Why Do People Get Offended by Me? One Question Channeling Session | Olivia de Sousa

Why do people get offended by me even when I try to do the right thing?

 In this one question channeling session, Olivia de Sousa asks why two relationships are becoming strained, with people reacting strongly to her behaviour despite her intention to be authentic and considerate.

This episode explores:

•  relationship conflict and emotional triggers
•  authenticity vs people pleasing
•  spiritual meaning behind difficult interactions

What You’ll Hear

• Why people may be overreacting emotionally in relationships
•  What is happening energetically when conflict keeps repeating
•  Why this is not a karmic or soul contract issue
•  How to respond without over-explaining or fixing others
•  The role of nervous system overwhelm in modern relationships
•  Practical ways to create space and reduce emotional escalation

Why you should listen:

This episode is for listeners who are:

• navigating difficult or confusing relationships
• trying to balance authenticity with kindness
• experiencing repeated emotional conflict with others

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Transcript

[00:00:00] Speaker: Welcome to the Infinite Life Consciousness Raising Spiritual Transformation. I'm your host, Katische Haberfield.. I am a channel of spiritual beings who portray, display, embody and convey, higher spiritual intelligence to help us humans who are incarnated here today on earth on our journey not only a single spiritual awakening, but multiple spiritual awakenings.

[00:00:32] We are all here to help, and there's bound to be an episode or an entire season that will help you on your journey. So I'll let you explore them, but if you would like to work with me in a private capacity, you can head to katische.com. And thank you. Bless your soul and Namaste. I wish you well on your journey.

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[00:01:02] Katische Haberfield: In this episode, you'll hear a one question session with Olivia. Olivia brings a question that sits within relationships, emotional dynamics, and understanding what is happening beneath the surface of a connection. This is something that many people experience where a relationship feels significant, confusing, or difficult to move through, and there is a sense that there is more to understand, as with all the sessions in this season i'll take a moment to clarify the question and then I'll connect and bring through the most appropriate being in the light to respond. What follows is the full transmission.

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[00:01:42] Katische Haberfield: Welcome to The Infinite Life with me, your host Katische Haberfield. I am really pleased and honored to have back a returning guest this evening Olivia de Sousa. Olivia, welcome back to the podcast.

[00:01:55] Olivia de Sousa: Thrilled to be here unexpected privilege to be back here. Thank you.

[00:01:59] Katische Haberfield: Yes, and thank you, because Olivia was kind enough to leave a review on Apple Podcasts. So thank you for doing that, Olivia. Not many people in the world actually leave reviews on podcasts, so I do appreciate that.

[00:02:11] Olivia de Sousa: Pleasure.

[00:02:12] Katische Haberfield: What is your one question that you would like me to find an answer for tonight in the channelling?

[00:02:20] Olivia de Sousa: Okay. as we kind of briefly said before we hit record on the podcast itself, I came in prepared with a question that I'd sent you, and then life happened and I've just received messages from someone who's Cleoarly disappointed in me. And it's like, I feel like, and then I'm sitting across from you virtually, and I feel like, I think this is what I need to ask about.

[00:02:45] So without getting into personal details, there's been a couple of long term friendships, relationships where people have been displeased with me. People have just been offended. I think I should have behaved in a different way, done a different thing. I haven't done the thing they wanted me to do.

[00:03:06] And bang, that's the end. And, and I'm very, I, I'm very much someone who tries to see things from everybody's point of view. And I'm trying to find the balance. My word for the year was authentic authenticity. And I think this is a time where that's very important. And I'm just trying to be true to myself and not be a people pleaser, but I also just wanna do the right thing by, by everyone.

[00:03:28] Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you with, not trying to upset anyone and I'm like, what on earth is going on and is there a lesson for me?

[00:03:38] Katische Haberfield: Okay, perfect. Alright, so I will just take a deep breath in and you can do that too.

[00:03:43] Olivia de Sousa: Mm-hmm.

[00:03:44] Katische Haberfield: Okay, so I just wait for the heart based energy to let me know that I am ready to connect.

[00:03:51] Okay. And I just generally wait to see where the message connection is going. Sometimes it's from locations and dimensions that I haven't had experience with yet because they're the ones who have the qualifications, so I'll just keep sending out that antenna.

[00:04:11] Okay. And hello to you, Olivia, my dear. Thank you. I do appreciate that you're feeling quite distressed at this moment, and my name is not so different from yours. And I think Katische kind of picked it up. You can hear it a little bit, can't you? She's trying her very best not to "butcher", as she would say, my accent.

[00:04:35] But yes, I am from a society where we are judged by our demeanor and we spend a lot of time managing our thoughts around etiquette. Now, I do believe that your soul is in contact with my soul in another location, which is not a dimension nor a planet, nor a star system, but excitingly for Katische because she hasn't had it this season so far, it's right here on earth. Your soul and my soul know each other in another incarnation, and in that incarnation, which you believe, my dear, we co-authored a book together. Sounds a bit ridiculous, doesn't it? We were experts on etiquette in this "other" lifetime. Somebody might call it a past life, I might call it just another avatar of my soul.

[00:05:33] So sometimes when you get in a bit of a tizzy, as I would say, or perhaps there's a little bit of, how would I say it? A watermark on your teacup it's because when you were living right next door to me we were kind of a little bit like, how should we say, the tea ladies who gossiped over scones and cream. And we would judge the high society, the low society, and even the mailman as he came past.

[00:06:07] And so I do believe that what you are experiencing now is not quite karma, but it is an exercise in reserving judgment, and as you said, you try very hard to understand all aspects and all perspectives, and to be authentic and to please everybody now. I might say back in the old days, "well put a peg on your tongue dear, and don't say anything harsh".

[00:06:36] But I do think that's relevant in modern society because people just do tend to get on their, how do they say it?, "Warrior keyboards" and type away and tell people rather rude things, don't they? And I'm rather glad that I don't live in your time because you know, a snub on the street was probably the worst it could be.

[00:06:56] Or maybe somebody would leave a feather in your mailbox if you do get what I mean. and we would talk about some of the rudest things where possibly really that lady had a ladder in her stocking and how shocking that she was seen in high society. Why didn't she carry a spare pair of hose in her handbag?

[00:07:14] But you know, those were the times and it was, I'll tell you just before the war, so you know, those luxuries were available and sometimes life does like to teach us lessons. And well, the writings that we had were mostly correspondence with other ladies who did have, and this is why "we" think it's quite funny how you changed the direction of your question this evening.

[00:07:37] We did write into the local columnists in the newspaper and ask our questions, and so I guess Katische would say the modern version of that was, do you remember when Cleo magazine was around, or Dolly Doctor and there was “Dear Dolly Doctor”, I'm having this situation and I don't understand it. And we did that, quite a lot.

[00:07:57] So we were quite chummy. So I just really want to tell you that, it's all right. It's going to be fine. And people can be really quite bothersome. People can be tiresome. And you know what? Sometimes I do believe it's a case of hormones. It's a case of souls trying to express themselves when they have contracts.

[00:08:21] Now, these contracts that we are speaking about between the parties who have been agitating you, are rather like not the "binding contract" that says, I will do this and we will keep repeating this until I get it right. You feel all better about it. So an example of this would be something like, I will be your best friend forever and ever and ever and ever.

[00:08:48] And if I ever get to the light and hold the hand of Jesus and he says, you were nasty on the third day of primary school, then I will try again and I'll make a new contract and decide to be your best friend again. So that I get it absolutely perfect. I'm not talking about one of those contracts. These are the more mysterious contracts.

[00:09:05] These are the kind of contracts where in this lifetime you may have been deciding to come and help somebody else learn etiquette. This may be another one of these people, maybe in this lifetime that you have a familiarity in a relationship construct where you kind of irritate each other to the point that it could explode if you're not careful.

[00:09:32] But that is because possibly in the lifetime that you had most recently with them, you were kind of like, how do we say "Switzerland" to each other? You were very neutral. You were very calm, and it was a very, very boring friendship, and so this time you decided you might like to spice things up a little bit and sort of be like irritating sandpaper towards each other.

[00:09:58] Now, the best way to view both of those two examples is that there's nothing terrible there. There's nothing wrong. It's just two souls learning to communicate and experience different personalities in different lifetimes. But if you wanted to look at page 73. I hope you have page 73 in your book, I think you'll find there's a mantra that you wrote or you sing sometime about such things, and I think if there's not, then there should be a page 73, because I think you could do a lot of mantras if you tapped into your consciousness from your other lifetimes

[00:10:38] that would be mantras to help, sing songs for children and for grownups that help them when people are bothering them. So right now, with the intense energies that are going through this earth, the world is full of conflict. There are wars going on. There is inflation I believe in your country.

[00:11:02] The petrol price is quite ridiculous, I do think, and look, Katische now even her local post office doesn't exist anymore. So, things are changing rather rapidly for people. And what it is, is more of a case of most people just can't cope with the level of change that is going on in the world. You know, even "scotch finger biscuits" don't come in the same variety of weight and quality of the butter and ingredients, and you have to pay more for them these days.

[00:11:32] So you can't even have your lovely cup of tea and biscuit and it be the same. Sometimes it just gets so much that you can really get hot under the collar because of it and take it out on somebody else. And why I'm making it sound quite, I guess, farfetched in the hilarity kind of thing is that because quite frankly, dear, I want don't want you to bother that it's some kind of a karmic relationship.

[00:11:56] It's not something that needs to be repaired and it's not something that there is a major lesson to learn from it. If this was a romantic relationship, for example, then maybe I could dig the dirt a lot deeper on these particular people who seem to be throwing up in their arms in disgust with the way that you are behaving.

[00:12:17] But honestly, I think just let them have their message to you. Let them throw their tantrum at the moment. Some people in the world don't know how to use mantras. They don't know how to use Katische, would use essential oils to ground them. They don't know how to use, what are they called? She watched a YouTube ad today on it...

[00:12:36] "grounding sheets". They don't know how to take their shoes off and go outside and put their feet on the ground. They don't know how to lay in the sand on the beach and just give themselves time for a moment. They think that everything has to be, yeah. So in their life for it to feel normal that they don't know what it's like to be truly relaxed.

[00:12:57] And I think that the more people understand that it's not just about nervous system regulation, it's about "life regulation". If you are a co-creator in your life and I'm talking about them and not you, and you create a life of busyness and stress and perfection, and you don't take time to simply learn some of the basics about energy and how to calm yourself without imbibing in copious bottles of champagne or glasses of scotch or whatever it may be, maybe a pipe or a cigarette or those fancy lighter things, these that they have these days, then your body is never going to have that ability to "de-stress" you would say? I would say. "There's no zero point set. There's no coming back to peace and quiet".

[00:13:51] there's just too much busyness, too many apps, too many things buzzing, too many notices, too many newsletters. Too many committees. Too many groups, too many busy bodies, and nobody seems to sit down and have a nice comfy armchair in the corner and says, everybody go away now. I'm going to have half an hour to myself, and I'm going to put on my favorite jazz record, take off my shoes, and I'm going to have a delightful slice of cake with some tea and. Go away. Just go away. And I think a lot of the problem is that people do wonder if you are not bothering them 24 7, what are you doing? You must be being suspicious. You must be getting up to no good. You mustn't have enough things to do. You mustn't be looking after your children the right way.

[00:14:35] Are you sending them to the right school? Do you have them educated the right way? Have they got the right books? Do you buy the right diapers? Are you wearing the right kind of bra and underwear? Honestly, these days I don't think people really need to know that level of detail. And do you know what social media does?

[00:14:52] It does show them all of those details, doesn't it? And they can sit there and they can stare when they've had their glass of wine and they can say, Olivia has got the wrong shade of wallpaper in her bathroom or whatever it may be. And you know, it really wouldn't bother them ordinarily, but they've just had a cranky day and, in my day, we would say, and the bus driver didn't wave to them and they got lipstick on their white glove and it was just all too much.

[00:15:18] So they thought they'd be rather bitchy and write a nasty note to you because quite frankly, it was just your wallpaper that annoyed them. And it doesn't excuse their behavior by one iota. But you know, there's this lovely thing called the snooze button and just go to that messenger or the text message or whatever and turn off their messages for eight hours, you have my full permission.

[00:15:41] But what you'll find is that you diffuse the conversation because you can just literally let them write 72 messages and maybe in their sleep they will get a little dream from me. And I will say, shhh. Calm down, my dear. Oh, you need to relax. And maybe one of their spirit guides will come in with a great big palm frond or a gigantic angelic feather, and they will fan them so they feel cooler and they don't have a hot flush or a nightmare in their sleep.

[00:16:15] And they sleep better. Really, they should go and buy some grounding sheets or do something, really put their bed on the floor, clean under the floor, get the dust out of there, because people just don't take seriously how good a sleep you really do need these humans you are. You do need to take very serious care of your sleeping routine, and if that means investing in really dark curtains, getting a diffuser, buying the good top quality sheets, moving your bedroom around, not having it facing a door so that you are in the coffin position. Well, these are all the things that people have researched in other cultures, and they may not make sense to the logical mind, but they do make sense energetically. And if it does mean that you need to do what Katische did last week.

[00:17:08] Last week or this week, we were watching her. She could not get her mind to calm down. So we made her do an experiment. 'Because when she bought her townhouse, she thought, I'm going to have the loveliest bedroom of all, I'm going to have this blue bedroom and it's going to have all these beautiful prints, and I'm going to put all my favorite pieces of artwork.

[00:17:28] And she's been collecting all these bits and pieces and putting 'em on the walls and all of the pieces that she put has a significance to her. And we said to her, well, it wasn't really me, but as I said. Sometimes these things are quite interesting, the way we were all connected. We did point out to this beautiful picture that actually we made her move, you can't see it, but above her right ear.

[00:17:54] And we said to her, that is beautiful print. And we know you bought it from the artist and you know her and you put it in a very big beautiful frame. But see all of those totems, yes, those totems, those animals, those beautiful symbols that have been painted in there, they are actively sending out energy.

[00:18:12] They're sending messages to your brain, and what that does do is that it sends out messages to all of your spiritual team and all of the other beings you have been who all get these signals that say, excuse me, did you try to contact me? And you are bombarded. Because she's a medium and a channel and intuitive.

[00:18:32] you have some of those skills too. And the very things that she's surrounded by, which she thought was calming her, are actually sending too messages, too many messages out into the world in the, what we call the "after hours". And so we made her take down every single painting and picture off her wall and her wall looks very, very bare.

[00:18:53] And we even scandalous I know you might think this, made her take her duvet off. She had a beautiful duvet that matched picture too much detail who made her sleep without the doona cover. So it's just the sheets and the doona. Just quite nude, quite naked, quite scandalous. And she has slept beautifully.

[00:19:16] She needs nude, neutral, nothing in her bedroom. Nothing. Nothing at all. And so why is that relevant? Well, because there's always gotta be a message for humanity as well as the person that's you, Olivia. I don't know what your bedroom looks like right now 'cause I'm focused on her bedroom. But anybody who's listening, what is in your bedroom?

[00:19:41] What is communicating to you at night? Keep it plain and simple. Clear and clean. Get out all of those computers. Don't work in your bedroom. Don't have a television in your bedroom. Don't read the newspaper and please don't do anything that would be considered work at nighttime before you go to bed and create your bedroom as simply a haven for rest.

[00:20:08] And what that does to the brain is it allows the brain to properly turn off. So you can properly rest no matter what age of life you are or stage of hormones. And that means that you will have a deeper rest because nobody in the spirit world is trying to contact you at night. And that allows you to step up, step out into your bathroom, and you can pick up your phone.

[00:20:32] You make Katische leave her phone in the bathroom quite a lot, and you then don't get the radiation that comes out from your phone, you don't hear the beeps, even if you have it on silent or do not disturb, and you don't fumble around the night trying to find it to see what the time is. And what it does is it means that you can't constantly be checking your messages and you can't continue the conversation in the middle of the night when somebody is angry or sad or mad, or has another thought or a recipe or pings you or sends you a TikTok video, or a reel on Instagram. It means there is silence and that silence allows you to be a better human being. And when you're a better human being, you react less.

[00:21:23] You come back to neutrality and you don't get So rude to people on the other end of the telephone, and that, my dear, is my main message for you is, although it feels very upsetting for you, there's a lot going on in the world at the moment. There is nothing here for you to worry about. There is no karmic contract, soul contract.

[00:21:46] There is nothing nasty at a deep soul level. It is simply people are not processing energy and giving themselves enough downtime at the moment. So they are collectively as well as individually massively overreacting to any and all situations in their life. So please, everybody, put your conversations on mute.

[00:22:10] Turn your Facebook Messenger on mute for eight hours, and know the world will live without you, and you can tell people that you're going to sleep and you'll talk to them tomorrow or the next day. Or you can say, "please stop. I'm feeling rather baffled by your behavior and if you could just give me a few days to calm down and collect my thoughts, I'll speak to you next Sunday". And then probably next Sunday they'll wonder what all the fuss was about.

[00:22:43] So my dear, until next time, and I hope we meet again. Do remember it was a fun lifetime in England.

[00:22:52] Olivia de Sousa: Thank you.

[00:22:53] Katische Haberfield: That was quite cute. I like that one.

[00:22:55] Olivia de Sousa: Ah, what a kind of yeah, humorous personality. Cute.

[00:23:01] Katische Haberfield: Very humorous, personality. Yes. I could see into her living room in, in the uk so that was, that was nice.

[00:23:08] Olivia de Sousa: Oh, really?

[00:23:09] Katische Haberfield: I could see how she had it set up and everything So,

[00:23:11] Olivia de Sousa: That's amazing.

[00:23:13] Katische Haberfield: yeah. So anyway, that was a nice message. and I, I think, I think what she speaks is the truth, you know, just, listen back to this message.

[00:23:24] You'll get a copy of the transcript and you'll see that, it's not as personal as it seems, it's more of a collective energy that's bothering people right now.

[00:23:35] Olivia de Sousa: I've sensed that actually then. In many places, I think, especially children, I work with children and I think, oh my gosh, I think every child in this, in this place where I work seems to be affected, and I think it must be all the energies in the world. I, I think they're picking up on it. So, yeah, I guess all the grownups too.

[00:23:54] It, it comes out and, 

[00:23:56] Katische Haberfield: Yeah, they absorb what I mummy, daddy and aunties and uncles and friends say at home and watch on the tv. So yeah, I think that's probably why she was talking about writing songs for children to understand that, you know, sometimes other kids have bad days and they say nasty things and maybe they meant it, but maybe they were just having a really bad day.

[00:24:15] Olivia de Sousa: Oh, I think the moment she's definitely meant it. I think, 

[00:24:19] yeah, Anyway. 

[00:24:21] Katische Haberfield: yeah. But the it's, it's like there's that, yeah, it's sent, so they meant it, but also, you know, sometimes it's a lot of combinations of things and just keep on being you.

[00:24:33] Olivia de Sousa: I'll have to check what it says on page 73, but I have written a mantra, of course, to help me process all of this. But yeah,

[00:24:42] Katische Haberfield: Beautiful. Okay, Olivia, well thank you so much for your time today and I appreciate you being a guest of my podcast.

[00:24:47] Olivia de Sousa: Thank you. Thank you for having me.

[00:24:49] Katische Haberfield: You're welcome.

[00:24:50] Okay, so we've got a part two to this, channeling session. Olivia just said, shall I check to see what the mantra was and if there is a page 73 and Olivia, I'll hand over to you.

[00:25:02] Olivia de Sousa: Oh, and then when I looked, I was, I, my mouth did drop open because I'm like, of all the things she could have mentioned. She'd mentioned the one that you have actually shared on social media before. Like outta the blue. You've mentioned you've shared this. And then, and then for her to mention, this mantra.

[00:25:21] So should I read it out?

[00:25:22] Katische Haberfield: read that. Yeah.

[00:25:23] Olivia de Sousa: Okay. My value is inherent. My value is immense. My value isn't limited by ceilings or offense. My value is expansive. My value is within. My value is an emanation of what has always been. My value is eternal, not based on KPIs. My value is that I exist. It's time to realize that we are all connected.

[00:25:49] I'm you and you are me. we're our own liberation, let's set each other free. We now know there's no other, no enemy to fight. Embodying our truth now is how we bring the light. Let's tune into this message. Let's send it out as one. We bring in the new earth now .Ascension has begun and so it is.

[00:26:13] Katische Haberfield: There you go.

[00:26:14] Olivia de Sousa: That's, I wasn't sure whether to mention it during the interview and then when I checked after and went, oh my God. Of all the things she, she could have mentioned. It's that one that you had shared once before, that's pretty amazing. So very cool.

[00:26:29] Katische Haberfield: And I, for the record, I did not know what was on page 73 or if there was a page 73, so that's very cool. Yeah. well there we go. So, Olivia, you can just 

[00:26:39] Olivia de Sousa: hold 

[00:26:39] Katische Haberfield: up the book so people can see it.

[00:26:40] Olivia de Sousa: Oh, okay. I've got all this stuff stuck in it. Let me just get all the paper bits out of it

[00:26:45] Katische Haberfield: There it is. The

[00:26:46] Olivia de Sousa: There we go.

[00:26:47] Katische Haberfield: the Ultimate Book of Word Spells 21 Days to Miracles, Abundance, and Higher Guidance by Olivia de Sousa. And it's on amazon.com. So sorry if that messes up your editing process, but Nope,

[00:26:59] Olivia de Sousa: it'll be fine. It.

[00:27:01] Katische Haberfield: it's good. We all right. We always like a bit of verification. It's a bit of fun. Then thank you 

[00:27:08] Olivia.

[00:27:09] Olivia de Sousa: And I'm happy to report that after our channeling session. Olivia did take time to process this, and what came through to her was a brand new mantra, which she then recorded as a song, and I'll share the link where you can listen to that song in the show notes.

[00:27:33] Katische Haberfield: If you resonated with this session and you would like to ask your own question, there are two ways that you can work with me. One, you can book a private one question session where we focus on an area of your life and bring through a direct transmission for you. Or if you're navigating something more complex and would like a deeper level of clarity.

[00:27:55] You can book a full direct transmission session where we explore your situation in more detail, channel the guidance, and provide structured next steps. All of the details are in the links below. Thank you for listening, and I'll see you in the next episode.