Child Abuse Awareness, Red Flags & What Parents Should (and Shouldn’t) Do - Ep 69

In Episode 69 of Cases & Cocktails, Bryan and Janice Eggleston are joined by Sandra Aguilar, a licensed professional counselor and former guardian ad litem, to kick off Child Abuse Prevention Month and Parental Alienation Awareness Month.

With years of experience working in family law cases, crisis response, and child advocacy, Sandra provides a grounded, practical look at how child abuse concerns intersect with custody litigation in Texas—and how parents can respond in a way that protects both their child and the integrity of the case.

What Mandatory Reporting Means in Texas

Sandra explains that professionals like attorneys, therapists, and guardians are mandatory reporters. That means if abuse is disclosed—or even reasonably suspected—it must be reported to the Texas Department of Family and Protective Services.

Importantly, reporting is not about proving abuse. It is about ensuring that trained investigators evaluate the situation.

This can create difficult situations in litigation, especially when allegations have already been investigated or when repeated reports place additional stress on the child.

Recognizing Possible Signs of Abuse

Parents often ask what to look for. Sandra explains there is no single indicator, but potential warning signs may include:

• Sudden behavioral changes
• Sleep disruptions or regression
• Increased anxiety or emotional distress
• Changes in school performance or behavior
• Regression in developmental milestones

However, these signs are not definitive proof of abuse. They may also reflect stress, transitions between homes, or other environmental factors.

The key is to observe patterns—not jump to conclusions.

The Biggest Mistake Parents Make

One of the most important takeaways from this episode is what not to do.

When a child begins to share concerning information, many parents instinctively start asking questions:

• “When did this happen?”
• “Who was there?”
• “What exactly did they do?”

While well-intentioned, this can unintentionally contaminate the child’s statements and complicate future investigations.

What Parents Should Do Instead

Rather than investigating, parents should:

• Stay calm and emotionally regulated
• Be present and supportive
• Allow the child to speak freely without prompting
• Maintain normal routines as much as possible
• Seek professional guidance when needed

The goal is not to gather evidence—it’s to protect the child and preserve the integrity of any investigation.

Managing Your Own Emotions

When a parent believes their child may be at risk, the emotional response can be overwhelming.

Sandra emphasizes that parents must find ways to regulate themselves—through therapy, support systems, or trusted relationships—so they can remain a stable presence for their child.

Showing intense fear, anger, or distress in front of the child can create additional emotional pressure and confusion.

Why These Cases Are Complex in Litigation

In Texas custody cases, allegations of abuse can significantly impact outcomes. However, courts rely on evidence, professional evaluations, and investigative findings—not assumptions.

Bryan and Janice highlight that while protecting children is always the priority, navigating these situations requires careful handling to avoid unintended consequences in court.