Stop Getting In Your Own Way

Waiting for the perfect moment can look responsible, but is often actually stuckness. I’m recording from my car in the rain while I wait for the school run, because I needed the reminder too: we do not have to have the full setup, the perfect plan, or the ideal timeline before we start moving towards what we want. If you’ve been feeling blocked, overwhelmed, or frustrated with yourself, this short pep talk will get you unstuck without pushing you into burnout. 

I talk about how self-doubt shows up for all of us, whether you’re employed, self-employed, or at home with children. I explore what’s really behind the excuses, why so many of the obstacles are fixable, and how to reframe the dream into something you can actually start. 

We also cut through the noise around manifestation. Big, flashy goals can be inspiring, but they can also make normal people feel like they will never get there. My take is simple: intention and belief matter, but action is the missing piece. Modern feng shui is not only about your home energy, it’s about aligning your environment and your choices so you take the next right step, even if it’s tiny. 

If something you want keeps hovering at the edge of your life, press play and then choose one small move you can make today. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a nudge, and leave a review so more people can find the show.

Lots of love,

Speak soon,

Rachael xx

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Transcript

Welcome And A Car Recording

SPEAKER_00 0:05

Welcome to the Everyday Feng Shui podcast. I'm Rachel and I'm a modern day Feng Shui consultant, and I'm here to show you how to use the energy of your home and your own personal energy to create a life that you absolutely love. So let's jump right in. Welcome back to the Everyday Feng Shui podcast. Today I'm recording in the car again. Now I'm recording in the car for a very good reason, and that is I've been inspired today. So I'd actually planned on recording a podcast about something completely different, but today I have been sat with a friend, and I have been inspired to just share what is ultimately going to be quite a short message today.

The Ways We Hold Back

SPEAKER_00 0:49

And that is that we are all getting in our own way and we are all holding ourselves back. And it doesn't matter what you do, it doesn't matter, you know, whether you are employed or self-employed, or you know, whether you are staying at home with your children, whatever it is that you are doing, the likelihood is that somewhere in there you have a dream, a desire, a wish, and there is a very good chance that you are not stepping into it. And there's a good chance you're not stepping into it because you're holding yourself back.

A Mum Who Creates Adventures

SPEAKER_00 1:24

And for me today, sat with my friend. I don't think she listens to this, so I'm going to I won't obviously share her name, but she is phenomenal. So she is a mum of two children, and she's also a foster mum, and she is the most incredible, she has the most incredible energy, and she is the kind of person who is like sunshine in a bottle, and she has this ability to take her kids and just go on all of these incredible adventures, like the number of times that they pop away for the weekend, like they literally do live the life of you know, of dreams, really. And it's not because it's big and it's extravagant, or you know, they're not they're not running away to the Maldives or anything like that, you know, they're staying mostly in the UK, but they go off on these incredible adventures, and her kids are going to have seen the most phenomenal things and had the most or you know, their whole childhood is going to be full of these most incredible, amazing memories. And I when I speak about it, I obviously make it sound like it's all perfect, and it's not perfect, it comes with its challenges. Ultimately, she is a mum, she's got three children, and journeys are sometimes long, and all of those sorts of things, but they have the most incredible time and they've always got something to look forward to. Now, I'm sharing this because not because I'm turning into a travel agent, but I am trying to encourage her to share this gift that she has, and it truly, truly is a gift. So she has this amazing ability to find, plan, arrange, organise all of these amazing trips to places that she's never been before. And I have I find those sorts of things really, really hard. I find the concept of that I get this wild, like overwhelm procrastination, and I just won't do anything. Overwhelm paralysis actually is what it is. And I just can't, I just can't I just can't do it. I can't think I want to go here and you know find find the information that I need. I find it so overwhelming that I never do anything about it. And we've joked for a long time that I'm going to just say to her, Oh, this is where I want to go, and she's gonna plan it out for me. And we were talking today, and she's like, Oh, just I love doing it. I love doing it, I'd love to do it for a living, I'd love to do it for other people. And I was like, Well, why not? Like, why why not? What why wouldn't you?

Why Not Share It Publicly

SPEAKER_00 4:05

What what's stopping you? And you know, then we entered into a conversation about Instagram and you know, because ultimately that's where those sorts of things, those sorts of things kind of live, if you like, although obviously we've got blogs and things like that these days, but there were so many things that she was saying to me that the reasons that she didn't feel that she could do it, and I was sat opposite her, kind of mouth on floor, jaw open wide, going, oh my god, all of these things are just so fixable. So, like, that's not a reason to not follow this as a dream. That's no reason to not do these amazing things and to be able to like live a life that you literally love. You know, you could get to the point, probably not in that long, actually, whereby these people are uh giving you free stays or paying you even to come and stay to review and to share your experience with them. That's the way that it works now. Like, what's the reason not to? And we sat for quite some time, we were talking it through, and ultimately, getting in her own way, she's getting in her own way. And if she's listening to this, I'm probably gonna get told off, but I did say this to her as well. And I've actually because I'm that really annoying friend, I then got home and went onto Instagram and put in a variety of different usernames and screenshotted them and sent the ones that were available to her, and she sent me a laughing emoji back not that long ago, and I just said, I'm not joking. So I'm that annoying friend that's really trying to push her into doing something. Not because I want her to feel uncomfortable, but because I think we we do, we get in our own way, and we can give ourselves and

Ditching Perfection To Show Up

SPEAKER_00 5:45

I am the same. Okay, so this is why I'm recording the podcast in the car, because the the next couple of weeks for me are absolutely chock a block, absolutely jam-packed, and I haven't found the time to sit at my desk and you know, record properly with you know all of the kit and caboodle that that my brain tells me that I need in order to be able to record this for you today. So actually, all I've done, because you know, I need to stop getting in my own way. So today I've picked up my my little mic and I've plugged it into my phone. I'm sat on the side of the road waiting for my children to come out of school in the rain, if you can hear that in the background. And I thought, you know, I'm not gonna get in in my own way because I spend all of my time, all of my time on social media, in my emails, in every possible way. I'm trying to share with everybody that we don't need to keep waiting, we don't need for everything to be perfect, we just need to go into life and through life in alignment with what it is that we, you know, with the life with the life that we want to be living. And I know that recording this today is taking me yet another step closer to the life that I want to be living. And, you know, this is this is her point with my friend, is that I know that she would she not only not only would she enjoy, you know, sharing her travels and sharing her incredible ability at finding all of these amazing places, but actually just think about the value that she can offer all of these people who would potentially find her on social media. I mean, myself included, I say to her all the time, I just you know, I would pay good money, I'd pay really good money to find somebody who could, if I said I want to travel to this place, I would pay good money for that person to then send me three different options, for example, of different itineraries, and I could pick the one that, you know, I felt was best suited to me. Or I would pay a reasonable amount of money if to just rinse and repeat a trip that she'd done. So she could travel and do what she wanted to do and travel the trip that she's already planned and then share that or sell that as a product, you know, and people would buy it because nobody's got time necessarily to plan their own things. And if that's not something you enjoy, or in my case, something that you find wildly overwhelming, you know, having somebody that is able to do that for you and provide that for you is incredible. So I'm gonna keep working on her, but I suppose the point of today, and it is gonna be a really short one for me today, because I hadn't planned on recording this, there is gonna be no edits, it's as it is coming through through my brain.

Finding The First Tiny Step

SPEAKER_00 8:38

My question really for you is if you were my friend and I was sat with you today and you were saying to me, you know, Rachel, this is my dream, this is what I'd love to do. What reasons would you be if I said then to you, okay, so what why not? What's stopping you? Why aren't you doing it? What would the reasons be? And are those reasons anything that you can do anything about? Now, you might say, I haven't got the money for a startup. That's you know, most people say I've got the money for a startup. And actually, not not everything that you want to do does need startup money. Is there, can you find, can you find the first tiny step? And I know that this hasn't got a great deal to do with Feng Shui, but it has got to do with, you know, this overarching message that I'm trying to spread at the minute, and that is that we are here for this finite time. And as women, especially mothers, we put ourselves at the bottom of this pile for such a long time, and sometimes it's required. You know, that's that's not me saying it's a bad thing, because I certainly have been through that period of life, and still sometimes I have to dip into it, whereby the most important thing, the most important thing is other people and everything else. And I have to come, you know, not always at the bottom, but you know, I have to come after other things. And although there might be a place for that sometimes, I think that we can sit there for too long. And moving through these kind of stages of life where you're maybe needed more, maybe needed slightly less, we don't want to hang around longer than we need to in that space of putting ourselves last, of putting ourselves at the bottom of the pile. And when we get when we get the opportunity, because I'm not suggesting that if you've got tiny, tiny children that you're ever going to be in the position right now to be able to to you know to put yourself further up, but without burning yourself out, and that is never the that's never the point. But there there will always become a point whereby there is more capacity to be able to lean into the life that you want, what it is that you want. And what I'm trying to share is how do we access the first tiny step? How do we make the first move?

Manifestation Needs Real Action

SPEAKER_00 11:01

Because you know, everything, and I shared this actually on Instagram just a couple of days ago, is that the world of manifestation is full. I mean, it's really starting to cheese me off, actually. But the world of manifestation is literally full to bursting with people telling you that you have to be punting for this big thing, you know, 10 million pounds, a six-figure month, or this, whatever it is. And I just think actually, as normal people, where and how are we more likely to make the first move? Are we more likely to make the first move when the end goal seems so unfathomably unfathomably big? Or are we likely to take the first step, the first move, make the first move, when that first goal feels more achievable. And for me, you know, it's always going to be taking the first step and you know, just keeping on edging forward rather than looking at this huge thing and thinking, Oh, I could never do that. You know, in my friend's case, start the Instagram page, don't even have to don't even have to post anything for now, just start the page. That's one scary thing done. You can set it to private and you can record yourself a few reels, which you can then completely, you know, you can delete them, they don't have to exist anywhere. Just do the scary thing, do the first thing, and just see, just see what happens. Because one thing is for sure, and that is that we can have all these goals in life and we can have all these dreams, but if we never start moving towards them, they are never gonna happen. Like that that that's just the way it is. And you can sit and you can dream about it and you can hope that it happens, but and and this is part of the issue that we've we've come to learn with our manifestation is that apparently we can sit still, dream of these things, talk about them, and they come into fruition. And I truly don't believe that. I truly believe that manifestation comes from yes, the intention, yes, the dreaming, yes, the belief, but also the action that sits behind it. And I think that's where you know we're quite often getting stuck is that we're living in this world of oh, I wish it were different, and I wish it was this, and I wish that could change, and we're doing nothing about it. So if I

The Question To Ask Yourself

SPEAKER_00 13:19

was sat, I'm going to close up now because you know, you've got 13 minutes so far of me sitting in my car listening to my unedited ramblings. But what I want to sit with today is if I was with you right now, me with my cup of tea, with my happy cup of tea mug, that's my favourite mug. If you if you watch me on Instagram, you'll know the mug I mean. And we're having a conversation, and I'm saying to you, what's the goal? What's the dream? What's the wish? And you tell me, and I say, Okay, so why not? What's stopping you? What is it that is stopping you? And can you start making that first step towards moving toward it? Can you move past that first block? And that's that's the first place you start. That is the first place you start, and you know, that's where I'm gonna leave you today because I just think it's you know, it's a really poignant sort of topic that came up for me today. And I think so many of us, and this is so my friend is this person who is the most incredible kind of vivacious personality, but then she's got this huge block, and it just made me think, you know, there's so many, so many people. And if I hadn't just done the thing, just done the scary thing, we wouldn't be sat here now. We wouldn't be sat here now, I wouldn't be talking to you now, and all of these, you know, all of these realities wouldn't be real. So that is my message for you today. Where's the block? Can you move through it? Let me know. You can

Message Me And Final Thoughts

SPEAKER_00 14:50

always comment on on the podcast, you can send me an email, all the contact details are below, and I am so excited to be heading off to manifest in Newcastle at the weekend. I may see some of you there if you are UK and you're heading that way. Um, I'm gonna share lots about it on my social media. I'm so very excited, and I will speak to you next week. Well, I might go back to my topic that I I was gonna be sharing with you as well. But it's been you know, it's been an experience sat here with my mini mic, sat in the car in the rain. So I hope that you have enjoyed just that short little tidbit from me today, and I will speak to you really, really soon.