Time, Fuel, & Money

Resentment & the Cost of Being Right

Deborah "Deb", Vassili, Karim Season 1 Episode 27

Why overexplaining drains relationships — and how to break the loop

Episode 27 explores a universal emotional tension: when someone insists on explaining something you already know. Deb, Karim, and Vassili dissect the psychology behind condescension, the insecurity underneath dominance, and the emotional cost of being “right.” With real fundraising stories, family moments, and neuroscience insights, they map how resentment forms — and how compassion can neutralize the entire loop.

This episode reframes emotional efficiency as a leadership skill.

Topics:

  • Ego, insecurity & overexplaining
  • Resentment as admiration + shame
  • Emotional efficiency & presence
  • Energy cost of dominance
  • Responding to insecurity with grounding
  • Depth vs. defensiveness in relationships
  • Protecting your time, fuel & attention