S1E3: Surrendering to the Divine: The Benefit of Going With God

In this episode, we explore the profound question of why we attempt to navigate life's challenges alone when God's divine guidance is constantly available to us and the benefit, necessity, of surrendering to the Divine. 

We'll explore how our resistance to surrendering to a higher power often stems from protective psychological patterns that may no longer serve us. It's in compassionately inquiring within ourselves that can help create real change in our lives and in our relationship with God.  

In this episode, we'll look at:

• The concept of "effortless effort" emerges when we allow guidance to flow through us from a greater source
• Internal parts that try to protect us often operate from outdated perspectives formed years ago
• Every internal part has a benevolent intention even when its actions may be dysfunctional
• Surrendering to divine guidance doesn't mean life becomes easy, but it can become more aligned
• Compassionate self-inquiry allows us to understand our resistance without shame or judgment
• Understanding why we resist our connection to Source gives us greater agency to consciously connect with Source

If you're interested in Internal Family Systems, or IFS, a powerful therapy model by Dr. Richard Schwartz, go to https://ifs-institute.com/ for more info and to find an IFS therapist in your area.

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Transcript

Why Do Life Alone?

Sarah Haykel 0:05

Hi and thanks for joining me on Welcoming God. The big question for today why would I ever want to do this life on my own, without the help of the one true source? A one true source? Why would I try to do this on my own? What is that even all about?

Effortless Effort with Divine Guidance

Sarah Haykel 0:40

I remember last year I was going through something, a big revelation and healing personally about some things that had to do with the long ago past and finding forgiveness in myself, towards myself for what happened, what I did, what I chose. And it was a hard moment to reckon with and something that I've been dealing with for years, trying to heal and learn from, understand, clear out of my system, etc. And I remember talking to my cousin and I said you know, god is just desperately trying to help me and I know I mentioned this on another episode God wants my best, god wants to make this as effortless and easy as possible. Does that mean it's always going to be easy? No, does that mean it's always going to be easy? No, does that mean it's always going to be effortless? No, but a dear, friendly neighbor of mine in buffalo once said to me effortless effort. And that has stayed with me that yes, we are efforting and the efforting is effortless because it's coming through us from a source greater than ourselves. So I want to start the conversation off with that inquiry what would make me ever want to do this life on my own and feel like I had to do it on my own? I have to be on my own by myself, doing this alone. Big question mark there. So if you'd like to take a moment to pause the podcast and just sit with this question or these questions for a few minutes, maybe even journal about them, or you could take some time after listening to inquire within, where do I see that I am trying to do this on my own and I am ignoring or avoiding or betraying or rebelling against the guidance, that true guidance that I'm receiving from the inside that's telling me nope, don't go there. Yes, do this. How am I ignoring that and why? What's the big why for that? Hey, sarah here, if you're enjoying listening to this podcast, please click subscribe.

Inner Parts and Their Protection Mechanisms

Sarah Haykel 3:35

It helps more people find and benefit from this show. Thanks so much and let's get right back into it. You know I find, especially as a life coach and years on a personal growth journey, that the more I can inquire within and understand why parts of me show up in the ways that they do. They all have a benevolent reason for showing up in the ways that they show up. I remember Dr Richard Schwartz from Internal Family Systems talking about how every part really has a good intention. It's trying to help us in some way and it's usually trying to protect us. But these ways that these parts can act can be dysfunctional, outdated, harmful, dangerous. They're acting from old perspectives, old ways of being. They're acting from years and years ago, not from the present day reality. They may not even know that the adult me exists. So it's a process of going inward and getting in touch with these parts, with help from a therapist that knows what they're doing, and then we can learn how to do this work with our parts on our own as well, which is very empowering and fulfilling and rewarding.

Sarah Haykel 5:11

But you know, just inquiring within, yeah, what makes me want to do this on my own? I think about what would I need to do to partner with God, and surrender that is the word that comes up for me. I will need to surrender to a source greater than myself, and this may mean that things are happening that I don't want to happen or I'm not crazy about, or things that I want to happen aren't happening, and I'm feeling upset, I feel mad, I'm trying to take control because I want that thing, I want this, I don't want this. But when I am surrendering to a power greater than myself, to the one true source that truly, I know has my best interest at heart, because I've seen it and I see it time and time again in my own experience the source is desperately trying to help me and it's just up to me to surrender enough to it and say, okay, okay, I will go along with you, because I know you have my best, greatest interest at heart and that of the whole, you know it's notonder about this.

Surrendering to a Greater Power

Compassionate Self-Inquiry

Sarah Haykel 6:53

What is it that makes me not want to follow that inner guidance that I know I'm receiving from a benevolent source, something that is actually trying to help me, but I'm ignoring it or rebelling against it, or not pausing long enough to listen, or moving too fast, being impatient, whatever it is that's causing you not to listen to this one true source, and why and this is just a loving, compassionate exploration. It's not an opportunity to beat yourself up or shame yourself, blame yourself, because I know that stuff can suck. It's not productive to be in that space of beating ourselves up it's. Can we look at this from a compassionate place just inquiring to get information, just inquiring to get information. That's what we're doing here, because the more I know I can understand myself and why I show up in certain ways, the more agency I have to make change. So if I'm not willing to look at anything, how much change is actually going to happen in my life and how much closer am I going to get to the one true source if I'm not willing to see the places and the ways that I am showing up that are going against this benevolent guidance source?

Sarah Haykel 8:54

So I invite you to set a reminder, set an alarm for when you're gonna sit down with this, do it right after you finish listening to this podcast episode. Hold yourself accountable in a good, loving way, a compassionate and adult way, and then I'll see you on the next episode, because there's another side to this inquiry that is super important. So I will see you next week on the next episode. Have a wonderful week and thank you so much for joining me today on Welcoming God. Thanks for joining me on another episode of Welcoming God. Please subscribe to this podcast wherever you listen, and consider leaving us a review, as it helps more people find and benefit from this show. Music by Song Channel Music. You can listen and hear more at songchannelmusiccom. Until we meet again, aloha nui loa, take care. And no-transcript.