How A Supportive Home Holds You Through Storms

Some weeks stretch you to the edges of what you can carry. Here I open up about a rough patch at home and share how Feng Shui helped not by erasing problems, but by giving us a steadier ground to feel, process, and keep moving. 

No miracle claims here - just the lived truth that a well-aligned space can hold heavy emotion, calm a rattled nervous system, and make it easier to see options when everything feels tight.

I dig into authenticity and call out the hype that floods social media: big promises, glossy guarantees, and coaches selling results they do not live. Feng Shui is not a force field against hardship. It is a practice that shapes how energy moves so you can meet what actually happens with more resilience. 

Through Taoist acceptance—so it is—we explore practical reframes that ease pressure without bypassing pain. Think of the house as a quiet ally: clear thresholds, anchored beds, uncluttered lines, supportive lighting, and targeted remedies that turn four walls into a place that absorbs, softens, and resets.

I also look ahead to the transition into the next annual energy cycle and why those shifts can feel strange before they feel supportive. Annual energies phase in like a rainbow; the overlap is real. Updating your remedies is not about chasing luck, but syncing your home with the larger current so your focus, rest, and relationships have wind at their back. Depth over surface, steadiness over spectacle - that’s the heart of our work and the heart of this conversation.

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Lots of love,

Speak soon,

Rachael xx

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Transcript

Croaky Intro And Honest Context

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Hello, I'm Rachel. You could say I'm a modern day Feng Shui consultant here to help you transform your home into a space that truly supports and uplifts you. My passion is showing you how to work with your home to unlock its full potential. I'm here to show you how to tap into the power that your home holds and make this powerful practice simple, accessible, something everyone can use. Hello and welcome back to the Everyday Thang Shui podcast. So I have been um missing for a couple of weeks. I wasn't very well and I could barely get through a sentence without coughing. You might be able to still hear. I'm a little bit croaky, so just bear with me and I will try and edit out any coughs and splutters. But I wanted to um I wanted to do this podcast even though I really should probably take another week. Um, because I think you know we have had in our house a fairly shocking

Challenging Weeks And Sharing Authentically

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couple of weeks. It has been a really challenging time for us, and in that process, there's been a part of me that has kind of gone, oh my goodness me, I can't share this with the wider world because you know, here I am in this world of energy that I love so much and I believe in so much. Yet as a family, we have been through quite a challenging period of time. And it's felt difficult to talk about that publicly because ultimately my aim for all of you who listen or follow me on social media, or you're on my email list, or clients of mine, or you know, what however it is that that we kind of know each other and interact with each other, my hopes and dreams for all of you is that you have this beautiful life that um that flows and feels good and is positive and joyful. Now, for the last two weeks, that hasn't been my life. My life has not been positive and joyful and wonderful, it has been really, really um tricky for s for lots of different reasons. And you know, it's it's a difficult thing when you are um in a world of trying to show people that there can be another way, but your own personal experience at that point in time isn't wildly positive. So I wanted to talk about it and I wanted to be honest about it, and you know, it's something that I've spoken about before in the and I've put it on my social media before that if anybody tells you that Feng Shui can stop bad things happening in your life, then they're lying ultimately. Um, and it's you know, it's kind of a bit of a thing that I feel is just so rife at the minute um on social media, every everywhere and anywhere, because everybody is trying to sell you something. Everybody's trying to sell you something, everybody's trying to make you feel better because that makes them money, and all of this like

Calling Out Empty Promises Online

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stuff that I am seeing where people are being really frankly dishonest about, you know, you've got coaches that are selling you courses. You know, I'll talk about business coaching, for example, because obviously that's the world that I also have to kind of exist in, is um as a as a business owner, I have to you know understand things and know things, and therefore I have to pay people to learn how to do things, right? Because this isn't my business running, it's not my area of expertise. I can feel rooms and I can feel energy and I can do all of those lovely, lovely sort of woo-woo things, but when it comes to social media strategy and planning, and not planning, I mean I can plan, but business planning, that is not my zone of genius at all. So, you know, I have to learn from somebody, right? And there are so many coaches, so many things that I've come across, and it is so clear that the person who is selling the thing isn't living the thing, right? So, you know, it might be somebody who might so my Instagram feed is full of it. So it could be get a hundred thousand followers in however many days, and then you check their account and they have got, let's say, 7,000 followers, or what, you know, whatever it is. And I know that sounds, I mean, that sounds a ridiculous example, it's just the one that came into my head, but you know, it could be somebody else saying, um, run run a six-figure business, and it's quite obvious that they don't run a six-figure business, right? They just want my money, they just want to sell me something, they just want my money. So that's really grinding my gears in general at the minute, the complete and total lack of authenticity that is surrounding us, and it is oh, it is probably one of my biggest bugbears. And I try and call people out as much as I can when I think that they are being dishonest, because it is probably one of the quickest ways to really cheese me off. So I wanted to sit here and talk with you about you know what that means in terms of

What Feng Shui Can And Cannot Do

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feng shui. So we have got so many feng shui consultants, I mean, and and there are hundreds of schools, right, of feng shui. So there is always gonna be a difference in in what somebody's talking about, because there are loads of different ways of doing the same thing, and feng shui being you know the movement and like the transmuting of energy around your phone. There are lots of different ways of doing that, and there's lots of history behind each of those ways. So you're always gonna find and hear of different things, but also there are people who lie. Yeah, they're gonna lie because they want your money, and it annoys me. However, that is what I've said before. You know, if anybody tells you that Feng Shui can stop bad things happening, it's not true, it's not true. We live this most incredible human experience and this most amazing human existence, and what comes with that is emotion. We are wildly blessed to feel emotion. Now, when it is not positive emotion, obviously it doesn't necessarily feel like we are blessed, but you don't get those amazing highs of emotion that you get, the elation that you get, if you don't, you know, it has to be balanced, and that and that takes you right back to the absolute core, doesn't it, of of Feng Shui, the yin and the yang, the balance. So the light and the dark really would want to be rid of that that human existence that we live. And you know, when life is difficult, of course, it is really upsetting and hard, and we quite often will wish to be in any situation other than ours, and all of those sorts of things. But you know, when you get to the other end of the spectrum into that light, into that elation, into that joy, and all of those really positive emotions, you know, we wouldn't give that up. So the human experience and the and the this humanness of our lives is a blessing, but it just comes as a bit of a rubber a bumpy road sometimes, a bit of a you know, a rocky journey. And Feng Shui is never going to smooth that, and you wouldn't want it to, because you know, so many people let's let's let's talk about um using antidepressants, for example. Okay, so people often say about antidepressants um that that you don't get the lows, but also you don't get the highs. So you're just kind of like riding this road that is between the mountain peaks and the valleys. And if Feng Shui stopped all bad things happening, you would be doing the same thing. You'd be running this road that goes in the middle of it all. So you wouldn't get the great things, and you but you wouldn't get the bad things, right? So, you know, even if it

Letting Emotions Move Through The Home

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could, we wouldn't want it to. Let's be honest, we wouldn't want it to, because that is the humanness, that is what makes us humans, which is in itself a blessing. But where I sort of wanted to go with this today was to talk about what Feng Chuei does in those times of challenge and in those times of trickiness. So, you know, I have spent I've probably cried more tears this last two weeks than at any other period in my life. I can't think really of a time where I have been thankfully, I mean, again, it's part this is part of the power that I'm gonna talk about. I can't think of another time where I have um experienced quite so much back-to-back like beat down from life and cried the tears that I have cried. Now, what what Feng Shui has done for me in in that time, it hasn't stopped the bad things happening, it it because it can't, but what it has done is it's allowed me almost to have those feelings kind of validated, as in I have been in my home, because my home is literally my favourite place to be in the world, and I genuinely feel like it has been like sitting in. I can't I'm trying to think of a way to describe it, but you know, it's been it's almost been like sitting within a sponge. So all of this stuff has been coming out, and I feel like my home has just been like, let it out, let it out, let it all out is okay. I it's okay. I'm here with the mop, I'm here with the I'm here with the buckets, I'm here with it all. I'm just gonna absorb it and clear it and just keep bringing it because I'm just gonna take it away from you. And you know, we quite often say this as parents, don't we? Like you would give anything to take your child's pain sometimes, or you know, whatever it is, and I do feel like that is what has happened. It's almost been this allowance for this almost complete, you know, breakdown, emotional kind of breakdown of shedding so much stuff, and this is what has kind of come up over this past few weeks is the amount of stuff that I have held on to for so many years that I have not processed or had not processed. Um, and you know, when you have when you have children or when you have a busy life, or when you have circumstances whereby you just don't have a choice but to keep going, you keep on going, right? And you keep on going until you can't keep on going. And that is what has happened over the last two weeks is that my body just went absolutely not. This is not another hurdle that we are going to sort of scramble over and get past. We are, this is the line in the sand. We are done, it is all coming out, and we are talking about years and years of stuff that has just you know exited my body. And I can't really, I can't think of a way to describe it, but it's been huge, absolutely huge, and there's this, you know, um the Taoist

Taoist Outlook And The Circus Delay

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way. So in Feng Shui, we like to kind of have this Taoist outlook, which is and so it is, right? And so it is, as in it is what it is, and you can't change what it is. So let's allow that path to unfold and to lean into the idea that maybe it is unfolding in this way for a particular reason. So, you know, I'll absolutely simplify what I mean there. Yesterday evening we took our children to a local um a local circus, so it's just the most amazing. If you're local to me in the east of England, you've probably heard of it. It's the Hippodrome in Great Yarmouth. If you're ever over in East Anglia, I totally recommend going. It's just superb, it's funny, it's exciting, and it's a Christmas show. So it's part of our kind of annual Christmas tradition is that we go to the Hippodrome and we watch the Christmas show. So we were um we were going there, and we hadn't left quite on time. My autistic son was not entirely convinced about leaving the house, let's put it that way. So it took us a little longer to get out of the house than than it should have done. And when we got onto there is a road that goes between or goes into Great Yarmouth, and it's called the Accle Strait. Now, this road is just known locally for being a complete pain because it is miles and miles and miles long of single track, or not single track, but single-laned road leading into quite a busy town, and it's flanked on either side by um ditches because it goes into farmland. So it's literally like a road right through the middle of these fields. So basically, if something happens on that road, the road turns to a standstill. This is its this is its reputation. So yesterday we turn onto this road. We're, I don't know, we must have been sort of six or seven, eight miles out, and the traffic is just crawling. Now, my husband is a policeman, he is very good at driving, and he gets very frustrated if he can't get where he wants to get to. And you know, he was getting increasingly frustrated because we couldn't see what the problem was. And then as we kind of crept forward, we could see that there was a car with hazard lights, and you know, there was obviously a problem with a car, but the car was still moving, and he's getting increasingly angry, and the kids are starting to be a bit like, oh, we're gonna miss it, we're gonna miss it. And I'm like, oh my goodness. Okay, everybody, right now, what we have to the way we have to see this is maybe we're being held here for a reason. Maybe us being held behind this car that's moving really slowly on a road that is known for accidents, maybe that's a really good thing. Maybe that is the universe keeping us from something that might have happened if we were ahead of this vehicle, right? So, yes, this is taking a bit of time. Yes, we might literally miss the first five minutes, but let's think of what this might be the positive of this, what what could what could this be offering us instead of this inconvenience? And that has been how I feel that Feng Shui has helped me in these last two weeks. So, I mean, a multitude of things have a multitude of things have happened, all one on top of the other, to the point whereby anybody, anybody would just go just it's almost laughable. It's almost laughable. I mean it's not laughable because it's quite serious, but you know, when you

Silver Linings Without Bypassing Pain

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just get to the point where you go, really, come on, like what what else can happen here? Now, in so many of those circumstances, I've obviously let all of my emotions flow, and I genuinely feel like the walls of my house have like I I can't even explain to you how I what I feel like it's done. I just feel like, you know, those those um, I think you can get them more in America, where you've got like a hoover type thing that sits underneath your countertops, so or not under your countertops, but like in your kickboard. So you sweep your kitchen floor to your kickboard and then press some magical button and it like sucks it into, I don't know where, I mean, who knows where it goes. I always think they must be amazing, but you know, it just almost like just disappears into the into the kickboard, right? And I feel like that's what the the the walls have done. I feel like they've just been little vacuums, and everything that I've let out, they have just sucked in and taken and sort of freed me from. And it has allowed me the ability, and I've always been this annoying person that for other people, if you say to me, I've got this problem, for other people, I am that irritating person that can always find a silver lining. But I find it really hard, as we all do when we're applying it to our to our own selves, and that is you know, that is years worth of years worth of conditioning for me, like having to train myself sort of in my early adult years to kind of try and find the positives and things, and now I'm just that annoying person that can find silver linings almost anywhere. But when it comes to my own situations and my own circumstances, it can be quite challenging to do that or more challenging to do that. And what what I feel like has happened in these past few weeks is that obviously I've allowed all this all this stuff to shed and all of this stuff to go. And that hasn't changed the bad things that have happened. The bad things are still they're still there, they still happened, and they're still rumbling on in the background. But what I've been able to do is think, okay, so what we've we've we've had to divert, right? We've had to divert, we've had to go onto a different path. And rather than rather than leaning into oh my god, this is the end of the world, what are we gonna do? All of these things I thought I've been able to tap into the bit that says, okay, so we've got we're on a different path now. Right, but let's just see. Let's just see what this is all about. Let's just see what amazing things can come here. And there's a saying that says, if you ask God for flowers, you and He gives you rain and you get cross about that. And whether or not you believe in God,

Depth Over Surface-Level Manifesting

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that's you know, that's totally cool. But or I would say, I would say personally, you know, ask the universe for flowers and it gives you rain. And when you understand the concept of that, then you understand everything. And I feel like that has been the most poignant saying for this period that we have just been through, is that you know, you ask for all these things in life, and we might ask for more freedom, we might ask for more time with our children, um, whatever it is, and what you might be given is something that doesn't look like that. You might be given redundancy, right? And when you understand the link between the circumstances that you find yourself in and the things that you are wanting to attract into your life and what you're craving and what you're, you know, what you're trying to manifest, then that that's the power. That's the power. So for me, this whole process has just been this most beautiful reminder that there is balance in everything. The yin and the yang. And I guess my message here is for you know anybody who thinks that either Feng Choi doesn't work or um it's not working for them, or maybe you're thinking, actually, do you know what I've not got much going for me. Maybe I'll I'll do all these all these little bits and maybe I'll, you know, dabble in this, but I can't see any improvement in the existence that I've got now. You know, whatever it is, I would say just look with really open eyes, because I could have gone through this last two weeks. And come out of the other end going, nope, nothing is working in my favour. Everything is against me, everything is against us. Um, but actually, what I've been able to do is move outside of that. And I think when you are dealt a tricky time by life, the ability to be able to not get sucked under by it is invaluable. And the only reason that this period of time has not sucked me under is because I have got everything else working for me. Because I haven't been able to work for me, my own personal energy hasn't been able to keep me up, my husband's personal energy hasn't been able to keep me up, my daughter's personal energy hasn't been able to keep me up, my son that my SEN son has been incredibly difficult, and therefore that has been you know causing me to even more suck under. So all of the kind of personal energies that kind of try and keep everybody vibrant and um you know joyful and bouncy, there's been none of that. Our house has had none of that floating around it. So it has literally been on the energy of our home to keep us afloat, and

Gratitude To The Home’s Energy

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it has. And I just find it, I find it amazing because, you know, I am clearly, well and truly, in the Feng Shui contain your life camp, right? Because it because it can and it has and it does, and I see it all the time with my clients, and I've experienced it myself, and it doesn't necessarily mean, you know, going and buying a mansion, it doesn't necessarily mean going and moving countries, it doesn't necessarily mean these huge, monumental, grandiose life changes, it can mean something way more subtle and way more personal to you, and they are the things that I see, and they are the things that I like to work with people on, if I'm honest, because you know, as beautiful and wonderful as it is if Fainchue can change your life by attracting a million pounds or getting a dream home or whatever. That's surface stuff. That is surface stuff, and I was not put on this planet to deal in surface stuff. Now, don't get me wrong, beautiful homes, great, lovely car, lovely. Got no issue with it. We all want them, it would all be lovely. But I will take a hundred thousand times over a settled nervous system, feeling confident, feeling like myself, having a voice, feeling true to myself, or whatever, whatever it is your version of success and life-changing, um, you know, on a really deep level, that's that's my work. That's what I want to do with people. And I can truly, truly say that during this period of you know, particular, particularly difficult life, that that is what this has supported me with. And and I love that. I absolutely love that, and and for me, that's where its value is um tenfold, you know, is that we've come out of it being well not we're not out of it actually, but we've come through that cloud, that absolute thunder cloud, and we're still standing, you know, and we are able to build and we're able to see the light, we're able to see the opportunities, we're able to see all of the amazing positive things that I honestly don't think that we would have been able to access if it wasn't for this home working so hard for us to be able to stay standing. So, you know, this is I suppose this is my message to you. Um, just to give you some concept, really, and and and and have that deeper understanding of how this literal amazing practice can be beneficial. It's not all about manifesting these amazing things, it can be about the real subtle undertones, and this has been that an absolute, you know, show of how it works like that.

Looking Ahead To Fire Horse Energies

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Um, but this is also me speaking to my home whilst I record myself, I suppose, and giving my thanks to it for getting us through and um keeping us standing when we couldn't keep ourselves standing. So, you know, thank you, House. Very grateful. We love you very much. And come 2026, February 2026, we're gonna have a whole new set of remedies in because these guys are probably getting a bit tired. We're just coming to the end now. So, what are we? The 8th of December, so near about eight weeks probably. I need to look at the actual weeks, but it'll be eight, nine weeks um until the new energetic year. And when these energetic years change, it's not like it's a bit like a rainbow. So the the colours change, but it fades between them, and that's a bit what it's like when the energies change. It's not like suddenly somebody turns off one switch and turns on another. There will be this period of overlap. So because we're coming towards the end of this annual energy that we're in now, you're kind of going to be getting the feels of next year already coming in. Um, so I think everything's just feeling for so many people, not necessarily confused, but just a bit like, oh, don't quite know. And it obviously is December as well. So that's just crazy for everybody. Um, but I am I am so so excited to to look at all of the stuff for next year. The year next year, the 2026 year is the year of the fire horse. So I'm gonna do a whole podcast on this. I'm probably gonna do a masterclass on it. It's just I'm so excited for it, and it is such a different energy to what we are sitting in right now. As in it's I mean, it it couldn't be any different, and it's a really rare energetic year as well. So I cannot wait. In fact, my job for this week is to start looking at um everybody's remedies for next year. So if you have already had an um a home alignment with me, home energy alignment, you will be getting your um your next remedies through very, very soon. And I'm so excited because things are about to really shift and turn. Um and it's so cool. So I'm really excited for that. I'm really excited to give my home um a little bit of a boost because I feel like it's worked really, really hard for me this year. It has worked so hard, even like take this two weeks out of the equation. You know, it's worked really hard in absorbing all of that emotion and things for me. But at the beginning of the year, look how hard it worked. You know, I opened my business in January, and it's just I can the trajectory has been wild. Never in a million years did I think that I'd be sat here having a podcast and talking to you all every week and have this amazing social media and all these incredible clients, and you know,

Closing Reflections On Subtle Power

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it's it's mind-blowing to me, and it is all down to the oomph, the oomph that these remedies give our home, and therefore our home can give to us. So, you know, it's it's done a lot of work for me this year. So I am really looking forward to giving her a little bit of a spruce up come February. Um so with that, I will leave you for today because I've been I'd hope to keep this to about 20 minutes, but I've clearly been jabbering. So, yeah, this is my message to you is that you know, the power of Feng Shui isn't all in sparkly things, big houses, lottery winds, all of those kind of things. The power of Feng Shui is absolutely in the like the undertones, and that is why I love it so much. So, on that note, I'm gonna leave you, and I will absolutely be talking about the year of the fire horse very, very soon. Um, possibly next podcast, um, because it's you know, you're probably starting to see a few things about it already. So I will give you um all the info that you need um very, very soon. And until then, I hope you have a beautiful, beautiful time. I hope that your December is going as smoothly as December can go. Um, and I'll speak to you all really soon.