on somebody else for your financial security, like the roof over your head, the car you drive, the food you eat. You give up a lot of your control. And what I've seen, and I have experienced it, is they kind of hang that over your head and manipulate you based on that. And you don't want that kind of transactional relationship, it just bankrupts your soul. Like it's it's not good for you mentally.

SPEAKER_00

That is amazing advice by you. If you're gonna rely on someone else, you better be ready for them to basically weaponize it and you're gonna be able to do it.

SPEAKER_02

Exactly, exactly. And that can get very scary when it's your core stability.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, that that's great advice. So that's why that's why it's important to build the life you want first.

SPEAKER_02

Exactly, exactly.

SPEAKER_00

And then whatever a partner, you know, helps you with, that's icing on the cake.

SPEAKER_02

Yes. Because the person that you choose to have next to you share that type of intimate energy with, you want them to be equal or better.

unknown

I love it.

SPEAKER_02

Otherwise, they're pulling from you.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah. Okay. I I love I'm I'm loving this word right now. I'm loving your answers. Okay. Um now with that said, how can a man show you what he has to offer, um, especially from a financial standpoint, but in all areas without coming off as like narcissistic or cocky?

SPEAKER_02

I was gonna say very subtly.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, explain.

SPEAKER_02

So you want to get to know somebody first before you start just like, oh, I make this amount of money, I pull out this wad and this and that, because there's a lot of guys that do that and they're not very generous. They just are feeding their ego, and it's like kind of dangling a carrot over you, and a lot of them are like, okay, let's see what this girl will do for me, or and that's that's not a good situation either.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, interesting. Um and for the guys watching, you know, I I feel like sometimes men, you know, they have good intentions, they maybe just go about it the wrong way.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, very cringe and ick sometimes.

unknown

Okay.

SPEAKER_00

But listen, this is why I want to ask ask this question. I want to fix these these disconnects that that people have so we can try to like solve the problem. So you don't, as a guy, if a guy that took you out and he takes out a lot of money or is like trying to flash like his jewelry or whatever, that you know, in your opinion, is gonna be a turnoff.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, it's cringe.

SPEAKER_00

Okay. Um cringe is what we don't want. What would be the proper way for that guy to communicate to you? Um, can you give me like an example? Like what would you want to see? What would tell you, okay, this guy gets it? Um what what can he do to show that he's successful? Um, he is competent, he's smart, you know, he's funny, um, but without coming off as cringe.

SPEAKER_02

It's a very subtle masculine, take the lead action. Yeah. Okay. So he's gonna plan the date. Okay. He's going to he doesn't have to open my car, but it card door, but it will be nice. You know, flowers. Like, I'm so old school romantic. So, like, just watch guys how they used to date like 30 years ago, you know, like very, very respectful. You're not expecting something after the date. You're going to take me to, you know, it doesn't even have to be the fanciest restaurant, just somewhere where we can have a conversation, we can get to know each other and decide do we want to do this again?

SPEAKER_00

Love that. I love that you say that. A lot of the content that young men see right now on social media is telling them the opposite of what you just said, which is part of the problem. So men are gonna call you, oh, you're you're a simp, you're soft, you know, if you open a door, you do all that, right? So I feel like that's men are watching that kind of content, bring it in into the real world. And now I feel like sometimes women are like, what has has happened to like the modern man? I and again, it's why I want to have this podcast. Um, because that that doesn't work a lot of times with what men are are seeing. We do need to be be the lead, plan something, open a door. And I I love that because all that stuff is, you know, I feel like you're not asking for a lot there. You know, you're you're just asking for for your your man, your potential man to take some initiative and be the leader in the relationship.

SPEAKER_02

Yes, and just be very respectful about your intentions on being in my space.

SPEAKER_01

Right.

SPEAKER_02

No, it's not a simp thing. I think society, especially this younger generation, has kind of been brainwashed into reversing the roles of men and women in relationships. And that's where it's caused a lot of this disconnect and disruption and just almost impossible for not impossible, but it's very difficult for a lot of people to have, you know, a typical relationship that we saw our parents even having because everybody, you know, the the roles are switched. And me as a as a woman, I don't want to be the man. I want a man to lead. I don't want a man that wants princess treatment and wants to be a housewife. I'm not into that.

SPEAKER_00

And and you are a hundred percent correct. And so I do think that there are a lot of men that do want to be men, but I think this is to in my opinion, this is where social media has that net negative like kind of uh like effect. Um, because you know, you they see a woman like yourself super successful on you have have your own business, you have multiple ventures, and guys are like, okay, well, especially if they don't make as much money as the woman that that they're talking to, it's almost like, okay, well, you're the one with all the money, you know, do this and that for for me. That's a that's a problem.

SPEAKER_02

Why we're talking about money, I think financial literacy is very important for people. And that should be something that when you're you're kind of vetting someone is going to be either a red flag or a green flag. Because you well, me personally, I want to be with somebody who is financially savvy, knows how to invest, is not about just, okay, I need to make more money, make more money, spin it, spin it, spin it. I want somebody who's intentionally generating income to buy assets that will pay for your lifestyle. That's the name of the game. And I think that's another thing that we've been brainwashed on is just to go, go, go, get it, get it, get it, make that money, spin it, spin it, spin it. And now everybody is in debt, and not a lot of people are holding the assets. And with inflation, the only way to beat inflation is to buy assets that increase with the inflation because your money is worth less and less and less every day.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

So it's not about how much you make, it's really about what you do with that money, how you budget it, what you're investing in.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Yeah. I mean, very well said.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. Making good financial decisions. That should be something very upfront that you can kind of. Kind of see from your first couple of conversations. Right. And it's not like, oh, how much money do you make? What do you do with your money? They're gonna tell you.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

It's gonna be clear because you're gonna see kind of okay, he likes to spend his money on this, he likes to do that, you know, or he's very frugal. He invests, he has this going on, he has a real estate portfolio, you know. So that's kind of things that I'm assessing in the beginning.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. No, I I I love that. I think that's very smart. Um, and I I love um I just love hearing that a woman like you does appreciate a more traditional man. Uh a man that wants to uh, you know, be a a leader and be the the head of the household. Um and then with that said, you would be willing to to submit and follow the right guy that proves that he's competent and smart um and has the traits that you're looking for, correct?

SPEAKER_02

Exactly.

SPEAKER_00

I love that. Um, do you think that people sometimes ignore their intuitions in a relationship because they're afraid to be alone?

SPEAKER_02

Absolutely. I'm guilty of it too.

SPEAKER_00

Okay.

SPEAKER_02

And I'm guilty of staying in relationships far longer than I should because the fear of the unknown and that you're comfortable. Okay, you kind of have your your list of pros and cons that you assess in your head. And it's like, okay, am I willing to tolerate this? Okay, they do this, this, and this, this is working for me. Because no relationship is perfect.

SPEAKER_01

Right.

SPEAKER_02

So you're gonna have some give and take, but you really have to be true to yourself and know what you're going to allow or what's going to just totally break you at the end of the day.

SPEAKER_00

Do you believe that building the life that you want on your own first allows you to follow your intuition more? Because at the end of the day, you're not afraid of being alone because you you've built the life that you want.

SPEAKER_02

Absolutely. But like when you're young and you're in your teens, your 20s, your early 30s, you have to have that life experience to really know what you want and what you don't want. We're not really in the day and age where we're getting married right out of high school anymore anymore. Like some people do.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

That's cool. But everybody's on a different path. So I really encourage, like, get experience. Like, don't take it so seriously in your 20s because you're not going to be the same person in your 20s as you were in your 30s, 40s, etc. So it's kind of difficult to tie yourself to one person at that age in kind of the day and age that we're in. And like I said, I evolved so much that it's not my fault that I haven't been in, you know, a long-term relationship or married, because I probably would have been divorced four or five times.

SPEAKER_00

What do you think men most misunderstand about the modern woman?

SPEAKER_02

I don't know what they're thinking these days. What I observe is audacity is at an all-time high. Okay, why did you say that?

SPEAKER_00

What can you give me an example of something you you've observed that makes you think that?

SPEAKER_02

I can't give you a personal story.

SPEAKER_00

Oh, please. Please.

SPEAKER_02

Um, so my last like the deal breaker for me at the end was basically finding a bank statement and you're sending money to another woman. Okay, so that was like, okay, you don't live here anymore. This is not working for me. I'm not gonna be able to do this. Um, maybe like two weeks later, I he was gone out of my house. Somehow he got back into my house and he had another woman in my room, like candles, pineapples. Like I was, yeah. Metro was called. But this brings me into another little tidbit I can give you guys about dating and when you're living with someone. So here in the state of Nevada, if someone is living with you and you want to kick them out, they have to relinquish their rights to that property. Metro cannot say, hey, you can't be here.

SPEAKER_00

What?

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Hold on, wait. So if someone is in your house that you own, you can't you can't just tell them to you can't call the cost and like, hey, get them out of here. They have to, and what does that mean? Do you have to like sign a contract or something? How do you r relinquish your rights?

SPEAKER_02

You would basically have to take them to court and evict them. Or they would have to voluntarily get all of their property out of your house and relinquish their rights to your property.

SPEAKER_00

How long do they have to live with you in order for that to like take it?

SPEAKER_02

If they're getting mail there, there's nothing that Metro can do. And if it's a if it turns into like a domestic violence situation, then maybe they will like separate you and be like, hey, you just gotta leave for a while. But you know, if there if your safety is in danger and you if you want a restraining order, you have to go through the whole like court process and a judge has to decide, okay, yeah, your safety's in danger. But that can take time. Yeah, that takes time. So basically you're like, all right, I'm just gonna wait here and see if he comes back.

SPEAKER_00

I literally did not know this.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, and then just like they can be outside of your property when you come home, or yeah. So just be very cautious when it comes to a living with somebody, moving in with someone. Yeah, wow pretty messed up.

SPEAKER_00

Wow. I that's that's like game-changing advice. I I was totally uh oblivious. I didn't know that. I thought, I thought if if I buy a house and I own it, I let you stay here. Um, you know, I don't care if you're getting mail here or whatever, if if I want to kick you out, it's my house, I can call the cops and get you out.

SPEAKER_02

Nope.

SPEAKER_00

Okay. Uh you you you taught me something today.

SPEAKER_02

So be very careful who you allow to live in your house.

SPEAKER_00

Wow. Okay. We'll do. Um, how how important are our looks to you? Would you would you date a guy that maybe has a dad bod or um maybe isn't in the best shape, but he's funny and he should treat you right? Or um are looks something that you would prioritize in a potential partner?

SPEAKER_02

Again, I'm more about energy, the connection, how do you make me feel? Like how comfortable am I in your presence? How much do I trust you? Looks don't really have a factor.

SPEAKER_00

If you could give advice to 21-year-old you about dating, what would you tell her?

SPEAKER_02

Don't do it. No. No, I'm such a lover girl. I'm a Pisces, like I don't care how many times I get my heart broken. I still have hope that, you know, there is somebody out there who will take care of me in, you know, mental, emotional space, spiritually. I want somebody, you know, who's spiritually compatible with me also, has a good heart.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Yeah. I I definitely like that. Um so in an ideal world for you at this point, you ideally are you you're looking to get married um at this point, or is that not like a priority? You're just living your life, building yourself, building your businesses, and then kind of whatever happens, happens.

SPEAKER_02

Marriage is scary. You're signing a contract with someone, it's like opening a business with someone, pretty much.

SPEAKER_00

Interesting way to look at it. Okay. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

It's basically it's a it's literally a contract that you're signing and you're getting the government involved in your relationship.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

And so it's not the most important thing, I feel like, to say that you're married to someone. You can have a commitment with someone with God.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

And if you guys are both on the same page, but if you want to build something more together, like a partnership, then I feel like it's okay. Sign that contract, but be very, very careful.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, so this is.

SPEAKER_02

Especially for men, because you guys go through and then you get half of your stuff taken.

SPEAKER_00

I mean, that's that's that's whole facts. Yeah. Yeah. That's that's definitely facts. You you see these some of these stories about like high profile people, and it's definitely crazy. But okay, I want to go back to this point. This is an interesting, and this this will be our our uh we'll fit finish with this. So yes. Officially getting married, you have the government involved in your relationship. Would you be open to like a setup to where like you have like a wedding and all that, but you don't officially like have a marriage contract? Or is even that not important? Is having like a wedding and all that not important? It's just about like a true partnership with someone that you love.

SPEAKER_02

I feel like the true partnership with someone that I love and loves me and respects me and has my been best interest at the end of the day, that's the most you want out of the marriage. It's not the yeah, the celebration is great and you get to, you know, celebrate with your friends and family. That's not the most important thing to me because I'm not in that relationship with all my friends and family. It's that person, and that's what matters at the end of the day because that's who you're spending all your time with. That's who kind of the trajectory of your life is dependent on that partnership.

SPEAKER_00

For sure. For sure. I love that. I love that.

SPEAKER_02

Well, you you gave a lot of great answers today, and something to add so the construct of marriage is not the same as it was a hundred years ago, 200 years ago. Like when people got married, like the woman was the man's property. Like, we haven't even been able to vote for that long. So I think like that's kind of the construct that it started out with. Yeah. Um, like the whole idea of it, and the reason that like really Reno got settled because you didn't have to live there that long to get divorced. So a lot of women were going there because they were getting married to men, and then the men would abuse them, and then it was just a whole different time. But marriage means something completely different than it did back then, than it does today.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

And I think like society has us brainwashed to where the woman has to get married early in her 20s and being very naive, you don't really even know what to look out for at that time to be able to make that decision. So that's why I feel like divorce is at such an all-time high because people jump into it very quickly. And then, like I said, you change so much in your 20s and your 30s, and you're just finding out who you are, and you evolve and you change and you grow apart from that person. And if you guys aren't growing and evolving in the same direction, in the same alignment, it doesn't work. Then you're both miserable. So do we stay together because we're married, or do we just separate and be happy?

SPEAKER_00

Well, I mean, that that is a great point. Do you you think that modern women are unfairly under pressure and look down upon if they're not married when due to everything that you just said, they need to take their time and gain experience to understand what to look out for?

SPEAKER_02

Absolutely. And then the wedding business is like a billion-dollar business.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02

So of course, like they're pushing that mindset because they want you to blow 50,000.

SPEAKER_00

Do you think that this is like a bigger like conspiracy theory?

SPEAKER_02

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_00

This that's interesting.

SPEAKER_02

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_00

Okay, yeah. Yeah. Marriage is a big business. You got jewelry, you got wedding planners, you this is a lot of people the caters, the flowers, the just everything, the venues. That is interesting. Wow, I never thought about it like that.

SPEAKER_02

It's a big business. So, of course, they want everyone to buy into it. They sell us from a little little girls that, oh, you want to grow up and get married, and then you just focus on being a bride. Yeah, no. Snap out of it.

SPEAKER_00

Wow. That is so interesting.

SPEAKER_02

You can dress up like a princess any day you want. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Wow. That that is definitely true. That that is that is definitely true. And I I think that there's more people than we even know that that have fallen into that trap.

SPEAKER_02

And then they're selling themselves short because now they're in this role as a wife and putting all their goals and dreams on the back burner to take care of this man. And what if they don't pick the right one? Then they're stuck and you're you're following someone who's not going anywhere in life, and it just becomes miserable very quickly because your soul just feels trapped because you're like, I gotta take care of this man and these kids. Oh, and if you got kids, oh, it's even worse. Wow. Because now you're giving up your life for your kids and this man, and you just totally have put yourself on that the back burner. Like you don't even do anything for yourself anymore.

SPEAKER_00

And and you were brainwashed to make this new decision when you were younger.

SPEAKER_02

But who does it benefit? The men.

SPEAKER_00

Oh, that's facts.

SPEAKER_02

But men don't want to get married. Exactly. And here we are.

SPEAKER_00

That is so interesting. I never thought about it from that perspective, but you're totally right. You're totally right. Um, that's crazy. Okay. Um any any other uh theories that that you wanna throw out there about marriage relationships before we go.

SPEAKER_02

Just be very cautious and don't feel so quick to try to put a label on something or he's not texting back quick, or you know, just don't put all your energy into that person. Like literally focus on your own life and doing the things that make you happy and that benefit your life because then you'll attract somebody who adds to that. Instead of having the mindset that I want somebody who pays all my bills, does this, does that, you're looking for outside security. And what I'm really pushing right now is taking care of yourself, the sovereign self, not depending on anyone. You can't tell me anything.

SPEAKER_00

I mean, I I love that. I I I think that is great advice because you you limit your risk. I feel like you you you limit your your risk and you put yourself in a position where if you get into a relationship, it's gonna be a net positive for you.

SPEAKER_02

Exactly. And I'm not going to put up with things because my security depends on it.

SPEAKER_00

Right. Wow. I love that. Okay. Um if if there's if there's any guys out there that are like funny, um, smart, um financially savvy, can you please drop your your IG? Um, and then maybe they'll uh maybe re reach out to you. Who knows?

SPEAKER_02

Um I'm House Suprema across all platforms, H A U S.

unknown

Okay.

SPEAKER_02

But again, I'm so leery of dating online. So yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01

True, yeah.

SPEAKER_02

I just don't even think I would seriously entertain it. Yeah. Because I'm so skeptical of the internet.

SPEAKER_01

For sure.

SPEAKER_02

And I don't really, I don't get a lot of crazy DMs or anything like that or guys hitting on me. No, but I think I just put out like I'm not entertaining that anyway.

SPEAKER_00

For sure. No, that's um that's good then. I I love what you said though. I mean, you you have a lot of interesting viewpoints. Um, very, very intelligent. Um the the way you look at things, I I like it. But I think you you helped a lot of a lot of people today, especially with the thing about if someone's living in your house, they have to voluntarily give them the I didn't know that.

SPEAKER_02

There's a lot of homosexuals out here that date for housing.

SPEAKER_00

Okay. It's a real thing. No, no, stop. People that that are out there like trying to date just so they have a free a free place to live.

SPEAKER_02

It is definitely a thing. And I see it a lot here in Las Vegas. Las Vegas is a very transient city. Um, like I told you in my DM, my first rule of dating was always date out of state. So you don't have to worry about somebody trying to like move into your house. Or if you do have them over for like a couple days when they're in town, they're leaving.

SPEAKER_00

Would you a hobosexual? Yeah. Hold on, wait, but how do there's hobosexuals, I'm sure, in in every state.

SPEAKER_02

Like just men and women do it both, both. Just don't date for housing. Because it goes back to you're you're tying your security to somebody else. Somebody else, yeah. And they can kick you out at any time. And then you're stuck with what do I do now?

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Always build your own, always be working on your own foundation. And this is for the girls that are kind of in the industry here in Las Vegas. Because I know a lot of guys they run into, man, she's a dancer, she's this. And like, are there any girls who are just, you know, I guess they call it square or whatever.

SPEAKER_00

It's a bad kind of connotation. Like, no, that's fine. Like, you work a nine to five job.

SPEAKER_02

Like, there's nothing wrong with that. I think that's amazing. But this is for the girls who are, you know, in that industry. I think a lot of them get caught up in just all they focus on is a is a man or finding a man or getting money out of a man. And a lot of them are kind of empty inside because they've been in it for so long and they've been through every guy they know the good, bad, ugly about men, and they can see through men like that. So it's very hard for them to date. Um, I would suggest whatever your hobby is, start start trying to build a business on that outside of that industry. Because when you're in that industry, it's gonna be very difficult to date somebody who's actually serious about you. They could put up that representative all day, but behind the scenes, they're like, they don't really respect you because they can't be like, yeah, mom, she's a dancer, you know? So they kind of have that mindset and they're not gonna take you seriously. They're gonna, you know, most of the time abuse you at the end of the day, use you, you know, for your money. Because that's the other thing. A lot of girls in that industry, they ended up they end up taking care of men, unfortunately. And they wonder why, oh, there's no good men out here. I can't find a man, but you are what you attract. And if that's the energy that you're putting out there, that you're just trying to pull resources from someone, it's gonna come full circle and it's gonna happen to you too. And you're gonna be like, why can't I get out of this cycle? Why can't I just find a good man? Well, you have to get out of that lifestyle first.

SPEAKER_00

Wow. I love it. So you you said, okay, whatever industry you're in, okay, that's one thing. Whatever you're passionate about, try to start a business in that passion. And so it's it's twofold. And could correct me if I'm wrong. One, it's it's generating an income from something that you're passionate about. But two, you get to meet and network with different people than in your main industry, and that's gonna allow you to attract a partner that should be better for you. Is that correct?

SPEAKER_02

Exactly. And then you're just you're you're going to kind of separate from that transactional environment because it does have an effect on the way that you think about men and how you date.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

And you might not think, oh no, I'm this, but until you're really on the other side of it, you don't realize it.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I mean, that is A-plus advice. That is that is great advice. Um okay, I I love it. I love it. Um anything else that comes to mind, you guys are great. I could go all day, but no, I I think that that's important though. I I think that yeah, there are people that are um, I don't want to say people have bad intentions, but yeah, like it goes both ways. You're trying to extract, you know, some women are trying to extract money from from men. Um, men out ho homosexuals are out here trying to get f free housing.

SPEAKER_02

It goes the same way. Women do it too. Women do it too.

SPEAKER_00

For sure. Um, but I I think that if um if you're in intention intentional about having good intentions, like you're you're gonna attract whatever you are. And so I think that that's what it's it's important that you need to be mindful of that.

SPEAKER_02

Exactly. Like if you're a toxic person and you do like shady stuff, like you're probably gonna attract somebody who also does that. Makes sense, but you have to take accountability and you can't play the victim. Like you can't be mad that, oh, he's talking to it, but you have all the ones that you're talking to too. Like you have to be accountable with yourself and understand, okay, I'm doing this, this, and this, and this is why I keep getting these results. Right.

SPEAKER_00

Love that. Love that. Well, um, you were an amazing guest. Thank you so much for coming in. I appreciate you. You posted my wines and now you're here. Like, I I appreciate all all the support.

SPEAKER_02

Absolutely. It was nice to finally meet you in person.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, for sure, for sure. So um, Elite Level Status Whoop Podcast, appreciate you coming in. Um, you can catch us on YouTube, Spotify, Apple. I'm your host, Will Scott. We'll see you guys next time.