Episode 8 - Zoom out! Zoom Out!!

Day of Events:  February 18, 2024

Languages, perspectives... I thought about calling this episode "Magic, Witchcraft, and Jesus" because it depends on your perspective- how closely you are zoomed in or out-as to what you see, how similar things are versus how different they are.  Personally, I prefer a broader perspective so I can see how things are joined rather than a myopic point of view that seems to imply a dis-separate existence from all other things, 

much like seeing a person as a human being occupying the same planet as me instead of seeing someone who is from another continent, has a different skin tone, language/ accent than I do and is of the opposite sex- unity instead of separation.

So that's what I wound up taking about that day but the day's activities were about the massive task of rearranging the furniture in my room and the massive amounts of crap that had been shoved into it from all over the house...

Scarlett Davis

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Here it is and here we are and in the words of Phil Collins, just another day Just another day in paradise and actually this is a form of paradise for me But it wasn't easy getting here and it's not everybody's idea of paradise But it's me in my own space telling my story the way I want to tell it and I hope you enjoy it that you like to come along for the ride because I There's a lot to tell. It's kind of like a roller coaster. There's some ups and downs and all arounds, twists and turns, corkscrewing, high dive, low dive, whatever. There's all kinds of things that you never know what to expect until BOOM! It's there. So this is my story. I'm Scarlett Davis, and I am the future single lady. I'm here telling you from my perspective things that happened. As I sometimes clawed my way through a divorce and I'm not going to lie, there were times I wanted to be drunk or maybe even high or something that I just wanted to escape the reality that I had created. I didn't, by the way, well, I've got drunk a few times, but, um, I just wanted to escape my life and the, well, on multiple levels, I wanted to escape my marriage because I felt Oppressed to say the very least and that's putting it in a very nice way. I was absolutely not happy and I hadn't been for years And I had been faking it for a long time and I just Couldn't do it anymore so This is my journey And a few weeks into it I started recording things just as I am now as they happen My feelings about those things when things were still really raw whether it was happy and joyous or very much not. But in the beginning, the only documentation I had was my journal. So this is that and yeah, I hope you enjoy, I hope you get something out of it. Even if you're just rolling your eyes saying, Oh my gosh, just shut the fuck up, Scarlett. Oh, I also have to say that this is only for entertainment purposes. I'm not giving any advice to anyone, even if it sounds like I am. I'm not, I'm not giving any advice because I'm not qualified to. I've lived my life. This is my life. I've learned a lot of things, but it doesn't mean that it applies to you and I'm not certified or legally approved in any way to give any kind of advice. I'm not a counselor. I'm not, uh, I'm not, I'm not a legal person, a legal professional. I'm, I'm not any of those things that qualifies me to tell you what to do. I'm just a woman documenting her situation and sharing it with you. That's all hope you enjoy. Okay, continuing on. February 18th, 2024. This is a short one. It's not even a half a page, I think. So here we go. Well, he's due home any minute. Prayers. My knees hurt from being on the floor so much and my shoulders and back don't feel the best and my feet don't feel Unused but I'm happy and I am relaxed and I have faith and I feel good about things My stuff is out of his way He has his own whole room and my stuff isn't looking crazy in here Thought about using bed risers or cinder blocks to be able to put luggage and massage table under there. Hmm I kind of already need a step up. So, dot, dot, dot, question mark. Prayers for all of us. To all of the best versions of ourselves out there, please come guide us through this time. Not just today, but for all days. Help us learn, apply, and grow from all of these experiences and help create the best world possible for all. Heart sunshine emoji. So mote it be. And then I have a quote here. All these things I ask of thee, give your blessing. So mote it be. Me just now I had just come up with that as I was writing and I know you may say so mode it be Scarlet That's like a witch thing like a Wiccan thing. You know, what? It's it's basically a version of saying amen amen basically means and so it is so I could say thank you I could say Gracias, I could say Oh gosh, other languages are Drawing a blank on me right now. It is first thing in the morning, but It's two ways of saying the same thing. Did you know that abracadabra the word that magicians are famous for saying for I don't know forever I know at least for decades if not longer than that. Do you know what the word actually means? Do you think it's just gibberish? I mean most people probably do right? It's not gibberish. It's actually a language It's called Aramaic. you know what that one is? Jesus's language 2, 000 years ago. That's the language that Jesus spoke and abracadabra means with my words I create. Think about that. With my words, I create. We associate that with magicians, with magic. So mode it be means bring it into existence. Amen. Make it so. Okay. Also here's, I'm going to go ahead, and since we're on this topic, since we've already talked about magic and witchcraft and Jesus. Hell of a combination, right? Right. I'm just gonna, and I'm, I'm literally at, and I may get in trouble for this, and, and that's okay if I do. But it is an honest, real, legit question. I'm not trying to stir a pot or anything. I am seriously wanting somebody to give me an honest, legitimate breakdown or perspective on this. And not just something that's a knee jerk thing. Give me, give me something real here. Prayers. Spells, those are words trying to bring about a certain end result. There may often be candles, incense, and we'll just say burnt offerings. What's the difference between a spell and a prayer? What is the difference between a spell and a prayer? There are words that are being used to generate a certain, what we view as positive response. But let's, let's face it. And I, I'm going to bring up this song, I Pray For You, because there's, there's a song that's a country song where the guy's like, I pray for you. You know, the preacher said to, to pray for, okay, I pray for you. I pray for your brakes to go out as you're rolling down a hill. And, and it's a funny and cute song. But it is a great example about how not all prayers or the end result of all prayers are not always happy. They're not necessarily positive. And let's face it, we do that. One of the, the common things is something will happen and be like, Oh, I'm so looking forward to karma coming back and biting that person in the ass. Right? Most of us have said something like this or, Ooh, God is going to pay that back to you tenfold because of vengeance is mine. Sayeth the Lord. I know the Lord's going to whoop your ass for me. And those are, those are forms of prayers, but there's, there's all, um, there's all kinds of things. So what is the difference between a prayer and a spell candles insense they're used in both, not always, but So I'm not saying that I advocate one thing more or over the other or even in equal parts but because your place and your thoughts in the world are, are fine. I'm just, I have a broader perspective over what I believe is acceptable. I'm not as triggered by certain things like phrases like abracadabra or so mote it be or amen because I look back and I look forward to this being a thing. I would love to meet with somebody who has a computer program who can do this. So there's a common phrase that says, that sometimes we can't see the forest because of all of the trees. Well, that's true, and my mom taught me that one from early on. Well, so I would love to see this thing where, Zoomed in on basically looking at the bark of a tree and then zoom out and then see, oh, it's not just a bark, it's a whole tree. And maybe it's a certain type of tree, like it's an ash or an oak or cedar or mesquite or whatever. Some different, some, some type of tree. And then as you zoom out and zoom out right next to it. There is a different type of tree. And next to that one, a different type of tree. So that there is, I would love to have this, this graphic of every different type of tree in the world that we know exists. Palm trees, and there's like 17 different types of palm trees, date trees, just all kinds of things. An entire forest of one each of every different species of tree. Some of them younger, some of them older. And as you zoom out, you see this whole entire forest. It's a forest of trees, but each tree is very specific in its own way. And it's special in its own right and its own way. And then I would love even more than that to continue zooming out. So after you see the forest, then you see what exists around the forest and out and out. And then you see the whole planet earth. And then you see the planetary system and the galaxy. And, you know, just, and so it's the same viewpoint. The person's, the person's focal point hasn't changed. It's just that where you're zoomed into on what level determines what you're actually seeing. Are you zoomed in on the little cracks in between the bark of one tree that is part of a forest that is part of a planet that is part of a system that is part of a galaxy that is part of the cosmos. When, when you look at things, are you just seeing only the cosmos? And then, I love the end of Men in Black, when they're zooming out like this. And then, this entire galaxy, everything is, turns out that it's in little marbles that the giant aliens are playing with. I love that. So anybody who wants to do some graphic design, hook me up. Hit me up, futuresinglelady at gmail. com or futuresinglelady page on Facebook. More social media to come, but right now that's what I got. That would be great. I would love to plaster your name all over this podcast saying, Look what this person did for me. Thank you so much. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Anyway, so that was February 18th, 2024. I was happy. I was relaxed. I was not looking forward necessarily to him coming home, but I was praying about it, praying for good things to happen for our family unit. I was trying to give him his space and try to organize all of my stuff because let's face it, I have a lot of stuff, especially at that time and trying to have my stuff. All in one location, and it wasn't so much that I was trying to do that for myself or for, or for him, but it was, uh, basically he had kind of revolted a bit and said that he wanted my stuff out. He shouldn't have to be surrounded by my stuff, and, and I agreed with that. I thought that that was a respectable desire, request. And so absolutely, I got on it, and it was physically exhausting. I was sorting through all kinds of things, because here's the thing. It's not just me and my stuff. It's also my work stuff. It's stuff that supports the family. It is the family documents, all the documentation, the mail, the everything. All the stuff that was my responsibility. And I had a lot of responsibilities for the family. But it was progress being made that day. It was great. It was wonderful. And I was looking for more of that, and I wanted everything to happen in the best way. I wanted my continuing prayers to be continually answered. God, go before me and clear the path. And everything that this family has to go through, please let it be in the best possible way. Let us be guided by our best selves, our best future selves. And let everything be good. Let us be a family unit, just not married. Give us the freedom to express ourselves in the way that we need to, in a kind and respectful manner that's healthy. That was my desire, and that's what I was asking for. So my mama taught me that if you want something, ask for it. The worst thing that a person can do is tell you no. So, in this case, she was encouraging my brother to ask the girl that he had a crush on, to encourage him to ask her to dance. That was his 6th grade dance, and my 4th grade dance actually was a party, because certain religions don't allow dances, so it had to be a party, so every so often we'd have to stop and play a game, but She said, my mom told him, Ask her. The worst thing she can do is tell you no. And that, so that was always my attitude for, for life. So I wanted a peaceful parting of ways. So I asked for it. We will just say that he definitely told me no. And even though I tried to reject it and well, I did reject it and set my boundaries, we will just say it has to take two to tango. So, yeah, stuff happened. Right now, things are still really good. The sun is shining, the bird is chirping, and it's a beautiful day at this point. Unfortunately, it doesn't stay that way. So, thanks for being on my journey. I hope you hang out to hear more tea. There's more social media stuff on the way, but for now, talk to me at futuresingleladyatgmail. com or my Facebook page, Future Single Lady. I'd love to hear what's going on with you. Right now, I'm spilling my guts, sharing my story, and if you're listening this far, then surely you got some stuff going on, too. So, maybe you think I'm just a total whack job. Maybe this is really entertaining. Maybe you've gone through it, too. Maybe you know someone who is, or who has, Please, reach out to me. Tell me, tell me what you think. Tell me what's going on in your life, in your world. Because this isn't a one way street. This is a back and forth. I want to hear from you. I hope you hang out to hear more stuff, the ups and downs and all arounds.