Gorilla in the Kitchen: Why Lovers Shouldn't Live Together

In this raw and funny solo episode of No Hair All Heart, Mookie Spitz tackles the age-old relationship question: should lovers live together? Spoiler alert—don’t. Drawing on a disastrous cohabitation attempt with a girlfriend, Mookie recounts how spilled coffee, scattered silverware, and his “gorilla in the kitchen” energy nearly torpedoed their romance.

Mookie digs deeper into why cohabitation is not the harmless “next step” couples are told it is. He argues that living together isn’t just sharing a roof—it’s taking on all the emotional and practical entanglements of marriage without the ceremony or conscious commitment. When you live together, you’re constantly accountable for your presence, your habits, and even your absences. The smallest quirks become battlefields. The dynamic shifts from romance to logistics. And just like marriage, it ties you to a level of intimacy and obligation that can either fortify or crush the relationship.

From Katharine Hepburn’s wisdom about couples living next door to each other, to a brutally honest breakdown of how moving in together often accelerates the decay of passion, Mookie blends humor, personal scars, and sharp observation. He questions whether saving on rent is worth the emotional toll and why the “test drive” theory of cohabitation is a trap in disguise.

Whether you’re in the honeymoon phase, contemplating a move-in, or already regretting it, this episode offers a provocative take on why keeping separate spaces might keep love alive longer.