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What Lawyers Can't Fix: How Erica McCurdy Guides Families Through Conflict | Lawyers Without Billboards - Ep 40

Shewmaker & Lewis Season 1 Episode 40

In this episode of Lawyers Without Billboards, Steve, Alexa and Jimmy sit down with Erica McCurdy, a nationally recognized Master Coach, mediator, and founder of McCurdy Solutions - known for helping families, executives, and high-conflict individuals navigate some of life’s most complicated challenges.

Erica brings decades of experience working with blended families, co-parents, divorcing spouses, entrepreneurs, and professionals in crisis. Her work centers on building emotional intelligence, restoring communication, and helping people take responsibility for their part in a conflict - even when they believe the other side is the problem.

This powerful conversation pulls back the curtain on:
• What emotional intelligence really means in family conflict
• Why highly educated people still make disastrous decisions in divorce
• How Erica helps clients move from “reactive mode” to clarity
• The difference between therapy, coaching, and mediation - and when each is appropriate
• How families sabotage themselves by outsourcing emotional work to lawyers
• Raising resilient teens in a world that doesn’t teach resilience
• Co-parenting mistakes that escalate cases (and how to stop them)
• Why some people “won’t hear you” until they develop internal accountability
• The psychology behind high-conflict personalities
• The myths parents believe about custody battles
• How to prepare a child emotionally for divorce without weaponizing them
• Why doing the inner work often changes the entire legal trajectory

Erica offers practical tools, honest insights, and a refreshingly direct approach to helping families break destructive patterns - and create healthier outcomes inside and outside the courtroom.

🕒 Chapters

00:00 – Intro
00:43 – Welcoming Erica McCurdy
02:00 – What Is a Master Coach?
04:00 – The Most Common Emotional Roadblocks in Family Conflict
06:00 – High-Conflict Behaviors: Why They Happen
08:00 – Therapy vs. Coaching vs. Mediation
11:00 – When Clients Outsource Emotional Work to Lawyers
13:00 – Raising Resilient Kids in a Fragile Culture
15:00 – Coaching Teens Through Change
17:00 – Co-Parenting Mistakes & Emotional Sabotage
20:00 – Accountability: Why Some Clients Get “Stuck”
23:00 – Helping Clients Create a New Narrative
26:00 – What to Do When Only One Parent Will Do the Work
29:00 – How Erica Prepares Families for Mediation
32:00 – The Surprising Role of Self-Awareness in Custody Outcomes
35:00 – What Erica Wishes Every Parent Knew Before Divorce
38:00 – Closing Insights

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🎼 Music by Ben Hernandez at Dragonsong Productions
 🎥 Produced by: Bleeding Edge, Inc.
🎬 Audio & Video Production: Rob Burgner
📍 Recorded at: Shewmaker & Lewis, Atlanta, GA