Relationships 2.0 The Final Piece to the Puzzle

This episode spotlights How to Win Friends and Influence People and its powerful relationship advice, like being a good listener, showing appreciation, and avoiding arguments. The host shares two heartwarming stories — a dad flying on six Christmas flights to be with his daughter and an NFL team gifting Super Bowl tickets to a beloved staff member. Motivational insights from speakers like Jim Rohn and Molly Fletcher are also featured. The episode ends with a challenge to show kindness and take time for self-care. A feel-good, encouraging listen packed with tools for better connections and a stronger mindset. 

Zig Ziglar - Your Attitude Will Determine Your Altitude

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/zig-ziglar-your-attitude-not-your-aptitude-will-determine/id1723882003?i=1000664457161

Nick Vujicic - When It All Falls Apart, Listen to This

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-resilient-mind/id1562025210?i=1000666068483

The Quote of the Day - Brianna Wiest:  We're Always Waiting for a Breakthrough

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-quote-of-the-day-show-daily-motivational-talks/id1163094296?i=1000705478573

Simple Daily Routine for a Balanced Life Download:  https://drive.google.com/file/d/1njZbEbTg-NKLto1OptvAkglc6mxdXKo7/view?usp=drive_link

Transcript

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Welcome to a conversation of hope with price. This podcast is all about you. The master to remind you that you are the masterpiece. To inspire you to join the game. To equip you with simple simple strategies, strategies you can start using today. To begin with journey towards the code. Along with colorful stories of time, all of our studies.

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I promise I will always give you all that I have. Super excited about this episode. It is packed with great information and tips that will make your life better. And you deserve it. All right, let's get started. I could not close out the relationship series without sharing with you the book that changed it all for me when I was about 20. I remember the first time I read it, and it felt like a massive download of amazing information that I knew was going to change every relationship in my life. The book was by Dale Carnegie, and it was called How to Win Friends and Influence People. If you get a chance, get a copy and check it out or get the audio book and listen to it on the way to your job while you're commuting and stuff. But I promise you'll see the value in it. Very, very good book. I think it's been around 50, 60, 70 years, literally, sold millions and millions and millions of copies. Um, I included a free resource in the show notes, kind of recapping the highlights of the book. So it's a quick and easy read if you want. I think you'll enjoy it, and it is a great tool reference with all the relationships that you can have in your life. All right, let's get into the meat of the book. So how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie is a timeless guide to effective communication, relationships, and leadership. So here's a little bit of a recap that we did on the book so that you can kind of get all the fundamentals. Part one fundamental techniques in handling people. When dealing with people, don't criticize, condemn, or complain. Criticism breeds resentment and resistance. Instead, try to understand people and their motivations. Give honest and sincere appreciation. People crave appreciation. That is so true. Think about that. When you have someone come up to you go, hey, I really appreciate what you did there, or hey, you really make a difference. That makes all of us feel so much better. Recognize others' efforts and contributions genuinely. You always know if people are recognizing it from their heart or if they're just saying, arouse in another person the eager to want. Talk in terms of what the other person wants, not what you want. Show them how they can benefit. Part two was six ways to make people like you. So become genuinely interested in people would be number one, show curiosity about others' lives, ask about them and really listen. I think one of the funnest things you can ever do is just peel back the layers on people. Like randomly when I meet people and stuff, whether it's at a restaurant or wherever it's at, church, work, I love just asking them questions and kind of peeling back the layers to find out who they are. You know, what are your hobbies? What do you enjoy doing? Do you have a pet? It's just really cool to make that connection. And people are the coolest thing. Like just to get to know numerous people and have numerous quality relationships in your life. It's just awesome. Number two would be smile. A simple, sincere smile conveys friendliness and positivity. And smiling is actually selfishly really, really good for you. It tells your body that all is well. It takes 62 muscles to frown and only 26 muscles to smile. So idles of smiles, give them smiles, smiles, smiles everywhere you go. Number three, remember that a person's name to that person is the sweetest sound in any language. Use and remember people's names. It makes interactions personal and respectful. So let's say you meet somebody, the guy's name is Jack, and what you do is you just repeat their name back to them three or four times. Hey, nice to meet you, Jack. Oh, cool. What do you got going on today, Jack? Well, hey, once again, very nice to meet you today, Jack. I hope you have a great day. Doing stuff like that really helps you remember people's names because, man, that could be a struggle for me at times. Like someone will introduce themselves, and literally within two seconds, I have no idea what they just said as far as their name and stuff. So, but it is super important to people. Be a good listener, would be number four. Encourage others to talk about themselves. People love to talk about themselves. Give them the space to do so. I remember hearing a story once, Zig Ziggler told about a lady that went and had a huge dinner with a bunch of dignitaries, a couple different Congress people. And one night she was just sitting there and talking to one of the people that she had met. They're obviously very interesting and all that. They had another dinner that next night, and she was with somebody else. And she was asked, Hey, oh my gosh, you got to sit next to these two very famous, influential people. How did it go? And she said, Well, the first night when I was sitting next to so-and-so, I realized this is probably one of the smartest, greatest, most intelligent people on the planet. And she said, the second night, when I sat next to the other person, I realized that I'm one of the smartest, most intelligent people on the planet. And isn't that cool? When she sat next to the person on the second night, that person was interested in her. That person talked about her. That person made her feel like a million bucks. But the night before, that person just went on and on about themselves. So being a good listener and then just letting people talk about themselves and just sincerely encouraging them and stuff, that is just priceless. It's very rare and it's hard to do because a lot of times we we all, man, starting with me, we'd love to talk about ourselves. But it's really cool when you can get someone when they're more motivated and feel better about themselves after talking with you than when they started. That's when you know you're really hitting a home run with people. Talk in the terms of the other person's interest. We talked about that. Connect over topics that the other person cares about. And then number six was make the other person feel important and do it sincerely. Using that example, that story is huge of just making people feel valued, appreciated, and that they are important. That is the coolest thing ever. All right, part three of how to win friends and influence people. One is about how to win them over. So the only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. And I agree with that. Arguments rarely lead to agreement. Find common ground instead. And I heard one time from Wayne Dyer a really good point on how you could avoid every argument the rest of your life. And one of the things that he said was simply when people are really passionate about where they stand or what their opinion is, you can simply say, you know what? You may be right about that. And that's all you gotta say. And it totally leaves them defenseless because they're just like, huh, okay. You're not agreeing with them that they are right, but hey, you know what? Hey, you may be right on that. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say you're wrong. Phrase disagreements tactfully. Be respectful, not confrontational. Number three, if you're wrong, just admit it quickly and emphatically. Take responsibility. When you take responsibility, it earns trust and it diffuses tension. Begin in a friendly way. Number four, so approach conflicts or requests with warmth and courtesy. Number five, get the other person saying yes. So start with points of agreement to build momentum. And that way you can also build that bond between the two of you to get done what you want to get done. Number six, let the other person do a great deal of the talking. I've heard the statement, you know, we have two ears and one mouth. And so that's one thing I really work on, especially leading my people and my team, is listening a lot more than I talk. And then just asking questions instead of giving specific direction. Hey, how could we do this better? Or hey, what are you seeing here? What do you think we could have done to make this work better? Questions are amazing for people instead of just coming at people and saying, hey, you know what, you need to get this done right now. It's definitely a different approach, but you're going to have a better result by doing the questions and all that. Plus, they'll feel better about it. Number seven, let the other person feel a lot of the ideas are theirs and ask them for their ideas. We just talked about that. Hey, how can we do this better? I know we need to work on this project. I'm kind of stuck on a few things. I need your opinion. Tell me what you think. Let them take ownership. It increases the buy-in and the cooperation. And then number eight, huge one, try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view. Empathy fosters trust and smoother communication. Always remember, like every one of us, we all look through a different filter. And so we receive communication differently because of the filter that we have. And what I mean by that is all of us were raised differently. So someone can say the same statement, and it's going to come across differently to almost everybody in the room, just because everyone has a different life filter that they've grown up with, their belief system, what they've been taught, everything that's processed and filtered through their brain is going to be different than the person sitting right next to them. So always remember that. Appeal to the nobler motives. People want to feel honorable, appeal to their better nature, and then throw down a challenge. It's fun to issue those challenges with people and you know just say, hey, you know what? What if we could get to this point? What could we do? And then always that recognition is priceless on that. All right, let's go to overall themes of the book. Empathy, respect, and sincerity are key to influencing others. People want to feel valued and important. Treat them that way. We talk about that all the time with the golden rule, and it's so true. Influence comes not from domination, but from for cooperation and understanding. So once again, influence does not come from domination, but from cooperation and understanding. Good stuff going on there. That is awesome. All right, y'all. So let's take a look at the real talk. And what I mean by that is so, like anything in life, you can have that game plan, but sometimes we all don't always follow through on what we know to do. So remember, a great relationship is built in time. And it does not just come from applying a formula. Know that there will be highs and there will be lows, but if you're fully committed to a long-lasting relationship, it can be absolutely one of the greatest joys of your life. It is well worth it to stick with it and never, ever, ever give up. Always be investing on that relationship in your life, especially those key ones, and always be investing in yourself so that you can show up better in every relationship all around you. All right, y'all. It's that time. It is time for a joke break. Which birds have the worst manners? Mocking birds. All right, all right, I'm sorry. I just uh yeah, okay. We'll keep moving. All right, we have two great stories this week for you. The first one is about a flight attendant who had to work Christmas, and the dad, I thought this was so cool. What a cool dad. He booked all six of the flights that she was going to be on just so that he could spend time with her on Christmas. So while there is no place like home for the holidays, flight attendant Pierce Fawn was unfortunately scheduled to work through Christmas Eve and Christmas. However, her devoted father was not about to miss out on spending the holidays with his daughter. So he booked seats on all six of her flights. That is so cool. Hal's sweet utile gesture was first brought into the limelight after he was seated next to a fellow passenger Mike Levy on a flight from Fort Myers to Detroit. When Levy heard about Hal's flights, he snapped a photo with the dad and posted it on social media, praising the family for their heartwarming adoration for each other. I had the pleasure of sitting next to Hal on my flight back home. His daughter Pierce was our flight attendant who had to work over Christmas, Levi wrote on Facebook. Hal decided he would spend the holiday with her. So he was flying on each of her flights today and tomorrow around the country to spend time with his daughter for Christmas. What a fantastic father. Wish you a very Merry Christmas. That is what he posted on his Facebook. And then the story showed some pictures of the dad and the daughter, and oh my, what a good time. So what? We talk about Golden Rule? Wow, that's being a Golden Rule father right there. That's amazing. The second story we got the NFL player fulfills a lifelong wish of beloved employee by surprising him with Super Bowl tickets. Even though Alfonso Garcia is not on the field with the Los Angeles Rams, the football players still consider him part of the team. Garcia, who works at the LA Memorial Stadium, always keeps the facility in tip-top shape for the football team. So as a means of showing some love to their beloved colleague, the Rams decided to surprise him with two tickets to the upcoming Super Bowl game against the New England Patriots. That is so cool. One of the guys that works here, he said, the general manager, Les wanted to speak to me. Garcia later told the CBS News. It made me a little nervous because that's not an office you really want to get called into. Upon sensing Garcia's anxiety, Cooks laughs and says there is no reason to be nervous. Instead, he just wants to give Garcia a gift. On behalf of the team and the organization, we would love to invite you and your son Josh on a round trip to the Super Bowl. Cooks said, So you mean so much to us, and everything that you do does not go unnoticed. Garcia was overwhelmed, fighting back tears. He says that he has always wanted to go to the Super Bowl since he was a little boy. And now he was able to bring his own son to the game as well. Oh my God, are you serious? Garcia said emotionally. This is a dream come true. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. And I love you guys. To have this and be with the guys in something so special like this. Wow, from the bottom of my heart, I thank you. Wow, that is so cool of the team to recognize someone like that and also allow him to bring his son. That is fantastic. All right, you guys. Here are some great quotes I wanted to share with you from a book. I have a quotes from Zig Ziggler. He was a motivational speaker. It impacted my life in a huge way. He's no longer with us, but he did impact over 250 million people with his speeches and his encouragement and all that. So he came up with a little book of quotes of some of the things he would say. And I thought maybe I would share those with you because they're pretty inspirational. First one, your business is never really good or bad out there. Your business is either good or bad right between your own ears. The real opportunity for success lies within the person and not in the job. It is easy to get to the top after you get through the crowd at the bottom. Success is not a destination, it's a journey. The most practical, beautiful, workable philosophy in the world won't work if you won't. Motivation is the fuel necessary to keep the human engine running. And then last quote we'll share is discipline yourself to do the things you need to do when you need to do them. And the day will come when you'll be able to do the things you want to do when you want to do them. That is so true. If you have that discipline now on the front end, you'll be able to have the life that you always wanted. And then you'll be able to do whatever you want to do when you want to do it because you put in the work and you put in the time. All right, y'all. Time to recap our three podcasts of the week. First one, really good. Molly Fletcher. She was from a sports agent to an inspiring people on the stage. From teaching people to play tennis to being one of the biggest sports agents out there. Molly wrote a great book called Dynamic Drive. She talks about competing with herself versus others. I think that is so cool. I'm telling you forever, I used to compete against everyone else around me, all of my peers. And then finally I realized the only one I really need to compete with is myself. If I'm always trying to get better and I'm always tracking my progress and kind of competing against myself, it's going to make me one of the best in the industry. And so that is just so powerful because you're going to have special gifts that other people don't, and they're going to have special gifts that you don't. Competing with yourself is the best way to go. Always work on being the best version of her. It was her inside out approach. She tried to grow herself. So she worked on her inside first on just getting better, and then it would be reflected on the outside. She pursues excellence in all that she does. She always wanted to contribute in a meaningful way. She talks about making a bigger impact and leaving a legacy. Take time if you can this week to check out the podcast with Molly Fletcher. It was fantastic. It'll be in the show notes as always. Number two, Jim Rohn, personal development. This is another good one. What you have now has been attracted by the person that you become. So when you become that person of success, that's when success comes for you. Take responsibility for you and your results. If things are going great, awesome. Celebrate those victories. If things are going a little rough, maybe think, okay, what could I be doing different to make these results change? If you will change everything, everything will change for you. Work harder on yourself than you do on your job. Work on your communication, work ethic, and attitude. If you want the things on the higher shelves, you need to stand on the books that you've read to get there. That's just referring to that personal growth. And you all are amazing at it anyway because you're listening to this podcast right now. So good for you. You're already on it. Success is something you attract by the person you become. Profits are better than wages. Wages make you a living. Profits make you a fortune. What you become in your success journey is much more valuable than what you get. Many more great nuggets from Jim Rohn if you tune into that podcast as well. Phenomenal. All right, y'all. Number three, Robert Kiladani. He says small things make a big difference. This was kind of a cool podcast. He talked about all these different studies and researches that people did, and then how the outcome was pretty powerful. One of the studies that they did was a waiter who did nothing but give a final check to the customers, and he barely got any tips whatsoever. Then they had the waiter give one mint for each person and the tips went up three percent. Then the waiter went back on a different time and gave two mints for each person, the tips went up 14%. But the kicker was when the waiter would give one mint to each person at the table at the end of the meal, and then all of a sudden walk away about five or six steps, and then stop, turn around, come back and give another mint to everybody else, just saying, Hey, for y'all, I want to give you an extra thank. You and that's when the tips went through the roof. It's kind of talking about how those small acts of kindness make a big difference. So you could have one waiter making two, three, four, five hundred bucks more a week just by sincerely doing some of these acts of kindness. Hi, y'all. Time for our weekly challenge. This week, do one act of kindness for somebody. And then I want to mix it up to you know, I was thinking about the other day. Take time for yourself this week if you can, please. Just jam jam your playlist and totally unplug and just be in the moment and either be doing a walk, maybe a drive in the sunshine, do something for you to recharge your batteries. Alright, time for the wrap up. And please know from me, I really believe this with all my heart. So when I'm telling you this, it's not just words, it's really coming from my heart to yours. You are amazing, you are incredible, you are loved, you are valued, and you are appreciated. You make a difference in the world. Never, never, never, never, never stop dreaming and believing big. Always remember, your thoughts determine your future. Your best days are ahead of you. We appreciate you being part of this community. We're on a road to a million, a community of people that care, that make a difference, that are growing each other, trying to be a better version for ourselves so that we can show up to a better version of everyone around us. Thank you for being you.

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Thank you once again for listening to a conversation of hope with Brett. Brett wants to remind you that you are loved and appreciated. If you found value in this episode and know someone who could use a little hope and encouragement, please like, share, and subscribe. Be sure to check out the show notes for links to Brett's top three podcasts of the week. And don't forget, Brett is offering a free copy of his book. Just send an email to gpxfreedom at gmail.com to claim yours. If you're facing a tough challenge and would like another perspective on how to navigate it, feel free to email us at gpxfreedom at gmail.com. We'd love to help. Until next time, wishing you and your family an incredible week and ultimately a great life because you, yes, you deserve it. God bless.