It's Got Pockets

The Invisible Load - the thinking about all the doing

• Sarah Knight • Season 1 • Episode 10

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This one’s personal. And if you’ve ever found yourself rage-fluffing garden cushions while your other half chills out watching telly, then it’s personal for you too. Because it turns out rage fluffing is a thing.

In this episode of It’s Got Pockets, I’m diving headfirst into the reality of mental load — the invisible, exhausting, relentless labour that so many of us carry without recognition. Not just the doing, but the bloody thinking about all the doing. The planning, the prepping, the remembering, the emotional caretaking. All of it.

It's an overshare episode full t'brim of my fabulous gorgeous garden gathering – which was, in reality, also a masterclass in logistics, multitasking, and emotional labour. From jet-washing patios and managing party prep to sorting family logistics, football matches, lost car keys and a gluten-free BBQ tray... I was spinning all the plates, with barely a nod to the weight of it.

This one is all about:

  • What mental load really looks like behind closed doors
  • Why it’s not just physical work, but emotional and cognitive overload
  • How we get caught in the trap of “I’ll just do it myself”
  • The gender gap in domestic life (and why it still matters)
  • The guilt, the resentment, the exhaustion — and what to do with it

I also talk about the bittersweet reality: sometimes we love doing it. We’re good at it. But it still costs us — our clarity, our calm, our creativity, our Inner Edge.

So this is your permission slip to drop some of that weight.
 To stop performing your rest.
 To stop holding up the sky.

Because your energy is not infinite.
 And your worth is not tied to how well you carry it all.

Let’s talk about what we can let go of, what we can name, and how we can finally reclaim a bit of peace.

Sarah is the founder of FoundHer Fire—a membership space for experienced women in business who know real success isn’t just about strategy, it’s about self; a place, a space, a community where women find their fire, for women who aren't done yet and who are ready to write their own rules of success. Sarah also co-founded The Plot Twist (un)Awards, celebrating female founders and women smashing through glass ceilings with purpose, passion and joy.

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