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Your Paddle’s Cooked & So Is Your Brain | Brenda Lopez w/ Cash Queens Pickleball

Half Insight, Half Nonsense - All Entertainment Season 1 Episode 25

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Plus, Brenda Lopez from Cash Queens Pickleball breaks down how she’s turning clinics into cash games and building a crown-worthy community for women who came to compete.

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Speaker 2 (00:00.606)
I wanted to bring something up. has just taken over our lives and everything we do. And that's short form videos like

I feel like I need people in short, like a human interaction in short.

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Dinker do's, dinker don'ts, skinnamorinka dinks. It's a special treat for me today. Continuing our segment of getting to know one another, I've got my spouse on the hot seat today for This or That. We're taking you deeper into the DNA of that big dink energy podcast with the one and only Stephanie. We're going to do a little this or that with her, but first let's give you the bio. She's a powerhouse of purpose, passion, and pickleball.

in all things alliteration. She's the owner of Gym Kicks, where she spent over two decades turning cartwheels into confidence and building a community where kids and their families learn to leap, tumble, and thrive. She's an author, a business consultant, and the creative mind behind the booty fitness workout. You got to see it to believe it. Helping women everywhere flex their muscles and their mindsets, coming soon to a pickleball court near you. But Stephanie isn't just about movement. She's about momentum. She's a mom of two.

Speaker 2 (02:52.84)
wife of one, that's me, and a dog mom. Whether she's unschooling her kids, dreaming up new ways to empower her community, or holding down that big 2.69 duper, she brings a contagious energy and a belief that life's biggest lessons are found outside the classroom.

That was nice. Steph. Two decades. It's actually been a quarter of a century. Oof.

Yeah, we're seeing kids come back with their kids. kids. Yes, yes, yes.

It's incredible, but it's also like a damn.

yeah, it's, I gotta keep dying my hair. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. All right. Well, let's get into it. I know paddle princess has some this or that's for you, but I'm going to kick it off the way we did the last one. Dogs or cats? Dogs. I know your dog all day long. To dogs? To cats. To me.

Speaker 1 (03:28.398)
That's why I do.

Speaker 1 (03:41.792)
Allergy.

Yes.

Not to work. Alright, what do got, Paddle Princess?

Plan everything or go with the flow.

Plan everything. Although I've been better at going with the flow. And plan on the way. Yes. It's very difficult just to do for me.

Speaker 4 (03:56.494)
I agree.

Speaker 2 (04:02.478)
gosh, yes, don't even get me started on that. All right, purpose-driven work or creative freedom? Which one keeps you up at night?

Purpose. Purpose-driven work.

Mm-hmm. Gotta always be doing something. Gotta be starting something.

Don't make it sound like a bat. Got to be starting? Okay.

Okay, hattle princess.

Speaker 1 (04:21.96)
spend, strategically and save all the time.

Building community or fostering individuality. Yeah, that's what we're doing here for sure.

Building community. For sure.

be stuck in a group chat forever or get 50 spam calls a day.

my God, the spam calls. It's like, I just got one right before we did this and it was like, your tolls need to be paid. I'm like, I don't think so at gmail.com. Right. You're not, I hate spam. So group chat all day. Okay. Catch up.

Speaker 2 (04:56.312)
Ketchup or mustard? Not the mustard.

How much tar do you want, guy?

You can always use a little tart on the dog. What do got?

work to live or live to work.

work to live.

Speaker 2 (05:10.67)
Teaching by example or teaching by instruction?

Teaching by instruction, I'm not that great of an example. I can dish it out though. There you go.

Yeah, yeah, yeah

Eat a raw onion like an apple or drink a bottle of hot sauce.

lord.

Speaker 1 (05:28.398)
I don't like hot sauce. Or onions. I like onions, but not like that. raw onions. I would say drink the hot sauce. Ooh. Because I could just chase it with something. Like uplift coffee or something.

Yeah, growth or helping others grow?

I think you need both. I think you need to personally work on your own development before you start to help others, the whole, you know, fill your own cup.

rewind button on life or a pause button.

Ooh, pause. Because even though I'd like to rewind and take some things back, I know that they've helped me get here. But I'd love to pause, especially with my kids. It seems like they're growing up really fast. So I would have loved to pause.

Speaker 2 (06:12.396)
Yeah. like that. Vulnerability or resilience.

vulnerability is difficult for me. So I would probably choose vulnerability because I need to, I need to work on that.

close friends or 50 acquaintances.

five close friends. Hell, two close friends.

Let's see, the GPS that you trust following your heart or your mind?

Speaker 1 (06:35.618)
Hmm, I would say your heart.

Listen to your heart

Never mind, I'm gonna change it. That was really good, thank Because I think the mind can definitely play tricks on you. Okay.

Okay, all right, all right.

Be the smartest person in the room or the funniest.

Speaker 1 (06:53.89)
Well, I'm usually the funniest, not the smartest. I'm not. So I think if you are in a room and you're the smartest person, then you're actually the dumbest. You're in the wrong room. You're in the wrong room. That's what they say. Yeah. So I definitely don't ever want to be the smartest in the room, but I definitely like to laugh a lot. And so I'd like to be, you know, the one that lightens it up.

True, you're always the smartest.

Speaker 2 (07:14.222)
Learning from children or learning from your elders? Which one has better snacks?

I think children teach you without even trying to teach you. I mean, I like to let them lead the way. You know what I mean? Yeah.

I've heard they're our future.

Yes, yes, they, yes. I get that. Thank you. Thank you for playing along with that.

I feel like kids teach you without even trying to teach you and I think your elders try too hard to teach you. And like children, you can learn so much just by watching how they interact with one another and just their environment. And it kind of happens naturally where I think like elders try to teach you their ways and it has to be their way. And so I don't think you're really learning, you're just...

Speaker 1 (08:02.668)
regurgitating whatever they're trying to tell you. So kids for sure. And we learn a lot at the gym from kids.

Yeah.

We learned a lot in our house from our kids.

Like sometimes I have to stop and be like, that was okay. I'm sorry. Like you were right. And I think like when we grew up, we didn't have that. Like you didn't say like, ma'am, can you stop please? Cause you're kind of treating me poorly. Our kids will say, you know, that was kind of rude mom. And I have to stop and say, yeah, you're kind of right. Let me take that back. know, so.

Yeah, I learned to be a better dad.

Speaker 2 (08:33.432)
Yeah, the T-L-D-R. When we're trying to talk to them about something they messed up.

They're like TLDR that please. least you're gonna listen. like that. We just need to cut it short.

Yeah, why do I have to go on 15 minutes about something that you screwed up?

That's how our parents did. that's right. No soap boxes for us. Yeah.

Friends you can laugh with or friends you can cry with.

Speaker 1 (08:55.219)
laugh. I ain't trying to cry. I avoid all those type of movies and I swipe past all that stuff on social. I can't go there. I don't watch that stuff.

Alright, let me do the last one. Leaving a legacy or living fully in the moment?

deep side. I want to live in the moment so that my kids can leave a legacy. Because if I live in the moment with them, then they're going to have more of a legacy to live.

Yeah, well, I think when you do choose to live in the moment, you are naturally gonna leave a legacy in your wake. Agreed. Awesome. Well, tell us anything that resonated with you or anything you want to know about Stephanie, jump into the bdepodcast.com or up at the top of the show notes, you can click on there. We also want to take your fan mail. We love fan mail. It encourages us to keep doing this foolish thing that we do. If we don't get any fan mail, we're gonna stop. No, not really.

Agreed.

Speaker 1 (09:47.118)
So...

Speaker 2 (09:51.246)
We bought all the equipment. We're going to keep on going. We're not renting anymore. We own all this. So tell us in the comments, hit us up, drop us some fan mail.

We rent to own.

Speaker 1 (10:05.88)
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Dear Dink Diary. Just a tip. So hey, how about you stop cooking your paddle? Y'all know about this? Stop cooking your paddle. And I don't feel like it's just for us here in Texas. We got people in Arizona and Florida too. Never leave your pickleball paddle in a sweltering car. High heat can damage the glue, plastic, and tape, ruining your paddle's performance. Now, if you got those wooden paddles from Walmart,

Just tune out right now. Why it's bad. Car interiors can hit 130 to 170 degrees Fahrenheit. Listen to me, you British people, it's Fahrenheit. Softening adhesives and causing delamination. That's layer separating. Warping plastic cores, edge guards and making grip and edge tape peel or turn gummy. Who doesn't like a gummy grip? The impact, well, the damaged paddle can lose power, spin and control all things you do want in pickleball.

with dead spots or a tacky grip affecting play. Store your paddle in a cool, dry place, ideally in an ear print cover or bag, to protect it from heat and UV damage. Check for warping, peeling tape, or hollow sounds to catch issues early. And obviously, this also goes for your balls. Keep them out of direct sunlight and away from extreme temperatures. I had to learn that the hard way.

Speaker 1 (12:01.518)
Hey, I guess that puts a whole new meaning on letter cook.

that are cooked.

Speaker 2 (12:12.238)
It's time for Pickle Pals!

Speaker 2 (12:18.478)
Today we're bringing out the queen, Brenda Lopez, the unstoppable force behind Cash Queen's Pickleball. She's the mom, coach, and community builder who's turned women's clinic days into moneyball royalty. She crafts electric energy, teaches savage paddle moves, and somehow squeezes in motherhood, ew, and content and boss life. Let's find out what it really takes to be a pickleball queen on and off the court. Brenda, thanks so much for being here on the Big Dink Energy podcast.

I'm happy to be here. Those are having me.

Yeah, so we we've known you for a little while we didn't know that we knew you we ran into you at one of the MLP events in Austin and it was instant connection obviously and it's just like anything else in pickleball really, you know, you you meet those people you've been watching online or seeing on Instagram and you're like, yeah This is a person I love to hang out with and we found that to be true right away So I got to ask and everybody's gonna want to know this what tell us about what cash Queens is and then kind of what? Prompted you to start it

So Cash Queens is a female moneyball. It's women-only games. We try to keep them fun, friendly, really competitive, really engaging, fast-paced at times where women can attend and play affordably and still bring home a cash prize. So we want the competition. We want the affordability. We want the availability for women, but with all of the cool tournament energy that you get.

Yeah, I love that. And you do bring a ton of energy to it. Is there anything you can point to that is just like, yeah, this is why we have the energy, other than obviously just being women out there crushing it. Is there anything that you point to that's like, yeah, this is why we have the energy we have?

Speaker 3 (13:59.768)
think it's honestly just really great to have a space where it's just women. And not that we don't like the boys, but boys always bring a different kind of energy. know, women are able to kind of let go and be aggressive and know that we're all trying our best. We're trying our hardest.

want to compete at the highest level we can. And we want to do so knowing that the other women that are there are not only there to win, but they want the best for us too. Like I always joke around and say, it's so hard for me to watch these events because all of the women competing are like my friends. So I want them all to win. It is like the most anxiety inducing thing to stand there. feel like a mama hen watching all of her little babies. I think that's what it is.

Yeah, that's awesome. Yeah, and that's so great. It is that space because like you said, the boys, I mean, you get a couple different types out there, smashing it and driving it and let's go hard and let's crush it every single shot. And so is, I like it because it is a space where everybody can grow within that space. I love how you bring that to the courts.

Is there ever a moment from one of the tournaments or any of the clinics that still kind of gives you goosebumps or makes you laugh out loud?

There's a lot but it's mostly honestly just the energy, you know and how grateful women are to be there like at the end or the during or at the beginning of a tournament when women come up to me and like, you know I just I'm so appreciative that you created this space for us and it's it's so different from what we're used to that just it makes me tear up honestly. Yeah, it's so important that

Speaker 3 (15:46.828)
We all have a place where we can just be our best selves and be accepted.

Yeah, I love that. It's so empowering and I know you probably get that every single tournament. There's that one person who just comes up and just lets you know that everything you do is certainly worth it, I'm sure. Yeah. So what would you say is something that people totally, totally misunderstand or get wrong about women's only pickleball events?

I think that they think that women don't compete. And I hear this all the time. It's like, well, you know, we don't do women only brackets because women don't compete or we can't do this because women just don't want to compete in the same way men do. And that is definitely not true. Women do want to compete, but we need a little bit of a different environment for that to happen or timeframes for that to happen. Right? Like I know that if I'm going to do a tournament on the weekend and there's a

female doubles, mixed doubles, and singles that I have to choose one of those, right? I can't do all three of them. And a lot of men will do all three of them. And that's not to say that they have more time than a woman, but I have a lot of guilt. I know I can do one of those, especially when they're like $80, $90, $100 to enter.

So.

Speaker 3 (17:04.546)
You know, so I have to choose, you know, because otherwise I have to be with the kids. I've got to get all the stuff done in the house and whether you have kids or not. Women just have different obligations and different priorities with what they want to do with their time. And so I try to make it attainable, easy, accessible so we can get in and get out fast paced, three hours, eight teams. I know that they're going to start at nine and end in three hours. Right.

Sometimes the four O's can go a little longer, but never so long where you're just waiting for other brackets and other play. And you know, it's really difficult when you go into a tournament and I'll leave the house and my husband's like, when are you gonna be back? And I'm like, maybe three hours and I'm back five hours.

Like time frame and predictability. Like I want to know that I'm going to be home by 12 or 11. Yeah.

Yeah, that's right. You keep the pace going. People are in and out, like you said. And it's so much fun when it's paced like that and people aren't just sitting around, especially here in the great United States of Texas. You don't want to be in an outdoor court sitting around too much in the summertime.

No. Although I don't work in outdoor courts much.

Speaker 2 (18:19.564)
my gosh, the MOP event was, it was hot. I'm glad we were moving around quite a bit. was awesome. it was, even no matter where you were in the shade or whatever, it was hot. It was crazy. So what is like, what's the first time when you started doing this where it clicked, where you're like, okay, number one, I'm good at this. And number two, this is really a space that is going to take off.

So I started building communities in Pickleball before it was just women. I, within those communities, I would find women who sought me out looking for female games, right? And so I created then, so I have a WhatsApp group. within that WhatsApp group, I created a women's area, like a community space for them. And from there it was, okay, well, let's start some games. Let's do some games. Let's create some games.

I wanted to play those games too. I would look around and see the money balls and I was like, I want to do that. I want to play in it. So my first one was just, I was in it. I was one of the eight teams with my partner. That was a bit of a nightmare. You cannot run a tournament and be in the tournament at the same time. was a valuable lesson.

I was like, try to play and people are, what chord am I going on next? It was a bit of a bust, but it was so much fun and everyone still had so much fun. you know, because it's small, because it's boutique style, because it's just the 16 women there and with their partners rooting them on and supporting them, it's been, it's always been a really good vibe. Everyone's very forgiving. You know, if I make a mistake, they're like,

or like my spreadsheet goes out, someone is jumping in to help me, you know, it's just such a community. So it was, definitely after that first event, I knew that this was gonna be a success and it has been.

Speaker 2 (20:08.578)
Yeah, no kidding. It is blown up. So, you know, all the things you do, you you talk about a husband and kids and all that kind of stuff. What's the mom hack that, you know, that you would share with the moms out there that are struggling maybe to get to the tournaments or maybe to just get in a couple games of pickleball on the side? Is there a mom hack you found where it's like, yeah, this definitely works. This is what helps me.

You know, there is no mom hack, honestly. You just have to do what you have to do. Everyone says, like, how do you do it all? It's like, I don't know. Some things are falling by the wayside sometimes. I try my hardest. I play in the mornings because that's what works for me. I'm lucky to be a stay-at-home mom. So I get to send my kids off to camp or to school. And then I get to go and play for two hours and then come home and take care of all of the other things that I need to take care of.

But this doesn't leave a lot of room for evenings. Evenings are very difficult for me to participate in any sort of open plays and stuff like that. So maybe it works the opposite, right? Maybe you come home, you get everything sorted and you're like, bye honey, I gotta go. Hours, right? Just get that open play. Yeah. You really do. You have to make time for your...

We're take that meat

Speaker 2 (21:20.6)
Yeah, I think the mom hack is if you want an easy lifestyle and come and go as you please, then the mom hack is to be a dad. So what is the, what's the next wildest dream you'd love to make happen with cash queens or anything else within the pickleball space?

Well said.

Speaker 3 (21:37.762)
You know, I would love to see cash queens branch out outside of Texas. I'd love to see some leagues get going. Yeah, I just want to watch it grow. I want to see more women supporting women, more women flourishing, more women being encouraged to go out and compete, not having to take, you know, 10 % of the court. Sharing the court, playing on the left side and the right side, you know, being able to do all the things.

Right?

Right

Speaker 2 (22:07.444)
Just show up like a big brand that people recognize.

be just amazing. Just show up like a boss. Show up like a queen.

That's right. Hey, get those crowns out. know, walk on the court like royalty, right?

Alright, so who's gonna win the cash, sash and crown?

That's awesome. Anybody ever shown up to one of your events and you're like, holy crap, this person is amazing. Like where'd you come from kind of thing?

Speaker 3 (22:31.758)
So honestly, it's been wonderful. Within all of our events, like right now we have the Ranchers is our Texas team, right? The Ranchers, that's our MLP. So we've had in the Duper 16, we've had one of the Cash Queens winners is now representing the Ranchers in the Duper 16. We've had women participate that are in, well, so Ariana Cobos is in the Duper 16.

Yeah, that's right. Ranchers. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (23:00.398)
We have Kayla Santana, who's in Duper 18, she's the cash queen. We have Ameliece, who is in Duper 20, who's the cash queen. We've had some of the pros come out to watch the games, because their girlfriends were competing. It's been amazing. I'm so proud to know that all of these badass women are out there competing, and they're competing in cash queens.

That's so awesome. Especially when they bring, you know, not that Cash Queens doesn't have notoriety and stuff, but it does bring a different level to it. And it is going to help you achieve that dream of just being kind of like a nationwide brand that dominates courts everywhere they go. So pregame ritual, are you up at 5 a.m. running around trying to get everything organized or you're like a hit the snooze 18 times and grab coffee on the way out the door.

I am 100 % up and I get the kids ready, get all of the stuff, the breakfast. My daughter likes to have her little coffee in the morning. So I get that set out if she's not awake yet. All of the little post-its, okay, your coffee's in the fridge, breakfast is here, dah, dah, dah, dah. I'm out. Luckily, my husband works from home, so there's always someone with them. And when he's traveling, then we just adjust things a bit.

Yeah, what do you hope like every woman takes away from one of your events? What do you what do you hope every woman walks away feeling or?

I want women to walk away feeling like they are a competitor, that they're powerful, that they're good at whatever they put their mind to. There have been some events where maybe a woman over competed or over indexed on life. Well, maybe she's a 3.0 and she was competing in 3.5 or 3.5 competing in a 4.0. you walk away and you're like, gosh darn it, I just got slaughtered. But that should not.

Speaker 2 (24:37.378)
Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3 (24:51.262)
deter you from trying again. Like maybe we just move down a little bit and then we work our butts off to get to the next level. Or we take a clinic and see where we went wrong, you know? And I think that that's the other thing that's really great. It's just women are so supportive of each other and not in a way like, you know, on the court side, you know, mid game. I don't want to catch a lesson from my partner. Right. But perhaps at the end, it's like, you know what?

Let's drill, let's get together. Do you know what I think you could do differently? And it comes from such a positive, reinforcing place that it's hard to take negatively. And I really love that. Everyone is so uplifting of each other. It really helps everyone's game. watching women empower themselves and empower each other has just been one of the most amazing things for me.

Yeah, it's so much different than the man because men are just like, that sucked, dude, you suck, you got body bagged. And then we just walk away. You know, there's no, there's not a lot of uplifting. There's, you know, there's a lot of coaching from the side that is like, dude, yeah.

Yeah, yeah, a lot of eye rolling and big size. Yeah, I've been a part of that.

Yeah, let's do a little this or that things that you know, it's either yes or no. Let's start glitzy paddle or neon socks. see paddle. All right. Rise and shine drills or late night rally.

Speaker 3 (26:13.134)
Rise and shine drills always for life.

Yeah, dink or drive.

think there's a time and a place for both. Do I have to choose? I don't know. I like a body bath.

Do 50-50 if you want to. Crocs on the court. Bagel or Powerbar?

Well, I'm from New York, so I'm going to go bagel all the way.

Speaker 2 (26:35.83)
Alright, with the schmear on it. Tournament music, is it 80s jams or 90s hip hop?

more

Speaker 3 (26:42.227)
man, I don't know, that's a hard one. I'm gonna go with 80s Jams.

Yeah, okay good. Yeah, your Gen X are like me, I bet. Yes. All pink or camo and chaos?

all pink kind of girl you can see it here yeah cash queens

All right. right. Yeah. Fancy paddle bag or free grocery tote bag.

I'm gonna go with free grocery tote bags. Just make it work. Yeah, like them both, but there's a time and a place. You can't always have that fancy bag. That's right. But don't let that stop you from coming and playing.

Speaker 2 (27:07.607)
Alright, care-

Speaker 2 (27:19.211)
And the hardest question, hosting or playing?

That is such a hard question. I get so much out of hosting, but I also love playing. But I'm going to go with hosting. I really love watching the games and it gets me in such a hype place that it makes me want to compete better and makes me want to do more on the court.

Yeah, yeah, that's awesome. Well, Brenda, thanks so much for being on with us. Where can everybody find Cash Queens and find you to get more information?

So on Instagram, we're at CashQueensPB, cashqueenspickleball.com. If you're looking to find out more and want to email me directly, brenda at cashqueenspickleball.com. I'm based out of Eastside Paddle Club down on Springdale. It's a great place to be and we host most of our tournaments out of there. So you'll see me there. You'll see me playing there and hosting there.

Everybody go find Brenda, especially if you're a woman. If you're a guy and you want to lurk, that's kind of weird, but Cash Queens is out there making sure you get some money for playing. So go find Cash Queens on Instagram and hook up with Brenda and you can get notified of when she's going to have tournaments. Yes. Thanks again, Brenda, for being on.

Speaker 3 (28:37.358)
Thank you for having me. It's been an absolute pleasure.

Speaker 4 (28:46.51)
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Yeah, I do want to say we have a ton of sponsors. I'm so, so thankful to all our sponsors. I am too. behind us on this. So Dink or Destroy, that's something we dink it, we send it over the net, it's a thumbs up. Or destroy, not for us, we destroy it, just like it says. So I wanted to bring something up for us to think about. And it is permeated, it has just infiltrated, it has just taken over our lives and everything we do. And that's short form videos, like YouTube shorts.

slowly creeped in without anybody knowing. Yeah. Reels.

Instagram has shorts, Reels. YouTube shorts. Yeah. TikTok started as shorts, but now they have longs.

Speaker 1 (29:49.038)
Twitter I think now too right? Sorry, yeah.

Yeah. yeah.

Every social media has some form of short form video.

And all of like the kids movies and whatever, know, Cocoa Mellon and all that kind of stuff is all very short clips, one to three seconds.

Yeah, so I don't know, for me, I gotta be in the middle of the court on this, think, because I like them when I'm trying to get information about something, right? It's not doom scrolling, it's I went to look for something, there's a short about that. Can I get in and out, quick pickleball wisdom kind of thing, and get on with my day, get in, get out, get on with my day by watching a short? Like I wanted to know, I'm connecting this electrical thing this way, has anybody else connected this this way before, is it right?

Speaker 2 (30:32.451)
you gave me 30 seconds of that and it told me everything I needed to know? Great.

That's what I like about it. Like I cannot stand, like I just get to the damn point. I feel like I need people in short, like a human interaction in short. maybe that's not short people. But I feel like sometimes when I'm talking to someone, I just want to go and swipe. Because I'm like, my gosh, you're just going way too long. But I feel like it's definitely.

short people.

Speaker 1 (31:01.934)
It's changed me because I tried, here's a little story. I tried to get my kids to watch Murder She Wrote because it used to be my favorite show growing up. We did okay I love that show. But even myself, I was like- The opening. Yes.

The opening is like five minutes. Get a motorized bike, Jessica. Why are you pedaling so far? You go from New York to Maine?

Why? Why, why? It is so long. And the kids were like, is it going to start yet? And I'm like, I don't know. my gosh. Did I used to watch this? We didn't have fast forward or anything like that. So we had to watch. then when it started, I was like, get to the point.

Yeah

I also think back then we didn't have as many shows or movies so easily accessible. So when we sat down to watch a show, it was exciting. We were, you the long intro was part of the... Yes, you experienced that because you didn't get to watch that as often.

Speaker 1 (31:54.616)
experience.

Speaker 2 (31:59.374)
Well, yeah, they set it up. mean, the TV network set up an intro for you. It introduced all the characters. Everywhere you look. I don't know. Go turn. Whatever. But you got introduced to the characters and they, know, the theme song. You recognize that right away. Like if you were in the kitchen and the theme song came on, you better get your butt moving to wherever the TV is. Yeah. Because you're not pausing it. That's for sure.

Etern

Speaker 1 (32:24.654)
But you had about six and a half minutes because I swear that's how long it was so long

Jessica, yes. Jessica was a 45 minute show and 20 minutes of murder mystery.

But it was always the only, like, other person in the show. Like, I was like, oh, it's like Scooby-Doo. It's like, okay, it's the librarian, we all know. And did anybody ever think, like, I don't want to be her nephew or I don't want to go anywhere she goes because somebody is always dying? Anyways, side barks. But I do feel like it has changed our attention span. It's definitely changing kids' attention span. But I can't...

Probably another episode.

Speaker 1 (33:02.382)
Destroy it because I want it in real life.

Yeah, well, so, you know, that does, like you said, like we said in the last episode, the TLDR, it was too long, didn't read, right? and we, but we're trying to do that with our life now. So I don't know if we're experiencing things enough either. Yeah, it's If we're just trying to rush through things. A barger, we say. A barger, yeah.

I've always been a rusher. They call me the barge. I guess there's just moments. There's different times. You know what doesn't, like what I really want to enjoy and goes too fast is the tanning bed. I wish that was 45 minutes. That was Murder She Wrote's intro. But no, I go in there, I lay down and all of a sudden I almost doze off.

Because it's not a size thing, it's just.

Speaker 2 (33:43.182)
That's my 20 minutes.

Speaker 1 (33:51.552)
and then damn, it's time to get out. Yeah, so it's like, there are some things in life I want to drag out, but it's definitely not, you know, how to make spaghetti sauce from scratch. me just four and a half seconds of that. I get it. Yeah, so I'm not a destroy because I like it in some circumstances. I'm a dink for it.

And it's shocking too.

Speaker 2 (34:05.368)
Yeah. Give me what I need.

Speaker 2 (34:12.12)
So say a dink.

I think I'm.

I'm a dink as well, because I see the benefits of it. I found myself, the other day I was trying to look up how to do something and I was on TikTok and I couldn't find it on TikTok, so I went to YouTube and the YouTube video was so long that I just kept scrolling through it. was like, get, how do I do this? That's all I need to know. I think it's good for that, but I also do see the bad sides of it to where, like last night we were sitting on the back porch and I look over.

and three out of the six people are on their phones scrolling. I'm like, can you put your phones down? It's like they couldn't pay attention to what was going on around them. They had to have something to get their brains working. To fill in that gap. to get that little dopamine hit.

I don't like that.

Speaker 1 (34:51.234)
taking

Speaker 1 (34:58.894)
I want to go.

I almost want to go destroy on this because I think it is ruining the minds of at least kids. mean, my generation, we're already ruined by being latchkey kids. But I do see the benefits of it when I'm using it. And man, couldn't I use it for people who are like, oh, to make a long story short, too late for that, buddy. I'm going to be a dink. I'm going be a dink. I like it. I need it sometimes.

You also need to learn how to be bored. In moderate, need to learn how to be bored and not have something. And so what I've tried to do is when I go to like doctor's appointments or, you know, waiting to get my blood work, I don't look at my phone. I just put it away and I just sit there and I look at people and they're all on their phones. And so that's just something I try to do so that I'm not constantly trying to just fill that void. I don't feel bougie. I think people are like, she must have.

Do you feel bougie when you do that?

Speaker 2 (35:51.874)
Hey, I'm not on my phone.

It's just those small moments. Like I'm trying to retrain myself that you don't always have to have something because I've noticed myself in two minutes of having to wait in a grocery line. on my phone. I'm like, what the hell? Why can't you just sit here and count all the candy bars that you can eat?

Yeah, I mean, I'm okay at it with the boredom thing because I grew up with presents like a stick and a hoop or a and a cup or something like that.

Those things are just not fulfilling enough anymore. So they're getting overstimulated.

I was watching a movie the other day and I couldn't focus just on the movie. I pulled my phone out and started scrolling and I was like, am no, I don't need to have two different forms of stimulation here. I only need to focus on the movie. I had to intentionally go put my phone in the other room so that I could watch the movie and actually listen to it.

Speaker 2 (36:43.47)
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Speaker 2 (37:49.71)
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Wow, well I got something too.

Right, well it's yours. Let's just dismiss mine, I mean that's big news. News in, bring it.

This big news, I don't know. Bring it. We'll have to just see, because everything, know, I mean, even cheerleading hasn't made its way there. Is that a sport? Again. it. But I mean, it's getting there.

Speaker 2 (39:49.112)
is it? Right on the sidelines. Pick a ball. Give me a P. Give me a C-K-L-E. Nice. Thanks for picking up on that. Go with your news.

We should have cheerleaders for pickleball. Hell yes, I could do... That's too long.

Haha!

Speaker 4 (40:04.583)
my god.

my news is bananas are berries, but strawberries are not. Did you know that?

Yeah, because the definition is that it's a fruit that has its seeds on the inside that you eat. The plant's fruit, yeah.

Botanically speak, a berry must come from a single flower with one ovary and have several seeds. Bananas fit this definition, but strawberries do not because their seeds are on the outside. Gross. Did you know that cucumbers, pumpkins, and watermelons are berries too? Eggplants and avocados are berries too. Single flower. Apples and pears are not berries. No. They're called pomies.

single flower.

Speaker 4 (40:42.754)
because they don't come from a single flower?

Pomeys? Pomeys. They develop from more than just the ovary, so they don't qualify as a true berry. The part we eat is mostly fleshy floral tissue. That doesn't sound... I don't like when you say it like that. Fleshy floral tissue.

Yeah. up your petals for me. And? Let me see your stamen. Convert.

Too far. Convert it.

There we go.

Speaker 2 (41:15.662)
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