My Life, My Death, My Wishes with author, celebrant and doula Berni B

Grief Unedited

Grief Unedited
My Life, My Death, My Wishes with author, celebrant and doula Berni B
May 31, 2026 Season 2 Episode 5
Karen Lafferty

Episode Number: Episode 25

Release Date:  31 May 2026


Episode Title: My Life, My Death, My Wishes with author, celebrant and doula Berni B

Episode Summary: In this episode of Grief Unedited, I’m joined by Berni B, author, celebrant and doula.

We’re pulling back the curtain on what it’s actually like to work at the intersection of life and death. Berni shares the surprising lessons they’ve learned on the job, the myths they want to bust, and the moments of profound human connection that keep them going.

About Berni:   Berni is a funeral celebrant, end-of-life doula, and author passionate about helping people approach death, dying, and grief with more openness and less fear. Through her work, she supports individuals and families to have honest conversations, honour personal wishes, and navigate loss in a way that feels authentic and compassionate. 

In this episode, we chat about:

  • The Reality of the Role: What a typical day looks like when your "office" is centered around loss.
  • The Human Element: The most unexpected thing Berni has learned about people through their work.
  • Breaking the Stigma: Tackling the common misconceptions people have about her role.
  • Personal Impact: How working in the bereavement industry has changed the way Berni views their own life and relationships.

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